Family: Question: I'm Muslim and South Asian. Received a great proposal from a great guy I really want to accept. My brother-in-law/devar is awesome but...?

Question: I'm Muslim and South Asian. Received a great proposal from a great guy I really want to accept. My brother-in-law/devar is awesome but...?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:56 PM PDT

...I know his fiancée and her family and they don't suit either of ours at all. They're always arguing and picking fights with people in the community and tbh they're kind of trashy...I know it shouldn't matter if the guy is great, but it is a joint family system and his family and mine value family a lot, so there's no option to distance ourselves plus the brothers are close and I really do like his family (brother included). But I know her well and I know she will cause problems, she is very two faced and I've seen this side of her with other people never myself and it's bad...what would it be like to be her sister-in-law?!

Question: My Dad mocks me like a grade school bully, how do I get him to stop?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:56 PM PDT

He especially does it when stressed.

Question: I hate the Christmas season because of how my mother tries to keep me from my Dad and the drama it causes, PLEASE HELP?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:55 PM PDT

Every year I go through this and every year I will in the future. My fear of losing my Dad again. When I was a little kid my mother wouldn't let me see him due to their divorce. When I was 14 I was able to start seeing him again. He didn't fight for the right to see me like he should have but that was his only flaw. Each year at Christmas it is a contest of my mother trying to make it as difficult as possible for me to see my Dad. This year she announced last night Christmas will be all 3 days of the weekend and I'd better be there because my grandmother is ill (had a stroke) and this could be her last year. I will be with my mother 2/3 of the time but I also want to see my Dad. My mother is exaggerating her mother's condition to try and get my father (who she hates with a passion) to not welcome me over. All this and it is still only October. I need to see both parents at the holidays for my needs as a 22 year old adult to be met. So while she can't hold me back, she can make it so my Dad and his wife are not as welcoming. Then I get anxious and become more likely to mess up. How do I break this funckin childish game my mother plays every year on me? I will be with her as my grandmother is ill, but all 3 days is not necessary. My Dad lives 3 hours away. My father will be out of town with his wife's family at Thanksgiving so I will be with my mother for that holiday

Question: What do i do?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:47 PM PDT

So, when i was typing up my Business Studies work at college, instead of handing it to the teacher, i put it into my folder. At parents evening later that week, the teacher asked where the work was, so the next day, i took it from my folder and gave it to him. He then emailed my parents about this and my mum went CRAZY, she threw her glass of wine at me and left me to clear the glass up, she then shouted at me from the top of the stairs, I then phoned my dad and broke down in tears to him. I'm Fine, but what can i do about my mum??] thanks x ANY ANSWERS GREATLY APPRECIATED, THANK YOU

Question: Father screwing us ober, foreclosure... need help fast?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:25 PM PDT

So basically early 2014 my father and mother where going to get a divorce years later 2016 and no divorce but he is now not living with us and soon is child support but, we have 4 pets,my brother, his girlfriend, and their child (brother is 18), and me I m 16. So my father left us in February he moved out to an apartment and he basically left us with a foreclosed house. We need to get out in 9 days and we can t find a place at all my mom doesn t make much and now recently my dad is pulling a fake (I m pretty sure) child support paper. My dad makes quite a bit of decent money and he owes 241 per child minus 90 for the insurance because my mom doesn t have health insurance. Which in math equals around $120, but he some how managed to get $39 per child weekly. Which does not make sense at all. Not to mention he didn t get my brothers birthdate right so he can t even take it to court and he clearly made himself my brothers girlfriend recently found the same documentation paper on google, the only number that didn t have any cents like 10.00 you know was $39 (the total) which also doesn t make sense to do that because the total before all the insurance was specifically 241.64, insurance $90.00 where did the 64 cents go in the $39 dollars..? It makes no sense... we re literally almost homeless because of my father. Someone please help me on helping my family. ❤️

Question: Mom says my Dad left me when he left her, how do I get her to see this is not necessarily true now that i'm a teen?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:11 PM PDT

My mom has worked hard to keep me away from my Dad ever since he left my mom when I was little. She keeps me from his family also. I have dug to see if he is abusive and found he is not. Worst I can find is his driving is bad. However, he is not good about visiting weekly mike most divorced Dads. I see him twice a year and my mom keeps me from seeing him at holidays and won't let me have him to my birthday, it is all about her. I finally saw it when my cousin mentioned how his Dad (divorced from my aunt) still sees him every weekend despite having an affair which is even worse then what my dad did. So I am 16 and I finally told my mother when she was doing her weekly trash talk my Dad ritual "he divorced you, not me" and she said "he divorced all 3 of us" (her, me, and my sister). Now she has repeated that twice since (repeated he divorced all three of us). He is not a champion father but it hurts me that she won't let me see him especially at Christmas because my birthday is two days after Christmas. I hate the holidays because of this. How can I change all this when my Dad is unmotivated to come over more often and my mother is devoted to living a life devoted to bad mouthing him for leaving her eleven years ago. He lives one or two hours away but I only see him twice a year usually (maybe a third time if there is a wedding). My mom never lets us see his family either except one aunt who was on my mother;s side in the divorce. I hear I have some nice cousins on my mother's side but i've only met them once because my mother won't let me see Dad's family. whereas my mother's family we see weekly despite my grandfather being an alcoholic (though he died last year)

Question: What do you think of my situation?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:08 PM PDT

So here's the deal. I'm 22 years old and I'll be graduating from college with my B.A. in a few months. In my field, there aren't really any jobs that pay a ton. I'll have to start with a lower-paying job and work my way up towards a higher-paying job. The thing is, the jobs I'll start out with won't pay enough for me to support myself. Therefore, I'll probably be living with my parents for at-least a year after I've graduated and they'll be financially supporting me during that time as well. If I do wind up moving into an apartment with roommates, they'll be paying for it as I won't be able to. Is it normal that I'll still be financially dependent on my parents even after I graduate from college?

