Family: Question: Mom mom and I don't get along?

Question: Mom mom and I don't get along?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 02:13 PM PDT

I'm the youngest of 2, and I live with my mom. I don't feel like I have a very good relationship with my mom either. We argue all the time. She get's irritated by the littlest stuff, I just don't understand it. She gets mad when I ask questions when I can't find something (she always says I "didn't even look".), even when I say "ok" to "stuff that doesn't require an answer" whatever that is??? I always do what she tells me to do, but if I were to say "I'll do it in a second" she'd say something along the lines of "no, do it now." She comes home from work just yelling for no reason. I could literally clean the entire house, with one dish left in the sink, and she'd say I "didn't do sh*t", and it really gets annoying. I feel like I can't even tell her about my accomplishments in school. I could be telling a story and she'd cut me off just to tell me to do something else. Whenever we argue, she always likes to use the words "I'm grown, I can do and say whatever the f*ck i want" I don't like the way she talks to me. She always says there's something wrong with me for getting mad when she yells for no reason. I'm one of those people who like to walk way from a situation when I'm irritated, so whenever I do that with her she takes offense to that. She chases me down and hits me. She literally says "we're exactly alike, that's why we don't get along" when I completely disagree, lol. Whenever people get mad in this household they always want to hit someone, and I could go on.

Question: I Need Someone To Talk To About My Problems?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 01:43 PM PDT

Hi, I've been clinically depressed now for years but I've never did anything about it. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot about different things and i feel like it's best if we get a divorce. I've been having problems with my weight and my doctor diagnosed with me type 2 diabetes. Each year, It's like i have no control over my daughters and they keep getting worse and worse! I know i have a lot of problems in life, please, all i need is to talk to somebody to let all my stress out. https://www.facebook.com/theresa.berg.35 My facebook profile. I forgot, message me on my facebook profile to discuss about this.

Question: My dad keeps bringing up a mistake i regret making!!?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 01:36 PM PDT

I made a huge mistake driving my friends dads car without his permission I know it was stupid but I got in BIG trouble with my parents. The dad claimed I "stole" his car. Anyways, this happened a couple months ago and I hate thinking about it because it makes me feel horrible. Now every time I make a little mistake, my dad ALWAYS brings up that time I "stole" the car to prove his point that I don t always make the best decisions even if they are the slightest mistakes. I am so over that situation!!! Someone please help he makes me feel so bad about it and if I try talking to him about it, he will just say crap like it s a mistake I can never take back or shouldn t of done it in the first place!!

Question: Why don't some people appreciate the good things a person does?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 01:19 PM PDT

For example when my relatives were moving near us, my mom let us in their house and cooks for them. She helps them a lot, but in the end they lied to other people that my mom was a bad person and all sort of mean things. They are unhappy people, but why can't they just say thanks to my mom and maybe invite her to a restaurant? They act like she is a BAD PERSON, and she is wrong and they are right. WHy can't they just be like : Thanks, but this is too much, but would you like to go out to blah blah blah, it's on us.

Question: Why is he doing this?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 01:10 PM PDT

My friend is in my town i blocked his twitter and he posted a pic of my countrys flag ( when i visited his country i posted a pic of his countrys flag and he saw it) so how do i ask him to meet? Hes here right? What do i say? He was supposed to come in vacation and now its holiday time. What do i say and how? Thanks

Question: Girls who drive would you have done this?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:52 PM PDT

I just got back from picking up my sister at her friends house. Since it was warm out and I did not go in anyplace and came right back home I drove in my bare feet and left my shoes at home.

Question: Do many fathers like to turn their daughters into "pieces of a-ss?"?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:52 PM PDT

http://www.abc-7.com/story/33347572/donald-trump-to-howard-stern-its-okay-to-call-my-daughter-a-piece-of-*** A creepy old man calls his daughter that right to his face, and he says basically, "Go ahead."

Question: My mother is abusive physically and emotionally?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:42 PM PDT

I'm a 16 yr old girl and live with my mother and siblings. My dad died when I was 3. As long as I remember my mom has beaten me bloody, given me black eyes, calls me a dirty slut (I've never even had a boyfriend, she just calls me that bc of my figure which I can't control) and emotionally blackmailed me to do what she wants. I've always been close to my aunt (my dads sister) who my mother despises because my aunt is successful and she isn't. Recently, after my mom beat me in the middle of a parking lot, I decided I wasn't gonna live like this anymore. I texted my aunt and asked if I could live with her in San Francisco (I'm from NYC) and she said she would come this weekend and call the police on my mom. Well my mom found the texts. She threw my phone onto the subway tracks. I feel like I'm suffocating living here... My life is so **** and she wants me to fail. I have a job but I can't support myself at 16 in a city like new York, my mom is struggling to survive as it is. Advice?

