It's mainly my family that's the problem.  My oldest brother (he's 33, I'm 19) has blocked me from his life and his kids' lives because I refused to be involved in his relationship. He wanted me to return some of his ex's things back to her, and honestly I have a lot going on (honor roll student in college) and I just didn't want the drama. I did this previously with another one of his ex's and it ended horribly. Not to mention he dates ALOT and always asks me to get involved. Because of this, my oldest brother has brainwashed my two other brothers and now all of them want nothing to do with me.One of the brothers mentioned above (not the oldest one) sexually abused me while we were children and I cannot believe HE gets to see my niece and nephew, and I'm not allowed.My mother is a drug addict and is homeless. The last time I saw her was through a visit in jail, and that was two years ago. My mother was forced to leave my home by CPS when I was 15 due to the constant physical abuse I suffered (she gave me a concussion).More recently my dad caught my little brother (he's of age, and the only one of my siblings that hasn't turned against me) and I smoking weed. I feel awful about it and totally regret disappointing him, and I feel like he hates me now too. I tried to explain to him that I am constantly feeling anxiety from everything that's been going on, but he brushed it aside. I just don't know what to do anymore, my little brother and I are struggling with all this drama.

My dad is making it a huge deal that I don't have money to give him. But I'm broke I'm 24 in college right now, I moved out at 19 and I'm in my last semester (finally.)  A year ago I changed my major cause I was unhappy where I was and ever since my GPA had been fourishing. Upon changing studies my dad got BIG MAD: attributing my "failure" to not going to church, and basically went off on me because he said once a child leaves the house they're supposed to be contributing to their parents pockets. I guess he never thought that I'd make it this far and I'd drop out and come back flying in his arms  I've always wanted to contribute, and in high school I have him basically half my income without a fuss, but since I'm away, I'm now supporting myself with a little help from uncles and aunties (which I never ask for but I'm eternal grateful for!!) So long story short now he's bad mouthing me to all of the family, and I know this because they confront me about it all the time, asking if I talk to him and asking if I'm saving money for the future.  Ever since the argument I went no contact on him cause I couldn't have a normal conversation with him without arguing. I know one day I'll get there and I'll have money to support him but now my relationship with a lot of my family is weird cause they all get 1 side of the story and of course they're gonna side with him cause he goes to church and I don't, so I guess that makes me an immoral Satanist or something.

Hi, first post on here!  I was just wondering the other day are my feet too big for me? We was shopping the other day for some new shoes and I needed new cleats. I Noticed that my dad is a size 8, and that I needed size 12 in Nike's and size 13 in cleats. Which I thought was massive compared to my dads. as I'm only about 5,10.  Now I joke with him on how small his feet are lol. Btw I'm 16 male. 

My daughter got him took off her and I couldn't go for custody cus she wouldn't name me as a possible guardian, social services had new qualified social worker on case who got took off it when my girls lies about me came out but my mum had already got guardianship, she is struggling an he is suffering and wants to be with me, my daughter will never get him back. He is 7, my mum 70 an her an partner although have done a good job are struggling now and not dealing with his emotions, complex anxiety an needs etc, I help as much as I can, see him daily, have him 3-4 nights a week an sat or sun day too, I take him to all social activities an do something weekly with him, I don't want to split the family but know I can be what he needs, I have no record, social services involvement in my girls life, nothin at all against me only my girls lies( she is volatile towards me and blames me for anything, I'm still always there for her) my mum had my oldest bro taken off her, married 2 alcoholics, had break downs etc i suffered as a child but am  an have overcome an learnt from my experiences, in time. My heart breaks wen I see his eyes and I want to help him , any advice or direction would be appreciated, thank you 

