Any advice? She's acting like an old lady lately. She can't chill or relax long, and won't change her anoying habits. I love her though.

I wouldn't be writing this if I was unsure about our relationship being a sibling dispute or not. Rather, I'm certain that my sister loathes me as a person. She has never been interested in what I'm up to, nor has she even made the effort to go anywhere with me. I'm used to her cancelling on me, only to find out she was with someone else or had free time. We are both in our 20s and I have had enough. She makes me feel like a failure. What do I do?

I met this girl and she is really pretty. I found her really attractive. I asked for her number and we only texted probably 4 or 5 days. We talked about random stuff. She would ask how I am doing and i would answer not thinking to ask how she is doing. It didn't cross my mind. She would ask me questions about myself and I liked the attention so I would answer and I would never ask them back. I never asked her any questions about herself and I basically just talked about myself. I didn't see the problem and she didn't complain until the 5th day of talking she asked me what my problem was. I told her I like attention. Then she said to me, don't I want to get to know her. I said no, why would I? It never crossed my mind to ask her questions but I wanted her to only ask me questions. She said that's really rude and she didn't understand why we were even talking. She said we switched genders like she was the guy and I was the chick begging for attention. I found that insulting. I told her sorry and I would start asking her questions more. She told me that didn't want to talk to me anymore and told me to change that about myself otherwise I won't find anyone. I told her sorry again and I said to her what else do you want from me? She said she felt like my mom like I wanted her to check up on me, show me attention only and take care of me like I was her kid. She said it's one sided and it's really rude. I didn't think about it. I only cared about myself and I don't see the problem.

They refuse to walk in the highway. Why? I do not care if they get hurt

My boyfriend who I really love and whom i have known for 4 years lost his mother and do not have much persons around him to keep him company and to mâke him feel a whole lot better. I enjoy being around him and hé loves it too. I have always been that obedient child who does no wrongs or rebel up to this âge so i cant help but wonder if i'm doing something bad or unacceptable because i want to go stay with my boyfriend, However i know my family mostly my Mom isnt entirely happy about it but i just really wanna be with him, any advice? All advices are greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. We are both 21 if that helps a little.

In January of this year, my fiance (her son) committed suicide while at home visiting his family (in another country). For a few weeks after his death, I spoke with his mother on a daily basis. We are both obviously heartbroken, and her more so than I ever could be. He was her only child and she is obviously having a difficult time of things. I have been doing my best to move on and carry on with my life. The easiest way to do that has been to not speak with anyone from his family; it just draws up too much sadness and too many memories of him that I don't want to think about or feel. But I feel like I should be doing more for her. I wished her Happy Mother's Day today because I thought it would be nice, but I don't know what else I can do. She lives in another country and just talking to her on Facebook makes my heart hurt. When she told me that she no longer had any children, I said she could call me her daughter because I would have been if her son and I had actually gotten to the wedding (set for June this year). I just feel like I have let her down by not staying in contact with her on a regular basis, as if I have made things worse for her because I distanced myself just so I could function on a daily basis. Am I being selfish? It's obvious she needs someone to talk to and I knew her son best, but I also don't want to keep living in the past and reliving the pain over and over again. Understandably, she is having a hard time looking forward.

She's high society, I'm not. But of you look past the money, I'm super sweet, have always been there for others, fiercely loyal to friends. I moved in with my mom when she was going to go into assisted living otherwise, which Sister appreciated. Yet a few days ago she told me that her daughter wanted to cook for Sister (her mom) and our mom. HOWEVER, Mom told me that my sister cooked, so I realize she simply left me out. I was going to offer Sister to celebrate today, but i found out she had plans to go out of town today. I was NOT petty about it whatsoever, BUT it sent me the message that she is not trying to get close. I am tryinh to figure out a way to reach out. I just don't know how. Any ideas? She works twice a week during the weekdays, and leaves around 3, if that helps.

and that most of my nieces and nephews are older than me and some have their own children too

This may sound silly... but my local church did a fundraiser for the new building on Mother's Day. Basically, you put in a dollar with a Mother's name on it and that's your vote for "Mother of the year." Whoever has the most votes gets a parking place up front for a year with her name on it and a big bag of nice gifts. Anyone that receives even one vote receives a gift bag and their name called. It's kinda cheesy but still.... So it's a large congregation, and I was the only mother that didn't get a gift. My kids and husband "forgot" they said . I mean.... it's just a dollar and it's been announced for over a month. $1 is the minimum to get a gift and get Your name called. Now I'm not petty enough to know that since I didn't get my name called that I'm a terrible mother or something. I work hard for my husband and my kids. But I really got my feelings hurt and was more embarrassed than anything that everyone got something but me. $1. Then what's worse, I kept smiling and acting like it didn't matter but my husband could tell it bothered me. So after it was over he went and asked if he could have one of the left over bags to give to me. Sooo I basically got a pity gift. It's not about the gift. They gave me a card and some flowers this morning. I was just embarrassed that no one thought enough to put in even a dollar to honor me. Hurt and embarrassed... should I be or am I being overly sensitive and I should I just forget it?

