Friends: Question: Is my friend avoiding me or am I overthinking it? |
- Question: Is my friend avoiding me or am I overthinking it?
- Question: Going to Uni by myself?
- Question: Noticed my friend who's a guy looking at my chest several times. Don't want to call him out for it. What should I do?
- Question: How do I let a needy friend know she s getting on my nerves?
- Question: Is it good if someone who you have known for a long time thinks you are a friend, but you tell them that we are just acquaintances?
- Question: How do I comfort a friend?
- Question: My like sucks?
- Question: My friend is in some major trouble. She said that did something terrible and twisted . What should I do to help her?
- Question: Why do I act different at school??
- Question: Am I a bad kid?
- Question: Should I confront my friend about her problem?
- Question: Is my friend avoiding me?
- Question: Making friends when your older?
- Question: Friend problems- way too much stress! Help please!! (sorry it's kinda long)?
- Question: How could i get my best friend back?
- Question: My friend is obsessed with Matt Damon?
- Question: What did they mean?
- Question: How would an emotionally mature person handle this birthday situation?
- Question: How to not get made fun of in front of class?
- Question: Does anyone else find this Epictetus quote annoying or am I just biased?
- Question: My friends want me to go to a party but I don't want to?
- Question: Bad Birthday. What can I do?
- Question: Does he even want to be friends anymore?
- Question: EXCUSES TO NOT HANG OUT WITH SOMEONE??
- Question: Making friends at a commuter college (no dorms)?
- Question: Is it wrong to follow behind firetrucks and other emergency services in order to get places faster?
- Question: A guy looked at your profile and copies your cover photo?
- Question: POLL: answer question?
- Question: Do straight guys get upset if their bros don't text him back?
- Question: How do you make friends online?
- Question: Why do I let go?
- Question: How to make friends at a new school?
- Question: I am frustrated with my friend and I don't know what to do?
- Question: Can I go to prom at a different school?
- Question: Do you become friends after someone says,"Let's be friends?"?
- Question: Should I help my friend?
- Question: What should I do if a friend's avoiding me?
- Question: Someone wants to be my friend?
- Question: This girl at my church keeps making fun of how I look,how I dress she always calls me names.I ignore her but what is another way to cope?
- Question: Is it ok to grab a girl's wrist under certain circumstances?
- Question: My friend is cutting. Should I see the guidence counselor?
- Question: Should I tell my girl friend about this or should I mind my own business?
- Question: I feel like I have no "true friends"?
- Question: Going to a friends grave?
- Question: How do you tell a friend and co-worker she is being annoying without hurting his feelings?
- Question: Afraid Of People Mocking Me.?
- Question: Should I stop being his friend? Ten points!?
- Question: Why do I only attract guys for friends and how come other women hate my guts?
- Question: Going to a party, my friends drink, I only drink if i like it, never been drunk either don't want to, how do i deal with peer pressure?
- Question: Can pity make people care for you/become your friends?
- Question: How can I stop feeling left out of everything?
- Question: Do I have a right to feel mad about this?
- Question: She missed me. Why?
- Question: How do I do this at UTC?
- Question: What are some reasons you would not want to be friends with someone anymore?
- Question: Other women talk behind my back.They left me alone and gossip.What to do?Other women are hesitant to approach when they hear bad things?
- Question: Why did he chose her?
- Question: How do I let her down a rude friend and tell them I m not their friend?
- Question: I don't understand why I feel guilty about paying for a friend's trip to Europe?
- Question: Really need a lot of help right now?