what does it mean when you have parents that say hurtful things? like My dad had told me if I took forever or waste all the hot water I was going to sleep outside. He told me it was not all about me, then he says oh now you're going to f cry am f out of here walks out and slams the door. my mom had said hurtful things I don't know what it means  she had said I'm not going back there after she got out she may go S on the toilet paper. This morning the cat ran away from me and I asked the cat why did you run away from me and my dad said because your breath was bad and he laughed I did not even laugh and every morning he would say my hair looks like a rats nest than laughed but now he dont say it which thank gosh for that. this was last year  he was walking by and I was trying to get ready for school and he walks by turns his head when he did and turned it away. my dad don't like taquitos so I was like ill have one and I pointed to one and my mom gave me one and she said the rest was his he looked at me in a way then looks back at the computer saying its not all bout you other people in the house needs to eat and I was hungry to! sorry some of this is from a year or two ago and some of it is from now like the one that says he told me its not all about you ya that was last year and the cat thing was last year. I have done everything for them and they dont realize it when she had her 1st stomach surgery and before that and the she had another one and before that one to no realize it how hard I try to behave and do things for them idk what to do yes I brush my teeth and take showers every day and I do think about others I have been worried about my mom and someone I go to church with I cant see friends hurt I have to comfort them to make sure I listen to others and so on and first of all I have been hit when I was 12 my mom almost threw something at me when I was jus trying to help her

I'm the older sister, I'm 20. He's 16. With me being in school about 3.5 hours away, we don't really see each other. We'd been etching out a weekend for him to come hang out. He's supposed to come this weekend, but, the issue is this. When he's come up in the past, it's just us eating junk non-stop and watching TV. I weigh, as of today, about 190 and I feel huge. I'm just not in the mood to spend 2.5 gorging and I think it's better to avoid it, but, I also don't want to anger him. How do I tell him?

Last week she was staying at my house and we were on the couch watching a movie and suddenly she farted really loud and it smelled horrible and i screamed at her and forced her to leave my house or i would kick her out and she cried and left and then later she blocked me on everything and now i regret what i did and i'm making new accounts to reach her to make up but she's ignoring me. i don't know what to do i miss her and i acted terribly. this is a serious question also

So basically i'm a 15 year old female and he is a big 40 year old looking man with glasses and he asked me today if i wanted to go to the mall together with him and he would pick me up and then he asked for my address, i would like to go but i want to make sure it's ok this is a serious question... i've never spammed this what the heck THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION 

I'm moving out of sis apt. soon.  I've been helping her with her two bad children since I was 15, eventually living with her for 7 yrs. I play mom/nanny to them & pay for the water. I'm grateful to her. But She tries to dictate my job/school schedule to make sure I have time for her kids. She's already trying to dictate where I move & me still keeping her kids day & night. I don't mind helping, but not during the week, plus on my only days off ALL weekend(Friday evening-mon) on a constant schedule. They have a dad. She isn't a bad person/mom, She just don't want to deal with them.  But I just want some advise on how to tell her I don't want her terrible kids around my own LEARNING toddler, me, and in my place destroying things because I'm 'not their mom', without destroying my relationship with her? My family is VERY pushy & I don't want to block her too.   How should I go about this? 

My mom and dad have been married for about 20 years now, and it was somewhat of an arranged marriage where they didn't really know each other beforehand. But their marriage has essentially been bad from the beginning but my mom stayed with him because she had faith that things would improve. Fast forward 20 years and things are really bad between them. My dad is emotionally abusive towards my mom and she is at a breaking point. He criticizes her every move and he hasn't been much of a father to my siblings and I outside of bringing in money... which he uses as leverage every chance he can. But the most difficult part of the situation is that my brother and I are just starting out in college and we rely on our dad to pay tuition. My younger brother is going to start college in only two years and that's also a major concern. But I see my mom's health suffering because of the stress that she's constantly under and the emotional pain that she goes through is painful to watch. I know that she can't take it much longer. The most ideal option would be for her to leave my dad but if that happens, then we don't really have a way to support ourselves. TLDR: my mom wants to leave my dad but my dad makes all the money and pays for college tuition. What can be done in this situation?

I'm not religious really and my daughter is an artist, recently I was looking through her sketch book (I do it all the time with her permission) and saw a naked woman with animal like legs and a goat's skull on her head? I don't know if shes trying to draw scary things or if it's something else. I feel too alarmed to confront her and I can't currently either way cause she's at school right now, any suggestions on how I should react?

