or an Indian to have a Spanish Name, etc.

My Mother has recently been extremely unwell and I am trying to maintain contact with her by phone. Her friend has asked me when is possible to speak to her and the conversation with my Father went like this. Me: Hi, Can you ask Mom when is best for Aunty Joyce to call her? She's a bit worried.... Dad: Please explain to Aunty Joyce on our behalf that your Mom will not be able to accept phone calls today. Me: Ok. Shall I tell her to give it a few days and then call? Dad: Just tell her your Mom can't accept calls today. Me: Would you mind just asking Mom very quickly as Aunty Joyce is concerned? Shall I say to give it a few days? A week.... Dad: Just tell her, your Mom will call her.... Note: My issue is not that Mom can't take the call. My issue is that my Father refuses to ask her personally when she is sat right next to him, and I have to then go back to Aunty Joyce (who is extremely worried at present) and say "Mom will call you". He is very controlling in this way and I would like to find a way of overcoming this when Aunty Joyce next calls saying she can't get through....

So my mother and father split up she remarried and my step fauther mentaly and fisically abused me and so does my mom but not as much she yells and hits.. she never notices me i. Even spiraled down into depression and started cutting. My brother doesnt help either he calls me names like "****" or "cutter" my mom doesnt know how to handle it (i think shes the one wbo needs help) but im scared to talk to her about anything because she will yell and hit me and has to have her way. I also share a room with my 6 yo sister im 15yo (fm) i dont know what to do.

I hate my parents, there is going to be a Black Veil Brides concert soon and I want to go, I love them so much. My parents won't let me go because they say "they are evil" isn't that stupid? Can someone please say In the answers good things so that they will let me go? How should I convince them to just stop being stupid idiots and let me go?

I'm 20 and he's my first bf. He's couldn't treat me any better if he tried and we have so much fun together I love being with him. He doesn't do drugs, smoke or drink much, good to his mother and hard working. We've been together 6 months and all is great...except my family. He's not from a very good area and works full time in a trade. My mother told me to keep him a secret, didn't even want to know his name and said he will be an embarrassment to the family. I'm basically forbid to tell Any family member about him. Thankfully I don't live at home but when I do come home I have to keep up this big lie and feel so ashamed. It's driven a huge wedge between me and my family. It's become quite awkward. Not sure what to do I feel so confused and guilty.

I have a teenage son John and a teenage daughter Lisa. They are good kids and get along good well with each other. They just like to have fun especially with each other. One night at the dinner table Lisa ask me if she could get some balloons like John had. John said "What are you talking about? I don't have any balloons." Lisa said "I saw them in your desk drawer". "They are Trojan brand balloons". OH MY GOD, am I going to have to have the "talk" with Lisa again. But what she said next told me the "talk" was not necessary. She said "John, do you have to special order the balloons to get the size extra extra small". John thought what she ask him was REALLY funny and said, you misread the label. The are extra extra large. Should me daughter be teasing her brother like that even when he thinks it is funny?

My husband and I do mystery shops and use these as ways to get out of the house and go on dates for cheap or to make extra money. Yesterday, we had one to go to and had mentioned it to my mom and my oldest son who has mental issues invited her. I told her that the scheduler said we could not bring kids along and she threw a fit and showed up at our house and staged a sit in and would not leave and insisted we pay for her meal. Then, when we told her she could wait until next time when we are not doing an assignment and she told us "Hope you choke" (she says this a lot when she does not get to go out to eat or get a free meal and she is obese and a food addict). Then, she posted a sad/poor me post on social media about how I slighted her on Mothers Day *(after we sent her expensive flowers and cooked her a steak dinner the night before)*. Is this mental illness? What is her problem?

