I am growing up now and realized how wrong she was. Like she told me when he divorced her he left all of us and was no longer our Dad even if our father still. He liked us but didn't love us or want to be close. Things like this. I believed everything she said between ages 12 and 15. Then I realized she was lying (I was 10 when they divorced). When my Dad remarried I got closer (16 at this point) and am close now. I feel so guilty now that he has died (I am 28) that I went 5 or 6 years not liking him because I believed my mother that he didn't want to be close to me and that he liked me but didn't love me. Is it normal for a kid to be impressionable at ages 10-16 or should I have been able to see my mother was lying? I know a real little kid (like age 5) can't help but to believe but I was in my junior high years and still believing my mother's crap.

I'm 18. I want to move out of my parents house due to many complications we have that I'd rather not ramble on about. My parents do not want me to move out until I'm married, so they will try anything to force me to stay, including hurting me. How do I manage to leave without getting hurt? By the way, I'm moving into my boyfriend's family's house and I do have a steady job that I love. It'd also be great to get some advice on how to keep my parents away from my soon to be new home so they don't attack me or anyone that lives there. Also, if anybody has any tips about moving out in general that'd be great. Thanks in advance!

She wont speak to us and today is her birthday. My mother tries to reach out but my Dad hates her and speaks poorly of her regularly. My brother doesn't bother wishing her a happy birthday and obviously my father doesn't but I wondered if I should reach out. She last had contact with us a year ago and last had a relationship with us in 2010.

Not death as that is natural but rejection? My mother always told me when my Dad divorced her he divorced us kids also (even though he still saw us some) so I took it very personal. I was in grade school at the time. Now I am an adult and fear constantly losing family to rejection. I also fear if I lose one family member to rejection I will lose a large chunk. For example, my mother has two uncles who were downright cruel to her father about money years ago and they have kids. Their kids are all innocent and fine. However, my mother doesn't know their kids (her cousins) due to the sins of their fathers even years after their fathers have died. So my question is how do I get over my anxiety of losing family to rejection that was implanted by my parents divorce.

Ok so I m 14 and my big sister is 15 and we re really close. The other day I had just come home from school and was about to go in the shower so was just in my boxers. Randomly I got a ***** and my sister saw the bulge through my boxers. She stared at it for a few moments. She then asked if she could see my penis. I said yeah sure and she took me into her bedroom and lay me down on her bed. She then sat on my knees. I still had my boxers on but my sister asked if she could take them off. I said yeah and then she giggled as my dick flopped out of my boxers. She played around with it and giggled as she touched it aand she even kissed it a few times! This morning she came into my bedroom and said she enjoyed playing with my penis so much the other day and she wanted to do it again. Is it weird for my big sister to like my penis so much tho?

Can I file a restraing order over my baby mother I am gay. I wanted please my family and try live straight life got my ex pregnant She wanted be a family . She knew I was bisexaul but said was phase I want be with a man. I came out closet. She moved in with my family when me her were dating.We broke up and she stayed my dad house with me I asked her politelty to leave. I love my daughter that gift from God. But my babymother refues to leave. She even goes out of her way to record me. She will record me eating and post it on facebook like we are a couple. She saw my boyfriend and threaten him and told him when I went bathroom I have the baby and not going no where Now my dad finally kicked her out. My baby still here and she moved in with he mom my baby mother But she still comes to visit. I mean she came to see my sister and hung out with her. They were never friends she offered braid her hair ! She keeps tagging my family on her facebook statuses. Everyone knows I love men why cant she get it im 20 shes 25

My mom and dad love my current boyfriend. They hated my last and first boyfriend. My current boyfriend is black and all three of my older sisters are married to black men. My parents love having mixed grandkids so every time they see him they are telling him that they want me pregnant by X date or he needs to hurry up and propose. He laughs it off but I know it makes him uncomfortable. It makes me not want to bring then around him. I have asked them to stop and they always say something like We'll stop when you give us some grand babies. It's getting really annoying.

