Why lie to your potential partner that you never want to get married or have kids, when deep down, you really want to have kids. I know so many women who do this and end up shooting themselves in the foot because the guy says he doesn't want kids either, and they stay together, and the woman hopes he will change his mind, but he never does, because he believes she doesn't want kids either. So the entire relationship is built on a lie.

My dad cheated on my mom because he said "she wasn't giving him some action", which means the obvious. but why would he do that? he had a pretty good life with his wife and 2 young kids, why do men do this to women?

We met right after college graduation. We were both unemployed and lived hours apart so we couldn't see each other often. We made a list of promises/deals so things would be easier. I told him I'd get my driver's licenses (never had one prior), a full time job, a car and an apartment. I did all of these things on my own for myself and for our relationship to work. Before he moved in with me, his promises were to get a decent job with his degree, get married and have kids. He has done none of those things. I told him to *not* move in with me unless he was serious about getting married and having kids because otherwise it would be a waste of time (this was 2 years AFTER we were dating, not right away). It's been 3 years since he moved in, 5 years total. He's working at a terrible low paying job and won't even TRY looking for better. But he does split all the bills with me. Still not engaged. And now he says he doesn't know if he wants kids. We only moved in together BECAUSE of our promises. I kept mine, and now I feel cheated. I've talked to him about this MANY times. I've cried. I begged him to figure out what he wants. It doesn't help. He just listens but doesn't react or do anything. Is it just time to move on before I'm too old to have kids? I've asked him if I'm the problem. If there is something about me that he doesn't like. He's free to talk about it and I won't get mad. I believe in talking things out so we can work it out if something is bothering one of us. He told me there's nothing wrong with me, that he just worries about money and doesn't know if he'd be good enough. But he is good enough. He just lacks motivation to get things done and doesn't have much confidence even after I try to build him up. But I'm getting older, and I think that after 5 years, you should know whether or not you're with the person you want to marry and have kids with. These things are very important to me. I love him very much but I want a family. I get one life and I know what I want. So this is very difficult for me, and I have to face reality soon.

to his girlfriend put me down all the time. My husband doesn't like the sex I give him,,this went on for 8 years, finally I told him he could see some girls on the side, well now hes fallen for some girl he met at work. I told my husband she cant live with us because of her lousy attitude and mouth. am I being unreasonable?

There's this old guy that lives with us an is close to being blind an cant hear well recently today he found out hes divorced but he dose not remember signing any papers but remembers signing something his ex wife said was for insurance the real ****** up part is that hes been loyal all these years the ex wife been with another guy for a long while during the old guys marriage i want to help get him a lawyer but im not sure if i can afford it the old guy is really nice person hes really religious an helps others alot hes been crying all day since the news which is really ****** up to hear a old guy cry

My husband always showers every morning because he is tired after work. My husband is a construction worker. He has long 14-16 hour days on average. Whenever he gets home, he plops down on the couch and takes off his boots. His feet always smell horrible after being in thick boots in 100F. I feel bad because he says how his feet are sore. Sometimes, I offer to rub his feet. I get a whiff of the stench right away. When I do massage his feet, it seems to relax him (sometimes falls asleep) I would love to help him by rubbing his feet, but between the horrible stentch, the drenched in sweat socks, and the nastiness altogether, I find it hard to. I have tried doing lotion (doesn't help) have tried washing his feet (still smells after) and even had him soak him feet for an hour. I think I'm just grossed out by feet. If I ever ask him to rub mine, he never complains or says they smell. I don't want to tell him because that would be rude

Been together for 30 years, married 28. Two beautiful sons, 21 and 17. He's always been more sexually aggressive than I am but I always thought he was happy. I just found out that my husband is having an affair with a much younger woman, just a few years older than our oldest son. I am disgusted. He doesn't know that I know yet. I need to get my thoughts together... I don't want answers saying "divorce him!" I will decide what I want to do with my marriage, I don't need a stranger to tell me to walk away from my husband of 28 years. But I'm so confused which is why I need my thoughts together. They have been in a relationship since spring from what I can tell, it's not just a one time thing. I see the messages he sends her. He tells her he is in love with her but he loves me and our children too so he can't just walk away but if it's in His plan and timing is right, he will.... I don't understand. If he's telling her he loves me and our family, how can he be in love with her. I would believe that he was just after quick sex with a younger woman IF this hadn't been going on for so long... they text all day long, drive an hour to see each other... I don't understand... please help. Alex: I was not the one who thumbed you down. I actually appreciate your answer.