My mother gets mad at me for pretty much everything, but the one thing that irks me the most is how she snaps at me for not answering her texts while at work. Like I'm at work, WORKING. I dont have time to sit on my phone and text her back and forth about nonsense, especially since she repeats herself over and over. when I finally get 5 minutes of downtime and look at my phone, ive got anywhere between 10-20 texts from her and the last one is always "so you're ignoring me now???" I hesitate to even answer because i know its not gonna make a difference. now the days ruined and when I get home hours later she's still mad and gives me the silent treatment. then usually a few hours later she comes at me to "tell me about myself" and yells at me for the rest of the night. this is pretty much an every other day thing.

My 2 yr old daughter whines and says things like, "ohhh nooo" and screams "WHY???" Imitating her Grandma....and all grandma does is look at her, pout back and make stupid faces...what will that do to stop it?!?!?!?

So we go to the same youth group and he is 19 and basically I used to harass him a little more then a year ago online and text and message him on every social media weird things because i was obsessed with him and he reported me to the youth group and i got in trouble so i stopped and i also told them to tell him i'm sorry and so it's been more then a year now and he never talks to me!!!! i want him to talk to me but he always seems to avoid me and it's mean I'm 15 btw I haven't talked to him in more then a year but he still avoids me 

Me and my husband were fighting and screaming at each other because he smokes in the house and I don't like it because it's gross and we were fighting and he got so mad he went up to me and hit my face hard and knocked me over, then he immediately said sorry and that he couldn't control his temper, i said it's ok but i've been thinking about it

Aunt one is a drama queen and can bully. However she is apparently getting help and she hasn't been nearly as dramatic or angry in the last two years. People say she is a narcissist but I think she's too charitable to be a narcissist. She's nice to me that she used to bring me into her hatred of my mother. Now she likes my mom again. Aunt two comes to me constantly with insults about aunt one. She is in capable of discussing anything else but her animosity towards her sister and mother. She has a daughter though that is a close cousin of mine. Some of her statements do not make sense like accusing her brother-in-law (aunt one's husband) of emotional masturbation by doing things to keep his wife happy even if they're not right. The family was rallying behind aunt two but now she seems to have gotten downright nutty as well as bitter and aunt one seems to be getting a little better. Aunt one does have a lot of bitterness towards her son which I don't think is right for a mother to do even though her son does have a lot of issues. So whose side do I take in this duel? Don't just say not to take sides as everybody in the family is taking side so I have to even if I'm nice to both. 

Long story short, I was abused by her verbally and physically, and would get very mean even when I was an adult paying her rent.  So I also have plans with my girlfriend who  she doesnt like.  I have PTSD still from my mom's emptional abuse and controlling  nature. I've tried being nice, but she still thinks I might come running back someday just because I used to run away as a kid when she'd hit me and cuss at me or destroy my stuff.  Now a days kids call the cops or child services. I never did. So I guess I am asking for advice because she will say im.not going back because of my feelings.  I get tired of rehashing events because she acts like nothing ever happened.

Off the bat I've never had a close nitty relationship with my older brother but we lived together until he was 24. I don't like his fiancé and that's that. I don't like how she came in my family acting entitled and all close to everyone when it wasn't like that. My mom loves her and all and all she talks about is their relationship. She's about to graduate college and she's the first in the family to really do so, and my moms always talking about how pretty she is. I'm not jealous I just don't like that. I've told her to not come to my house, that I don't like her and all. I give her the eye just to show her I don't want her around. Come to the wedding both my mom and brother are included in the wedding but I'm not. & my moms been quiet because she's not sure if I'm even invited. (Mom and I live together still) I know it's my brothers fiancé making this decision. But it's my brother? He's obviously going to take her side because she tells him everything that goes on but he knows how I am and I should come first because I'm family.

Is this fair? I had a reason. My wife had contractions. I thought for sure she was giving birth. So I had to take her to the hospital. I couldn't just leave my wife in the hospital and go to her wedding. 

He also is a chronic liar.

