I have an extremely special friend, were both girls, shes a lot older than me. She calls me every day and multiple times a day during her break times at work, we text constantyl. We have a huge age difference, im 20 and shes 57. The other night when I was going to b led she told me she loved me for thr first time. I love her greatly so I said it back and I meant it. Why did she say that, so randomly??

My seven year old announced today that he was seceding from the family. He came up to me and said he has elf ears, which he sort of does. I said, "that's because you're an elf." "I am not." "Do you like cookies?" "Yes." "Elf!" This went on for awhile and then he said, "that's it! I'm seceding from this family!" I said, "well if that's how you feel, okay. I'd never make you stay against your will. I believe in self determination. I want you to stay because you love US and not because younger forced to stay." "I really mean it." "Okay, do what you've gotta do." So, he went and got a suitcase and packed it with his stuffed mosasaurus, platypus, octopus and a couple of sharks and walked out the door. I opened the window and told him that he wasn't allowed to cross the street and He said, "I know." A little while later he came back in and said, "I'm not really prepared to go off on my own into the world." I said, "do you still love me? "Am I an elf?" "You're seven years old and you're 4'-10" tall; of course you're not an elf. I was just playing with you." "Yes, I love you." "I love you too." That's pretty close to verbatim. I thought the whole thing was very cute.

Starting 5 years ago after my mom death. My dad started making small messes then it got bigger and bigger and my mom room look like something out of a horror movie. My dad don t like to clean. Now I am up in my mid 20s trying to get a job. He just don t like cleaning after his self. His bathroom is dirty he haven t clean it up. What should I do?

i have a brother who is 17 years old, he used to be nice and friendly, i mean he used to help people and make others happy even if it meant that he needs to ruin his life, but one day he realized that the people he depend on betrayed and they were bad to him, so he changed his personality.. now he likes feeling depressed and he makes the others feel bad and upset, he is cunning and heartless he stopped helping poors and elder..ect.., I m shocking that he can makes plans fastly to make someone feels sad and despair, however he acts innocent when you see him, you will never believe that he can do this things So please what I should do and how I can treat him ??

I have an extremely special friend, were both girls, shes a lot older than me. She calls me every day and multiple times a day during her break times at work, why? We have big age differences, she is 57 i am 20. I love talking to her but don't older ladies hate tlaking to younger people?

I am shocked they say now for a family of four they need to make 65k a year to make ends meet. My mom said because of technology. Now we have to pay for ipad, wifi, smartphone, and computer,etc. And also gadgets for the kitchen.

Unless you are rich, it's hard to have 7 kids and not be on welfare.

I have seen many "older brothers and younger sisters" and "older sisters and younger brothers" in my life, and I will tell the relationships they have are very different from each other. One example is that a older brother is usually way more protective to his little sister than a older sister is to her younger brother or a younger brother is to his older sister.

My wife's mother Billie is staying with us for a few weeks while her house is being remodeled. She is a wonderful person that we both adore. She has a great personality and is just a joy to be around. I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom and Billie walks in, takes off her robe and gets in the shower. WOW. What a beautiful body. I had to get out of there fast so I would NOT get a b0ner. Guys, can you imagine how I could explain to my wife if I had got a b0ner for her mother. I think I would be in BIG TROUBLE (gals would I). Luckily it did NOT happen. This happened a few days ago and it apparently is no big deal for Billie. She never said a word about it. Should I tell my wife what happened and/or just lock the bathroom door every time I an in it and forget this ever happened? I am afraid if I tell my wife, she will be mad at me or mad at her mother or mad at both of us. Since nothing happened wouldn't it be better to just forget about the whole thing and not cause a family fight?

