My 24 years old stepdaughter (wife s previous marriage) simply does not want to do anything else from sex, parties and facebook. She does not want to work or to study or to take responsibilities. She is like a 12 years old girl. She lives with us of course and with our 4 years old daughter. When we force her to do something says she cannot do anything in life and she does not why thinks like that. What can we do, she is going to destroy us in a few years.

My fiance just got off the phone after an hour conversation with his ex wife (he has a kid with) and explains how she was trying to talk him into moving back to Utah (where they live). I responded, "yeah for them", immediately wondering if I was even considered. He replied "no, for me. She even suggested that if I had to, I could move somewhere else, but for my health. They're the only people [her and her family] that I have ever consider family". Now this is about the time I got pretty upset. I first responded with "that's pretty upsetting, what am I? Chop liver?" He said, "why are you making this about you?" I raised my voice slightly while speaking more boldly while expressing "that's just the irony, isn't it? Its not about me that's the problem. This kind of choice will effect me, but no one seems to consider that--just completely even left out of the thought process. Along with telling your fiance that your ex wife and her family with your son is the one you consider family" I left the room as I know where this is leading. I'm not going to get a word in, I'm irrational, I'm making this about me, he doesn't understand me, I've got problems... anything to avoid actually confronting my emotions. About b5 minutes later he came out exclaiming "I don't understand you! This had nothing to do with you!". I responded with "what would I do if you decided to move?". He looked at me like I was crazy, "you would hopefully come with me." I walked away again.

Why were you separated? Who was more hurt? Was their anger that changed to happiness? Any stories and/or advice are greatly appreciated.

My wife and I have been arguing a lot, mostly over financial matters, lack of time together, and so forth. About a week ago, during an argument, I told her that this was "about done", and that she might want to make plans on what she was going to do, because I am expecting a job offer that would move me out of state. I was wrong in saying it, but it came out in frustration. Since that argument, I noticed that she changed the privacy settings on her Facebook account, so that I could only see mutual friends, and that she was becoming extra protective of her phone. Today I looked through our cellular usage online and found that she had been texting and calling two different numbers repeatedly in the last week. I did a reverse lookup and discovered the numbers belong to two different men. I tried discussing this with her, although she shut down and found excuses why she couldn't speak. I then texted one of the guys who she was sending and receiving the most texts and calls from. I asked him why I found so many calls and texts between him and my wife, and that I assumed this would be the end of it. He did not reply. I told my wife what I did. She is now beside herself, and saying that I said we were over, and that this is truly embarrassing to her. Am I wrong in thinking that my comments made a week ago should not have resulted in her speaking to other men so quickly? It's not like we actually broke up. And I am really wrong for contacting one of the other guys?

Gay marriage diminishes us of us. Firstly it diminishes us in Australia if passed as it diminished the previously sacred institution of marriage that we previously respected as the basis of the family. We are trashing our identity. Secondly it also diminishes us in the eyes of most of the world. Stooges like to argue that we are behind the times and many other countries already have gay marriage. The question here then is how many countries have gay marriage and how many do not. Gay marriage exists in a few Western countries and has no prospects of ever spreading to China or Russia or India for example or even Africa or Asia et al. Gay marriage will diminish us in the eyes of 75% of the world and make us a laughing stock. Resisting it will raise our self esteem and our international prestige.

My best guy friend is an alcoholic. We dated last year and he pushed me away, got in trouble drinking on probation and spent 6 months in a prison program. Once he got out we started hanging out everyday again and he was doing really good for awhile. The thing is, we weren't a couple. Basically it was like best friends who have sex when he wants it. So when he started pushing me away, I didn't even think it might be cuz he wants to relapse. Instead I started to assume he was talking to other girls. I was afraid of losing him but I didn't express that properly. Instead I was assuming we'd never be together since he was never affectionate and never asked me to be in a relationship. He got mad and stopped talking to me, saying I was immature and starting fights. I don't agree with that because he's not the easiest person to talk to when it comes to feelings & he didn't seem to care how I felt at the time. A week later he relapsed and went to jail. Now it's been 6 weeks and I miss him, knowing he wouldn't have stayed mad at me this long. I'm wondering if I should write him and apologize or let the whole thing go & give up. I know I had a valid reason to try & end things, seeing as though we had no commitment, everything we had together I want in a BF. So many great qualities and how we are together. He'd call me up & tell me he'd pick me up in 20 min, never needed make up or be done up. He'd sit with me while I did homework, feet up on him just relaxing. I miss all of that stuff.

