Family: Question: What's the worst that can happen if I elope?

Question: What's the worst that can happen if I elope?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:13 PM PDT

I'm 23 years old and been with my fiancé for 6 years. My mom has a problem with her children growing up and my father doesn't approve of my my fiancé because he is Spanish and English is not his first language so he has an accent which my father doesn't like. However, my father also has an accent since he is from the Middle East so I don't see what makes him any "better." The rest of my family like my fiancé and say he's a great guy. My father is the only one that does not approve. We plan on getting married at court and then finding a home. I am just afraid of my parents reactions and scared to disappoint them. I know a few people that have eloped and then their parents forgave them later on. Some quicker than others. Anyone have any idea of what would happen? I asked my dad a while back that I may get married and move out with my boyfriend and his answer was "you better not. I won't let that happen. Trust me"... I feel threatened now

Question: Is it okay to feel like this towards my parents ?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:03 PM PDT

I'm the oldest of 4 my parents have always been strict on me which is fine I still live under their roof. There's stuff I really don't like about my dad though and I'm tired of feeling this way about him. He's 60 now I'm 22 and my mom is 50. He has no patience at all most of the time. When he gives me a "suggestion" as he likes to call it he expects me to do it. It's so frustrating he expects me to react a certain way like he thinks I was programmed to live my life how he decides. He doesn't listen to me when I try to explain how I feel about something. He has a explanation for every single one of my problems. So god damn annoying. I love him but out relationship feels close to non existent. I have never felt good enough and for him. My mom is different but over the years has changed too. They argue about the stupidest things. Every single thing I have done is not enough for them. When I move out I hope they can realize what they have done and accept me for me and love me the way I am.

Question: How can I make my husband get along with my mom? It's her fault & mine as well. We're all sorry but he's doesn't care he wants to protect?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:51 PM PDT

Our kids. My mom and family are all sex offenders or on the spectrum and I finally get that. My mom allowed bad family around me and my brother growing up. I wanted my kids around them too but my husband broke the cycle from both sides of my family but he said no to that as well to keep my kids safe my mom realizes that too . We all know how wrong we were after what he said and told us but why can't my kids have a bond with my family? I now know how wrong we all were but still that's not fair to my kids my family will be strangers to them because of past mistakes

Question: I miss my Brother?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:43 PM PDT

This Morning my brother left to go back to school. His school is 4 hours away by plane. He's always gone and I won't see him till summer. I miss him so much. What should I do?

Question: I cant stand sharing a room with my step sister !!!?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:21 PM PDT

Ok so I don t want to be mean so in going to keep this as nice as possible . I m 15 and I m sharing a room with a nine year old . When we first moved in I didn t think much about it ( I was 11 and she was 5 ) but now it s become extremely difficult and frustrating . We share a small room and it s pretty much bland besides her clutter (barbies,pens,candy) and it has none of my personality because I don t have any control over what it looks like . Every time I try to move something around my stepmom puts it back again and says she wouldn t like it that way so ive given up. my stepmom isn t very friendly . She s easily offended. My stepsister doesn t sleep . She stays up all night and crys or calls for her mom or just straight up get out of bed and walk around . She can t sleep without a nightlight or the door being wide open . She also been very bratty recently . Saying she won t share her stuff , or that I m annoying . I m just so fed up :/ my dad doesn t listen because he bows down to my stepmom and I just hate being here because I just have no privacy or space or any way to express myself . What do I do?

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:17 PM PDT

Ok so I got into a argument yesterday with my dad because my mom called him and told him on the phone that I'm not behaving then he came. My mom thinks I wasn't behaving because she was making too much noise yesterday while I was sleeping and I had to get up to tell her to stop making noise. I feel like she makes those kind of noise on purpose. Then when my mom was eating I picked up a book and she thought I did that on purpose because dust started flying all over the place while she was eating. My dad said that he was going to call the police because of me when my mom called her. My mom was crying on the phone while she was talking. Then she said that her heart beats too hard because of the way I treat her which is not true because she's the one who treats me bad and makes me seem like an idiot. Then my dad came and I was sitting on my bed. Then out of nowhere he slapped me and punched me in the face while calling me names. I said something back to him and then he said that he will call the police for them to come arrest me again then I said I don't care and that they can come arrest me today then he slapped me in the face again. Then he said something rude and I told him to drop dead and he was about to beat me which he got stopped. Then when he was leaving he was still calling me names which I I didn't reply to. I regret telling him to drop dead. I'm 16 turning 17. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: I HATE, and I mean HATE eating noises.?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:16 PM PDT

My dad is a loud eater and it annoys the heck out of me when I'm at the dinner table. It irritates me how he can't keep his mouth shut when eating. I can literally hear food going down his stomache, even when I have headphones on and my music is like nearly full volume I'll still hear that sh*t noises. I was taught to eat with my mouth closed and to eat gently and I do, but it seems like my dad doesn't take that seriously. Help me