Like since 7th grade she use to hit me and say that my beauty so important. was 148 pounds and i lost weight in 10th grade. She said to me that she was jealous of my body and im shocked. I asked mom why would u put so much pressure on me to look good in my early teen years but i want to enjoy life She said what so u can be fat like a trash can? Nobody likes fat on a woman. Like she is almost 50 but idk why my figure is important when i was 13-16. My mom said her cousin wanted to marry her when she was 14 and her friends got married when they were 16. 90 percent of the stress of my life is from my mom. She is hard on herself to look good. She does belly exercises everyday and goes walking and dyes her hair. I was a happy girl until because of her. I am better now but she really messed me up.

I can live with that, but she cut her father out of her life over it, and now he seldom gets to see his grandchildren. Is there anything I or my husband can say to get through to her?

We were celebrating my father's birthday with some family friends and we had all had several drinks. We went to get food. When my father ordered from the waitress, I heard her say back, "I don't get off work for a few more hours." It was loud in the place so I believe I am the only one that heard it, though my mother was standing right there. I asked my dad, "What did you say to that waitress?" He didn't answer. I am struggling with how to deal with this. I'd really like to tell my mother, but I could also confront him about it again instead.

My son is almost 24, he has lived with me, finished college in 3 years, and he has worked a job the past 3 years in an ER. Over the years he has asked me if he could see his friends, I said yes,but he cannot have a girl friend since I have some really good friends and a good magazine that warn me how he will fail if he starts seeing girls. I make sure to be with him and chase away girls. He has been independent besides financially,but he renovated the house, does, dinner, cleaning, and all on top of working. He says I am unreasonable and that he doesn t need to be parented any more. I m sure to critique everything from the way he stands to how unprofessional he acts at home (slouches, gets upset, habits, his acne). I remind him that a doctor should never. He almost didn t get into med school,but he got mad with me when I told him to give up in Jan but his people at work told him to keep going (they are very bad influence on him especially when he drinks with them) Finally, how do I make him respect me his whole life, he tells me things I do a wrong,but that is disrespectful. He quit his job to take a 1 month vacation on his own money before school,but I won t let him . Why is he so lazy to want to go on vacation when home needs work done? I refuse to pay another penny of anything when he moves out How do I parent him harder and keep him from getting a girlfriend. I heard making more work for him gets him tired. How do I keep him from backtalking? He moves out in July

Dear all, I'm a cellist in an orchestra. None of my three children have become musicians, but the two girls do play the piano. Only my son, 34 years old, has never shown any interest in learning how to play an instrument at all. I gave him a few cello lessons when he was a child, but he didn't like it at all. Just a few days ago, he told me he would like to learn how to play the cello and asked me to give him lessons. I'm not as busy as I used to be and we have never spent much time together. I don't remember the last time we really did something together. I have always been on the road and I know he has missed me a lot. My ex wife, his mother, told me he'd like to spend more time with me. BUT: I have stopped teaching a long time ago, and I never really liked it, let alone teaching adults, or even, my own son, who is not very musical. It's very difficult to learn how to play a string instrument as an adult. The worst part is that he doesn't own a cello and I'd have to lent him one of my very expensive instruments. Would you give him lessons if you were in my position? Thanks a lot and have a nice Sunday

My ex and I had a son in our teenage years. He got married when our son was 4. We had been broken up for about a year 1/2 before he got married. It was all a shocker. I found out the day that they got married that they got married. I knew my son was spending time with the both of them because they were living together and my son would stay with them on his weeks. Any whom. It seems like my exs- wife acts as if she doesn't have a step son on social media. She only posts pictures of their almost 2 year old daughter and she seems to be very spoiled. She has absolutely no pictures of my son online and it kind of bothers me.... also, they got professional pictures done and my son wasn't included. It felt like they feel like they have their own family apart from our son and it hurts to see that. I don't want him to grow up feeling secluded... should I bring it to her attention?

