My sister and I are two years apart and I'm older than her. She's 20 and I'm 22. I have noticed a sudden change in her behaviour because anything I say to her, even small things to help out or eat, she snaps at me. It's not only me but she snaps at me grandma too and my father when they ask her nicely. She's always on her phone talking to her friends or boyfriend and anytime I ask her simple things she ignores me or gets annoyed. She used to be this sweet goofy girl growing up and now she has her own money and independence she victimises herself for the smallest thing and today she walked out of a birthday party just because my grandma made some joke and it made my brother upset because she left. Any time I approach her about this even nicely she gets really defensive and swears at me saying f you. I'm her older sister and I've done so much for her growing up since we have no mother, it really makes me upset how she reacts like this and has this behaviour

Sometimes the family does a gathering even though my grandfather has died the way they did when he was alive. Last few years his old house has been empty as my grandmother died 9 months later. This year my aunt's family has moved in. I suspect a celebration will be held and since my family can't go due to my other set of grandparents (still living) having their 70th wedding anniversary I feel guilt ridden I am being disloyal to my Mom's side of the family. Yet, the living grandparents deserve my presence I feel. I am so scared the family will see us as 2nd rate from now on and remember we blew this off. Since my Mom doesn't like family events I am scared they will stop asking us next year. What do I do? I used to just go but it got people annoyed so now I am more careful with etiquette. This will be the first family event I have missed in a few years. As a kid I missed all family events and so the shame of that opens when missing something now. What do I do with the 4th of July dilemma?

I'm moving out for university in September, and I'll be 6 hours away from home. Im worried about my mom however because she doesn't have any friends, date or work. She gets child support from my dad which will be up after I graduate, and she sits on the computer almost all day. She's been saying she's "looking for work" for the past 5 years. Sometimes I feel like I'm her entire world because she's always home and only sees me with an exception of 1 family member and talking to people on Facebook. I've encouraged her to get friends / start dating again, but she says people are fake. I don't know how she's gonna financially handle having no child support, and me being away from home with the exception of visiting maybe once a month and on breaks. Any advice?

in short story, I am the breadwinner in my family I provide everything for them. I try to encourage my younger brother but I have a big problem because he is now disrespectful he had a girlfriend and he is sometimes drunk and he thinks that I am the one providing for him. what he needs I feel too tired and irritate. I have a family and kids and I want to help him, so that once he will be finished in college. he can help our mom and brother. I before when I was a child, I worked as a working student and I stop college because of financial problem and now I have a family and kids I am here in abroad together with my husband and kids. what I will do pls help me, guys? PHILIPPINE LIFE STORY

We agreed to a six month trial period. But she got herself pregnant. She already splits the room with her two boys. She's self centered and over the top rude. Won't clean up after herself. Ruins our things and doesn't want to be respectful to us. I feel guilty asking her to leave with the grandchildren and know she'll lie and post on fb how her mom threw her out.. it's happened before. She said my husband was harrassing her when he mentioned something was leaking from her car. Turned out someone put sugar in her gas tank. I am at a loss of what to do. She continually makes bad decisions and is in her 30's!

I tried weed, not much but I still did it. I tried it at school and I regret it. It was dumb and I feel so guilty. I'm never going to try it again. My sister gave me a heads up and told me that my mom suspects so I should confess now. I'm so scared that my mom will hate me and never trust me again.

I am female. I am 27 years old. I am Deaf and I was born Deaf. I was born two months early and I was born with an esophagus problem and it was called Tracheoesophageal Fistula. When I was 10 years old, my grandmother passed away. I asked my mom where my grandmother would go after she died. My mom told me she went to heaven and became an angel after she died. I started to think why my parents gave birth to me after my grandmother died. I still have been thinking about why my parents gave birth to me sometimes for a long time. Three years ago, when I started to become depressed and think I wanted to die, I wanted to know where I would go after I died. Now, I really want to know why my parents gave birth to me. I also want to know where I will go after I die. I wish my parents never met others so I would never to be born. I wonder why my parents will miss me a lot if I die. They shouldn't cry if I die because they will see me again in heaven after I die. I also want to know why life is so important. I feel like I don't want to stay alive sometimes.

