I had been drinking and took a nap. I am a very deep sleeper and woke up to my husband asking me a bunch of questions. I was really confused and was stammering. Then he asked if I was having a wet dream. I started getting defensive and wondering if I had been having a sex dream and didn't realize or remember (especially since I had been drinking). I'd only been asleep for 30-40 minutes. I went into a panic thinking he was accusing me of cheating (absolutely haven't) He then told me that he fingered me while I was asleep.... he then expressed concern that I didn't feel it. He's done this before and I didn't know unless he told me. He has often said that anyone could be messing with me in my sleep because I'm such a deep sleeper and that I should be more careful. He said he did this in an attempt to wake me up.... I'm not as upset that he touched me, but more upset that I felt I was being manipulated and baited into thinking I was doing something wrong. I slapped him end of his confrontation upon learning what he was doing. I told him that was rapey behavior and he said it's not rapey if we are married. He proceeded to kick me out of his place. We live in different states right now and he has been insisting that I get cameras for my safety (he thinks my landlord is creepy). I've been having nightmares about sexual assault before this incident and have been assaulted in real life before (not by him) so stuff like this really bothers me.  Am I being dramatic??

Especially they act like they are deaf when I told them I didn't want to have another kid or not this time. It has been five years and I receive the same old questions "Why don't you give birth to another kid?" "When are you going to give birth for your boy to have a sibling to play with?". They even insulted me that "You are selfish for living just you guys and not give birth to a second child" I start to have resented thoughts toward them. I feel like they are manipulative and I do exactly opposite way.

Lets say the guy was completely happy and supportive.. sorry .. I meant even if they didn't have divorce.. I feel there is so much angst...for some reason.. say she even finished college.. or in? or whatever Just confused me that's all.. sorry. thanks.

There's close to a 12 year difference in age.  Not sure I'm ready to leave my current life right now, but in a couple years the financial impact will be far far less.  This girl is a lot of fun, but certainly she is trying to trick me out, right?  There's no way sex like this continues past the introductory stage, right? Has anybody ever been the sideass, and could you have been convinced that the guy would make it permanent in 2 years?

I always ask for sex at night time, he just turn around the other side. Sometimes his thing does not get hard and he can't finish, every night he goes out and around 7 and comes back after midnight. In the morning he just shouts at me for no reason, im sick of this.

Young boy, precocious but thinks he's the alpha dog. Always upsets the wife because of the constant arguing with dad.  Wife refuses dads advances during rare alone time.  How normal is this after 5+ years? She's never been huge on sex.  Extremely low drive.  Enjoys it regardless.  Marries to someone that could do it 3x+ / day. *married (not marries) to someone...

Did you yes or no? If so, do you still believe even after so many years of marriage?

My husband last night while I was half asleep said his 16 yr old niece Who's not biologically related but by marriage is skinny enough so he can **** her. I was half asleep but I know what I heard he even said her name. He said he was half asleep and didn't know what he was saying so I should dismiss it.i was 17 when we met and he was 23 he's now 26.  I really don't know what to think and I don't know what I'm most upset about  The fact that he is attracted to his 16 year old niece whom we always see  Or the fact that he said she's skinny because I'm a thicker woman and he always is on me about losing weight.  Or the fact that he got mad at me and said I'm only looking for an excuse to fight.  I don't know what to do because me and my 5 month old live off of him and have nowhere else to go. 

The first and only time I've told him he threatened to kill himself and pulled out our 12 gauge on me while my 18 month old was awake and saw everything. I freaked out and didn't pursue anything. Honestly I can't ******* stand him and I know he feels the same I just don't understand why he's trying to hold onto me. What would be my safest course of action? Please help. 

im 18+ but i still feel scared to lose it since im afraid dat ppl will look down on me (since i live in a conservative country)) and i might feel so guilty for some reason even tho many ppl do it already. Maybe  bcuz my conservative parents raised me to think ppl who lose their v card bfore marriage are bad ppl. Now im grown up but still afraid. 

