I wanna propose and I am on a budget, so... if not the dollar store, where else can I get a good deal on engagement rings? I would spend more but Im gonna be needin beer money for tomorrow.

I mean if due to his disability he could only work a minimum wage job therefore couldn't provide for the family. Would you stay with him and have a kid with sperm donation and provide for it yourself?

You could do better...

Me and my wife were watching a movie about Charles Manson it really freaked her out. I didn't know this would be scary for her. The worst part is that it was a true story. They actually showed them stabbing people. She likes scary movies but she doesn't like seeing people actually being killed. I didn't know it would show this. She keeps looking out the window but its so dark we got nothing but woods around us. Another scary thing about it was that the actress he killed was pregnant my wife is also pregnant which made it even more scary for her. She said that is one show she'll never watch again. She said shes not gonna sleep tonight. How can I help her feel better ?

I want to marry a doctor, stay home and work out all day, flirt with the maid she pays for with her surgeon salary...play basketball with the inherited kid. Workable?

I love kids and wish to be a mother of two, but the thought of marriage and being with someone for decades upon decades is horrifying and completely disgusts me, especially with the faults of marriage today, I will never risk it, even if you guys think it's worth it and I'm being absurd. I feel like this is really weird.

I met a man a few months ago who I instantly hit it off with. During the our first date he did not tell me he was married. It wasn't until the second date that he told me he was married. I got mad and told him to leave me alone because I'm not interested in married cheaters. He told me that he asked me out as a platonic "friend", not as a love interest. He said he really felt a connection when we met and wanted to stay in touch to get to know me better. I agreed to be his friend but only if he told his wife about me. He said he would. He added me on facebook but we didn't see each other again for 6 months and we kind of lost touch. About 6 months later, he messaged me on FB. We chatted all night long. This turned into a regular thing & at least 3 nights a week we spent all night chatting with each other. We never got sexual with each other we just told jokes, talked about our common interest in music & movies, talked about the world, politics, travel, etc. This went on for a few months. One day he blocked me on FB and messaged me on another FB account telling that his wife saw our messages together and got mad and blocked me and said he can't talk to me anymore. I was fine w/that & told him he needs to respect his wifes wishes. We didn't talk for one month after that until he called me and begged me to meet w/him.. He said it was important so I reluctantly agreed to meet w/him. He told me he was in love with me and that he wanted to leave his wife for me. I told him I wasn't interested because I am not a homewrecker. I said that if I date him he will probably cheat on me too one day and then leave me for someone else. He said its not true. He said that him and his wife have grown apart and have been distant with each other for the last two years and that divorce would've been in their future regardless of whether he met me or not. I really really have strong feelings for him but I don't want to "steal" someone's husband and I'm worried that one day he's gonna do to same thing to me as he did to his wife. Help?!

I grew up watching damaging disney films where I believed that i needed to be loved and married to be worthy. It seems that guys are taught the opposite. There is soooooo much pressure to make someone fall in love with me while every guy I know was taught to 'live it up' and NOT be tied down. Is being tied that awful??And why does failing at love feel so devasting?

weve been separated almost 2 years and have a child together. Can I just mail her papers to sign? I need this to be finished as quickly as possible, more than enough time has passed.

My husband is very sexual, but I hate sex and private parts. I am only romantically attracted to my husband. I get grossed out when he tries to kiss me. Whenever he feels sexual in bed, I politely tell him to grab the box of tissues and vaseline, and go to the bathroom. He seems pretty happy being with me (I think). Is it possible for a sexual guy and an asexual female to be together and live a happy life? Are there ways to calm down a man's sexual urge?

She invited the next door neighbor over to our apartment when I went to work and seduced him. She had the whole thing on video. She looked at me and laughed about it.

What's wrong with her? She's freaking me out. 2 month ago, she hated my guts. Now, out of the blue, she invites me to dinner in her house. I don't like this. I think it's a trap, but i'm curious what exactly does she want from me?

