Family: Question: My mom has grounded me since 10/20 for not having OATMEAL for breakfast! Help!?

Question: My mom has grounded me since 10/20 for not having OATMEAL for breakfast! Help!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 02:09 PM PDT

Hey everyone, As you can see, my mom has grounded me since last Thursday, starting off with not having oatmeal for breakfast, and she has repeatedly punished me every day for "disrespectful behavior". Even though I barely even did anything!! She took away my iPod, and when my new game arrived that I paid $42.50 For, she TOOK IT! It s not fair. Please help. Today, she started a log of what I did to be disrespectful, and it only has 2 things on it! (And those were petty/small things!) She claims that I have been disrespectful, but she s been giving me grace and not writing it down. Whats your advice? Please help!

Question: Should I pay for my friends video games too? Were both poor? Ten points!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:49 PM PDT

So my family just got back from a trip to a amusement park that we usually have once a year. My cousin and I got some money from my parents to spend and there's 14 dollars left over. We both play the same video games and allot. On the rare times I have money that's what we spend it on. Our parents both won't pay for our video games but every once in while I do end up with some money and he never does. 5 dollars each really isn't much on our games. I know he'll get super upset if I don't share it with him. I feel bad he never gets money but I very rarely get it and it's hard to share the little bit that I do. I'm probably just being selfish. Do you think I should share it?

Question: Why do I get sick less often from my parents and siblings.?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:48 PM PDT

Question: I just don't see how my boyfriend can approve of other kids calling him dad am I wrong?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:43 PM PDT

Honestly I don't think that my boyfriend care how I feel about this I don't think he's actually happy about being call someone's dad which is his little cousin and I heard rumors about him and the child's mom and I don't approve of it but I think he just enjoys hurting me with this he puts his mom and his so called daughter before me should I get engaged to him I want to marry him but he has to fix these problems first am I wrong? In public it's so embarrassing when the child says dad infront my parent and sisters am I wrong? Knowing about the rumors with him and the mother

Question: Sis in law has ask to slep with me she is amzing btful persn insde and out i dont see her other than a SIL how do I not hurt her feelings?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:43 PM PDT

Question: Should I wear my dress blues for my grandma's funeral or simply suit and tie?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:24 PM PDT

My grandma died last week and on friday morning there will be the funeral. I am a Marine,for the funeral I'd like to just put on a black suit and tie but my mom wants me to wear my dress blues. Should I do it? I mean it's gonna be a civilian funeral and I don't think it would be appropriate to wear the blues as it would drag all the attention away from my grandma and I don't want that. On the other hand she was proud of me being a Marine and once I wore the blues just for her to take a pic with me. My parents (mostly my mom) are pushing me on wearing the blues but I feel it's inappropriate and most likely I'm not gonna wear it,mostly cause I'd be the only one in uniform. What do you think?

Question: Family Problem?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:58 PM PDT

So, I'm 12 years old and my sister's 10 years old. She was always rude and disrepectful. She caused my mom to cry more than once. Yesterday, she insulted my mom's cooking. My mother, upset, smashed a pot while cleaning up, and cut her finger deeply. There was blood everywhere. She was crying and my father was yelling at my sister. When we went to bed, she rolled her eyes at my mom crying, and called her a phony. She isn't grateful for the food and clothing she is wearing! She's seriously tearing my family apart, and I have no idea where she is getting this from! What can I do? DON'T TELL ME TO TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT'S WRONG BECAUSE I TRIED CONSTANTLY! SHE WON'T UNDERSTAND THROUGH GENTLE TALKING! HELP!

Question: My family is pressuring me to get a job. What can I do to convince them that I don't want to work at the moment?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:44 PM PDT

I'm jobless, single and in my thirties, no kids and happy this way. My family thinks I'm unhappy, But I'm not. I'm ecstatic! I graduated college a few years ago, and worked for a while, but now I wanna take it slow. I still have some money saved, that's why I'm in absolutely no hurry to seek a job at the moment, not that there's one anyway. The job market is dead where I live. My question is, how do I convince them to leave me alone?

Question: How can I get family outside of my parents and grandmother interested in being around me?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:41 PM PDT

This might be a strange sounding question but I am close with my parents and surviving grandparents but cousins and my parents siblings I don't see much. They see each other more often as their younger and my mother is not real close with either her siblings or siblings in law. So how do I get closer? I am college age and most my cousins younger. I don't want to be too nice where it seems odd or anything.

