I was born in NY as : Jason OldMiddle OldLast I got married in NC and changed my name through SSA to: Jason NewMiddle NewLast New York will not allow me to change my name on my birth certificate without a court order and are very very picky about their name changes. Is there a way to change it? Does it matter? Birth Certificate: Jason OldMiddle OldLast NC State ID: Jason NewMiddle NewLast SS Card: Jason NewMiddle NewLast Is this okay to ignore? could there be problems I will run into?

I am 42 and my husband is 46. We have a 3yr old doughter. Last summer I went to visit my mom in Rome for 2mo. When I got back I notice my husband has changed. He changed his style to look younger, he was going to the gym,, etc. I checked his phone and noticed a phone no. that I didn't recognize. I called and a woman answered . To make the story short, I didn't talk to her, but I found out that who she was. She is a friend of a friend who we met in a party once. I was so devestated, angry and sad. But I couldn't confront him. I was thinking that If I say anything about the afair, then I have to leave him. At that time, I wasn't working and having a small child, I was totally dependent. On the other hand, I didn't want all the friends and family to findout about this. That would have been so painful for me. I contnue living with him and just going through the motions and pretending . At the same time thinking about my options, seperations or divorce. This lasted 3 month and the afair ended. I know this because I was reading their texts. He went through a lot of emotional ups and downs and it seemed that he is really sorry for what he did. Kept buying me gifts and showing me so much love. He is still that way and back to being a good husband But now I can not look at him the same way. Deep down I feel anger and that I can never love him again. My question is, should I tell him every thing? Is that going to help? Or should I just wait and give it time to heal?

My friend is 38 and married with kids. I am 27, single, no kids. He used to be my boss, but we've been friends since before he got a new job and left. After he left, he invited me to his church and I've been going now for almost a year. During that time, I have completely fallen for him. Keep in mind, when he was my boss, I couldn't stand him. I never hid my dislike for him, so he knew I did. Somehow, once I started to get to know him better, I realized he wasn't so bad and we became friends and I developed feelings for him. I promise I have no intentions of ever telling him or doing anything about it because I never want to lose him. Also, I am on good terms with his wife and kids. His wife hugs me from time-to-time, even. I don't have a license right now (long story), so he's often had to give me rides to and from church, but usually his son would be in the car. Lately, he's been giving me rides home from work when it's just us. Nothing ever happens, we mainly talk about work and there's no awkward pauses. Last time, which was a couple weeks ago, we pulled into the driveway and we just kept talking and talking, despite the car running and the gas light being on. It was nice. Ever since then, he always has some reason why he can't give me a ride home. They're legit excuses, but sometimes he doesn't even tell me ahead of time that he won't be able to come get me because of other obligations. He hasn't commented on anything on my FB lately, which he normally does. Also, when I would be asking for a ride, he'd take forever to reply or when I was waiting around to hear from him after work about whether he was getting me or not, I tend to blow his messenger up because he takes so long to answer. Do you think he's catching on? I've always called him my "big brother type" or "bro" so I don't THINK he would, but not sure. I saw him at church yesterday with his wife and we said hello to each other, but they both left without even saying goodbye to me although I was right behind them. Usually, he might make conversation after the service, but not this time. Why is he being so distant? I admit I've been a little unintentionally clingy lately, but I'm like that with several people..feelings or not. In addition, the first time he was unable to give me a ride after the last time we rode together, I told him (jokingly) that I didn't want to be a burden on him and he said "Hope you get home. We need to find you a car and a license". He didn't even say I wasn't a burden

I've been married for 2 years now and I'm thinking of calling it quits. There have been times where my husband has wanted to call it quits. We decided to make it work. But I feel like we both are just dealing versus being happy. My husband is very tempermental, Pessimistic, and not really affectionate. Me, I'm too bubbly, happy, and overly affectionate. The annoying thing is he becomes a total *** if things don't go his way and that's when he says hurtful things to me. Or when I ask him to be affectionate it's not sincere and he just tells me he's not an affectionate person. Of course when we go out and things don't go right, I always have to be the one looking on the bright side and trying to keep him from getting pissy. It's draining. Our sex life is nonexistent. I used to enjoy giving him bjs but now I don't, cause I never get anything in return. He can't do head cause it hurts his tmj but nothing else gets me where I climax. was like 3 months without sex but he of course likes his bjs, he used to ask for them but now he rarely does. We act more like roommates and lately I've just been wanting to end it. I also caught him talking to a girl a while ago on WhatsApp, I took pics of the convo, confronted him, and he denied of course and he said I could look at his phone but I was working at the time so I couldn't. he took my phone and smashed the screen to the point where I couldn't load up the pics and he deleted the entire convo and I know what I saw.

Damn confusing

I never knew he had a crush on me for years, he works for the same company as I , but he's in a different building. We picked up some lunch for a few co workers, while I was about to get out he leaned over and kissed me, Then I was startled but I knew I could never get the chance again, so we made out, he felt my breasts, all I did was kiss him. he left his number on my phone, I deleted it, lol, I memorized it. but now I feel guilty, but maybe I shouldn't be, I just kissed. what damage was done? Im married for 22 years.