She's always making fun of me with my sister since they get along so well. when she says I need to lose weight, my sister shows up out of nowhere and agrees cause apparently her 101 5'7" pound weight is healthy. My mom admit to me that she doesn't like going out to get what I want in stores, but when I go with her to get what she wants, I'm supposed to enjoy it. My dad defends this and says that it's just how she is, it when I ACT HOW I AM, I get yelled at for it, even after being proven wrong. I think my sister enjoys when I get yelled at because she takes this as an opportunity to smile and sit with my mom and hang out with her to show exactly how "bad" I am. Why is my family so dysfunctional? This isn't even the start. I do everything from cleaning my room to washing the dishes to doing laundry and cleaning the **** stains in the bathroom and this is what I get back. My sister doesn't have to lift a finger, she doesn't even know how to clean a bathroom sink properly and all she does is sit in her room and text her friends. It's even worse when I keep quiet because not only am I hurting myself, but they seem to yell at me whether I keep quiet or not. I think this is the reason my mom isn't supporting my idea of a job, she says because she thinks I'm too immature to handle customers, but I have shown plenty of times how mature I am and I think she only wants to keep me as a little servant. I'm so stressed and it's not good on my college work.

My mum loves to talk about her bad experiences from 25+ years ago - I've heard every story at least 200 times, and she loves to criticise other people, even strangers. When she talks about her family or my dads family and the awful things they did to her when she was young, I just listen and say nothing, now and then I have told her that she's insecure and bitter because she keeps dwelling (she openly admits that). When she talks badly about strangers I snap at her pretty much every time. Today we had a big argument about it and I swear I've apologised about 15 times with different words, the last time she called me a ***** while I'm apologising so I got fed up and walked away. Her argument is "let me be myself, I ***** about things.. so what? I'm not a bad person" - she's a very manipulative person so I really don't know how to handle it. She's currently ignoring me... if I go and try to sort things out, she's going to pick a fight. If I stay away, she will eventually come to me to pick a fight. If I go out she will send me a message and if I don't reply, she will get obsessively worried

when I was 6 or 7 I used to think my mom was dying ( she wasn't) so I would wake up early in the morning or at night when she was sleeping to make sure she was breathing.

I told my best friend that I sometimes care for people way too much. She got scared and said, are you dumping me!? Why did she say that

My baby sister who is 12 (not so baby I know) was in my room hanging out with me. I allowed her to look through the boxes under my bed, SO forgetting I had it hidden down there. She pulled it out and asked why I had a "microphone" haha, I just said it was a speaker and to put it back. She keeps asking why I have it and what it is for. I don't know what to say anymore haha... WHAT do I do.

So my fiance has a couple guys that are always trying to get ahold of her. She used to work at WalMart and since then has quit due to men not leaving her alone, stalking, and harassing her. She has two in particular who she has blocked on snapchat, facebook, and her phone yet they still try to message her through other numbers and facebook accounts. I just wanna start a family and so does she, I trust her but they are persistent. Any advice? We are thinking about getting flip phones so we have new numbers and getting rid of social media totally.

I'm 12 and don't have a phone so I sometimes go on my moms. Recently these inappropriate ads have been popping up on her screen and she's blaming me for making this happen because she thinks I'm doing inappropriate stuff on it even though I'm not. What should I do?

So here what happened my mom was out of work forever and she kept saying she was going to get a job but never did and finally she found one and she got fired 4 weeks in because she cursed out her boss and started throwing stuff at the wall she had to be escorted out of the building so what do y'all think ?

So I am a stay at home mom and I have been earning money using cash back apps such as Ibotta and checkout 51 and survey apps as well. I have been making okay amounts of money and I have made maybe $500 or more in a two year period. I live with my children's father and he pays all of the bills and our rent alone is $1,095 a month. Plus other bills and my phone bill. So we have been going without buying new clothes for years. My children has hand me downs from their oldest sister and I just go off of what I already have which is no more than 5 descent pair of pants and 3 descent short sleeve shirts and about 5 dingy long sleeve. I am always embarrassed when I go out. I have have two pairs of shoes for over 2 years but now just one because the other has a hole in it. But my children's father bought himself an outfit and shoes last week because he want to his daughters cheer competition. Now she is having another and he is at the mall buying another outfit plus another shoe. Am I ungrateful for being upset??

