Should we do my Mom's funeral before my Dad marries my aunt or does the wedding come first? I caught them having sex last night (Dad and aunt Judy) so they have already gotten a start. Aunt Judy has always been around a lot as she has no kids and never married so she spends a lot of time with us. She said her job was to help if my Mom died but that was when we were kids (Dad and Judy are in their 60's now). So does my Dad have to marry her and if they are already having sex should they marry before my Mom's funeral which is now scheduled for Saturday?

My parents have enrolled me in a teen behavioral modification program even though I told them explicitly that I was not interested. Because I'm 16 they think they can just do whatever they want and control me all the time. Now they've taken it a step further and are arranging for other people to try and control me. They've arranged for them to come pick me up in a couple hours but there's no way in hell i'm going with them. Does anyone know the procedure on what they'll try to do when they come and I refuse to go with them. Like are they allowed to try and physically force me and if i fight them off and run what will they do? My friend said they can drug me, is that true? Am i able to overrule their consent and just not go??? I DONT want to go. i dont need a group of random strangers telling me what to do all the time. i'd literally rather kill myself

Ex: Over Mother's Day weekend, I found out my adult son had just been awarded a certificate for making his 10th blood donation.

I am 21 and I live with a roommate whom has a family of 3 boys. the house is always a mess and no one helps with chores. I'm afraid to clean the house because I feel like it will offend her most of the stuff that is lying around the house is junk. i try doing dishes and she takes them all down and recleans them so I don't feel like coming out of my room into an unclean area an hang out with her. so I decided to not talk to her... a few days later she walks in from whatever she was doing and she tells me that I'm weird an she feels VERY uncomfortable with me in my room all the time leading to her saying that the kids feel uncomfortable with me being in my room all the time. Then I told her "I'm sorry""im sorry you feel that way" "I will try to work on it" and that's all that could fall out of my mouth at that time.. what do I do? do I just continue being me? is it bad I rather stay in my room than socialize with her and her friends and family??

So I live with my parents and 3 older brothers. We live in a 5 bedroom house and all of our bills a month is around 5000 a month. Everyone has an income so things except my dad so aren't that bad. The problem is one of my brothers one want to move out so things will be a little worse and I'll have to contribute more monthly but I guess I can still manage to save up while I work. It' not horrible being here with my family besides a few arguments here and there But sometimes I think of moving out later this year. Im nearly 20 and make around 1500 a month after taxes.. Most of the apartments I can afford are in really low income areas for around 700-800 bucks a month. A $85 dollar phone bill plus I'd like to buy myself things and I need food. with a higher crime rate and bad transportation routes and I have no car. I would like my own space and everything but I'm just wondering if it's worth it or should I just stay here where the area isn't horrible for a while until I luck and find a better job?

My mother in law is from London,England but was raised in Auckland, New Zealand and I am Texan and my children were raised Texan and we live in Texas, so of course we sound different from her. They arrived last week to visit the children and their son (my husband). I however cannot wait for the next 2 and half weeks to pass by. She has done nothing but complain about how I deal with the house and my children. She ridicules me about being a working mom. However, for my husband and kids, I have tried to deal with her and be patient. But last night I have had it. We were sitting at dinner and she replied, "You really should get your kids into some speech classes so they do not sound so uneducated." I asked her what she meant and she said, "Well I know they are smart children but that accent makes them sound completely witless." I got up from the table and went to bed. I have not said anything to her. They went site seeing early this morning and I went to work. My husband did not say one word to her and only said to me "I am sorry, you know how she is." My husband is a good person but is somewhat weak in confronting his mom. His dad is actually the same way and so are his two brothers. I want to call her out so bad but I know that would cause a blowup and force my husband to take sides. However, they are his parents and he loves them. Should I just let this go as they are only here for a few weeks...