He was earing $2000 a month. He'd order takeaway 3 times a week, every day packages would arrive usually junk like ornaments, books, video games. He'd pay for Netflix subscription. He lived in our house rent free, we'd cook a main meal everyday and there was always food in the fridge. He'd still buy junk food cook even though he didn't need to and he'd leave the kitchen in a state and never clean up after himself. He didn't have any bills. But now at 26 he's decided he wants to go to college but since he has no money he's gonna get a student loan. Have I been a bad parent for allowing this? Should I have charged him rent all these years? He also wants me to be his guarantor so he can have an apartment.

I'm not sure if I have a right to be a little disappointed about mother's day. I'm not upset at all, nor am I someone who expects fancy jewelry. My husband had a great idea for our boys to make something and it was awesome. They made little flower pots out of fabric and cement and they turned out great. They made one for my mom as well, (they're my step-sons). I would much rather have something like that that took time and thought. What I got from my husband, was "Happy mother's day." and a kiss. We went on our boat with my parents and just hung out. I bought all the food for us and my mother cooked while my husband and dad hung around and talked. I get I am not my husband's mother and I'm sure I'll get answers that say some people think that kids should celebrate their mom and not their wives or others who aren't their mother. To give a little bit of background, my son, not my husband's, has been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and suicidal ideation. It's been a very, very rough few months since his diagnosis in March, but everything started in January and we've been going through a lot as a family. I personally have been going through the most difficult emotional and mental rollercoaster thus far as a mother. I guess I was setting myself up for expecting something a little more sentimental than what I got, so maybe I am to blame for feeling like I got a let down this year. Do I have any right to feel a little disappointed or am I being selfish about this? I could only write so much the first time. The material stuff doesn't matter much to me. I would have even appreciated a hand written note from my husband on a damn newspaper reiterating that he appreciates what I do for our family. I don't even care about a card. A few years ago I got a picture of our kids making goofy faces and underneath it said, "thank you for taking care of our animals" and it made me cry. I don't think I am out of line for wanting my husband to by food and cook it.

My very-elderly mum passed away several months ago, not unexpectedly. She had arranged, years ago, for cremation. I now have her ashes. It felt odd to tell the cremation people that I didn't want them, but I don't. My mum was always "difficult" - narcissistic, demanding, critical, and often not a pleasant person to be around. At brunch with my aunt yesterday she told me of a situation that happened years ago where my mum was rude and uncaring to a family member needing temporary help. This only reinforced my feelings about mum being a not-very-nice person. Even with all that, I'm not sure I can just put the ashes in the rubbish bin. I'm sure I will never reach a point where I will ever want them, even part of them, and mum never had a "special place" where I would consider scattering them. And no other family would desire to have them, either. Any ideas of what to would be appreciated.

My niece asked to come spend a week with me, normally I would take her right away but she is 14 and she attempted suicide 4 times, she cuts and was talking to older men online. She has been doing pretty good past month, my sister said it is okay, as long as I watch her. What precautions should i take to protect my kids and her in my home? I have of course asked my sister, but just looking for other ideas, she is not allowed online or have access to phones at all anymore due to older guy thing.

so my only and older sister seems to hate me. one minute she is nice to my 2 kids then the next she is talking about how much she hates our brother, telling my dad he should be ashamed to have a son like him in front of my kids. we recently stopped talking because I stood up to her about her belittling me of why my daughter hair was in a certain style and that was 3 months ago so now we don't talk and now she is saying that she feels that she didn't like the way we was raised and that I hurt her and I asked how did I hurt you then she just busted out you see this is the stuff I can't deal with. She couldn't answer the question of how I "hurt" her, just because her ex-boyfriend cheated and married the other women everyone in her life is paying for it and when i confronted her of talking behind my back she wanted to know who the people was and it was our own family she said these things to but didn't acknowledge she has said things behind my back. This drama happens once a year. Every-time I stand up to her all this drama happens. She doesn't talk to our brother either because of her looking down on him and me too. She thinks every female that compliments her is hating on her which is why she only has 1 friend. I don't talk because I personally feel like she hates me and looks down on me and like to keep it at that. It's like after she is down being "hurt" that is when she wants to be "friends". How do you deal with toxic family that won't leave you alone?

