Family: Question: My grandparents hate me because of my ethnicity?

Question: My grandparents hate me because of my ethnicity?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:55 PM PDT

So, my grandparents from mom's side are from India. My dad is from England. I'm 16, and as a kid, id overhear my grandparents (when we visit India) criticize dad and call mom stupid for marrying "oppressors". (Yes, the British invaded India,but my dad dint give the order, and he's not old enough to be involved init) They also treat my Indian cousins way better than me. They only talk to me to judge me. They say that I'm not cultural (I know how to speak the language, but don't like to. I know the major holidays, but don't celebrate them) I got dad to invite them over to Portland to show them how things are different here. That was a mistake, because they started criticizig every thing I did: Example one: My gf came over, and we talked for a while. Before she left, o kissed her (just a peck), and my grandparents started chewing me out. They literally steal clothed from me that they don't want me wearing (who knew a leather jacket was inappropriate) They try to force me to "go out and play" like they did. My parents listen to them for whatever reason. They haven't let me go anywhere except school, and they slammed the door on my gf. I don't get why they hate her. Do they even know what kids our age are doing? They also won't lrt me eat normal food and basically force me to eat indian food, which I absolutely hate. My parents let this happen because they don't like dad, and he lets them do what they want t in an effort to get on their good side. How should I survive this hell?!!

Question: MANY FAMILIES IN EUROPE is indeed poor and hungry. DO YOU FEEL SAD?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:49 PM PDT

FAMILY. MANY FAMILIES IN EUROPE ARE out of work, poor, hungry, starving, and cant get enough to eat. food vouchers dont exist or gone and taken up by so many people including illegals and refugees. the food shortages and hunger is crippling families in all european countries. especially ukraine and russia. THE OUTSIDE WORLD HEARS BUT DONT SEEM TO CARE

Question: Can I get my son and daughter arrested?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:41 PM PDT

I have wanted them gone for 15 years, they refuse to leave saying they have no where to go. We live off of a highway, they can't walk as there are cars everywhere and no side of the road on highway to walk on. I have had my son and daughter in online school for 10 years. I've never allowed them to have a job, as I have refused to teach them to drive. They said they've applied for jobs before, but no one hires them as they have no learners permit, license or car. My son and daughter are 17 and 18. The law says I only have to give them minimal food and shelter says nothing about teaching them to drive or taking them to work. My name is Kevin, I'm 53 and have bipolar and adhd which causes me to act this way towards son and daughter. Can I get them arrested so never have to see them again? They did nothing wrong I have just only wanted them gone for 15 years.

Question: I have just found out that my mum has been texting this man what shall I do?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:33 PM PDT

We are currently getting work done to our house and the builder who is divorced has got false impressions from my mum and thought there is a romantic thing going on. My parents have been married for 17 years and have three young children 14,11 and 9 and I have just found messages on my mums phone between her and the builder. They are flurting a lot and they have both said I love you by text. I confronted my mum about this and said I will struggle to forgive her but I don t know what to do? Shall I tell my dad about the I love you thing- knowing it could result in a divorce? Should I tell my brother and sister? Please someone help x

Question: How do I stop my annoying younger cousin from begging me to play with her?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:02 PM PDT

K, so I'm 12 yr old boy and every year in the summer vacation I visit my grandparents and cousins about 2 weeks. Whenever I play on my iPad or do something else my younger cousin, who is a 7 yr old girl always asks me to play with her. This annoys me so much and sometimes I even cuss and she threatens to tell my grandmother or mother. When I tell her no she keeps begging me . I act nice to her and all but it becomes annoying. plz help!

Question: My ex girlfriend broke my door and came in with her boobs out should I pull her bra up or knock her out? : she is hurting my girlfriend?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:47 PM PDT

Question: I think my dad may have messed me up psychologically?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:45 PM PDT

My dad used to have a real temper, especially in the early years after he and my mum split. He was never physically abusive or even what I called abusive at all. Sometimes he'd ***** about my mum and it upset me but that petered out quite quickly and they get on fairly well now. Where we did used to have a problem was when we went on vacation with him. It wasn't inherently bad but for about 5 of the 7 yearly vacations we had in the 7 years after they split there would be at least one day where he would lose his temper over something. It was never for the majority of the vacation but it was usually 1, maybe 2 days. From the ages of 15-20, his temper subdued for the most part. He still gets angry sometimes but it's generally less unpredictable and dies pretty quickly without a real blow up. I feel he's always tried to make it up to us (me and my sister) but now I'm starting to worry my emotionally stunted attitude towards men is at least partially his doing. Given that I still love him and he has tried to make it up to us, I don't want to bring it up to him because I don't like hurting people when it feels unjustified. My dad has always been a sorry for himself sort of guy and it makes being mean to him difficult. Is it fair on me? No. But does it make me want to hurt him? No. So how do I get over this?

