Im 23 and she is 16. She is really pretty and inoccent and vulnerable. We are really close we didn't grow up in a good family. I have never been this protective over her. I just got out of the Marines a year ago and I suffer from PTSD and I think it's causing me to be way over protective. I feel really bad about it. She lives with me now. I went off on her boyfriend last week and he doesn't talk to her anymore. I've pretty much ruined her relationships with guys. I feel like I'm hurting her. I just can't stop thinking about her. I just want her to be safe. I don't trust her to walk to school or hang out with friends I haven't cleared. My obsession is absolutely nothing sexual. I just want my sister to be safe. I don't know why I feel like this or why I can't control the way I feel. I don't know if this is going to hurt her phycologically. 

I was so excited about the trip and now it turns out it was a lie. It's the third time he's done this but he seemed committed this time around. I was really excited and I'm just so disappointed.

I was 13 at the time and yet all these years later I still feel so sad. They were on a business trip for a week for Syracuse University and coming home. Shouldn't the grief have passed after about five years? I've gotten plenty of counseling over the years so it's not like I've never gotten help for it.

I don't want to escalate the situation. My sister and I have been mostly estranged for a number of months as I could not take her bullying anymore despite being an adult and I finally grabbed her shoulders and shook them and spoke angrily to her. Now she claims I assaulted her which does have some truth to it and also claims I choked her which is BS. Everyone told me I did the right thing by standing up for myself so no one will faulted me for it, however I don't wanna make a scene again and it's going to be a Christmas party and my sister and I are adults and so we should act like it. Will be with cousins not other siblings and so I want to behave well. It's not like I'm going there with her or anything but we will both be there on the 28th. How do I handle it if she starts to say "get away don't stand here you're making me uncomfortable". She would be saying it because I would be trying to visit with my cousins at the same time as her. At the holiday party or cousins are the people we know and will be going there for, everybody else there will be a stranger so it's the cousins I'm going to be visiting with no neighbors of my aunts or her husband's family I am in my 30s and so I sound like I'm posting something as a 12-year-old and my sister and nine-year-old, we're both adults and so like I say I wanna act like an adult.

People say the sooner I accept it the less it will hurt me. 

I am 1 of 10 children and in need of some advice please. I have been living at home for the past 30 years with my parents who I get on with very well. I have always helped them out thew the years. My siblings are either working away or married with kids. I recently got married and my husband and I are about to move into our home together which means my parents will be on there own now.  My mam got sick about 4 weeks ago where I spent the night in hospital with her had to go to work the next day on little sleep of 2 hrs. Following a family meeting my sister is after attacking me saying I suit myself always and only do stuff when it is convenient for me. I am very hurt by this because she is saying this about my parents when I have been there all thew the years and she has her own family who are grown up now. Now that it is my turn to start my family I am been attacked for not helping out more etc.. I wound not say it to my parents as i would not want them to be upset about stuff but I am really hurt by it and feel like I am been bullied. It is making mt feel sick. My husband is not happy about the way I am been treated. Need advice please what do I do.

WHe is ashamed of his brother and they argued because he told him 'I'm not going to accept your dirty money in our house', they fought and he went away from home. He doesn't even talk to his own family because they all support his brother  (he is 22, the brother is about 27). One day he broke down after I told him I loved him and said 'you can't be with someone like me... your parents will never approve of us'. I said 'they know you're not like your brother' but he kept saying he has a bad reputatiom because of his  brother and my parents wont let me be with him. Actually he's right, my dad doesn't like at all the idea of marrying me to a house where one of their sons sells women. His brother even got arrested but then released when the girl told them he was her boyfriend. They have even a child together, a child that my guy refuses to hold and cuddle, and for his birth he didn't even send a message to his brother.

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that? The question should be Is it normal for siblings to do this?

What do I tell them when they ask me about it? Do I tell them the truth or just pretend that he is right?