Question: Can my father legally confiscate my laptop and camera if my parents are divorced?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:34 PM PDT

I am 16 living in between my mom and dad s houses. My father is my primary guardian, so I see my mom every other weekend. I would prefer to live with my mom, because I have relationship problems with my dad. If I were to take my belongings to her house and move there, could my father legally confiscate my belongings?

Question: If I miss a family reunion then do I not count as family anymore?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:33 PM PDT

I told my brother this as a joke last year but now I am wondering if it is true

Question: How to deal with meeting my 17 year old son for the first time in 6 years?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:26 PM PDT

Tomorrow I am meeting my son for the first time in over 6 years. The last time I saw him he was 11 - just a kid but he's virtually a man now. The last time I saw him was behind glass in county jail before I got extradited. I did 6 years in prison and am out a few months now and am on parole. I am a changed person and am back working in construction. I know he looks on my ex husband as his Dad and I don't know how to handle that. I'm 35 but it feels like I am the kid and he is now the man and I am nervous about meeting him again after all this time.

Question: Is it rude to ask family if a family reunion is planned anytime in the coming year? Is that like self-inviting or is that perfectly okay?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:24 PM PDT

Question: My boyfriend of 5 years told me I need to fix my attitude towards his family and get rid of one of my cats or its over.?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:11 PM PDT

We have had ups and downs and have always come out the other side stronger. In the past, he always had trouble trying to figure out what he wanted through what his family would say about us or his friends. He has gotten much better at that not really happening anymore. This past weekend, he visited his family while I stayed home and now he is saying that I need to fix my attitude towards his friends and family and that I have to get rid of one of my cats. He has always been on my side for most of these issues because his family is a little manipulative but I love them and try to get along with them no matter what. The only friend I ve ever not gotten along with I have gotten along with him fine before until his girlfriend broke up with him now he insults me to his face. I don t know what to do, I try my hardest and I feel so stretched thin but I know he loves me and I love him.

Question: Why is my dad hitting me?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:11 PM PDT

Okay so I've been spanked my whole life. No big deal lots of people are…..then I went through a hard time and started cutting about 2 years ago and my dad stopped hitting me my mom didn't but my dad did I stopped cutting about 4 months ago and now I just got hit for the first time in 2 years by my dad…. For telling my sister to hush literally that's why he hit me….. I just want to know why you guys think he's started doing it again? And is there any way I can get him to stop? I mean it's 2016 we don't need to hit people anymore.

Question: My parents think it is my uncle's fault his son is a felon because the uncle (mother's brother) was too nice to son. Is it his fault?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:05 PM PDT

I thought a felon is responsible for their actions not the felon's parents. My parents wont go around my Mom's brother unless they have to because they say he is just as guilty as the son but the uncle's only flaw is he gave his son legal fees and doesn't tell people "my son is in jail" and those flaws I understand and don't think are flaws. By being nice I just mean after the arrests he doesn't tell people "my son is in jail" rather he wishes not to talk about it. When asked he says "he is away for awhile traveling" and answers like that. So my parents, mainly my Mom, say he is enabling. When the son was a kid the uncle disciplined fine just like my parents to my knowledge though we were never super close.

Question: My Mom is livid my Dad and I are going on an outing with my Dad's parents tomorrow instead of Mom and her Mom, how do I get my Mom to chill?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 12:03 PM PDT

My other siblings are going with my Mom but my Dad and I are going on this outing already arranged with his parents (my grandparents) that sounds funner plus we see my Mom's mom (my maternal grandmother) more often so I want to see my Dad's parents (my paternal grandparents). My Mom is livid with us but all her event will be is the blessing of my grandmother's new house and others will be there, Plus I just spent last weekend with her. How do I get my Mom to chill. She is driving me nuts and is angry like I actually did something wrong. I am a sophomore in high school so I am lucky I got Dad's permission to go against Mom here.