We were dating for almost 3 years when I found out I was four weeks pregnant. Of course I was excited and scared to tell him. So when he came home later on that night; I sat him down and told him that we had to talk. After about five minutes he asked me what was wrong I asked him if he would ever want kids. The first thing that came out of his mouth was "No". I felt like my heart had stopped for a second. Then I told him that I was pregnant. He went off asking me if I was going to "abort it" and how " he s still has much going for him right now ". We faught for about 10 mins about me getting an abortion. Before he got his keys and left saying he was going back to the office. I didn t see him for the next two days. I decided I wanted to keep my child so I packed my bags and left. It s been a year since I left, and when I went for a walk in the park with my baby girl. I saw him there to with his new paint Saint Bernard. Since then he s been trying to get back in our lives. Saying that "he was stupid back then" and "if can get a second chance", and I don t know what to do anymore. Should I give him another chance?

they're fat and unhealthy and are starting to drag me down with them >-> I tried asking my mom if we could try a vegan diet, then she got all offended like "WHY YOU DONT LIKE MY COOKING?" and went on and on about how I should just cook for myself lol im kind of embarrassed by them tbh, but I want them to be healthy though

I work at a Sushi restaurant. I've worked there for 2 months and it's family owned. The father of the store is strict and gets mad at me but i can tolerate that. He's not that strict on me because i've gotten better. The brother is really chill and talks to me and other waiter. The sister have never acknowledge me. Since the first week i've worked there she's never call me by my name. I'm a dishwasher but i still do get some tip. I do dishes and help her bus table etc. She only gives me $8 tip at the end of the night every night... So i worked double shift and made her irritated at me because i almost sent food to wrong table. Later i went to work an hour late too. She just told me you don't have to be here. Just go back.. to be honest i don't care. Money isn't bad but she has no respect. the waiter that works there knows she like that too. He will never work with her. She never talks to me. ever..

Okay so Im 17, almost 18 (75 days I will be). I live with my dad and step mom. I've been living here for almost 2 and half months now. I don't like living here, and wanted to live with my aunt in the first place. I've made up my mind that I want to live with her, she knows, my step mom knows. My dad does not. Also my dad served my mom at work they go to court sometime in December because he's trying to get sole custody of me. How do I tell him I want to move in with my aunt? Also he said if I didn't move I owe him the money he spent on me which makes me just want to leave even more. But how do I tell him???? Please help me!!!

Last year, we had nothing but drama for the holidays. My mom and grandma always start fights. My grandma bad mouthed my husband to his parents face last year, she bad mouths my housekeeping, pets, and belittles me in front of company. My mom bought food for our Christmas party and at the last minute, my in laws decided not to come down (an hour away) and said they were "staying home" Xmas Eve and went to their teen son's girlfriend's relatives house which made my family mad. My mom has held a grudge against them since. Also, my mother in law threw a tantrum because I wanted my grandma to make her famous dressing and my mother in law wanted to bring her own. Should we just do our own thing @ our house and tell family that we wont have them over or go to their homes?

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We went to visit my bro at his apartment. No one answered at the door so we just walked into his room. My mom got really mad at him and shouted a lot. I really feel bad for him, what should be done to make him feel better?

He is 22 and been mad over lots of person baggage he has (like most bullies)

We've been taking care of my great grandmothers dog and my mom babies it way too much. I'm not abusive towards animals (I'm vegan for crying out loud) but I do believe in scolding them when bad and praising them when good to have them be obedient. This dog was being really disobedient one day and I had been telling her "no" about a hundred times because she would bark every time one of the cats went in or out of the cat door. It was 9 at night and she was still doing it so this time when I told her "no" I slapped her on her bottom. Not too hard or anything, and I'm mostly against spanking animals (and children) but she just wasn't listening and after I did that she stopped. I did feel a little bad and maybe did let my anger take over a bit but I know I didn't hurt her and there wasn't much else to do. When I did that though, my mom yelled at me and said to "never hit an animal" I find this extremely hypocritical of her because when I was a child she used to hit me upside the head (not even just my bottom...my HEAD!) and she wore a lot of rings so it would hurt even worse. I get headaches extremely easily and I'm not sure if that's the reason but I wouldn't be surprised if it was. It wasn't just a couple times either when I really wasn't listening, she would do it all the time!! She didn't believe in "no"s or time outs. She would just slap my brother and I on the head. She was very angry at me for slapping the dog. Does she have a right to be?