| Question: Is my friend avoiding me or am I overthinking it? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 06:04 PM PDT I recently moved schools, but I still live in the same house and town. Me and my best friend had a misunderstanding a while back and stopped talking. Then I decided to check out something she was interested in. We saw each other the next day, and just picked up where we left off. We had a long chat on the phone too! But, now not so much. I feel like I annoyed her. I would talk about the thing she was interested quite a bit, but I don't fell like I did too much. I had her over just the other day to watch a movie, but she left as soon as it was over (she had school the next day though!) now, she hardly texts or answers me back after school. I talked to her about it, and she just said she was busy. I trust her, but I also don't know if she just doesn't want to hurt my feelings, because she is that type of person, (who is nice to everyone). I'm not sure how much she texts others, though. I am always the one to ask to hang out, and it seems like there is always an excuse. They seem legit though, like family stuff and what not. Idk what to do!! I really like having her as a friend, but not if I have to worry if she is mine back. If there is anything I can do help our friendship I'd prefer that because I am having trouble making new friend or at my school(and I played sports) |
| Question: Going to Uni by myself? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 06:00 PM PDT Okay so I hate my hometown, always have. My best friend and I made a plan long ago of how we would attend a uni/college somewhere away from here so that we could have a fresh start in a new city (we are both independent and mature individuals so the separation from family isn't really an issue & our families are okay with us leaving anyways). Only problem is, my friend seemed to suddenly backed out the plan as I noticed that she applied only to local colleges. When confronted, she said that she would prefer to stay in here but refused to answer any further. I'm so hurt because I was under the impression that we were going to start this new chapter in our lives together, and since I have horrible social anxiety and depression I really can't see myself going to a whole other city alone, it would be loads better with a friend, specifically her. The reason I want to move out so bad fyi is because my home life isn't that great and in general this city is depressing as hell. Anyways, I'm stuck because at this point i don't know if I should suck it up and go to this uni in a entirely different city by myself, or stay at home and go to a local college and be miserable? What would you do if you were in my position? |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:56 PM PDT I sit next to this boy in one of my classes. I would have sat next to my friends who are girls, but I felt kinda bad because I consider him a friend and he didn't have anyone to sit next to. We mostly goof off in class. Recently I noticed him craning his head to look at my chest a few times, and when I gave him an incredulous look, he'd quickly look away, but he'd keep doing it. This makes me extremely uncomfortable. I NEVER dress in revealing or pretty clothing for that reason, even though I'm not pretty and my chest is pretty flat. My mom complains that my necklines are too high and I dress like I'm a hobo (I just wear oversized T-shirts and sweatpants with a sweater, usually tied around my waist). I don't want to call him out for his actions since that would make things very uncomfortable, and I still consider him a friend, but lately I've been wearing my sweater to class even though it's sweltering, and make sure to stretch the sweater so it looks like I'm a boy. I've been acting very cold to him also, and I think he's starting to notice. What should I do? |
| Question: How do I let a needy friend know she s getting on my nerves? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:46 PM PDT Every day it s something else. It s like she doesn t know how to take care of herself, or doesn t want to. She wants to use my computer, my soap, my clothes, my gym membership, etc. Name it and she wants it. She s extremely jealous and needy. I need for her to stop or I m going to start ignoring her again. She expects people to always be there for her meanwhile she s turning into a lazy slob. She wasn t like this back in the day. I don t know how to let her down easy...help |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:42 PM PDT Even if you know a lot about them or they wanted to be friends, but you just said that we are just acquaintances or we aren't friends. |
| Question: How do I comfort a friend? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:41 PM PDT My friend just facetimed me calling hysterically crying because she found out her dad has been cheating on her mom. I didn t even know what to say I felt horrible. I m a horrible friend but all I said awkwardly is "everything will be okay, I m so sorry to hear that". THAT ISNT SOMETHING YOU CAN SAY TO SOMEONE TO HELP THEM FEEL BETTER I KNOW. She hung up because she was going to go comfort her mom but can someone give me advice on better things to say to comfort her when I see her next. |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:40 PM PDT Sorry this isn't really A question I really need to let this out. I'm 13 years old girl who hates her life. I have a twin sister, an older brother, older sister, and a cat and dog. School is really hard for me and I don't have much friends. Ever since 6th grade I have been looking for a best friend. A friend that will stay by my side, laugh with me, cry with me, never lie to me, keep my secrets, and more. Then something wonderful happened, there was a little kitten looking for a home. I got a cat and named it shadow:) she was like my best friend. Life sucks being a twin. I feel like I'm just not my own person. She always gets more attention then me. God that's all I want is alittle attention. At the beginning of 7th grade I meat savannah. We are really close and I thought I found my true best friend. But then I saw that she already has one. And now shadow doesn't pay attention to me, only wants me for food. Doesn't sleep with me anymore guess who she sleeps with? Yah! My twin sister! I have so many personal this wrong I feel like I just wanna die. I feel so alone. I just want shadow back |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:38 PM PDT I really don t know how to help her. She said that what they did is inhuman and that they can t do anything to fix it and the only thing they can do now is watch it... The problem here is that she refuses to tell anyone about it and I tried telling her to get help, but she won t listen. I am really scared and I feel like I can trust her anymore. What should I do now? |