Question: I feel guilty and responsible for the breakup of my mother's family, how do I get over this?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:58 AM PDT

I was molested by a member of my mother's family. I came out about it and my mother opened up about abuse from that same member and how her mother failed to protect her which led to a fight between them. They are not as close since though they still talk on holidays and birthdays (they used to be very close). The person who abused me (my Mom's older half-brother) is now banned from family events at our house so only 2/3 of the family comes. We never see his daughters anymore as they stopped speaking to him and they are just with their mother. I reach out to his two daughters but they never want to get together so I have only seen them twice in last 10 years (both times funerals). The abuser has no remorse but I feel guilt that I divided everyone my Mom's family used to be like the Brady Bunch besides this one relative (the abuser). The abuser was my grandmother's son from her first marriage but my grandfather adopted him as his real father left the picture and later died. So how do I get over the guilt I feel about breaking up my mother's family even though I did it indirectly by coming out that I'd been molested more then once? I should add he is in jail now for another case

Question: I don't want to live at home anymore. But I'm 14. Please read all?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:57 AM PDT

It's a lot easier to speak over the Internet about this. It would be hard speaking to my councillor about this because it's face to face. Please read this far. I need someone's suggestions and help. Thank you xox

Question: I do t want to live at home anymore. But I'm 14. Please read all?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:55 AM PDT

I cannot quiet remember what happened next but baisically we got referred to family therapy which is much more intense than family councelling. Me and my mum went and I spoke about how I felt and also explained how I always felt on edge with everything and how I thought I may have anxiety. She said something along the lines of 'you seem very anxious but I'm not a GP so I cannot diagnose'. That has been the last thing that's happened. Me and my dad argued that much that once that he left me on a little road off the motorway for 20 minutes and I had no idea where I was. And I've even ran away from home once and my mum rang the police because she thought I'd gone missing! It's at the point where nothing really has changed we don't have fistfights anymore but the only time I speak to my dad is to argue. I feel so trapped and I'm constantly counting down the days for when I can leave home. 643 days. But I don't think I can physically go on any longer I'm so tired of everything. And I feel so done with everything. All I want is to leave. I feel like me and my family could get on so well in small doses but I just don't work well with them. And it's really sad to think about the fact that things are so bad that I don't think I can carry on for much longer but I need you to understand that everyday is a struggle to want to get out of bed because I know that my dad will make sarcastic comments. Please read next question. Last one I promise🙂Xxx

Question: Family Help?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:54 AM PDT

I m only a 14 year old guy, nearly 15 in a few months, and I need help. My 16 year old brother is really abusive and hurts the rest of my family. He beat up my mom twice, still takes therapy, and the cops came over once. My mom has tried to help him kindly, and he ended up making her cry. Then she tried kicking him out the house, and that didn t work out either. My room s fan is broken, the door is half broken, all sorts of furniture in the house is chipped, and my mom s phone is now bent. I tried looking for help on the internet but all that says is the parents being abusive, but that isin t the case. I m not one to hit or anything to make him afraid, but I need advice, anything helps. Thanks

Question: My mother says I cannot date handsome men because they will cheat on me like my step-father did to my Mom, is this true?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:51 AM PDT

Should I be worried or bother dating at all? I am Mommy's girl so I want to stay on good terms with her

Question: How can you deal with a significant other that overreacts to disagreements?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:50 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I don t really fight, but sometimes one of us will snap at each other or have a disagreement over something. This will happen maybe once a month. Last night we had one - I felt like he was picking on me a little bit throughout the whole night and got upset. When I explained to him why (there were three separate instances that night where I felt picked on), all of a sudden it turned into something big (to him). I just wanted to communicate and get over it, but he took it to another level. This tends to happen most of the time in our "scuffles." How would one deal with this? I m not saying I m always right, but I feel like he really blows issues out of proportion. A lot of times he takes things really personally too. He also seems to think that any fight is a sign that we have a dysfunctional relationship. Side note, his parents divorced when he was a teenager and I think his family has a lot of drama (lots of hard feelings, periods when they don t talk to each other, brother with drug abuse, mother with mental health issues).

Question: I don't want to live at home anymore but I'm 14? Please read all?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:48 AM PDT

Right, so I have not been getting on with my family since I was 7 years old. When I was in Y7 things got very bad between me and my dad. We arguened constantly and it got to the point where I wouldn't talk to him and the only time I would would be to argue. This carried on all the way through Y8. When I was in Y9 my mum started to get involved in the arguments and made me turn against her, because I felt like she would stir between me and my dad by telling us what we wanted to hear even though it was true. Then in November last year things got very violent between me and my dad. I don't want to go into too much detail but we had full on fist fights with each other about once a week. It's not something I'm proud of. However, one time my mum had had enough so she went to my school about it. I was not happy about this because I didn't want school knowing about my personal issues. But I'm sort of glad now. My mum spoke to so many people about it which was annoying I'm not going to lie. We went for family councelling. My dad hates councelling so he dropped out which was very frustrating because me and my mum couldn't do it anymore. Then I got a councellor in school. It really helped. I first I wasn't sure but now I'm grateful. Please read my next question I explain more xxx

