Hi, so on March 28 2018 I became homeless as I couldn't stay at my parents house no longer due to arguments, sexual abuse and mental health difficulties, I got put into a b&b then temporary accommodation what I hated the flat was a mess and not working so my boyfriends auntie offered me to move into her house what I accepted. She said I had 6 months and then upped it to one year and I thought she would keep me until I find somewhere but she just told me I have until March and then I'm out.. even though she did tell me I have as long as I need but she needs the room for her grandchildren apparently. My boyfriend is losing his job at the end of January and I'm studying at college (now looking for a part time job) My question is does anyone know roughly how much homeless hostels/ accommodation is a night ? I am going to go down to my local housing office and update my situation by I just want a rough estimate?   I also live in a different city (20 minutes bus and 35 minutes train away) from my parents and city I grew up in  Thanks in advance ?   

Several years ago, my mother started developing dementia. I took care of her in her home for a long time. But at one point, we her children had to make the decision to to send her to a nursing home, because she was getting out of hand, and could no longer be kept under control.  So last year around this time, we agreed to appoint my sister power of attorney over her. Since then, my mother seems to have become somewhat more well-behaved.   My brother and I agree that it might be best if we bring her back home, and hire a nurse to take care of her full-time.   My mother is miserably unhappy where she is, and we all know that she wants to get out of there. Besides, where she is staying is not the greatest place for her.   They don't let her get outside much, and they don't feed her right. Anyhow, my sister will not allow her to leave. She thinks it is still best for her to stay there. My brother and I strongly disagree!  Would there be any way for my brother to take her to court, and fight her decision to keep my mother in that facility?

Long story short when I was 4 my sister was born she is my half sister (my dad and another women's baby) the other women we all get to know and then about a year later when I was 5 all contact was stopped without an explanation. I have reached out to her on social media but she refuses to tell my sister she has siblings she has a step dad and knows her real dad doesn't want her. I am so upset as I have been waiting for ages. Is there any action I can take against my sisters mum who has denied my contact but let my grandad and aunt see her? It's making me feel excluded. My dad doesn't want to see her but still pays child support!!  Should I reach out when she is old enough and tell her who I am ?

So this is something I've never understood...even as an adult I still don't understand it. I've always done chores inside the house and outside the house. I grew up doing it so I've always been used to it. But I've always noticed my sister never does anything. My parents never ask her to do anything. They just let her lay around and I can't recall the last time they asked her to do something. My sister was always "spoiled" and not disciplined as much as I was. Note: yes I am a young adult living with my parents. I just turned 21 and graduated in October (I went to a technical school). I'm still looking for a job and hope to move out as soon as possible..I do not need to hear the lecture of living at my parents rent free. I've only been home a couple months and I'm honestly trying. I'm saying this is a common scenario that I'm living with and I just don't understand it. I also thought she was the favorite and it always grind my gears.

Last  few months he has been getting into trouble with fighting at school, stealing and smoking.  Now his mother blames me as I have been a bad example to him as I have been in trouble in the past and have been in prison and says that it's no wonder that he is behaving like this. Sje is part right but I don't want him to end up making the same mistakes as me.I have tried to talk to him about it and explain how he can mess up his life like I have if he keeps getting into trouble but he doesn't seem to takes any notice and tells me I have no right to be lecturing him and that I have done much worse and I don't know what to say to that. I only have supervised access to him so it's hard but I really want to do the right thing but have no idea what that is

She bragged that she never cut her ex-husband down to her son and daughter word to her nieces and nephew's which would include me. Her ex-husband I could care less about his he's not family anymore. However when she cuts her grandmother down and our other and it gets really old. she's usually very defensive of the underdog but here she's full of hatred for her mother and sister over a family dispute that's going on for seven years. She has two children and her daughter joins her at the bashing that her son is a lot more neutral and mature.

I want to make sure I'm there when she comes over if she is, but if she's not I don't wanna alter my plans to be over there. I'm wondering if it's just another one of my dad's  absent minded lies.   