| Question: Why do I act different at school?? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:31 PM PDT So I'm 13 and I've moved to a new school about a year ago. At my old school I used to have fun and not care about anything. Now I'm all quiet in class. When I'm at home, I act totally different. I can hold conversations and I'm more interesting. At school I can't hold a conversation and people run away from me because I'm boring (not literally). My new school is very judgemental. For instance, if someone does something different, the whole class clowns him and the person usually ends up with no friends. That's why I'm quiet because I don't want to end up like that person, but I also don't want to have any friends. I scared to get a girlfriend because I'm scared I'll be boring Can someone help me to get out of this awkwardness and start speaking up? Thanks |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:26 PM PDT I have very good grades and a great family life, I also have a great group of friends. But every weekend we smoke weed, drink beer, and go to parties... we are all In the 8th grade. I lost my virginity this summer in a threesome, I have sex regularly with highschoolers. I go to a strict Lutheran school and my father is a pastor. My parents do not know about this, and I feel a bit guilty but it is very fun |
| Question: Should I confront my friend about her problem? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:20 PM PDT So during school, I asked to use my friends iPhone while she went outside for a bit. I was on it and accidentally went to her 'notes' section where I found her writing something that went like; "People who read fiction want to escape reality...I used to liked Peter Pan as a child. I still want him to come take me away." Also she saved a message from her friend which was comforting her about her crying because of something her parents did. I know I shouldn't have looked through her notes, but I saw them by accident and wanted to know if something was wrong so I could help. We have art class together, and she constantly says that I;m a depressed/emo child which kinda indicates she might be depressed or something... I'm just a worried friend. Should I ask her how she's doing, or just let it be for a while until I'm sure somethings up? Thanks x |
| Question: Is my friend avoiding me? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:03 PM PDT She is always busy when I want to hangout (though she does have a busy schedule). I'm always the first to initiate any kind of interaction/ conversation or saying hi. She has time to hang out with other people. But she swears she is not avoiding me and almost always responds to my texts. How do I know if she is avoiding me??? |
| Question: Making friends when your older? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:57 PM PDT I am a 24 year old male, I work about 40-50 hours a week, I have a 2 year old daughter, and a house and live with my girlfriend. I found that my life has moved passed me and all my high school friends are all busy with there lives, I mean I don't have much time on my hands, but I would love to make some new friends my age preferably with kids and families, I want to be invited to functions. I'm at a point in my life where just my family relationship don't seem to be enough. I love my family, but socially I wouldn't mind some other people in my life. my question is how does a man my age meet new people and grow a social connection? |
| Question: Friend problems- way too much stress! Help please!! (sorry it's kinda long)? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:47 PM PDT Help! My best friend has been my best friend for 3 years now. We have a lot in common and we stand up for each other. We used to get into fights a lot, but now when we fight we agreed to talk about it. Nothing really bad has happened in our friendship, but today during school I told her about a vacation trip that I was going to with my family. She asked if I could bring a friend. I said that it was probably too expensive (the tickets were a lot for my parents). I said that we didn't have any extra tickets unless someone got hurt and had to stay home like last year (my brother got hurt and had to stay behind on a big trip we went on) I explained this to her, that unless someone from my family got hurt she couldn't come (not in those exact words) What she said next was quite disturbing. "Can you hurt your brother? Pleeeassse?" She was completely serious about this. My brother had never done anything to her, and they had barely met. I stared at her, giving her time to think about what she had said. Instead of taking it back or realizing how screwed up it sounded, she felt and seemed completely convinced that I should hurt my brother so she could get a plane ticket to go on vacation with me. All of my friends are also friends with her, and I tried to avoid her for the rest of the day. She didn't know why I was avoiding her and I doubt that she even cared about what she had said. The stress makes me feel like i'm going to explode into a giant ball of stress+confusion. ;-; My brother and I got into a lot of fights. I told her about this too, before, and she remembered it. I was too shocked to say anything after she said 'it' |
| Question: How could i get my best friend back? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:20 PM PDT |