Question: I do not want to lose it with her.. Should I?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:34 PM PDT

My wife seems to hate my sister and mother (who lives with us) for no justifiable reason. Infact she hated my family before she even met them just because I am very close to them. She is constantly calling me complaining about how my sister does not help her with the kids bath/hair and how she is a "F*t As*" and other derogatory terms at my sister. 3 days ago my sister helped her with her own hair, cooks the meals while me and my wife are at work. Watches the Kids when they get back at 1pm everyday from mother's day out program, Cleans up the messy living room and kitchen everyday while everyone is out in the morning, before the kids come home and mess it up again. Mind you she is just 21. Wife texted me and asked me to move the exercise machine from the Garage to the 2nd floor for her convenience, but after saying No to her because it makes no sense, she blurted out that I should tell my sister to get her f*t as* away from her exercise machine. Also that I should get my sister and mother out of our house. Mind you they have not done anything wrong to her. Infact, all my family members adore my wife because of the good things I tell them about her. Never do I mention to them the hell part of my wife. I think I am having a heart attack over this. It is slowly eating up my health.

Question: Am i wrong if i go off on my Grandma Sister-my Mother Auntie? PLEASE give me some ADVICE!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:18 PM PDT

2 yrs ago i started going around a aunt i haven't seen-talked to since 1992. she once asked me why i'm not in a relationship and i told her after being raped (in 2001) i'm happy by myself. she recently needed help moving so i sent a friend of mine to help and she told him to be careful around me because i lied about 3 men trying to rape me at a park. my friend said that story was nothing near what i told him (in 2011) but then again he don't know what to believe because she is my aunt. she was out of my life over 20yrs not knowing what happened and now have my friend thinking because she have the title "auntie" she know me. am i wrong if i call and say a few words to her? what would you do?

Question: Mother thinks I'm choosing someone over my brother?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 12:07 PM PDT

I'm 21, and my brother has autism. (He's 23). He's able to be alone by himself, but my mother feels better if someone is at the house to be with him while she's out doing everyday activities such as working, bowling, etc. Which I totally understand by the way, and I have NO problem doing it whatsoever. I need to establish that because I love my brother to pieces and I'm always there for him. Always. I've been watching him since who knows how long. I remember I had no summer in high school, because I stayed home to watch him everyday while my parents are at work. Anyway, I watch my brother every Wednesday night, and Friday morning. I never get a day off with my boyfriend as it is, as I barely see him because of our work schedules. This week is my boyfriends nephews birthday dinner, which I was invited to. (Wednesday night). My parents said I could always ask if anything came up, and I wanted to go to it. Or that they would try to find a happy medium, because they know I have a life. I know it was last minute, but I asked my mom if I could skip watching my brother for 1 day so I could attend the birthday dinner. She got mad at me, saying I have a responsibility, and that I'm choosing him over my brother. And that I'm always "late" to watch him, (Im allowed to show up around 5-5:30-6, in which I do. it's just inconsistant times within that range). I don't have to watch him,I do because I love him. She acts as if I'm disowning him. And I almost feel offended. what should I do? im just trying to get other peoples opinions. thank you so far. I want to add, that i got invited to this dinner late last night, at a time where my parents were most likely sleeping so i shot them a text way early in the morning as soon as I could.

Question: Is this too close for us?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 11:56 AM PDT

My relationship with my daughter is very close, and I'm worried that it may be becoming romantic. She was born when I was only fifteen, and now she's nineteen, in college but still living at home. Her mother died in childbirth. It's always been just us. We tell each other everything, seek each other for counsel, and we're best friends. Not that she's "Daddy's girl." She's independent, she hangs out with friends and boyfriends, and she calls me "Dad." She's not a virgin, and I'm at peace with that because she's responsible. She did admit to me once that I was the first person she masturbated thinking of, but nothing awkward came of it. She acts her age, she's incredibly mature. She's an old soul. Sometimes I brush my teeth while she's showering, and vice versa. (But then again, we showered together when she was little.) If she's changing she doesn't wait for me to leave. We give each other massages. Sunday night is our "date night." where we go in the pool or watch movies. We often fall asleep cuddling on those nights. A couple of times, I've woken up with my head in her breasts, (not on purpose) but she never seemed bothered by it. She talks to me about personal things. Sometimes we go as each other's dates to big events. What's scary for me is that, especially in recent years, she's been like a wife as well as a daughter... I know that's wrong, I'm not a creep. But am I just imagining things, or is this getting out of hand? What should I do? Is what we have healthy?

Question: How can I develop a closer relationship with my cousins?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 11:47 AM PDT

One is, I think 12 she acts like a teenager and stays on her phone. The other is 15 or 16, she's usually the hi and bye type of person but she's starting to act funny too. The 12 yr old is my step dad's cousin (I've known their family since I was 2), she's a spoiled brat, always has an attitude. The other acts like she's family (her brothers dad is the others uncle). They both act like I don't exist even when I said hi but we used to be closer especially me and the younger one because I've known her for so long. I say hi and thats the most i get back. I usually don't care but I don't like feeling left out, especially when I get stuck with entertaining the younger cousins ( I don't mind but I'd like to be with those closer to my age). Not only that but most of the others, adults and teens welcome her way more, happily, everyone hugs her. ( i guess it might be because she's around more, but when i do come around i dont feel welcomed so id spend time with my grandparents where i was more than welcomed) I already don't have a close connection with my dad's family thanks to my mom, and my mom's nieces are petty. So theyre all I really have left now that my grandparents have died.