The engagement ring diamond was my grandmothers. My wife said if I messed up I could buy the diamond back. She said if she messed up she would give it back. We are in a healthy relationship, but that makes me worried. Going to drop it, but I would hope she would at least give the diamond back. Thoughts?

My mother has angered my husband multiple times since 2013 and she finally realized that she s wrong. She made a lot of comments about his PTSD, being Muslim, a bad father & not allowing her the freedom she wants with our kids. A couple of my child cousins threatened my daughter out of jealously my husband was going to talk to their parents but I stopped him. I told my mom about it she said they re just jealous of her because she s beautiful and did nothing about it. She then invited other family members my husband doesn t tolerate because of their sexual deviancy with kids & told my mom not to give our daughter to them but my mom tried to anyways . My husband flipped out and now my family horrified of him. I would like things to be peaceful because all my family wants to spend time with my kids with a third on the way. But my husband says no because of their past and my mom wouldn t step in to protect our kids or tell us if something bad happen due to the fact she doesn t want conflict . My husband knows about some Sexual stuff I was the victim of as a child that my mom didn t deal with and hid it from my dad. He knows because I was having sexual dreams for our whole relationship about others due to my mental health and I told him. Now that he knows he doesn t want my mom around our kids but aggreed she would never be alone with them only having brief conflict. I don t want her to piss him off one more time because he s fed up with her and will physically react.

I am from Nigeria and have 3 wives. I am visiting the U.S and find it weird that men only have one woman. It must be very hard for only one woman to do all the cooking and cleaning. Seems like very hard work for just one person. My wives work together to do those things.

I'm a single 25 yo, a Mexican and with a child. She: gorgeous 40 yo SAHM with 2 kids. Her family waa lovely when I met her. She was so put together and men are drawn to her. She met me 3 months ago at the gym and we couldn't stop talking. Eventually, we exchanged phone numbers and we were texting as friends. I realized I was so infatuated with her and we ended up meeting privately in my car. Things escalated and sex ensued. It's the best sex I've ever had and I am addicted to her. But I am trying to picture our future together and it seems painful. I love her to death and asked her to stop seeing me just to keep both our sanity. But we just can't. How do I break this up before we go in too deep (emotionally)?

So 2 years ago my fiancé received a call from his "friend" at 6 in the morning saying she had to tell him something regarding work. Beforehand he told me she was a loose goose so I already had my suspensions. They had became friends I met her a few times, I was a lil comfortable but I still. So last week I had a feeling something wasn't right. Only because he was very protective of his phone and had it on him at all times. So while he was sleeping I checked his phone. They were having secret meetings calling each other baby and boo. So yes I flipped ! He admitted he has feelings for her and it was something he was lacking at home and blamed me. I cook, clean, go to work, and come home to him. I still dont understand how this happen to me. And Im pregnant. We were suppose to get married in March but the wedding is off. I dont even wear my ring anymore. So my question is, is it even worth fixing ? Should I continue checking his phone ? He said he ended all communication with her but I dont see how it could have been that easy !

so your wife has cheated with you at least once before would you be ok with your wife having guy/guys over at your home while you are at work ? would you be mad / upset? please let me heat your thoughts

Me? Yes, city hall, skirt and jacket (ivory or gray??)' big cookout at the house after, casual with lots of beer!

So I m a christian girl with a high sex drive. I recently broke up with a boyfriend that loved me very much but wanted sex and it was overall very tempting. I knew he cared because he waited for four years and my parents didn t like him because they read a text he sent about telling me I have a nice ***. It was embarrassing so I never told them about our relationship and it happened to work our for four years. I feel bad for lying but I m eighteen now and they would have influenced my personal decisions in a way that I would never know myself if I should have dated him or not. Basically him and I did everything but the main event. We both watch porn. Now that we aren t together I tried to stop watching porn, and it isn t that I m addicted to porn, but I need to masturbate. It s just easy to get off to porn. Please tell me how I m supposed to not even think about sex for about a decade before I get married. I think it s impossible. The whole "just pray for strength" thing doesn t feel right because I am miserable without release. Please someone tell me what I m supposed to do to please God and so I won t go crazy. Been masturbating since I was eleven.