| Question: My friend is obsessed with Matt Damon? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:18 PM PDT So my friend and I are 21 years old, and she s obsessed with Matt Damon. I don t mean she has a small celebrity crush on him, I mean she thinks of nothing but Matt Damon. She has multiple social media accounts dedicated to him, writes/reads fan fiction, carries a copy of a magazine he was on the cover of with her at all times, interacts with people impersonating him online and pretends they re the real deal, and only watches Matt Damon movies. We used to have movie nights, but since her obsession started she refuses to watch any movie with me unless Matt Damon is in the movie. He comes up in every convo, she cries over the fact she can t meet him, I don t think it s healthy. If a friend/family member expresses concern, she gets seriously offended, and has even cut off a friend completely because he said he was worried about her. She says she wants a boyfriend but every guy who is interested quickly gets spooked by the obsession. Her parents are aware, but I don t think they do anything..idk does anyone have any advice? I feel like if I say something she ll get pissed because she always says it s no ones business. I just think it s unhealthy and she s too old for this. Also, if someone on social media posts that they met Matt Damon, she gets really jealous and blocks them. |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:17 PM PDT Read what's in the picture and what did they mean? |
| Question: How would an emotionally mature person handle this birthday situation? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:15 PM PDT I'm an introvert, and from what I can gather my depression makes it difficult for me to think rationally when I'm upest (like now). My birthday is coming up soon and I planned to have a dinner with three friends. One of whom I've recently grown apart and another friend who ghosted me. I'm mostly :( about the ghosted friend, but a little relieved as she was a little embarrassing to be seen with. I asked the other friend awhile ago, but wouldn't have invited her today. She is no longer interested in my life, I know she feels :( about that (and she doesn't need to), but people drift apart and tbh I'm over trying to earn her respect. I think this friend only accepted the invite to be nice and because of that I no longer want her there. Even if she did go a party of 3 seems too sad so I canceled the dinner. The distant friend wants to know why and I don't know what to say. I've been an open book in the past, but I'm sick of having nothing but sadness to report. I want to do something on my bday and I'm really depressed that another year has passed and my life is what it is, but oh well. I feel lots of pressure to have a good time, and celebrate on my birthday, but if its just me & my other friend doing something that's pathetic. I haven't made any new plans yet. So what would an emotionally mature introvert do in this situation? I don't want a bunch of acquaintances to spend my bday with me, its seems incensire. Am I even making sense? Thanks for reading |
| Question: How to not get made fun of in front of class? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:51 PM PDT In my class we have to do a project about our names. We have to say what our name means and it's origin. My name means something really funny and I don't want to get made fun of when we present our projects. How do I just cope with this and not feel bad? |
| Question: Does anyone else find this Epictetus quote annoying or am I just biased? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:50 PM PDT "We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak." -Epictetus I find this incredibly annoying. Do you find it that way too, or am I just biased because my teacher (who never lets is talk, even though i am in seventh grade and this is totally unfair treatment) has it in her classroom and doesn't let us talk at ALL. I dont get to talk even half as much as I have to listen, so is that why I hate it so much? Politicians talk at least twice as much as they listen, so.... |
| Question: My friends want me to go to a party but I don't want to? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:48 PM PDT Hi, guys! so I'm in my senior year of high school and this year I made new friends, they're nice and all but the one thing I don't really like about them is that they like to party EVERY friday, which is not bad I guess, the bad part is that they try to drag me with them every time. Every friday is the same, they push me to go to a party but I just don't want to because a)they always get wasted, b)i don't really like their friends or the people who are gonna be at the party. Halloween is coming closer and I already said I would go to the party everyone's going to, but I don't really want to. People tell me I should go, but I just don't feel comfortable in those parties. What should I do? |
| Question: Bad Birthday. What can I do? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:47 PM PDT This has been a shitty birthday. I woke up late for my classes, I cooked cupcakes for all of my friend (Yeah, I cooked cupcakes for my birthday) They ate them, didn't even notice me, I get home, my stomach begins to turn. Dad asks me if I want to go out to eat. Tell him my stomach hurts. He still brings family out, not even bothering to wait one day until I feel better. I sit at home, alone. My phone keeps going off because people want me to notice that I noticed them text or call me happy birthday. I have given up. I turned off my phone. I am not trying to be a brat, but all I want is to be acknowledge. I didn't get anything for my birthday either. Can I do anything to make today better, or should I just accept that it is a terrible day? |
| Question: Does he even want to be friends anymore? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:46 PM PDT My friend (guy) and I always would text or FaceTime all the time. Then it all stopped. He became busy he always had friends over and he didn't ever have time to talk anymore. We text maybe 2 times a week and the texts last 5 minutes long and that's it. I'm always texting him first and he will respond within 5-6 minutes after I send it and then he will tell me how he's playing Xbox or has a friend over and that's it. Idk what happened we were fine one second and now we are nothing the next, I just wish things could go back to how they used to be. I told him that I missed him and he was like "I miss you too." And then he had to go. Idk what to do anymore. |
| Question: EXCUSES TO NOT HANG OUT WITH SOMEONE?? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:42 PM PDT So they keep wanting to hang out but I really don't. What are excuses? |