It's very flattering because she's very beautiful; but she's a waste of time. How can I ward her off without being too offensive? I want to keep it classy because she's a local (lives less than a mile from me). I've mentioned girlfriends to her, even gave her the crappiest job description, yet here she is. She's resilient.

When I want to talk about it he shuts me down, gets angry and gives me the silent treatment if I argue. So during the day I take pills to drown out the hurt. This has been going on for a long time. He won't go to counseling. Does anyone have a clue to what's going on with him? I don't.

We get into arguments all the time bc of the situation. Her Mom! She is not a nice person. She plays her Alzheimer's roll quite well. She is 82. There are days that she does seem a little out of sorts but mostly she is ok. But continues to play the roll of "Who am I, where am I" nicely. I am picking up on subtle nuances she has. My wife wants me to leave my house. What do I do

I am 30 years old mother of 3 kids under the age of 5i got married 5 years ago to what I thought was a great man ,,,, we didn't know each other long before we tight the nud ,to make long story long we starting having issues because my husband has control issues and want me to live life his way he was religious and extreme but he knew I wasn't when we met so he kept pressing me out until he gave up one day he told me that he used to be bad that's why he turn to god to help him and that's why he was able to buy a house and find a wife (me) when he realized he cant control me he stopped and told me that his gonna go back yo his old ways which than i didn't know what he meant by than he star drinking and smoking than turn to prescription drugs than 3 years ago he start using Heroin my life became hell from his abuse and cant keep a job don't take care of the kids start stealing money and everything was on me i had to work full time to keep the bills and make sure the kids are good i had to pay daycare while he be sleep for 3 days or he be up for 3 days i tried helping him but he never stayed in any detox program all he dose is lie . i finaly gave i moved out of the house i rented my own apt i left everything behind i wanted to start fresh eventually he lost the house than slowing made his way in my apt after going on 4 weeks detox i was happy his back healthy and helping me i thought he woke up after losing everything but no he relapse.do now I'm trying to get a house of my own and he wants to change and make everything better and he wants to put the down payment and want his name on the title for me if i do that than he will do what he did on the old house i cant go tru it again i cant trust he will bills or stay sober what should i do

so lately my husband cannot keep it hard when we have sex, it gets plently hard with foreplay or oral and then half way through intercourse its starts to go away and I usually have to give a little oral to get it back right. We have had some issues involving trust over the last year or so and I am doing all that I can to earn his trust back. He is just so hung on the situation and has put more into that what even happened. I am at my wits end. I know I was not right but I am tired of feeling like I am being punished day in and day out...he says he forgives but I really wonder since he seems to dwell on my mitsake. Any ideas on how to help my marriage? He thinks I cheated, it was not physical. I talked to someone online that I was playing a game with..it was not anything but friendly conversation. yes I did enjoy talking to this person, but we were not talking dirty or anything like that. I never talked to this person on the phone or anything communication than through the game.

There was a question that was asked earlier about a woman whose husband was looking up divorce on the internet. The question title was: "Looked at husband's search history on his devices and he reads a lot about divorce?" (Its on google - I can't post the link because I cannot submit question) She posted her question and some of the answers, (some) women are suggesting original poster to start hiding money if he ever divorces. So I often wonder, men would you hide money from your wife?

Why she thinks watching porn is bad? This has nothing to do with her. This is what I like to do and I do it privately.

And i'm sure she didn't take her damn pills either. She tricked me. I'm thinking of divorce. Is it an overreaction?

He checks his phone account throughout the day and calls me imeadiately when he gets a message. He checks his account for the last time at 7pm so if I call after 7pm he won t get it till the next morning. I will on occasion leave a message after 7pm knowing that I will not hear from him till the next morning or later. No big deal. He called me back in the morning after I left this messege at 8:30pm the night before "hi just calling to chat nothing really important just wanted to see how you are and tell you about my day. Call me when you get a chance" When we spoke the next morning he asked me what time I left a message and I told him. Then he said to not call him after 7 because he doesn t check his account after 7 assuring me that it s for my benefit so I m not diasapointed when he doesn t call at night. To which I responded "its no big deal what time you call me because I know you ll call me whenever you get the messege" he then acted like I had just irritated the heck out of him. Whould you call that a sign of him being controlling? I want to respect his wishes and his requests but this does not seem worthy of him getting irritated at me for. I feel like I should be able to call and leave a messege whenever I want. Am I wrong?