Question: What do I do if relatives are mad at me for attending the funeral for my grandfather's cousin when my 1st cousins are not going?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:43 PM PDT

What if they think this is rude of me and get mad?

Question: My mother thinks I am gay but I am not, how do I convince her of this?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:41 PM PDT

Question: How do I fix my mother and her sister (they are not speaking and I want them to so I can have a relationship with my aunt and cousins)?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:41 PM PDT

They aren't talking to each other and so I have been unable to see my aunts and cousins in two years. I am 15 so have to have my mother;s permission to see them. They live 6 hours away. How do I get them to start talking? I want extended family on my mother's side again. My other aunt and cousin are on the side of the aunt my mother won't talk to so we seldom see them either. The uncle we don't see much anyway and his kids are older. The grandparents died and that is what started this. So we lost my mother's whole family when my grandmother died two and a half years ago and I am depressed now. My Dad is an only child so there is no cousins on his side. How do I get my mother and her sister to mature and fix their fight or at least stop grounding me from seeing family? Talking to my mother about it hasnt worked.

Question: How to shut my brother up?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:23 PM PDT

my brother is being really annoying and i don't know how to shut him up so plz tell me

Question: My girlfriend is breastfeeding and her ex boyfriend is trying to get her to stop in his car. What should she do? He hates her?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:20 PM PDT

Question: My dad won't let me flush the toilet and I can only take a shower every two days?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:16 PM PDT

So in my area it hasn't rained in about 20 something days and it is considered a "drought" the average family in my area uses 7500 gallons of water a month me and my dad on average use less than 1500 gallons when we are using basically all we want. Yesterday he told me to not flush the toilet and only take showers every two days to save water. Our water bill is usually $29 a month $24 for the meter and $5 for our total water usage. That means that if we used no water at all he would save $5. He doesn't understand that the bill is already as low as it can possibly be. What do I do? I live in Alabama. It is not a bad drought nothing is dying it just hasn't rained in 20 days and is considered unusual. My point is that all the other families are using way more water than we are they said on the news that if you use more than 8000 gallons of water this month then you will be charged extra. And I can take a shower every day and flush the toilet every day and still use less than 1500 gallons. We are not the problem. We are already saving more water than everyone else

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:08 PM PDT

My brother always threatens to beat me up or kill me. Sometimes he wishes I was dead and he always thinks he's right in every argument. Today he took my glasses off, screaming in my face saying he was going to hit me because I was joking around. Whenever he needs me to side up with him or just needs whatever, he says I'm your brother so you need to. I feel so threaten to the point I just want to kill myself. I've said I will tell his counselor all this but then he will say I'm lying. I'm really so tired of him. This is why I don't like telling him anything or introduce him to people, he treats me like **** and talks ****. What should I do about him?

Question: My mom is kicking me out. I'm 15 and it's pouring rain.?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:01 PM PDT

I came home, soaked because it was pouring rain and my mom wouldn't come get me. When I got home I asked he why and she said she went to sleep ( she doesn't have a job and always sleeps or scrolls through Facebook ) she pays bills with child support from my dad. I told her she shouldn't have gone to sleep and should have came and got me. Then she started screaming and cussing at me and when I told her to stop she told me to pack my stuff and leave. Now she thinks I'm in my room packing. I know I seem like a bad kid from this but I'm really not. I'm good and school and always help our family. I don't know what to do.

Question: I need to pick up my stepdaughter from her mom's, because my husband can't get off early to pick her up on time. Can the mother refuse me?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:01 PM PDT

Question: Do i have to communicate with my sons dad?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 11:44 AM PDT

I have a 9 & 10 year old. I've been separated from their dad for 6 years and before that he wasn't in their life much. My sons are not attached to him. He's been trying to be in their lives and I don't mind. I just don't want to speak to him, deal with him. I've trued it many times believe me.. He ends up raising his voice at me, calling me names, trying to insult me and put me down. I refuse to answer the phone now. He's paying child support now but he's sending me the money directly, either through my bank or western union, money order. And he wants to communicate every 2 weeks about the money or to talk to the kids. My son has his own phone but he says "we gave to communicate". Do I hace to ???