Question: I am nervous about the holidays that start in a month because it is all about family and my mother is separated from here family?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:59 PM PDT

How do I get through this? Some years go well and they are happy to see me. Other years do not if my mother has just had a fight with her siblings. I can't seem to shake the notion that holidays are rooted in whether I see my mother's side of the family or not (we see my Dad's side and are close to them). As you can tell by the volume of questions I ask it is a frequent thought of mine. How does one shake it off and just reach out and not care the response? In my mother's family children of an opponent are sometimes not welcome. I have seen my mother do it to her opponents (foes).

Question: Hate my job, need help.?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:37 PM PDT

I am 17, and a junior in high school at the moment. About a month ago, I began working my first job as a cook at KFC. I always work the closing shifts from 5:30 to 10:30pm. The problem is, I am working almost every day, and other than weekends, I barely ever get to be at home to relax,do homework, socialize with my family etc. My school lets out at 4:00pm and my parents don't get home from work until 5. So during the week, I see my family for maybe 15 minutes, and then I go work for 5 hours and by the time I get back everyone is asleep and I just go to bed. No fun, no time for school work, nothing. I hate it! Not to mention most of the time, I end up leaving at 11 because it's impossible to get everything done by my shift end. I need the money from the job so I can save up for a car for myself, but I'm seriously not so sure I can live like this any longer. What should I do?

Question: Sick of my brother badgering me.?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:36 PM PDT

Yes, I'm overweight. I'm 15, 210 pounds, and his younger sister. He always says " I'm trying to help you." His version of help is jumping on me anytime I eat junk food and telling me I'll wake up 400 pounds one day and be unable to fit through the door and other nasty comments. How do I stop him?

Question: My sister now hates me, how do I fix it?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:29 PM PDT

I'm 15 ( MALE) and she's 17 and the reason she hates me is because I peed on lots of stuff in her room (As a prank) for telling on me for some stupid incident that happened before to my mom. That "incident" got me grounded for a month, and made me mad at her. So while I was grounded, I did the prank. Later, when she smelled it in her room, she came to me and ask what I did. I told her what I did, and she started crying. Then, I actually felt very bad, and regretted what I did. My mom didn't know yet because it only happened two hours ago. But when she does I'll be dead. But I said I was sorry to her like billions of times and she's not talking to me at all. Please help me to get her to stop hating me.

Question: I have overprotective parents?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:22 PM PDT

I am going to be 17 this December and my parents don t allow me to go out on my own even to somewhere like the grocery store my mom gets frustrated by the idea of me walking alone in the streets and my father gets super annoyed when I tell him that i want to go to a friend s house and I know they re doing this because they love me so I don t insist. A lot of my friends get offended because each time they invite me somewhere I say I can t and it s becoming a big problem for me. I definitely tried discussing this with my parents but it hasn t done anything I also can t tell my friends about this because I m ashamed... what should I do?

Question: Is my step-mother in a cult?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:20 PM PDT

Her father tells her what to do and she does it. She only got married with his permission. She is terrified of displeasing her mother. She won't let my Dad see me unless it fits within her parents schedule. They live nearby and check in almost daily. She has three siblings and two are the same way (one is not as obsessively loyal). The family gets together every Sunday at a country club like restaurant (I think it might be a country club) and if you aren't there you are ridiculed to no end so my Dad can't see me on Sundays for that reason. My Dad is 50 but my step-mother is 33 so younger. Her youngest sibling is 26 so her parents young. I am not real close because they don't seem to count me as family (maybe as distant family) though I see them at events friends are included at. I saw them this weekend though and saw my step-mother's frantic efforts to please her mother. Lastly, her father was loving but very strict apparently he used a belt to discipline. They fear him. He is not a child abuser but rigid. They all vote how he votes. I heard my step-mother say last summer "I'd vote 3rd party because I can;t stand Trump but my father would be furious" so now I see she has a Trump-Pence sticker on her car (her Dad is a big Republican). So is this a cult she is in even though there is no illegal activity and nothing religious about it? They are not strict on religion or anything, they attend the United Methodist Church.

Question: Tired of my STUPID parents?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:16 PM PDT

Im 13 and I have really mean parents! They won't let me date people that aren't white. When I called them racist they got mad and said that they don't like people that aren't white. What can I do, I really like someone but he's not white. Please help!!!! where I live it is quite normal to date at 13 its not really "dating" though

Question: I'm retired, single, taking care of and living with my parents, 87 and 90. Need help dealing with the situation.?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:10 PM PDT

I'm retired, single, taking care of and living with my parents who get SS. My mother is 87 and father 90. They are both getting forgetful and can't get by alone anymore. I'm just about at my limit with dealing with this. I don't have the temperament to be a nurse. We don't have a lot of money to throw at recurring costs but we do own the house and a little property which might be sold if necessary. I would welcome ANY detailed responses with suggestions on how I might deal with this, especially from anyone who is or has had to already.