Question: My mom thinks I'm annoying...?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:46 AM PDT

Today I asked her a question about what college I think I should go to. Me: Mom, do you think I should go to TCU? Mom: No. Me: Why not? Mom: *doesn't respond, and continues to watch television* Me: Mom? Why don't you think I should go to TCU? Mom: I don't know! Why do you always talk without thinking? Me: I was just asking. Mom: You're always doing that thing, talking just to hear your own voice. Think before you speak! Your voice is so annoying I wish you'd just shut up. Even if I'm talking to my mom about going vegetarian she totally disregards the conversation and goes on about how she thinks that I talk without thinking, she tells me I'm annoying. She once told me that she should've aborted me. She apologized multiple times, but my feelings are still hurt.. Should I just stop talking to her?

Question: Am I jeopardizing my a black man's job by visiting him at work?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:44 AM PDT

Do you call this karma? I'm 28 years old and grew up with a SUPER over-protective dad who controlled my every movement and always wanted me to wear clothes that HE wanted me to wear, speak the way HE wanted me to speak. Now I'm living in a more independent living group home and I want to visit my dad at his job. But he's a manager at a golf course and he thinks he's the President of the United States. I understand that he worked his butt off in his life to get where he is now but he lost his empathy for his family on the way. He never asks me how I'm doing. He just asks me if I need money and tosses the cash over to me. But when I was a child, he was unemployed and treated me like a princess. Now he's a manager and he doesn't put his family as a priority. So I want to pop in at his job to say hi and see his reaction. I'm sure he is going to FLIP HIS LID, but maybe this will be an opening for us and my mom and my brother to all go to family therapy, don't you think? My family used to be super close and the more time goes by, the further we grow apart and are separated by money and our ego's. Should I take this opportunity to see if I can bring us back together again?

Question: How many of your street's neighbors do you plan on or have invited to your parties?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:41 AM PDT

Question: My mom slut-shames me for just about everything.?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:33 AM PDT

My mother slut shames me for everything I do. My sports bra showing under tank tops, wearing the shorts she picked out for me, and letting my boyfriend of a year and a half put his arm around me in public. She says it makes me look like a whore. She said that all my friends all ready think I'm a slut so why would I try and add to it. My friend's don't think of me like that. One girl, my moms best friend's daughter, would go around telling people that, but no one believed her. She told me that I'm a disappointment because I quit dance. I quit dance when it gave me an eating disorder and they started making us undress and twerk on stage. She constantly shames me for what I wear. All clothes that she has approved and picked out for me. I feel like she constantly judges me because I'm in therapy and I have to take medications. She looks at me like I offend everyone when I walk out the door. She told me that if I keep on this path that I am going to end up pregnant before I'm out of highschool. I haven't done anything wrong. I get good grades, I do my work and don't complain about chores. I do what I am supposed to. The only difference is that I developed faster than the other girls my age. Like they are just starting to wear bras and I'm in a D cup. My dad doesn't do anything about this because he is in the army and isn't here most of the time. He told me that it's okay to hug my boyfriend in public as long as we aren't kissing. I just want this all to stop.

Question: THE WORLD IS GOING TO END?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:27 AM PDT

Ok so I know that it is going to end soon but my parents won't let me prepare my dad has a type a personality and he doesn't approve of it. I'm 13 male and I am a part of anonymous. I need to know how to prepare on a tight budget. And how do I get my parents to let me prep?

Question: What is common law...regarding marriage. I've been with someone ten years. He's Jewish and we aren't common persons...disappointed in him?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:24 AM PDT

Question: Can i steal get a marriage certificate when i am divorced ??

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:15 AM PDT

Question: My mother grounded my little brother for a extremely long time over a small thing? WTH?!?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 11:15 AM PDT

my mother grounded my little brother for watching things such as horror like five nights at freddys', even though my parents are religious, they grounded him for something like 3 MONTHS!!!!! yeah thats right 3 MONTHS!!!!!!!!! and his birthday is in like in a week so hes not going to have one, come on... why not tell him to not watch them and add restrictive filters to his pc but GROUNDING HIM AND TAKE AWAY HIS BIRTHDAY WILL NOT HALP, what the hell..... and the next day, my mom is still pissed off now my mom is SO PISSED AT ME FOR STUPID REASONS, EVEN SMALL ONES, when my room is a mess, she saId "PUT YOUR MARKERS AWAY, YOUR SISTER ARE PLAYING WITH THEM FROM YOUR BACKPACK, PUT YOUR BACKPACK AWAY...." when i responed h-how can my sister grab markers from my bckpack when its on the very top of my shelf, THEN SHE SEEMED REALLY PISSED AND SAID DONT YELL, I DIDNT EVE YELL!?!??!?!?!??!?!