Question: How to stop your child from being friends with someone?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 11:37 AM PDT

My daughter recently introduced me to her new friend and for a 5 year old she is very naughty and I don't want her to be a bad influence on my child, what is the right thing to do here?

Question: Golpear a un adolescente.?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 11:28 AM PDT

Soy un adulto de 32 y tengo un vecino de 16 o 17 años al que detesto por que siempre me está aventando basura a mi casa y sus padres no lo corrigen cuando les digo lo que pasa con él. Mi pregunta es ¿ si lo llego a golpear me metería en problemas con la ley?

Question: Do you think it's fair?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 11:04 AM PDT

Alright, for starters, a couple of weeks ago was my brothers' fair day and my mom told me I had to go to school. Well today is my fair day and I woke up my mom and asked her if my brothers go to school today and she says no even though she knew they had school. So, about 30 minutes ago before she left from work, she was discussing to my stepdad about coupons at the fair and I overheard and walked into the living room and said I wanted to go to the fair and she said no, that only my brothers can go, she also made me give up MY fair ticket just so my brothers could go to the fair a second time...even though they're all younger than me. Just last week we went to the fair and I didn't get to enjoy it because of my stepdad's nasty attitude, so we went home early and I never got anything from the fair and so my mom told me she'll take me to the fair again, but the chance that I do get to go, she doesn't let me and makes me sacrifice my ticket just for some bratty kids that don't do anything.

Question: If my sister have kids and im a uncle what are they to me?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 10:38 AM PDT

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Question: I Don't know what to do with my life?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 10:15 AM PDT

Hi Good Afternoon! Let me give you a background about myself. My name is Tiffany Gopal I'm 22 years old I'm about to be 23 next year, and I Don't know what to do with my life I'm partially an Adult and no I Can't move out because I'm not responable enough but I do have a temper anger issue where I throw stuff, I cuss at my family which they say I can't do anymore like they try to treat me like I'm a kid which I'm not anymore meaning I Can't cuss and I can't watch movies that are bad for me. and when I do get anger I always say I wanna move out because this house that we live in now. Is too much stress and If I Keep on saying this to my mom then she's gonna send me to Foster care if I keep this up. I mean I don't know what else to say I'm in the middle of getting my health problems fixed because since I was little I was born with heart problems and next month I'm going to Cathterzation sugary I had it the first time from 3 months but they want to do it again next month but I'm just praying that this will work this time because my doctors said that they're not doing open heart sugary anymore I had it since I was little but they said this sugary I'm having next month. It should be a light one but anyways I know they're a volunteer place I can go to but there's no transportation for me that's why I'm getting angry at my family like this like I don't know what to do anymore can you give me some answers about my situation please? With nice comments.

Question: My little brother is so annoying who here has an annoying little brother?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 09:25 AM PDT

Question: I'm a product of rape... I want to find my father's family not really my father. My mother is a compulsive lair so I can't ask her.?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 09:24 AM PDT

Question: Step-son borrowed money from my daughter now mom tells me not to worry about it. Should I stay out of it?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 09:11 AM PDT

My daughter has worked every summer for the past few years and she does a good job at saving her money. She's now in her second year of college and this past week she was home for fall break. My 20 year ols step son hasn't had the best of records on working. He's lazy and I finally had to force him to get a job. Well, my daughter told me last week that he borrowed $20 from her while she was home and she wanted us to bring it to her this weekend when we came down for homecoming at her school. We decided not to go but I told my daughter I'd get the money and just put it back into her account. My wife tells me that she's letting her son borrow her car tonight to go on a date with his girlfriend. I told her to remind him that he needs to pay back his step-sister before he goes out and spends all his money on his girlfriend. Her reply to me was I shouldn't be worried about that and I'm only making an issue out of it cause they're not blood related. No, when you borrow money from someone you pay them back before you do anything else with your money. We're not charging him rent or asking that he pay any bills so the money he makes is his. His first obligation should be to give my daughter her $20 then he can take the rest to do what ever he wants. Am I wrong and is this just another attempt for mommy to coddle him to always skirt his responsibilities?