I have joint/shared custody of my child but she stay with the mother. We both agreed on her being with me for the entire summer the cpurt know as well. Now sges telling me i cant get her since i dony want to negotiate about taking her to her grandma house know her grandma mistreats her. My daughter is for and i just want to be in her life, would it be possible if i called the police and then went to get her since i have custody or should i take her to court so my daughter can like with me instead? Please no stupid answers i just need some advice nd suggestions

Long story short, he spent the entire day with his mom and I spent some of the day with mine but then when I wanted him to come home and hang with me he stayed at his parents a few hours more. I was home all alone for hours. We don't have kids together and he was the one who suggested that we do this. He told me to go spend the day with my mom because he was going to spend it with his. All his brothers and sisters were there and they had a big family dinner while my mom chose to go out to eat and then after that I came home. When he and his daughter came home his daughter was in the living room watching a movie and my sons came home a little while later. My oldest (23 yrs old) sleeps in the living room and I asked my husband how long his daughter was going to be in there. Even though she has her own room with a TV she was in the living room on the big TV. My oldest moved back in with us a few months ago so he sleeps on the sofa. My husband said that the living room is not just his and he can't force anyone to leave it simply because he's now home. Plus, he was in his brother's room. We got into a big argument over it. My husband basically said that my son doesn't get to dictate who is in what room. That's still a living room. Did he ruin my mother's day?

I have a month or so to decide if i want to stay with my mom and sister or my dad. Currently, my mom, little sister and I live in syria, and have been living her for the past couple years. Before that, we lived in america for a little over a decade. My dad currently lives in america with my grandparents, and he wants us to go live with him there. My mom doesn t want to because her whole life, family and friends are here and doesn t want to live in my grandparents house because she doesn t always get along with my grandmother and frankly, i don t blame her. However, I feel torn because I want to finish my senior year in america so I can get into a good college, but that would mean leaving my mother and little sister in syria, which I don t feel very comfortable about because of the current situation. I m worried about my mom, because she s sick, and I haven t spent a single day away from my sister since she was born, and I worry about both of them a lot. What should I do??

Don't get me wrong, he's a great kid, never gave me any trouble, but he and I never really knew each other. His father passed away 6 months ago, so this is the first time we've actually lived under same roof. I know this may sound naïve or silly but----do you think he looks at me as his Mom or a potential sex partner. because I see him come down for breakfast the last few days and he has an erection. I NEVER walk around him even in pajamas, I can see the outline of his junk, I keep looking at it, once he smiled when he caught me, I just feel un easy.. what is it?

I recently had a burial for my brother and HATED that my uncle brought his stupid worthless preacher and my uncle just talked about is low life self and about my father's death WHICH PISSED ME OFF. I do not want him to go to my funeral or have anything to do with him anymore. If I write a will, can it legally keep him away? It's just so embarrassing because I do not have parents while my cousins still do and my uncle has always tried to dictate my life and my brother's. It's like my brother and I are the pathetic ones of the family who weren't able to achieve anything in our lives and he would always talk crap about us to my grandma. But yet he always asked for favors and never to my cousins because they have their parents and their own family. i am 22 i know ridiculous to ask randomly but i feel like i have to keep this from my family because my brother just died a couple days ago.

I am a minor looking for a way to get custody of my give year-old half sister. Two years ago my dad took me out of a home of abuse and drugs.

We're both middle aged adults and female. She's married and came to see me a couple of years ago (we live in different countries). We got along fine. However, since I added her in my social media, she's been writing to me, sometimes 3 times a day. She replies to my messages instantly with words of support, saying we should chat more often and meet up next year. When I put photos up she comments 'where are you?' She told me she's following me vicariously. I started feeling a bit 'stalked' and creeped out by all of this so have now started ignoring her messages. Now she has written four times and I haven't replied - to give her the hint to stop. I've realised I don't want to meet her now due to her clinginess. She has a husband and family and is retired and well off. Why can't she just leave me alone? She is always the one to contact me. What is her problem? Am I being unreasonable to feel spooked out?