There is a woman living at my house she asked to use my laptop bag but I lied and said that I did not have one. Then she asked to use my charger and said OK because I felt bad but she took my charger for long periods of time ( and if i did not ask she wouldn't give it back), now I took it back and I have noticed it went missing last week on Tuesday and I messed my room up looking for it. I thought I had lost it even though, I had used it the previous day in the evening. I went to her and asked if she had and she had it. Today the same thing happened. I am seriously pissed. It happened early on in the week also. Do you think I should ignore my mum and lock my mum?

My bf and i have a 1 and a half year old son and we were talking about Mother's Day gifts and he mentioned he needed to buy his mom a gift.. I was only kidding and mentioned how I would like flowers and a card he then said im not his mother to get anything for and that one day our son will buy me a gift.. I just said okay. Not telling him how much it hurt me because its not about a gift its about being acknowledged i didn't get even a Happy Mother's Day today from him. He then threw in my face that my birthday was a week ago and that he already spent enough on me. It meant a lot that other people told me happy mothers day but being the mother of his child I thought he appreciate everything I do. Last year he said he only got me something because he was being nice which was a pair of shoes that i got to pick... I gave him a gift for Father's Day last year from our son and me.. And I will this year to because im not a mean person. Maybe hes right I dont get acknowledgement from him because im not his mother.. Am i wrong?

lying right now about me to my family and saying I beat my dad up.... bruh

I have a father figure in my life, no relation at all. My dad was never there for me once, he abandoned me before I was born. I met my father figure 2 years ago and he's helped me through a lot, been there for me, gave me good memories. He opened me up to his family. My mom knows him and his family and they all seem fine together. I would be more than happy if I was adopted away from my dad so I could have nothing to do with him at all. I love my father figure as if he was my dad and it would mean a lot to me to make it official. My father figure told His wife he'd like to adopt me almost a year ago, but she didn't take it seriously. A few months ago, he told me he would adopt me and that he wants to but I didn't take it seriously either because I thought he was just saying that to be nice or something. I'm 17, and I was thinking of asking him to adopt me on my birthday in January, but I'm scared that he had a change of heart. That he would say no or he was never serious. Should I ask him anyways? I really don't know what to do.

He says I'm the victim and I'm doing this to myself, and it makes me feel horrible. When I try to tell him how I feel, about how I feel alone and like he doesn't really care, he dismisses me and says that he cares a lot but then he goes right back to making fun of me and the pain I'm in. I'm a minor, so I can't just seek help on my own. The way he discredits me is starting to have a heavy negative effect on me. I have a lot of mental breakdowns. What should I do?

today is mother's day and my sister always makes my mom cry and stress out. She calls my moms food gross and yells at her to shut up and name calls her so much. I try to help my mom but she just yells at me and says that my sister is nice she's just in a bad mood. She lets her do whatever she wants and doesn't do anything to stop her attitude but be nice and do whatever she wants. This upsets me so much, i hate seeing my mom like this. I just want to help but then she gets mad at me. I feel like a parent and i'm only a teenager, i have so much stress from my sisters attitude, i was never like her when i was little maybe because i didn't have an ipad when i was like 1 years old and grew up not watching all these stupid disrespectful youtubers. Someone please give me tips, i just want to help my mom. This child is so crazy, she screams from the top of her lungs when she doesn't get what she wants and cry's and cry's

We were at church last week and my dad wore a pair of denim short shorts and a white tanktop to church. During the sermon, my dad was drinking beer, squeezing his *private area*, and farting and burping really loud. An old lady called the cops to deal with my dad. My dad just killed the cops with a beer bottle, cussed in the old lady's face, went up to the stage, farted in the pastor's face, and preached his own sermon on denim short shorts and beer. The kids just laughed non-stop at my dad, and the adults were horrified their faces turned pale. What should I do about it?