Question: My son didn't invite me to his wedding?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:53 AM PDT

So my ex-husband and I divorced eleven years ago and since then I haven't had much contact with my 4 kids since my ex won full custody. They are all grown up now and I want to be part of their lives. I was saddened to learn that my oldest, who is 28 got married in September and I never got an invitation. I think his father had something to do with it because me and him have not liked each other since the divorce. I am deeply hurt by this and want to call my son and tell him how I feel, but my boyfriend who I have been dating for six years says I should drop it. What should I do because I really want to have a relationship with my children.

Question: Can i get my dad arrested for not buying me food when im sick?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:52 AM PDT

im sick. im sick like at least once a month and its so annoying. and i have barely eaten for 1 day. and i ask my dad to go toby carvery and get me a take out roast dinner. and he said no cuz he got a lot of paperwork to do. ive inserted a picture at the bottom so u can see the food he said no to. i said i will do his paperwork while he go gets it. but he said no. so i just tried to show him how helpful ill be, by taking his paperwork from him. he got so mad and said hes gonna beat me up, sick or not. its just paper, why hes so mad? he said we can go tomorrow and actually sit in the resturant and eat it and tonight we can just get pizza. i dont want pizza. i want roast dinner. hes just so annoying. if my b-tch sister said she wanted something, he would run out of this house and go get it for her. i even tried to go myself and get the dinner. and he wouldnt let me take his car. well what does he want me to do? can i get him arrested he pretends to care about this family but he doesnt. and he tried to make me work on a biology assignment when im sick. said i cant waste time. being sick isnt wasting time. then he accuse me of faking sick so i dont have to do school work. why would i fake sick when we're off school til next monday anyway! i want this food, not make my own. nearest toby is too far too walk. its just normal food people eat on sundays usually. or u can have it any day. i want it today. its nothing nasty. its just mashed potato, stuffing, yorkshire pudding, roast potatoes, boiled vegetables, gravy. looks like this person has gammon and pork scratchings and sausage but i dont eat them my mother cooks all the time. its just this particular day i want this particular food and we dont have ingredients to make it. also she dont make it as nice as my grandma or resturants. cuz its not her food and now hes bullying me, saying i better not be b-tching about him on the internet cuz he went out this monring and got me orange juice and a caramel custard donut from greggs. that was yesterday!! you know i am gonna insult him on the internet. im gonna write a facebook status

Question: Sister in denial about weight?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:26 AM PDT

My sister and I got in a huge fight about her weight. I love her dearly, feel it's my duty as her older brother to help her, and want her healthy. Both of my parents are overweight. I used to be but decided to drop the weight. I feel like the black sheep in my family. The three of them will be eating junk, but I'll eat fruit. At 15 years old she's nearly 210 pounds. I just lost it when I saw her yesterday, on the couch, eating a full bag of chips. Me: Is that really the best thing to eat? Her: It's fine, go away. Me: Fine, eat your chips and get even fatter. Her: Will do. Me: It's all your pigging out that's made you so heavy Her: Go away Me: Because god forbid you go jog or eat a vegetable. Then she left. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm trying to send a message

Question: My father died 15 yrs ago and I still have the sympathy and Mass cards .. how long should u keep them and can I just toss them?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:24 AM PDT

Question: Boyfriend of 2+ years wants to leave because of my son's father. Advice?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:06 AM PDT

I have a 9 year old son who is not my boyfriend's child. While there is no real drama between me and my ex- me and my boyfriend do have some complaints about my son's fathers' parenting skills, or lack there of. I have recently put my son's father on child support, and his time with my son will be shortened as well. Now, to me I just feel that my boyfriend has a lot of hate and anger towards my ex and he wants him stripped from my son's life. As the mother, there is no way I could do that to my son, unless I seen his life in danger or something. But his father has been in his life since day one, and all though me and my boyfriend cant stand him, my son loves him dearly as any child does with their father. My boyfriend has given me an ultimatum. And says he is leaving me because he cant deal with my exs stupidity any longer. He wants me to setup my sons father to make a mistake so that he can report him to CPS, and to me that is just so immature and something I will not do. He also does not want me buying my son's lunch anymore so that my son's father will have to, which he prob wont, then in which my boyfriend will report him. I refuse to do these things. My only concern is my son. So my Boyfriend is leaving me, he says because he dont want to be in the middle of it any longer. I am in complete shock, as I thought we both shared the frustration. Makes me feel like he obviously didn't love me anyways. I am totally broken about this and need someones opinion.

Question: Whys my brother such a baby? i saw him literally crying in my dads arms like somebody had died. for a moment i was dreading what it was?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:01 AM PDT

turns out he got less than expected on a test after studying so hard. i thought my mom had died! for 5 seconds i thought she was dead. this isnt normal for a 16 year old boy is it? my older brother (21) isnt like this. he failed many tests and never acted like that.