I am 24 and my sister is 20 and I like to flirt with her because it turns me on. I tell her how horny I am or how hard my penis is and she doesn't get angry. Sometimes I tell her that I wish she wasn't my sister because I would bang her so hard. She just gives me this disgusted disapproving look but she never hangs up the phone or leave to room. I got close to having sex with her a few times but she pushed me off of her. The only shot I gave to bang her is if she comes home drunk one night. Ha, I will keep you posted.

I've always felt like the black sheep of my family. They're insanely judgmental and condemning and even though they are openly warm, they tend to shame and criticize others behind their backs. And from time to time, I've felt put down by them. Not only that, there's a Satanist group that's gone around condemning me and spreading kies and rumors about me all over the place and inspiring ppl to attack me and they joined it. Not only that, my aunt who's never cared about me since I was 2 uses the group to mock me and shade me all the time. I've tried to pretend to not care but they keep saying I've changed and become reclusive but I just am going through a lot. I can't take it anymore. Everyone keeps screaming at he and yelling at me and condemning me and it's just too much. I'm so tired. It's like everyone sees their self as guiltless but I'm the one ppl are inspired to hate. My mom screams at me saying I have no friends but forest understand the Satanist group stole my friends and causes everyone to hate me. Why would I even bother making new friends when they'll just get added? I don't care anymore.

Car is in my name, i bought it and im paying for it. My mom and her boyfriend were comolaining today that they would have to "entertain" her own children, me and my sister. So i told them go have fun wout us and they left, and every time she does this i feel kinda "betrayed" and so i want to leave the house too so were not just sitting around while mom has all the fun... Then when we got home she got mad at us for leaving, and every time i tell her where i went she never believes me anyways and always thinks im lying... (shes the type to google stuff so if it took us an hour to get home when google says 45 min she freaks out....) Anyways, whole point is tomorrow theyre going out on the boat and i dont feel like going. After today mom might try to take my car keys so i cant go anywhere else either, all bc i dont want to go on the boat... Do I have a "right" to refuse to give her my keys though, or am i packing up and leaving tomorrow? (Yes i need to move anyways but i dont have money right now so im stuck... im 19. I have grandparents i can go live with but they dont like dogs and i have one, and mom has drained dad of child support so he is currently living with my grandparents too, which means me and the dog get the couch, if they even let the dog in the house....)

My dad and birth mother are divorced. I have a younger half brother who I am very close to. We have the same birth mother. My brother lives with his dad. I have no contact with my birth mother and now consider my stepmother my mom. I am going to college this fall, where I am making new friends. I talk about my brother in a lot of my stories. I don't want my new friends to know that my birth mother exists. I want them to assume that my mom is my birth mother. Problem is, eventually they'll notice that my brother doesn't live with my parents and put 2 and 2 together. How can I involve my brother without letting anyone know that my mom isn't my birth mom?

I struggle with this so much. My father had colon cancer in 2014. It was in remission in 2015 and he was healthy in 2016. He lives in NY and i live in CA. My wedding was July 2016. Before the wedding, he never asked me about the wedding at all. Except one time: he asked if he'll be walking me down the aisle. We had a horrible relationship including physical abuse to my mother and he is an alcoholic. We didn't speak for years. So I evaded the question and said I don't know how traditional the ceremony will be, as my husband and I lived together for over 10 years at that point Additionally, he reached out to my mom (divorced in 1999) for the first time in 2016. She was home for her dad's funeral and she wasn't in the mood for it. He was all about making amends post cancer but she was grieving and still angry at him. Disaster. So, my invitations went out and his was the only RSVP I didn't get back. I eventually had to ask him if he was coming. He said he hadn't been feeling well and his doctors were doing tests and told him not to fly. My husband has had severe medical issues and no doctor of his would ever say "don't fly to your daughters wedding" without a diagnosis. So he didn't come. We spoke on the phone after the honeymoon and he mentioned "a new swimming pool with a high dive board" that he started going to and was the only adult diving from! HOWEVER he actually had the cancer come back in January 2017. So confusing for me and I feel like if I ask I'm calling him a liar.

