I'm 19 going on 20. My family have their days when they call me a child or an adult. For example, if I have a responsibility to do. They always say You're an adullt. You're grown now handle things on your own. Then there are some days when i get called a little girl and stay in a child's place. Its kind of unfair. I want to be seen as an adult but I'm always being acknowledged as a kid. I feel like I don't know which one I am.

I didn't became a Lawyer like my father is. (I only discuss this with people who have a good reason to know. Because the reason makes me feel sad & frustrated) (I'm a 26 year old guy. I work as a computer technician. I hope I'll manage to start my own computer business in the future) ***************************************** BQ: What do you think of my response? I asked Adam if he plans on going into the same profession as his father. Adam didn't like this question. Adam mumbled something I couldn't understand. Now Adam doesn't want to look at me or speak to me.

Yesterday I found out that my 67yr old grandma is a dare devil, master hand to hand combat and good with weapons. She showed me a video of her jumping off a 75ft diving board doing triple back flip. She drives motorcycle. She owns 20 sunglasses. Not sure if I should be amazed or worried

On one hand he was being willfully oblivious, on the other I could have stood up for myself a little better. Seemed a waste of time back then, I didn't have the energy to argue. Case in point: he claims I always had access to the family money yet he would complain when made payments on the credit card he gave me. I used it sparingly in the future and tried to be as independent as possible although I was not getting the things I needed and this was detrimental to my health. Should I have pushed harder to negotiate with him or was this a lost cause??

So he's 24. He's never had a girlfriend which I know doesn't exactly mean he's gay but there are some other things. Growing up he used to do some suspect stuff. Like asking me or other brother to let him see our penis. Now mind you, hes a little over 3 and 4 years older than us. So we were only like 5 and 6 and he's was like 10 or 11.He stopped doing it when I was 9 though. But he now that I'm older I notice that he doesn't really care about a sexy girl walking past. Like one day he was taking me home from work and there was a sex girl and he didn't notice her. The last thing recently was when I saw searches of penises on his laptop but only he was there. I never saw those searches before. I'm just wondering could he be gay? I used to call him gay alitbib arguments but he denied it just said I'm gay, so I'm not sure. What should I do as his brother should I be concerned?

I didnt grow up w/my extended family we live in diff countries I was finally able to meet some of them for the first time while I went on vacation. As I grew up I wanted cousins that I can be close with but never had that since we lived in a diff country but thought that it would change after meeting them on my vacation. I have been close w/my aunt s & uncles my relationship with them got even stronger when it was already strong & I love that. But that was not the case w/my cousins while the majority of them treated me so well I thought that we had bonded & would continue when I came back home it was not the case while I tried really hard to maintain a relationship with my cousins they had not been interested so I stopped contacting them. The only time they really talk to me is when I would ask them for info regarding sizing for gifts for me to send as my mom and I always buy & send them gifts. Then they had been really talkative & that hurt me so much that they only want a relationship with me then when I buy & send them gifts after they get the gift will stop communicating with me until the next time I contact them for gift giving. I m a college student so I do not exactly have tons of extra money and sending them gifts is something that I really tried doing. I am so hurt and disillusioned. Now my question is how do I not look rude or cause problems when continuing to buy my aunts and uncles gifts? as I do have a great relationship with them & wish to continue doing so.

and we get into a fight. I've been dealing with this for awhile. I was sleeping before this but he doesn't care. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to start a fight, he's hostile and unreasonable for no reason. He acts as if I have 10 heads because how dare I be tired and want to go to sleep. Yet if I played my game when he was sleeping he'd flip out. I had to shut the game by force so he takes my fan (I need that to sleep and throws it in the other room) so I unplugged his game and now it seems like it doesn't work. I was about to start swinging on the kid. He just plays Fortnight screaming on the mic thought the day and when my sister and mother are trying to sleep. How do I deal with this kid and what is wrong with him?