Question: Grandparents overdoing it!?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 10:23 AM PDT

I had a baby girl 3 months ago, she ll be 4 months Nov 9th. Her grandparents are her father side are crazyyyyyyy! They live very far from us and I understand they barely get to see her but DAMN, cut us some slack and let us live! They are always telling us to dress up our baby and send pictures EVERYDAY. I send pictures, but since she s in a onsie it s not good enough. They are down our throat about our daughter. Just and FYI, my bf and I are young, we met in college our first year and end up having a baby. His parents think they our kid is theirs. I m not sure why. And it is annoying. They try to tell us what to do, they think we are still kids when we are not! They think we need to talk to them everyday 👀 I m not sure why, they think they need pictures of my daughter everyday. Does anything think they are doing too much or is it just me?

Question: My little brother is afraid of two things: Clowns and Big Bird from Sesame Street. How do I fix these two fears?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 10:07 AM PDT

Question: My uncle's family doesn't want to be anywhere around me because of my Dad, how do I accept this so it doesn't make me so depressed?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:57 AM PDT

After my mother died her brother wanted nothing to do with me because of my Dad (my mother's ex-husband). He is my mother's only sibling. So all my mother's family is gone now (she has cousins but they are distant family). The uncle declines my offer when I offer sports tickets and his kids, college age, make up excuses as to why they can't go. Also, at Christmas time he declines a visit (I live nearby). He had a bad money deal with my Dad (he had expected to get property from my mother's estate) and so it is like he doesn't like me because I am close to my Dad. This hurts more then I can describe especially at times of the year that involve family (weddings, funerals, holidays). So my question is how do I cope and how do I accept this? Nothing has changed for 3 years now. The death of my mother was 4 years ago in August. The uncle has 5 kids I would see when my mother was alive even though this uncle was never the warmest we were close to his family.

Question: How do I get my Dad to let me see my real mother even though she is a drug addict now that I am in college?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:51 AM PDT

He is mad I want to meet her when he raised me and not her. He is also mad I met her family. Happy-2 ·-- But the anxiety is there my father's reaction when he learns I got to know her if I end up restoring a relationship (if that happens)

Question: How do I get my mother not to marry my step-father to be when he gets out of jail?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:50 AM PDT

She wants to marry this guy but these are his five flaws. 1. he is a sex offender 2. He has stolen from her. 3. He is a druggy and by choice, not addiction. 4. He is not nice. 5. My mother left my Dad for him. How do I get her not to marry him when he gets out of prison? His sex offense was consensual carnal knowledge of a minor (statutory rape) but still that is bad even though non-violent.

Question: Why do you think my mother chooses my Alcoholic father over her Grown children a parent should never choose a person over their kids?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:38 AM PDT

Question: Well my mom wants to give me to CSB?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:32 AM PDT

well my mom wants to give me to CSB Because she and i got into a argument and she said she was done with me but i am almost 18 i will be january 4th 2017 will they still take me i have a girlfreind who is 21 has one kid and she has a job and so do i what will happen.

Question: If someone is my dad s cousin s wife s daughter what is the daughter to me?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 09:14 AM PDT

Question: When i move i want to disown my entire family..?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 08:49 AM PDT

Im really sick of everyone. I cant seem to relate to anyone i live with. If its not my mother its my siblings. Me and my sister are literally the COMPLETE OPPOSITES and i cant stand the sight of her. Its common for us fo argue because my mother gave her more freedom than me so she is extremely lazy and i have to share a room with her. Then i dont speak to my brother cause if we do he will always have something smart or ignorant to say which leads to arguments. The only one i get along with the most is my little brother. But its not enough for me to care about it at all. My mother very often complains about me when im around. Saying things like i need to find a full time job so i wont be home all day or i need to move away quick cause she tired of me or what ever. My family stresses me out and sometimes i fall into deep depressions from time to time. Ive had alot of stress since i was like 12 because i was the one to take care of my three young siblings when my mother went to work and it caused me alot of stress for someone at that age to deal with three little kids on your own. Ive had hundreds of mental breakdowns throughout my childhood and im now 22 and tired. When i prepare to move away my only wish is to disown my family to dind peace be free and finally restart my life again

Question: My 5 year old is defiant?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 07:56 AM PDT

Anout everything! We argue and yell in the mornings because she doesnt like the clothes i pick and wont walk out the door til she picks something mis matched and awful. She wont wear the clothes i spend money on and when she picks them out decides she doesnt like them when its time to wear them.She gets mad if she doesnt get what she wants to eat . she gets mad and when her sister picks a colored pop cycle out that she didnt pick for her im at my witz end i love her more than life its self as well as my other daughter and i need to know what to do ive tried everythin.

Question: Does my mom have to right to ask me this ?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 07:55 AM PDT

Ok I am 27 years old and still haven't moved out my moms house yet but do you think that whenever I call out sick from work my mom questions me how come I didn't go to work do you think that she has the right to ask me that or not ?

Question: How can I convince my mom to let me raise my brother?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 07:55 AM PDT

My 14 y/o brother is being terrorized by my mom. She's always been an ignorant bully. He's an emotional kid & cant handle it the way I did. I'm now living in Boston and they're in TX. I can tell that my brother is depressed and it kills me that I'm not there to help him. He keeps telling me that he wants to die & he actually spoke to his schools counselor about how he feels. They told my mom & of course that made things worse for my bro. She yells at him from morning to night (I'm not exaggerating). She calls him a F-A-G & told him that she's embarrassed that he's her son. My bro isn't gay. He's just more nerdy & doesn't play sports. He's a smart kid and she's ruining him. My mom doesn't believe in teen depression as she thinks it's something liberals made up. I want him to live with my husband and I in Boston. She agreed to it & at the last minute she changed her mind & said he needs to stay to babysit my youngest sisters, even though she's not working. I know my bro would do better here & my husband agrees that he needs to be away from my mom. How can I approach her without getting the authorities involved. I just need her to agree to give him to me that's all! I don't want any drama with her. I only want my brother. PS I'm 23 & a nurse & my hubby is a 25y/o engineer. No kids & we have enough room for him. If anyone is wondering.

