I want to invite them out but I'm tired of coming out of pocket for everything. I pick them up, we go out, I drop them off, no one even offers to give me gas money, I have to ask and when I do I get attitude. I've thought about just going to places alone but it seems so depressing having no one to share experiences with so I don't go at all. Sure I may have saved some money but I've also missed out on some fun. Sure I could just get new friends and avoid my old ones but I feel like I'm going to run into this problem again. What am I doing wrong? How do I prevent getting used, but still be nice to people?

Is it a lesbian crush, obsession or do you think I just really admire and like her as a friend only? I'm being obsessed over someone who I shared a brief friendship with during my childhood years. When i was in 5th grade there's a university student who worked as a volunteer at my primary school temporary. She works with me every week in my class. At that time i was only a 10 year old child and she is a 20 year old women. I don't even know why I get attracted to an adult. She's a nice and friendly person, I immediately warm up to her since the first day I met her. We talked together regularly at class and I really enjoy her company. After I left primary school, we didn't see each other again. A few year later, I attempted to reconnect with her via email. She was happy to hear from me again at the beginning but after awhile I tried to message her again for a few more times over the course of several days and she will only give shorts replies and never initiates a conversation. Although she still reply to my message, but I sensed she is no longer interested to maintain contact with me anymore and she's only replying to my message just to be polite. From then on, I got the hint and stopped contacting her again. Now it's been more than 9 years since I last heard from her, but I still think of her from time time? How can I move on and stop being fixating on a person who is long gone from my life.

I had a long-distance friend, Andrew. He was originally my friend Mary's friend when he lived here and then her, him, and my best friend Kelsey all went camping one night (I was invited, too, but didn't end up going) a few years ago. Kelsey became friends with Andrew and 2 years ago, me, Kelsey, Andrew and Kelsey's daughter went to the zoo. I had a boyfriend at the time, but he didn't join us. Therefore, nothing except friendship occurred between Andrew and me, but apparently he developed a crush on me at that time. He moved back across the country to live with his baby mama who was controlling, so we lost contact for 2 years.A couple months ago, after he left that girl and moved back in with his mom in yet ANOTHER state, he found me on Facebook and we re-connected. At the time, he had a new girlfriend so we were just friends. He started talking to me more and said how miserable he was with his girlfriend and was planning on dumping her. Soon after, he found out she was cheating so he broke up with her. After they broke up, he confessed that he's had a big crush on me since we met 2 years ago. He kept saying how he would visit me over the summer and how we'd be together one day, even if it took a couple years for him to get his life together and move back out here. I developed feelings for him, too. A week or two ago, he confessed he was falling for me. He was also becoming distant and next thing I know, his profile said he was in a relationship. I got mad because he said he was falling for me, but then was suddenly dating a girl whom he had never mentioned to me. Obviously he's allowed to date with us being so far away, but he never mentioned her and I take things like "I'm falling for you", seriously. I deleted him off FB and blocked him on IG. A few days later, I confronted him and he said he only posted that to piss his ex-girlfriend off and that it worked, but I also noticed how around the time he had posted the relationship, he also had posted a photo that I had commented on saying "Looking good babe" and I noticed a little later, his ex commented on it, too and said she would get used to his new look (no facial hair) if she saw him more, but that she didn't wanna "step on anybody's toes" and I noticed he had deleted my photo comment. It all seemed suspicious and I confronted him about that, too, but he didn't reply. I had re-friend requested him and I saw the other day that he had denied it, blocked me on IG and I saw he is back with his ex-girlfriend now. WHY did he lie to me? Was he ashamed that he's back with the same girl he claimed made him "miserable" and cheated on him? I made sure he knows he has lost me. I really thought he was different. He was always saying how I inspire him to be a better Christian and to be better and do better. He was doing so well and now I worry he's going to ruin all that by dating her. I'm 27, he's 28. Why do you think he lied to me?

At first, we tried to be friends with her. But her lack of personality and jokes to share with the rest of us she became excluded until we almost forgot that she was there most of the time. Then, she started following us everywhere we went, listening to all of our conversations (even the extremely private ones) and slowly her lack of input has become extremely annoying. None of us has ever been rude to her since we know that she doesn't deserve it, but it has become so annoying that one of us are about to explode and the whole situation will get messy. The only reason we haven't exploded yet is because she's very pitiful, as harsh as that sounds. We're the closest thing she has to friends, yet we don't even speak to her. To conclude, we don't know what to do with her or why we dislike her so much.

