Well I have been in a relationship for 6 years now to my now fiance and Childs father. He has always held a job since we ve been together except for The last job he s had and it s been a year. Well now I m just drained and tired of pulling the weight on my own. I feel that it s not fair and I need help. I want so much more for my life and my family and living off one income getting paid once a month with a child is not going to get me anywhere. All my income goes to bills and leaves me with about 200-300 through the month to get by and that s pretty much gas money and food. Now he has his brother living with us taking over my daughters room when he s there and he just runs in and out all day. So now I have an extra head in my household who also has nothing to contribute and I m really angry and upset at my fiancé for even allowing him to come stay with us when he doesn t even have anything to help contribute right now. It s to the point where I d rather do it alone without him. Sometimes I know he s trying and I try to be patient with him because I know he s always held a job and took care of his half but now that he s not it s really affecting my relationship with him even my sex drive. Idk what to do. Am I wrong? I m trying to be patient and stick by his side but I need help. And he tells me all the time that he wants to work and wants to contribute and that he s trying and appreciates me holding it down while he s out of work but idk of that s enough anymore

I seem to be quite content on my own now. I've just turned 50, have had 2 relationships with very nice guys, each of which lasted a few years and were live in. The first ended due to incompatibility - he was a lot more conservative than I was and the second, well he was a lot younger and that one broke my heart. I've been alone now for quite a few years, keep myself in good shape, eat well, have a good job and am very young at heart. I'm taken for 40 at max and get asked out by all sorts of men. Dating bores me though. I find it stressful, I find the guys want to rush into something physical or they simply don't attract me. My kind of guy seems to be already married. So for the last couple of years, I've decided to stay alone, with plenty of socialising of course with my girlfriends and male friends who know I'm not into dating. I feel fine about it, although I know I must be repressing sexual desire, though it doesn't seem to bother me at all. Is this unhealthy?

Me and my fiancé have very similar salary and we share our expenses half-half. A month ago we went on a vacation with his parents. During the vacation he kept paying for everything for all 4 of us including hotels, food, sightseeing, ...(~$4k) from our shared bank account. I was a bit uncomfortable with it and eventually I brought it up today. He got super upset. Should I be ok with it? If not, how should I discuss it?

In the past she has cheated on me several times. She didn't volunteer this information about the birthday card. I saw text from him asking her if she liked the birthday card, she gives me her phone when she gets home. When I questioned her about it, she went to her car to get it and showed it to me. She should have showed it to me without me having to ask for it. Why would she leave it in her car? She said she forgot about it. Is it just friendly gesture or should I be worried? She is young and she says he's older and married. Some ppl cheat anyways if they are married. The card pretty much said I know we've known each other for 3 weeks but I feel very close to you. He said I hope our friendship grows. He then quoted something by Abraham Lincoln that it's not the years in life but the life in years. He said he encouraged her to live life to the fullest and said Happy Birthday. If she never cheated and lied this card would not bother me. But she has cheated so I don't know what to think. Should I be worried?

I was married for 8 years, and divorced for a year. My sex life with my ex was totally different, he hardly ever reached climax and he watched alot porn.

I'm Mexican (American born) and my wife, his mother White (Welsh/English). I've noticed my son who's one year old looks like how a little white child would look. I don't see him any less I'm just asking why is this?

My girlfriend received a Pug from her mom. A few days before, I repeatedly voiced my opposition of having a new pup, but she completely ignored everything I had to say. Fast forward two weeks with the new dog, I just cannot get along with her. Keep in mind that a few weeks before the new pug, I was wanting to get a dog of my own (she already had a dachshund when I met her), but she got a turtle from a friend so I changed my mind about the new dog, since at this point we had one dog, a lizard and now a turtle. Now, I asked her repeatedly that I did not want her anymore and how frustrated she made me and that she wasn't potty trained and she appeared to refuse to be bothered with it, and she told me it didn't matter what I wanted because she loved the new pug and she didn't want to get rid of her since she was able to get attached to her. Of course that made me angry, and I feel like my rage over her disregard is being displaced away from her, and instead directed at the dog. Is this a logical response to be angry? I realize I shouldn't be mad at the dog, she didn't do anything but it's how I'm handling it. I want to better understand the way I am feeling and why I am reacting to the situation the way that I am.