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 12:43 PM PDT

My mom has emotionally abused me for about 7 years now. I've been nothing but depressed. She would ask me to do chores, and while I would do them every other day, I still would try harder than my sister, but my mom basically loves my sister so much that she won't even try to see that she's lazier than me. For years she's called me an airhead, stupid, useless, and I would be nice to her regardless. She always says I'm good for nothing, so about 3 days ago I asked myself, "why am I still trying to do things for someone who won't see that I'm trying?" So I stopped my chores altogether, the house has been dirty ffor days & not even her other precious daughter hasade an effort to clean anything. My car just got towed by avvident (it really was a mistake) but I feel guilty since I am basically a no-good dependent

Question: I'm planning to run away?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 12:11 PM PDT

Don't say anything I should talk this out or like that because I have and all what I do is get yell at. Every single day I get compare to my older brother. My mom always say that my brother does more around the house and saying I'm lazy. I'm doing what I can for my age which is 14. And I can't take it anymore I just want to kill myself. Then all my friends or should I say fake friends don't like me which is my whole class. Then my grandma go tell my mom lies saying I'm being rude to her and all that shot. Then my mom is always slapping me. I can't take this anymore. I just wanna crawl up in a while and die. No one ask me how my day is and only ask my brother. Then to top all of that my mom and I have to share a bed and I have no privacy. Can you plsgive me some times for running away.

Question: My mom favors my sister and its obvious?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 11:37 AM PDT

It s so heartbreaking because she even admits it. Once when they were fighting my mom was like "you know I give you the most love so why are you fighting blah blah." She s 5 years older then me and is an adult, and my mom treats her like a baby. It s so frustrating I don t remember the last time I went to sleep without crying my eyes out. My mom talks so me in an annoyed voice and she s always pissed at me for no reason. It sucks because I m really nice to her. And whenever I m stressed out or upset about something my mom says I m weak and I m the one with an attitude problem. But when my sister is upset about something my mom comforts her. And I ve talked to my mom about it several times and it never works. My sister makes fun of me so much and she is so rude to me about everything I do so when I get upset at her and tell her she s being rude guess who gets a good beating? Me. And my mom never even BOTHERS to ask my side of the story. My sister lies that I hit her and she goes crying to my mom and my mom NEVER BELIEVES ME :( my moms says to her "let s just not talk to her she has mental issues." And she says so many hurtful things like that and I hate it. She s called me bipolar several times. I don t really have any ways to deal with my stress or emotions and my mom doesn t care either. To her it s "mental issues" and I should be "ignored" And my dad doesn t care either I ve tried telling him many times. I also have no one to talk to because I have no friends really.

Question: What can I do? Who can I talk to?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 11:24 AM PDT

Inside and out my house is crap. My mother yells a lot and curses, which brings my father and I down. My dad now from time to time, acts like my mom because he is fed up with everything. I have two dogs and I love both of them.

Question: Younger brother is so mean to me?! Please help!!?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 11:17 AM PDT

I have a 13 year old brother and I'm 16. He is constantly either with his friends or on electronics because he is addicted. Whenever I try to talk to him, he says "I don't care", "you're ugly" , "you're a loser", or "no one likes you". What he says doesn't bother me, but it makes me feel sad because I can never have a conversation with him. I try to ask him to go on a bike ride or play cards with me, but he would much rather play on his phone or be with his friends. I miss spending time with him- when I told him this he laughed in my face. I'm trying to ignore him right now because of his obnoxious attitude. is this a phase (I'm really hoping it is) and at approximately what age will it get better? Thank you so much!

Question: Does your family associate with you that you're older now ?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 11:09 AM PDT

Older couples who are CHILDLESS (because they were NEVER blessed from above with children) are just ignored from the rest of the family. Not all people are blessed .

Question: Mom just told me to drive to the store to choose the cake i want for my birthday?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:54 AM PDT

My bday was on thursday so were celebrating today. And she just told me if i can drive to the store and buy a cake that i want with her money.. I feel upset about this since id imagine someone else driving to the store to buy a cake for me.. maybe even surprise me. I feel weird about going there myself and getting a cake for myself. How would you feel about this?

Question: I'm ruining my family and I make everyone around me unhappy. Please help?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:54 AM PDT

every argument in my house is around me. I cant go one day without constant bickering with my parents and brother. I seriously cannot remember the last time I went a full day without people yelling. I am quick to anger and a lot of things involving my family agitate me. I have nothing in common with any of them and I feel like it is always 3 against 1. Im never the one to start the argument, but i am guilty of keeping it going. I dont know why I am always on edge.I know it is majority my fault, but I cant stop it. everyday I tell myself it wont happen but it does. I want to make my family happy and leave, because whenever I am gone they dont fight. Please help me. I think there is something wrong with me and I hate it. I want to go away for university next year so that they wont have to deal with me everyday. My mom tells me that doing that will only create false happiness and that she feels sorry (pity) for me because I cant find happiness from within.

