I'm looking for other people who are or have  been in this situation. I am with my husband who barely leaves his computer outside of work. All day and much of the night he is playing online games. Any spare chance. He does the basics outside of that like taking my son to sport or hanging up the washing if I ask. He does virtually nothing else and isn't really present in our lives other than that because he  is quick to anger or get upset if we interrupt him. He will help the kids with homework amongst the gaming as well and he works full time. Talking to him is difficult as he is mostly on his computer or wanting to be on his computer. Even my father today said that he doesn't have commitment outside of that. Due to my and his work it would be very difficult for me to leave (or ask him to) while the kids are at school for another 6 yrs. after they graduate it would be easier. We don't have fights or anything I am just completely let down by him. I am embarrassed to say to others what he does all day but don't want to hide it either. I want to get out but I am biding my time until it makes practical sense to leave. I don't respect him for what he has done here too. In other ways I do (he is good at his job) but just with this I am not at all satisfied and would rather be on my own. I have waited this long I just will hold on a little longer. I am looking for other people in this situation rather than anyone to tell me what to do. Please let me know if you are or have been here

I do want to go, but I don't want any drama with her family. I'm not going there looking for trouble. It's about paying my respect. That's all. 

We've been making out but I didn't want to go all out yet. He then asked whether I would have sex when we become BF/GF or after marriage. He has also said he doesn't want to have sex with me until we are BF/GF because he doesn't want me to think he's using me. What does he actually want?

1.  He moves in with she and her 17 y/o son, and proposes to her. He starts verbally disciplining him, particularly since her son doesn't have a job, even though he graduates in 4 months.  He speaks to him like he's spoiled and not doing anything w/his life, as if 16 is officially a man because you can legally get your working papers.   2.  He has two jobs (college professor and lawyer), but drives his fiancee's car to pick her up from work at bus stop, while all day, he's home. 3. Her son is clinically depressed, and she let her fiancé accompany them to therapy session.  He tells the shrink, "This man has never had a job in his life" and continues to put him down, making her son cry.  She just sits there as usual and doesn't defend her son. But the shrink politely defends him, "Well, he's only 17." On the way home in the car while he's driving, he looks at her son (who has an attitude because of the therapy session) through the rearview mirror, giving him a "don't test me" look. 4.  He says that her son's last name will be legally changed when they get married, and that his new last name will be on his high school diploma. 5.  She never met his daughters/family, or at least seen pictures or spoke to them on phone. 6.  He tells her how to raise her "spoiled" son, such as suggesting she change his Facebook password every Sunday so that he'll only have access on the weekend and can focus on school, to which she listened to him.   Is she not very bright?

Even if it's an ex-lover someone that he has already been with

I was laid off from my job and I had a VERY hard time finding another one. I was behind on my rent and told my mom that I might have to move back in with her. A week later, I got a call from my old employer who wanted me to come back to my old job. I jumped at the chance and went back to work. A few months later I was talking to my mom about my great luck getting hired back at my old job. Mom told me that it was not luck that I got my old job back. I asked her to explain. She said she told my ex husband who both of us are still on friendly terms with about my problem. He was friends with the company owner and he asked the company owner to hire me back a personal favor. She said "Now you know the truth but please do not tell you ex husband I told you. He does not want you to think he is messing with your life". When I ask her why he would do that for me she said "He is a great guy that wants the very best future for you". That is the nicest thing ANYONE has EVER done for me in my whole life. I feel that I have to repay him for his kindness in some way. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I CAN DO TO REPAY HIM.

I have long felt my need for quiet time is a crutch for marriage life........until I read it is possible for introverts. What is your perspective?