So I just recently became a vegan due to my love for animals. Not only has my family made a complete mockery out of me and said things like "Yeah, once you try a veggie burger you'll stop the whole hippie thing" and it really hurts my feelings. Also, I own a pet snake. He's my baby and any person in their right mind would know that snakes eat meat. I know he needs mice to survive. I'm vegan, my snake is not. But my family is always like "That's abuse to the mice. So inhumane" (even though I don't feed live because it's sad) it upsets me a lot... I don't expect them to be vegan but I expect them to respect my decision... it just hurts my feelings..

We live in a small house, both my parents work full time, and by the time I get back from school my brother is already home. We caught him smoking and now he's been making comments such as: I got sweet legs , and any guy would be lucky to get under my pants, I am 14 and he says some other crazy stuff too that i don't wanna repeat. I haven't told my parents what he's been up to. My brother has alwyas been a free spirit and he has been to jail for doing drugs by my mom still lets him live with us. I don't mind him staying here but I want him away from me . He hasn't made any advances but I don't know how I should go about rejecting him in case he does. He always stares at my bottom ,when moms not home and I always give him an awkward smile. He also beat up my boyfriend whom I was just hanging out wth. Please advise me. thnx

I want my mother to help me while im going through this. But she seems like she wants nothing to do with me. I remember calling her in tears because of how much pain i was in and she said tell your Aunt ( who's house is filthy and roach invested) I miss my mom. I want to go home but she refuses to let me back in. Im so depressed. I dont have my mother nor my father. Where do i go from here?

My friend and I were having a debate as to who is more middle-class. I grew up in Cambridge where my mother is an literary scholar (with a professorship) at the university. My dad is an investment banker who commutes to work in the City in London. My maternal granddad is a retired pilot, and my maternal grandmother was the daughter of a successful grocer in Lincoln, and worked in the magazine industry before marrying my granddad. My paternal granddad was a lawyer with connections to the English gentry class; my paternal grandmother was a secretary raised in an middle-class family in Chelsea. I went to a grammar school. My friend's parents are both teachers. She originally went to the local comprehensive in Gillingham where her parents taught History and English respectively, then went to an all-girls' independent school for GCSE and sixth form. She hasn't told me about her parents' upbringing. We both go to Durham. I study Philosophy and she studies Maths.

My sister has chosen a piece of sh*t for a boyfriend, who disrespects me and my sister's mother (his mother-in-law). When my sister was in a fight with him over the phone, I heard him yell "your ******* mother". Being her brother/my mother's son and the only man in our family, my first reaction was to find him and hang him from a tree/slit his throat, but then I told myself to count to 10. What do I do? My no-good sister chose a low-life to hang around and my mother's suffering because of it. She wanted someone much better for her daughter. I'm the only man in the family and I have no idea what to do. If I try to scare him away, he'll tell my sister and she'll want him even more. She's not reasonable anymore.

I'm 18 years old and I live with my mum and 2 year old brother. I rarely get to spend time with my mum by myself as my brother is a lot to handle, so it's difficult to ask family if they can look after him for an hour so I can spend time with my mum. I can't spend time with my mum in the nights either as he's not in a bed time routine, I keep asking and asking my mum to get him into a routine so I can spend an hour with her alone before she goes to bed but she usually just mocks me when I ask. She allows my brother to sleep whenever he wants throughout the day and then let's him go to bed at around 10pm but by the time he's asleep; she's too tired to stay awake and just spend an hour with me. I rarely spend time with her as her focus is always on my brother and keeping him occupied (which I understand) but I guess it just makes me sad that there's never enough time for her to spend with me.

I m in college and to be honest I just went to college because I felt a small pressure from my family since most of them are doctors or they have other careers. I have am Associates degree and working towards my Bachelor s, I just started by the way and I feel like I dont want to continue and this has let me to some depression. What I really want to do is open my own business and I have been working and informing my self with an accountant but it seems like my family is not interest in my Idea but they keep talking on how I should continue college. I lose so much interest in my classes that sometimes I just say screw this and just go do something else. what should I do? I am so positive that my business idea will work and will guarantee money to live happy but I can t just do both college and work at the same time, A business requires attention and time to promote it.

My mom gets anxious while traveling and complains about my dad s driving and other people on the road. My dad gets annoyed with her making it really hard for them to come visit me at college. I have tried getting them to listen to audio books but they didn t really like them. Any ideas on how I can help them?

