Idk why but when i walk for example my mom would ask me "why do you walk like that you're not supposed to do it like that" and even when i tell her to stop screaming at me and to just talk normally and to stop cussing she always tells me that i'm not thankful that i have a mom which i did not say at all? And she keeps saying how badly she was treated by her mom meanwhile now we're in a peaceful country but she still acts like i'm not sensitive and whenever i say that I cannot handle multiple stuff at a time she keeps telling me that i'm dumb and keeps comparing me to literal kids. Even on my birthday she kept saying stuff to me which I couldn't handle so i went to our balcony and kept having suicidal thoughts and a couple weeks later she said i was crying for attention and that i just wanted to let our family know that she is a bad person and then made me apologize? She tries to make me feel bad. Also i have tried so many times to tell her that i'm sensitive to those words and trust me no matter in what tone i talk or what i say she always thinks i'm blaming her which i'm not. Now I struggle a lot with low self esteem. Basically she gets mad at me for something, then i get really sad and cry for a couple of hours and then later on she acts like she said nothing meanwhile when i say that i don't like the way she talks to me she IGNORES ME FOR A WHOLE ENTIRE FULL WEEK. Please i have tried so many ways to have a good bond with my mom but it's hard, does anyone have tips?

I know that losing a spouse/significant other is worse than losing a parent, because you sleep in the same bed every day with the spouse, and expected to outlive the parent. However, what if the mother and daughter not only had a strained relationship, but her mother didn't approve of her boyfriend and was always so mean to him.  It actually got to the point where she said to her mother, "Well, he's dead now.  Happy?", as he died before her mother died.  In addition, her mother was basically Marie Barrone on "Everybody Loves Raymond" — always criticizing her daughter-in-law (or in this case, her daughter).  "you can't cook, and you keep a messy house."  I am NOT exaggerating.  She actually has said this to her daughter whose job made housework hard for her, as she's not home for most of the day.  So, she basically became overwhelmed about her mother's criticism, as if the fact that even though she has a job (the reason her house is a mess), she's still useless and lazy.  In her mother's defense, she never abandoned her, and she was in her life 24-7 since birth.  But no matter how hard she worked and such, her mother only looked at the glass as half-empty.  Is it possible her mother's passing was a burden lifted off of her, as she didn't hate her, nor did her mother abuse her, but rather her constant criticism of everything including her boyfriend who she loved dearly.  Typo in title: did they not have a good RELATIONSHIP?

My fiances 18 yo sister is the baby of the family and the only girl. I have always been open person for her to come too. I buy her gifts, and try to talk to her about things she likes. (I don't get any of this back) My fiance and I have been living at his moms for a couple months while we are saving for our place. Yesterday as I left for work 8AM I get the most excruciating texts from an anonymous number. I was called a ho, *****, stupid, ugly, to get a life and so much more. So hurtful to read yet confusing because Ive been nothing but a nice person. My fiance and his mother act non-nonchalant about it all and just tell me to "ignore" yet what I read makes me never want to trust or be around his sister. I don't even want her at my wedding. Is it okay for me to cut off my soon to be sister-in law?

She's a freshman in college, home for spring break. She came home once prior, at Christmas. When she came home at Christmas I noticed some weight gain, figured she'd do something about it. She's always been a little chunky, but now, it's much more serious. All of her clothes are noticeably snug & she's pretty out of shape. I'd guess 220-230. I'm worried if she doesn't change, she'll wake up 300lb soon. I want to approach this calmly and gently, whats the best way to go about doing so?

My mom is ruining my life I know this is your typical thing to say but it's true.. years ago when I was little I'd be doing a math problem.. ,I have dyslexia and OCD, when I didn't get the answer right she'd yell at me and say I'm stupid or dumb.. and that's happened for everything.. I'm scared.. sometimes I say something like joking and she takes it the wrong way even though my dad understood it's a joke. Then she'd take away my phone and yell at me. When I try to stick up for my self she yells at me and calls me ungrateful and my dad agrees with her. He starts yelling at me! I've lost out on motherly moments and learning how to do stuff normal kids do with their mothers. I try to avoid her at all costs but she insists I complete my homework down stairs.. then I go upstairs to play in my phone or hang out in my room and she yells at me I don't spend enough time with her.. I'm getting married next January but I'm scared how will I tell my future husband what she has done to me when she's loved in his eyes please help! (She emotionally abuses me) (an now I have severe anxiety attacks) help!?!?