So she is consumed with this. Yesterday I gave her a ride somewhere and we were in the car for 1 hour and 30 minutes. She discussed nothing but this hatred that eats at her soul. She spoke of my aunt's husband enabling her and called it masturbation which made no sense at all. She constantly spoke of being offended last Christmas by this aunt and her mother. She was mad last summer that they did not ask her to something but was mad yesterday that they did ask her last weekend. This made no sense. She frequently speaks of her mother committing covert incest with my other aunt who is seen as the "favored one". She insists on a few things that I don't think are true. This aunt used to be fun, I liked her. Now I usually avoid her like the plague. The other aunt can be a little hostile but I was never as close to that one and so don't really care as she has a big family (the aunt I was with yesterday only has 1 child (a daughter) and she is my age and we're close). This aunt forgives her ex-husband who was awful to her and neglected her daughter at times. She is actually friendly to him when I saw her at something he was at a few months ago. She never cuts him down. Yet her mother and sister she devotes her whole life to hating. The sister was originally more at fault, but now this aunt I am closer to is the one consumed with a burning hatred. She LITERALLY speaks of nothing but this. Literally. What do I do as I like her and my cousin so don't want to lose contact? By aunt's husband enabling her I meant enabling his wife (the not so close aunt). 

It's mainly my family that's the problem.  My oldest brother (he's 33, I'm 19) has blocked me from his life and his kids' lives because I refused to be involved in his relationship. He wanted me to return some of his ex's things back to her, and honestly I have a lot going on (honor roll student in college) and I just didn't want the drama.  I did this previously with another one of his ex's and it ended horribly. Not to mention he dates ALOT and always asks me to get involved. Because of this, my oldest brother has brainwashed my two other brothers and now all of them want nothing to do with me. One of the brothers mentioned above (not the oldest one) sexually abused me while we were children and I cannot believe HE gets to see my niece and nephew, and I'm not allowed. My mother is a drug addict and is homeless. The last time I saw her was through a visit in jail, and that was two years ago. My mother was forced to leave my home by CPS when I was 15 due to the constant physical abuse I suffered (she gave me a concussion). More recently my dad caught my little brother (he's of age, and the only one of my siblings that hasn't turned against me) and I smoking weed. I feel awful about it and totally regret disappointing him, and I feel like he hates me now too. I tried to explain to him that I am constantly feeling anxiety but he brushed it aside. I just don't know what to do anymore, my little brother and I are struggling with all this drama.

My sister wants to to share information that my other sister told me... She says it is the right thing to do...but I think though it may be the right thing to do, that it would cause a lot of bad. Anyways my other sister told me that a mutual friend had a baby by a friend of ours but she found out she was pregnant after their relationship had ended. So she gave birth and gave al tights to her aunt who moved to Texas and is planning on crossing over into Mexico with the baby... and my sister things he deserves the right to know. However! On the other hand this mutual friend of ours is is connected to drug and prostitution rings (she was not always like this but she changed and my sister still hangs out with hre on occasion). This girl held a family and their little kid up at gun point for betraying them whoever them is. I just don't think it is wise to share the info,...And of course I would do it anonymously if I had..my point is by telling I think I am putting my sisters life or at least her peace in jeopardy and I think my other sister wanting to do the right thing is just not for us to do.

Growing up I was close to my father and I enjoyed it very much but as i got older and went to college and got married I developed different interests which he disapproved of them all. He has disapproved of all my relationships which is unfair because that means he just wants me available for him. He disapproves the college I went to because it is far away from home. He demands being involved in my work and freelance stuff. How do I stop all of this? One thing is being close and one thing is control?

My girlfriend is 27. We have been in a relationship for 5 years. I'm a very patient and understanding person and I've been aware of her extreme anxiety that she's has basically her entire life and throughout the duration of our relationship. She also has a troubled memory and can't remember anything. I'm being serious when I say that she wouldn't be able to tell you how to get to her house and back. She doesn't know any directions or how to get to places. She told me that her parents have been irritated with her for not driving and that her dad is tired of taking her to the grocery store. Granted, he only has to take her to the grocery store which is only a couple minutes away. I take her to her job which is about an hour away. I have never once complained. It doesn't bother me but I understand that she's not quite ready for the road yet. She needs to be getting into therapy before she even thinks of getting her license. I blame her parents because they have never once tried to get to know her. They never had her in therapy. She gets black outs while she's practicing driving with me. Someone getting black outs is not someone who is ready to drive. I would rather drive her everywhere rather then her getting out there and killing someone or her killing her self. And my grandmother agreed with me that she is not ready and said my daughter's parents are selfish and not understanding. I have 3 siblings that are 25 and my dad drives around all of them with no moaning and groaning.