Question: Why do some people like being treated bad my dad put my mother threw a lot over the years and she stayed with him she should had left?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 08:46 AM PDT

Question: My stepmom hates me and want me gone?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 08:38 AM PDT

So, Yesterday I started applying to college and my stepmom told me to apply to better school and not what's close to home. She also told me she didn't want me to come home. I buy and sell on Craigslist to make money, I went out last night to make the deal. Before I left, she gave me this bad attitude how it's in conflict with school and stuff even though I finished my homework already. So i went out and made the deal and come home. She tells me how I can't make deal at night and I should move further for college so I don't come home. She said how once I go to college, she is free and doesn't want me to come home. She said all this in a very mean way. I'm not a bad person. I dont smoke, drink, go to party, do drug, go out super late or anything like that. I don't ask my mom for much: I walk to school, use Craigslist with my own money, do my own things on the weekend and I dont really ask her for help. I ask her to take me to school one day when I'm sick and she wouldn't even do that. She is very stubborn like she isn't open to talk things out or compromise. She always want it her way and doesn't want to talk about it. When I ask her something and she answer no, she has to give me a bad attitude and add a rant to it. She seeems like the kind of person who should stay single. I dont know why she even got married. She clearly want everything her way and privacy. She is better off staying single. I'm just a bit depressed and need some help. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for the advice so far, but my dad is working oversea and it's hard to contact him.

Question: What should my cousin do? Help I need advice!?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 08:32 AM PDT

I feel bad for my cuz because he has bad ADHD. i know i can't do anything much about it and its not really my business but i feel bad. he struggles with everything. He stayed with us a few weeks because he lives with our grandma he's 20 years old. We all drive even me and I'm 17 I started when I was 16. He can't drive because his low attention span, cook because he's afraid of fire. He's scared of everything. We ask him to help around the house and he doesn't mind but he says he always screws up and well... he's right. If there's a mess he won't clean up until you tell him too because he won't notice it. When he does "Clean" up he half asses it because he's lazy or doesn't understand. He doesn't even know how to dust the house or clean anything. His parents never taught him anything so they neglected him. My uncle aka his dad is a jerk and yelled at him a lot and called him stupid because he wasn't an A student. He never played sports either. Staying here he just does the same thing which is play on the computer all the time. He doesn't have a job I asked him why. He told me he's anxious of people and doesn't want to be relied on and tired of failing everything so he gave up along time ago. 2 years ago we worked together at a hotel, I could tell he was very uncomfortable and stuttered with customers. I feel shitty because my dad talks how worthless he is to the family and society. They talk crap about him behind his back when he's back with grandma. Should I tell his parents?

Question: Why are my parents getting a divorce?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 08:25 AM PDT

I'm a 15 year old female, my parents fight constantly, and I just found out that they're getting a divorce. I'm sad and confused. Please help.

Question: What should I do (brother mother fight)?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 08:01 AM PDT

I m the eldest I m 15 and I have a 10 year old brother that s really naughty and aggressive sometimes when he does something wrong my mom goes crazy and starts beating him up with the belt and slapping him and kicking him so the point is SHE BADLY BEATS HIM UP my father doesn t really do anything he just continues what he was doing without caring about what s happening (sometimes he also beats him but not as much as my mom does) we live in Egypt so I can t tell any child support or something and my family like my aunt s and uncles live abroad so I don t really know what to do with my brother I definitely can t let my mom keep beating him up whenever she s mad at him and my biggest concern is that in 2 years I m leaving the country should I take my brother with me?? And what should I do about my brother for the time being??

Question: Is there a way I can test my mom to see if she loves me?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:55 AM PDT

I'm 16 and I have doubts about whether my mom loves me or not. She yells at me all day, curses me out (etc) for no good reason or because of her mood or just because she feels like it. I know she is really sick because of her anger issues but why can't she be nice to me once in a while like when I really don't feel well and I just can't handle her screaming because I already have a huge headache or when it's my birthday. She always belittles me and puts me down. She makes a good day of mine turn around and become crappy. Yet anytime I ask her if she loves me she says yes, is there a way to prove this? With a test or something? And I don't care if she buys me something for a couple of dollars... which is rare by the way (and is mostly food, she doesn't buy me any clothes) because at the end of the day I don't feel loved.