(I live with my parents in NYC, which as of right now, has 22 confirmed cases of COVID-19.) Having grown up in the U.S., keeping up to date and being aware of what's going on with the corona virus - I'm relaying important information to my parents about COVID-19 who basically don't want to hear about it and aren't taking the proper sanitary measures (washing hands after coming home from work or even washing hands after using the bathroom while at home) and fighting with me about it claiming I'm talking about it way too much, when I politely relay to them the seriousness of what happens when they're not properly washing their hands, etc. I'm so scared that they're putting me and so many others in harm's way too because of their uncleanliness. What would you do if you were me or what advice do you have? 

I was the only one not there because I had a flu. It hurt so much I wish I could die. I can't get over it. I am not known as the outsider cousin because of it.

My parents have been living with me for about 3 years now. the agreement was since they travel out of town on weekends, they would not be around during the weekends and mostly only weekdays.   My mom has the entire house to herself during the week until about 4pm, then my kids, hubby and I get home. Also, my mom chauffeurs my kids every other week to and from school, so she does help me A LOT and I am so grateful.   Problem is my mom doesnt know how to give space when needed.      I would like to have weekends to myself at home with my kids and hubby, I am off every other Friday and love to be home doing stuff, but I dont get that because my mom is ALWAYS there. I have tried endlessly talking to her and we end up arguing, she cries and tells me Im kicking her out. She then resorts to threatening to leave and I know that will hurt them financially. They have DONE A LOT TO HELP ME and to care for my kids when I work. feel stuck  dont know how much I can take anymore They have a home rented out ( 10 min away)  and one ( 5 hour drive) that my father travels to on weekend, but she will not join.   She tells me she will leave on weekends when she feels like it, not when I ask her to. If my hubby and I have minor problems and need our space she stays around.  She tries to stay busy outside the home, but not enough.  They pay no rent or bills. I dont mind, she will remind me that her care for my kids makes up for it, I agree. but not having privacy is killing me  My parents are there, because we agreed it was a transition into retirement. My father is retiring soon, and eventually they leave to their home out of town. Looks like my mom is stalling the transition and leaving out of town isnt as exciting anymore.  her whole life is around my kids and doing for them, my youngest is 11 and she shuttles them to and from school every other weekend. Having her is very helpful and convenient, but it was with the understanding she would leave on weekends.

I was on the layoff list where I work. I had a stroke of good luck and found another job at the company will a larger salary that I took immediately. Then I found out I had an unexpected problem. At my new job I am the boss of several guys. They are all great guys and they accepted me as their boss without any hesitation or problems working for a woman. My problem is my husband. He wants me to quit my job because he said "I don't want you to working closely with all these guys who want to get into your pants." I told him they can want all they want but it is not going to happen. I pointed out to my husband that we need my income to make our mortgage payments and I would be happy to quit work if he got a job that would cover all our expenses. Are all husbands this way? I have never given my husband any reason not to trust me. Why does he think every guy wants to get into my pants?

So I come from a lower-middle-class family and I'm marrying someone who is upper middle class. My fiance has given different members of my family money on occasion when they were in need and pays my mom cell phone bill. We are having a baby and my mom offered to come and stay with me and my fiance if we have her two thousand a month. We said yes and agreed to start paying her after the baby is born. She then tells us that she needs one month in advance before coming because she has to take off work. We reluctantly oblige and give her the money. She then says I'm not sure if you guys we are able to pay me because my boyfriend wasn't working this summer and money was tight. She then asks us for 100000 before she comes so that she's sure we will have the funds to pay her. She forces us to give it to her saying how will you raise the baby without help. This all comes to a head when her and my sister come for my baby shower and my fiance pays for there hotel. At the baby shower, my mom doesn't really talk to him and plays games on her phone. My sister uses the photographer we hired to take photos of her for 30 minutes. And towards the end, we leave early to drop them at the hotel. My mom and sister are now mad because when my fiance picked them up he didn't get out of the car to greet them and they felt abused by me and him. My mom is pissed at the both of us. I'm not sure how to handle my family because my fiance also feels used and thinks my family is full of golddiggers.