Question: For some reason I can't contact my Mother?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:46 AM PDT

Okay, so I don't live with my Mom, but I usually receive calls from her just about every day. She lives with her boyfriend, whom I eventually gotten to trust for the most part. Seemed like a genuine, nice guy. However, those daily calls I usually receive have stopped abruptly about a week ago. For the past week and a half now, I not only haven't received a single call from her, but I can't even get in contact with her either. Her phone rings still, but nobody ever picks up. The last time I got a hold of my Mom was last Thursday I think, and she sounded loopy, and just out of it. She answered saying "Domenic?" in a confused, and curious sounding tone. Then I just heard the phone being put down and her continuing to sleep or whatever she was doing. Furthermore, I've tried going to her house a couple of times to check up, but nobody's ever home. The dog continually barks every time I knock, which tells me somebody must still be around to feed the dog.. I'm completely lost right now. This sort of thing hasn't ever happened. I googled her name and haven't seen any news reports of a death in her or her boyfriends name, which is good. Nobody in my family seems to know anything, either. But I'm still really confused as to what could have happened. Maybe they're on vacation? Although I don't see how they could afford one, since they just bought a pretty big pool like a month ago. Any ideas? Anything I could do?

Question: What should i do?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:40 AM PDT

No negative comments please. So me and my sons father have joint custody. His visitations are every other weekend and on the alternating weekends he gets home from Sunday-Tuesday. He would barely pick him up and when he does he has our son stay at his grandmas. We we're together for two years and the whole time i was being emotionally and physically abused. Which I never brought this up in court because I'm a dumbass and felt bad for him. Hes been better at getting our son. But it's still always a hassle. Plus he's very irresponsible. Now he's been wanting to claim our son on his taxes for this year. Which i don't feel he should since i have him most of the time anyways. I know with joint custody they say parents take turns claiming the child. But that's only if it's in our agreement which it's not. I own a home and have real bills and taxes on my home that i have to pay or i could lose my house and me and our son won't have a place to live. I've told him and he doesn't care, he just wants the money. So is there a way i could get the courts to have me claim him every year? I need this money to buy him things and keep a roof over his head. And his father just isn't understanding that. He lives with his dad for free and only has payments on a snowmobile and crotch rocket. I need to keep me and my sons home. Idk what to do

Question: Why does my mom do things to make me miserable?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:33 AM PDT

Today when we were talking we were talking about my older brother I was saying how nosy he is she said that I am stuck with him he is my brother I said just until I move out she didn't seem happy after that. They are going somewhere soon I am planning on packing and leave not sure where I can't drive but can walk lol I am 21 why I still live with her waiting on the eye doctor because I failed an eye vision test but I don't think she will even get to that. Should I just pack my stuff and leave? Seriously they treat me like poop most of the time. Been hiding in my room a lot to avoid the negative.

Question: Could my ex husband's wife really be OK with this?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:27 AM PDT

This is my last year at college and the teacher of my calculus class told me I was failing the class and I should get a tutor. He said they charged $95 per hour. This was money I did not have. I went through my phone book and called EVERYONE and no one would lend me the money. I was about to give up when my mother suggested I call my ex husband to see if he would loan me some money. He has since remarried so I knew there was VERY LOW odds he would do it. I had not talked to him in over 2 years. I concluded that I had nothing to loose by calling him. What he said just blew me away. He said there is no need to go into debt for a tutor. Come over and he would do it for FREE. I wanted with every bone in my body to take him up on his offer because it meant I would graduate on time. I told him I did not want to cause him any problems with his wife. He said she finished calculus just 2 years ago and she knew how hard it was. He also said she would help him tutor me. WOW WOW WOW. Could a wife really be OK with her husband tutoring his former wife? I don't think I could if the situation was reversed. Should I take his word that his wife is OK with it. The LAST thing I want to do is cause him a problem with his wife. We did not have any children and we had a friendly divorce. Can an ex husband and his wife really be that nice?

Question: My mom is leaving me home alone for three days for no good reason?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 10:18 AM PDT

She is taking my younger brother down to my dad's house because he is refusing to go to school here. That is like a 5 hour round trip tops, but she decided that she is going to stay there Monday and Tuesday for no reason. Meanwhile, I need to stay at home with her roommate (who she can't be bothered to kick out, even though they were supposed to be gone last Thursday) for two days straight. I missed 4 days of school last week because I was sick, and I am still feeling sick. I told her that she needs to come back tonight or tomorrow but she said I was being selfish. Her roommate is a ******* alcoholic and I have gotten into fights with him multiple times, and I cant make calls with my phone so if anything happens I am ******. 14

Question: Why is my husband doing this? Any ideas?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:54 AM PDT

I am divorced and remarried. My new husband seems to be very insecure. When I ask him to do some task, after he has done it, he asked how he compared doing it to my ex husband Bill doing it. Not wanting to hurt his feelings or his ego, I always tell him he did it better than Bill. Most of the time this is not true. Bill was very good at a lot of things. My current husband has not met Bill and probably will not but they have mutual friends so he might find out sometime that what I have been telling him about his abilities as compared to Bill's is not true. Should I just start telling him the truth? I don't like to compare him to my ex husband. He has a lot of good qualities that Bill did not have and he should not be wanting me to compare him with my ex. I would like to forget about my ex husband and not think about him again. I NEVER mention my ex to my current husband. It is him that brings it up. Do you think he will ever get over this insecurity?