| Question: Making friends at a commuter college (no dorms)? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:40 PM PDT So it is the 10th week of the semester and I haven't really made any close friends but there are these three girls that I talk to before class sometimes and they are are really nice. Would it be weird if I just invite them to go see a movie with me this Sunday? Or should I ask if they want to get froyo or something? Is that weird? |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:24 PM PDT My friend in my car with me was like "what the **** are u doing??" |
| Question: A guy looked at your profile and copies your cover photo? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:23 PM PDT The words on his cover photo were similar to my cover photo. What does this mean? |
| Question: POLL: answer question? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 02:51 PM PDT i was at school and some boys told me my phone was in the boys bathroom.. so i thought someone stole it and left it in there, and when i turned to look in the stall they locked the door and pushed me on the ground and raped me, after they finished i couldnt move because the amount of shock that was in my head, they threw my phone in the toliet after it was over and threw my clothes at me, should i forgive them? i dont want them to hate me? it's not trolling so answer the question please? |
| Question: Do straight guys get upset if their bros don't text him back? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 02:42 PM PDT My crush didn't have any friends growing up, and even now he lies about how many friends he has, but he does have some male buds, and he's very dependent on them. If they don't text him back, or don't want to hang out with him, he feels upset. He has a need for them to affirm him, ease his fear that they'll abandon him, idolizes them when they prove their loyalty or make him laugh, he's very sensitive sometimes, and every now and then will be embarrassed about how close he is to them. With girls he isn't dependent on them at all, if they don't text him back he doesn't seem to care, he expects them to be "confusing." Is this normal for straight guys? |
| Question: How do you make friends online? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 02:39 PM PDT Due to my current situation I have ZERO friends. So I'm lonely, also I'm single so making friends is not just about friendship but also somewhere down the line to get a partner too - I've tried dating sites to fill the 'partner' quota but it's just too anxiety-inducing for me, too intense and too much pressure, I'd rather make friends with people first and go from there. I'm currently out of work so no money and options for socialising are slim, thus looking online. I really want to find people locally to hang-out with, but not sure how in my situation. Scott, if it didn't work that way there'd be no such thing as dating sites. If you're not going to help, please don't bother replying. |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 02:13 PM PDT I lost a best friend and i'm having trouble letting go. I won't stop stalking her on social media sites. And I can't go outside either. I can't seem to find motivation to do anything. Any suggestions on how to let go so I can live again? |
| Question: How to make friends at a new school? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:57 PM PDT I'm going to be transferring to a new school, and school has started for about 2 months now. I'm worried I won't make any new friends at this school. I'm going to be participating in sports so I'm thinking maybe I'll have some classes with some of the people in my sports. I'm actually really shy so I have no idea how to make friends or be outgoing.. |
| Question: I am frustrated with my friend and I don't know what to do? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:56 PM PDT We are in college and have been pretty good friends for 4 years. The problem is that she has been dating her boyfriend longer than I've known her which is fine except they live together and she hates being without him. We have a third best friend and when the three of us try to go out together she always invites her boyfriend. |
| Question: Can I go to prom at a different school? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:55 PM PDT Me and my bestfriend go to different secondary schools and i suspect it will stay this way until we finish school, i'm just worried that i won't be able to go to prom with her. I know if your boyfriend/ girlfriend invites you, you usually can but can you just go with a friend and does each school vary? This is for UK :) thanks |
| Question: Do you become friends after someone says,"Let's be friends?"? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:43 PM PDT One of my acquaintances who used to be my friend just asked me if she was an acquaintance or friend of mine after my group brought up this matter up. I told her that she is no longer a friend of mine and just an acquaintance. She was shocked and as a response, I told her about how I told her last year that we can't be friends because of her terrible attitude. Then she turned away and continued to work on her artwork. Mid-class, she asked me,"Can we be friends again" and I said,"no, that's not how people become friends. Friendship is built over the years." She then scoffs and says,"years..." I don't think she is getting the memo that I do not want to be friends with her cause majority of my friends think that she is too clingy/needy and immature to understand other people's opinion. |
| Question: Should I help my friend? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:40 PM PDT Yesterday I saw a few parallel cuts on her arm poking out from under her jacket. So this morning I got a slip from the school office to fill out for the guidance counselor but she wasn't here on Tuesdays so I have to wait until tomorrow. But I want to help my friend-she's too scared to even tell anybody. We almost lost a friend a few years ago to cutting and anorexia and I wish that I couldve helped him then bc now he hates me and was never the same again. (But I'm glad that he's fine now.)So I know I should get her help-seeing the counselor seemed seemed like a good start, so she at least someone to talk to about it. Am I doing thr right thing? |
| Question: What should I do if a friend's avoiding me? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:28 PM PDT It was just— In my perspective— random and unexpected from my friend. They just avoids talking to me, doesn't sit at lunch with me (They would sit away or entirely leave the cafeteria), and when I tried talking to him face-to-face, they turned away and started talking to someone else. I also messaged them and they left me on R. |