I'm 21 years old with a twin brother. I feel like a loser in front of my twin. I feel like being under his shadow all the time. He is fit, I'm not. He's good-looking, I'm ugly ( we aren't identical). He's better in academics and sports. He's had success with girls I have never had it. because we went to the same school, we have common friends but they prefer him and try to make me feel "not wanted". I've seen my brother getting praised all the time since day one, no one ever even talked about me. I've lost all the confidence one needs to live, in life. I don't know what to do. I hate myself and inferior to him all the time. Please help me, guys. Had my brother been younger or elder, it would not have been much of a problem. But because we're twins, its almost impossible for people not to compare us- which happens all the time. Help me.

I went to this party in 2009 with my grandmother. My grandfather had died and I went in his place. The host was an aunt, my uncle's wife. Both were furious I came uninvited and they were only expecting my grandmother. Another aunt gave me the silent treatment. I left early. In the early 2000's I was known to impose on people without realizing it. I stopped doing this about 2003 when my Mom pointed it out to me (this is her family). I thought everyone had long forgotten about this until the 2009 incident. So now it is 2018 and I am constantly terrified of being disliked forever by family cause of a social mistake. On my Dad's side of the family he has one cousin who is a little tacky and not a single family member likes her as a result other then one aunt who likes everyone cause of her religion. I am ADHD and have severe anxiety so worry about this. How would I make up if I make a mistake like this sometime? Recently my Mom invited me to something and her sister has invited her but not me directly so I am scared to death her sister won't be expecting me and dislike me forever because of it. This is the same aunt who gave me the silent treatment at the party my uncle and his wife flipped out on me at. The uncle's wife was in menopause at the time and has softened since. Uncle died last year.

travelling to go shopping every mothers day has been a tradition between my mom, grandma sister and I. This year I really don't have the money to go plus my mom kept telling me to make sure I'm don't act upset on the trip because she didn't want to have to deal with my attitude. She said at one point that I don't even have to come which kind of hurt my feelings. Then when my sister and I went to get her flowers I told her before giving her the flowers that Its best that they go without me. She suggested it in the first place and that way she has no negativity on her trip and she doesn't have to give me any money, I wanted them to have fun and I always seem to be the problem. She flipped and said I ruined her mothers day. I've never really thought she liked me and she never seems to say anything good about me unless it is about my singing. She does a lot for me and I have a strong appreciation for her but I feel like if she could give me away she would. Not the point, I'd love an opinion but I'm truly here to just say sorry, because i'm always the problem.

If she doesn't respond I am not a mother

Okay so I'm 22 in a Month I'm currently living at home with my parents who are anti tattoos and have always been telling us how much I will ruin my life and everything if I get one. I've always wanted one and finially got one on the upper inside of my arm ( I got it in a place where I can cover if needed) and it's not offensive and it's pretty but I've had it for 2 weeks and Mum doesn't know and I don't know how to tell her as I know she's going to be judgemental and mad and I don't like dealing with that. If it helps I'm moving out within the next few

So I met my fiancé when she was 17 well she ended up getting pregnant her mom hit her in the stomach multiple times and she ended up having a miscarriage (her family says her mom hitting her in the stomach couldn't be the reason she miscarried) anyhow she ran away with me 2 years later I get treated like **** because her parents don't want to meet me and she's pregnant with my daughter now and tomorrow is mother's day and she wants to go to her moms and I told her not without me and I'm not welcomed so of course I'm the shitty person to my fiancé I'm not great but I'm far from the worst what's your opinion?

I am 25 now. I try so hard to keep in touch and try to get closer to my mom's side of the family. Long story short- my childhood was effed up and my mom moved away. Her family left my brother and I out of everything. I don't know if it's because my mom wasn't present or because my family is sexist towards the women in the family and I'm my mom's daughter (grandparents always treated my mom and still treat her as less equal to her brothers). I always try to make plans with my cousins and uncles. They don't seem interested. I am starting to wonder if I died would these people care? Why are they so uninterested in me and my brother when we are family? It's mother's day tomorrow and they all get to see my grandma and we weren't invited. Me and my brother are normal people who have college degrees and have good jobs. We aren't law breaking criminals so I don't know what the problem is! Has anyone else experienced such things with their family?

My mom wants to talk to me about my problems, I admit I haven't been the best son in the world (16 years). I've always given her headaches since I smoke weed or get high from other drugs, come home late, sometimes I just disappear for a day and then come back as nothing happened. Now that I've been home for a week, helping her around the house and even cooking for her and my sister. She said she wanted to talk to me about me. Seriously, I'm just trying to be nice with them since I don't want to live anymore, I've been living a crazy life, trying to get myself into trouble hoping to get killed one day. I don't want to tell her that I actually want to die, what should I say? I've been avoiding her for two days now, pretending to be asleep every time she walks into the room to chat about me.

i dont know why but i can't stand people for an extended amount of time, people are loud, annoying, irrational, emotional, I just hate dealing with annoying situations and I end up having angry outburst that hurt people's feeling, I'm a young guy and on the fence between wanting partner+kids, and living my life alone.