* a younger child ran out of room and * we can afford it

Yes, I know hate is a strong word. Right. Not long after my first birthday, my parents divorced. My mom remarried, and her new husband was abusive, so they, too, divorced. When I was about seven, though, my mom met this guy who treated her well. I was down instantly. He seemed nice, and he treated my mom better than any man had before. Within two months, they'd married. My older sister had been yelling and arguing with him for months, and she later moved out for college. Being a naïve child, I couldn't understand why she hated him so much. Now I do. He attacks me for everything, and is constantly correcting me for no reason. I tell him not to worry about it, that I have it under control, and he screams at me. He's still good to my mom- but he constantly attacks my brothers and I. He's never gotten physical, but sometimes I think he will. I can't help but argue with him. Yes, it is ignorant and bratty of me, but I can't stand how he makes me feel. He makes me want to die- like life isn't worth living at all. He makes me feel low and unworthy, and I often contemplate suicide. When we argue, I try to be the bigger person, and apologize. But he refuses. He only yells at me more. He badmouths me to my mom, and his constant attacks have given me genuine nightmares. In fact, I have a recurring nightmare that I hang myself, and my mother and step-dad are at my funeral. My step-dad slaps my mom on the back, laughs, and says, "WELL, that's one less brat to deal with!" And I wake up.

I'm 25 and absolutely hate being around my patients because they are extremely loud and are annoying.. I'm never home or when I'm home I have to run and make sure my door is shut..they make me so angry how loud they walk how loud they slam things..I'm just ready to move out and get a apartment.. is this bad or normal? I never wanna be bothered

My fiancées sister has always disliked me. When I was pregnant and she was clearing out her closet my fiancée asked if we could use some of her old baby things and she said no and just was flat out mean and doesn't talk to me. Now that we moved out she is rifling through my things and wants my brand new bookshelf that I left there and I can't say no to her because she is pregnant currently and super psycho and will just make me look bad and say catty things like always. She never shows up to anything when it comes to our family, I invite her but she never comes at the last minute and makes up some excuse. She never thanks me for presents and her mother always defends her and thinks she is always right and that my fiancée is wrong. How do I deal with all of this?

I was born in the mid-late 80s (1987), and grew up in the 1990s. My parents and other parents of people I knew were like this. They were delusional. They thought that when we went to school we would go there to learn and all the students were like angels, and everything was perfect. They didn't ever think that you went to school, students would slip illegal stuff in classrooms, teachers would try to get it on with students, teachers didn't care if the students learned or not, the students were 'on their own', students were getting killed by other students. When these issues started being brought up to parents, they accused you of talking nonsense, or making up stories, teachers were like this in a way also, and so were student counselors. Parents would see a gang of boys grab a boy and throw them into a trashcan, or a gang of boys would throw lighted firecrackers at a boy, the parents would look at each other and smile and snub the situation, any thing brought up to the parents got dismissed, or a quick response 'boys will be boys' Parents wanted you to become what they expected you to be, parents were like "you are going to be a nurse when you grow up and get out of college' and that is exactly what they forced you to become... or try to force you to become. They never suggested anything. They never were like "you can be what you want to be" Parents were always in 'a fairy tale land' and you were stuck with the crap. I can go on with this.

If your not a muslim and you don't know the answer please leave, i'm not a child looking to debate with children.

When I was 21 years old I got an 19 year old girl pregnant. I was young and full of dreams and I pleaded with her to have an abortion. When I say I pleaded, every night I asked her to have the abortion until for months, and In the end she kept it. I moved in with her and tried to raise my son, but I had dreams of exploring the world. I didn't want to live in a trailer park with her and her family so I left. I went on a job interview and never went back. They looked for me for a few years, but I never contacted them over the years. I am 42 now and I am relatively successful. I have graduated from college, I own a successful business, house, and exotic cars. The truth is that I am very lonely and I want to reach out to my family but it has been 20 years.