My mom scolds me for small things such as having clothes on tbe floor in my room and talking on the phone with my friends. She hits me while she scolds me. I haven't called the authorities because there are no marks on me to show evidence. Now she's threatening to take me to juvenile court because I am dating a boy that she doesn't like and for not cleaning my room. Just small things! An unkown number texted her yesterday and she blamed me for it. It turned out to be a 35 year old man and she assumes that he is my "sugar daddy". I can go on and on but it's so much. She doesn't want to provide for me anymore. She always threatens me and my future. Constantly saying that I'm just going to end up as a prostitute so I can survive. I don't know how a mother can say and do these kind of things. I'm so stressed over this. What can I do?

The neighbors put medium-sized rocks on the curb leading up the fence behind my mom's car leaving her no room to back out since she parks in front of a tree. So my mom has to back up a little from the tree so she can drive off. With the medium sized rock being behind her car she can't back out. So my mom moved the rock closer to their property. The neighbor's son came outside and said why did you move the rock? And my mom said because she can't back up and he's like well we don't want you pulling up close on our curb to park in front of your house. My mom said she understands but there is no room for her to back up because the rock is close to her car. He started being rude and talking to her like a piece of crap. he's like mocking her like after my mom said well he's like well uh well uh what!! then my mom said I'm a lot older than you sir where's your respect and he's like pfftt!! I don't care how old you are and I don't have to respect you! It's mother's Day today we just came from taking my mom on a nice dinner then we come home and this happens. So his mom was out there trying to calm him down, things did. He ended up saying that we should get along because we're black and my mom said it's not about us being black and it shouldn't be. It's about being human, respecting one another especially if we didn't do anything to you, he's like no we should get along because we're black and I'm like okay, whatever. Our neighborhood is so diverse so it shouldn't be about that.

Just friends, non-romantic. The lady stirs up trouble and puts my relationships in jeopardy with her dirty and malicious gossip.

I have felt this for awhile now and I just have been pushing it aside. My life sucks honestly I have a part time job, and spend more money than I get from the job and I an 19 and don't have a car. I am going to college tho which is the only exciting thing in my life. I have a small group of amazing friends but my mom and dad have been so rough on me. my mom constantly asks us to do chores and constantly clean the house and makes us do things all at once and we can never get a break when we are trying to do other things like homework, or go to work or other things. They constantly say I should move out and lie somewhere else because they cant stand me and I just am so emotionally drained because my mom always says to find a new place to live and I just idk what to do. I am struggling to keep my feelings in, so I do have an attitude towads my mom and talk back but I cant keep it all in because I'm tired of all the chores and she yells at us if we don't do it exactly when she asks even if we are in the middle of something important we have to stop and do what she says. I am the middle child and just get hated on and yelled at ore and they say I have nothing going for me in the future and I'm not doing anything right. please help. I'm emotionally drained and really sad and I just give up and not sure how to please them I'm trying to change things but idk what to do anymore. PLEASE HELP

He is known to be deceptive and I have asked him to tell me when his family gathers. He says he will and then has not on a number of occasions and I have missed out. He is renowned for his deceptive ways but lies where he doesn't realize it. He forgets on purpose.

Last year I got a new job that was about an hour away from where I was living at my parents house. I am 23 years old and just starting my career now working there. I was making the drive to work Monday thru Friday twice a day an hour each way for a year. I was getting frustrated with the drive and have been yearning for my own place for so long so I was looking but couldn't decide if it was the right thing to do yet. I found an apt I loved and I've been living here a month now and I just don't know if I made the right decision. I continue to go home every weekend to see my family and friends because I don't have any friends out here. On Sunday I make the dreaded drive back out and the entire time I think about if I shoulda waited to move out or if I should have stayed closer to home. Not having the long commute to work everyday is nice and not putting the miles and wear on my car is nice but I miss my friends at home. I'm afraid of missing out on all the things we did spur of the moment which I can't do anymore because I'm living out here. I'm lonely without my dogs here and it just doesn't feel like home to me. During the week I am fine but once I drive back from home every Sunday I can t help but wonder if I made the right choice. I don't want to move back home to realize that I should have stayed here. And I also don't know if this is just such a large change that I need to get used to it. But I can't figure it out. Can someone lend some advice?