I used to think the word "narcissism" was a made up slang term and it was just an insulting word to call someone. I have a relative that fits all the criteria and interacting with this person has been seriously damaging. Now I know it isn't a slang term and it is a real condition. Has anyone here know, related to or otherwise with someone you believe to be a narcissist? They are seriously hurtful people to be around. To the point of causing huge depression and sadness in those they harm.

I'm divorced, 40's. Since I was 18, my mother never visited me except 8 years ago. I drove her 15 hours one way to stay with me and drove her back 2 weeks later. She has no health problems except RA. I have teen daughters who I have raised on my own minus 2 weekends a month with their dad. I drive to my moms house (15 hrs one way) 2-3 times a year so we can see her. She has lied for years saying she's visiting "this year" and never does but expects me to spend school vacations with her. This year, I'm only staying for a week after Christmas instead of 2 weeks and she has been passive/aggressive. EVERY time I visit, she hates me visiting friends or anyone beyond her so I don't to keep peace. My kids are sick of sitting in the house when we visit, as she hates going anywhere. She's lived alone for the last 10 years.  I've asked her through the years to live with me (as she's getting older) and she says no. Slyly, she has mentioned me moving back to where she lives after my kids are grown. I WOULD NEVER move back there and have stated this.  I left IT industry before they were born to freelance/etc for flexibility for my kids and I do struggle here and there. She does help me with finances from time to time and I'm grateful. Yesterday, she mentioned how easy it was for xyz in the family to get CS jobs and rudely asked, how come you can't find jobs easily? Mind you, they have family raising/helping their kids and it's just me. Am I being sensitive or is she rude/selfish?  And when I say, help me with finances, I mean over the last few years. But for years, I would send her money almost every month because I had a high salary before I had children. I have also invested a lot of money into her house for repairs/design. No biggie, just wanted to state that. And no, she never visited during those years either.  My mother has had RA for 7 years but every six months DRIVES 8 hours one way to another state to see other family. In over 28 years, never seeing your daughter or grandchildren is not an excuse. One of my daughters has a medical condition that does not allow me to work the hours I use to work nor command the salary I use to have. The money I'm referring to is money left by my father for both of us. I have only used it sparingly the last 3 years where she has bought a new car in cash, etc. 

so last night, i heard my brother's bedroom door open but i didn't hear the bathroom door close so i went out to see what he was doing. i found him at the front door completely naked. i asked what he was doing and he said he just woke up there. i knew he was lying cuz he was stuttering and trying to find the perfect lie. i said okay and just went back to bed. the thing is my boyfriend was friends with my brother first and he never spent the night at our house because my brother confessed to him he sometimes likes to get naked and walk through our pasture at night and asked if my boyfriend would do it with him. he said no of course but this really concerns me. my brother has slight autism and some anger issues. i was wondering why he would do something like this?? like where does this come from?

Here's the situation: Fiance and I are happily together, we currently live close to his family then mine so we are with his family a lot. His family is very small and includes his single mother, younger brother (20) and 18 year old sister. He doesn't have grandparents, a father, aunts, uncles that he knows of, so we make up for that as much as we can and spend time with the family he does have. I have a good relationship with his mother never had problems, along with the brother. The sister is all chaos, drama, and more. Ever since ive been in the picture she goes out of her way to start something with me and her brother. She'll cyber bully me on numerous accounts and fake numbers after she has been blocked, doesn't respect my things when I come over to the moms house, stares me down uncomfortably wherever we are, the list goes on. Trying to talk to her and asking why it's this way gets nowhere. I get "I just don't like you" every time. I'm playing with a dead fish at this point.  My fiance and his mom know whats going on and every time they tell me to ignore so I do.  We have our own place now and his family is so excited to see him (us) move out and start our life. The mom said she cant wait to check the place out and bring stuff and make food, (house warming) The brothers ecstatic to come.. and the sisters entitled to come because well shes the daughter. I DO NOT want her there. I feel extremely dumb welcoming someone to my house who's done nothing but disrespect me. 

We love an emotionally abusive mother who acts bipolar and never would act like a real mother.