Question: This is crazy but what the f do I do when no one other than my biological birth mother gives me a shaking anxiety?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 07:54 AM PDT

I anticipate her coming shaking my body but mostly my legs. I get warm and my heart beat goes up. She comes in and I shake more than ever. She talks to me, I talk back stuttering. And trust me when I say that I never stutter when I'm not around her. If I'm around a crush I get nervous but I don't shake or stutter. I'm obviously very scared of her and my body obviously thinks she's a threat. And that's no wonder: she has been physically abusive in the past and her verbal abuse has never stopped. Everyone is trying to connect us and improve our relationship, if you can even call it that. I couldn't even if I wanted to, and I don't l, I hate her with a passion but why does it even matter when she gives me a crippling anxiety never seen before?

Question: I really need advice you guys. Desperately.?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 07:39 AM PDT

So I was in the kitchen doing my homework and my step dad is getting ready for work. Per usual. And he comes out of the bathroom, comes over to me and shows me a picture on his phone of his dick. I reacted negatively of course, and then he said sorry and that he d never do it again. Should I tell my mom?

Question: My grandma is so annoying?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 06:58 AM PDT

I've lived with her all my life, and she never freaking learn. When she asks if I wanna eat, and I say no thanks, I'm not hungry, she will literally ask the same ******* question 2 minutes later. After asking that same annoying question 3-4 times by a matter of 10 minutes, she jumps to another question. Do you want something to drink? When I lose my temper and say, I don't want anything stop asking. She kinda gets that I'm angry, but when my father comes home 5 minutes later, she tells him that I'm hungry and I want to eat WHEN I TOLD HER 5 TIMES I'M NOT... And also, she keeps tidying my room but I don't like when she does it, because after that it's hard to find some things there, and I prefer doing it myself. So I tell her to stop doing it, yet she still does it. When I once got extremely pissed at her, she was just complaining about me not being happy with her tryig to help me.. It's not just this asking same annoying questions when I already gave an answer, but she asks me things she already know, just for attention or I don't even know why. And when I'm busy studying or playing games, she starts nagging at me about all random things and won't shut up unless I move downstairs. I'm even completely ignoring her, but even that doesn't work cuz she'll still nag and nag while I try to ignore, but it starts to piss me off. What should I do about this? She's 79 years old, and no she don't have Alzheimer disease lol. I don't want to be angry with her, it's just hard to control sometimes. She doesn't really seem that old, she goes to the shop herself and she can do fine. I don't think she's reached the age where she needs to be assisted all the time, but yea you're right, she will end up needing me more than I need her, and I'm also sure she forgot she asked sometimes, so I'll keep it in mind! Thank you so much for answers, guys. I do love my grandma very much, but I really don't like getting mad at her, nor do I like seeing my sister being rude with her, so I guess that's why I asked. After hearing so many people wishing they still had their grandma, that kinda made me appreciate that she's still around :) I'll try my best to understand her now, and thanks again for changing my perspective.

Question: When do you think its a good time to call it a day?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:53 AM PDT

Im 35 and my family is very very small and old. Mom, Uncle, Aunt, Grandma and Grandpop. Then theres me and an older brother. We are all losers in a sense of the word. My brother has no job nor skills and is kinda crazy and getting worse. My grandma is in a home. Grandfather lives 200 miles away. Cousins don't speak to me and haven't since the 90's. The world is a cold dark bleak place for me. Women are evil and homosexuality is running rapid like 28 days laters. Scary stuff here. We got douche bags in office and all the countries of the world are gonna fall. I can feel it. In 2016, the word hate has a while new layer. I never met the girl of my dreams and no longer care. Im a virgin and wish to remain so for however long I gotta be here. I missed my period when women were at their best, 18-20 something, I dig it. Have nothing against 30's just don't want a woman in her 30's now but hey, thats the least of my troubles. Found my solace in using great amounts of LSD. Beautiful stuff. I have it in my head that I'm scheduled to be executed in 4 years from now. Its not gonna hurt in the least. IM finishing college but at my age in the healthcare field, they can get a young person to do the job. My current employment for the past ten years is a warehouse that has aged my body and I'm athletic. I make very little money right now and work really hard. Union too and payed for my education. In the end though, I think I am just jerking myself off to the notion of a future lol.

Question: I had sex with my brothers husband, I am pregnant?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:48 AM PDT

I didn't want this to happen but after my brother fell asleep at my house, his husband who is bisexual ended up making a move on me. My brother is my twin so we look alike in a lot of ways besides our bodies. He told me he has always liked me and kissed me. This lead on to sex and I didn't stop him. He told me he pulled out and I went on with my life with the guilt. My brother ended up finding out, his husband told him and they're going to go through conseuling. My brother has spoken to me little but his husband isn't allowed to talk to me at all. I want to tell him I am pregnant but he is off the internet and he isn't replying to my text. I should be 10 weeks now. I don't know how I can get his attention so I can tell him. I know I'm terrible, you're wasting time by telling me I am. Should I just tell my brother to tell him?