Question: Why have kids, when you can adopt kids who don't have parents?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:51 AM PDT

Question: At my inlaws, in their bed?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:50 AM PDT

Hmm this is an answer to a question, dont know how it came up as its own question, dumb yahoo, disregard every one

Question: Is this a good plan for my mom's birthday?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:50 AM PDT

I was hanging out with my cousin at my aunt and uncle's house and we were looking through their photo albums. They had several pictures of my mom when she was in high school. One was of mom in her cheer leaders uniform. She sure looked cute in that picture. Another was her when she was homecoming queen. She was gorgeous. I think she was the prettiest female I have ever seen. Was she ever beautiful? My aunt said "Did you know your mom was homecoming queen all 4 years she was in high school"? I had never seen these pictures and mom had never mentioned she was a cheerleader and homecoming queen. I asked my aunt to make copies of these pictures for me and she did. Can anyone think of a reason mom would not tell her daughter about her being a home coming queen and a cheer leader? Mom has a birthday coming up next week and is having a party and many of her friends will be here. I want to make a large birthday card that say "Happy Birthday to my beautiful mother". "I am proud of you". "Your daughter". I would like her friends to see how beautiful she was as homecoming queen. I plan to attach these pictures to the birthday card. Mom has NOT gained a lot of weight and still looks the same as her high school pictures. She is still beautiful. Please give me some feedback what you think of my plan.

Question: Why do some family members critique each other negatively?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:39 AM PDT

Ex: I went to visit my mother's apt a couple of weeks ago and my brother and sisters were there too. Now at first we said hi to each other but within minutes they start discussing how much so and so makes for a living and questioning personal things,remembering negative things we did to each other mean while my mother is there giggling at all of us that it made me stand up and said to them how insulting and sad we as a family put each other since I was young down. Instead of lifting each other up and accepting each other of who we are and how we are that a loving family should be-(I was tearing while expressing this to them). They all stood silent and I left and it has been weeks since I've spoken to them. Why are some families negative,critique,each other?

Question: Mom prohibits driving because I smoke weed?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 09:13 AM PDT

In the past I ve been caught by my parents with pot, the first time I was ever caught was by the cops 2 years ago which was not a fun experience. From there I continued smoking occasionally until it grew into something I did everyday. My mom would catch me time and time again but at one point I told her I quit and she believed me. This is around the time I would start driving with a permit and eventually practice with them but she said if she found out I was smoking at all I would not be allowed to drive. Well nonetheless, she caught me a month ago and said I won t be driving until she decides. My birthday/ road test are at the end of December and I have until then to convince my mom I am done with this life. The thing is though, she doesn t believe a word I say from when she thought I quit. I am willing to suspend smoking in order to drive again and then start up again once I get my privileges back. I just do not know how to tell her I am done to make her believe me. There is nothing I can do to MAKE her believe me but I do not even know where to start. We never got along even before I started to smoke, but getting high made her tolerable for me. Smoking has never made me lose confidence, or impact my grades; in fact since I started my academics scores have improved. Driving is a big step in becoming my own adult which is why I want to have access to do it. Does anyone have ideas that can help me begin building trust between my mom and I again?

Question: My Mom showed me photos of her?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 08:55 AM PDT

how Dad beat her up and still does. My Dad is away doing work at his parents house, should I tell Dad that he isn't loved by me anymore?

Question: Should I be expected to cook vegetarian meals for my husband's weird kids?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 08:34 AM PDT

My two stepsons are 9 and 7. My husband's ex is this hippy animal rights/health and fitness type and a vegan to boot. The eldest stepson will be soon making the transition to vegan so soon I'll be expected to cook vegan meals when they stay over every 2 weeks and sometimes when they visit for the day. It's not even a pressure from their mom. They're so indoctrinated they say no to McDonalds, even the icecream because they blame McDonalds and other fast food places for animal and human rights abuses. I'm considering just asking them to bring packed lunches to our house. Would that be bad for me to call their mom and ask? I wish my husband had let his ex take the kids to live in Holland permanently

Question: I'm tired of my friends and family giving me crap for not having a girlfriend?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 08:12 AM PDT

I'm 26, I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 20. Many people assume I get girls no problem, but I don't. I'm fairly introverted, my confidence only goes so far, and I honestly don't know much about interacting with women as far as seduction goes. I'm not saying I'm shy or anything, I can talk with beautiful women no problem, but I'm not good at escalating it beyond that. I'm just, clueless. It seems like you have to say certain things at the right time or play these dumb mental gymnastics around them, and thinking about all that makes my head hurt. Plus, women have gotten choosier, and it's just intimidating thinking "why me, when you have 100 other smooth talking ladies men out there." Ive tried looking at it in a different angle like "stop trying and maybe you'll have better luck." - but of course that never happened. I have no choice but to give up and start focusing on progressing other areas in my life, and accept that I'm just not a catch to women

Question: Im scared my brother might rape me?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 07:58 AM PDT