I have a pretty dysfunctional family as many do. However, for the longest time my sister and I have stayed really close and understood each other pretty well. I'm the youngest (this will play in later). My parents are both not exactly fit to be parents. My mother is always blaming everyone else for her problems and my dad used to be physically and emotionally abusive especially to my older sister. This older sister and I grew up with an environment where our mother and father fought and hurt each other. Those days we always knew we would never act like them and promised to stay close to each other. Recently, our relationship has deteriorated. I've graduated, moved out and started living my life by my own choices. This was a catalyst for our downfall. As she has always Filled the shoes of my mother. Now I don't really need that anymore, I just want a sister. She fights this all the time, always saying I'm too young, I'm still a child and I can't do anything on my own. Sure, I appreciate advice seeing as how she is 8 years older than me. Obviously she knows more. But now it's like everything I do disappoints her. I'm always doing the wrong thing. We are constantly fighting and I don't know how to make it better. I've expressed how I feel to her but all she does is lash out. I don't know what to do at this point.

I got into a fight with this girl who used to be my best friend, she put her hands on me cause her friend that was a girl kissed me and she wanted to be my girlfriend so she got all psychotic. We were at my house and she called the police, my family, everyone, she blamed me said I caused it and I was holding her hostile and a bunch of other bs. Idk how but I'm assuming she got my step moms number from my step sis since they follow each other on ig. She sent her all the screenshots of our private messages to my family as well as nudes & s3x videos. She said I needed to go to rehab when all I've done and do is smoke weed. She tried to get me back into the mental hospital since I have schizophrenia. Long story short my dad made me block my sis on everything and he said he was going to make her block that toxic girl but guess what? They still keep in touch. No one wants me at the house and I have no privacy, they've put up cams in my room, living room, and on top of that my sister Tells her my business it's uncomfortable. They're both really ugly females inside and out, all I see it as is negative energy lingering around when I let that go along time ago. I'm talking about my sister and Jasmine Vasquez. I will name her because I'm seriously thinking about contacting my attorney. I'm calling my sister ugly cuz this isn't the first time she talks sht about me to family, she did it to my only cousin that's why she blocked me too. Thank you Niza. I don't have family.  How can i delete this 

Can you have a different number of generations on both sides of your family? Example say on your mom's side... you've got  grandparents, mom/dad,you that's 3 generations on your mom's side....Okay on Dad's side you've got great grandparents, grandparents, mom/dad then You which makes 4 generations on your dad's side  So mom has 3 generations and dad has        Correct??

Yet you are happier being housebroke?

I have to go to see my real mom this weekend and she does not want me to go she thinks that my mom will steal me away from her and my dad  what do I do? I for got to mention her, my dad, and my stepmom

Long story short, no. My parents were never physically, emotionally, sexually or emotionally abusive. They weren't abusive in any way towards me. My mother didn't neglect me and my father didn't punch me in the face or threw me in my room. I just despise their guts. I hate them because they gave me a boy's name instead of a girl's name. I didn't like it and the other kids certainly didn't and so I was a recipient of constant ridicule and bullying growing up. As I got older, I began chewing my fingers, tearing out my hair, and slitting my wrists. You should've seen how I especially acted when my parents weren't around--tossing and throwing myself around in my room, slamming myself into mirrors and walls, screaming to the top of my lungs, so loud that my neighobors could hear. I even went as far as banging my head as hard and with as much force and ferocity I could muster in my body against one of my room walls, hoping to crush my skull. But I only bled from my forehead.  I hated my parents so much that I just wanted to disappear--vanish into nothingness, never to return. I want to disown them as my parents forever but I don't know how to get them to stop sending love letters, holiday cards, gifts and such to me. Oftentimes, I don't respond to them, I either throw them in the trash, burn them or rip them up.

My husband tries to spend time with his mother when he can. We live close, so he'll sometimes randomly visit just because. I don't mind a bit. Means I get the house to myself. Plus, I think it's great he gets to spend time with her whenever. I don't really get to with my parents. They are very busy people. We try to keep things fair for the holidays. His mom is pretty much guaranteed to get us every year for Thanksgiving. Christmas, we've decided, one family will get us for Christmas Eve, and the other Christmas Day. Well his mom got upset that this year we will see them on Christmas Eve but not Day. She's always griping to him that she "wants a relationship with him too" as he is standing right there in her living room. Even though we are making sure that she gets to see him for the holidays. Whether it be Eve or Day of. My husband even mentioned that his mom gets to see us way more than my family does. We have gone over for random visits more times in the past year than we have my family in the past 2 years. My family is busy, I like to see them when I can. And this year it's for Christmas Day. We didn't have Thanksgiving with them. Why, despite him seeing his mom numerously throughout the year, for Thanksgiving and for Christmas Eve, is that not enough? She is always making him feel guilty for the days we choose to spend with my family and we're both tired of it. It's also worth mentioning, she is not alone. She has a younger son and her husband.  Also, we both agreed that there is no reason to do both families on Christmas Day.  That is far too exhausting.  We both have full time jobs.  And there is no reason we need to see his mom twice but my mom only once.  I should probably mention, we don't have or want kids. If that makes a difference. 