Question: Should I tell my kids secrets about my parents? Should I tell others my parents' secrets?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:14 AM PDT

For example, they separated for 4 months when I was a kid and then got back together. They told us they would not divorce but needed space due to bitterness my mother held and a lie about work and money my Dad told. Another secret is my mother has mental illness (for some reason she keeps it a secret). Another is that my brother died of a drug overdose (not cardiac arrest like they tell people). Lastly, I learned my mother had a baby before marriage but the baby was stillborn (baby was with my father though). It is why their wedding was low key. So should I tell people these secrets of my parents (mainly my kids)? My mother always told me everyone's secrets, some of which I wish I didn't know though, so should I share these of my parents?

Question: My parents are sending me away!?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:14 AM PDT

my parents are abusive and hurtful, they always tell me what a disappointment I am when I get a B and when I fail to clean the whole house they shout,yell and hit. It got to a point where she told me she doesn't want to live with me anymore and is sending me to a bad, filthy boarding school. It is free and payed by the government and is in the Mongolian countryside. Everyone there is mongolian and I can't even speak the language. That place is known for bullying and roughness towards outsiders. I want to leave to a boarding school but not this hostile one. The environment is very dangerous there and is full of drunks and violent people. I am only 12.

Question: How do I get my mother to stop trying to poison my mind against family she is mad at?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:04 AM PDT

I cant seem to get her to stop. I am in college and all she is trying to do is get me to see how bad she thinks two of her siblings are. She is making us miss Christmas this year because of her hate for them and I think my mother is downright sick in the head she is so bitter. Her sister did nothing wrong and while her brother has some flaws it is not worth this level of animosity. Now she is causing me to miss time with the family. How do I get her to stop? I am now as mad at my mother as she is at her siblings because of the fact that I am missing family time because of her hatred for her siblings. She's mad at them because her sister is critical over little things and the brother drinks too much (is an alcoholic). PS----I usually don't mark anonymous but I did here since I'm discussing a family matter for the 1st time on here, my usual sports questions aren't anonymous

Question: Advice needed on how to deal with my Mum when she visits?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 05:03 AM PDT

Before I start I love my Mum very much but I m struggling to deal with her, I m a 30 year old mum of two, recently married and very happy. When ever my mum comes to stay it s like a big whirlwind enters our home, she takes over EVERYTHING. My washing, my cooking, just everything. The family rules we have in place get ignored by her and when I tell the children what to do or disaplin them as usual she stands up for them and undermines me infront of them and blames me or makes me feel inadequate. She doesn t do it to my husband just me. I got upset with her about it the other day as it just went too far and I asked her just to hear me out and listen to why I feel like this, her response was that there s is no point because it s bull sh!t. I feel like I can t be myself in my own home and find it easier to just stay out of the way as much as possible. One minutes she s singing my praises and the next she s putting me down about things. I m really struggling and I cannot wait until she goes home in two days time. I feel awful saying that but that s how I feel. Does anyone have any advice? Or been in similar situations? Is it me? Am I over reacting? Thank you

Question: I feel so guilty I was impressionable when my mother would tell me bad things about my Dad after they divorced. Is this normal for all kids?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:09 AM PDT

I am growing up now and realized how wrong she was. Like she told me when he divorced her he left all of us and was no longer our Dad even if our father still. He liked us but didn't love us or want to be close. Things like this. I believed everything she said between ages 12 and 15. Then I realized she was lying (I was 10 when they divorced). When my Dad remarried I got closer (16 at this point) and am close now. I feel so guilty now that he has died (I am 28) that I went 5 or 6 years not liking him because I believed my mother that he didn't want to be close to me and that he liked me but didn't love me. Is it normal for a kid to be impressionable at ages 10-16 or should I have been able to see my mother was lying? I know a real little kid (like age 5) can't help but to believe but I was in my junior high years and still believing my mother's crap.

Question: My dad went under my shirt?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 04:05 AM PDT

I was around 13 . We were in my room laying in my bed watching tv and he would play fight with me . Well that day while laying in bed he went under my shirt from the back and scratched my back and then snapped my bra strap on me. Then he stopped and it was quiet and I felt very awkward . He left shortly after that .

Question: Was this inappropriate of my dad?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:58 AM PDT

When I was younger about 4 or 5 I remember when he would take me baths he wouldn't be gentle at all he would scrub me super hard all over my body including my privates. I really hated it because it hurt. I also remember I would take a shower with him.He wouldn't let me see him naked he would make me be infront of him so that I wouldn't see him and not let me turn around at all. I don't remember him touching inappropriately durings these showers but growing up I realized it was pretty weird.

Question: I am scared of my mum, have I done something wrong?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:45 AM PDT

So we always have arguments, but she seems to have double standards. She will say something that makes me feel really bad and when I calmly try to ask her about it she tells me to shut up and refuses to listen. When I say the same thing to her, because I thought I must have been over reacting because it must be ok for her to say it, I get punished and she goes on yelling at me for ages about how it makes her feel. She never listens when I ask her why it was ok when she said it. I just feel like I am not listened to, that she only listens when it is somethin positive. Recently, she completely misunderstood me, because I began to get scared she would hurt me so I told her to not worry and that it will be ok. But she took this as me saying that I thought she was against me, she thought that I was saying she was being rude to me!! After I tried again to explain she began shaking and said that she would slap me. At this I git really frightened and I just ran off to my room, and I can hear her in the other room. I m scared of her, is there anything I have done wrong? Please help, any answer will do! (I am also a 13 year old girl if that helps!)

