Hi. I am 26 years old. My wife is 33. We started dating at work while she was a traveling saleswoman. Gone one week, home a week. At first, things were great. But she would go out drinking with whoever she was with when she was on a trip, usually men as it was concrete sales. Usually, she would be hard to reach. e.g. I wouldn't hear from her until sometimes noon the next day. She was always texting/calling with guys she traveled with and sometimes things just felt ... shady. She would go from one bar to another and also between hotels. This affected me over time. Why could she never answer my calls, why was she so secretive with her phone, why did she never check in, etc.? I would express my dismay, she'd get defensive, I'd get angry, she'd get angry, we'd apologize, go on like normal, repeat. There were some serious questions in my head. For instance, a text to another sales guy in Vegas: "Lets keep the other night between us 😉." She said she fell asleep at a bar and didn't want it getting back to work. Red flag, but I'm a dumbass. There's  other stuff, but this is becoming a novel. We eventually both got new jobs, she stopped traveling, and we married. She insists we've talked about everything, but I feel no closure, like all she's ever done is lie or make excuses. She says there's nothing she can do to change the past, and basically that I need to get over it. She'll ask me why I bothered marrying her if I hated her so much and that I just have issues from before her. 

I need something that looks nice at first, but then you realize it's an insult. But you can easily deny it f you get called out.

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and we have a 5 and 2 year old. For the past couple of years our relationship has been up and down. I've done things in the past that he just can't seem to let go of, never cheated but lied about things. I've apologized and we've tried to move on but he keeps bringing it up. Our relationship is boring, we hardly ever go out and I'm just tired of the back and forth. I'm very unhappy when I'm with him but I'm forcing it to work for my kids and save our family. Should I continue to try to stick it or should we go our separate ways? My parents have been married for 40 years and I just feel like getting a divorce would be disappointing.

We were discussing about ring shopping and he asked which store. So I told him and he asked if it's expensive. I then asked what is his budget but he was then like "tell me your budget and then I'll tell mine." Does he sound cheap or broke?

My new husband and I just got married in Oct. All i want is to consummate our marriage! We were together 3 years before we got married,but he was always overseas in the military so when he finally would come home, there was really no time for sex. Only time for friends and family who missed him like crazy, and me. When I would see him we would go on a date or to the movies, and we would kiss/heavy touching but we never had anywhere else private to go (since, yes, unfortunately we still lived with our parents at that time),so that's as far as we would get. Well, now, he finally got d/c'd in Sept and we started renting a house and got married. (We are 23,24). I was expecting to have TONS of sex like you hear everyone talk about (especially in the movies). Even on the honeymoon, all we did was the usual, kissing, touching, etc.) I asked him about sex and he just sorta went "meh.." about it. He always tells me how attractive he finds me, and how horn*y he is all the time, but just turns his nose up at sex. He is very much straight by the way.  Ive tried everything...sexy clothes(or lack thereof), heavy touching and kissing, showing him new toys I bought..and nothing seems to work. Please note: He does get very much hard tho!!  He seems like he enjoys is all but just still wont seem to wanna go all the way.Before anyone asks, no hes not gay, raised religious, or has any anxiety/erectile dysfunction. Please don't be trolls, i really need help or advice. I feel like a useless wife. 

So my wife had been dealing with some health issues that has cause us not to be able to be intimate in 10 months. Were newly weds being married a little over a year. In that time the enemy has thrown alot of temptation my way. Women offering sexual favors for a discount, women customers complimenting me. One of my co-worker even told me she was fun in the bed and she goes both ways. I know the enemy is trying to destroy my marriage. Seeing that we wont be able intimate anytime in the foreseeable future and dealing with the temptation of women I'm trying my best to stay faithful. Some might say just put your personal needs aside and help your wife get better, which I've been doing but, It's it getting harder day by day. No matter how much  pray.