Question: Arguing over cost of present?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 10:54 AM PDT

It's my parents 25th wedding anniversary next month and my brother, his fiancé and I decided to get them a present between us which cost £150. I'm only 18 and only just started my job so £50 seemed like a lot (since they don't usually really do much for their anniversary) but I agreed to it. However, my brother and his fiancé think that since they are a couple and share a bank account they should only pay half. They've now bought it and I'm expected to pay £75. Note, he's 24 and she's 23. He earns £40k a year and I don't know how much she earns but it's a lot more than me. Am I right to think this is unfair? Or should I just pay half?

Question: How long do people with ALS have left to live?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 10:35 AM PDT

-His talking is difficult, but we can still understand with some effort -He cant walk without a bunch of assistance -He resides in a nursing home now -Sits in a wheelchair mainly -50ish years old

Question: How to give my dad karma? Help!!!!!!!?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 10:34 AM PDT

Ok. So my dad has a type A personality. He is always looking down on my mom. I have bipolar depression and he is not helping. He just threw some of my moms stuff away. He always does this and when someone lays a hand on his stuff he has a hissy fit. My mom feels worthless witch is causing me so much stress I m close to killing myself. He is abusive to me and my two other siblings. When he gets mad he gets violent. He always tells us to do all this stuff and he just sits on his lazy *** and watches tv. He has a hobby of holiday lights decorating. I m a 13 year old boy and my mom is 45 years old. We should not have to deal with all of this. I thought that if I were to unplug his lights every night and sent secret codes to him he might stop. I am a part of anonymous and I want to change the world. I just don t want to be caught giving him karma because I m he does he will kick my ***. I need to get him to stop doing this to the family. He acts like he is the king of the world and that a wife and three kids are slaves. I m not that lazy teen that wants to get away with everything but one that is concerned. Just PLEAS help me that would mean so so so much. Thank you.

Question: I have a depressed mother?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 10:25 AM PDT

I'm an only child, she got married at 18, my father was 30. My father got diagnosed with ALS and she visits him everyday in the nursing home but i'm sure she does not love him, she just does it so he wont feel bad. She's a kind mother, but she's so stressed, tired, and she basically has no life. I'm just a lazy teenager who stays online all the time, i'd like to talk to her but she never listens. I can't get counseling nor outside help so what should I do? She wont go to a psychologist, doctor, ask for help or anything. Please help me all I want is my mother to be happy, thank you and have a nice day.

Question: Grandma has roaches?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 10:01 AM PDT

So this weekend I told my grandma I wanted to stay a night this weekend because all my friends live in her town. So my grandma has HUGE roaches that come out every single night. She is very clean and cleans about everyday. I have a phobia with crawlers and sometimes I just freeze up when I see one for some reason. What should I do? Should I just suck it up and go? Thanks

Question: My Mom yanked the back of my scalp and threw me at the wall?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:51 AM PDT

So here s what happened: My mom told me to clean behind my sisters dresser and i refused because it s not my room. So she came in yelled at me then yanked at the back of my scalp then threw me against the wall. Then, I sat on my sisters bed trying to hold back my tears and my little sister goes "don t just sit there, clean!" What should I do/feel? (Please no lectures on why I should obey my parents) I went into my room and she told me to get off my @$$ and start cleaning it.

Question: Can I move out when I m 16 with a blood relative?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:46 AM PDT

My step dad is a alcoholic. My mother and him fuss almost every day. My mother takes her frustration with him out on me. I ve called the law twice one for him destroying my things in my room, the other for my Mother hitting me in my face, choking me on the ground, and slamming my head again my wall. (yes I defended myself) The law will not do anything because my uncle is a cop and they have connections. I basically feel voiceless and no one will stand up for me. So I do everything that I can even if I can t make a change. I turn 17 within 2 months. But I would like to leave now because I can t take this much longer. I have a job, perfect grades. Yes I have a smart mouth but I m a teenager. When I move out I m probably going to move in with my Deddys grandma, or my Step mom.