So my brother has a girlfriend and he would always call her a babe, but a few days ago he suddenly called me babe which i was very uncomfortable with. Maybe it was a slip of tongue. Yesterday at home, i was washing the dishes and i told him to throw away the garbage. His girlfriend told him to put clothes on because he was in his boxer (yeah the whole family told him before not to only wear that, but we cants do anything about it). He started making rape joke like "no i dont give a f, people are going to think im a rapist rapist rapist" At first i was like wtf, an wanted to laugh a bit but then he repeatedly says it again in front of me. It trigger me into thinking he's disgusting, and why would he keep on saying that? Is he proud to be in his boxer? Is he going to rape me? I went up to my room and started crying and got very scared. I dont know if i have problem or if is his problem. Please help For now, i just want to stay as far away from him. I cant stop him from annoying me and bothering me though because we live in the same household

Question: Birthday party?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 07:48 AM PDT

So yesterday I went to my cousins bday party. Today there is another party, for someone else in the family. My mom said I didn't have to go so I'm staying home. Should I feel guilty?

Question: Should I listen to my mom or my sister?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 07:20 AM PDT

My sister goes to online school and says she doesn t have any friends. Which sadly, she has one only, and she s also my friend. My sister is super introverted and has become a little too reserved. But it s her life, her choice, so I m fine with it. My mom is super crazy concerned because she s not an extrovert like her and they don t see eye to eye on anything. I have recently begun going to a youth group because one of my dance friends invited me to go. My sister isn t friends with any of them and doesn t want to go to the youth group. My mom insists I have to get her out of the house and is starting to threaten me that I have to take her. She doesn t want to go. In my opinion, she s going to be uncomfortable if she goes. I know her. And this is embarrassing but I ve talked about her and her faith to my youth group, so I m scared they ll bring it up, and my sister will get mad at me. I trust they won t, but I m not really close with many of them except my dance friend and a couple others. I don t know if I should listen to my mom or my sister.

Question: I forgot my dad's birthday?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 07:18 AM PDT

Hi. This is embarrassing. I have no one to scold me so im writing here. I called my dad to ask 10$. Its the end of month and im broke. My cat and I are starving, there was no other option. When I called and told my problem.. he was quiet and asked what day was yesterday. And I, like a total retard, asked what day it was then? And he said 3th september. At this moment I understood it was his birthday but i was so shocked at my dumbness and arrogance I just stood silent on the phone knowing not what to say. He was clearly very offended. He told me they had a birthday dinner and all.. while I was in another town, I wasn't even busy, I was home alone so I have no excuse... he said he didn't have any money so we hung up. I am so upset, I don't know what to do with myself. I don't think people like me should exist on this planet :) How do I resolve this situation?

Question: Is this a normal thing for a dad to say to his 15 year old daughter or is it over the top?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 06:32 AM PDT

"You do know that guys are intimidated by you, right? I'm not making that up. When a guy sees a girl who's more beautiful than average, a once in a lifetime type of girl like you, he gets scared. But if a guy's worth any of your time at all, he won't be a chicken like that, and he won't play games to try and win you over. Never give a guy anything if he messes with your head or is a wimp. I don't know what triggered it but I've been thinking about how someday — probably soon, you'll have your first boyfriend, and it just kills me. He'll probably break your heart and you'll come crying to me. I'll comfort you and you'll be mine again for a little while, but then some other guy will come along. The cycle might repeat itself a couple of times. I — s**t —I can't even imagine who I'd even let get anywhere near you. This is hard for all dads; I know that. I feel like it's a little harder for me, though. I'm a single parent, it's always been just the two of us, we're tighter than most dads and daughters. I don't really know how to handle this honestly. I'm stressing out. Sorry for ranting."

Question: My sister is crazy!!?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 05:59 AM PDT

I'm 13 and my sister just turned 8 yesterday. She orders my parents around... And they let her do it. She is such an ungrateful brat all the time! Like yesterday on her birthday she got a brand new high quality laptop and starting crying because it was blue and too small. She got to keep that and the rest of her presents which all together cost about 500 bucks. Every day she throws stuff, hits, cusses at, pushes, pinches, kicks and attacks me and our younger siblings. She will wake up at 3am and scream until someone gets her orange soda and once someone pours it she won't even come to the kitchen to get it. It's ridiculous and when u try to tell my parents that they tell me to mind my own business a D that it's not my place. I agree it isn't but they won't do anything about it and it makes everyone's life a living h*ll! What do I do??

Question: Need advice or anything? so fed up : (?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 05:57 AM PDT

okay so the problem is my father. He doesnt care about us or my mother. he does not treat my mother good. 2 months back my father beat my mother. From that day i havent talk to him. I just dont feel like calling him dad again. Im a university going student and i need to pay my fees but whenever we ask him for money he say he dont have any.. im so fed up of my life but still trying to survive just coz of my mother and be able to give her a life without any tension or worry.. lately my younger sis who is 14 is suffereing from juandice so the doctors told us to do some tests. he didnt even for once ask how my sis is feeling.. all he care about and love is MONEYY!! i feel so low at times but i never show to anyone but cry to God only. I hope it will get better n i ll have a good job someday and my mother wouldnt worry anymore or my lil sis.. sorry i just needed to rant.. thats not even a question i asked :)

Question: What did parents do in younger days to not be wealthy adults?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 05:55 AM PDT

I don't know how to word this but... I'm a 18 year old in college and I notice a lot of middle class to poor people. My mother told me she didn't party at all as a child and was humbled and quiet.. She makes six figures as the only adult in the house and we're doing pretty good.. PLEASE don't think i'm saying we're better than anyone but I notice in my generation all people do is have sex and drink and stuff... I do none of these things and believe they are childish acts.. I want to become wealthy by age of 25 and make my mom and GOD proud.