Question: Dad doesnt allow me long nails?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:53 AM PDT

hey guys. my dad seems to have a problem with my long nails that i grew out for a long time. he always tells me to cut them and if i say i wont, he says he is going to cut them. when im asking him for a reason he starts shouting at me. i really dont know what to do, since my parents are always strict like that and forbid me everything. i cant ask my mom for help because she's always on my dads side. can you guys give me some advice what i could do? ps: i'm 16 and female. also i dont live in a very religious family.

Question: Should I move out of my abusive household?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:48 AM PDT

I'm 20 years old, turning 21 next month. For as long as I can remember my mother has been an alcoholic, from 13 I took on most of the responsibilities around the house including raising my younger brother since my father abandoned us years ago. I never had any freedom to do anything I wanted to do but I never had a problem with any of this until 3 years ago when I met my boyfriend and got a glimpse of what a normal family is like. Being around my mother has made me develop severe anxiety, she doesn't want me to get a job or move out because of her own selfish desires. I want to be independent and it's something i do strive for but it's nearly impossible with her because I can't focus on myself. She acts psycho when it comes to me being around friends or even other family members. She just lost her job and that was the last straw for me. I live in the north and I have the chance to move out of state with my boyfriend, where living costs are WAY cheaper he also has a job opportunity for me at his job, I don't plan on telling her just leaving and then letting her know later. Should I do it being that I'll never be able to live like a functioning adult living here? She's even said herself that she basically owns me and can control my life just because she's my mother. It's taken a toll on me emotionally and mentally and this may be my only way out. Btw, she refuses treatment so that's out of the question.

Question: How do i tell my parents i was sexually abused?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:43 AM PDT

I'm an 18 year old guy but when i was around 5 or so i was sexually abused multiple times by my mom's friend's son. He used to get me in is room and sit me on his lap, unbuckle my pants and touch me, and i think that has contributed to a lot of my anger and self-esteem issues.....I have plans with my pastor to go over to his house and tell my parents because I want him there.....i just want to word it in a way that they won't freak out and I REALLY DON'T want my mom to cry.......how do i tell them?????

Question: How do I convince my dad to let me walk to the town next to me? (It'd be an hour or so walk)?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:20 AM PDT

Well, my town is pretty boring. Everything is super expensive and there is nothing to do. But the town next to mine has a BUNCH of stuff. I just want to go to the other town and bring like, 20 dollars. I'm 14. My dad trusts me to go shopping for the whole family (he is handicapped) so why shouldn't he trust me to walk on my own for an hour? I walk outside like, an hour and a half everyday but I have never left my town to do it. I don't live in an area with a bunch of gangs or anything, I think the biggest worry would be that I'm walking next to a bunch of cars but it will be day time and I don't plan on jumping into the middle of the street or something.

Question: What should I do if I have a raging crazy ***** of a mother that also always try to lie 5 seconds after something?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:09 AM PDT

She would tell me to do something and I would do it. Today is a good example, she tells me how it's bad for me to keep eating hot dogs but has hot dogs already made for breakfast. I said I thought you didn't want me eating it anymore. She says she'll make mac and cheese too then. I assumed that I was suppose to eat both so when I eat the hot dog, she bitches at me. She says I said I didn't want the hot dogs when I've been saying I don't care what's for breakfast. I repeated the conversation to her in the argument and she says nothing is ever her fault. She straight up believes all of the family problems are not her fault in the slightest. She even thinks she is innocent the time my sister ran away from home when she did it because of my mom. This ***** likes to talk **** about everyone and is delusional. What should I do?

Question: Do I have to keep greeting my uncle's wifes (aunt) father?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 07:01 AM PDT

I see him in school everyday, he works there. do I have to keep greeting him when I see him? I am feeling it is starting to become tiresome.

Question: I didn't want to take my school uniform off so my dad slapped my face, threw me over the couch and pulled my uniform off. Is this abuse?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 06:54 AM PDT

He pulls me and my siblings' ears a lot. He once hit my sister so bad that she had a bruise. He once hit my brother with a hockey stick. He knows I hate being touched, but still grabs me by the arm or pushes me. My dad used to threaten me a lot when I was smaller. Said he would throw me off the bed and throw the bed on me if I don't get up. I take long to shower, so he said (I quote): "If you do that again, I will kick the door open, and pull you out of the shower with violence."