I had a best friend and we fell out. The first time we did i apologized and we were friends again, the second time we did, i apologized but she told me never to message her again that she was done. I understand from her point of view because i was so toxic to her but she gave me a second chance and I messed up. I even emailed her several times but she did not answer me. she used to tell me i needed therapy because i was abused as a kid by my mom but i did not want to hear the truth. I've been in therapy for a year now and have gotten much better. i want to make amends but should i email her again or send a hand written letter. ( i remember one time we had a fight and i wrote her a letter and she called me saying she cried and she forgave me but that was in the past.) or will it be a waste of time. Also should i just apologize and say "I'd love for us to put this behind us and talk but if you don't i understand) or should I not say that

He and I are just friends and we've been trying to hangout for awhile. But I've been so busy with school. And he's busy with work. Recently he asked me to go with him to the Opera. He and I are only friends and have never been out together.

I want to have a social life and go to dances and have fun and stuff but that has to involve no alcohol. Regarding church activities, What if I don't believe in god?

Idk what it means that is why I am asking this question. Idk the girl she is random but she is the cousin of my friend. "DEPENDS WHAT YOU SAIS TO HER". I told her to grow up and act like an adult. Now answer the question unless you are clueless which I feel is the truth.

over the past 3 years I have gone from being funny and bubbly to scared and self conscious and now it's gotten to the point that I have to think through everything I say and do so people won't think I'm annoying or weird. The past three years have also been with my one friend (I'll call her friend 1)who constantly makes fun of me and says I look retarded and I'm annoying, so I say things back in a jokey like your face looks hilarious and she gets extremely upset and it makes me feel like a mean person. I then added another friend (friend 2) who friend 1 sort of ditched me for but I didn't want to lose her so we became a group of three. I liked them for a while but I'm extremely self conscious around them and I sent them all this video I thought was funny on group chats and they all ignore me saying they can't watch it or they don't want to. They also get angry with me sometimes when I say they're name if I'm going to ask them something they'll look at me angrily and say "what" I don't have anyone else to talk to about this because they tell other people lies about and it means everyone thinks of me as horrible and weird. I have to sit alone crying about it because I don't know what to do. I can't stop being friends with them because being lonely is worse than that. I feel like they're trying to shape me to be the perfect friend who shouts at people who are mean to them but when I do something wrong they get angry and I've just stopped talking so much all together.

I have this friend that I'm not particularly that close with but we have been getting much closer recently. I'm going to be looking for a part time job this summer and once I told my friends that, she asked to do it together. I just said yes because I didn't really put much thought to it. Now that I think about it, I don't want to work with her because I'm really awkward and I don't think that I can keep making conversation if we meet 3 times a week, 5 hours a day together. Also, I'm introverted and I find myself having to hold back my real self when I'm around her. I just don't want my summer to be miserable and I feel bad that she'll notice that I'm really awkward to be around. My question is, how do I tell her that I don't want to work with her? Any excuses such as my parents won't let me part time with someone I'm friends with?

I'm have been best friends with her since late 2017. We are both in our early 20s, I'm a guy. We attend different colleges, therefore after class, I take a bus to go see her. We were each other's Valentines, I would spoil her with gifts, buy her lunch and even come visit her on my days off. I tried coming over to her house so many times but it's always a no due to her parent's rules. She would phone me when she is feeling down or if she has problems. But lately due to her exams being over and her doing group projects, she has been acting rather strange. Last Monday she changed her profile pic to a picture of me and her together. But yesterday she changed it to something else. She also has a change in speech when she speaks. She doesn't call me by my pet name anymore for some reason. She would text me then when I reply, then she ignores me. Today she invited me to accompany her to her friend's birthday. She told that she will get back to me as she was gonna get permission from her friend. She didn't get back to me at all. I tried calling her and she isn't picking up. It's making me angry. I'm not angry at the fact her friend said no, it's because my best friend didn't inform. I feel like a fool. It's my birthday next week and I invited her. She said she is gonna come. My mom told me that I'm investing too much into her. I have decided to not argue or be all emotional about it. Is ignoring her the best thing to do? I want to handle things maturely

He and I are just friends and we've been trying to hangout for awhile. But I've been so busy with school. And he's busy with work. Recently he asked me to go with him to the Opera. He and I are only friends and have never been out together.