Do I just avoid this aunt? It is a family dispute she is obsessed with. She even accuses her mother of covert incest which I find sick.

It has hurt me so much in the past realizing now the type of parent I have. When my mother gets mad at me, she threatens to remove me from her health insurance or she threatens to kick me out. Earlier this year, I spent a  portion of a harsh winter homeless because she kicked me out after trying to defend myself. Another thing that my mother does is she is extremely disrespectful and rude to me. When I try to defend myself, she threatens to kick me out or just yells "shut up shut up" and won't let me get a word in. For an example today, she bought dinner for just herself and my Brother. Sometimes after an argument she'll either but food for just her and my brother or she'll cook dinner for just her and him. Yesterday, she cooked dinner and gave my brother a full steak while telling me I could only have half of a steak. Mind you, I'm 23 I'm just about a decade older than my brother. Does anyone else have narcissistic parents that do that to them? 

I'm 23 fiancé and I are happily together. I get along with his family great, except the 18 year old sister. It's so bad. Nothing has actually taken place or happened for her to hate me as much as she does. She just hates me to hate. She'll go out of her way to cyber bully me, if I'm at the moms house she'll throw my belongings on the ground out of disrespect. If I stay for a night the next morning she's telling her mom I'm stealing from the house. It's never ending with her. My fiancé's very close to his mother and It's only him, the mom, and his 2 siblings left so I try to support and be around them with him as much as possible. The moms aware of what the daughters doing, me and my fiancé have both talked about it. Everyone's saying to ignor. It's so bad

My fiancé and I are living with his mother for a month before moving into our new apartment. It's his mom, younger 21 brother and 18 year old sister. We have made an agreement with the mother that we would stay for exactly 4 weeks until we moved in. I've showed and made it clear I'm not taking advantage of this time. I get up 6AM for work and don't come back to the house until my fiancé and I go to sleep. 9PM. I contribute with food, house supplies, I help whatever way I can.  The 18 year old sister is making this situation a living hell. She's constantly cyber bullying me, going to her mom accusing me of taking things from the house when none of that takes place. I wake up to my coat and purse on the ground out of disrespect. She's caused so many problems between my man and I alone. They never had a strong big relationship to begin with.  I try talking to her, nothing changes. Once I confront her she just ignores any of her behavior is happening. My finance talking to the mom or her isn't changing anything. The moms telling me to ignor the girl. 

My parents are going through a rough patch right now. Months ago (may of this year) something bad happened and my mom told me that me and her would be moving out. We started to pack and take things off the wall and we found the place that we were going to move into. Then one day my mom caught me crying and I told her I was crying because of what was going on. (I wasn't crying because I didn't want to move out, I was crying because of my family being torn apart. I WANTED to move out because I was mad at my dad) she told me that they were gonna try and work things out for me. So now it's December and we haven't moved out but things have gotten worse since may. A lot of things have happened since then. My mom is now telling me that we are moving out after Christmas. But she said she has to think about things. I have been begging her for us to move out ever since may. And I really want to move out... how can I get her to move? Neither of us can stay in this situation any longer but she is just so stubborn. I need advice!! Thank you (im 13 btw) 

I'm 28 and live with them while I save up money. I normally work until about 2 or 3 pm. Today I ended up working a 12 1/2 hour shift and getting home late. This has happened before. But when I got home, my parents were getting in their car and told me they were going to go to my work to see if everything was ok. Then my dad said he saw me there a couple hours ago. Like he was spying on me. I mean i appreciate the concern but I'm a 28 year old man and I don't think working a long day qualifies as a reason to panic. Obviously the solution to this would be to move out. I just think it's kind of an overreaction to me working a long shift, right? I mean would you do that to your kids if they stayed longer at work? I had thought about letting them know I'd be late but i thought it was kind of unnecessary.  But they never tried to get ahold of me.