Question: Why are they so spolied?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 06:13 AM PDT

I don't see how it is my fault. My name is Kevin, I am 53. I have wanted my kids gone for 15 years, my son is 17 and my daughter is 18. I have been distancing myself from them for 10 years. I have allowed them to have very minimal contact with anyone from outside as I have had them in online schooling for 10 years. These kids are spolied rotten, they claim it is my job to take them to work if they apply to applications but no where in the law does it say that. We live off of a highway, my son and daughter are unable to walk as there are cars everywhere and no sidewalks or areas to walk on the side of the highway on. I did not teach my son and daughter how to drive at 15 and 16, and I am sure not going to start now. I have taken them before to apply for jobs, but no one hires them as they have no learners permit, no license and no car. They also have no money since they have never found a job yet because of this. Why do they claim it is "my" job to teach them to drive or drive them if they find a job? No where in the law does it say it is my job. It only says you have to feed and shelter them. I want to kick them out, or I would like for them to sneak out and never come back. I have wanted them gone for 15 years, my wife is on my side as I have ADHD as well as bipolar. I stopped celebrating my son and daughters birthdays when they were 8 and 9 year olds yet they're still spolied!

Question: University student robocup competition recently ended in china. How could i ask to receive the winners, pictures? get to the Images?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 06:11 AM PDT

Question: Isn't my mom wrong in this situation?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 06:08 AM PDT

When she was 15 she was raped by a 17 year old man and forced to bear his child. Everyone in her family loojed down on her and she even got kicked out of the house! (This was in the 70's btw) Just recently she went shopping with the MAN THAT RAPED HER and talked to him as if they were long time buddies. I ask her about it and she says she forgives him because he was only 17 at the time and they grew up in a third world country where you aren't really scolded for rape as you are in America. And because he isn't like that now. What's wrong with her?! Why did she converse with a filthy rapist?!

Question: Native English-speaking Parents, what do you think?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:38 AM PDT

1. When my husband I call my daughter upstairs, she ALWAYS says "what!!!?"(stressed on 'a'/ showing her annoyance) 2. When we find her behavior improper and talked about it or correct it, she says "oK" (stressed on 'K') We are not native English speaking parents, but the both always sound offensive or defensive. We've tried to correct many times (e.g. say "Ok/stressed on 'O', or "I understand") but she keeps forgetting and never correct them, and now she's 15 and says "everybody's like that with parents" I don't think so??? p.s. She behaves very well outside, especially school teachers all like her. But she has less respect to her parents.

Question: My daughter loves my ex more than me?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:27 AM PDT

I love her very much but she hates me and loves her dad very much. We have got joint custody but she wishes to stay with him all the time and hates it when she comes to me. I did not mean any harm to her and have always treated her nice. I do not know if my ex has infected her. What do I do?

Question: My brother, a druggy, is cruel to my parents. Do I have the right to be mad at him even though he is an adult?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:12 AM PDT

I sympathize with the addiction but resent his cruel behavior towards our parents (especially our mother). He is sober right now we believe as he just got out of prison but I don't have high hopes and he is refusing to make contact with our parents and there is no reason for that (no fight and nothing our parents have done wrong). So do I have the right to be mad at this brother even though he is family?

Question: Why are my siblings so jealous of me?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:11 AM PDT

I'm in my first year of a levels and I don't mean to sound vain (this is anonymous anyway), I am the smartest and mist talented out of my siblings and the most success does generally come to me. I'm in the most prestigious a level college in my city and people always compliment my talents. Plus, my father is the nicest to me. But in return, I have never shown arrogance to my siblings or anyone, in fact, I am the most considerate and understanding towards my older sister (the one who hates me the most.) She has wasted three if her years instead of going to uni because of some problem in her transcript and my brother us also in a really good college, but it is no where near as good as mine. And ever since I got accepted, he's been so awful ti me, always making fun of it, calling me a loser because I paint and write in my free time instead if just chilling and him and my sister are always making false assumptions about NY smallest actions and talking **** about me. (Like the other day, I had earphones on and I didn't hear my sister calling me so the made the biggest deal and called me an arrogant ***** and shes been a ***** to me for two days and I didn't even know why until my other sister told me). They call my friends hideous and just earlier, my dad (who's usually so kind to me) yelled at me so much in front of guests over something that wasn't my fault (when he does this to my siblings, I immediately take their side) and they laughed at me so hard. Why are they like this?