Question: Is it "old fashioned" for a woman who lives at home unless she goes away to college OR gets married?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 11:34 AM PDT

Question: Should I Tell my Mother I Want to Run Away?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:52 AM PDT

My dad died ten months ago of brain cancer. My sister in law overdosed and died last week. You would think a mother would be nice and cherish her daughter but mine has been treating me like dirt since my sister in law died. She says horrible things to me like she can't believe she has a child like me. I love her more than anything but I can't stay in this house. Shes usually amazing and sweet but she has been the opposite. I honestly can't take it anymore and I've been looking at youth shelters in my area and my friend offered me to stay with her. Should I tell my mom I want to leave? I think maybe we could work on making things better if she knew how she made me feel.

Question: Why do people grow apart from their aunts, uncles, and cousins as they get older?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:37 AM PDT

I'm only 23 and single, but I have already started to drift apart from my extended family. I used to be best buds with one of my cousins when we were younger but we hardly talk anymore. I rarely see any of my aunts and uncles. They'll show up for Christmas but the only thing we talk about is work and school. Is this normal or am I doing something wrong?

Question: My mother is mad I like my step-mother, how do I get her to get over it?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:34 AM PDT

She is especially mad I have her on Facebook and trade photos with her. How do I get my mother to get over it. As a kid she did all she could to get me not to like my Dad, now I am a young adult and it is my step-mother she resents me liking. Parents divorced when I was 8. How do I get my mother to get over it? My anxiety goes up when my mother gets mad. For example last Christmas she was furious I would see my Dad with my step-mother there. Especially mad because my Dad's old girlfriend when I was in junior high I was not crazy about so my mother liked that (she hates my Dad).

Question: I am hurt that my alcoholic father has never loved me enough to get help for his drinking. Is it me that has the problem?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:25 AM PDT

Question: My sister is such a brat. What do I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:23 AM PDT

She's so mean and bratty for no reason. Whenever we play something together I want to play something else than what she wants us too so we flip a coin. If I win she starts being a sore loser and calling me a cheater and throwing a temper tantrum! But when she wins she's a little brat and starts bragging! She's so difficult and finds anything she can to be a brat about! Today I was playing my phone. She asked if she could text our father because her phone died. Before I could even say yes, she snatched it away from me! I grabbed it back from her and she started screaming about how I'm not fair! I hate her and I wish she would just fall into a ditch so I wouldn't have to see her again!

Question: Why does my mom try to hurt me?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:15 AM PDT

Well one day she said she was tired of hearing me complaining when she does it every single day and one day my brother said he was using me as a back up, meaning if mom wouldn't want to watch tv with him so I don't watch it anymore for that reason and all she said was that's mean I heard a giggle when she said it and later on when I brought that up she said he meant something else, that is BS I heard it clear and recently when we were in the back yard my brother called me skinny then so did she I said I ate chips she said good you need it I called her a body shamer she said she wasn't and they both walked inside. That ruined my self esteem a bit when I just gained my self esteem I never really had it but I finally started to but my mom kinda ruined it not only that but it actually made me feel bad she is a big girl over 200 pounds I thought about saying eat a salad but I didn't because I am not that kind of person how do I put up with her tell I move out? I am 21 years old but I am trying to get my life together but how do I put up with her tell I move? She makes me more depressed. It's not that I'm upset about that but her saying you need chips if she said that to someone else it could really hurt the person more then it did me she better not say that to someone else it's kinda like bullying happens often.

Question: Mom wont let me study?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:08 AM PDT

i have college classes everyday .. i live with my parents cus i dont have a dorm room;; MY SHEDULE IS VERY full, so when i come to home , i need to study what ive learned and do tons of homewrok and prepare omorrow's lesson; im actually majjoring in chinese litterature which is very hard to learn .. im a begginer.. when i come home my mom starts nagging and says i dont care about her!! shes a home and she want me to be a clown to make her laught and make a sympathic atmosphere.. i try o waste my ime and sit wih my her bu she nags again and starts abusing me ,, shes narcisistic and cant accep ohers opinions , she sucks my energy and when i sit with her i ge tired and can study anymore n i have tons of to prepare .i need to clean at her place ,and cook do everyhing , while she gave up her wor and just play at home ,, she dont do anthing§§ well ive accepted thta and tried to change myself , i gave up on my sudies last year and i failed the year n now i chnaged my major to chinese and i wanna work hard cus if im a good student i have a chance to ge a scholarship froml my college and study abroad , i realy wanna escape my abusive parents and sucked up life and go abroad thats why im working hard but MY MOM WONT LET ME STUDYYYYYYY i mean dad deosnt love her or care about her and family is busy she so introvert but without friends ? whats my fault ?? a daughter cant replace the husband romance!!!!!