i'm a male aged 42 and i'm aware i'm now middle aged, i live alone in a council flat, which ive lived in for 15 years, i live as a shut in and the only time i go out is to go swimming at the gym to try and keep fit......i acquired diabetes years ago unfortunately because of an unhealthy lifestyle, but ive been doing well managing it......i got my blood sugar right down and i lost nearly 3 stone. ive had mental problems to cope with all my adult life and ive never achieved any relationships, friends or female partner...and my only support network are my elderly parents, who live distant from me. so what can i do now that i'm middle aged? i'm a medieval enthusiast and worried i won't be able to handle a sword soon or swing one if i go to a reenactment..........plus i'm very lonely as i live an isolated life, very secluded. i'm doing my best to keep my fitness up by swimming - the only exercise i can do. any thoughts?

She says he's a bad guy but I want to know him anyway

I texted an old friend who i was recently catching up with because she went homeschooled and recently she stopped responding for a few weeks so i texted again asking if she was ok and she replied with " Hey (My Name). Thank you for checking on me, that's very kind of u. I'm doing alright but a lot of stuff has been happening in my family recently so it's been pretty hectic and stressful, but I'm trying to push through. How r u doing?" What does she mean?

Has anyone else had the experience of being a last child?  So that even when you become an adult, your older sibblings and parents still believe they must make all the big life decisions for you.No matter how many times I tell them to back off, my family insists that it is a sign of "caring"....but their caring makes me indecisive this is not an attractive trait and the only way I can break free if that is to make big decisions myself...its not that I never want their help....but I would rather they help when I ask....instead of trying to run my life for me ....or guilt trip me and tell me my plans are "doomed to fail" because it goes against theirs.

I am a student at a university and I live in a dorm. Most of the other residents are pretty relaxed and pleasant to be around. But... there is this one kid that I cant stand. He is always trying to take my booze and claims that I owe him. He'll either do a small favor for me and claim that he did it in exchange for booze. For example, one day I was sick and vomiting. He decided to "help" by putting a closed trash can by my head. The next day he claimed I owed him booze because of that. I never agreed to this. Sometimes he will just pound on my locked door for ten minutes asking for "just a few drinks." One time I let him in my room and said that if he gave me a couple bucks he could have a COUPLE beers. This guy gave me 2 dollars worth of coins. I looked in my fridge a couple hours later and noticed he took nine beers. He is also always asking to use my vape. He asks me this many times an hour and will not stop. He will barge into my room and start demanding things. I will yell at him to get out and he won't listen. What should I do?

Are you close with your first cousins? Do you care about them and what they do?

I don't mean like the Harry Potter type of stuff, but she thinks she does witchcraft and stuff. She is 17 years old, about to turn 18 and she has been on this witch thing for about 3 years now. Says she practices witchcraft, also says she is a part of "Wicca" which is some weird religion I guess. Wears all black, and it's honestly pathetic. Before 3 years ago, she was not like this, she was a preppy styled christian girl, I mean she barely has any friends so I don't think a friend made her like this, she does have a boyfriend and he is into that kind of stuff too, but they have only been together for a few months. What should I do about this?

Its my cousin sister who's a spoilt brat, toxic ***** who's attacked me several times like been really very mean to me but nice to every other cousin. But my toxic mom loves her

I'm getting married in Italy and I asked my brothers to be my judges for my civil wedding. I understand they are going to spend in flights and I've told them that if they can't go it's fine but I need to know before hand if not to chose someone else. My fiancé went to ask the office and they told him the judges need to be present when we go file the documents to show iD. We'll my brothers won't be there until the day before. So they won't be able to be my judges we might have to ask someone else from Italy. My mom got mad and told me I'm blind now that my fiancé is a manipulator. My brothers are saying I'm doing everything secretively, since they knew they had to spend on tickets they've been complaining that it's far and too much money. Which I understand but I wish they were more supportive and not judge. I'm not blind my fiancé is not a manipulator we are just going along to what the judge is saying. I don't understand I'm frustrated and upset that my family is reacting this way. 

