My dads mom is a rude person , everytime she comes over she always points out this is new and this is new -.-. clearly telling my grandpa to stop spending money on us. i cant stand my grandma. my mom says i act just like my grandma and makes fun of me for it. i also cant stand my bitchy mother. i have the crappiest family in the world. my mom likes to say im chubby which is a awful thing to say to someone, she says she's its a joke but its not funny. when me and my older sister correct her she gets pissed off and she things everything she says is correct. is this the definition of a narcisst? i wish i wasn't born, and to make things on a break with my boyfriend ;-;

No matter what I do, there is always somehow an argument. I have tried being mean, nice, I have tried doing exactly what she says, I have tried completely denying her attention, I have tried appealing to her, I have tried every conversation method in the book to deal with parents. I am one year away from turning 18 and moving out. The arguments get really bad. I often lock myself in the bathroom just so that she will leave me alone after an hour of arguing. She has hit me before, and if I don't do what she says she physically forces me to sometimes. I thought I was finally getting along with her. We haven't argued in a few months and everything was okay for a while. Then, she got in a fight with me because I skipped breakfast so that I wouldn't be late to school. She told me she wouldn't drive me if I didn't eat breakfast, so I grabbed a banana just to pacify her, but I didn't eat it because my mouth tasted like toothpaste. Immediately after school she started going on about how I'm terrible for wasting food, and that I HAVE to eat breakfast because I live under her roof. She tried to ground me from my cellphone, so I asked for a reason why. She didn't give me a reason, and tried to wrestle me for the cellphone instead. I definitely said some rude things after that, because physical fighting is a personal boundary of mine that she seems to love to step all over. She went and cried after that. I don't understand what I did wrong. Please help me.

My dad has cancer and my dad's brothers are not asking how my dad is doing but my co workers and my friends ask.

My father passed away 2 weeks ago. He was awarded the MEDAL OF HONOR in WWII in the pacific. My sister wants to donate the medal to a museum whereas I want to keep it. She's so stubborn and wants the medal to be given to a museum and I want to keep it as he was my father too. As it reminds me what kind of man he was,as it reminds to my young kids what kind of brave person he was. I loved him and my sister too loved him. He raised us alone as my mom left us for another man when I was 15. I often joke with my sister about everything as she lives next door but she's always been so stubborn and while I can let her win the argument sometimes I' m not giving up on this. How can we settle this? I never even consisdered about going to a lawyer but this case might be an exception. It's not the medal for a high school basketball game. He risked his life to save his fellow Marines and I want my kids to know about it. Any advice?

Alguien me dice que hacer para que mi madre me quiera? Miren tengo 15 años y cada vez que llego de la escuela mi mama me dice que lleve la mochila al cuarto pero con mala forma y le digo ya voy mama y me dice deja la mala forma, el otro dia estaba por la sala yo cominando hacia la cocina y me doy un golpe en el dedo meñique y grito porque me dolio y hasta solte danger y me dijo "Mira la P*** de la casa como grita. Ella no me a no enseñado como enamorar a una mujer, nunca tuve una padre. Le pic I dinero porque en la escuela Los maestro lo piden para la clase y ella me trata con mala forma cuando yo lo que trait es portarme bien es mas soy el Segundo de la clase y ella nisiquiera le importa abeses me can ganas de morir. Ayudenme denme consejos😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 Disculpen mi español es que no soy conocedor estoy acostumbrado al ingles.

So I'm 15 and I got a job as a waitress, I have been working there for a whole month now. The reason I haven't told my parents is because we talked about it before and they weren't so fond of the idea. My parents want me to just focus on my school work and just hang out with my friends. I like working and I know that might seem odd but I like having extra money to spend. I only do 3 to 4 days a week and it is normally 4 to 5 hours a day. My grades haven't changed and I'm not having any problems with hanging out with my friends. So I know I can handle it now. I feel like my parents are going to be mad because I have kind of gone behind their back. I don't know what to do or how to tell them or if I should tell them.

Your sister gave birth and you didn't go to see her because it's no big deal. And now she's mad.