My wife and I have the option to go to Florida for a vacation with some members of my family (my sister and her husband, my parents). We'd be sharing a condo with my family (there's no way to get out of this). She's very excited to go, as she will go to Disney for the first time. However, I'm not excited. I'm very worried about my mental health. I'll be in very close courtiers with my family, who openly disapproves of my life and personality. I suffer from depression and anxiety. They aren't exactly well managed as it stands, but I know this vacation has the possibility of sending me into a depressive episode from their scorn. It's a long one (10 days I believe), and I'm afraid that being with them for so long will cause me a bit of a spiral. Especially considering I won't talk to my wife about my personal problems during the vacation because I don't want to ruin her vacation. Amusement parks also give me anxiety. However, if we don't go, I know my wife will be very upset. And this maybe be her only chance to go to Disney. What should I do? I want to make her happy, and I don't want her to think I'm being selfish by not wanting to go just because I "don't like my family". But I'm also concerned about pushing down those emotions for so long. If I should go, then do you have any tips on how to deal with family members in this situation? They tend to mock and ridicule me (if that's important). Any tips for dealing with anxiety at amusement parks?

I sometimes think about walking away from everything. I hate living with my family b/c they always depend on me to help them do everything but i'm always the first one they tear down & criticize. My guardian makes me fill out her job apps, send every email & text message for her when i'm home. She doesn't know how to do anything & expects me to spend every sec of my time doing things for her. She also gets mad when i'm out. She makes me feel out her sons job & school apps. She even makes me do all his schoolwork on top of my own while he does nothing with his life but get high and drunk. I'm sure i did horrible this semester b/c I was going through a lot emotionally & mentally. I'm also sure she's going to use that against me in some way. They verbally abuse me & make me feel like s**t all the time. I'm 19 & i'm just now finishing my soph. year of college which means i'll have to go home next week and I really don't want to. I also don't want to leave is b/c i'm in school & I actually want to continue going to the school I attend. But people will find out that I ran away & I run the risk of my family coming to me & trying to figure out why I did what I did. On top of that, everybody will look at me differently. I'm genuinely miserable & don't wanna continue living like this. Any advice? Talking to her is not an option. She's close-minded everything has to go her way or she's gets an attitude & starts yelling. I sometimes think about the good things but It's hard. Opinions?

In my junior year of high school, I applied to a few universities with a biochemistry major. I had very good grades and graduated high school with a 3.5 GPA but I got rejected from every university I applied to except for a state school. I became super depressed because I had a really big wish to go to college. I didn't want to go to the state school so I went to a community college. I started taking classes but the chemistry classes at my community college were very hard to get into. So I switched my major twice (to biology and then to English). I realized that an Associate of Arts English degree was not lucrative so now I don't know what to do. I am 25 years old. I tried West Coast college for nursing but it takes three years to complete. I have all my general requirements done at the community college. I don't even know what I want to major in. My mom is really not very happy with me right now because I am making money but I am working a retail job. She thinks I should already be in a career and moved out by now. My mom and dad both had their own dreams of me doing great, big things. My dad doesn't really say much about my situation but the biggest problem I have is that my mom is disappointed in me and thinks I should be in a career, moved out, and married. What can I do for myself? and also to make my parents less disappointed in me?

Situation arose where mom has to work at night and sibling will be out of the country, what do we do?

Ever since my dad went abroad and left our family behind. He isn't coming back until summer of 2020. Mom is overwhelmed and angry easily. My little brothers give her a hard time. Chores are important, but grades are important to her. She makes it impossible for anyone to manage, because she expects the kids to do everything at the same time. In fact, my 12 year old brother is expected to know what college he's going to. He is pushed fo fix things, bills, chores. My mom doesn't speak English. I've reached my breaking point today. I've been playing peacemaker for a long time. It prevented a few major fights between my brother and my mom. But the house is so stressful. My brother can't handle those things yet, he's only 12. My mom pushes him even harder, which is what causes conflict. I told her that I'll do it, maybe he's too young. She didn't listen. There's barely any support from my dad, he's working, and we never even visited him. The money is apparently to pay for either a bigger house or college. He's estimated to come back two years later when I graduate

In Mid March of this year , my grandmother passed away . With Mother's day approaching . I decided to rent space ( enough tables , seating and space for up to 30 guests) I phoned out invitations 6 weeks in advance , so that my family could set their priorities straight ( Plan around appointments that they might have , request off from work and what not) I find it to be incredibly rude that only approximately 4 out of the 12 or 13 guests I invited, showed actual interest in attending the Mother's Day Dinner. The rest never got back to me or returned my phone call. I was trying to do something nice in memory of my deceased grandmother.....I really wasn't about US.... It was about HER! I am wondering how much of family actually loved her!