I've always been very nice to my boyfriends family. I go he extra mile and make conversation with them at family stuff and help out with things even though he never introduced me to most of them and left me to do it myself. My boyfriend is a divorced father of a 7 yr old son. I've noticed on Facebook whenever he posts pics of me and him hardly anyone in his family likes it but when he posts pics and him and his son they all like the photos.. We had a disagreement while we were on vacation and I heard him talking about it to his mother on the phone in the other room. The disagreement was about his ex wife texting at late hours for things not regarding threir son. I've gone out of my way to please his family and be nice even though he was not the best at encouraging this. Do you think he talks bad about me to them when I am not there or am I over thinking?

I moved out west when I got married so my husband could be with his family. I was born and raised in the midwest and that is where my family is from. Because of the distance I have only seen my parents 3 times in the past 7 years, when they have flown out to visit when the kids were born. My children barely know my parents as me and my husband both have busy jobs that keeps us from going on long distance vacations. Finally we both managed to get a good winter vacation planned starting December 20th to go out and see my family. I was so excited to finally get to spend a holiday at my family home. But my husband isn't having it. He wants to stay home and have Christmas like normal and leave on the 26th. That would only give us 2 days with my parents as he has to be back at work the 2nd. He says the kids would hate to have Christmas out there as it is tradition to have it with his parents. Am I being unreasonable to fight to spend the holiday with my family?

I was hanging out with one of my close guy friends and he started tickling me on the leg and I am extremely ticklish. I kind of just laughed it off and went with it. Now that I look back on it I can see where there was some flirting going on. I didn't really think anything of it, but then after he went in for a kiss and that's when it made me realize and say "uh oh" I didn't let him kiss me but I feel like things got incredibly close. Is this situation considered cheating or just inappropriate? I am mad at myself because I feel like I opened the door.

So I am 24 and i just don't like the idea of being married or even having a partner. sometimes i don't mind having a partner, other times i feel disgusted, no joke. I find it unacceptable how some men just see women as a piece of meat, which makes it conditional love. also i don't want to be married and have children as this will impede building my future. Im all about that independent life. what's your view on this? anyone has the same mindset? Like I may like someone who is good looking and well mannered but i just don't want the commitment. Not to mention the high rates of divorce in my country, stats show that each month more than 300 people get divorced. I have heard all sorts of stories about young girls who get married then divorced, abused, not being treated properly etc, it has just put me off.

There is nothing wrong with me, it's just that she is bipolar and her Mom is staying with us full time. Causing friction between us. It's been over a year and I do not want to cheat or break this marriage apart. I guess I love her but things are so different now.

I don't love my husband, he is dull compared to his buddies, When did you know that your husband was not the ONE .

I am going to marry her and then a week later break up with her, then tell her it was a prank. After a year of our marriage, I will find someone on the street, invite them over for dinner, saying they are a stranger in need of help, and then make out with her. My fiance and I are perfect for each other and she is my life and heart, but she also knows I love to live dangerously. I know how she will react and she knows me, so should I do this to her?

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It seems this would be obvious, but when you are in the middle of something things can get so blurry and make you unsure. I ve been told by people that he is awful to me and I need to get out. But then he tells me things that make me feel bad for ever thinking this and feel like I am the one who doesn t treat him well. I cheated on him, but am sorry for it and feel like it was a reaction to loneliness and stress. Though that s not an excuse for what I did. But since then, everything has gotten 10x worse. He controls everything I do, where I go, what I wear. Extremely jealous. He hacks into my phone and emails while I am asleep and reads private conversations with my counselor etc. He can be manipulative and but i feel like it s all my fault when he is mad. He always tells me I do things wrong and makes fun of me. He never hits me, except during sex. He gets very rough and forceful during sex, especially when angry. But otherwise he s never beat me. Can this just be normal behavior for a man? Or something that he can fix? He s the only relationship I ve had. Married 5 years.