Whenever my sister does something that scares me like she laid a hand on me, I freaked out and back away from her with fear on my face but then she and everyone else look at me and get upset at me for that just because I'm 10 times stronger and bigger then her and there telling me she not going to hurt you not even in the slightest even if she wanted to just because I'm strong but then she makes it into a big argument as if I'm not supposed to be scared of the situation she did to me. I then shortly came to her to apologize to her because I felt I knew I did something wrong. Who was wrong here though just based on the info of what just happen awhile ago? Even in fear, I would never ever ever hit my sister EVER. I never have and never will even when she scares me.

Ok so, for a couple months my dad had been really secretive, like he is always looking around to see if I notice him texting and is really secretive about it. I know for sure he's texting girls and stuff, who don't have husbands because he is good friends with them. He doesn't go out or anything and he also works at home, so I'm not sure. He also is always on phone called and facetiming other women while my mom is asleep or she isn't home. I don't want to get into his business and snoop, because I know I would get in trouble. It also would be to awkward to mention it to my mom. Can someone tell me what to do!

They have been through this cycle once before but he is not as bad as ten years ago. His friend just selfishly killed himself and my Mom is worried her brother could do something cowardly like that.

example is when big & little sister are playing makeup or girl things, is little brother playing alone then

My mother and sister are going around telling my family that they are not going to my wedding. My mothet and sister dont talk to me anymore ever since I told them I'm getting married. Sometimes I want to curse at them but I stop myself. My mother even told mt grandmother that I was disowned and wasnt recieving any inheritance because I would listen to them

I have a one month old son and the father comes and goes. He showed up two days ago wanting to see him then he told me " I won't be around for a few days" I went to visit family out of town and he called and asked where I am. I told him where I was then he said " I'll see you tomorrow" and didn't show, it's really weird.

Reason for being is my moms husband has been very abusive (physically, emotionally, verbally) since I was 6, im 14 now. I can't take it anymore I'm always depressed and my anxiety is always through the roof. But anyways she chose her husband and it breaks me inside out but I just am going to have to accept it. I am online schooled and I have 2 weeks left. I'm going to be staying with my aunt till my grandma gets her own place. But my aunt doesn't have WiFi so I was wondering if I can place my phone hotspot to my computer or can I just quit school since I have 2 weeks left (I already did end of year testing)

Since its Mothers day

I'm 34, single father of two, and have a two bedroom apartment. My mother is 61, and in the process of a divorce. Her husband got locked up for sexual assault against my neice. He worked and she kinda did real estate when she wanted to. But mostly was just A stay at home wife. So I took her in. She didn't want to live with my older brother cause he lives downtown in a studio. My younger brother and his gf live together with kids so that leaves me. Great. She has been her 3 months now. Trying to be there for her but I can't see myself living with her forever. She has no savings and no money. She helps out with the kids and cooks but I have no privacy, can't bring any friends or women over.... It's rough. I want her to want to be independent, make money, and get a place if her own. But that's currently not the case. I'm willing to help her out too she gets on her feet. Is it wrong of me to not want her here anymore? I love her but I don't want to be here provider. She isn't sick or disabled. She talks about getting a house with me and I'm not cool with that. I want to have my own space back and way of life. Am I a selfish person for wanting my own life and what not? Any real suggestions on what to do if you were in my shoes?

He kicked me out of the house but my mom let me back in when he was gone. Now I hear him back and I heard him say to lock the doors in case I come back. Thanks Paladin for being concerned for my safety but my dad is on crutches right now so I should be safe.

ps: My condolences for any of you whose mothers are in Heaven. I deal with that every year on Father's Day.