no they don't abuse me, I know other people have it bad and I'm not trying to sound like a brat. But I'm 19 and still don't fit in with my family. My oldest sister is 38, she treats me like she's my mom and I already have a mom I don't need 2 she has a son raise him. My oldest brother is 34 and he used to be my favorite but he's just as bad as them. He called me a ***** and not in a joking way, he said I don't have the right to say the N word bc I don't have my black card. It doesn't sound bad but when your sisters and brother continue to call you names for your whole life it does something. My older sister is 28, so she's the closest to my age. We've never gotten along, she's never liked me and I think it's bc I'm the baby. I don't like her bc she doesn't like me and bc she gets everything she wants. Literally, my prom was all about her, my Christmas was her. I'm just tired of it. My mom takes their sides, my dad is a drunken d••kwad and it's far too much. I'm angry all the time and even when I'm quiet I'm a *****. So anything I do.. I lose. Every day is miserable and everyday is worse when I'm with my siblings. My sisters getting married soon and I don't know how to be happy for her. I was happy for a glimpse second then thanksgiving came and they made fun of me again and she didn't even care that I left her house. My brothers girlfriend cared more about me being upset than my own siblings.. I'm sorry for a such a long rant guys.

Hi all, So my husband was going to drop off my mom, aunt and 2 kids at church and was going to take my car. I went and started the car to warm it up, and a few minutes later, he went in and noticed that the gas light was on. Although the light was on, it was enough for him to go drop them off, and come back. He flipped and said that I needed to grow up multiple times, and that I'll never be an adult in front of my family. It was embarrassing, and I screamed at him to leave me alone. It's not the first time he has told me that, but the first time he did so in front of people.  My 5 year old asked me why I screamed at her daddy, and I told her: " Your daddy is a ******* asshole, and I'm tired of that bullshit."  I know it was wrong of me to tell her that, but I'm really fed up with his behavior. Could I also be considered a bully for calling him an asshole. No, I did not call him an asshole in front of my family, just in front of my daughter. He followed me upstairs to come grab his keys for his car, and he continued saying the same things, so I screamed at him to leave me alone. My daughter was still inside, and my mom and aunt were waiting outside.

He sexually abused me when I was 15. covert incest which involved manipulation on his part and was inappropriate .he even asked me to come rub his back in the shower when I was 18 to which I refused. ugh..he wasn't a good person out of all. he also abused my mom and they divorced when my sister and I were little.i just have so much resentment towards him and haven't talked to him in years and don't intent to. But some people who don't know the whole story think I should have relationship with him because he is still my father.  Are parents owned relationship with their kids despite anything?

Im a single mother and my 11 year old daughter wanted to go shopping so i dropped her off at walmart and told her to wait outside when she's done and call me and i would pick her up and later when i picked her up she said that 3 men were following her around the store and taking pictures of her and even tried to corner her but stopped and left when she went near security, i'm shocked and don't know what to do, she wants to go again tomorrow but i'm scared that something could happen This is a serious question 

We live in Virginia and my 16 year old daughter came home from school today to tell me her history teacher beat her for talking in class, she had bruises everywhere and I've heard from other people about the abuse but never believed it until now. What can I do to handle this?

I'm 17 and I live in California. Me and my mom aren't on talking terms and I'm not happy here, and would much rather be with a family member I love and trust.

The sister is really bad, like evil.

Please read before you pass any judgements. I dont want to live where I am anymore.  Im about to be fired from my most favorite job in the world from doing something to protect another person. My job is a safe haven for me. My family is dysfunctional.  My brother has paranoid schizophrenia and has always had a hatred for me because I was born when his mental illness was developing. Plus his father had just committed suicide and then my mom met my father and had a daughter with him. (My older sister)  My brother always wanted a sister but my father treated them both badly. One because my brother was not his child. Two because my sister was light skinned. So then I was born and In dark skinned. And africans love dark skin. So he favored me out of all. And my brother really hates me for it. From all this I just want to start over.  I want to leave and I do want to leave but if this plan fails I will kill myself. Because I dont want to struggle anymore. So I just need a loan. 

I don't know why it is that I am hardly ever included on anything my parents are doing with my step sister and her kids. I love those two but I hardly ever get to see them. They used to live out of state but now they don't and things haven't changed. I'm still rarely included in their little circle. But my mom doesn't hesitate to update me on all the cute and funny things my niece and nephew say and do when she sees them. She goes on and on about how much fun they are to be around. Yeah? Well it would be nice to be included and see/experience for myself. They're my family too. I'm tired of hearing about it. It's almost like she's bragging that she gets to see them regularly and I don't. I don't want to be rude and just tell her to quit it. But I don't really know how else to make it stop. It's one thing to not be included. It's another to get constant updates on how much fun you always have with them when I am not a part of it... I actually mentioned recently I missed everyone and wanted to see them, only to be discluded once again.  I am counting on it, when I next see my mom, I know I will get to listen to her go on and on about how much fun they had. All while I stayed home.   To the anonymous answer, they literally just moved here last month. I haven't even had a chance.  I was completely left out on Thanksgiving.  Not even a thought or consideration.   And actually, I have mentioned taking the kids for a day.  Not "babysitting" but just spending the day with them because they are family.  