She specifically asked me I thought she was "hot." I told her she wasn't "hot" but could be hot if she lost 25 lbs. Having a "small member" is genetics. Being 25 lbs overweight is her choice -- or more accurately, the sum of her eating choices.

Sometimes i hear people say they went through an ugly divorce. What does it exactly mean ? Bonus question: is it selfish and immature to divirce a wife after 15 years ? just cause she cant get pregnant ?

My sister in law and I used to be best friends. We did everything together. My 5 daughters and her son and daughter were very close as well. About 6 months ago I had a birthday party for my daughter and she asked if she could come to the party early. I told her to come on time because I had a million things to do to prepare for the party. She showed up and would not speak to me and was giving me weird looks all day. After the party I asked her if everything was okay and she told me she thought I was being mean by not letting her come early. I explained to her that I was really busy and it wasn t meant to be mean. Everything seemed fine after that. Until I discovered some texts from her to my husband bad mouthing me and my family. She called me some nasty names as well as some members of my family. My husband was agreeing with everything she said. When i comfronted her, Her response was "you shouldn t look at his phone then". Well she told my husband I was not invited to her daughters birthday party which really upset me. How can I get my husband to defend me?

I've been married for about a month now and everything has been great but I hate sleeping with my her in the same bed. She is like a burning oven, moves like a million times and leaves super long hair everywhere. I thought about telling her but I maybe I just need to wait and get used to it with time. What do you think I should do?

My husband and I are going to our first marriage counseling session today and I am very, very nervous. I'm not sure what to expect and I'm scared that things are going to be dreadfully awkward when we get home to go about the rest of our normal day. Our relationship is by no means on the brink of divorce but we both agree that we need some kind of help. Can anyone give me an idea of what to expect? Have you had any experience with it or your experience post-session? Has counseling helped your relationship?

We are in our 30's and have been dating for a month, see each other a few times a week. We not officially together, but he has stated he doesn't see anyone else and wants a long term relationship with me, but wants to find a perfect time to ask me. From the start he's said he always had sex first, then dated a girl but with me he wants to take things slow so he doesn't ruin things and be a gentleman (which so far he has always been). We have not been to each other's houses yet but I've been a few friends and his son. We actually both live with our parents at the moment and no we have not had sex yet, not even close. He wants to cuddle and just relax with me so he booked a hotel at a resort this weekend. We have planned a lot to do, they have water park and tons of other stuff. Just the two of our going. So far we're both been really excited! No talk about sex but now I'm starting to get nervous wondering if sex is expected? I feel a little naive even writing this question but up until now I had no reason to think he had other motives. Now I'm wondering if I'm being too naive. I think it's too soon to jump into sex and I worry about having to slow things down when so far he has kept things at the perfect speed. Did I make the wrong decision by agreeing to go? We've been on about 15 dates lol and never been in a position to have sex. He jokes about making me wait for it and "5 months" being a good time frame. But still I worry that he expect something this weekend. I do pay half on a lot of things. Unless I don't have money and he really wants to go do something. He tells me we have forever so there is no reason to rush anything and he's content right now, so he says. He didn't give me the option to pay half for the hotel. Yes the room has one bed. I mean he says we plan to sleep together. He wants to hold me and cuddle. I don't know if that's normal guy code for sex or really cuddling. He's just been different so far and not like any other guy so I don't want to rush this and lose him, even though I really do want to have sex too I don't think it's the best time.

I am curious to what other mature folks think about the question. According to BABEHART, "any man that has sexual issues, especially those that were abused earlier on, is not a good husband" So what does this make of the women who were abused or raped? There is a level 7 user name BABEHART who just posted this anonymously and I found this very offensive. I mean, its not our fault that some of us were abused (or raped). I don't undestand how they can make bad spouses? (assuming they've had therapy) " If someone posted that *anonymously*, then you certainly do NOT know it was babehart. How ridiculous!" == no its not ridiculous because babehart always gives herself thumbs up. I KNOW it was her.