Y is he married to her?

I get angry with my parents for various things including from the past. I blame them for stuff that's not going right. I blame them for everything going wrong in my life. A majority of all the stuff I keep in from dealing with people outside home (friendships etc) just get bottled up inside and when I get home, I lashed it out on my parents. I feel awful after lashing out at them. I want to stop because I know I hurt my parents and I don't want to hurt them. They got enough problems to deal with especially financially. It hurts me to know my dad gets stressed out about me. I know they wish they could fix everything for me but they can't. I'm the one who's wrong in all this. What should I do? I have thought of going to therapy or something. It's not fair to my parents. I hate myself for doing this. I even had thoughts of killing myself because I think I will no longer be a burden to my parents. I just don't want to hurt them anymore.

So my mom has worked minimum wage jobs (or close to it) her entire life. She has never really tried to accomplish anything. My parents divorced my freshman year of high school, and my sister and I have lived with my dad full-time. She is incompetent as a parent and never really figured it out. She has only made things more difficult and never really figured it out. I really don't have respect for her. I will be graduating in engineering in June, should I invite knowing she will once again make everything more difficult (she has mental health issues she never addressed)?

It doesn't really bother me that the girl was crying and nothing illegal happened. I just made her unhappy. My dad is a cop and he said no, they usually only arrest kids who commit real crimes... but if she calls them, will they change their minds? I'm just getting mean looks from much older people, nothing serious is happening.

Two years ago my mom passed away and I am living in her house. At that time my cousin and brother living in another state talked about what is next. My brother said what if I help financially to keep house. I didn't ask what he will pay at that time but it is never more than yearly property taxes. My other brother lives with me and has mental illness. Two months ago he got sepsis and is in nursing home and can't walk. I lose $1,300 a month income due to mom passing. My cousin somehow became representative payee for my ill brother. She told me since he is not there she can't give $600 monthly like she used to and doesn't. With working 40 hours at $10 an for me it isn't a lot. Why do they care if I keep mom's house and am I being taken advantage of by keeping the house and all the responsibility of it?

Okay so if i had to start from somewhere, it would be how fake she acts with me and my family. She always has like this fake plastery smile ready at the door to greet us whenever we would go visit my boyfriend. She always acts "interested" in what we have to say. I'm kind of annoyed because she called my boyfriend and told him to not tell me that they're going on a mini-vacation as a "family" and that I'm not invited because I'm not family. Why did she have to say it like that? I understand that we aren't married, but can't she be a little nicer instead of saying it like I'm a pest and that she doesn't want me there? I know that when I do stuff with my parents, they only say that they want some time with me instead of "no don't invite him it's just us as a 'family'." She gets really annoyed when she comes over and he's on a call with me. She literally says "wow so this is how much you miss me?" forcing him off of the call and making me wait like 2 hours before he calls me back. Not only that, she gives the worst advice to my boyfriend, saying that we "talk too much" or that we "see each other too much, family is more important." I swear, it gets really annoying. I know that I should love my boyfriend's family and treat them as if they were my own, but I can't help it when she just ticks me off. Thank God it's only for two days. She has her own child and boyfriend. She should get her life together instead of treating ours like its just as messed up. It's also not the first time she does this, she planned on going to the movies as a family, but before telling him, he told him to make sure I'm not around to "listen in." Why can't I know where he's going? Is it really that bad to let me know? She's got some real issues.