Daughter went to visit her dad in Hawaii, we live in Cali, and now he is giving me trouble to get her back. I have physical custody and joint legal but the documents are when we were all in California he was stationed in Hawaii Dec. 2014.

Am a 31 years old man and I want a wife but everything I've done never worked a slight bit. My career is established and i need a partner. Am 6:1 and 135 pounds, I make good money cause am a computer engineer but when it comes to meeting women, I'd be lucky if a woman respond to my "Hi, My name is Kenny what's yours." I feel like am cursed, I feel like the world must be coming to an end if i meet a woman. My point in general terms is i can never meet women no matter how hard or little i try unless i was the only existing man on earth then maybe they will give me a chance. It's mind boggling how every woman, Young or old, Big or small, Rich or poor, White or black, disabled, mentally declined, Drunk, Every category and class of women reject me so much that it doesn't even make any sense. I've done all i can and spent thousands of dollars. I told my mom to find me a woman, I don't care how she looks, How she speaks, Whether she is disabled or not, As long as she is willing to listen to me when I speak and i can have a chance to respond back without her feeling bothered or telling me she has to go somewhere before she's late. I've went to a therapist to examine my whole image and he said there is absolutely nothing wrong with me mentally or physically. I don't smell and i always look clean and presentable. Am planning on marrying whoever my mom finds me because it would be a life fulfilling goal to me. Is anything wrong with my mom finding me someone? What else can i do?

I find my wife says should in nearly every sentence she speaks about politics, society, her friends, and work. She's very rejecting of behavior that doesn't fit her shoulds.

She came home one day and was all sour calling me a failure and a selfish peice of sh*t, I was like wtf? And then she came up to me and popped me in the face and my nose was fractured. I went to the ER because I couldn't breathe out of my nose. I was all bloody and a complete mess. When I came home from the ER she was crying and smothering with my with I'm sorry's but I just told her to stay away from me. I slept on the couch that night. And the next morning she apologized again and she made me breakfast and tried to have sex with me but I told her again to stay away from me and leave me alone. She still is blowing up my phone trying to talk to me but I don't even want to look at her. I'm really considering getting a divorce, should I ?

We got in to a relationship when I was 19, and him 28. Weve now been together 15 years, we have a 3 year old son together. I think we have a good relationship, and we had sex at least 4 times a week, until three months ago, we havent had any sex, he just gets in to bed and nothing.. I was speaking to my friend (the only friend I have here), last month and she said "he's scr*wing the nanny!", she said it jokingly but it's stuck in my head. I watched him and our babysitter (whose been with us for 5 months) closely, and I've seen him be inappropriate. Touching her thighs,putting his hand on her face,and putting her hair behind her ears for her. As I work away 3 nights a week, he's also suggested that she should sleep here to look after our son as he " just wants to sleep when he gets home from work". My insecurities were getting the better of me, I spoke to my friend and she said "if you ask him, you're showing that you do not trust him. Trust issues will break your relationship, find out for yourself, then let it go". Is this right? I'm not sure what to do. How would I find out if he's cheating on me? @swbarnes2 - we didn't know how old each other were at the time. To me, he looked young. And I looked older than 19, the age topic did not even come up until after we had been seeing each other for a few months. He's not a "predator". She is 30. And to the others, I've asked him why. He just said that he's taken on more in work, and is too tired.

By the way I am a guy.

I'm currently in college part time and working part time. My husband works full time. When he gets home he just throws his work clothes in a corner. He won't do the dishes or the laundry either. I ask him if he'll throw a load of laundry in the washer and I'll fold and put it away. He won't do this, so then I ask him if we have two baskets of laundry if he'll fold and put one away, he won't do it. He'll say he's going too, but he won't. I understand he's tired after work, but having college assignments plus going to school part time I can't be the one doing all the housework. I asked if he'd do the dishes last week and he said he would but he never did. Please help?