My mother and her siblings don't get along so we don't get invited to get together's as often as my cousins do. We always miss Christmas since we leave town with my grandparents on my Dad's side (no 1st cousins on that side of the family). So I am afraid I am the casualty of my mother and her siblings clashes. I am afraid my cousins think of me as a little known relative, 2nd rate. The kind seen only at funerals and when we're older maybe weddings. They are too young for me to get together with (I am a young adult and they are kids). However, how can I have them no me so that when they are adults I won't be some little known cousin from the black sheep part of the family due to my mother's mistakes? Rivera-------I have only posted once before on here in the family section

I don't like people very much. I always think that maybe if I had more friends, I would have an easier life, but then I remember the things about people that just kind of annoy me. My parents are really annoying. My father is a jerk who just goes around complaining all the time. My mother has also become a *****. I didn't really get along that well with my family after a certain age. I just kinda got ganged up on. I don't really talk to my parents all that much, and it seems that whenever I do, they find a way to annoy me. My dad talks so much ****. And my mother has become not really that much better over the course of time. Don't even get me started on how my brother is sometimes. But a lot of the time, it feels like I hate myself. I hate the decision that I made right now, I feel it has cost me. I would only pick a handful of people to actually talk about this with, because people just don't care. I tried talking with my mother about a problem that I had last week, but she just shut me down and started wailing. My parents really tire me, and so does my brother. Depression, anxiety and autism are three very big problems right now. Because I wonder if I should just stop trying to follow other peoples examples.

Literally I'm the only one who went through depression, NO ONE else did, but me. At 18 years old I am still getting acne while all my other relatives have good skin. I'm the only one they try to put down.. For no reason insults come to me, it's like they don't want me to succeed if that makes sense. They try to make it seem like im the exception to everything. For example they'll say "every skinny guy is cute" except for me. "All guys should get tattoos" except for you it'll look ugly. I'm not ugly I know it, but they make it seem like I am. Do yall see what I mean? Like for no reason. Then they try to lower me by giving me fake support. They're real quick to point out my flaws, but slow to EVER compliment me... Honestly they are all pretty narcissistic but they compiment each other except me.. I don't fit in but why? The more I try it's like God or my gut is saying you don't fit in you weren't meant to. I feel like I'm meant to change the world, but every time they break me down' and I feel kinda delusional. I have pretty thick skin, but if you're told something almost everyday you would start giving it thoughts. Why are they like this? Thanks

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Not death as that is natural but rejection? My mother always told me when my Dad divorced her he divorced us kids also (even though he still saw us some) so I took it very personal. I was in grade school at the time. Now I am an adult and fear constantly losing family to rejection. I also fear if I lose one family member to rejection I will lose a large chunk. For example, my mother has two uncles who were downright cruel to her father about money years ago and they have kids. Their kids are all innocent and fine. However, my mother doesn't know their kids (her cousins) due to the sins of their fathers even years after their fathers have died. So my question is how do I get over my anxiety of losing family to rejection that was implanted by my parents divorce.

When I was a kid my mother was extremely anxious (of course she could not help this). She also held grudges (this part she chose). So she always warned me about any type of social error far more then most mothers and far more then my Dad. She also out of her bitterness insulted family to me regularly with things like "those relatives don't want a relationship with us" which ended up being a lie my mother was telling me (due to her distorted thinking). So now as an adult I am terrified of losing the loved ones my mother told me didn't love me as a kid and I later learned did. I was separated from them as a kid for about 5 years and 20 years later I am petrified it could happen again. I also have terrible social anxiety in all the same ways my mother did (all the things she warned me not to do I do). So how do I get rid of this anxiety my mother gave me. I am not mad at my mother or anything but she is the source of it along with genetics.

Both did the same thing. Why has she forgiven her brother but not her husband's sister (my step-Dad's sister). They both did the same thing (a property spat where my mother violated some boundaries but by accident and was mistreated for it). It has been 5 years since her brother and 9 years since her sister-in-law. Why would one forgive their brother but not their spouse's sibling when the offense was equal? @Misty----when in both cases my mother was largely at fault as she butt in where she had no business. I'd say my mother was 80% at fault in both cases.