Question: Is my brother a pervert?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:01 AM PDT

I forgot to lock my bedroom door and my brother walked in as I was changing clothes. He said "You are the most beautiful hot and sexy woman ever". "If you were not my sister I would have a b0ner the size of Texas 24/7". Is that a compliment or not something appropriate to say to your sister? How about my saying In your dreams shorty?

Question: You told me to sacrifice my little brother to the gods. Would that be okay with my parents?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 10:00 AM PDT

Wouldn't they ground me, or should I sacrifice them as well?

Question: I feel so guilty I was impressionable when my mother would tell me bad things about my Dad after they divorced. Is this normal for all kids?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 09:48 AM PDT

I am growing up now and realized how wrong she was. Like she told me when he divorced her he left all of us and was no longer our Dad even if our father still. He liked us but didn't love us or want to be close. Things like this. I believed everything she said between ages 12 and 15. Then I realized she was lying (I was 10 when they divorced). When my Dad remarried I got closer (16 at this point) and am close now. I feel so guilty now that he has died (I am 28) that I went 5 or 6 years not liking him because I believed my mother that he didn't want to be close to me and that he liked me but didn't love me. Is it normal for a kid to be impressionable at ages 10-16 or should I have been able to see my mother was lying? I know a real little kid (like age 5) can't help but to believe but I was in my junior high years and still believing my mother's crap.

Question: How do I overcome my daily obsession with what my mother's side of the family thinks of me due to their feud with my mother?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 09:45 AM PDT

Like I just found out her nephew is engaged. Now I am terrified I will be the one group not invited to the wedding because of my mother. How do I get over this constant fear of what I might miss due to my mother?

Question: How do I best celebrate and tell my dad congratulations on your first stroke?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 09:40 AM PDT

Question: What should I do to improve my life?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 09:34 AM PDT

Everyone around me is just using me and I hate it. I'm 17, I'm home schooled, my parents don't actually care about my education, they just signed me up for a cheap online school and since I have the 'privilege' of being home schooled I have to do everything my mom should be doing, like cleaning and cooking and watching my little sister (she's 4) all the time. I rarely even get out of the house. I don't have any friends to talk to because I don't know how to make any when I don't get out of the house and since I'm home schooled. I had a boyfriend for a while but he was just using me for sex since I was very naive and didn't have anyone to tell me what kind of guy he is. My mom is going back to college and pursuing all the things she wants to do and I just think it's so wrong. I'm never going to be able to do anything with myself and I barely have time to do my school work along with watching my sister and everything else. I'm really behind in school and get bad grades because I don't have time to study. I just hate my life. I don't know what to even do at this point

Question: Why is my twin sister like this towards me?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 09:04 AM PDT

My twin few secs older So I have to respect her. Sometimes I feel like crying. I love her alot and thankful that she's my twin but she gets short tempered easily even when I accidentally do something. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes I forget things she says and she gets angry with me, she even forgets too. I get scared of the dark easily, I told her to come with me as it's 1am and she said no and ask why. I said I was scared so she gets up and start to say why does she has to come and says I'm scared of everything. So then I bring up that once she told me to go with her cause she's scared, to go get a towel with her. After I bring that up, she says why do you bring things in the past up and starts angry. She also brings things from the past about me but why can't I?. When she gets angry, she just say I'm not talking to you anymore, once we didn't talk until a month. Whenever she gets angry she says don't talk to her ever again and I'm always the one that apologies. I always say I'm sorry, please forgive , I didn't mean to cause I forgot. I say why can she do say them but I can't But she still gets angry. Years go on and she still does it. I feel like I'm living under her feet asking for forgiveness for my mistakes. She makes mistakes too. She calls me a hipocrite but she is too. I don't get it. We are 18 btw. At school, when she gets angry at me, she just completely ignored me and talk to our friends. When I call her, she turns around and smile and pretend to be nice.

Question: Is there anything I can do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:59 AM PDT

My dad and I haven't gotten along at all lately. He is pressuring me to do a lot of things (get a full time job, go to college, etc) and I know I need to. But I have a good job that I'm working on going up in. He's cracking down harder and harder, and it's to the point that I can't handle it. I have anxiety attacks from it daily, I can't sleep, I can't eat. I failed my drivers test I was so anxious and panicked from it... And if I tell him he just calls it a crutch or cop out. I'm doing the best I can... And nothing is working. Is there anything I can do?