My dad keeps arguing to my mom to the point where it made her cry like crazy and storm off this morning. And he just responds "oh god" and other ****. All he cares about is money and what people think of him or his business. Of course he does it right before Christmas cause he can't be happy or feel bad about anything. He never has to cook, wake up early or wash his clothes. He gets that all done for him. He's never even cleaned a plate or put one in the dishwasher. My mom even let him get a motorcycle and another nice car and he still complains about how lazy and idiotic we all are. I never even get to leave the house to escape from it it drives me nuts to hear him constantly complain about everything.

My parents are divorced, and my mother lives in Germany while we live with our dad. Because schools are free in Germany we thought it would be nice to go there to finish high school since it's free and we have someone to live with. My issue is my mother's husband, I can't stand him and I feel like I will suffer mentally while I'm there, my sister doesn't have a problem with him but I do. My sister and I were always together, you can say we are like twins and just the thought of her leaving is heartbreaking, even though I want to go. My mother's husband is sexist, judges everyone specially females and is just weird, even when they visit us for a week, I can't stand him. So I don't know what to do. I know

I keep finding out about people posting sexual BS on their story's and need it to stop. I am too the point of banning all social media. But I know this is how kids communicate today, and dont want to turn them into social outcasts. But something has got to give.

The problem is she doesn't let me take care of her. She has a tube coming out of her lung and I was suppose to be the one to drain it but she only let me once and does it herself now and she keeps getting infections and going back in. She has diabetes and tells me she stopped taking insulin. She is not suppose to have salt or sweets and eats a lot of both. If I don't go get her fast food or salty foods like popcorn or whatever she gets mad. Anything I say to her regarding her health is an argument. She figures she'll just eat what she wants and salt causes more fluid in her lung and she just drains it like it's normal. She's been in the hospital a month and they are telling her they're going to send her to a home because she's not taking care of herself properly so she wants me to go speak for her and say I take care of her so she can be home. Should I go talk to her and put my foot down about things and tell her if she doesn't agree to let me help her and do it the right way that I will not assist her (basically lie and say I care for her but she doesn't let me) or should I just talk to the drs and nurses and tell them the truth. I'm a single mom work full time and I need her to not be difficult about her health or she's gonna die. I think she'll tell me what I want to hear and get home and continue the same thing. Idk what to do and don't have fam to ask for advice.. I don't want her to have to be in a home but she's so stubborn.

I told her it is normal and healthy but she wont listen she said she is going to remove my door if I keep doing it, I don't know what to do, i'm 14. boy

This is the first Christmas of us hating each other. My parents always had a rotating set of people they hated but they would boycott them instead of seeing them. I feel bad boycotting them cause my parents missed lots of family time cause of their hate game. The people they hate were always people I loved so no idea what made them think they could do that. Now it is my sister and this time for the first time it is me that hates one, my sister. It is a right of passage. So since I hate this sister will I be able to ignore her since I hate her or will it ruin Christmas? Mark: Hey Mark, I assume you're my brother Mark as both of us have sisters or a Staten and I have a brother named Mark. What time are you coming over Wednesday

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Every time I'm around my family they all pick on me. They destroy everything I have, tell me I'm never going to be anything or have anything, call me names, talk about me, and try to intimidate me. It gets physical sometimes. I try to stand up to them or tell someone about it but that only makes it worse.They have been doing this to me since we were kids. I don't understand why they hate me so much. I never did anything to them. Is this normal with family? Is everyone family like this towards them?