My husband is out of control. I'm a newly married young woman. My husband is 5 years younger then me and has anger issues, i don't know what to do. He gets mad and gets "Trunt up" over the littlest things. When his mad he would go around the apartment and break up all the furniture and trash the house. Punches the walls and break all my things. He never mad enough to break the things he pay for tho smh. He screams loud saying im a hoe loud enough for my daughter to hear and the neighbors. He sometimes even hit me. There's times when I hit him first but it's only because I feel backed into a wall. He would scream lies about me doing sexual things and it really frustrates me. When I do hit him first he seems to enjoy it, like that's his excuse to go do the most. One time i told him i called the police ( i didnt) and he spit in my face multiple times. I feel so disrespected. The nexy day his usually better and ready to make up but I can't forgive him that fast. It's really starting to affect me. When his not mad his very sweet, affectionate and loving. He makes plans for me and my daughter. His the perfect man when his not mad but he gets mad to often. As soon as I finally forgive him for a fight the next one happens. I need help, he doesn't see what his doing and how stressful it is. He either says it's my fault for complaining so much or he says it normal. I need advice.

Why do husbands turn angry when they are the ones who cheated and left?? They made the decisions why is it our fault?? What trouble in paradise?

We want to try something new but don't know what. Any ideas?

I work with a guy at work that every girl dreams about, I've been thinking of what he looks like for many years, finally we got to kiss, feel each other up but then we had to stop. He made plans for us to see each other this weekend, I never felt a man so strong, his smell, his breath was perfect ! I am addicted to him but I also respect my wedding vows. How do I tell him I cant see him this weekend but to keep him interested in me in case my marriage goes bad?

I looked in my husband's phone and I see on the browser site settings and see a bunch of dating sites and sites that keep stuff private. I asked him about it he says he doesn't know. But it has a bunch of stored storage on it it says. I try to get him to talk to me but I know he will never tell me anything that is true if it will hurt me or make me mad. And I'm so sick of it. I'm sick of everything sugar coated. Its gotten to the point that I can't even trust him because no matter what it is he will never tell me. 8 years. 3 kids. I'm about to walk away. I found a picture of his penis in his phone and hes even denying that and it's him in the picture lol. And I asked him who this dallasgirl was when I found her profile picture in his phone and he says oh I might have accidentally clicked it on draft kings. But in her picture it says match <3 with a heart. I don't know what site it is but I just don't even know what to do with him anymore. He's completely telling me he would never even speak to another woman but hes.lying.

In any long term relationship, there are going to be good times and bad times. There are going to be challenges with health, careers, finances, relationships, etc. It seems like women jump to the conclusion that divorcebis the answer far more often and without putting much effort in to work on yhe relationship. Why is that? Are they fantasizing about post divorce life? Does the media glamorize divorce somehow to women? So other women somehow promote the idea of divorce socially?

I don't ever have the chance to get horney because the moment we are alone he needs sex. And when we r done he needs it again...and again (and he can last a good 45 minutes..). Don't get me wrong I love having sex with my husband (duh) but there's a point where its too much.. He's tried taking medication to decrease his sex drive but it just makes him really angry. Any of you girls had this problem and what did u do about it?

At a recent party which, I and my husband both attended, we both entered the dance floor together. After dancing with me for some time, my husband randomly started dancing with another old woman, (Who we do not know) who was passing him around. I waited him to come to me for a long time. When he did not I went closer to them twice. But at both times while dancing, my husband turned more to that woman's side which made me feel neglected. Without letting other people to notice I danced alone and with the others in the dance floor. Until the dance floor was over my husband kept dancing with that woman continuously. (Which was for like an hour) This surprised me and hurt me. Before my marriage I was so much in to dancing. I've been studying dancing until I stopped it since my husband did not like it much. When we go to parities we both dance together and I've never made him feel neglected at a dance floor, which even he never has done to me. This was the first time such a thing happened and I was completely mad at the end. We had a terrible fight. But somehow we got back together. He said that he did not have bad intention or what so ever while dancing with that woman and promised me that it ll never happen again. He has never cheated on me. He does not keep any close relationships with any woman, not even friends. I believe him. But I can't get this incident out of my mind. I feel so angry and jealous. What should I do? Do other people do things like this?