Question: I'm so scared of putting this out there but I caught my dad peeing in my mom when I walked in their room... what should I do? I'm concerned?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:55 AM PDT

Question: Could I have been s*xually abused by him and not remember it ...?!?! ��?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:54 AM PDT

I feel werid typing this but .... basically when I was younger like 1 years old to 7 Years old my mom was best friends with this women and she had a boy the same time my mom had me. Her friend would watch me and take care of me sometimes . And over the years they lost touch and recently they found eachother again and started Talking and we're going to see her and her son this Sunday .. he's 21 now just like me and he's like an awkward kind of cute he's in school to be a nurse but I don't know how he is now but I am seeing him this Sunday 😬 When we were younger though we had a love and hate relationship but we were little lol but I rememeber one time he pulled his pants down and I think wanted me to look and touch it like force me too and he would look at mine as well ...and also would kiss me. I believe that's why when I was a child I was doing inappropriate things because I knew what a penis was and looked like and I even would say the word sex ....(no NOTHING WAS DONE by an adult) my parents didn't watch sexual things either . He had an anger problem when he was younger but I dont believe he was sexually abused ... don't remember much things he did exactly but I have a good idea . but ive always tried to wonder why I did certain things as a child that were sexual ... do you think he remembers it as well ??? I'm kinda nervous to see him cuz it's like 😳I'm not blaming him for anything but it's something that All the sudden I'm thinking about now like getting flash backs

Question: Why do people insist that only your birth name can be your "real" name?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:50 AM PDT

A couple friends recently found a paper in my apartment with my birth name on it. I changed my name years ago. They were upset and said that I had "lied" to them by not telling them my "real" name. (Personally, I'm upset that they were snooping through my private documents, but that's another matter). They went on to say that your only real name is the one your mother gives you. My mother ditched me when I was five. Why the hell should I care what name she chose? I had a psycho ex-boyfriend I couldn't shake, the only family I had left was trying to squeeze money out me as an 18 year old making minimum wage to buy alcohol, and I had a really crappy childhood I wanted to leave behind forever. So I changed my name, moved away, enrolled in school, went through undergrad and graduate school, and started an excellent, new successful life that, until yesterday, I've really loved. My birth name meant absolutely nothing. I didn't even use it as a kid. I had a nickname I always went by. Even if you had a perfectly fine life and a lot of respect for your mother, changing your name is a personal choice. Why would the name you chose not be considered your "real" name? How is my REAL name not the one currently on my birth certificate, driver's license, bachelor's degree, graduate diploma, car title, apartment lease, and all bills? Why is it considered lying to not divulge my birth name to people I met after creating my new life? I'm really having trouble understanding why they're upset. Ha! Sorry, I should clarify that it was 2 family member who constantly harassed me for alcohol money. I wasn't making minimum wage specifically to buy alcohol.

Question: Should I have cancelled because now she doesn't want to see me?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:32 AM PDT

My ex and I broke up about a month ago because I stood her up and we got into a really bad argument about since. Since then maybe every two weeks she'll text me telling me that she misses. Yesterday, she told me that she missed me really bad and asked if she could meet me somewhere so we could talk. I told her that I'm broke right now maybe the end of the week would be better when i get paid. She said don't worry about it, I got you. I only want to have a drink or two. I told her I had an appointment that evening and I would let her know later. I text her later and told her that I wasn't comfortable with my financial situation right now and we should wait until the end of the week. She got upset and said I told you I got you but you obviously have other plans because money has never been an issue with us. I just wanted to see you for a minute because i miss you really bad. She said she appreciated me at least reaching out to her and saying something but not to worry about us getting together at the end of the week. She said she can't go through this with me again and if I really wanted to see her that I'd make time for it. I tried calling her but the phone kept going to voicemail. Why wasn't she more understanding or was I wrong to cancel? Should I just gone to meet up with her?

Question: My dad doesn't care about his health?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:26 AM PDT

So he got testing done for life insurance and got denied because he's not that heathy. He has high cholesterol, high blood sugar levels, high enzymes in liver and kidney and he smokes and it's like he does nothing to help himself. My mom says she's close to not caring if there's a divorce if he doesn't want to help himself. Me and my sibling are older (she's in 20s I'm almost 18) so it's not like a divorce would hurt us horribly because we're older and understand. It's just like I don't understand why he wouldn't help himself for himself and the family ? Idk any advice? Or just let him be and do him

Question: How do I learn to like my in-laws?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:06 AM PDT

I know this is weird question, but my brother and sister in-law just had their second baby. They had a boy 3 years ago and so far my husband and I have not been apart of his life. We have nothing in common with his parents at all. We don't spend any time with them except holidays. When we are with them, their son is surrounded by other family members, so it's not like we can bond easily. I want to try harder with both kids. Their second baby was born 2 weeks ago and so far we haven't gone to see her. I don't know. I remember when growing up, my aunts were always there for me and even my dad's sister after my parents divorced, was a constant person in my life. I love all of my blood related and non blood related aunts. I want to be there for her and their other child. I don't know how. I don't really like kids or babies. I would be much better when they grow up a bit. I'm trying to change, but I don't know how. Sorry, brother in-law and sister-in law. They are my husband's family. I'm 30 years old and I cannot have children due to a disease that I've had since I was 16.