I am not attracted to him at all. Do you suppose to feel attraction and spark on the first date? Usually in school when I had a crush on someone, I felt butterflies in my stomach and feel happy seeing them but this guy I went on a date with, he seems like a nice guy but I did not feel attracted or spark between us. Also he didn't have straight teeth that's usually what I like seeing straight teeth just like mine

She's definitely over 200 pounds. Maybe 250

we always get asked this when we hang out or even a person at school had always thought we're cousins but we look nothing alike. she has bigger eyes than me, darker skin, her nose is wide and mine is a lot more skinny, she has straight long hair i have meduim wavy hair. i'm a lot taller and athletic looking (not saying she's not fit she's just shorter lol) i would understand if we had the same features but we don't? can someone explain

Her name is Rachel if that helps. She's gotten pretty fat

He is home all day. I work all day. When I get home and I have things to do, especially yard work, I want to be left alone. I can't stand outside an talk for an hour. How do I gently tell him I need to use my time wisely, and please to not run over every time he sees me outside? It's so annoying.

i am moving away in two months, and i dont want to be miserable in the last two months i have here. thats nearly impossible though because of my friends. randomly this year, they stopped asking to hang out with me. so i thought i'd ask them instead. but everytime i ask, they come up with a bunch of excuses, yet they still have time to hang out with each other and not me. i am so done with them, and im done trying to keep the friendship alive. if i dont say anything about it they are just going to keep doing it but if i say something ill have no friends in the next two months.

My best friend and I have something going together but we aren't in a relationship yet. Lately she has been a bit under pressure due to college work and it's affecting what we have together. We are both in our early 20s. This morning she asked me to come with her to her friend's birthday. It's at a mall where they are gonna do laser tagging and bowling. She told me that she will keep me company. However I feel insecure. I mean I haven't seen her in a month due to her work. I'm also getting thoughts in my head that someone might try to slip in between us and my heart gets broken again or I'm gonna get laughed at or get left behind. What can I do, I mean I don't wanna ruin this person's birthday. My birthday is next week also therefore my she is meeting my family for the first time and I don't want anyone getting in the way of what I have with my best friend. Please help

I have a childhood friend, he's been there for me since we were in grade school. And I kissed him. I'm in a very tough situation, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer, I just lost my job 'cause I'm spread to thin from taking care of my 3 year old son whose father is not paying child support. Last week, when I had no money to pay the rent, my friend paid it. He paid 2 months, I told him, I will pay him.. he said there's no need. He hugged me and I just cried on his shoulders as he hugged me. And then I ******* kissed him.. damn it. He pushed me away and said "it's not the love I will feel for you" He has a girlfriend of 4 years and earlier he asked me to jog with him along with my other friend, but I just couldn't reply to his messages. He said he understands me and that I'm just "lost" I am so embarrassed, I wanna hug him so tight and say sorry but at the same time I want to make love to him. He's such a good man, that I am so ashamed just to be near him. I'm living on my savings and I have a mountain of debt 'cause I have to take care of my mom. He's my friend ever since we were kids, he has always supported me, although I always f@cK up.. Damn it, damn it,damn it! Help me!

I have this female friend and her breasts are really small. She is this cheerful and bubbly person, I didn't think it bothered her. I found some stuff on her computer, remedies to increase breast size, stuff about implants... She was right next to me when saw the past searches and asked her. I didn't mean to embarrass her, I was just confused. I have known her for a long time and she isn't very good at lying especially if when put on the spot. She then mentioned that she doesn't like her breasts, comments made about her, shitty guys. She kind of seemed obsessed about growing her breasts. I didn't know the that she is affected this much over this minor thing. I do really care about her and she really is so sweet and genuine. I don't like her feeling this way. Can I do something about this? Like talk her or something, what should I say next time I talk to her? It's a bit of a shock to me and I do care about her. She was really upset over this. Do girls really worry this much about how they look?

I have very small breasts and I am naturally just meant to have small breasts. I am basically freaking flat! I really really hate them. But I have found some ways to increase breast size[please don't judge guys xoxo] I have done the research, this natural method works and is working for me. The thing is that it works slowly like a year or two and the increase is between 2 to 4 cups. So anyway I am also really interested in things like bouldering, rock climbing, mountain biking, cycling. I want to do more and more of these things. The thing is that women who are very active and participate in such sports are likely to go down a few cup sizes. That's just how the human body works. So I am scared that if I do all those sports then I might overtime lose the breasts I gain. Many women who use the method I am using say that if they are very active then they lose the breasts they gain and have to work at it again. So if I want big boobs and want to do all the activities mentioned above I will have to use this breast enhancement method for the rest of my life. And it's a time-consuming method. If I am not very active then I can stop after two years. Everyone who does believe in the methods I am trying just pretend that they work and will work for me. My self-esteem is so low because of my boobs. I genuinely feel as this ugly disgusting thing. What should I do? What would you do? Second to last line: "Everyone who doesn't*..." I do secretly have this fear that guys will think I am ugly if I don't have bigger breasts. Due to media and past experiences

She's a really big snob but she's popular and people like her for some reason. She's polite with her friends and my friends too, but she keeps being bossy with me and calling me rude words or swears. I'm getting fed up with this and feel like she needs to insult me less.

where does Tonya Harding look better when she was younger (the pic on the left) or when she was older ( the pic on the right)? and please rate her looks from 1-10? thanks and will choose a best answer

I have a classmate who asked me about my grades yesterday. I had scored 28/32 and she got 21/32 . She said that she can't believe that I scored this low(according to me these are really fine grades) and that she always assumes that I score better than her. I felt really bad as I actually consider her a friend but it looks like she only thinks of me as a person who can help her when she needs it and nothing more.