So September 26th, last year, I started dating a 47yo(I am 20.. yes I know, big difference but whatever). I've known him for awhile before this, and he had told me he was divorced now, wanted to take me out and what not. We dated for about 6 months before his wife/ex wife came back around, and they got together again. I was hurt, but I left him alone and moved on. I still see him a few times a week as hes the manager at the store I shop at, just a passing hi and bye when I see him. However, his wife will not leave me alone. I am either getting messages from her, or from her friends account asking if I've had contact with her husband. He stopped by to talk with me the other day, literally just talk about something job/business & his wife pulls up... because she had a tracker on his phone! I get on facebook right now and there's two messages from her and her friend asking when I've had contact with him, and this other day was the first time in months. But I can't even text him or call to let him know if he could please have his wife stop messaging me cause not only does she have a tracker on his phone, but she receives all of his texts/phone calls to her phone. Sorry if this didn't make much sense, in a hurry, but I'm stressed out cause I do NOT want her husband, and 6 months after he left, I'm still dealing with her drama. I've even tried blocking and somehow, she finds a way. Yes, he lied about being divorced... his wife lived with her friend, but once his wife came back, I found out it was just a separation. So the whole 6 months, I was convinced they were divorced... so when I found out they were still married, I left him alone. I never slept with him KNOWING he was married, as far as I knew, he was divorced so again, realizing he wasn't is when I left him alone all together and moved on.

He has two sons, 22 and 19. He's the breadwinner for the family. Him and his wife have been married for almost 29 years which is longer than I've even been alive, but a few months ago we started sleeping together. He work together at a company located 2 hours from his home so he stays at a motel during the week. For the past 4 months, we spent every single night and morning together. We made love a lot but not every night. Very quickly we fell in love. I would never bother him first while he was home with his family on the weekend but he would reach out to me constantly with texts and calls. Just to say hi, to tell me he misses me, etc. Well, a week ago he was let go from the company due to downsizing. So now he's back home, 2 hours away. He's made the trip up to see me twice in the past week alone. He is always in touch with me. He told me that he loves me and hopes there's a future for us one day maybe, but for now he needs to put his sons through college. Plus he loves his wife but is not in love with her. I love him dearly and I will wait for him, but I can't help but feel like the chances of him walking away from a 29 year marriage is so low, despite him being sexually dissatisfied with her. What are your thoughts? Can I test this? At risk of sounding naive, I truly believe I am more than just a "toy" to him for many reasons. He cried when saying goodbye to me last week after being laid off, came to my uncle's funeral a month ago to show emotional support, listens to what I say and then surprises me with the book I've been wanting to read or bottle of wine. There were plenty of evenings that we didn't even touch each other, just cuddled and went to bed.

My wife's car broke down on the highway yesterday. After taking her my car to use her and getting hers to service she was still going on and on about what a pain in the butt cars are. I said "of course they are a pain in the butt. Its the reason guys love cars because they are the same as our wives, always spending money on them and lots of servicing." She hasn't talked to me since except to say my analogy is very wrong. Why can't she see the similarity?

My wife and I have always had a lackluster sex life. We've been married for six years. First she complained about pain from the condoms we were using. When we switched to contraceptives, she complained that they lowered her sex drive. Later on she started to have health issues that prevented her from much having sex. Over the last four months she has been in and out of the hospital, so no sex at all. We live overseas and due to her health we've decided it's better she return to our country. I, however, will remain overseas for eight more months. So, I will go one whole year without sex. I'm very frustrated. I'm entertaining thoughts of cheating. I don't want to do this, because she'll get hurt and I know ultimately it isn't worth it. However, I'm hungry for some intimacy. What can I do to stay faithful but deal with my frustrations? Don't say masturbate. I want real intimacy not a cheap fix.

My husband and I live in Texas. We are seperated and will be divorcing. He bought a house during our marriage. I had nothing to do with this purchase but I did have to sign one piece of paper the day he closed. He is behind on the house by 2 months and I just recieved a certified letter looking to collect. Is there any way I can get out from under this house while we are still married? When he purchased the house I didn't want anything to do with it. I was not happy he bought it. I really had no choice to sign, I have a young child and didn't have anywhere to go at the time.

So ive been with my fiance since high school we are now 26yrs old and have a 17 month old and another on the way. In the beginning we were good had disputes here and there. We finally started living together about 2yrs ago and since I got pregnant things began to change i remember telling him he was a nobody (i was pregnant working hard and he had an open case so it was hard for him to get a job) that i believe I was wrong for doing but as time went by he became angry we're arguing over twitter and stupid things he also complained that we were not as intimate but I was pregnant and just really beyond myself. This continued and he began smoking weed which he promised not to i expressed my concern about that given the fact that we now have a son and to leave that alone. Police were being called quite a lot I would call to have them escort him out he called the cops on me at one point too. With all thats been going on he has been a good father to his son we have our ups but when we have our downs? They're chaotic. Just recently i had to call the cops after an argument led to hin knocking the phone out of my hand. At this point I wanted him out for awhile as he has not stopped smoking a few days before and staying out as well . When the cops came he did not want to leave the apt says he basically wants to get killed by the police etc led to swat team coming in. He is now in jail, they are trying to hold him while they prepare for trial. He was supposed to start school.