I'm only 17 and my grandmas friend is named eva honish and in her 80s like my grandma and moved to florida like 5 years ago but she liked me when she knew me (i was younger) and like 2 years ago i friended eva and a bunch of other facebook suggestions and she accepted and stuff then one day i was bored and on messenger i waved at her and she waved back and that was my last contact with her then today i check facebook like usual and go back to old messages with people and i got to me and evas conversation and i click her name and it says profile not found and i can't see when she was active or anything and she was no longer in my friends or even visible on facebook unless i switched to another account meaning she blocked me.. im so confused??? i never did anything to her why would she do that i haven't even talked to her in years she's like in her 80s with glasses and grayish hair, she didn't even have any posts on facebook

I have friends who constantly get on my case about not having a job and it's really confusing to me. I just quit my job at a store back in December because I had really bad experiences that took a toll on my mental health. There's not many places to work where I'm from, and I don't know if I'm ready yet. I even had a savings account I put money into while I was there, so I have money. It just seems like they're making fun of me. They always mention about how I never do anything which isn't true. I go to the gym, I study a lot for school because I care about my grades, I spend time with my boyfriend and family, and I go out and do stuff all the time, but they act like I'm lazy which drives me insane. I also just got my license and they're nagging me about buying a car when one of them didn't even buy their own. They got it handed down from their grandpa , so they don't understand how expensive it is cause they didn't have to pay anything for it. Its not my fault I don't come from a rich family or get stuff handed to me, and I don't know why they treat me like crap one minute but then act like they care about me the next. They act like I can't afford to go out and buy the stuff they do which isn't true. I can easily go out and buy clothes or food, or go do something fun. That's why I made a savings account. I just don't know what to do anymore, and I just feel so alone and sad. 

At events, I'm scared to ask my step kids for a picture because they have declined before. They are really little. How can I not be scared of wanting a picture with them? I want to take some with them at an event, but scared they will decline. 

So I'm 16 and my brothers gf is 23 and she has a kid which isn't relation to me, they live with us so everyday when she goes to work at 6am-2pm working at McDonald's I work from 9am-8pm working in a office I'm 17 btw when I get home my mom is cleaning her room taking her out to eat and buying her clothes and cause she works so "hard" she gives her massages and when I get home she gives me the leftovers in the fridge and tells me to clean the house while she gets home and doesn't move a finger and she just looks at me annoyed I seen her stealing checks money from my mom and I told my mom but she calls me a liar and threatens to hit me i talked to her how I felt and she always gets mad at me and threatens I can't go nowhere unless I Give her a hug and tell her if she needs anything I'm so angry what should I do?

My step kids are playing ball this year and I have a shirt to match them. I don't know if I should get a picture with them because their mom will be there. Any advice? I don't want to make the mom feel bad or anything. Should I or not? I wanted to post it but I'm friends with their mom on social media so I don't know if I should. 

So I don't want to write down everything because it would be far too long. But basically my neighbors have been terrorizing my fam. They had their son who is a minor (17) attack my father. This boy is huge, and husky so he literally cut my dads face up. My dad cussed at him but never hit him back because he is a minor. However my dad is in jail now because they lied to the police and said he was threatening to kill their son which is BS! They have also pepper sprayed my dad weeks ago and got away with it because my dad is not a drama freak, he didn't press charges (HE SHOULDVE).  Last night 2 men (the dad and cousin) and 2 women (the mom and aunt) tried to hurt my mom yet the police do not seem to want to help us. I live in CA. Is there anywhere I can purchase a firearm without all these licenses? Isnt it our constitutional right the bear arms? I am afraid they will take things too far soon and afraid for our lives! They tried opening our door last night. I don't want anyone in my family to end up dead. Please help.  Also everyday I come out of school around 8pm they are always by my yard. I feel that they are going to attack me and my mom now. My dad isn't here to defend us anymore. I cant turn to the police because they are waiting for us to end up hurt too? Possibly dead? These people are drug dealers. I hate feeling like I have to run to my door or I'll get jumped/stabbed. I feel unsafe in my own home. I need help