I got my licenses last November. The day before Thanksgiving. Last weekend my dad gave me his car after he bought his brand new truck. For months my parents wouldn't allow me to drive on my own. and had me to drive with them until they thought I would be fine on the road. Last weekend my parents allowed me to drive on my own, but only when my brother was in the car with me. Yesterday my parents allowed me to drive by myself without them or my brother. Today I drove to school by myself for the 2nd time. Today when I was coming home I was trying to practice backing out of a parking stall where there were no cars around. After picking up my brother I drove into a parking stall. My 4 year old brother was driving me crazy. I got distracted and I turned off my car while it was in drive. I noticed the car was moving. Thank God a curb was in front of me and it wasn't in reverse because the car was moving, I couldn't put it in park and I couldn't take my key out of ignition. Tomarrow (Friday) my parents will be gone and they want me to take my brother to school tomarrow. Since they won't be home I decided to drive to different places to see if it would stop or anything. It went fine, but what do you guys think? Will my car be okay tomarrow? Thanks to who ever answers. No negative comments.

I'm 19, she is 57. I have been friends with this lady for 2 years, we are both girls. We have been through it all together. She has helped me through school, trainings, personal things. We have gone through happy times, sad times, we laugh together, we cry to each other, we have so much in common and our lives are so similar. We talk every single day on the phone, she will call me every single day in the morning before work Or during the day in her break times she will call. We tak at least 4 times a day, each call about 15-20 minutes, its sweet. We text, share exciting things, we talk about EVERYTHING and anything, girl stuff, boys, life, family stuff... I absolutely just love talking to her. We have a special bond, we have both mention what a special blessing we are to each other (her to me, me to her) she even tells me how I have become a special person in her life. Why do you think we are so close?

I thought my father who said he consumed alcohol and bought alcohol and sold alcohol was the only drug user. Today my mother admitted that she bought cigarettes and tried to smoke. Then she said to my father who found out about it that she was young as an excuse for her to try drugs. I hate drugs and now I'm trapped and have to live with drugged people. I can't have all drug free friends and family. I found out that I'm completely alone in this world today.

I'm 22 and can usually get free rides, and Uber when I need to, which costs less than $10 a trip (rarely do I need to take an Uber more than once a day on the days I need one). Driving gives me way too much anxiety and that and the power and sensitivity of vehicles, plus my anxiety and anger/aggression when someone disrespects me is a bad mix. If I lived on my own now, and could drive, I'd have to live in my car, that's how financially draining it'd be on me. I just want to live in an urban area where there many single women, jobs, education opportunities, and transit. My mom said I need an intervention to force me to drive, abc my step dad has threatened to charge me rent if I don't get a license and car. They are always using empty (and completely ridiculous) threads to make me do this one thing that they say is just part of life and society, even though I don't need it! I DON'T EVEN WANT TO DRIVE ANYMORE! I struggle with life as it is, but my parents (even my step dad will say that nobody should be forced to drive, and he's OBSESSED with driving) keep pushing me to do it! SHE WON'T STOP BRINGING IT UP AND TRYING TO FORCE ME TO DO IT, and she's seen how I react when pushed.....

I'm 22 and can usually get free rides, and Uber when I need to, which costs less than $10 a trip (rarely do I need to take an Uber more than once a day on the days I need one). Driving gives me way too much anxiety and that and the power and sensitivity of vehicles, plus my anxiety and anger/aggression when someone disrespects me is a bad mix. If I lived on my own now, and could drive, I'd have to live in my car, that's how financially draining it'd be on me. I just want to live in an urban area where there many single women, jobs, education opportunities, and transit. My mom said I need an intervention to force me to drive, abc my step dad has threatened to charge me rent if I don't get a license and car. They are always using empty (and completely ridiculous) threads to make me do this one thing that they say is just part of life and society, even though I don't need it! I DON'T EVEN WANT TO DRIVE ANYMORE! I struggle with life as it is, but my parents (even my step dad will say that nobody should be forced to drive, and he's OBSESSED with driving) keep pushing me to do it! SHE WON'T STOP BRINGING IT UP AND TRYING TO FORCE ME TO DO IT, and she's seen how I react when pushed.....

What is their answer to wearing a unused plastic garbage, trash, bin bag/liner as clothing.