So me and my brother are in our 20s and Everytime we argue I feel like he gets revenge on my personal things when I'm not home. Like one time I found boogers on my bedroom walls, then I found piss stains on my walls, then another time my towel smelled like dog piss(we have 2 dogs) Then recently one of favorite glass straws smelled like if he stuck it up his *** hole on purpose I may sound crazy but I know how I leave everything when I leave the house. Or before using something. What can I do about this ? I feel like he is toxic on the down low. He has had mental issues in the past but he normal now. This is a very complicated situation, you never know peoples intentions even family. If I tell someone I may sound crazy to them.

i always get upset when she says this because it maks me feel like she doesnt want to look like me... and she loves getting told she looks like my sister. others always say i look like my mum...and people always say me and my sister are twins.. idk why but my mum has always said she doesnt look like me and that she thinks i look like my dad idk why i feel so upset about this because it makes me feel im not beautiful or she thinks my sister is more beautiful and thats why she doesnt want to look like me... i dont even want to look like her naymore. i never know what to say because it just knocks down my confidence so much.. i just want to love myself. my dad isnt what you would consider "attractive"...

occasion/event, only to have them cancel the day before due to someone getting sick, would you still be upset?

My family is crazy and drives me insane! They legit make me wanna scream my head off and they blame everything on me but favor my sister. I plan on trying to graduate high school a semester early and I want to work full time to save money, I'm also thinking of taking a gap year? (Or a gap year and a semester to even things out) and I want to move in with my boyfriend when I turn 18, which I do in September, he just recently turned 18. My family is asking for it,they're pushing me out and making me dread coming home from school or work because they're so mean! My mom is a pretty strict catholic but she's been more relaxed about stuff lately, and I know she won't like the idea of me wanting to move in with him before marriage, is it a bad idea to move out or a bad idea to do whatever makes them happy even if it makes me a little sad? I don't want them to hate me and stop talking to me. I'm stuck on the fence, about everything! Should I even take a gap year? I'm not even sure what I want to study yet...I'm also afraid if I move out they won't give me my college tuition money and I'll have to pay for it with loans. Would they be able to do that? I really want to get out of that toxic house though but I know it'll start a fight either way, we fight constantly in the house and we'll fight if I leave I'm just stressing out about everything!

Buongiorno! I come from Rome in Italia and after being in New York here for 2 months, one thing that very much surprises me is the large amount of childless middle aged people and elderly people. I even met some middle aged couples who have no children. In Rome, you will see occasionally a childless older man but typically it is very encouraged to get married and have children. In America, a childless person is less ostracized by society than in Italy. Please do not mistake me for being prejudice, I am not against this. I just would like to understand why. I heard that in LA and San Francisco Bay, it is the same thing. Many childless older people. Why is this?

My dad and I have never had a great relationship ever since I could remember I'm going to be 20 soon and I plan to move out of my parents house because now my father permanently lives with my mom and I. He's lived with us for about a year now and I can't take it even when he came to visit we always had many explosive arguments. He's a good example of terrible father. He drinks himself drunk, has a problem with everything and everyone that doesn't listen to him or does things his way, doesn't pay for anything in the house except a few groceries if you can force him to do that, he doesn't like me or anyone else cause we apparently "don't follow his instruction". I want to move out but he doesn't want me to move out he didn't even want me to have a job so I can make money while in college he doesn't like when my mom goes out to do the things she likes but we do these things anyway cause it's our life and he contributes nothing positive whatsoever. I don't think my father and I will ever have a stable healthy relationship. I'm not sure what I can do to solve any of these problems it's more negative memories that I have with my dad than I do positive. What should I do?

I'm not a doctor and I don't think I can help. Some people say that I should be with my brother, but I'm sure he can handle it.

I hate being blamed for my Mom's sins. It hurts me so much. I can't get through life. I sometimes wish I could die. How do I get over this pain? My Mom was mean to my grandfather and so they link me to her despite me apologizing for what my Mom did.

why do older people tend to settle down in quiet residential areas?

My family has issues being tidy. Im not saying we are slobs but my mom and I forget to hang up clothes or pick up stuff sometimes. We've always been like this but we also always got it clean in the end. Never fought about it or complained because it wasn't that bad! Then my step dad moves in about 2-3 years ago. We bought a new house and didn't really change, my stepdad never said anything about our home being slightly unkept. My step dad "cracked down" after they got married. He starting making fun of me at somepoint in January and it really stung. He even snuck into my room when I was gone or asleep to find something against me (a private journal and vent writing). Which caused another fight. The house was still SLIGHTLY messy. Barely a mess. and he and my mom fought over it. You would think a married couple could figure out how to not fight over laundry. He promised not to go into my room (but did anyways) and my step dad saw it was so dirty (not really) that inorder for me to behave and clean, my door had to be removed. He took my damn door down because laundry on the floor. The thing is im a sixteen year old girl he has called sexy and said some weird **** to and im horribly anxious. not having a barrier between me and the world at night is terrifying. Is taking my door down and going through the private belongings of someone illegal or can I have a strong morals story to throw at him so I can get my privacy back?