I will try my best to keep this short. My husband and I got married Sept 5th of 2015 and in August of this year, I left and moved out of our home. Within a month of marriage, I found out he cheated on me and from that point on he slowly stopped putting effort into our marriage. Let me note, he has cheated on me before, once, and brought something home, but I was hoping we got passed all that. I ended up starting to get very angry and hurt from all of this and I didn t and still don t enjoy the fact I got married to someone to lie, cheat, and stop caring about me. I tried so hard to put forth effort and try to fix things and I started getting so hateful.. and I am not that type of person.. Here we are, almost November, and we still both haven t made a step to end our marriage. I As of lately, I have been truly thinking and looking at myself and how I acted and what I could of done different, I feel like a lot is my fault because how mean I got. I still love my husband but yet he still doesn t put effort into me, and I tried to see if I still could save my marriage. I never wanted to get married to lose my marriage in a year.. but seriously.. do you guys think it is even worth a try? Would you just cut ties?

Years ago, I met up with my ex boyfriend out of town. After I refused to flirt with him (I am taken) he started randomly saying "I never loved you, never cared about you, dont wanna marry you, I hate you!" Later on in the day, he admitted to my face that he was "still attracted to me and talked to a guy we both know about me a lot". Then cursed at me and we went our separate ways. He also brought up how a mutual friend said I wasn't over him, (not true). Why all the mixed feelings/messages?

I'm breastfeeding our newborn in bed and it's where I sleep. Tired of finding mud and hair.

I mean your parents who are grew up in the 50s, some of them are arranged by their parents. No I'm not talking about indian people but most people in the 50s were met because they were introduced by their parents. And if they like that person, they get married. Most of them never get through a divorce. Now young generations have a chance to find their own future spouse. Some of them find and the rest do not. And for them who eventually got married, they get divorced after a few years. So my question, do you think it's better if we do it like people in the 50s? I mean parents find their daughter's future husband by asking friends. And usually friends are usually they have the same background and education.....??? just a thought..... my mom who got married in 65..... she said you will eventually fall in love with your husband because you have to..... and my parents have been together for 40 years.... "and by the way my parents got divorced and they were not arranged by parents," I do not think you read my message carefully.... my point is because there were not arranged like couples now, married people got divorced easily. By being arranged and introduced, it reduces the likely to get divorced. My parents married in 1965 during the vietnam war. And I'm 35 now..... and they are still together after more than 50 years.... sorry not 40 years. And I did not mean just people in the 50s, I mean people who got married before the 1970s.... less modern people. guys and girls, to clear things up, my mom is a lawyer and she was when she married my mother. She does not need support from my dad who makes less money anyway and my dad is a school teacher. The got married because she was introduced by my grandmother. Not because she needed money to survive..... guys and girls, to clear things up, my mom is a lawyer and she was when she married my dad. She does not need support from my dad who makes less money anyway and my dad is a school teacher. The got married because she was introduced by my grandmother. Not because she needed money to survive..... "Divorce isn't some horrible thing." wow! so you support divorces.... divorce's horrible and very very bad for the kids. I'm a math teacher so I deal with a lot of children of divorced parents. Most of them hate adults and they later grew up into a criminal because they think adults screwed up their childhood. And I think people should love until "death do us part" and they reason people get married, because they want a family and they are compatible.... in the 1950s... most women stayed home in the US. When I meant by arranged... is because their dad introduced the man to the daughter. But the US is BIG, some people were more modern.... Also the reason they are arranged.... most men were in the korean war. And it was hard to find a young guy in the 20s.

my marriage has been up and down for past few months, I thought I made a mistake sleeping with my husbands friend but it turned out to be fantastic.I can picture my life with my husbands friend. The only thing is I don't want my husband to know, lately my husband has been checking my clothes and panties, I said I had a yeast infection when he saw my lovers semen in my panties. do all marriages go through troubles and then much better when we find someone to help us through it?