Question: Are you childless and are looking for a young adult to mentor and be a parental figure to? If so, feel free to message me!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 08:01 AM PDT

I m a young adult whose parents passed over 10 years ago and I m looking for mentor/parental figures! I work in the medical field and I m a mother of two who long to have grandparents!

Question: Unsupportive parents and driving!?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 07:58 AM PDT

Okay so ive wanted my license since I was 16 and my parents straight up told me they didn't want to help me. So I got my permit at 21 and hired a teacher (who cost cost close to 100 every lesson) so I got my license and my parents still wont help me practice. Even though I have my license I still am very uncomfortable driving alone because I do not have much experience and they still refuse to help me! Now, I have a child and it makes it very difficult to get around with her. Does anyone have any similar experience with this? I really do not want to hire an instructor who will charge me a good amount of money. How can I explain to them that its something I need to learn?!

Question: Why did he cancel?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 07:44 AM PDT

It took a lot for me to call my ex and tell him that I missed him. I asked him if I could meet him somewhere for a minute because I missed hanging out with him. He told me that he didn't have any money to hang out that the end of the week would be better once he got paid. I told him not to worry. I only wanted to have a drink or two and I'd pay. Money has never been an issue with us. He agreed and told me he'd call me later. He text me later to say that he didn't feel comfortable with his financial situation and the end of the week would be better. I told him that I said i got you why are you making an excuse. Money has never been an issue with us. I once paid $200 for us to go on vacation so why was he using it as an excuse now? I told him that I really missed and really wanted to see him but I couldn't go through this with him again. ( We broke up because he stood me up). I told him not worry about us meeting up at the end of the week cause if he really wanted to see me he would've made time for it. Why did he agree to me paying and then all of a sudden used the same excuse to get out of it?

Question: How can I get away from my mother forever?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 07:34 AM PDT

She always tries to destroy my life but I am only 14, how can I escape

Question: Fun stuff to do while grounded for a month?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 07:24 AM PDT

So, I got grounded for 1 month for doing something stupid at school in which I got in huge trouble for. (yes it involved the principal) I also got in trouble last week for not turning in 2 homework assignments so that makes everything worse because my mom is still mad at me for that. But she took away all my devices, internet, movies, etc. and I don't know what to do during this. Any ideas? thanks <3

Question: Why are breaks important?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 06:47 AM PDT

A few years ago, my mom told me "OH NO, YOU NEED A BREAK FROM THAT AND GO PRACTICE YOUR INSTRUMENT" and on Monday march 7th, my mom told me "GET OFF OF ELECTRONICS AND GO READ A BOOK" and my mom told my sister destiny "HE NEEDS A BREAK" and a few months ago, my mom told my sister destiny "YOU CAN'T BE ON THERE 24/7" and then my mom told her "OH NO, YOU NEED A BREAK" and then my mom told her "THAT'S NOT GOOD FOR YOUR BRAIN" and they have adult swim at St. James village pool and at my village westfields pool and sometimes kids get out of the pool during adult swim because kids need to get a drink of water and kids have to go to the bathroom and the kids won't get overheated and it gives their kids a break

Question: What's your opinion of dry humping if you don't ask the other person to do it you just do it but they don't say anything?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 06:29 AM PDT

Friend told me this happened to him he was like 13 and the girl was under 10. I told him you are both interested in bodies. He's 18 now and regrets the whole thing. I told him it's not illegal am I correct

Question: My dad touches me what do I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 06:20 AM PDT

He touches me but If I tell police rhey will take him away. I want him to stop but I don't wnt to loose my dad

Question: I missed the bus, what can I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 05:12 AM PDT

Ok, so this morning my mom had to work early, and she told my sister and I to not miss the bus. We got ready, then my sister left to go to our bus stop. I had to get my gym clothes together, then I left my house. Well, I was walking to our stop, and my bus drove by with my sister on it. I walked to my cousin's house, and knocked on his window. He looked out of it and saw me, then he fell back asleep. I can't tell my mom, because she always goes ballistic whenever we (my sister, me, or both of us) miss the bus. What can I do?

Question: The kids I babysit don t like me - what do I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 05:08 AM PDT

I recently became a babysitter for a family with a 3 year old son and a 1 1/2 year old daughter. Their mother is due with another baby girl in a month and I m there to help out with the other two from now until sometime next summer. I ve been helping for a couple of weeks now and they seem to have gone from liking me to just wanting nothing to do with me. I got the job because after my interview her son said he liked me a lot - now he seems to just ignore me, and rebuff my attempts to connect to him. The younger child in particular is very into her mom and never wants me to pick her up, feed her snacks, unbuckle her seat belt, etc. She throws a huge crying fit, tries to bite me, slaps me, and screams "No! Mama!" until their exasperated mom finally does it. I feel like at this point we should be forming a better relationship but it s just not happening. I m normally pretty good with children but I sense that the mom is a bit annoyed that her children haven t warmed to me by now. Help!