I never want my closest friends to be upset, and I always am willing to just listen and be there for them whenever. But recently a lot of them just don't come to me or talk about it with me. I know they are upset and it matters more that they feel better than them talking to me but I want to be there for them and a comfort person. My one friend was crying about something yesterday and I texted her like "I'm here for you if you want to talk" and like she goes "it's okay I'm fine it's complictaed" but then the best day she tells other friends more details and like I am the one that asked if she was okay and was caring. I just don't understand, how do I get over this?

So, I've been friends with this guy for a while and when I met him we immediately became good friends, let's just call him.. Carl. Recently he's been getting a bit.. touchy.. he'll try and put his hand on my thighs and things like that and I've noticed he only does that with me. He's been a bit rough too, he'll grab my wrist and make me sit down if I try to stand up from my chair, of course I don't let myself and I end up pushing him away and he acts like i offended him. It's like he's trying to show he's better than me or dominant. He starts making fun of the way I look now too, I know I look fine but he'll say things like "You have a giant pimple in the middle of your forehead and it looks weird, pop it." I checked in the mirror and there was nothing. Maybe he's just jealous that I have clear skin? Im really close to the guy I like and we're together a lot, turns out Carl likes him too.. luckily for me the guy I like is very straight (he doesn't even like carl as a friend...) if I get my nails done he starts saying that I copied some other girl, practically everything I do he says I'm copying someone. I've been ignoring him and trying to get away from him but he just won't leave me alone. I have to ask the guy I like to walk home with me as Carl always tries to walk me home if he notices I'm going alone, sometimes I say ok but the whole time he's just judging me. We were good friends at first but i don't know why he's suddenly acting like this.. Yeah, I've had a lot of gay guy friends before and they've always been a bit.. obsessive I guess. But this guys just taken it way to far. I just hate that he won't leave me alone

Ok the question sounds really depressing, but hear me out. I'm a junior in high school, and there's a girl I really want to be friends with. Not a crush or anything though. The problem is that by junior year, everyone has their little group of friends, so it's hard to make new ones. Any advice please? I try DMing her on Instagram sometimes but the conversation usually dies pretty quickly. On a popularity scale of 1-10, I'm probably a 5 or 6, while she's an 8. I don't consider this a hindrance, but just fyi.

A while back I had two friends and the three of us were fairly close. Eventually one of them got in a fight with me over a difference of opinion, but in the end we got it worked out. However the second friend, who actually perpetuated the argument by making it a big deal although never actually choosing sides, is now mad at me for some reason or another. (We'll call her Kim) At first it was her just being rather cold, but now she rarely says hi and only acknowledges me unless we are with our big group of friends. I still tried to be friendly and I would drop hints to see what was going on and she was totally unresponsive. One of my other friends, we'll call him Josh to simplify things, noticed something was up and asked about it. I told him that things weren't going well and kept it very vague because I didn't want him to think any less of our mutual friend. Later though I find out that Josh has heard all the drama from Kim's point of view and thinks that I was the one who started the whole thing and that I should talk to her and apologize. I don't want to be a doormat and beg for her forgiveness when I don't know what I did. I feel like I already tried to figure out why she was mad, but she wouldn't say anything. It just seems like I tried to mend things but she was unwilling to meet me halfway. Do I have to be a pushover and forget any hopes of her coming to talk to me if she has a problem? I just want this stupid situation done.

He and I are just friends and we've been trying to hangout for awhile. But I've been so busy with school. And he's busy with work. Recently he asked me to go with him to the Opera. He and I are only friends and have never been out together.

I'm 16 years old and he's 24 - we're just friends, sex/dating was never even mentioned throughout our messages. I talked about stress in my home life and how my parents divorced when I was 12. His parents were the same. It's Saturday tomorrow and I have free time.

A guy friend did not reply to my text message for over 1 month, and then today he is texting me how have I been and what's new in my life. Should I ignore his message?

I am resident of Arizona, was born in Arizona.