Question: What would you do?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 05:30 AM PDT

Okay so I got pregnant at 15 (the father is the same age). We both were together since we were barley 13 years old. My dad hates him only because I got pregnant (I understand we were young and stupid at the time) so he moved me from Texas (where the father lives) when I was 8 MONTHS pregnant to Arizona. Since I was only 16, I couldn't do anything about it. I'm now 17, turn 18 in March 2017. My father has NEVER let the father see our child, I'm not ever supposed to be speaking to him, mind you. Our child is 14 months now! He's never seen him ever and my dad threatens me if I try to leave when I'm 18 he won't let me and if I do, he'll try to take away my baby (I pay for everything for myself and my baby & the only one who takes care of him). I want the father to be in his life, but we want to raise him together so when I'm 18 I want to leave but what do I do if my father won't let me when it comes time? && Can he get in trouble for not letting him see our baby? He's the reason he missed everything. Wouldn't let me put his name on anything. Made me put my last name on my child instead of the fathers.

Question: Why do my kids resent me?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 05:18 AM PDT

I am 49. I stopped feeling fatherly towards my son and daughter when they were 3 year olds. They are both the same age. I would yell at them everytime they stressed me out. I had them in online schooling. They could never tell any outside person. I would beat them on their backs with objects for 14 years. I kicked them out when they were 17. Why do they act like victims and refuse to contact me? I got the same punishment as a kid from my own father. They are both 18 now. I have not seen or heard from them in over a year.

Question: My little sister walked in on me and my gf having sex?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 04:50 AM PDT

There's not too much to explain here. Basically my gf comes over to my house a lot and i think it's rly cool that my sister and her get along really well. She sees her as like a sister. She comes over to my house almost everyday. So one time things were getting heated and I brought her to my room and I thought I locked the door. (We've had sex before in my room with family in the house.) yeah we are pretty quiet. So we were going at it, and my sister opens the door and was in the middle of a sentence (i don't remember what she said) but as soon as she saw what was happening her eyes widened and she quickly shut the door. This really sucks because I think I could have scarred her. She's only 15 (my sister). I'm 18 btw. But when my gf left my sister apologized and I reassured her that it was fine. God I'm such an idiot. Is there anything else I should do? Do u think I actually could have traumatized her? My sister looks up to my gf, is this going to ruin their relationship?

Question: My Dad has turned nasty.?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 04:48 AM PDT

I'm tired of him. He sticks up for my little bully sister. He use to be nice, but now he's not. He's nice when we were on holiday. We came back yesterday. My Mum divorced him when he got worse. My sister and I were fine on holiday. He spoils her like mad. He's sometimes nice, but he's not as nice as he was. I weight myself once a week and he thinks I'm obsessed with my weight and he gets mad. He sometimes insults me. He spends more time with his loser girlfriend. He use to be nice. He's sometimes okay, but he's not nice anymore.

Question: Why does this **** happen to me ?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 04:02 AM PDT

My stepsister keeps singing the entire night. It's keeping me up because she's next store too me. I need my sleep. Now I can't get any decent sleep. Im defiantly getting a dorm when I go too college.

Question: My brother doesn't like me ?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 03:57 AM PDT

Me and my brother are in college I help him with his homework if he needs it but during our conversation he called me ugly when I was telling him about what happened in class because this guy tried to talk to me and he gave me his number.He comes out out of the blue saying I don't know why guys talk to you.youre ugly as hell.He just kept saying that whole week to me and called me fat and dumb.I don't what I did to him to make him say that now he stopped talking to me. What should I do ?

Question: How do I get my mother to stop nursing grudges against her siblings?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 03:44 AM PDT

I am the collateral damage of her doing this as I miss out on family time.

Question: What do you do when your dad is about to cook too much food for barbecue, and you are dealing with morbid obesity?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 03:35 AM PDT

And it is just me, my dad and sister. And he makes me help him watch over it. My dad works at night. And he is taking the Labor Day weekend off and is cooking a lot of food. And i stay with my mom and her father who is very ill. But my dad and sister are needy. And they always need someone around them. Basically my dad takes his problems out on food. And im morbid obese. I weigh 303.6 pounds at 6 Feet tall. Im a 31 year old male.

Question: How do I get over my fear of forever being cast out of family due to a misunderstanding or small mistake?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:31 AM PDT

My Mom always warned me as a kid to be careful or people would reject me. She was trying to protect me as it was not abuse but protectiveness. However, I am scared now that the slightest mistake I will forever be condemned for by extended family (I have no siblings or Dad and I know my mother will forgive me). How do I get over this fear?