I'm under a huge amount of pressure to meet the requirements for my husbands spousal visa. I'm also caring for my grandparents as they brought me up and now need care and support my brother with his special needs. I'm trying to pay off debt I am in, I have pressure at work and feel like a failure because I haven't moved out or bought a home by 28. Help me please 

So, my mom and I are in India now and my dad decided to come to India on the 24th at night, and surprise my mom. My mom has already told the driver that she's going for the midnight mass on 24th. My dad's will reach home by 10:30 PM and the mass starts at 10. How do I convince her to not go to the mass!?

Ok... im 34. Live next door to my parents. I have a 10yr old daughter. I work. I take care of me.  My issue is... my mother. She hates me. Im not sure why... i mean... i pay her phone bill. The insurance. Give her money ... do anything to help her. But... she treats me like crap.  She belittles me. Makes snide comments. Ignores me. Is hateful... screams n cusses at me. Shes broken into my house 2 times that i know of... 1 of which destroyed my 6yr long relationship. She tells me im not good enough. Tries to embarrass me... and does... at every chance she gets.  She tells me im a crappy mother... and im far from it. I support my daughter. I work myself to death to provide for her. She is my life. I feel like a constant failure. My mother blames me for her childhood issues... and has even once told me she resents me and wished i had never been born.  How do i deal with this?! Please help!! She also ruins any relationship i have... and refuses to let me be happy. She also shows herself at my job to embarrass me and get attention on "poor pitiful" her. I am at my breaking point. Why is she like this?!?!?

Hi Im 25 and I have a 7 month old baby and I literally been taking care of him myself since before he was born (besides the help of my family) I have bought everything and he only seen him 3 times in person because he stay 2 hours away with no car or job and he honestly made me upset because he drank 12 beers last night and we got into an argument because he think it's fine to watch my baby while drinking that amount of beers and I don't feel right letting him watch him alone because he will be sleep and act like he don't hear him crying because he's a deep sleeper he has done it a few times when my baby was a few months younger and now he thinks it's okay to drink 12 beers while watching him most times hate I had a kid by him , 💔 and he has 2 other kids and he said he has done it with them and they came out just find he thinks I'm overreacting but I'm not

Do you guys think I should move out? My dad has abused me financially ever since I've got my first job and same to my older brother (reason why he moved out). My father always demands I give up my money and credit card to him for his own personal uses, when he has a more better paying job than me. I do help pay for bills, groceries, and all that. So the one time I refused to give him my credit card for gas for his car (which I have been doing all the time), he got mad at me and forced everyone to give him the car keys and forced them to not take me anywhere. He's now saying I should take myself wherever I want with uber just because I didn't fill up his gas tank. Keep in mind I've been dealing with this since I got my first job and I only rejected once and he acts towards me like this. My father is really cheap that he can never spend his own money. He always asks for other people's money first before using his. He's in debt with a couple of family members and he won't pay them back. So my mom is paying them back herself but it'll take her some time because she just got a job after not working for 5 years. The thing is if I move out I haven't talked to my other family members in over a year because of the same issue. They targeted my mother instead of my father for the reason why my older brother left when it was really our father. He's now treating me the same as my older brother, basically using me as his own personal atm.

My sister got me kicked out my house and she told our parents that I party all night long and sneak in at 6am back into the house....I had a boyfriend who lived a few houses away from us and he would see me everyday we would gotten married with that summer but my sister was secretly getting jealous and upset that she felt I didn't deserve him and that she wanted him for herself and she got me kick out of my house just so that she can do it and spend time with my boyfriend without me knowing.... I told her I hung out with him but her blood boil and she told him I didn't want to talk to him anymore to cause a break up.

a little back story, i wasn't born in america i was born on a island in the caribbean. raised by my dad and my "mom" for 6 years and then she left and came to america... After she left it was just me my dad and my to older brothers. my dad was a farmer so he didn't have money all the time  he was also a drunk who sometimes beat us.when he didn't have money to feed us he would send us to our grandmother's house(mother's mom).. my "mother would send money down to our grandmother but not our dad which means we would stay down there most of the time... mean while in america my mother had re married had a daughter and changed her number to be rid of us i guess. im still 6 at this time . couple months passed and she called us i heard a baby in the back asked who was that she said she was babysitting... after that she kept lying like it was nothing... years go by she hadn't flew down to see us.. doesn't know what we look like and i didn't remember what she looked like..Fast forward i'm at my grandmas house a family member tried to rape me multiple times(a lot of times but was never successful) i never told a soul not even my uncle who was like my best friend... 6 years past we came to america met my birth giver left my dad. she is so controlling she doesn't let me have any fun, i'm scared to have a boyfriend because of her, scared to have any kind of emotional bond with anyone because they might leave me . i don't like when people touch me because of all the times i was almost rape. she is really bossy and sometimes i can't believe that this is the woman i cried for sooo many nights for... now i just really miss my dad.. the woman doesn't even hug or say i love you to any of us except the daughter she had when she came over here.. Now i can't say i love you to anyone. maybe that's the reason idk.