I am a 16 (17 in a month) year old high school student in Virginia. I've recently had to end my relationship with my 18 year old boyfriend because of the issues within my family and they always blame him for causing them when he isn't. We've gone to family therapy but it's too expensive to continue. My mother is the main issue with who starts problems. She will constantly go to me and tear me down (been happening since I was 8), to the point where I now cry myself asleep and only feel safe sleeping in my closet. Many times I feel like if I were to disappear I can no longer feel this heart break. My mother is emotionally abusive but would deny it when i'd tell her what it means to be that. Here I am crying an hour before I need to leave for school, without a phone, without knowledge of what's happening and constantly afraid of my mother. I've never hated my life more.

okay so my father is 64 years of age as of yesterday. Over 7 years ago, he had a stroke, he still able to walk talk and he's coherent, the only problem is he's not able to drive. He gets himself dressed and all of that. As of now he stays with my aunt and I try to see him at least every two weeks but it's hard because of the responsibility I have towards my mother side of the family. Also I work full time overnight and I am in school Full time. I take him around once a month to every store he needs to go too. And I have been doing this constantly for 3 years. I haven't missed a month of doing this since I started. Basically I wanna know what is a great amount of time to spend with him. My auntie that he stays with is basically making me feel even worse saying I need to take him out to eat or I need to come down there more. So what do you guys think? 

My six year old accidentally opened his door on another car in the school drop off, it was a really windy day he is usually pretty careful? I didn't see what happened as I was helping his younger sibling on the other side. The car Hit was a big shiny white Range Rover far too big for the narrow school drop off lanes. The guy was returning back and when I stood up after helping my youngest with a coat , he started having a go saying how I should have been more careful which I agreed and said sorry for, but he kept repeating himself and didn't really give me a chance to talk or swap details before storming off in his oversized vehicle. I was pretty upset about it and so was my kid. I don't know what to do next . Do I phone the school and explain what happened and leave my number in case he wanted me to pay, he didn't even give me a chance to see the damage plus as he was so rude about it I pretty reluctant to pay but its a small school so I'm kinda scared of running in to him again after the way he spoke to me. 

Second year college student. A week away from finishing the semester. I hate college so far. I was so depressed that for the better part of the beginning of October until now, I didn't get out of bed except to go to absolutely necessary classes, meetings, eating or to the bathroom. I wanted to go to law school but merely being in school and just going through the motions has made me dread the idea. I plan to quit, check into a mental health facility up to June, then figure things out as I go. Here's the tricky part. My parents really don't want me to quit and are upset about losing thousands of tuition so I basically want to go MIA, move to the East Coast (I'm from California) and maybe get a job as a barista or a construction worker or something. I think I'm in my head too much and I can't quite tell how feasible this plan is and how much of a good/bad idea it is. Any advice?

I voluntarily had my 12 year old sister move in me and my fiancé and our 4 year old. She was a straight A student and then she got bullied by her twin sister and about 3-4 other girls. They did all get punished but rather than drs helping my sister they diagnosed her with anxiety, sever depression and insomnia and put her on meds. So this is why I took her in. I got her meds changed to an as needed med but she has only taken 2 in 2 months and only bc we had company. She is rude, selfish, back talks, ignores, attitude, name calling to my autistic 4 year old who can't speak and so on. She has no phone or any electronics. She does school on the PC and can read or paint in her free time & of course a movie when we're watching one as a family. She also has a schedule just like the rest of us. So She will do great for a whole week and when I ask her to make up an assignment or tell me when she's out of clean underwear, she turns back into a brat. everything is no, I don't have too, etc. I don't argue w/her. I tell her how it is and walk away but she refuses. She doesn't hurt my feelings or anything. I just don't want her growing up and thinking that this behavior is okay. She can come to me about ANYTHING and I do NOT judge my siblings for anything they tell me. But I can't get thru to her. I believe she may have some depression or anxiety but I feel as if she uses it as an excuse.  Help please! I want to change her around for the better. I have spanked her and she just stares at me or says it doesn't hurt. She has a very high tolerance for pain. She's worse with our mom. Doesn't shower or go to school. Does not take care of her pet, etc. my problem is just her attitude and using depression and anxiety as excuses.