Question: How do I know if my relatives are plotting against me now that my mother has died?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:09 AM PDT

My mother has died and they resented her for good reason. Now all there is left is me and my brothers to get back for all my mother did. I am the only daughter so will they plot against me? Since the sons are boys will they target me as the daughter? Will my brothers turn against me? Will my mother's brother's turn on me? I don't mean any physical threat but I mean emotional threats, financial threats, to get back for all my mother did. How do I know if they will or if they are past that? They seemed nice at the funeral two weeks ago but what if those were fake smiles like my mother always said they were?

Question: PLEASE HELP. Why is my dad so selfish? Should I ask him?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 05:09 AM PDT

I'm 15 (male) I'll be 16 in 3 months. I have a really good body build, and I don't think my dad likes that because he's always been scrawny. I don't think he wants me to get attention from girls, just because he never had it. It took me forever to get a good body build and become strong, and he's doubted me the whole way through it. Saying "You're not doing it right" or "You'll never be ripped, you're more likely to gain mass, but not get toned". I really don't like him for that. Ever since I got my first girlfriend, he's been talking about moving us to another state, and I'm almost positive it's because I got a girlfriend and she's really pretty so he doesn't want me to be with her. I can't understand this because he has a wife, so he shouldn't be a pig like this. Do I confront him about this??

Question: Should I apologize to people if my mother is drunk or lit at the funeral we are going to today?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:53 AM PDT

It is a funeral for her older cousin and my mother is an alcoholic.

Question: I don't speak to my brother because he lies about our mother who is wonderful and she had to stop speaking to him, question below?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:52 AM PDT

He also was unmotivated all through high school. He has gotten our relatives on my Mom's side of the family to think poorly of my mother's tough love decision to end her regular contact with him when he was 20 (cards for birthday and Christmas still sent). So my question is this. His birthday is next Friday (a week from today) and he will be 24. It has been 3 and a half years of virtually no contact starting in 2012 when my mother told him he was barred from Christmas because of his laziness. Should I wish him a Happy Birthday or with the hurt he has caused am I best to just consider him divorced from the family and make no contact? What hurts me most is how he got most of my Mom's family to think my Mom is so horrible when she is wonderful and now we have no extended family (our Dad is out of the picture though we see his sister occasionally). We used to have holidays with my mother's family and we don't go down because of the drama my brother will pull and my one aunt.

Question: How to make peace with your mom before moving out?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:52 AM PDT

My mom is in denial of accepting me as my own individual.She has always been difficult to talk to...its always about her never about my feelings. I dont knw how to make peace before moving out bc im so hurt of everything she has done to me emotionally...(she is a good mom bc she always provided for me but has failed in the emotional aspect) i dont knw what to do bc everything i do is wrong in her mind😔☹️

Question: Is she a bad mother?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:50 AM PDT

Let's say there's a woman she buys her three year old son boy toys and girl toys. She dresses him up in light pink sweaters, or light blue sweaters. He also plants flowers and enjoys feeding people cookies. but sometimes he can be a little aggressive without realizing it. Example when people are using his things he wants people to follow his rules and listen to him. Otherwise he might get a little physical to enforce his rules. he knows he's a boy and pees standing up. he loves his mother but sometimes he's really sad because he misses his father. his father is dead, he wishes he had a dad like other kids. his mother often feels lost and confused but she tries her best.

Question: Please tell me american traffic signal maker?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:24 AM PDT

Question: How do I convince my parents not to wax my legs?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:16 AM PDT

Waxing my legs is very painful for me but my parents are forcing me to do it because they are very controlling. I tried to tell them that alternative methods without pain exist but they are refusing them.

Question: I never cried when my uncle died?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 04:13 AM PDT

My uncle had died from cancer not that long ago and doctors were giving him a week to live and my whole family was sobbing except for me... I never really saw him that much but much but whenevet we would see him, we would have an awesome time together. The only time I ever saw him was maybe like twice every 3 or 4 years and im 16 so it hasn't been that many times. I went to their house like a week for my uncle went to the hospital and we were all watching TV. I was upset when he died but I never cried. usually I cry whenever someone dies so this was the first time I didn't. Is that bad?