So I have depression. had problems with self harming. my parents know about my depression but not the self harming and I don't think I need to tell them cause I already stopped. my little brother is my bully and I have to deal with him all day cause we're both homeschooled and I have to babysit him. he calls me garbage, ugly, and says my life is a joke and tells me to get a life. the other day I was playing outside with him and he took my shoes and threw them. my parents see me as a lazy piece of **** the does nothing all day accept use my phone. they also think I'm sneaky and shouldn't have access to the internet cause one time I hid my phone screen when they walked by and the tried taking my phone and telling me to show them what I'm doing. I didn't because I was talking to my best online friend and I cant let them know cause they told me to delete that app a while ago and don't want me talking to people online. he is the nicest person ever and he helps me a lot. he's the one who got me to stop cutting. he means everything to me and he cares about me more then anyone. he's not just some stranger online either cause we've known each other for months and have video chatted multiple times. I know if I told them they would make me say goodbye. idk know what to do. should I continue keeping my best friend a secret until I'm 18 and we can meet irl or...?

Today is the day I will hopefully cut off a toxic parent. The only thing stopping me is fear of feeling guilty in the future after they die. Is that a real thing with toxic parents?

I am a 20 year old girl .I am graduated from biology science in high school because my family wanted me to be a doctor which doesn't fit me mentally.I always wanted to study mathematical and engineering disciplines in university.In my country there aren't colleges and we should pass hard exams for university. Last year i couldn't be a medical student i must be a doctor this year which i hate. If i can't be a medical student this year i have no idea about what should i do with my family.Everybody is waiting for the exam's results.... I am depressed.If i can't get their goal my mom will cheapen me for the rest of my life.I can't study in any engineering disciplines because of my high school diploma... They act me like i am a kid.When my older sister who is 6 years older than me was 20 years old she was like a young girl... I don't even have a cell phone.I mustn't wear make up etc I want to die.They destroyed my future i could be very successful.... Please help me... And i am not American please don't tell me to move out Plus my dad is an indecent

Like 7th grade i saw two girls kissing in the hallway, and i wasn't sociable till 10th grade. My female friend said to me that there is a lot of lesbian relationships going on in 7th grade. And homosexual stuff, along with drugs. The thing is i was still playing barbies with my sister in 7th grade and liked pokemon, since my family were religious. Like is it true these things are common since 7th grade?

Ever since I became a teenager my father has tried to control my every move. I am 37 and have been with my husband for 10 years (married for 2). He is likeable by everyone I know except by my father. When I first started dating him, my father had a difficult time accepting how potentially serious this relationship was. He was very cold to him and always tried to find things not to like about him. He put a lot of tension on the relationship. We broke up 3 years after dating and rekindled our relationship almost a year later. My father would not allow him at the house for 4 years. After a few years we got engaged. My father did not acknowledge the exciting news of us getting engaged. My father and I battled until the week of our wedding. Our relationship is somewhat better but there is still a distance between us and he still acts cold towards my husband. We tried talking out the issues so many times but it was a failure. Whenever my father and I argue he is still arguing with me about everything from when we started dating 10 years ago. We are buying a home and he does not like that we are buying a home or where we are buying it (in th same state, 30 minutes away compared to the current 5 minutes). Now he isn't speaking to us. I feel like every move I make my whole life he has had an issue with. He always gives his opinions about everything but in such a negative and controlling way. I still always made my own decisions but enough is enough! I don't know what to do anymore.

She lives in wealth and comfort but is ok with me being on the streets. She knows I recently tried to kill myself and she's still ok with this. She seems to love my brother more bcus he's a guy, is that why? She loves me less becuase I'm female? I want to take my ******* life in front of her. I ******* hate her so much, she doesn't even care that I tried killing myself.

So I spoke with my mother today and she very confidently asserted that I'm not to drive on the highway before the end of the Summer as I won't be experienced at any time during the summer. My father thinks that she's over-protective with many things & I'm also currently 18 years of age. I think that I could probably convince my mother to allow me to drive earlier on, honestly, if I convince my father that I'm experienced & competent enough to do so. My intention was to be driving by early, or at the latest, mid July, which would be slightly less than 2 months from now. I'm soon to complete this Driver's Education course, and I currently only have approximately 6 hours of driving experience, most of which being in empty parking lots. I'm confident and I drive well and competently on rural roads of approximately 40 miles per hour and without much difficulty. Why, specifically, I would like someone to respond to this is because I would like to know what's reasonable for a person of my experience as I don't know how most people would perceive & think about this situation. Personally, I think that a leader should be promoted based on their competence as that's what the determining factor is between effective proficiency & deficiency.. the amount of time that you've spent is simply a number, although, of course, experience has a significant effect on how well you do. I think that this should apply to my situation as well.