I want to go back to work 2-3 days a week because I feel isolated in the house all day everyday. I think this is a good compromise. My husband threatened to throw me out and divorce me if I dared even mention it again. He won t even let me leave my son with a babysitter or Mother s Day out so I can have some free time during the week to enjoy as I m so overwhelmed and have no family to ever help me. I feel he is being very narrow minded and honestly if it weren t for my son I would have divorced him a long time ago. Is he controlling or am I being unreasonable?

Proverbs 2 16 Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive words, 17 who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God.[a]

We have marriage for 1 years . Now , We have divorced ! We have two part : 1:We loved each others too much (u can't even imagine 2:we have serious problem often , she love me , I love her but problem is we two can't be matched . Love is love ! We can love but we don't like each other's . It's the reason of divorce . So , after divorce , i really hurt , hurt and hurt . Full of her image , her kind and her good behaviors without thinking her worst . I can't even sleep . Sometimes , I just wanna forget everything and run to her . But I might not . I must overcome it even I love her .

Personally, I'm actually pretty scared of power. I don't like to feel power, I don't like to be around power, I don't like to even talk about power. But someone said that the reason I suffer from low confidence (as a human - which in turn hurts my marriage) is because I am not empowered. While this is entirely true, I don't understand how that relates to confidence. How I know this is on to something is I don't feel like I'm an authority figure in my own life. At times I feel my wife is and at other times I feel like no one is (especially not me). Clearly there's a lack of empowerment, but is this really the source of my lack of confidence too? Maybe someone who still takes my questions seriously can explain to me how this works. I want to gain confidence, but is it true that the only way I can do that is to allow "power" to be a part of my life? And what happens when my wife and I have a real "power" struggle? Right now we have apathetic struggles where we argue over who cares the least until the person who cares slightly more has to do something the other person doesn't want to do...... Yes, my life with my wife is really this pathetic... And yes, my house probably is way dirtier than yours...

I have been married for 15 years. My husbands job takes him away from home for months at a time.Over the last 3 years I have had some major changes in my life at home.We have 2 teen kids at home.My kids and I eat vegetarian.He does not.He will not even consider it.The main thing is that I find myself loathing him.He will call me 3-4 times a day.And that would be a great thing except when he calls he "babytalks" me.Like a you would talk to a baby or a pet.He asks the same exact things over and over and over.Like what I am doing, What the kids are doing and What the weather is here. EXACT SAME QUESTIONS DAY IN AND DAY OUT.Every single time he calls.When he is home he just sits around on his device watching you tube or whatever.We don t do anything together anymore and haven t for years.At this point I am loathing him even coming home, but I am lonely too.I have ZERO desire for ANY intimacy because I can t stand the thought of being with someone who talks to me like I am a pet.I have told him this time and time again.He just says whatever baby, and dismisses me and does it again the next day or so.My kids could care less now if he comes home either because he has no bond with them at all. This job, is something HE picked.He has had several chances to get a different job, but I have no desire to have him home more than a few days at a time. What do I do? He never takes me seriously anyway?

My husband lives in another country for work. He came home for Christmas but we had a silly fight;he fully ignored me for 2 days; later, he dissed me and called me bad names, after which I left the house to sleep at my parents' for 2 nights. I called him to apologize for leaving the house and to ask him to forgive me and spend Christmas together as a loving couple on the most loving night of the year. He refused. He flew back and left me alone on Christmas eve Since then, he said that I didn't love him and that I abandoned him. I explained a hundred times that I love him a lot and that if I left the house, it was cause I couldn't stand being yelled at and disrespected, that didn't mean I abandoned him; that I love him and I'm willing to change behaviors that bother him and never leave the house again. But he won't listen. He is convinced that I left him and that I will leave him again if we get back together so he just wants a divorce! This has been going on for 2+ months. We have been totally no contact since Feb14, after I sent him a valentines day gift and he went mad at me for doing so. I am 30 and he is 38 I feel he has traits of a narcissist and I am going to meet a psychiatrist to ask about that. Now I'm thinking of going alone on a small trip for Easter vacation because I'm on the edge of depression. Since we are in no contact at the moment, should I tell him I'm traveling? or not? Will it make him rethink his attitude and maybe soften up a bit?Advise me please

When someone has an long term affair and cheats on their partner, is it love? Or could it start out as just sex and turn into love?