My wife has extremely low standards in areas I feel they should be higher and really high standards in areas they should be lower. Her low standards (things she doesn't care about) are organization, hygienic, aesthetic, emotional bonding, and attractiveness. Her high standards are mannerisms, ethics/morals, following norms, and blindly accepting traditions. No matter what I do in my family, no one will raise their standards. Everyone prefers their cozy, comfy, status quo lifestyle and refuses to rise to the challenge of achieving excellence. "Its too much work, calm down and just relax like the rest of us". But you dont understand, by me adopting their lifestyle (my wife's lifestyle) I am almost 100 lbs over my desired weight. They want to be sedentary and be a part of pop culture, I want to wear a size medium adults again... What do I do? Our life isn't terrible, 1/3 of obese Americans live this couch potato life styles and they die in their 70s just fine. But that's not what I want. I want to be active and healthy. But I don't want to do it alone. Or if I do, I don't want my wife to complain I left her and the kids behind to be healthy (she will). Last time I got healthy my wife and I had 6 months of no relationship (more so than usual). She was a single mom because she refused to participate and demanded the kids stay with her (she gets her way, not me). I know I can't change her, I've tried for 10 years, but what can I do without getting too obese and too depressed?

My soon to be husband left our boys and i while i was pregnant for his ex. I never heard from him the rest of my pregnancy. I had our last son we went to court to start the divorce and some how she convinced him he wasn t the father of any of our 3 boys which i never cheated on him so we had a DNA test done 6 months ago came back his as i knew it was his and he still hasn t had anything to do with our sons he try to sign over his wrights etc i didn t do anything to him i i feel bad for our sons especially our oldest which he is 8. Why would man up and leave his wife and kids and just not care about their kids at all even if he doesn t like me the kids are innocent.

lm married my husband is good man and earn 150k..a guy came here and told that he is entrepenur and have 2 companies.hes having jaguar car.hes good looking and better than my husband.hes popular showing all his status looks wealth..please i love my husbandd..why hes doing

I get to work this morning and the girl next to me asked what I got my wife for mother's day. I told her a nice card and you would have thought I had two heads at that point from the look on her face. I even told her that we didn't spend the day together. I spent it with my mom and she spent it with hers. My wife and I have been together for some 15 years and we have no kids together. Step kids, my daughter and her sons, but no biological kids together. She looks at me and says I need to be ashamed of myself for just getting a card. I told her that my wife is not my momma and she didn't have any of my kids so I thought a nice card was appropriate. This particular girl is married and her and her husband don't have kids either but they have a dog which she treats at her child. She said he got her some shoes and something else. I'm a firm believer that just because you're a female and possibly married but have no kids, that doesn't put you in the category of a mother. Dogs don't count. Again, why do people feel they can force their views onto you for what works in your relationship. Both me and my wife's parents are still alive and we rarely spend that day together, mother's or father's day. Silly question, but was I wrong to just get my wife a card and not an actual gift?

I want a brother or sister for my son, but I don't know if I should do it for the sake of him having another sibling. My husband is in the military, he has cheated on me in the past, and now I am 36 years old. We have been married for 15 years already, and he is retiring in 2 years. I don't know if I should have a baby with him or not, because at times he can be the most evil person and I wonder why I even married him in the first place. I am getting old and I'm afraid I may not have babies anymore after we do divorce in the future. What should I do?

Abusive spouse (also has no SSN) has left the state many months ago. She will not give me the address of where she is. I have a handful of friends to ask but chances are, they will not give as well. Without the lawyers hiring a PI, which I have to pay, trying to find how to word an email or phone call that I ask the spouse one last time, and then her friends, just for the address for the uncontested divorce agreed upon. A letter without emotion or blame, just needing the address before they all get asked by the PI and possibly summoned to court, which is going to cost me $$$ that will take months to save for. What is the proper, quick way for me to ask for this from them? Thanks.

So I have cheated on my husband numerous times, with coworkers, my cousin even, and I don't know why I did it. He found out forgave me, I don't know why but he loves me and our son. Then just here recently he has found out I have been flirting with different men online. Now he decided to he is taking our son and leaving. He is such a great man, he raised my oldest since he was 11 and he is almost 21 now, got him from straight f's to straight A's, made sure we never wanted for anything and now we have a 5yr old. He has never hit me, never really even yelled at me, but this last time he found out he lost it. Like I told him flirting online didn't seem like that big of a deal, but he thinks it is, he also doesn't believe I haven't slept with any more men since the ones he found out about years ago. Like I told him I don't even know why I do it. He has a lot of women that are attracted to him and I have noticed since he caught me he has been talking to a few of them, innocently enough, but I think I have really lost him and tbh, I didn't realize how much I love him until now. My heart is breaking in pieces, he says he is moving out by the 10th next month and I need o find another place to go. How can I convince him to stay? He won't talk to me, no love or affection when it used to be all the time. I feel so horrible for pushing him away and now that I want all he has to give he is just so cold. Some one please help, I cannot lose him and time is running out! I am not a troll I just don't know what to do seriously, nothing I do is working!

Should I feel guilty if she's in an open marriage?

Hubby wants to get rid of our rocking chair. It's actually a recliner. We moved recently to a bigger place (from a 2 bd to a 3 bd), so the living room is smaller than we had. So now that our oldest is starting school, he wants to get rid of the chair. We put in the nursery when the baby born in November. Now that we're preparing for the school year, he wants to get rid of it to make space for a study area for our daughter (we're moving her into what is now the nursery and moving the baby in with his brother). I know it's just a material thing that I can't take with me if I die or anything, but I rocked and nursed 3 babies in it. Spent most of pregnancies 2 & 3 (my boys) in it. My dad rocked his grand babies (just two of them) in it. I'm not ready to part with it. I've told my husband that, and he response was that we're not using it. Not at the moment, we haven't been. It's been serving as a catch all for all of the kids stuff. Once we change the rooms around and make the transfer, I'm sure we'll have some space for it where it is. This has been a constant argument for the last two weeks, and last night he told a friend of ours to ask around if anyone wants it. We haven't made any kind of agreement on it yet, and he's acting like his word is final and that's it. He refuses to even listen to my point of view. I'm all for making space and getting rid of we're not using, but I can already think of a ton stuff of his he's been hanging to for whatever reason.

Having trouble in my sociology of family class