In my last question, our daughter saw us doing it and that killed the mood. But ever since my husband can't really get hard anymore since that incident. I've tried foreplay, a B.J., new positions, roleplay, and even a different diet. Help?

Hi, my husband has a contact arrangement order which he took his ex to court twice to get sorted to make sure he has regular contact with his children as she was trying to alienate him. She is currently trying to control us by dictating that everything we have arranged for our weekends needs to be run past her first. For example we are taking his daughter and Mum to see Strictly Live Tour as part of their Christmas present. As this is a day trip and being done within his weekend time we do not believe she needs to be consulted first as if she is able to ruin any plans she will, even at the cost of her daughters happiness. Of course she believes she has to be told everything we are doing, she even uses their mobile phone to track us. My question is does she need to be consulted?

Will she pretend to be happy that night but in her sub concious mind fantasize about her experiences exes and the very good times she had with them before they dumped her finding her unsuitable for marriage? Will I have to bear all the consequences of the past actions along with fear of STD's which too she might have hid till marriage?

I'm so disgusted with the way I'm being treated by people around me.   It is almost like a wake up call to me.  Example: my (soon to be ex husband) of 3 years consistently would tell me how he will not support me financially and his money was his money mine was mine. Everything was about him and his time. He'd tell me things like if I had a child I'd have to be back at work in 4 weeks because he's not supporting me while I get a free vacation off of work.  It became too much and I've filed for divorce.  I have a few friends who  Friend 1: Is now on drugs, has no money, no job, dropped out of college, and never has time for anyone. Friend 2: every time we make plans to get together it gets cancelled. One time she called 5 min prior to meeting for dinner for my birthday and said her and 3 friends had to take another friend to the hospital (she used that excuse 3 times prior.) Another time she asked me to get together and then "got lost" on her way to meet me and told me let's plan another day.  3. Another friend only calls when he thinks something major is happening in my life and wants details. I could call him for MONTHS with no response but when he found out I had a job interview in another state I got about 6-10 missed calls while away asking me for details.  I'm 30 years old and I'm honestly just disgusted at myself for allowing myself to be treated this way for so long. Has anyone had an instance where something just clicked and it motivated you to make a change?

Like they say nasty things in texts and bring up the past, or criticize you and talk down to you? Yet you left for a reason.

My partner and I have a great relationship. We have fun together, we respect each other, we are faithful and care very deeply for each other. We never fight because we communicate well but there's one issue I have that doesn't seem to be resolved even after numerous discussions about it. It's personal so I'm going to post this anonymously. In the bedroom I want more oral sex. I give to him plenty but rarely receive it in return. When we first started dating he told me that he would give oral to his ex all the time because it was the only way she could orgasm. I was surprised by that because he rarely gave it to me. I asked if he's had a bad experience, like was she unhygienic and he said she did smell and taste very bad; I asked if he's ever been turned off by my smell or taste and he assured me that there's nothing wrong with my smell or taste. So of course I asked why won't he go down on me then when he knows how much I enjoy it? And he said "Because I'm an *** I guess, I just can't be bothered with it." I was really taken back by this because that's not how he talks. I said "you're not an *** but it's really important to me that occasionally you do make that effort because it drives me wild, I crave it all the time." Well this conversation was over a month ago and he's only gone down on me once since then, and that was because I asked him to. Every other time we have sex (which is about 3x per week) he skips right past foreplay and goes straight to sex. Any advice? He's a really great person and shows me he loves & cares for me in many ways. I just don't understand why he doesn't care about satisfying me in the bedroom when he knows exactly what I want. What should I do since we've already had a very candid conversation about it? 