My mother has this robe that she wears that is very revealing. I don't like her wearing it. She doesn't understand that people don't like to see their parents in revealing clothes. I don't want to talk to her about wearing that robe because I don't want to hurt her feelings. I know that if I throw it away she will be looking for it but then I will have to tell her what I did.

My dad has drank my whole life. Before my parent's divorce, the only alcohol I ever saw him drink at home was beer. Even then, he would only have one or maybe two beers on a weekday night. Since my parents divorced about 6 years ago, his drinking has escalated. I'm now 21 and live with him. He drinks multiple mixed drinks nightly, to the point where I can easily tell he is drunk. He typically drinks rum that is 94 proof. He passes out on the couch every single night and is late to work at least once a week. He is in a management position and his best friend is his boss, so that is why I assume he hasn't been fired. I got really upset a couple years ago when he drank so much that he passed out on the floor. My mom and I both talked to him and he said he would decrease his drinking. He didn't. Last summer I had my boyfriend over for the first time. We were in my room for the majority of the time, so by the time he finally met my dad, my dad was drunk. I came home one night that summer with food and my dad was drunk. My dad proceeded to sit down next to me and start eating my food with me. I brought both of these things up to him and he said he would stop. I cried and told him I was afraid of what would happen to him. He hasn't stopped. He passes out on the couch every night from drinking. The only time I have seen him not drink was when he got sick. But as soon as he was better, he was right back to drinking. I literally don't know what to do What can I do?

I get that I am a guy in high school, but I've been through so much **** and I would like to improve my relationship with my father since it went through the toilet when he divorced my mother. He's married now and have some step kids plus she is pregnant. I have a sister and he treats her like she is everything to him and treats my step brothers the same. But some how always is arguing and hating everything I do and the choices I make. For example, I enjoy Hockey games, he would critize and say the sport is ****. I practice Hockey and he went to my games a couple of times, he used to love Hockey. Now he is different and is only with me. Maybe is because I was depressed and stayed away for a while because I was angry when they got divorced. But it hurts me to see him so indifferent with me. I just wish he likes me just as much as he likes my sister and step brothers.

I try not to take it too serious, but I don't want to be the one to cause him to harm himself. I don't know what to do. He's been saying things like this for a while now and I try to make him happy now, because I don't want to take a chance and he kills himself. Is this normal, should I be concerned, is this what kids do now? I don't know how to handle the situation I just try to make him happy so he doesn't do anything. He's always been angry because his father left and I think thats the reason why he acts out. I dont want to be a bad parent Helpp

He keeps calling and telling me that he'll come over and I said no. He did something disgusting to our 1 month old son and doesn't want to listen to me. What should I do?

What if you think that they're a bunch of aristocratic wannabes and you have no respect for any of them? and your wife has to drag you to her family meetings because the last thing you want to do is to see their smug faces.

shes 2 years older than us i really like this girl and obviously seeing her bullied upsets me and she'll never enter into a relationship with me while she associates me with my sister i dont have a good relationship with my sister so i cant ask her to stop i am certain that this will make the situation worse to spite me i dont know what to do i just want her to be happy i dont care if she doesnt like me after seeing her happy will be enough if i stand up for her it will get worse i cant be there all the time this is not a solution

Hi, in short, last Summer I found my mum had been sexting and sending flirty messages to random men on a game app, I confronted her and my anger and sadness was DEFINITELY made clear, and she made a point of saying that whilst she may have been inappropriate she hadn't slept with anybody etc. After we reconciled, I moved on and tried to forgive and forget. Months later, I find that my Dad's ex girlfriend of 20yrs ago has been contacting him and confessing her love for him, and he was flirting back talking of meeting up and kissing etc. I once again confronted him in the same way as my mum, but neither of them know. Now today, I found that a 'business' trip my mum went on yesterday (that I was suspicious of anyway) was actually a hook up with a random guy, I saw notifications of texts under a fake name that confirmed she had met a man and slept with him that night. I'm an only child and 18. What do I do?