I am in my 30's and he still likes to tell people how horrible I was as a teen and how good both my brothers were. It hurts my feelings and since my parents are divorced I just go to my Mom and avoid my Dad now. This makes him bad mouth me more. My step-mother does it some also. How do I get him to stop so we can at least have a distant relationship even if we are never friends. Right now we haven't talked in over a year

I will be forced to see, speak to and stay with a bunch of people I hate to call my biological family. I won't see them from then on. But for an entire day I'll have to fake smiles, not let my anger show in my tone of voice or behavior and make it through as smoothly as can be. Which means pretending I don't actually hate them and that they don't make me physically sick and repulsed. I know a good night's rest will help, a good breakfast too. An aura of confidence and a vision of me as a brick wall that nothing can get through. Any simple tips? This is just for a night and after that I block these monsterous people that are biologically related to me. I haven't seen them in a while so it's going to be tough to be strong once again. The only and last time I'll have to.

Seriously! She constantly cheats and lies to her family, is judgmental and passive-aggressive towards them, and acts like she's better than everyone else. She has over-the-top cruel punishments for her kids, even if they can be bratty sometimes. And I know Phil isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer, but he's like the nicest guy in the world and she usually treats him like crap. She gets way angrier with him than she should. And she's just nasty towards Gloria, who hasn't done a thing to her. She also has a mean spirited sense of humor. She laughed when Cam's hand was almost shredded, all because she didn't like his parenting style. Not only that, she abandoned her daughter in the woods, took her son to a counselor so he wouldn't be like Phil, said for Mitch and Cam to come back in "7 years and 5 months when they (her children) are all gone!", etc. And she gets psychotically angry with people if they make even the slightest mistake and thinks she's always right. She's borderline abusive! And yet, somehow she always gets away with all of the terrible things she does to people. She's just like Debra from Everybody loves Raymond! Does anyone else hate her?

Okay so I have an iPhone 6 and my dad might need to back my phone up at some point to iCloud and I had downloaded some apps in the past on this phone that I shouldn't have but they're already deleted and have been for awhile so I was wondering if he has to back up my phone are the apps going to show up that I downloaded and then deleted?

I've know my girlfriend for years. since like 2013. we've always had a thing for each other but the timing was always bad. we've been in a relationship since August and it was good but she's very dramatic and she gets in random moods and the vibe gets weird and she just randomly gets attitude problems and I hate that. she stresses me out more than she makes me happy. I just don't want this relationship but I know if I break up with her she'll stop talking to me overall. what can I say to keep her around?

Hi. I recently did a "personality/career" type thing at school. It was for fun, but it made me really start to think. One of the questions was about birth order. I wasn t sure what to put. I live with my Mom and Dad 50/50. When I m at Mom s, where I am an only child, Monday Tuesday and Wednesdays and Sunday night. I m with Dad Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday during the day. Dad had my half brother before I was born and also has two kids with my Stepmom. My half brother is 18 now. My little brother and sister are 5 and 6. I m 16. My older brother and I are close in age, but didn t spend a lot of time together, but we did see each other every other weekend. And my little sister and brother I see all the time at my Dad s, but they weren t born until I was 10/11. Anyway, always kinda wondered, but that personalty quiz made me really curious. I don t want to ignore that I have brothers and a sister, but sometimes I do feel like an only child. But there s always been a brother or sister in all of my family memories when I m with my Dad. I m not super close with any of them, but I do love them. What would you put?

Okay, so my friend lives in a very emotionally abusive home (with her mother) and she's kicking her out (again) to live with her father in a completely different city (which is 6-7 hours away from her current living situation) and if she gets consent from one of her parents (at least) can she come move in with me if my mother also agrees to taking her in? Okay, so my friend lives in a very emotionally abusive home (with her mother) and she's kicking her out (again) to live with her father in a completely different city (which is 6-7 hours away from her current living situation) and if she gets consent from one of her parents (at least) can she come move in with me if my mother also agrees to taking her in? Please explain how if this is possible. If this is possible, please explain how. Sorry for being repetitive. I just got the account and I'm not too sure how this works.