I'm writing a paper on how divorce effects children, and I need help splitting the paper into 4 main discussion topics. Any ideas?

I had an affair 10 years ago with a co-worker. It lasted 6 month and deepy damaged my husband. I've now come to discover he has been seeing prostitutes for the last 3 years. And even after being caught with an ashly madison account continued to see them becase "I didn't know about that part". we have 3 young children. Is it "even" or am I just a pathetic loser?

My husband has some really strange ideas. He thinks most people are stupid and that the way people think he should be is like, he's the man, he doesn't take no for an answer, he doesn't cry, he eats steel bolts for breakfast, he can bench press 300 lbs., and other stupid things that low IQ people say. But I don't think that at all. I think there is a very broad spectrum of correct ways for men to behave in marriage. How can I convince him that he's wrong about how people think about men in marriage?

I'm engaged and soon to be married. So excited! The thing is just that I was wondering what to do with the surname. My fiancé has a double barrelled name so there is no option to hyphenate, right? I don't want to lose my name altogether but I'm not sure whether I could just take one of his names and hyphenate it with mine. (I also don't want to make my maiden name my middle name) Oh yeah I live in the UK, in case it matters.

I'm 30 and My Husband is 53 and we have one kid together He's a Control Freak he wants to choice my friends and family which unfortunately I dont got anyone to Depend On for Emotional Support. All He Wants Me to Do is Stay Home Like i was his Pet or Something whenever I do go out with my daughter to get some Air .He throws a Fit and starts Accusing Me of cheating Like I'm going to Expose My Daughter into that type of Influence. I don't Hardly Go out to avoid any Arguments with him especially in front of mt daughter. Dont Get Me Wrong he Never had lay hands on me Ever but his accusations is kinda abusive Emotionally Right now I'm trying to Get my life together i'm tending my Ged courses after that get a Job and leave him.I do tell him off that i dont love him i can't stand him and if i was ever Rich i would leave him or have my Job we do get into a heated nasty arguments but after that he wants to make up like nothing had happen and yet He Goes out every 5 minutes and yet I'm to believe He isn't probably playing behind my back.That's why His Ex Wife had Divorce him because of his insercure controlling issues at least she did had her Family Siblings Support and her Job but i don't yet .At times i wanna Murder Him so bad because of all this abuse he's ain't no help for my recovery for my depression but I'm feeling everyday much more worst but he's Lucky that i don't do Because of My Daughter if it wasn't for her i think i would been in jail.

My boss and I used to be somewhat of friends. We'd ask each other for advice, run things by each other, etc. That was up until his wife covered for me when I was on ML in 2013. He was very helpful and understanding while I went through some major life changes (divorce, new man, and children). Now he's on my case because I still have leftover furniture from my previous marriage. I honestly don't recall how the topic came up, but he said I should've gotten rid of the furniture a long time ago. I've been remarried for nearly 3 years now, and we've been together for 3.5 years. Yes, I know it was fast, but we're happy. We're preparing to accept delivery of our new bedroom set this weekend. The dresser is going to the children's room, so we would be "rid" of everything that's leftover. Someone told me that re-purposing (??) things is kind of a new beginning in itself. Since we were preparing for our children (they're twins), replacing the furniture wasn't on our immediate TO DO list, nor was replacing household items (i.e. dinnerware and kitchen items, bath towels, decor). While everyone is entitled to their opinion, I don't think that's cause to criticize someone for still having leftover household items from previous marriage. Yes, 3 years is a long time, but things like diapers and formula aren't easy on a budget. My husband and I agreed that we would replace things slowly when our budget allows. And frankly, I don't believe he has any right to criticize. I'm closer with his wife, and I've known him longer. Yes, my husband knows and he's just as friendly with him, as well.

I'm going to be honest, I really don't care about the answers. I just want to see how many sexist people there are in the M&D who say something along the lines of "he's the man. he doesn't take no for an answer. he doesn't cry. he eats steel bolts for breakfast. he can bench press 300 lbs." and other stupid things that low IQ people say. @Jessica Newfer - Yes, but I can't best answer you because you have me blocked. Which is weird because I've never seen you before in my life so I don't know why.