My husband and I split up about 5 months ago-he is a full blown drug addict so really I have been a single mom for well over a year. He did some HORRIBLE, unforgivable things during our marriage. We have a 14 yr old and a 10 yr old together. In the last month I started talking to this guys I have known for 20 years-he has always been a friend but recently we started taking it a couple steps further. Because of our schedules we only see each other 1 time a week - other than that I am juggling career, kids, dinner, laundry and just being a single mom-its insane. So one day a week I get to spend time with someone who makes me laugh again and is good company. My 10 yr old is all good with this-my 14 yr old son ells me I'm disgusting ...that I'm a hoe. I guess I just need guidance on how to talk to my son. He is so angry inside and I just want to support him and show him he is loved. Am I not allowed to have a little bit of happiness once in a while when the weight of the world is on my chest???

I've connected with a guy through FB and he lives in my town. I know for a fact (my sister knows him) that he's single, lives with his parents (he's 29) and has a son. We've been texting for about 6 weeks. At first he was very flirty and seemed very interested. Texted me non-stop, talked about taking me on a date and where we would go but never makes plans. He says he doesn't want to ruin this by going to fast, which I understood. He won't even talk to me on the phone. I'm not a clingy/needy person, I am busy myself so I just him take the lead. But last week I told him we can just meet as friends if he wants, doesn't have to be a date or us dating. He just said "I know" and that was it. Just didn't want him to feel pressure. Today he told me he should have asked me to lunch but thought I'd be busy with school. When I tell him he should have or to just make the plans and I'll make the time he just says "I know." I don't feel like he's as interested anymore or that he is stringing me along. He's still somewhat flirty but no plans for us to meet. I just want to meet up, because you can't get a clear idea of who someone is by text alone. Even a phone call would be better than this. He's a real laid back, nice guy and that is someone I need. I just don't know what do from here.

My wife is taking an online continuing education (non-credit) course she found through our local library. I understand why she chose to take and actually applaud her for desire to learn new things and information. But on the same token, I also feel she is taking it too seriously. I mean, her main objective when she began the course was to set a good example for our kids by teaching them that learning is fun. She's a strong believer in teaching by example. Now she is in the tail end of the course, and has gotten her exam grade back for the last lesson she completed. She missed a question, which cost her 10 points. It's not like she can do anything about it, or go back in time and take the exam once the kids have gone to sleep. I don't understand why she's stressing over it?

That's why I don't want to get married. Please change my mind :)

I had suspicion s of my hubby and this female friend of ours. Like I caught him checking her out a coup lol e of times and little things like that. I told my hubby tgat it would be hot to see him and that girl have sex. Neither one of them objected. She had to leave to pick her kids up and my husband wanted me to txt her snd ask her when she'll be back. Wth is going on?

I was joking about it to him and he is actually serious about doing her! I might let him because its better to let him get it out of his system, but I dont know? What does this mean for our marriage and is h e getting bored with me? Any advice

Do you watch it all? Sometimes? Do u watch before and/or during? How many times out of 10 times having sex would porno be involved? I am asking because my partner HAS to always have it on before and during our intimate times together....And it bothers me. I feel like I should be enough sometimes...

I am married for 1 n half years after dating my husband for 4 years. After marriage everything was going well. We both are well settled. Staying far from our hometown. But problem started when my husband called my brother-in-law to stay with us, as he is jobless, doing nothing in his life. Since am an entrepreneur he called him to help me in my business & also he would get settled rather than being idle.Before our marriage my husband spent money on him for his studies but nothing worked out. My bro-in-law is a lazy fellow,sleeps almost 12 to 13 hrs a day, doing nothing. When we tell him to do anything he do all the things, but no initiative from his side have been seen so far.He dont communicate with us properly, always in a silent mode.I become frustrated sometimes and fight with my husband. Regularly we are having a huge fight over this matter. My husband dont want him to go for job, he wants him to stay n help me for my business, in which he is failing miserably. Before my husband told he would stay for 6 months n will find his source of income which didnt happen.Please help what to do in this situation !!!

Asalamualaikum, Is it normal for a 24 year old guy to want sex twice? I have heard when you're a newly married couple he will want it a lot but as time goes by, it will decrease Ladies, do you get angry if he wakes you in middle of night? How would you solve this problem without saying no to him