I've been seeing two crazy women for the past 6 months. I like them both but they found out about each other about 4 months ago and it's been crazy ever since. Lisa, has gotten mad and thrown a drink on me on two separate occasions. She has shown up where me and Jessica were on a date and started a fight with me. She punched me in the face and stayed outside stalking us until we left. Then on another occasion Lisa saw me hanging out with friends and got mad because I didn't want to be with her that night. She tried to run me off the road then she cut up some shirts I left at her place and threw them across my front gate. They've both gone threw my phone and gotten each others phone numbers. Then they started calling and texting each other telling each one whenever I was with the other. Lisa started sending Jessica a call log of every time I called her. Last week I stood up Jessica to go be Lisa. Jessica send me a dozen really angry text message and then when I left Lisa's house in the morning all of the tires where slashed on the car. Jessica insist that she didn't do it that maybe Lisa did it she's always been violent. I was with Lisa at the time so I don't know when she could've done it unless she had someone else do it. Jessica claims Lisa is trying to turn me against her. For now I'm refusing to see either of them because I don't trust them. Who should I trust? They've both snooped through my things and now my car is damaged.

Hi :) I'm a 12 year old girl with a twin sister and a younger (8 year old) brother. People on here have already told me that my mom is emotionally and verbally abusive, but I'm asking about this one thing which she says a lot. Is it ok for her to tell me and my sister "Oh, I wanted a boy first," She has a history of saying stuff like that, and it kinds (ok a lot) hurts. Another thing I want to ask about is am I wrong to want more 'fun' in my life that is mostly focused on education? All they focus on is education, and believe me, I know it's important. I'm greatful for my home and that they have money to feed me and send me to private school and stuff, but I'm not allowed to be normal. I'm not allowed to go the the mall w/ friends, pick my own clothes, use my phone (I have one that my mom bought for me but she doesn't let me use it, weird), or make *any* choices. She constantly puts me down for my abnormal music tastes (y'know... emo stuff. It's a phase I know, it just helps when I'm pissed off), calling it suicidal and 'goth'. She teases me and puts me down, and when she asks 'what do you contribute to society' I always find myself either speechless or saying "but... but... but..." I have self-diagnosed depression, and I don't know what to categorize this as, but I'm always worried and always have my heart in my throat. Also, I am *petrified* of being judged from the moment I wake up. Anyway, could you please answer all of my questions and stuff? -no words left Also, I don't live w/ my dad. He lives in Charlotte NC, I live in Miami w/ my mom and siblings. He's way nicer than her, but he is always on business trips. I used to live there with my mom and everyone but then we moved. They're not divorced, but they fight a lot.

I live with my dad and I have found a bag of cocaine in his drawer and an empty bag of it in his car.

My mother in law never misses an opportunity to talk about her large chest. She is a petite/short woman and has no shape other than "up top". Her husband once said she is "embarrassed" about it, but both of them bring the big chest issue up constantly. Whenever we go shopping, she says "I have to have a size 6 shirt because of my big boobs, my sister is jealous of them but I am so self conscious because I cant find cute tops or bras for them being so gigantic". Is she truly "embarrassed or self conscious" or is this bragging? It is as if she wants me to know about them, but my husband's brother's girlfriend said she has never talked about the issue to her, once.

My life is probably at an all time low right now. I hate it and want a way for it to stop. When I was little my parents divorced. Probably for the better and things have been good after that. Both sides got married again and get along decently. I am currently in high school but for the past couple years things have been getting worse and worse slowly. At my Dad s house my step mom is always trying to force her way of doing things on everyone. This causes her to get in fights with my Dad and I very very often. Then my dad seems to just go with her whenever it s about me so lectures will continue one sided for an hour at least every day I am there. I understand part of it may be my fault but they act like I am the only reason anything bad in the family ever has happened and the only reason conflict is made. Things are not much better at my Mom s. There my step dad always guilt trips me whenever anything goes wrong and then refuses to change anything to try and lessen the pain caused between us. My mom has been stressed and is taking it out on me and my brother in any way possible. Then finally there is school. I go to an accelerated school where I am learning things 2 years above my grade in math and 1 year in other subjects such as Science, English. This causes lots of work for school and gives no time to me. I don t even have any good friends at that school to support me. What do i do to fix this?

