I just found out through a bank statement that my wife has been ordering hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of clothes, shoes, and makeup even though we are behind on bills. what should i do. I've told her before we are not rich and she cannot afford to shop at places like sephora, nordstroms,  macy's, bloomingdale's etc.. on a regular basis. She agreed to calm down the shopping.. recently i looked at my bank statement and there was a $500 charge at Sephora, a $600 charge at Nordstrom's, a $700 charge for FreePeople and so much more. This is getting out of hand. She's been hiding the empty ups boxes in the attic too i saw a ton of them when I was looking in the attic. I"m like really? How much clothes and makeup does one person need. she is going on huge shopping sprees every week and neglecting bills. She has debt collectors chasing her down for debt she owes, people talking about they are going to sue her. She still claims she cannot stop shopping. Is this a mental illlness? Also, found out she wasn't eating that much and using her lunch money to buy outfits.

My boss at work happens to be my wife's father. Can he fire me if I divorce her? That's a personal issue and it has nothing to with my job. 

I have been married to a mentally and emotionally abusive drug addict since 2010. Last fall, 2018, I finally had enough and told him I wanted a divorce. He moved out in November 2018. We have been living separately ever since.  However, we are still not divorced. My only income is disability and I cannot currently afford a lawyer. I have contacted my local legal aid office as well as Turning Point for help and advice. I have also contacted several local law firms to see if they would be willing to arrange payment plans for services. I have not heard back from anyone from any office. I have acquired the papers to file a dissolution on my own (we have no children, no property, and we have already split possessions and debt). He has fought me all year about actually filing the divorce (even though he has acknowledged that I want one and he is no longer interested in reconciliation - even though that was never an option for me) and has now flat out refused to sign or fill out his share of the forms. I am at a loss as to any other options. My last thought is to petition family and loved ones to help cover the cost of a lawyer. Is there any other ways I can get help? Because of his refusal, I feel I have no choice but get a lawyer.  I want to move on with my life and he seems determined to hinder that in any possible way. Thank you for any advice.

We agreed to divorce. He moved out and I helped him pack we talked about were we went wrong in our marriage. He said I would come to regret my decision to divorce. Then said he would email me when he would file. I agreed to let him file because he said he wanted to do it. I usually better to agree with him. That was almost a month ago. Since then I have gotten many emails, messages and calls from our mutal friends claming he has contacted them telling them insane horror stories about me and asking for money. I was heartbroken by this because he was making up lies. He doesnt work (he able to work but refuses) and I know he doesnt have money. Given his lies and the likelihood it would take a while for him to be able to afford to file for divorce, I filed. He doesnt have to any of the court or lawyer fees. I had my lawyer contact him to sign the papers so we could joint file, since I dont have his address to get him served. We have no major assests or kids so it should be an easy divorce. But now he is refusing to sign the papers. Refusing the divorce and will not talk to me at all. And wont talk to my lawyer.  I dont understand why he is doing this. I still love him, I am just not in love with him anymore. He used to tell me things like "you have no vaule" and seemed uphappy. I imagine he would be happier apart. I  want him to be happy. I dont want him upset and care alot about him. These lies he is spreading are truly hurtful. He has mild aspergers, what should I do? 

I am 32 years old woman who decided to go back to school for computer science degree. I am planning to start from next summer. (currently working on pre-req at community college) if accepted, it will take two years to complete and I will be 34. I am a foreigner who has been working as an admin but want to have a better career as a software engineer. The problem is... I started to worry about my age and I feel like I should try to have a baby as soon as possible. I was thinking, maybe one year before graduation might be the best time to get pregnant but I also know that things doesn't go smooth that way.Also I am also worry about the money little bit. I will be full time student and will not make any money. My husband works hard and make enough money for me to go back to school but not enough to have a baby to go to a day care while I'm studying. (we live away from our parents and will not have much support from them. ) Does anyone have similar experiences or any advice? Adding our financial info: My husband makes six figures and I used to make 50k. We have only 40k in savings because we just bought a house. (Wasn't thinking about going back to school until recently. I got laid off recently.) The school cost 30k for two years (this is for my second degree since I have on in other country) I also want (try) to get a job as soon as I finish the school. 

They have traps set up. It mainly lives under the couch. Is it okay to sit on the couch???

My daughter is the only person that eats a lot. I told her she's going to have to downscale her meals to only eating once or twice a day since she's unemployed now. She got fired from her job as a accountant where she was making a lot of money. When she got fired a few months ago. she said it was unexpected and she ended up getting evicted from her apartment and forced to come stay back with her mother and I. she said she has been trying to find any job that pays. She said she is not being picky, she just needs something. It's crazy because she doesn't even have money for groceries. I've been giving her money for food but it has been quite strainful because I'm also paying for my wife's food, my wife eats a lot and paying for my son's food because his entire paycheck that he makes from the burger place basically goes towards his car and insurance and student Loans. Son is 22. Daughter is 27. Wife doesn't really bring home any money. Now I see why people say financial issues will tear a family apart because I'm starting to resent my family for not having the means to take care of themselves. I don't cook and my wife doesn't cook, my daughter is the only one that cooks. And the wife and my son won't eat what she cooks so it ends up being more expensive paying for everyone's individual meals. I told my wife it's really breaking me this eating out everyday and I'm tired of having to buy the food all the time. She goes to Chikfila subway and a couple other places. My wife was like " I know you're frustrated with giving me money for food but it's not like I'm asking for a Gucci purse. It's freaking food. Everybody has to survive. Do you think I'm not depressed working a dead end job all these years. You're not the only one." I get paid $80,000 a year but we have all these bills and a huge mortgage. I have a good paying job but this money has to stretch in so may different directions since my wife barely makes anything. 

After two years of cheating, drugs, and making a baby outside of our marriage I have decided to divorce my husband. The crazy thing is, he has now for the past two months been on his best behavior so I do feel bad about leaving now but I'm sure the change is temporary. Just yesterday he was texting his baby mom, the lady he had a child with during our engagement, that he basically loved her but he has made a commitment to me and he loves me too so he wants to stick it out in his marriage. That means nothing to me. I'm over being cheated on randomly and I'm over having to wonder if today is the day that the person I love had decided not to love me. Now I'm just ready to move on. What's the best way to do this? I really just want to up and leave and never see him again.  We don't have any kids together and I'm the breadwinner. Also to those stating I should give him a second chance. He gave me two STDs on two separate occasions that thank God was curable. I've pretty much had enough 

Do they process it the same as people without aspergers? Do they tend to shutdown? Do they refuse talk to their spouse anymore? Not sure if anyone has experince in this area but I would like some insight. 

My sister has broken up with her boyfriend about 3 times and they've been together for a year. She said because she likes to give people the benefit of the doubt but he keep going back to his old ways. What do you all think. Do you think eventually they will be able to stay together long enough to get married??