Question: Am I Wrong for telling my family member she has to leave?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:44 AM PDT

She hasn t paid the rent for September and it s October already. We agreed to split the 1600 rent down the middle, but I still haven t received her half. I asked her when will she have the money she said she dosent know, and I asked do she has anything in her savings she said no she spent it all for her birthday. I feel wrong for telling her to leave because in all honesty i can afford to pay an extra 200-300 a month and it can help her save, but I just want her to learn responsibility that rent comes before fun, partying, shopping and etc. Also I m trying to save up to eventually become finically stable because I had to learn the hard way about spending money I didn t have. Please be realistic when you answer. (Btw I m 22 she s 24)

Question: How do I respond when my Mom scolds me for seeing my Dad if she finds out?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:07 AM PDT

I am seeing my Dad tomorrow and if my mother finds out or gets suspicious as to why I am not coming to her place for dinner what do I tell her? She gets furious I relate to my Dad as she didn't let me see him as a kid because she doesn't like him so she punished me. As a teenager I forced her to let me and I am close to him as an adult. I am extremely nervous when my mother gets mad at me because she was always extremely nervous when her mother got mad at her (it is a generational thing). Yet, I insist on knowing my Dad despite my mother alienating me from him as a kid to use me. I am 29. He is remarried and he is in town with my step-mother seeing her sister.

Question: My Dad always favors my out of town siblings over me because he doesn't see them as often, how do I get him to like me just as much?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:05 AM PDT

It is not that I want him to like me more, just to like me equal. I am 25. I can't move as I have a career here locally. As a kid I was the child who took up the most time also so he might resent me for that.

Question: How can I get my Mom to let me see her relatives who are in town from the hurricane?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 09:03 AM PDT

She won't let me because she fears I will inconvenience her mother who she fears.

Question: Is to bad live with my parents over 18?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 08:47 AM PDT

I'm Just turn 18 years old boy and i live with my parents and 2 Younger brothers, (13 and 12 years old) Im going tô College next year, we live in Tampa, FL We live near my College And my parents ask me to keep live with them during the College We have a good house and i dont know why i have tô move out The only problem here is the fights between me and my brothers, is really bad some times, we fight a lot, physycally, but we get along well most part at the time Is that soo bad? Live with parents over 18 is too wrong ? Why?

Question: I have hate for my own mother?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 08:36 AM PDT

I feel like my mom is the worst mom anyone could possibly have. My mom has never applauded me for my accomplishments. She talks down on me for trying with my life. I have a 4 year old son and a unborn on the way and she calls me a bad mom because of what I do. I am a assistant pre-k teacher and I work a hour away from home. My son goes to work with me and I am also a full time student. She says I am a bad mother because I pay more attention to my job than my child and I should quit my job and dropout of school because I will never amount to anything in life. I have 2 younger brothers who are in high school on the other hand who literally go to school and do nothing! Phone calls come in everyday and they skip school at least 3 days out the week and she praises them. I feel like she hate me for some reason but she praises my brothers. I am to the point where I can't deal with my own mother and I just think I need some time from her. I can't the antics she throws at me and I am fed up with her poor mothering skills. What should I do?

Question: Are older siblings better looking than younger siblings?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 08:18 AM PDT

So, my mom has a friend, and that friend has two sons. OThe younger one, Jack, is my age(16), and the older one, Cal, is 19. Cal is in college and came here for the weekend. (he goes to WashU, which is apparently a really good college). Anyway, I've always noticed that Cal looks much better looking than Jack. I mean, Jack is avarge looking, but Cal is really hot. I've noticed this a lot of times, and this is the biggest example. Is this random, oris there some reason for this?

Question: Is it wrong to despise and wish ill will on my sons father even ten yrs later?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 08:08 AM PDT

Question: Found out i was a mistake, Could this be the reason why i ve always been very shy and closed up to the world?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 07:18 AM PDT

Just to be clear my mother is very loving, but she told me i wasnt a planned child and my grandma wanted me to be aborted. Just wanted to know if stuff like that could've effected my personality being born

Question: Is it normal for parents to say they are going to kill their kids?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:33 AM PDT

My mom says she's gonna kill me all the time for really stupid stuff.Like yesterday as soon as i woke up she told me i needed to get started on school (I'm home schooled) and when i asked if i could have breakfast first she said she was going to kill me. I thought this was normal until i told a friend about it and he was really confused on why she'd say that to me. Is it normal?