My mother has been an alcoholic for many years now. It has really affected our relationship to a point where we're fighting on a regular routine. All she ever drinks is beer, she gets drunk nearly every night. She then verbally abuses everyone in our house, mostly me. I'm nearly of the legal age to move out but i want their to be a relationship between my mother and i. How do i approach her about this subject?

As soon as I get off of work tomorrow, after working an 8 hour shift, my father is "making" me and my son go spend the rest of the day with my mother tomorrow at her house or wherever she wants me to take her. I have anlready bought her multiple gifts and need to do whatever else she'd like.. despite the fact that I am a mother myself. Any requests she has, anything she wants to do, anything she wants paid for; I must do for her. I love my mother, despite her years of physical and emotional abuse throughout my childhood, teenage and young adult years. But I still cannot help this overwhelming anxiety that comes over me. I literally despise mother's day now, especially since having become a mother myself several years ago because I am not able to make any requests or do anything that I would enjoy myself as a mother. All I want is maybe to take a nap after I get off work, but I know that would be met with heavy criticism and remarks to make me feel like I am selfish.. so I have to keep my mouth shut and do what makes everyone else happy despite my emotional well-being. My question is, what can I do so that I can possibly avoid a panic attack tomorrow and have at least an "alriight" day? What might I be able to do to avoid building even more of a resentment against mother's day? Thank you in advance for any constructive feedback. I hope you all enjoy your Sunday.

for example when he says you want to hang out with your friends more than me, doesn't tell he is going outside the house, or tries to run away

Like my mom has a BS in accounting and my dad doesnt want to work. My dad is staying at home and we take 1k out of the bank each month. Like my mom can make 100k with her degree, but she doesnt want to work.

I need a lot more money than what 40 hours pays to afford what I need now and need to save for later. I'm told that I need to pay for things, but that I should also stop working 12+hour shifts/48+ hours a week! I'm going to need a big *** savings cushion to transition to moving out to live on my own, and I think choosing to work more to make more (especially when overtime is only a limited time offering) is completely reasonable and smart. My parents never worked more than 40 hours a week (my mom was even unemployed for many years) and my family could only afford to live in rural areas (same for my cousins parents) and couldn't even afford to repair the house's damages! I think that if working more hours makes more money to allow more in life, that it's worth it to me! Is that stupid or unreasonable for a 22 year old (or any age?)

I'm talking about personality

She usually comes to me. It is in a restaurant this time and not her house.

I went to this party in 2009 with my grandmother. My grandfather had died and I went in his place. The host was an aunt, my uncle's wife. Both were furious I came uninvited and they were only expecting my grandmother. Another aunt gave me the silent treatment. I left early. In the early 2000's I was known to impose on people without realizing it. I stopped doing this about 2003 when my Mom pointed it out to me (this is her family). I thought everyone had long forgotten about this until the 2009 incident. So now it is 2018 and I am constantly terrified of being disliked forever by family cause of a social mistake. On my Dad's side of the family he has one cousin who is a little tacky and not a single family member likes her as a result other then one aunt who likes everyone cause of her religion. I am ADHD and have severe anxiety so worry about this. How would I make up if I make a mistake like this sometime? Recently my Mom invited me to something and her sister has invited her but not me directly so I am scared to death her sister won't be expecting me and dislike me forever because of it. This is the same aunt who gave me the silent treatment at the party my uncle and his wife flipped out on me at. The uncle's wife was in menopause at the time and has softened since. Uncle died last year.

She turns 1 tomorrow. She isn t crying all day, instead she yells as loud as possible at me in a growling type of way. She will continue to do this to the point she throws up. As soon as i pick her up, she starts laughing. I m a single mother, her father is deceased, this is my first child. I have no help, except I get a break for 2 days every couple of weeks when my sister will watch her. I have the worst anger towards her, don t get me wrong I would never ever act on these things, I really love her to death, but I m growing a horrible feeling like hatred towards her and i dont like it.