Question: Unreasonable parents...?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 03:39 AM PDT

ng into my bottom part of my mouth, and another $2000 on a Mac Book Pro, which I also needed more as I have many more projects than him, and all of these were bought in the same month because of his birthday, and in addition, he did not score well for his exams at that time. I really feel I deserve all these privileges more as I have many more projects than him and it was my crucial year thus year. As I am writing this, I am tearing as I really feel that my mother isreally unreasonable and that I really need her to understand that I can t always score her desired marks. Another example includes how recently, actually today, my friends had took my shoebag and hid it during recess. It technically isn t my fault as I do not know that they would have taken it and hide it. My mother yelled at me for "losing the bag" when time and again I have been repeating to her how my friends took it and not that I lost it. I am really frustrated at how unreasonable my mother can be but I have to keep quiet as she would cane or make me slap myself if argue with her... Can someone help me please?

Question: My boyfriend distrusting me. I need him back. Tell me some dua's / advices?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 01:24 AM PDT

We are muslims and he is distrusting me because i went for a job. His friends says that i will be able to sleep with anyone else when he is not around at home. I explained him nothing went wrong and it will never be but he is not talking to me. He is too tresspassing about me. He is trying to abuse me emotionally

Question: I'm 13 and i was touched while drunk?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 12:59 AM PDT

(I COPIED THIS BECAUSE NO-ONE ANSWERED LAST TIME) drunk right ni and my brothers fruiend 19 touche my advagine well we were figjting ad ir unfd awau do ig ot rund away and not rewallty sujre tbh Update: hungover me would like to explain. My brother (16) and his friend (18) were drinking late last night so they got me (13) and my other brother (15) to go to our bar type thing behind my house my parents were not home. I did about 13 shots and got drunk at some point we were in my backyard and his friend jumped on me so we started fighting at some point he was on top of me and his face was really close to mine and he asked what we were fighting about, then when my brothers went inside he tried to finger me while i had pants on Update 2: I struggled out and ran in to our bar with my brothers.So yeah the thing is i can hardly remember it and i doubt he can at all but i also mainly just care because he's my brothers good friend and he was texting another girl that he "really liked" and i guess i'm just really confused as to why he would do that, does anyone have any ideas?

Question: My mother is ******* mad because of her obsession for pets.?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:49 PM PDT

here it goes. my mother has like 20 ******* cats for pets. everyday she feeds them with fresh fish which costs ******* crazy. she doesn't have money. so how do we buy all these fish? with my salary, my father's salary, and my brother's salary of course. ******* crazy rite? we have tried talking to her to cut the costs spent on all these cats, like giving them cheap commercial pet food and all. but everytime we do, she goes apeshit, weeps and yells at us, saying that we are not supportive family members and threatens to move out and beg on the streets so that she can get some money to feed them ******* cats. what the ****? here comes the worst part. since our combined salaries isn't that big, we were FORCED to sell a property a few years ago so that she could feed the cats. my dad makes $1800 a month, my brother makes $2000, and i make $1500. the amount of money that she spends on these bloody cats per month is a whooping $4000! now since we have gone broke (thanks to her obsession for cats), she is now thinking of making my dad sell the house that we are living in and rent a a cheap home. she says we have no use for a big house because we are not rich. for ****'s sake. then do something about those bloody cats!!!! is she ******* possessed by a cat demon or what? i can tell she doesn't care about us family members. she only cares about those bloody pets. she never bothers to cook or clean up. all she does 24/7 is playing with those bloody cats.

Question: Seeing PEOPLE and having conversations with them but it isn t real?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:36 PM PDT

Well so, I woke up one morning and my brother had gone out last night. When I went into the kitchen, I saw him getting out of the shower.. He looked up at me and then went inside his room. The door closed and opened, everything seemed logical. But then later on at dinner, my family said he wasn t here this morning. AND he even confirmed it himself. I thought it was weird but left it be, but a few months ago.. I was talking to my step dad in the morning and he said he ll pick me up from school. I was having a proper conversation with him and even saw him leave. But then after school was finished.. My brother came. I told him I thought my stepdad was picking me up, but he said it was him. I didn t confirm it with my step dad because he wen t to another city for work and came back a few days after. I wish I could have asked though.. Because now that it s been over months, they can t remember that exact day. AM I NORMAL?!

Question: Why are so many 18 to 21 year old narcissistic douchebags? No one cares about your fleek asshole?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:33 PM PDT

Question: Should I keep cut ties, cut?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:28 PM PDT

Bought a new house this summer. We needed to have the entire house repainted. 5/10 day job. My parents divorced a few years ago. She lives with a guy our family home sits empty. So we thought we would use it instead of spending a huge sun in hotel and kennel fees. The house was disgusting over flowing litter boxes, cat vomit everywhere. Kitty litter in the stove and counters. 3 almost feral cats running around. Took us 3 days to clean for our toddler. Every day she called my wife at 6:30 am demanding her turn the lights off and hide her car. SHE didn't want the boyfriend knowing we were there. Then she flips out on my wife because she needed my classic car moved so she could use the garage. Door hasn't opened in 5 years.....she could not start a carberated car. So she calls me crying at work. I had to miss a half day. Grass was knew high 5 acres. She demanded me to cut it. What you expected this was free?. Now my sister comes home the place is stunning. Warm apple pie. Fridge stocked mutiple vehicle at her disposal. I CUT my family out of our lives. Not sure what else I can do.