I was bullied in school. I am uncomfortable making friends as a result. I cling to extended family as a result. Yet, I am so scared I will be disowned if I put myself on people too much (not physically but in terms of invading their privacy). I am constantly obsessed that either I will not be told when the clan gathers cause my parents are fed up with me caring about extended family since it becomes an obsession sometimes or I will go and it turns out the invitation was strictly for a limited people and only my parents, not their kids. If I tell my parents this they will just refuse to tell me anymore when we are invited. My fear is that my survival as a member of the family community is at risk. I see questions regularly on here by someone who marks anonymous about similar questions though my family is closer then that person describes. However, there is a love-hate dymanic on my Mom's side where you are in or your out and the great-aunt who along with her son can be tacky with manners is in the out list and no excluded unless it is a reunion or funeral. My Dad's family is super close but very small (he was an only child). So what do I do about this intense social anxiety? I am in therapy for it and figured I'd ask on here for additional advise. I am 25 and male, live on my own and independent so too old for this nonsense anymore. I have been diagnosed over the years with Generalized Anxiety and PTSD (from peer abuse). I am on the mild end of the autistic spectrum and had learning disabilities and hyperactivity in school. I went to a specialized school in Western New York for it. meant to say eastern NY

Pretty much all my family members have high paying jobs or a lot of money. When I was age 20 to 23 they always talked down to me about how I didn't have internships or a good job in college. As soon as I turned 24 and got a good job it's like all of a sudden they have respect for me. I nevery talk to them because of that.

My brother banged on my door lastnight threatening me so today I put a restraining order on him I hope it got approved! Everyone thinks that I should drop everything I'm doing and go to dad's house and take care of him but they need to understand that I have my own life to live they keep texting my phone leave harassing messages I can't even sit at home I'm having to sit in my vehicle for so many hours before going back home! My dad needs a nurse or a nursing home END OF STORY!

What do I do? It has been eleven years and yet I am so scared. I feel like he tried to kill me but he actually was just being funny. My mother did not stand up to him as she fears her family. She flipped when my Dad's brother made a joke to me and that uncle is fine and was just joking me. Whereas my Mom's brother could have drowned me. I am so scared of him. How do I get over this years later? My Mom didn't tell him to stop as she sees her parents as infallibile and thus their families as perfect unless they don't like the person and then she sees them as satanic. Is this all just normal family behavior? I am so scared of him. What do I do? Of note---He is a bully to his wife even now years later. When he abused me he was 21 and I was 7.

My brother is in his early 30s and lives at home with me and my mother. He has three kids but two live with their mother and the youngest, who is 2, lives with us. Im 19 and Im at a four year university, and currently working towards getting a car and a place of my own. But I have this weird thing going on. My brother got into a jam recently (no surprise) which caused my mother and I to take over taking care the baby for about a month. Her mother is kind of unstable and immature, and isnt as involved in her daughter's life. I've had this weird thing going on where I feel like I need to step in and literally RAISE her, even though she's not my child. I sometimes think about what it would be like if I could parent her because even though her parents try, they just dont seem like they're doing enough or trying harder. I dont know if this is just a maternal thing, but I look at her and feel like I should be the one taking care of her and I do. I spend alot of time with her. I dont want to come off as snobby but it's like those 'if she were my daughter, she would be better taken care of' kind of moments. I didnt talk about this with my mother because I knew that she would think I want a baby. But I definitely dont, at least not now. When I can support a child I'll think about it. But I just want the best for my niece. Is it wrong to feel like one could be a better parent, even though you're young? Like 19 lol? P.S. the kids have different moms.

My daughter doesn't have the social skills. There are safety issues with the seniors being 18 too. Most will probably not talk to her but there ARE bad people who prey on the vulnerable. She knows right and wrong, won't do anything that poses a threat - but in some cases, she won't know if it's a social situation. I worry about next school year with these reasons. I don't want to coddle her and she needs to learn as well. But there's a few safety issues that comes with having a 14 year old that doesn't have the maturity of the average young girl her age.

My son and I have always been very close, and he always seemed so sweet and kind. But now i see he has been participating in vulgar and disgusting sex jokes on his phone with others. I am shocked. I know that people will say "teen boys will be teen boys" but i really feel like i dont know him anymore at ALL. My whole life has been a lie. I have no idea what to do, any sort of thoughts at all???

The question is self explanatory but here s the catch: His grades are really good. I called him down to congratulate him on a good semester and before I got the words out he told me he wanted to change the gradebook setting so I couldn t view his college grades without his permission. He s always been like this and it always hurts my feelings. Thoughts?