I been wanting to go out of state for my masters degree. My mom thinks that she can pick my college. I'm almost 21, she needs to step back. How do i stop her from controlling me. I already have a job and everything but i feel like have no privacy because she found out how much i make and forces me to give her things. I just want to live my life. I need advice from some1 who went through or is going through the same thing as me

We was at the Home Town Buffet an setting acrossed form us was Terra, Sylvia, Lisa, Connie an Tanya an I wanted to look super cool for them so maybe one of them would be like "Arnold is so allsome, I wish he would be my boy friend" or something. So I started talking real loud so they would see me an I herd Terra say "doesn't he go to are school?" OMG I had NO IDEA she was in love with me! I even herd Sylvia call me a cute little nickname (Creetin) an I just had to be as cool as I could so I decided I would walk passed there table an be talking like a rapper so they would see how cool I am! So I went up to the buffet an I was like "****, dawg, the food here sucks dick an a hot ***** like me would of rather went to McDonals for a happy meal but my ******* dad made me come here, yo" an I herd one of them LAUGH! OMG now theirs more then ONE of them in love with me! I was SO excited! But then it happened. I sat back down an my dad was looking at me an he was like "Arnold, I think you stink" an he said it SO LOUD I think all of them girls herd it! OMG then he was like "did you **** your pants again? Your 16 years old an I am sick of hearing about you shitting your pants!" I started to balling cause I couldn't help it an I said I did NOT crap my pants an he made me get up an go to the boys bathroom! We went in a stall an he made me pull my pants down an I guess their was a gob of poop in their cause I had forgot to wipe the last few times I went to the bathroom CONT an I was wareing the same underware all week an I guess their was quite a bit of poop in their an he just blowed up. I didn't poop my pants I had just forgot to wipe. Welp, we got back to the table an dad was MAD he was talking real loud an I was so humiliated, he was like "Arnold **** his pants again" an I was like "NO I FORGOT TO WIPE" an dad was like "shut your punk mouth boy or I'll knock your teeth out" an I should of said "go a head old man I'll **** you up" but I started balling CONT an them girls was all laughing at me but you could tell they was actual laughing at me not giggleing cause there in love with me! An dad just kept humiliating me! "He wares the same underware for a week at a time an shits in them an then just keeps wareing them" an then he said "we are gonna get him some dipers an make him ware them to school!" I was just mortafied an was balling so hard I couldn't breath an I fell on the floor an was kicking an screaming and the manager came CONT an made us leave an dad was like "when we got home your grounded for the rest of the time you live here" an he started making smart alex comments about the fact that I failed my school an that I hid undershorts I had crapped in under my dresser (like that matters, that was like MONTHS ago) an that he an mom thinks I am obsessed with poop! I wish I was DEAD!

I'm a 15 year old teenage girl. I love my dad and he's super nice (except for the occasional snapping at me from irritation that I cause him), but my mother is horrible. My mom has told me my cousins don't care about me, continually starts verbal fights with me where she has said things that could probably be seen as emotional abuse, and tonight she decide that while my dad is away on a business trip (which he goes on a lot for a week at a time) she's not going to feed me or pick up a medication that I need. She told me to "go hungry tonight' because i'm a vegetarian and can not eat anything that we have in the house. she also won't go to the store or order out for me. I don't know what to do and i'm just done with crying over things she's done. Iv'e approached my dad about this and told him everything (I even asked him to divorce my mother for my sake but he laughed at me, I can understand why) and he just says I need to be nicer and she's doing nothing wrong. I will admit that when she starts fights I will go back at her but its never as bad as what she does to me. I've thought about leaving home when I'm 16 because that apparently a thing I can do, but I want to continue living with me dad because I love him. Please help me.

So this is a lot to explain, sorry if it's super long. So I'm a 19 yo female, been moved out since I graduated about 2 years ago. Basically my family dynamic has never been the best, I grew up with a very abusive father and a family that always seemed to turn the other cheek to what was going on. Plenty of my family knew what was happening and a couple even asked me if I was ok over the years, but it just always felt like no one cared enough to do anything about it. My parents have never admitted that anything happened really, always claiming that anything that happened to me was deserved because of my bad behavior. I was definitely not the most well behaved kid, but I can assure you that my dads violence was entirely because of him and what he wanted to do. So flash forward to now, I really don't talk to my parents much which I'm pretty happy with, I just feel stuck because of my 2 younger sisters who I really want to have a relationship with. I have tried my best to be mature and an adult and maintain a small relationship with my family, but it's really hard at times. They rarely respond to my calls or texts, and when they do it's usually just small talk or something like that. I have accepted that I will probably never get an apology or explanation from my family for the things that happened to me, but I'm scared if I stop trying to reach out I'll never see my sisters again. I do feel like they love me and care about me, I just don't know what to do in this situation.

Happy Mother's Day to all.

BQ....When was the last time YOU embarrassed them?