Question: I am scared my relatives will think it was me and not my brother that posts an inappropriate facebook post, what do I do?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:27 AM PDT

A relative is dying and when he does die my sister will post a Facebook death RIP tribute the same day. The family has always asked that we not do that as they say it is in poor taste. My sister didn't listen when our grandmother died so I don't think she will here (our great-aunt is dying). Since I goofed up on this once myself when Facebook was new and posted an RIP message not knowing it was inappropriate so soon I am scared they will think it was me. Also they see me much more often then my sister so a slip of the tongue the person might say "Adam posted" instead of my sister's name. What do I do? The great-aunt who is dying has maybe a month to live or could live a matter of days. Since the family is sensitive to this I am worried. They are the type who wouldn't confront me about it but would just be mad in their hearts (they are not confrontational which is good except they will hold a grudge due to a misunderstanding here).

Question: My father has never known me and I am 31. Is there any point in me seeing him before he dies?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:23 AM PDT

He has not expressed any interest in seeing me but I found him on a Internet search engine.

Question: My Sister Is Very Abusive?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:09 AM PDT

My sister is two years younger than me, and She teases me , bullies me, hurts me, torments me.. My mum and dad have agreed to take her to counselling but never have. People always ask me why I am always scared of my little sister and that I sound stupid but no one really knows how evil she is. It's not normal sibling fights that will stop. It never does, and when she fights me she gets some kind of happiness from seeing my down. She ruins my life. I am scared everyday I'm around her she will hurt me. I am truly so scared. I am crying every night even to the point i was contemplating suicide. I still am. Im in a very bad way, a very bad way and she loves it and keeps knocking me down. Everytime I get away from her, she finds me. No one understands how psychotic she really is. And I'm her victim. I literally don't even have to do anything, she will just turn angry as if she has IED or something .. Mum and dad can't control her either. She is out of control. And then at school, she plays an innocent little girl act and everyone thinks she's soo nice. She's fooling everyone.

Question: What do I do if people think I posted something on Facebook that I didn;t but they still think I did even after stating I didn't?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 02:02 AM PDT

Question: Sister walked in on me and my girlfriend having sex?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 01:31 AM PDT

There's not too much to explain here. Basically my gf comes over to my house a lot and i think it's rly cool that my sister and her get along really well. She sees her as like a sister. She comes over to my house almost everyday. So one time things were getting heated and I brought her to my room and I thought I locked the door. (We've had sex before in my room with family in the house.) yeah we are pretty quiet. So we were going at it, and my sister opens the door and was in the middle of a sentence (i don't remember what she said) but as soon as she saw what was happening her eyes widened and she quickly shut the door. This really sucks because I think I could have scarred her. She's only 15 (my sister). I'm 18 btw. But when my gf left my sister apologized and I reassured her that it was fine. God I'm such an idiot. Is there anything else I should do? Do u think I actually could have traumatized her?

Question: Ok, so there are a lot of similar questions to this, but still, i will ask anyway. Its about getting my parents to let me do what i want.?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 12:40 AM PDT

Im 13, and so when i turn 15, i want to move to south Korea and audition for FNC entertainment, or whichever one will accept me.My problems are, first, though i am a professional actress, i don't think i can get enough money in 2 years unless i get a major role, which i doubt i will for some reason. My second problem would be my parents. I was raised to love rock and roll, like MSI, Mushroomhead, Marilyn Manson, ect. When my parents first heard me listen to Kpop, they made fun of me, and my brothers joined. One of them didn't, but thats only because i got him addicted too. According to my parents, I've always been great at singing, and i took dance for 10 years. I play several instruments too, like piano, drums, bass guitar, and the recorder. I just don't know how i could convince them to let me move, even if I'm with someone older than me who they know and trust. I was never able to ask questions, so i don't know how to ask. I could audition without them knowing, but thats dishonest, they still probably won't let me go, and will find out sooner than later. I don't really want to disappoint my father, but i want to do something I'm actually good at. The last problem i have is that while I'm trying my hardest to master Korean now and for years to come, my parents want me to learn spanish because it is becoming a more popular language here in America. I don't know what to do. I really want to audition, but how can i overcome these obstacles?

Question: I have a different blood type from my parents? My dad is AB+ my mom is RH1- , I'm an A+ while my sister is AB+ like dad.Is this normal?

Posted: 04 Sep 2016 12:01 AM PDT

Question: My daughter just ran away, what should I do?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 11:46 PM PDT

First of all, my daughter is 20 (she just turned 20 3 weeks ago), and her boyfriend is 27 (about to be 28 this fall). So my daughter has been really sneaky and stuff about everything (always asking when we're going to bed, always questions why we're awake in the middle of the night, etc...). My wife ended up waking up at around 8:00 am, and saw that she left 2 notes on her bed, 1 saying to "The Family" and one saying to "Mom". In both of these, she just basically blamed me for everything, and she made up lies about her brother, and her sister. So we we're finally able to get in contact with her (through signing into her email onto her old phone), and she just told us that we caused everything and we are the ones who are pushing her out (when in reality, she's dating basically a pedophile, and he's also a police officer). But turns out... our neighbor said that she found out that he snuck in every night from 12:00 AM - 4:00 AM. And we also found a used condom and a box of pregnancy tests (there should be 2 inside, but they were both out). Plus another huge part of us acting differently towards her, is from her constant lieing (she would lie to one / all of us at least 2-3 times a day). And we've had big talks with her, and she keeps saying that she thinks nothing is wrong with him and that he's fine. But he's also trying to get her off of birth control, and he already had 3 kids with someone. So now she is looking into getting an apartment and is currently living in a hotel.