Question: Why do alcoholic family members cause such havoc on the rest of the family?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 03:32 AM PDT

Question: I think I made a mistake by not going for adult guardianship while my daughter was still a minor. Am I too late?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 03:16 AM PDT

She's 18 and being defiant. She's got a 23 year old boyfriend now, and she's already gotten drunk once, knowing how many meds she's on. He acted like it wasn't a big deal. What the hell am I supposed to do? She's going to fight me if I go for adult guardianship. I'm willing to put her in an independent living - which is a group home - if that helps, but I don't really know how to prove incompetence. She does have a long history of mental illness, but she's been rather stable for the past year. I'm concerned this will work against me. But I also don't want to wait until she has a bad flare up and don't have a way to protect her, either. What would you recommend? PS No offense, but if you're a well-intended person who's never been through this and feel I'm being controlling, please don't comment. I realize how this looks to someone who hasn't gone through this. But I've just spent 17 years (she was adopted) trying to protect her, oftentimes from herself.

Question: I got caught swearing?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 02:45 AM PDT

My brother has my old phone all my text messaging on my current phone still goes to my old phone so my brother was looking at all the text messaging I sent to my best friend and I was extremely mad at my brother so I was like my brother is a f***ing retard and stuff and he told my dad. I'm 11 btw, what should I do?? I'm dead meat when my dad will wake up

Question: How do I convince my mom to make my brother go the **** to bed?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 01:46 AM PDT

Im a Jr in high school and I often pull all nighters, about 2 or 3 week. Keep in mind i dont do this for fun, when im up late at night its to get **** done. I find it easiest to work at night because the house is dead quiet and i can concentrate very easily. Ive been super craming and studying this year to look good for college applications so this alone time at night is extremely crucial to me. Unfortunatly my little brother has been going through this phase where he's just a complete and total *** for no reason. So just to be a little **** he stays up all night sitting at the table where Im trying to do my work and does nothing but plays loud videos and games on his phone. It's so unbelivably distracting and annoying that I cant get anything done. I tell him to go to his room or put on earphones but he just ignores me everytime. Ive told my mom multiple times about this and she just brushes it off. Im ready to legitimatly smash this kids phone on the ground and ram his fcking face into the wall. The late nights and studying already has me on 24 hour edge and all I need to snap is a little push. Please give me some tips on how to convince my mom to make my brother at least go to another room when it get past 12 am in the fcking morning. Any advise helps, thanks.

Question: Son made a fake Facebook account to try to get nude pics of me (his DAD) he is 15?

Posted: 21 Oct 2016 12:23 AM PDT

i received a friend request on FB and i didn't know who she was so i denied it. later i received a message from the account saying how "handsome" i was. i am married, but i replied with a thank you. then the next day i get another message asking about my package size and all the things they would love to do with it. i wrote back saying i am not interested and am married. when i sent that message i heard a jingle go off in my sons room. i went to go see what it was and i looked on his tablet and it was my message. he made a fake Facebook account to try to get dirty photos of me. i haven't asked him because at this point i think he may be gay, or just bored. THIS IS NOT CLICK BAIT! haven't told the wife either.. what the **** should i even do? or begin to do??

Question: How do I get out of a bad situation with my parents?

Posted: 20 Oct 2016 11:55 PM PDT

I recently got into a relationship for the very first time, I love my girlfriend and I'm trying to make lost time with my biological father. My grandparents raised me, and I was adopted within the family. Lately, things have gotten worse due to my mother being diagnosed with breast cancer, then getting stage four cancer some time after her operation (Maybe a few weeks.) While my situation isn't the greatest, it's not terrible, but I have little to no control on what I can and can't do. I am twenty years old, and I am being treated like a child. I want this treatment to stop, and I have demonstrated that I can be responsible, I understand respect is a two way street. My Dad (my grandfather) flipped out and nearly had an aneurysm because I posted on facebook, thanking my girlfriend and biological father for making my birthday great. My parents were deeply upset by this, my father stopped throwing things and what not, my sister told them they should just give up on me. I have asked my sister about moving out and finding a place on my own and how to survive on my own, but she usually just says I'm better off where I'm at, and provides nothing as far as actual help. Most of the time she doesn't act interested. I feel like my whole family hates me, and in all honesty. I knew my extended family deep down hated me. I don't really care what they think, because I'm better off without them.. So I guess the next part of this question is, Is it better to wait this thing out? Just staying the night at her house is a catastrophe, and my Dad becomes very upset, I will admit I was distant in my high school days but I don't understand why I'm being treated this way. I don't mouth off or curse at them, I do what I'm told, I have taken things for granted at times, and lied to them, but I have stopped lying, and proved that I can be trustworthy.