He has just turn 18, so he's an adult now, but can't move out yet. My family takes him in because my aunt passed away, he's been sickly lately, and has nowhere else to go. I know my parents aren't happy with the arrangements because of the hospital bills. My elder brother bullies him badly (he's even physically abusive toward my cousin), but my mom said it's not my business when I talked to her about it. My dad doesn't care. I wonder what can be done. Our home is not the right place for him, as he looks depressed, but at 18 he can't go to a foster home, I suppose (?), and he's not in the condition to look for a job, place, or anything else. Say my parents turn him out, what will happen to him? I don't want them to (I like my cousin), but I can't do anything for him (I'm younger). Say I tell our local priest, will he be able to take him into his house, or is there any other option? Ps my cousin is not an invalid, and used to be real good in school, so he won't be a burden forever. He's just not well right now and sadly my family is not being kind, and this makes me feeling bad. Thanks.

I know a girl like that. No way she can win. But won't leave either. Not bright at all. This has gone on three years. Totally embarrassed herself. She used to be vocal, but now tries to go low profile. Frustrated and mad at the same time.

I'm a 16 year old girl. My cousin and her friends are desperate to get their periods. Kids were like that when I was their age too. There are days when I wish periods don't exist, it's prevented me from having fun at the beach and elsewhere before. They laugh over bras, boys, sex, and swear words. Maybe I'm just used to being around people that aren't giggly over these topics and I don't have any pre-teen friends/see them often. Nobody my age makes a big deal out of wearing undergarments or having friends who are boys. They're our daily lives so I guess that's why? People can still be weirded out with serious relationships, and swearing also became normal. Again, it might just me that it's become the "norm" for years and I don't talk to younger people often. But from their perspective, why is it so funny?

A few hours ago my mom called me and was just asking what was up. She asked of my brother had gotten up to go to work and I said that he was still sleeping. She said "I guess he didnt have to go in early" to which I said "I guess he doesnt. He probably also doesnt want to go because he'll be the only one there today" and as soon as I finished talking she said "hello??" "Are you talking" and I said "what are you talking about? I was just saying something" to which she said whatever and hung up... Apparently it was because I "sounded like I didnt want to talk to her and wasn't saying anything" even though I had just gotten done speaking. Why do I need to sound enthusiastic? The conversation didn't even last 2 mins. Sometimes I just have a deadpan voice when I speak. I wasn't bored of the conversation and I had no reason to not want to talk to her. I was just talking and as I was talking she said I wasn't talking. Im just confused because I did nothing wrong. Apparently I have to "sound" like im into the conversation or else she'll think I don't want to talk. I even tried explaining that I was talking and she said "im not into it anymore I'm not going to argue. I dont care about it anymore".... Like i didn't even do anything to warrant and argument. We were just talking and then she got angry at my "tone" because it sounded bored.

My sister (psychologist) and I have been discussing my mother s enmeshment. She was abused herself, then became a single mom. Ive read all about enmesh meant, the signs, etc and it sounds just like her. I love her to death but I don t want to suffer the consequences any longer of taking on her emotions. Problem is, I m only 16. I ll only be living with her for the next three or so months, but I d like some coping strategies. Everytime I try to explain why what she s doing is hurting me in the long run, she ll yell at or punish me. She s in denial - bad. Enmeshed kids often end up with anxiety, depression, etc and I don't want that (obviously). Any way to avoid it?

I obsess constantly, and I mean constantly, about the fear of missing a family event. I fear I will be thought of as 2nd rate and not asked to future ones because when we were kids and my Mom was having problems we did not go and they stopped asking us over. When my Mom got better we started getting asked over when people saw we were interested again. My Mom still has some baggage so we don't go a lot but we do more then before. When we miss stuff I fear they will stop asking us and we will be outsiders again. I am SO scared about missing a family event that I obsess 24/7 about it. The real issue is I fear being an outsider like I was as a child, not so much the family event itself. How do I avoid being an outsider? Will I stop being asked if I miss something due to travel or my Dad not telling me since he enables my mother and so I might be kept in the dark? I am an adult but the family doesn't invite me individually and rather goes through my Dad and Mom. Like I said my Mom is not nearly as bad as when I was a kid but she still has baggage.

I am a high school guy with a 38 year old single mom. She is the best mom ever. I just adore her. She often goes with me to school events. Each time she does that, some guys afterward tell me how lucky I am to have a beautiful, hot, and sexy mom. I always tell them my mom is NOT hot and sexy. Even some of the girls tell me the same thing. Girls also tell me I am in big trouble if I expect my dates to be as beautiful as my mom. Several guys and girls always ask me if my mom was/is a model. Should I tell my mom what they are saying about her. Would she take it as a compliment that guys my age think she is beautiful, hot and sexy? Would I get in trouble for telling her about the hot and sexy part? Mothers, and others, please tell me what you think. THANKS.