Question: HOW DO I CONVINCE MY MOM TO LET ME WATCH SWEARING YOUTUBERS?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:28 PM PDT

Hi, so Im a 13yo girl and I ve been watching swearing youtubers for over 4 years, but lately I ve only been watching Jacksepticeye, and he does swear but he s a super amazing person. And I really want my parents to actually know and not be angry, because I ve been watching in secret. Now everyone in my family thinks I m little and innocent and cant handle swearing and all that so I don t know what to do. I really love Jack/Sean because he s so nice and genuine , and I don t know how to tell them, and I m scared to because I don t want to be banned from watching him. Also I really want to meet him and I can t exactly do that if my parents don t know that I watch him. PLEASE HELP!!

Question: Why is my mum so overprotective?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 11:08 PM PDT

I'm going to be 13 next week but my mum still won't let me go anywhere on my own unless I'm going to school. I don't know why. I have proved to her that I am responsible (I can get buses on my own and I can even walk around my town alone but that's only when I go to school). I'm always seeing children my age and maybe even younger than me out on their own during weekends and holidays so why can't I go anywhere on my own? My mum is nothing like my dad - he lets me do anything (apart from lie, and obviously disrespect my mum) but I think that both parents are doing the right thing. I have tried asking my mum if I can just walk down to the park on my own but she says no. She's been saying "some day" for years. I'm planning to meet up with my best friend soon and my mum told me that we can't go anywhere on our own because she's "scared" (she has bad anxiety and so do I, along with Asperger's) and I felt like throwing something at her. I'll be old enough to go to COLLEGE in a few years and I'm scared that she'll never let me be independent if she carries on the way she is now. How can I prove to her that I am responsible and independent enough to be out on my own, despite my Asperger's? I'm scared that I'm losing friends because of this, but I know it's not my mum's fault at all. I don't live with my dad, I just see him during some holidays

Question: Opinions.?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 10:59 PM PDT

So my brother and his fiancee are becoming super competitive. I m an 18 year old mom, and my brother was dead set against not having kids yet, until I had my daughter and then when she was one month old, they announced they were 1 month pregnant. I am a SAHM while I achieve a college degree, and my brother makes 25$ an hour. They are constantly rubbing all of their fancy baby stuff in our face and I feel like this petty competition is gonna carry to our little ones. My brother has a huge issue with my dad helping us out, he works my boyfriend and he s helping us buy our house. And my dad constantly makes snide comments about how some people don t get handouts. I have a feeling it will carry over to our Littles and we just don t have the money to compete with their life style. How do I save my kid from always feeling like she s the least favorite...?

Question: Cousins dating each other, thoughts?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 10:30 PM PDT

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 10:29 PM PDT

I just had a major fight with my dad. It's way too long of a story to tell but I'm super emotionally unstable and my dad told me that if I wasn't happy at home, then I can just go to a foster home. And be happy there. He offered to make the call. I'm so messed up he just kept on throwing jabs at me with his words and I was just crying and my breathing was really fast and shaky and he told me to shut up before he slaps the nonsense out of me. I'm crying still rn as I'm typing this. I just feel like crap. My parents make me feel like crap. I've told my dad about my emotional problems and I said that I would want to go to therapy. He said we would have a family meeting about it. This was when he was happy with me. Now I just want the therapy. I can't talk to my parents. They shut me down every time. During the last part of the fight I tried talking but I just broke down and I couldn't even speak my mind because I was so confused because he just kept on throwing jabs with his words. Then he threatened to slap me. Anyway I just need advice. I have school in the morning and I don't want to break down crying.

Question: Was it fair for my dad, who's a lawyer, to fight my mom for custody?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 10:21 PM PDT

My parents divorced when I was two. For as long as I remember, it's just been my dad and me, because he had full custody. I hadn't even met my mom until last year. I wanted to spend more time with her, but my dad has refused, and it's difficult for me to sneak visits with her since she lives on the other side of the country. I feel like no matter how much I fight to see my mom, my dad is going to get what he wants, because he knows how to manipulate the law. Is it really fair for me and my mom to have to fight with him since he's a lawyer?

Question: What do you do about your extremely strict over protective parents?

Posted: 24 Oct 2016 09:56 PM PDT

My parents will barely let even date anyone who they don't think is perfect. They can't even have the person over. The person literally has to be ideal. I can't stand this, why can't I just make my own mistakes? My mom literally said that I'm better than the girls who "sleep around". I don't think I am better than anything. She also said that she thinks that men should be treated like dogs. They shouldn't be trusted. She also said that she needs to come to every one of the dates that I am on. She says that she need to "chaperone me". She already doesn't allow me to go to a psychical college. I have to go to college online and the only time I get out of the house is if one of my few friends asks me to do something (which rarely happens) or my parents decides to go somewhere or if my grandmother takes me somewhere. I don't have a job. I'm trying really hard to get one but I just can't seem to land on. Which really sucks.