My parent insisted in helping me collect samples when completing my research project for my degree (not in a cheating way, just helping me dig up soil samples). Later, my roommate mentioned to my parent I have a boyfriend that stops by a lot. I didn't want to give my family details since we had just started dating.  I was told by my parent that I will lose a part of myself and never get it back if I spend too much time with him.  I asked what this meant and was told I'd understand when I'm older.  I told my parent not to be so cryptic, and in response was told I am delusional.  

I am 22, live on my own and am married. Since I was little my stepdad has been verbally and mentally abusive to my 2 younger siblings and I. Constantly yelling and belittling us over nothing, name calling, exploding over little things, threatening us, etc. I have discussed it with my mother many times and long story short she doesn't care really. She has failed to protect us. Due to this I try to limit going there as much as possible, but my younger sister lives there( shes is 16) and my brother stays there when he comes to visit from the army. I was there today and my stepdad was yelling at my sister for no reason. She asked him to please not yell because its almost christmas and she was sorry. He then exploded and called her a fag..(She is a lesbian) and my mom scolded my sister, not a word to him. I was already upset by this, but he then started screaming at me about my best friend who he has never met calling her dumb, and stating she probably does cheap drugs. I grabbed my stuff and we left. I love my sister, but I need to stop putting myself through the toxicity. Any ideas what I should say to my mom about all this? I have had discussions before and she gets mad at me. 

My boys are 26, 19 and 15. The 15 year old is Autistic so he'll be with me or at least be my responsibility for as long as I live. When he gets older, he will go into an inclusive home so he'll have some independence and I will be visiting him and having him for vacations etc... I'm just at the point where I'm frustrated being a single mom and I feel as though my life is not about living it. I'v spent 26 years doing for them and I just feel like I want to move on. Most parents have a time where their children age and move out but I feel like I can't do this at least for my youngest one. I feel stuck. Do any of you feel this way and how do you handle it if your situation is like mine? I will add that I love my kids very much and they are good boys. I'm just wondering when my life begins? Thank you, everyone, for being so kind. I appreciate your answers. 

I made another post about how I disowned my parents because they gave me a boy's name. Well, I'm also pregnant with twins--a boy and a girl. But I don't want my parents in their lives. It's just me and my kids. That's all I want. I told my parents that your grandkids will never even know you exist. That is my punishment for them--never to get to see your grandkids grow, hold them, nurture them or touch them. I left the house without their knowledge at 18 and they were worried sick about me that my father broke down and my mother practically had a convulsion over it. But I didn't care. In fact, if my mother had a heart attack, it wouldn't have bothered me a bit. And my kids wouldn't have known because I would've made sure they didn't.

Someone who is not the most drop dead gorgeous, not the most handsome, someone who is chubby or a little overweight, but you find their personality the most attractive, especially when having a sense of humor.

The party is on Dec. 28th.

So I just recently graduated back in October (I went to a technical school) and I'm also 21 and still live with my parents. I'm a graphic designer with experience in web design and I'm currently learning some web development. (I have taken web design 3). My dad and I started talking about a possible job opportunity I had that involved web design. My dad said to me "Oh please. Any idiot can do web design. It's not hard at all." Then I confronted my dad in front of my mom today because I wasn't happy with what he said, my dad replied with "I never said that. I'm not discussing this with you." So I snapped and called him a liar. In result of that I was yelled at to go finish dinner in my room (which had neutral affect on me). I took what he said personally because that's a big portion of what I do..also my dad is actually diagnosed with narcissism personality disorder so he tends to make judgements on a lot of things and I feel like I have to stand my ground all the time.. Was he in the wrong or am I taking this too personally.. NOTE: Graphic designers that also do web design are typically paid more.

I am only seeing the liar in order to see the rest of the family.