My husband has had a slew of legal and financial issues in the four years that we have been together. The worst was the loss of his license due to drunk driving. Now, I realize that we all make mistakes, but it has been close to two years since he was eligible to get his license back and he refuses to do anything about it. I won't let him drive our kids because I don't want him getting arrested with them in the car and for other obvious reasons. He claims he doesn't have the $ to do it, but refuses to get a second job to help cover it. I am just now going back to work after being home with our two little ones so I have been unable to contribute to that as of yet. He is also refusing to tell me how much he is making or to contribute to our utility bills. He refuses to sit down and do a budget with me, and we are behind on many bills. He is angry with me for not letting him drive the kids or my car and says I'm not supportive enough. I don't think I'm perfect in any way, but am I wrong to be very unhappy with this situation? I thought I should add a couple more points. He has two children from a previous marriage and I love them very much. In some ways, because they have already seen so much marital discord I worry more about how divorce would affect them than I do about our two little ones. I found out he owes about $9k in child support arrears too. As I mentioned I have been home with the two small children but I am also in nursing school and I just started working again.

After I lost my bread-winning job in 2010, my (then 29 year old) wife was not happy that roles reversed and regularly insulted me and nagged me (tough love?) to try to "motivate me" to get another job and reverse roles back to the way they were (her at home)... I was NOT motivated by this. I couldn't return to work because of depression/anxiety, so her backhanded remarks about me not being a "real man" or a "real husband" hurt. I needed compassion, not candor. Near the end of my depression she was ready to quit her job due to her own fears (social phobia) so she gave me an ultimatum (tough love to level 9001+) and threatened that she'd kick me out of the house if I didn't do something other than houseclean, cook, and take care of the kids because that (as SHE saw it) was HER job... By now, the trauma was launched and I had a choice to make - face my fear of abandonment or face my fear of incompetence... The fact divorce was even an option hurt me deeply. Lucky for me her employer was hiring and I was actually kind of good at the job (still here). Also lucky for me, she remained working here because I'm here to protect her from her fearful thoughts. All's well right? No. My confidence still wavers from high to low because I still haven't created my identity since my job loss; I identified too much with my former employer and not enough with my values. Now she's bothering me for a HIGHER paying job so she can quit... I'm not emotionally ready for another ultimatum... This question is me trying to set my story "correct". Two fearful people, not ready for adult life, fell on hard times, and lots of anxiety. For the last 2 years though, my wife is very happy with my behavior since I work a decent paying job and she is being treated the way she desires to be... Any complaints I made about my wife up to now was indeed me overthinking, being "butthurt", and/or part of my fears. To be honest, I don't want to talk about any of that, I want to talk about confidence. SERIOUSLY - If we can stop with the blame game and we can just get focused on the building of self confidence. Honestly, this isn't for your entertainment folks, I am looking for someone to help me look beyond the past, and regain confidence in myself. If you don't have a 12 step program or any general idea on how to do this, then please don't answer. I'm blocking anyone who chooses candor over compassion and I'm not looking back on this. Either help, or leave.

I've been dating my husband for 5 years been married for 2 weeks...now my marriage is getting weird. My husband has been making weird ***** jokes like "I want to plant my genetic material inside you" and a few times he's asked "when you gonna have my baby". I never laughed at these jokes as I don't see the humor in it. Well a few days ago he crossed the line and when we were having sex he nutted in me. I yelled at him all morning and all he could say was sorry.when I have my periods he always says "damn, it didn't work...oh well there's always next time" I don't know what's going on with him but I used to think it was some weird kinky sex fetish now I think he wants to have a baby and doesn't know how to tell me. I've sat down with him and asked if he wanted to have a baby and he says it's just jokes...well now I'm not so sure :/ but um getting annoyed =___=

would you be the REAL best man?

I'm 25 . He got a therapist, I talk to him about why so depress , I been patient for so long . It's really hurting me hearing my husband rejecting sex with me over 45 times ! We didn't even have sex on honeymoon and been married for 1 year and 8 months . Do I keep waiting ???? Which could be another year from now .

Like how much of a dad can i be to her you see I always wanted a daughter but never had any kids so its funny the way things work out shes 5 years old by the way.