| Question: Someone wants to be my friend? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:18 PM PDT Okay so ever since my friends ditched me I've been sitting alone at lunch. I've always been a loner but I always had them to sit next to but they left for another tableπ So I was sitting alone reading and then some guy sat in front of my and told me his name and we started talking and I think he wants to be my friend. I have really bad social anxiety and I don't know how to hold a conversation. So what do I do and say??π |
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| Question: Is it ok to grab a girl's wrist under certain circumstances? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:55 PM PDT At school, a friend of mine took my water bottle into the girls' restroom playfully. When she came out, she did not have my water bottle. I asked her politely many times to go get my bottle, but she seemed to ignore my request. As a male, I have morals that do not allow me to enter the opposite gender's restroom, locker room, etc. After asking her many times, I became really irritated and lightly grabbed her wrist. Another one of my friends was there and told me to let go because I was grabbing a female. Mind you, I was grabbing her LIGHTLY. I feel guilty now, but should I? |
| Question: My friend is cutting. Should I see the guidence counselor? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:48 PM PDT Yesterday I saw cuts on my friends' arm. Today I asked her about it bc I didn't know if I saw correctly. she showed me cuts on her arm and one of her legs around her ankle. I filled ou the form to see the guidence couselor but she won't be back until tomorrow. Is this my best approach to giving my friend help? We almost lost a friend a few years ago and it just makes me so worried to see her doing it--even though she's been happier than usual. But she does tell me that her mom abuses her. physically but she mistakes discipline for abuse. I don't know ehwhat exactly I should do!!!! |
| Question: Should I tell my girl friend about this or should I mind my own business? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:42 PM PDT So I'm in college with this girlfriend of mine named Amy. Her brother was a Marine who died in Iraq in 2009. I was at a party couple of nights ago with another friend,Joan,whos' friends with Amy's brother's ex girlfriend,who was also there. They were talking about guys and this girl, her name was Melissa,said : "yeah my worst date was with a guy who died in Iraq,I mean I'm sorry he died but he was a total freak". It turned out it was Amy's brother. Should I tell Amy about this? I mean this girl tells people Amy's deceased brother was a freak. I don't want to cause troubles and Amy is a real sweet girl but most likely that would rightfully piss her off. Should I tell her about it or mind my own business? |
| Question: I feel like I have no "true friends"? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:39 PM PDT I'm not trying to be dramatic or anything but i just feel like it's impossible to find friends. I have 2 close friends named S and J, but they don't feel like true friends I feel like they are just better friends without me... I miss my old friends named A and E but we got into a fight last year and don't talk anymore.... I mean we talk occasionally, but they are in a new "friend group" and it's basically impossible to make new friends because everyone has their own groups. Don't get me wrong but S and J are good friends but I don't feel like we "click". J is always scaring me and she's super sensitive like once she said that she believed in the ghosts from the ouija board and the only way to get rid of them was to rip the ouija board in half and I asked how you could do that because they're made of wood then she started crying and yelling at me then walked away and S ran after her comforting her. Acting like it was my fault..... S is super angry when she doesn't get what she wants like whenever we have a sleepover she always chooses the movies and when I suggest one she's all like UGHHHHH I ALREADY WATCHED THAT ONE and just clicks on the one she wants. It happens so much. Also sometimes when I go to her house it creeps me out, so I ask if we can keep the night light on (the little lamp) and she's all like "omg its too bright" I asked her to just try and she laid there for literLly not even joking 2 minutes and got up then started cleaning her room angrily saying she couldn't |
| Question: Going to a friends grave? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:28 PM PDT I was going to put some flowers on his grave and its been like 10 years since he died. My grandmother keeps telling me im wasting my time and that he is dead ( no longer there his soul is at rest). I know that but goodness whats wrong with going to someones grave, just like going to church; school; shopping; the movies? I dont see whats the big deal can you? I am hurt cause she dont know what friendship we had ππ’ |
| Question: How do you tell a friend and co-worker she is being annoying without hurting his feelings? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:05 PM PDT We became friends before having to work together in a project. Before that, my friend was working with other person who eventually left the company. This person assigned some duties to my friend. Then I was assigned to work with her and then I learnt she is bossy and nosy, which is really annoying because She wants me to do some of her tasks while I already have other tasks. When she doesnt have assignments she acts nosy, and interrupts when someone comes to ask something to me. I'm not sure she is aware she is like that, because she complains of the bossiness of some of our laziest coworkers. Should I tell her so she stops being annoying |
| Question: Afraid Of People Mocking Me.? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:31 AM PDT I am always scared to go out alone to place where there are many people. Especially when they are all friends except me. I am afraid of them to make fun of me or reject me or even bully me. For example, tomorrow i need to go to a new school to do my exams. I will be alone and at the school there will be a bunch of students of a new school. They all know each other except me. I am afraid when i go there they start making fun of me and tease me or bully me, by saying stuff like: " What happen girl (i am a boy)? You missed place? You are idiot or what?" bla bla. How can i remove that anxiety in me? And stop be afraid of being rejected or bully or being mocked at? (sorry for bad English) |