Question: How do I stop overthinking details about family relationships?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 04:38 AM PDT

Certain relationships I analyze to death. I am in therapy and looking for additional advise. For example, my parents were divorced when I was little and my mother kept us from our Dad. Now I am close to my Dad again. I over-analyze whether my Dad and his family count me as family or just a distant relative since they know me now but not when I was a kid. I spend hours on this. I am OCD as is (was in therapy already about this). Whereas on my mother's side I don't worry much. So my Dad's brother is busy setting up a party and doesn't say much when I say hi and so I panic he doesn't like me because of what happened when I was a kid, my mother's brother on the other hand is drunk and belligerent and I don't even notice or worry what he thinks. How do I break this obsession of what my Dad, his kids with his 2nd wife, and his family think of me? It is non-stop I worry about it due to my parents divorce and my mother alienating me from my Dad when I was little. I;m not the person who usually writes about not being able to see their Dad, I see mine now and seldom write on here.

Question: My parents are favouring my younger brother and I'm getting very stressed and depressed. What should I do?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 04:25 AM PDT

I'm 17 and my brother is 12. My parents keep on telling me to let my brother do whatever he wants to do. And when does do whatever he wants to do, he most of the times ruins all of my stuff. He broke my MacBook's screen, and he ruined my PS3 cables and also chipped paint off the walls in the room so it looks ugly now. He talks to me disrespectfully and screams if I do anything to him. My parents keep on telling me to understand because he is "small" even if he does the meanest things to me. He tells me to "get lost" "go to hell" etc. Recently I started playing my PS3 (which he hadn't touched in a long time) and now even he wants to. I refused to give it to him because he keeps on breaking my things, and he called my dad 10 times, and my dad scolded me, telling me how nobody gives a **** about him (my dad) and that he's just cared for because he earns money. He tells me that he'll get a 1000 dollar PS3 for my PS3 because nobody is listening to him (sarcastically). I am already stressed because of studies and deadlines, and my mom keeps on crying, telling me that wasting even 1 hour in 24 hours is a crime and that sleeping 8 hours at night is too much. She literally wants me to study 18 hours a day without breaks. So I'm already stressed as ****, and this emotional drama is making me more depressed. Please help me before I max out and tell my mom, dad and brother - "**** all of you!" **** = sh*t The last *** = f*ck

Question: My mother says my Dad doesn't love me because he chose alcoholism over me and I need to accept that, is she right?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 04:25 AM PDT

My Dad won't get help for his alcoholism (he denies he is an alcoholic when he clearly is). My mother insists this means he does not love me and I need to accept this and just accept that my step-father is the one who loves me (her husband). So is she right that since he is an alcoholic who won't get help it means he does not love me or can he still love me despite being an alcoholic (a pretty severe one).

Question: Should I discipline my little brother (no one else does)?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 04:11 AM PDT

I'm 18 years old, my little brother is 3. Some days he just does not behave well at school. I pick him up everyday and when the teachers report to me, I tell my mom and his dad (step father). They always assume my little brother is the victim. No one has disciplined him and things are getting worse (he stabbed a kid with a pencil). I cried because I don't know what to do about him, his parents said that they will SPEAK with him. This is just getting worst day by day. I even fear that my little brother is an emotional psychopath and only cares about the bad consequences of his actions. What can I do (if I can)

Question: Hi. Just wondering, what relation is your parents first cousins' son or daughter?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 04:05 AM PDT

Question: What to do when you're creeped out by your own father?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 02:24 AM PDT

. I fear staying awake at night because I am petcherfied to hear my dad masturbate which I have before and have found his underwear in random places with *** all on the side of the mini pant leg etc. I have to watch what I wear around him or else I will feel violated. I don't hug him, don't go near him cuz I'm scared to. I don't really hang w him at all cuz he's always acting weird towards me, not fatherly weird more like sexually weird.hes done this for years now and his friends who came over drugged out used to do it with him, act weird and try to impress me by talking about how bad they used to be. My dad still does it when he comes home drunk after work every night. Im their replacement mother since my mom f'd up n left me with the stuff. It don't mean I'm my dads wife, but he treats me Like it. I feel comfy in front of other men that aren't teens but with him it's just annoying how often he looks at me. He's been single for years, told me he was gay about a year ago and was chillin w a tranny but now is back to being straight. I've found my underwear hidden deep in his clothes, not on accident Mi mom told me he used to steal her linqirie and wear it so he could get hard or something like that. Btw I am 17. &I got a bf who knows the deal and I feel protected when I'm with my bf in front of my dad. That used to be my sis's job but she's in rehab now. REST IS IN COMMENTS :