My dad's reaction when I called him was just a simple "oh, congrats" not excited or anything. His mom's reaction was "Oh yeah, that's right, well good for you guys" (he's been married before so maybe this just wasn't a big deal to her and his whole family) My sister's reaction was "Congrats, but have a long engagement" (she does like him, she's just not into marriage and kids) And friends and family just acted surprised and just said congrats.  Maybe it's because of our situation, I'm 8 months pregnant and we've only been together for 1 year (pregnancy wasn't planned ), we are beyond excited about our baby girl and our life together and we are committed to each other.  I want to just let people's reactions go and focus on my marriage and our family but can't shake seem to shake off the negative energy from everyone.

he really hurt his foot his own fault he didn t look for an extension cord in the hallway when he came to pick up a few things He thinks I did this on purpose. I laughed because he is such an idiot. It was an honest mistake, But I pretended it wasn't and I told him it is fun to watch him make a fool of himself. He got really upset , he wasn't always this sensitive and said his lawyer will be in touch.

I watched the whole series on Netflix but I think it may be gone from there now. They were childhood friends/sweethearts. After a long relationship they had split because he refused to marry. They stayed living together as roommates in a home (I think) their mothers had left to them.  She was still in love with him, would become jealous, hope to make him jealous, and even entered into a NSA physical relationship with him. Eventually at the show's conclusion you learn that he was distant because he had a hereditary illness that would shorten his life.

My husband and I flew into town on Friday night to be with my family for Christmas. We are staying until New Years.  My mother has a "friend" who she complains about 24-7. We've told my mother to not associate with her anymore but my mother won't listen. I guess she got my mother very angry Saturday morning. Since Saturday all my husband and I have listened to all day long was how mad she was, how terrible of a person this women is, how upset my mother is, how she's going to tell her off etc. Its literally driving my husband and I NUTS!! We feel like we are dealing with a 12 year old. We can't take it much longer. We are strongly considering getting a hotel. Any advice? I've asked her so many times to please drop the subject and her response is that I don't care about her or her feelings. We've been listening to the same thing over and over since SATURDAY!

I'm so disgusted with everything in my life lately and the way I'm being treated by people around me. I don't know what exactly is causing this but it's almost like a wake up call to me.  I'm 30 years old I'm in a marriage that I was absolutely miserable in for 3 years I finally found the courage to file for divorce, I've cut off a bunch of people who have made no effort to contact me over the years. I'm honestly just disgusted at people. My soon to be ex husband and I are selling the house we lived in. We are planning to split the cost of the house. I'm planning to move across country to Texas for a fresh start. This sense of disgust for myself for allowing myself to be treated this way for so many years angers me. Has anyone had an instance where something happened and it motivated you to make a huge change?

Writing a book, the character is a young female married to an illegal immigrant so that he can obtain a US citizenship, however her and the husband are just friends. She dates someone for a little while, never telling him she's technically married. She realizes that her and the person she's dating are not compatible and breaks up with him, while he is still determined to make things work. She realizes she is not in the mood or mindset to settle down and wants to travel and explore different cultures, etc. She finds out she's pregnant. Legally, keeping the baby would be a nightmare. A married woman pregnant with another mans child is usually always a pretty dysfunctional situation. Plus, immigration and a man potentially being deported as a consequence is involved, and the pregnancy was caused by a person she was never in love with. She's always been pro-choice, but admits that since she's never been pregnant herself, she has no idea what to do if and when (now) that happens to her. To kill a child because she wants  be selfish and travel? she's broken someone's heart and now she's going to abort a child? That's not justifiable, that's not like her. Sure, she can say she needs to abort the child because a man can be potentially be deported if she does decide to keep it, but even that reasoning sounds a bit "____________" for her liking. these are words I came up with, but I feel like there's a better choice 😅  Materialistic On-paper Unbalanced Unfair Discomforting

I refer to the reason of him as a reason for money!!!Today in Canada there,s a good life,and this bastard is wanting to make it an excellent better,but life,s not a joke. I am living in Iran,he wants to take me for a probable reason of smoking,so that if I smoked,I can enlighten his mind,for a better economic life.I don,t know what to do with him:I don,t but smoke!

Ugh it sucs so bad. I can just disappear and be forgotten cause i aint worth nuthin.