| Question: Should I stop being his friend? Ten points!? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:27 AM PDT I'm 15 and my cousins 13. We have basically been hanging out since he was born. We had allot of fun together as kids. We would play ball and imaginary games outside all day. It was awesome until we started turning into teens. I like video games, chess, the arts, and he is addicted to two apps on his phone and that's about it. The only thing we really do together is play video games and allot of the times he'll randomly get off like "I'm not playing this anymore" or go to the couch and lay like "I need a break" He does other rude stuff too like literally every time I talk he cut me off mid sentence yelling over my voice to say something stupid and random. He's gained quite a bit of weight since he was younger and is always complains he's hungry right after we get him a large fry and won't stop nagging like "Dude I'm hungry" Dude I'm hungry" He'll start fights too then try too and try to convince me I started it and say I have bad anger issues. I've told him before I don't wanna be friends anymore after a fight where he would say things like "F you" then say he's really sad he's losing his only friend. He says I'm his only friend and he's basically getting minorly bullied. I never say things like F you but he always does in a fight then tries to make me seem bad for not wanting to be friends anymore. Also In public and around my family he will start yelling bad things about them to me right next to them and then if they say anything back he looks at me to stand up for him. |
| Question: Why do I only attract guys for friends and how come other women hate my guts? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:23 AM PDT As a teenager, both genders couldn't stand my guts & bullied me for being ugly & weird. Now as an adult, I'm having problems making female friends. I tried giving friendship another chance as a senior in college. I tried & failed at making 4 female friends in college. One become b*tchy towards me when I asked for my money back (it was kind of my fault for loaning money because that's desperate) or distance themselves from me by ignoring me, my texts, & deleting me off social media (the other 3). When I "be myself" to gain friends, I only attract older guys who come off as needy & uninteresting for friends/boyfriends. It also happens at my job. I work at a factory & the male middle-aged coworkers either greet me or constantly stare at me (which I find creepy), whereas the majority of my female coworkers just walk by me without saying hello or just act rude. I tried doing pole dancing classes as a hobby to meet other women & to change my "socially awkward, good girl" image" (because I felt me being socially awkward harmed my chances of making friends in college). I think me taking the classes made it worse. I'm sure I'm being talked about & I lost half of my normal views on snap chat (from like 40 views a day to only 21!) because I posted pictures (NEVER videos) of myself in the studio. Should I see a behavioral therapy to see what I am doing wrong in this, and see if I'm the problem? Also, don't say its because I'm beautiful, because I was bullied for being ugly. |
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| Question: Can pity make people care for you/become your friends? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:21 AM PDT So I am a girl in middle school and never had a friend, it seems as if they all hate me. I was with the same people my whole life. So I am wondering - Can pity make people care for you/become your friends? I thought that maybe if I got caught in a car crash or something really bad happened to me, they would want to be my friends. The worst thing that happened to me was an inflammation on my brain but it eventually died out or something but all that happened was my classmates teasing me a little bit, so I guess that isn't enought. What if a member of my family died? Would they pity me and become my friends? I don't really have much family members (Just mom and grandma, grandpa and uncle but I don't see them often) so I'd be happier if this wouldn't happen. Please answer me. I am serious and I was wondering a really long time. I was thinking about making something 'accidentally' happen to me so they would be my friends. I know it's really foolish, but I am willing to go to any lenghts to have a real life friend... But still I don't know if they'd want to be friends with me even after that.. I act really weird and for some reason flail my arms(I can't help myself..) around whenever someone out of my family speaks to me. I feel really repulsed to do something like that though, just the look at something pointy freaks me out and I'm really sensitive to pain.. And I don't want anyone thinking I am an emo teen or something like that.. But that still leaves my question. |
| Question: How can I stop feeling left out of everything? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:20 AM PDT Here's the deal. I am the third wheel in EVERY friendship I've ever been in. I don't even know why, to be honest. I talk a lot to my friends, try to make plans to meet, etc.. But I always end up third wheeling. Even in my family I am the third wheel! My cousins are all groupy and twinning and I am just there. They even told me I don't have a close bond to them. I don't know. I feel like a "spare", an outcast. Just there for when the other person is not there that day. How can I feel less....unimportant, useless, unwanted? I've had self confidence issues my whole life and this only makes it worse and makes me feel subpar. Please help! |