Question: Can someone help me see a positive in my life as of right now?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:41 AM PDT

My everyday consists of staying home, doing my online classes until my brother gets home, then watching my brother while my dad goes to work. I have to clean, cook, help my bro with homework, feed dogs, go grocery shopping for my dad, etc. basically everything that a mother would do for their family except I clean up everyone's mess and my father and brother don't lift a finger. I've been watching my bro like this since my mom got onto heroin and sorta became useless after that. She went to jail, etc. now we're in states very far away from each other, probably for the better. I've had to grow up fast with two drug addicted parents since I was a baby, but I started growing up when my sister stopped caring. Then I was stuck with all of the responsibilities. Flash foreword :Every night, my dad comes home at 10:30 about with a couple beers talking nonsense smelling like straight up alcohol and always tries to talk to me, hates that I have a bf because it takes away my time for doing things for them, or he's scared I'm gonna get serious with the kid and leave him with all the actual parent responsibilities. Everyone thinks he's such a good guy cause he stepped up to the plate and took care of us when he needed to, but we bevame homeless before he even stepped in. I know he has done a lot for me and all, but he thinks I'm trapped in this house until I'm 19 and if I try to leave he can call the cops and have me arrested for running away.

Question: Girls be dead honest?

Posted: 26 Oct 2016 01:00 AM PDT

I was dating a girl. She had money because of her parents and I had nothing I come from the ghetto mind you. I had no house and car when I met her. She had a car and a big house. I knew a 9-5 wasn't going to cut it for me so I began to make custom shirts and sold them online. within 2 years my biz blew up. Today I am not rich but have my own house and my bmw an 80k car. well i'm no longer dating this girl but when I do talk to her she goes ''how's biz? are you rich yet'' and little comments like that. she's still in college and let's not forget she will be someone's slave working a 9-5 once she graduates and still lives with her parents. it's almost as she's bitter she missed out on me or something. she also used to make me feel bad when I had zero dollar like ''wow you take the bus''. Also i recall her asking me if need any help as in a new employee lol.

Question: How would I go about telling my parents I'm sexualy active?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:44 PM PDT

I'm 18, I'm barely getting my feet in the adult life. I'm a college student living in the same city under their roof for the moment. I don't know how my parents would react.

Question: Was I molested?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:44 PM PDT

When I was in the first or second grade my house was destroyed by hurricane Wilma or Katrina. So we stayed with my aunt for a while. My female cousin who was in the six grade came in my room while I was watching tv. Then she asked me if I wanted to do something fun. She locked the door and said let s have sex. I didn t know what that was. She came and unbuttoned and unzipped my pants and she moved my panties over and rubbed my vagina. She would come and get in the bath with me and say let s have sex in the tub and do it if no one was there. She showed my other cousins too. I have a younger male cousin and she told all of us to get in a circle around him and she pulled out his penis.

Question: How do I fit in better?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:33 PM PDT

I don't really fit in with my family, I was adopted and there is a huge age gap between me and my sisters. My mom and dad are also seniors. Growing up I was raised as an only child since all my sisters were already out of the house. I have no one to relate to my age in the family and during family gatherings I'm always the one who is singled out and targeted to be made fun of but when I try to defend myself I cry from frustration and I don't want to deal with it anymore. The most recent encounter was my mom and sister telling me my new hair color makes me look like my drug addict biological mom and they called it weird and gross. I'm 20 and I'm done dealing with this how do I handle it? Are they doing this because I was adopted or because I'm the youngest or what? I feel like I'm getting too old to used this particular word, but am I being bullied? Btw thoughts on hair? Is it that bad, really?

Question: How attractive are both guys?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:23 PM PDT

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Question: Could CPS take me from my home because of this...?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:11 PM PDT

I live with my mom, my sister who is 18 attending local college, and my sister who is 26 and severely autistic. I am 16 btw. My mom is dying of cancer. My question is when my mom gets too sick to do much anything at all (cook, clean, etc) what would happen. My 18 year old sister and I have been taking care of ourselves, our mom, and our autistic sister and we are perfectly capable. But if when my mom gets to that point could I be taken out of the home or no because of my sister being 18? Also when my mom does, if I'm not 18 yet what will happen? Can I emancipate myself? Would my sister adopt me, would my aunt who lives far adopt me? Or would my distant father who lives in another state adopt me? And if my aunt or dad adopted me could they agree to let me continue living with my sister? Thanks for reading I really need responses.

Question: My parents think they control the house?

Posted: 25 Oct 2016 11:06 PM PDT

They are ridiculous my parents think the own everyone in the house and everyone has to do what they say and they get mad if I say anything 'negative' I can't stand them it's hard to put into words on their behavior and attitude but how do I get them to lay off? They are like dictators >:(