I'm about to turn 16 in 4 days. I've been watching my sister since she was 2 months old (She's currently a little over a year and a half old). I RARELY get paid for it. I still get screamed at to wash dishes. I watch her about 4 times a week, for 12 hours (at night). She refuses to sleep at night (My parents won't fix her hours), so I end up staying up all night. I all ready have a LOT of stress and anxiety due to school and getting a job (Getting a job as soon as I turn 16). I HATE watching my sister. I do not have much patience and tolorance for her. I have other things to do, like getting proper sleep. My parents could afford a baby sitter, or actually switch their sceduals so one of them is home with her. Yet, they're trying to guilt me into watching her, even when I get a job. They never reward me for watching her. All it does it cause me stress. Due to them forcing me to watch her, I NEVER want to have children. I've been having severe panic attacks and even getting suicidal due to it. I do not want to watch her anymore. It's literally killing me. I'm over weight. I want to start going to the gym. They want to force me to juggle a job, going to the gym, other responsabilities, AND watching my sister. I don't want to. They literally can't force me to watch her. My dad is telling me that if I don't watch her, then I'll be ******* us over and we'll end up homeless again. Which is funny, since the last two times we where homeless it was his fault due to his drinking and dr- (continued) Drug addiction. She is not my responsability. They're the idiots who had unprotected sex. Am I cruel for refusing to watch her? Both my parents are extreamly emotionally abusive, and both generally make me wish to blow my brains out (Actually recently ended up at the hospital for cutting my wrists while having a panic attack about watching my sister). As soon as I'm 18 I'm planning to move out and not have anything to do with them again. Am I a bad person? Any time I speak up about it they both overreact. My dad will start screaming at me, saying I have no choice. My mom gets over dramatic and threatens to quit her job. If just one of them would switch over to working durring the day, then I wouldn't have to watch her. They can't seem to realize this.

For a long time now i was told stories of how my dad cheated on my mom many times. and my mom tolerated it. now i am 25. and things are quite normal. but a year ago my mom and dad had fights and my mom was always on the lookout of finding my dad guilty. because she thought he was cheating on her again. but after a few months things started to normalize. someone stepped into my mom's life. and i just thought its a friend. because he made sure my mom wasnt sad. again. i once asked her. she pretended like she didnt know what i was talking about. I let it be. because it helped make things better in the house. i never thought i'd regret it. she has become so fond of that person that now she lies to us. I dont know what he has been pouring into her ears that now she often ignores us and my dad. i know he hasnt been really nice to her before. but now i find her accusing him for nothing. just because she is at fault. i want to make things right but its becoming complicated. especially now that i know who that person is, it makes me sick in the stomach. shez always on phone with him. and he's not much older than i am. i want to expose him but that just means making things worse. i cant even tell anyone. what should I do?

FIL constantly picks on my husband in front of me. about his glasses, his weight, his beard, and pretty much bully's him. my husband has gotten better about being nice and respectful and putting him in his place but seems like he enjoys it and keeps doing it and in front of everyone. My husband had told my FIL that we have plans for the weekend and were not sure what we were doing but we had plans and he still wanted to do something with us that same weekend and giving my husband some bullshit about it. my husband i been married for 2 yrs now and i wondering is this ever going to change or what can we do to make this better? how can i deal with a FIL who is an *** and picks on my husband and self?

Today is monday and I was in my computer as usually and my mom just calls home, I answer and she asks me if I have homework. As usual I have so I said yes, Then she asks me if I finished it and I responded yes. Then randomly, the starts yelling at me and says that I need to read for 3 HOURS if not I don't get my computer. She is insane what should I do??

I always can't able to chat well with my parent.

Everyone's betrayed me I'm dead honestly phuck my life there's no hope. The girl of my dreams is with an abuser and I have no family

When I was a kid my mother was extremely anxious (of course she could not help this). She also held grudges (this part she chose). So she always warned me about any type of social error far more then most mothers and far more then my Dad. She also out of her bitterness insulted family to me regularly with things like "those relatives don't want a relationship with us" which ended up being a lie my mother was telling me (due to her distorted thinking). So now as an adult I am terrified of losing the loved ones my mother told me didn't love me as a kid and I later learned did. I was separated from them as a kid for about 5 years and 20 years later I am petrified it could happen again. I also have terrible social anxiety in all the same ways my mother did (all the things she warned me not to do I do). So how do I get rid of this anxiety my mother gave me. I am not mad at my mother or anything but she is the source of it along with genetics.