I ve always hated my name; it s too feminine and just doesn t feel like me. I ve already thought about what I want my new name to be, but my mom doesn t want me to. How do I talk to her and get her to see my side?

I can't stand my brother-in-law. For the past year or so he has been hanging out at our house, eating, drinking beer every other day. They drink a case or two of beer per night. He lives 5 minutes away from us so it is very easy for him to get here. To top it off, he doesn't work; my husband has been out of work lately too. We have a small child and I have not been fighting with my husband really as I don't want to cause drama in front of our child. I did let him know how I feel, I was trying to see if talking to my husband would work, nope he keeps welcoming that dead beat over. I realized that if I don't say or do anything my child will grow up to think that it is ok. I am naturally a very peaceful person but I am ready to declare a war against drinking and against my BIL. I've tried to tell the BIL to go home to his family and stop coming over but my husband takes his side. Thinking about divorce. What do I do? Is there another way to handle this without getting divorced and without being a bad guy? How do I stop my brother-in-law from coming over and drinking?

She has everyone but us and that hurts me a lot.

He likes to use the N word and say they belong back in Africa.

He blames me for having anxiety and says the simple solution is just "let it go"

I just thought how you're number one in my life and occupy every other place down to the hundred one... Then I thought about my parents and Adrian next... Please come back so I can stop feeling like I'm betraying you... We need to make memories that will eliminate Adrian from any associations with my family... He's not my family he's my ex...Also, he's way too sane and good to be compared to my parents, that's new low for me... Help me here. Come back other than a minor lactose tummy upset, I'm ready... I've got eyebrows and a wonderful knew silk epil... I love you John. I'm sorry about Adrian, please don't hate me...

Hello. I am a 23 year old female college student. I dorm in my college however my college is in the same city as where my parents live. I see my father every Sunday for 5-6 hours (it is regimented- he does not let me break it) I see my mother every Tuesday 4-5 hours and every Thursday 2-3 hours(also regimented and I'm not aloud to cancel on them).Aside from the above; I get good morning messages every morning at 8 am from them both . If separately I don't answer within 15 minutes they start calling my phone and don't stop calling until I answer. If I do answer then they stop messaging for the time being and wait until around 11 am and ask me through text what I am doing(the same cycle starts again) and they text me these texts asking me what I am doing and who I am with approximately 10-12 times a day every day. They also phone every day and we talk on the phone for about 3-4 minutes. I don't mean to sound like an ungrateful daughter but I cant take much more of this. I have spoken to them both (separately and together) on many occasions and explained how this bothers me and asked them to stop however they simply answer by saying ' You are our only daughter and we do it because we love you.' then they cry and the cycle starts over again. I need help. How do I handle this? I am going stir crazy.

My bf (17) was pretty ill last night. We were hanging out at his uncle's house when he started with the chills. At first I thought he was just cold but then realised that he had a fever. His uncle had went to bed ( it was like 2am) but his aunt was still awake so I called her and asked what to do. She said to let him wrap himself up and sleep it off. At about 5 she came back in to check on him and he was really burning up and shaking a lot in his sleep. We tried to wake him but he didn't wake up. I started to call 911 but she told me not to and started to take all his clothes off instead. She laid wet towels around him but we still couldn't wake him and he was shaking even more. I suggested we wake his uncle to have him help us move him to the bathtub or something but she said not to. Then she left for a little while and came back with a thermometer and packet of suppositories and literally just rolled him on his side, pulled down his underwear checked his temp and gave him 2 suppositories. At that point I was just confused and didn't really know what to do, it was just weird to me that she did that. She was really calm about the whole thing and at first I figured because she has two small children that would explain why she knew what to do and had that kind of thermometer and suppositories. Still it all seemed really uncomfortable to me. After another hour or so he continue to sleep but normally. He's fine now but I'm still a little shaken about last night. I'm truely thankful that she helped I was just a bit alarmed by how she did. It would have made more sense, in my opinion, to call an ambulance. I dont want to make big issue out of it but I'm just trying to put myself in his shoes and how violated I would feel if the roles were reversed. she's not a doctor or anything like that