Question: My mother wont let me meet my birthmother (I am adopted) because she says "I raised you not her", what do I do, I want to meet her?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:29 AM PDT

I am an adult but I don't like tension with my Mom, it makes me nervous. I have always felt guilty I am adopted like I did something wrong. My mother says my birthmother never wanted me so why would I go seek her out. She also seems jealous. My Dad hopes I will and got angry at my Mom for saying these things. My mother also claims my birthmother was a whore but my Dad says that is unresolved anger my Mom has and to ignore that (the birthmother was a maid who stole from my parents for drugs but got rehab after I was born and was 3 years sober last my parents heard). So what do I do? I am 20 and want to meet her but don't want to have tension at home. My sister is adopted and does not want to meet her birthparents (she is 23) unless they look for her and they haven't so my mother asks why I can't be like her. My other sister is not adopted (she is 16). I am a boy (only son in the family). My Dad says my birthmother cried when I was born and loved me but wanted me to have a good home, my mother said she was lazy and never wanted me, I have never known which to believe.

Question: I feel guilty for what I did to my parebus and idk what to do?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:27 AM PDT

I'm 14 and I went to the hospital a while back. I was having very very very severe cramps. It was to the point where I had seizure like shakes, nausea, cold sweats and a lot of pain. The hospital hardly did anything for me. All they did was keep me there for hours and gave me one shot of pain reliver.Now my parents have to pay so much money. I feel terrible, although it's not my fault that this happened to me. My dad even showed me the bill. He was angry. I just don't know what to do...I hate having people spend so much on me. The bill was nearly 4,000 dollars. Most was covered by insurance but they still have to cover 700 dollars. Ik my parents are having a hard time as it is and I just hate this whole situation. I don't know how to make it up to them rather than trying to pay them back. The only time I ever get a lot of money is if I get payed at work or on Christmas and my birthday. But it's ussually only 100 dollars and it's not enough to pay back. I'm just so sad rn 😭

Question: Everyone in my family fears my sister who is narcissistic like, is this normal and how do I break this cycle?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:23 AM PDT

They do what she says (my Mom is the worst about this). For example, if she has a big enough fit they give her what she wants even if it is inconvenient for the rest of us who are mature enough not to have a fit at 45-60 (family of 5 grown kids). For example, when my parents had their 50th wedding anniversary plans were altered greatly making it inconvenient for us to arrange convenience to the daughter who is a narcissist and her schedule she could have changed. The one time of year dates are not changed for her and others plans are considered (Christmas) she goes off and does her own thing and pouts. So what my question here is if this is normal narcissistic family cycle reactions from the other members (everyone fearing the person and thus giving them what they want). As she gets what she wants with the exception of Christmas. She is a typical narcissist including shunning one of her kids (her only son who lives with his Dad now) and worshiping her daughter who is easy going with another kid in the middle (the normal kid). Is all this normal?

Question: My cousin's parents are both siblings to my parents. What are they really?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:11 AM PDT

My mom's brother married my dad's sister. So I share 25 percent of my dna with my cousins, making them biologically my half siblings. right?

Question: How do I respond if my Dad starts scolding me for upsetting my mother by seeing my brother who is the family outsider?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 06:01 AM PDT

My brother is a drug addict so we don't talk to him, he is considered bad and shunned from the family. My parents say it is the only way he will get better (I don't get this and disagree). I secretly see him anyway though I don't give him money and limit visits to once a month. So far I haven't gotten caught but if I do what do I say if my Dad finds out and scolds me? My Dad cut him out of the family for his better saying an addict needs to hit rock bottom but it was so unlike my Dad that I think he did it more for my mother who is my brother's step-mother (he is my half-brother technically) as my mother hates her step-son so it was affecting their relationship. She offered to forgive him if he gets help only as he has stolen from them. She boasts that no one will cry when he dies (at her brother's funeral no one cried and her brother was a drug addict so this brings up old anger of hers). So what do I say if my Dad catches me? So far I am good but if I do get caught? I am 19. Got no answers in family so trying etiquette since I am looking for what to say (etiquette)

Question: I fear my parents, they say if I disrespect their wishes at any age I betray them and I need their permission as long as they are alive?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 05:56 AM PDT

So what do I do? For example, I am 25 and I have things I want to do but my parents wont let me. I live on my own but I still must check in with them each night like a kid. If I refuse I am scolded. We live on a family compound and we can't move off it. If I get married with families one day we must remain on the family compound. This is how my mother was raised. Her brother was considered an outcast because he moved away at his wife's insistence so we don't consider him an uncle and I am not sure if he was even in his parents will (I think he was but only got a small portion). My parents are rich, very, so they are always bribing with (remember all we do for you) as they are always pouring expensive gifts like I got $2,500 for my birthday last August. Yet, there are strict rules like we are little kids. Sunday brunch is MANDATORY and I am one of the younger kids. My sister refuses to do in-law activities and I think it is her fear of Mom and Dad (she confided this in me) and now her in-law's don't like her she says (they are similar to my parents though not as extreme). So my question is how do I handle this toxic control freak stuff my parents have? It is almost cult like but there is no religion attached to it though church we must all attend together (10:30 Mass on Sundays). If my brother goes to his wife's families he is criticizes all day and it is why we don't like his wife as much (she is the OUTSIDER of the family) So what do I do? I hate this? I feel like I am still 9