I'm engaged to be married to a financially comfortable man, a man I've been with for five years. Last night be presented to me a 'contract' to sign at some stage closer to the marriage, on it it asks of me to attend any work gatherings/European trips he has to attend or throws without hesitation from me regardless if I want to etc. I asked him to get a prenuptial agreement to make himself more comfortable going into the marriage despite me claiming and genuinely meaning that I wouldn't want anything from him if I was unlucky enough for my marriage to end. When I brought this up he strongly disagreed with it and got passed that I brought it up to him. What are your thoughts on this guy's?

Spousal/marital privilege in NYS..to put it simply is this-Unless the act or communication is about/regarding child abuse or neglect than neither spouse can or be compelled to, disclose confidential communications or acts made during the marriage without the consent of the other partner. Now here is the question- NYS "wiretapping/recording" is a "one-party consent" law. Again, in general terms, you can record a conversation between yourself and another person. How can you uphold the marital/spousal privileges in NYS if all you have to do is record it???

My husband and I are a few years apart, with him being in his early forties, and me in my early thirties. We've been regularly intimate since we've been together, and we've been together for three years. In all that time, he'll tell me, while we're doing the deed, that I need to relax, that I'm too tense, that I'm not enjoying myself. He'll even reposition me at times. To me, I'm feeling relaxed, and enjoying myself. He orgasms almost every time, but sometimes he gets this frustrated look on his face and says that it's ok, that he doesn't need to climax. I'm trying to do what he's telling me to do, but I guess I just don't excite him enough. He's told me before that he's been with nymphomaniacs in the past, and I guess he's used to wild and pornographic sex. I've been willing to try certain positions, but sometimes those are just way too painful for some reason. Any ideas on what I can do, or is this a hopeless case? He just did this again tonight and when I tried to ask him why, he just rolled over and fell asleep. I should add that we're usually very open with each other about other issues. He has casually talked to me about how he feels that I'm not allowing myself to fully enjoy sex. This does make me feel inadequate as I don't know how to enjoy it much more. A part of me reverts back to when we were dating, and he blatantly told me that while he was very attracted to me, he didn't lust after me like he wanted to. He now says since we married it changed. Hmmm? Another thing, I had only been with one other guy sexually before him. I dated a few guys, but didn't let those relationships get to that level. I'm an attractive female, but not one of those women who has a swagger to her step and is sexually aggressive. I wish I had these qualities, but I don't. I've always been on the quiet, serious side.

I m struggling to make sense of something. Is it just me, or do housewives tend to follow their husbands jobs around, even if they move to a place that the wife doesn t like? If so, why? For me, I would much rather have the lifestyle of living in a location that I love and feel comfortable in, than the place where my husband works. I don t care about the money. What is it that makes people move to places where there s a career, instead of finding a place they like and then finding a job there, even if it s not the ideal career?

Is it obvious that my feelings are growing for this person? As of now, it'a new co worker that I always hug, shares secrets with, and I've gotten them some gifts. Should I admit anything to my spouse?

My Husband and I live with only the one neighbor near our place. They moved in shortly before Sara had Audrey who is now seven. They also have a new born baby boy. I think we might be too close with them but my Husband says it's ok. Yesterday Sara gave Audrey a spanking out in the patio room cause the baby was sleeping at that time in the house. That does sound logical? Audrey after getting home from school always takes her school skirt off and wears just her sweater and underpants. Audrey finds her nylon briefs comfortable to wear she says. Audrey is pretty and I admit she looks very cute in her underpants. From our kitchen in the rear of our house we first seen Audrey standing next to Mommy in her sweater and pink underpants then she got put flat across her lap in the chair. We did not watch the spanking but it was clear to see. Sara had nothing to hide giving a spanking as one would do inside the house. By that I mean she was in no rush and spanked Audrey for a couple minutes with her hand lightly. I feel that it was a little surprising but we are friends. My Husband thinks it is alright and it is not everyday that you see a little girl get a panty spanking. Yeah cause they are usually done in the house. My husband is right??