Was married to an international guy in 2010 in CA, but it only lasted 7 months and he moved back to Sweden after we broke up. (He was an absive guy.) 6 years later, I ve moved to TN, and I still haven t been able to file for a divorce. (I m broke.) Can t get ahold of him either to get his cooperation. I ve been in a serious relationship for two years now, but I don t want to have to pay out the *** for a divorce. Have any ideas?

Ever since I got fed up with my spouse about disregarding my needs, and boundaries, he has been giving me the silent treatment. We are on 3 days. I definitely am not going to feed into it, because I have been enabling him for too long. My spouse is very sexual, a night of netflix and chill can never just be netflix and chill. A massage can never just be a massage. He can have sex everyday if I wanted to. However, because he has been disrespectful and we are having marital issues, I wanted to limit sex , not stop it all together although I feel no women will be even wanting to have sex, after being disrespected. But I I have expressed that I want him to dedicate time to me and strengthening this relationship, and really disengage in sexual activities. BUT he doesn t respect how I feel. Twice a week isn t enough for him, we have two small kids, and given the circumstances of the issues regarding disrespect and no regard to my feelings, I feel thats more than enough. Everytime I will remind him that he s disregarding how I feel, he ll get mad, and later ask again, ignoring once again what I feel. At a point, right after I expressed how I feel he s ignoring my feelings, he turned me around and said just a little bit, and stuck it in me. & I extremely became emotional, and pushed him off. That night I tried talking, but he got upset and left- he did not want to hear it. Since then he has not spoken to me.

So me and my husband have been together for 7 years. And the past few years I have found myself uncomfortable being intamate with him. We will hold hands and give a peck on the lips. But "making out", sexual actions, ect. Make me uncomforable. Its hard for me to do simple sexual acts for him without being embarrassed.

My ex-husband is a very, very, very bitter person. He has always been tight and stingy with his money. I left him, after I found out that he had been having an affair, and on top of that he gave me an STD. He has been bitter about paying child support. He says that since I'm the one who left him, I'm the one who should bear the financial burden of raising our kids on my own. For him to say that, it just tells me how incredibly selfish he as become. I'm tired of dealing with his verbal abuse and the harassment. He makes a lot more money than I do, and I feel that he should financially contribute his fair share. I could go a lot more money than what he's paying right now, but I'm not a greedy person. I just want us to civilly and peacefully co-parent our kids without him starting fights. But honestly, I'm not sure that will ever happen.

My husband and I are both in the military and currently located in different states. I think opposite sex friendships are healthy, great, and offer a unique perspective. We both have opposite sex friendships, and I respect them. Alexa* is an exception. Here's why I distrust her: 1. She asks my husband to take her shopping--to the grocery store or the mall. They went grocery shopping every Sunday together for a few months. 2. She discusses sex with her now husband with my husband. She tells him about many things I'd consider girl only topics, like how her IUD emplacement for birth control went. 3. She has shared intimate details of her life story with my husband. 4. I haven't directly asked my husband how much time together, but it is significant. They spend time together alone and with mutual friends. An LDR doesn't make this any easier, of course - he ends up spending far more time with Alexa than me. Is Alexa violating boundaries or am I overreacting? How could I address this with my husband? I truly am not concerned he is cheating. Note: I'm especially concerned about this because I see Alexa on occasion, and I am finding it increasingly hard to be cordial to her! Thank you in advance!!

When my husband and I get into a bad argument, I try to leave the house so we can calm down and speak to each other afterwards without shouting. When I try to leave, he stands in my way or he'll take my keys and phone. I try to get around him and he forces me back, he doesn't abuse me physically to prevent me from leaving, but I'm unable to leave the house unless I tried fighting my way out. We've gotten to the point where I try to shove my way through, sometimes he shoves me back ... but he never hits me. I don't know what to think. Is this normal? Do most couples go through this? Am I wrong for wanting to leave? Should I be wanting to stay? I really would like honest opinions. I'm too embarrassed to talk about this yet with anyone in my life.