I need help! I am so confused and depressed. I hate the holidays because I have no family here and my MIL lives very close and she's just this super-controlling woman. She's also so toxic that it ruins my holiday. Is it the norm to attend 3 in-laws Christmases?! My husband is from a huge family and they have one Christmas for his mother's side of family, one for his father's side of family, and one for just the immediates - in-laws and the sons.  I get it, you go see them once, but 3 times?! Come on! My husband is always kind of guilty he says "no" to all of her parties. To avoid the drama, I thought of booking a trip for me and the kids. Looking at Orlando or somewhere coastal. I even found a good deal. Question is, do I go for it and book it? I don't want it to be a spit in the face either, as my husband will be here alone (he has no PTO left to use). I tried to talk to him calmly, he said he doesn't care what I do. This pisses me off. I tried to explain to him that maybe the kids would benefit from not spending almost 3 weeks off school here in bitter cold (we live up North). He said he just doesn't care. I also tried talking about MIL plans of 3 Christmases and he's just so mad right now, he won't even address it. He thinks I have a bad attitude, so he doesn't want me around here! As for kids, we have an 8 yr old and a 3 yr old. I am worried about the 3 yr old, as this could be a crapshoot. I have never stayed at a hotel for a week with them both, without the husband.  We tried to figure it out. He feels guilty for not playing along and doing what MIL wants to do. It's caused so much tension, we fight all the time about it, every year. I should note, every time I come to in-law Christmas, I am being treated like crap. I am told to my face that I suck and my family is a bunch of drunkards. Btw, my family is a bunch of small business owners and formerly engineers, while the in-laws are just sitting on their a$$es and complain how everybody is bad. He doesn't complain to them. MIL just hated me from the start. I am from Europe, it's too expensive to fly there and back for 10 days. We got married very young, I didn't think about MIL being such a crapper and I should have taken my chances to move further away, but it's not the reality now. Yes, he's the breadwinner. 

Why would a mistress cyber bully the wife when the relationship is doomed? she knows everything about what is going on in our life. every fight every good moment. She posts about it or she lets her friends post about it. And talk about it in such a negative way that it hurts me. It used to hurt me. But as I am preparing for divorce I'm just collecting every tweet, fb post from her that is speaking of us as evidence. my point is we are not even intimate anymore. We are being cordial, because I'm pregnant right now. he has days when he is evil, others when he is nice. But I'm no longer putting myself in a situation to be hurt. I am just ready to go. but I just cannot understand why she keeps doing this. Like for example he was extremely friendly to me these days. I went along with it, it's not like I'm going to have sew with him anyway, but we live together, I can't be evil to him. I feel like he tells her everything, because he used to tell me everything then.he took 2 days off to stay home with family. Yesterday after din'er With the kids her friend went to post that « if someone made their intentions clear to you and they don't agree with yours why would you stick around to try to make them change their mind? »That it was selfish, because there are so many people in this world and you decide you have to make it so they will see you in a different light. It doesn't make sense to me when they say these things because I'm no longer trying. So why? 

I don't support who my guy friend is with and I don't support their relationship. What's even worse is that he stupidly knocked her up in the midst of all this unstable energy. They've been together for a year, Met on tinder and are no engaged. They've broken up like five times since they've been together and he always talks about how mean she is to him but takes her back every time. I think it's cause he has abandonment issues from being adopted so he feels like being with her is better then being alone. When he told me they were engaged I thought it was a joke at first but I still said congrats. He knows I don't like her or support their relationship but I said congrats anyways. I don't like the way he treats her. We've been friends for 11 years and I think he deserves better. He's only 27 he still has time to find the right one. I'm married so don't anybody come telling me I'm jealous of them. I just don't like how she's taking advantage of him because he's a nice person and very passive. Anyways, I'm at a loss right now because I don't know if I should go to the wedding. Do you think he would de-friend me if I skipped the wedding ?? Thanks for the advice!!