Question: Qué es la omisión de cuidados en un menor?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 11:36 PM PDT

Sé que tal vez me estoy metiendo donde no me llaman, pero mi "hermano" y su esposa son un par de irresponsables porque a cada rato se les enferman los niños, el mayorcito tiene tres años y el menor, un año. No les lavan las manitas antes de comer solo les pasan una toallita húmeda, no comen adecuadamente (les dan pizza, pozole, barbacoa, comida rápida y no les importa si los niños están enfermos del estómago etc) Hace unos días, al pequeño le hicieron nebulizaciones, el doctor dijo que no podía salir en seis días, pero los irresponsables padres lo sacaron con el pretexto que el día estaba soleado. La semana pasada, tuvo problemas estomacales, pero les valió gorro porque en lugar de preocuparse por su hijito, hicieron una fiesta. ¿Lo que acabo de mencionar es considerado omisión de cuidado? ¿Se puede denunciar? ¿Qué consecuencias legales habría en la Ciudad de México?

Question: My step brother caught me masturbating what do i do?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 11:01 PM PDT

I have known my step brother Pete for about a month now. We are both 17 year old guys, and we didn't get along well initially, but since we have bonded pretty well and are practically best friends now. We watch TV together, do our home works together, we eat from the same plate, we even take showers together. We have said to each other that nothing and no one will set us apart. Until recently... I was alone in my room and I was looking at this playboy magazine so i started "doing it".... Pete walks in and I will never forget the disappointed look on his face! He was like , what the heck are you doing! He looked at me with angry eyes and said I thought we were supposed to do everything together, remember!? And I thought we were brothers! He just walked away i tried to talk to him and explain myself but hes too pissed.. What do i do now? I have never had a brother so i do not know how Im supposed to make him feel happier. I don't want to break our bond

Question: People keep telling me I should quit learning Korean?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 10:49 PM PDT

Okay, so, just a few days ago I started learning it. I was hyped and excited and interested, and I KNEW I could do it. I was going well until yesterday, my mom saw my phone and immedietly asked me to stop learning it! Like seriously! And that she only allows me to listen to their songs (Kpop)! Hardly. What is that?! It's not like I'm watching porn or some horrible tv series like most of my friends do! It's not like I date/find boyfriends with my phone like my friends do! I'm learning something, though it's true it wouldn't come in handy but I like it. Learning languages is my hobby and passion, but it seems like all they care about is maths/physics/other school subjects. I'm secretly thinking of becoming a linguist besides the career my parents want me to have (Computer Engineer) Right now, I feel so hurt and confused, can you give me your advice on this? What should I do?

Question: My 5 year old son has been increasingly angry lately.He just said he wants his brother to die then said just pretending.should I be concern?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 10:42 PM PDT

Question: I'm looking for attention from my familyyyy??

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 10:40 PM PDT

i know this might sound super annoying but like how do i get attention from my family? my sister is the one who gets all the attention cuz my parents let her do the activities she wants, she always gets what she wants, and my extended family members (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.) always ask about her and never me. i'm basically not talented at all... i've tried a lot of things and trust me, i can't sing, act, dane, play a sport or an instrument. i don't wanna be obnoxious and loud, i just want a way to get attention from my family lol (even aunts, grandparents, etc.) can someone tell me what to do?trust me this isn't a joke😂

Question: How can I help my alcoholic mother?

Posted: 03 Sep 2016 10:00 PM PDT

So very long story short, my mom left my dad about 2 months ago. She's always been a heavy drinker; constantly drinking wine when she's home from work. But there's only been a handful of times she's been REALLY drunk. But she's acting like a teenager. Me and my siblings found out she's been sexting other men for years, even when she was married to my dad. And now that only I live in the apartment with her, she stays out every night until 2 or 3 in the morning and stumbles in slurring her words. I've tried on MANY occasions to tell her how worried I am. She becomes extremely angry if I ever bring up her drinking problem (she doesn't believe she has one.) I stay up and worry so much about her because I don't know where she is and I feel so helpless. My older two siblings are off in college so I don't have them and I can't talk to my dad because we aren't close and don't speak. But she's putting herself and others in danger and it's giving me extreme anxiety and I just don't know what to do. I've had a history of bullimia and self harm, and I've put that behind me, but this is so stressful I fear im going to relapse. I just don't know how to help her. She won't admit she has a problem and no one really knows except me. I have to keep focusing on my grades and college applications and SATs but I'm so worried about her all the time. Please help me. Anything. I just don't know how I can help her stop this because it's so unhealthy and she's a clear alcoholic. Thank you