I know your supposed to love your family members but what if they are completely useless and worthless trash that makes everyone else miserable? He is 26 living back at home with us but he's constantly making everyone in the house miserable. He has 0 respect for people and will treat people like trash because he's like 230 pounds and is bigger than everyone. He even treats his mom like trash even though she practically just let him back into her home free of charge. He just likes to use people and whenever he doesn't get his way he always has to threaten somebody. He's literally 26 years old that still shows characteristics of an ungreatful and selfish 8 year old! I hate him so much and I don't care if he's family. Some people on this earth are literally worthless trash and because of it they like to ruin others lives and make them miserable as long as they're in his presence. How can I learn to tolerate him even though I hate his guts inside out?!!

I hold this german shepherd dog stuffed animal that i named Little Rambo, in my arms all the time in bed from when i was a baby, to this day (and im 14!!!). i got him when i was a little baby from my parents. i named him after my past german shepherd that i grew up with. His nose is litterally worn to nothin&the stuffing is showing. My Mom insisted when i was a little kid that she was gona cut the nose and sew it but I refused her to even touch Little Rambo. if I don't sleep with him, I get awful night mares when I do sleep with him, I have great dreams. I feel so stupid tho. Especially when that bad storm happened the other day. family and i had to run downstairs for shelter from the storm and the first thing I grabbed was Little Rambo stuffed animal i didnt even think first about a phone. When I was little, I had a fear from bad thunderstorms, hurricanes, wind storms, etc... that the rlly tall pine tree in my back yard outside my window would fall onto the house and kill me when i was sleeping or something bad would happen and i would have to quick run downstairs. i would always take my backpack and pack it with three things. A blanket, flashlight, big rambo and I would carry little rambo in my arms. i still am afraid of bad storms but not as bad to the point were i am packing my bags, lol i also have a big gsd stuffie named big rambo i feel rlly stupid and pathetic. i mean, who else who is 14 sleeps with dog stuffed animals or any kind of stuffies?!

Hey guys! So I m 25 years old from Chicago and I ve been considering moving to Los Angeles for a while. I like the scenery, the weather and the beaches and shopping of LA and thats why I would like to move out there. But I have a problem. My mom doesnt want not move out bothered moving out there because my brother has a good paying job here in Chicago and my other brother has 3 kids here in Chicago and she doesn t want to leave them here and my sister and her kids lives in DeKalb IL and she doesn t want to leave them. I filled out an application for an apartment here in Chicago and I suppose to move in next year and I have the application for LA but they pay lights and gas that s why I wanna move out there. Please help ! I really wanna move out there. How can I convince here or persuade her to change her mind??

right now im a stay at home while in school, so im around the pets giving them attention all day every day (2 cats and a dog) my pets are my family and i treat them as such giving them as much attention as i would a kid, less so to my cats because they are very independent. The dog we have is young still and she is very demanding, my husband wanted a dog really bad and had begged me to get one and i had refused for quite a while because i knew it would be a handfull, and suspected i would be the only one taking on the responsibilities that come with it. I caved in because our current dog was/is so cute and loving and i did fall in love with her. I feel as though im the only one who has put anything into her though, we have had her for months and he has hardly taken her anywhere, when he gets home he never gives her attention and he even will tell her to go away. I have been training her to the best of my knowledge(crate, potty bells, sit, stay etc.), i give her attention constantly, i clean up after her, feed her, i take her to the groomer, i take her on walks and hiking. He has taken her on maybe one walk since we got her. He cant even watch her for five minutes while i go to the store, he just puts her in the crate. Usually wives complain that their husband gives the dog more attention, but mine doesnt give ours attention at all! Or me really for that matter. Does anyone else have this issue. How did u resolve it?