Question: How would you go about this?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 04:30 AM PDT

I want to kick my neice and my nephew out of the family. Meaning, I do not want to see them on Thanksgiving/Christmas anymore until they lose weight because they're an embarrassment. My neice's waist size is 27 and she is 5 foot 7, my nephew's waist size is 30 and he is 5 foot 6. Embarrassing and wrong! How would you go about this?

Question: Is it normal that my mother still fears her mother at age 54?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 04:25 AM PDT

My mother is 54 and her mother is 85 and my Mom fears her Mom and is obedient to her Mom like a small child, is this normal and is it good or is it not emotionally healthy? For example if we are 10 minutes late for a holiday like Christmas or Thanksgiving my mother becomes enraged with my Dad because she fears her mother will be enraged with her (which she never is). My Mom never lets us do holidays with my Dad's side of the family, never lets us rotate, because she fears her mother's wrath (when her mother might roll her eyes but would from there accept). So is this normal? Is this emotionally healthy? Her mother is not mean or anything.

Question: My kitten has died and it's my fault!! What do I do? I feel horrible and I can't stop crying?!?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 03:54 AM PDT

Two weeks ago a lady gave away two kittens she had and I took them in. They were sisters. I named them pandora and chesire. Pandora was always my favorite and she was into everything so I put a collar on her with a bell so I know where she is at all times and so will my dad when I'm working during the day. Well I have to work overtime today so I went to sleep around ten and pandora wasn't there when I feel asleep. So around 4:30 am I started having cramps so I got up to go to the bathroom and took medicine and was going to plug in my heating pad and lay on it until I feel asleep. Chesire came in the room and got in bed with me like they usually do when I leave the door cracked for them. Well I kept hearing pandoras bell but I didn't see her. I looked on the side of the bed. And underneath it and still didn't see her but I heard her then I smelled poo. I started searching frantically hoping she hadn't **** in my bed again like she did the first week I had her. I couldn't find her but she had to be there somewhere because I heard the bell. I moved my covers back and she was laying there dead. I suffocated her while I had been asleep and I feel horrible. I can't stop crying. I feel like some monster. I loved her so much and was very attached to her. This is the first loss of a pet that has ever affected me to this degree. I don't know what to do! She's the one with the bow in the picture I have attached.

Question: What do I do? (Too much change)?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 03:53 AM PDT

Hey guys. I am an 18 year old that just finished school 2 weeks ago, & I am having quite a hard time with recent events. I am heaps worried now that I have finished school. I have no idea what I want to do & I feel like whatever path I will take, will be the wrong one. Today, we had to get my dog put down. He was 12 (had him since I was 6) & he had an aggressive form of cancer. The amount of guilt I am feeling for not spending more time with him is torturing. It hasn t even been 12 hours, but I already miss the little things like giving him his dinner, him jumping on me when I get the washing off the line & things like that. Now that I know I am never going to experience that again, I feel like an asshole for not cherishing every moment I had with him. In 3 days, my older brother will be going to rehab for an ice addiction. I am pretty close with him, & as he is my only sibling currently living at home, I have no clue what to do when hes gone. Pretty much, I feel like every aspect of my childhood is being ripped away from me at one time, & I have no idea what to do. Thanks.

Question: Sometimes I get the urge to cut peoples throats?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 02:28 AM PDT

Question: Does my mother have the right to go through my phone?

Posted: 08 Oct 2016 02:26 AM PDT

I am almost grown. I work and pay my own phone bill. It was my money that bought and paid the bills for my last two phones and one of them she broke. Didn't even offer to give me a few bucks to buy another one. She goes through my photo gallery and goes ham if she sees something 'obscene'. What I mean by this is pictures of naked women. Don't give me that same worn out bullsh'it "its her roof". Its my fuc'king privacy! I don't disrespect this angry fuxker ever yet I get called all types of names and things. I say I want to go to the military. Guess what? By the time you can say orange the whole block knows my business. I'm a high school graduate. I'm sorry. Didn't mean for this to turn into a rant.