| Question: Do I have a right to feel mad about this? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 10:43 AM PDT Well, my best friend and I have recently moved in together. We re very close and have known each other for many years. Anyways, she s a bit of a lazy slob and I m a bit of a neat freak (compared to her anyways). She does many little things that piss me off. For instance, she leaves all of her stuff lying around the apartment. I m talking old dishes, shoes, assignments, etc. The living room that we share with 4 other girls has become her cave. Also, she takes up to two naps a day and spends several hours of the day sleeping, and then continues to stay up late into the night and complain about all the homework she should have gotten done instead. Really, I know it sounds kind of weird, but the part that pisses me off the most is that every second of the day when she isn t at class, she is sleeping. We share a room and it is kind of hard for me to concentrate with her sleeping two feet away. And she sleeps MOST of the time and gets irritated if I am loud even if it is 2 in the afternoon. I don t know... I am going crazy... I love her to death and we are still very close but man she is the laziest human being this earth has ever seen... |
| Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:39 AM PDT She told me she missed me when I didn't show up to school because of a family reason. This girl and I used to be very close friends but unfortunetly we split up on bad terms. Sometimes she says mean things to me and sometimes she's nice but it can escalate into an insult afterwards. Today she came up to me with a bunch of people and in a jokingly manner told me she missed me. She often does that when I don't turn up to school. Then she found an excuse to rub my shoulder. Why did she miss me and why did she make up an excuse to touch me? |
| Question: How do I do this at UTC? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:29 AM PDT |
| Question: What are some reasons you would not want to be friends with someone anymore? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:11 AM PDT |
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| Question: Why did he chose her? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 08:48 AM PDT I paid for us to have a nice romantic weekend last week and things were going well for maybe 3 days after. I had gotten the flu and asked him to come take care of me. He agreed, he told me that he'd call me before he left work. He never showed, never called and didn't respond to any of my calls for texts. Then he text me the next morning accusing me of slashing his tires. Then he turns around a apologizes to me for not being there for me while I was sick...why? He has an ex that has embarrassed him in public. Punched him in the face, threw a drink on him, cut up his clothes and left them outside of his apartment and he continues to call her constantly. She has my number and tells me every time he contacts her but he won't call me or answer or return any of my calls. He said that her and I are the two tire slashing suspects he claims that the neighbors have a camera with footage showing him who did it. I've reached out to him all weekend trying to see if he's gotten the results or how things are going with him and he won't respond to my texts or call me back but his ex said that she called him this morning and he talked to her. Why won't he talk to me? Why is he treating me so bad and accusing me when she's done all of these things to him? I know he answers when she calls because she has my number and she makes a point of sending a screenshot of the call log of him calling her. One week he'll talk to me and tell me he misses me and then a week later he won't answer my calls. |
| Question: How do I let her down a rude friend and tell them I m not their friend? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 08:41 AM PDT Today, this girl who says shes my bestfriend, went off on another girl in Instagram. She s a rude person and I don t want to around someone like her. Help! |
| Question: I don't understand why I feel guilty about paying for a friend's trip to Europe? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 08:40 AM PDT I had a friend from grad school come visit me over in Germany. She expressed interest in coming to visit en route to visiting her best friend in Australia. I assisted with helping her in getting a plane ticket and ended up paying for it. While she visited we traveled around locally, and took a trip up to Amsterdam. I took on most of the financial costs (transportation, hotels, etc.. She also paid for a few of my meals, and paid for herself at museums and other activities) In all honesty, she did offer to pay me back, but I refused, and just wanted to help her save and add money towards her budget for her two week trip to Australia. All in all I do believe she had a great time here, as I know I had a great time hosting her. However, I've been feeling real guilty lately about doing so much for her. We both expressed to one another that we have feelings for each other, but I didn't make it my goal to become intimate with her, because I didn't want the trip to be awkward if the feeling wasn't mutual.. But now that she has departed, it seems that she has put me on a back burner, and given me a cold shoulder. I understand she is having a good time with her friend, but at the same time it sucks that all of a sudden it seems I don't exist to her anymore which is creating this guilty feeling in me for being too generous. Was I too nice to pay for all of that? Did I kill whatever attraction she had for me by being generous, therefore she's not interested anymore? |
| Question: Really need a lot of help right now? Posted: 25 Oct 2016 08:17 AM PDT I'm in vet school, but unfortunately I'm doing very poorly in school right now and a lot of that was caused by a poor roommate situation that I had where they were being deuce bags to me and treated me horribly. So I chose to leave and move in with people on Craigslist, which has helped me study better and remedy my grades. But now I feel very lonely and isolated from my classmates because my old roommates have spread a lot of rumors about me and I don't have many people in my class that I feel like I can talk to about this because a lot of people have started ignoring me. I literally feel like I'm in hell right now and I'm just praying that next year will be better when I get to clinicals and get away from all this drama. Does anyone have any advice for me about how to handle on this? I'm on thin ice with school and I really don't want this situation to become a distraction for me because I can not afford another slip up |
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