I am 17 years old my Mom and Dad are divorced because they both never really got along.My Mom moved out when I was 4 and moved into my Grandparents house 4 hours away they live in a lakefront on a popular lake in my state (Ohio) My grandparents owned their own business a restaurant.My Dad has lived in the same house since he married my mom 1989 my parents are in their later 50's. I live in a small rural farm town on a 12 acre farm with dad. I found out that my dad has been too jail 6 times one was for drugs and the other 5 was because of fighting when he was in high school he was kicked off the football game for beating four other kids up in high school sending them to the emergency room in the early 80's My Dad apparently was feared by his peers in high school because he has picked so many fights. The source of this is my Dads former classmates and my own family since I live in a small town it gets around easily. My Dad has always had a bad temper yelling a lot towards me but its gotten better between me and him he is doing better.But when I heard about his very long reputation and record its kind of scared me and confused me. How can I cope with this. Its really bothering me badly

Like.. Everytime I show her something I wrote, she always have negative responses. But when I show it to friends or my producers they all love it. I feel like she don't want me to make it in music so she trying to tear me down. Why would family be like that?

So I'm 18 rn I literally just got off Instagram and got on here. I seen a post saying people online that you'll never meet are helpful and stuff like that.  But then it got me thinking like that's so true if it wasn't for yahoo answers I would've kms when I was younger.. I would ask so many sad things and ask for advice and tell people what I wanted to do to myself.. it was just crazy. I was going through it so bad!! I had NO ONE to talk to even my mom hated me and yahoo would help me with that too lol but I had no one and when I talked to my sister she would just yell.. I would come on here tears all down my face snot everywhere, on the top of my bunk bed trying to keep quiet so no one would hear and yell and just come On here and ask away and feeling happy that people wanted me alive I'm ******* crying typing this.. literally on my bed but this time it's happy tears.. but fast forward to now.. I don't talk to my family not even my sister.. I still live at home unfortunately but I'll be gone soon after I graduate highschool and go to college I want to be something in life and raise a HAPPY family! But it's crazy because if it wasn't for this I would be dead and I'm not even kidding I was such a sad girl and I still am but not as much! But my Instagram girls always help me.. if you want you can add me on Snapchat and talk about feelings 💀💀 but fr TYSM YAHOO ANSWERS!!!! Ps. Please love your kids❤️

I am 29 and recently moved in with my sister and her fiancé because I don't have a job right now and am living off SSDI. We can't wear the same size but she still insists on stealing my clothes and other items when she has more than me and much nicer stuff too. She'll wear like a pair of my pants and they'll be too tight and short and she'll stretch them out. My mom just tells her give the stuff back.  She weighs 130 or so pounds and I weigh around 90-92 pounds and have trouble finding properly fitting attire. I wear the same stuff because she steals most of my wardrobe. I have to pinch pennies and can't afford to replace stuff, but she doesn't care.  But if I steal her stuff, which I do from to time and don't wear, to prove a point or if I steal my items back, she blows a fuse. I did wear a jacket of hers she had for years and never wore, still had the tag on it and she came unglued and stole it back and started wearing it. Her fiancé said he'd never seen the jacket before and that it was a bit tight on her, but she wears it just to rub it in my face, just like when she wears my clothes that are too small on her.  I am fed up with this. I don't know what to do. She's 26 with a good high paying job and can afford nice new stuff, except she spends it on food and wine. No locks on bedroom doors or we'd just do that. #madashell #fedup #biatch #selfishsister

Her subconscious is trying to poison my mind against them but I will not allow that to happen. My mom is on my side and she knows I'm the good one and my granny.

It is such a dark dark time of the year with such sorrow and depression. There is no good in the season of joy just dysfunction and heartbreak.   Patsy: it is an entire month and a half of this crap. And the worst part is Christmas day and week. After New Year's I can go back to my miserable self.  

It is wrecked the Christmas Season for me so far. This is the third time he's done this to me. I'm going to stop believing him in the future.