I am going to have to see her over Christmas unfortunately. They both said I did nothing wrong. The sister is an adult bully and I finally couldn't take her abuse. I was asked to avoid visiting at the same time as her at Thanksgiving but when the whole extended family is there I don't want to be segregated and my mother said she won't do that to me (we'll see). My sister now has Crohn's Disease and so more abusive then ever cause she is in pain. If she was not so cruel I would have sympathy on the condition she has. Instead I don't. So are my parents right that I have no need to apologize? What I did was grab her upper shoulder when she was blocking a door and told her to grow the hell up and then called her the B word. I did shake her shoulders which I think was wrong of me. Thank you all, all good answers. Have a Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas. 

My sister brought home women that she hung around with to the house. They were thug women. They had a psychotic family that would come After you and they themselves were violent and aggressive. They looked like lesbians also.  One hit me when I was 14 and my sister moved in it and that one remains spiteful with me to this day.  I dont understand? I tell my sister about this and my sister retorts 'they have problems in their lives!'. Now there is a psychotic family from one of those thugs that recognizes me and some meets me out and tries to talk to me.  I'm 32 as of right now, what should I do? 

I messaged them online for help but they started to ask me where I live said that they would find somebody who can help me. I was scared so I left the chat. Should I have told them where I live for help? childhelp.org

Recently my daughter(1yr old)  and I was followed around our local Walmart. 3 men was following us. They stop following after they saw my husband. Ever since then I've been afraid to leave my house. ( I work from home)  How can I stop being afraid for me and my child safety. I'm scared that we're gonna get kidnapped and I'll be separate from my child. 

So I'm 30, recently moved back home with mum and brother after splitting with bf. So my mum gets an exchange student from China to live with us for extra money ($290 a week) they only stay for a few months and then there's a new one. So it's highly stressful as I'm sharing all areas of the house and some of them are rude, leave the bathroom dirty/unhygienic. Are loud, and messy. I've told my mum can we not get students anymore and she tell me she needs the money to fund my brother who doesn't work. And that she use to get students when I didn't live at home so my coming home means I have no say. Like she doesn't care.  Should I move out? Or just suck it up? I know living by myself will be expensive $$$ but I just know my situation is not good here with students. 

(Sorry this is really long!!) Thanksgiving has recently passed and it was a complete and utter nightmare. My mom, shitfaced and drunk out of her mind passed out butt in the air in the middle of the living room floor (where everyone was eating and watching tv). I was extremely embarrassed and hid away in one of the guest bedrooms. I came back out and my step-dad was also drunk. I was very angry at this point so I told him that he was being stupid. He was really mad and punched me lightly in the nose with his ring. It hurt for a little bit and made my eyes tear up but it didn't bleed or anything like that. I returned to the guest bedroom even more upset and a few minutes later my step-dad comes in asking for his phone and charger. I, being mad refused to tell him until he grabbed a plastic bottle off the counter and told me he was going to beat the **** out of me. I was so scared so I ran into the living room where the rest of my family was. He started hitting me with the bottle in front of everyone and my grandma had to intervene. He told everyone he was just joking and when I didn't say anything he was angry and asked why I was making him out as the bad guy. My mom still passed out on the floor we had to drag her into the car and drive home. When we got home I was so upset so I immediately ran into my room and slammed the door. My step-dad came in and asked me if I was mad and that he was sorry. I gave both my parents the silent treatment for a day and a half. Am I petty?

Hi. I'm a 15-year-old boy and I live with my dad and his fiancee, my soon-to-be stepmom. My mom died of cancer when I was 10 years old (5 years ago). My dad and I both miss her so much. She was the love of his life and she was the best mom anyone could ask for. That's why the holidays are a hard time for us. 2 years ago, my dad met his girlfriend who is now his fiancee. She is amazing, she's kind of quiet but a very kind and caring person. When my dad first brought her home to meet me, she and I got to know each other and became very close. We have very good conversations and I've opened up to her about my mom's passing. She knows how I feel because she lost her mother at a young age too. My dad's fiancee has been living with us for a year now and things have been great. She makes us very happy and we already feel like a family, which is awesome. I can't wait for the two of them to tie the knot honestly. I'm very excited for them. My dad and I love to make jokes with her and she jokes back, its pretty funny. Every Friday evening we order pizza and wings for delivery or we go out to eat like at a restaurant or all-you-can-eat buffet, its awesome. I'm always going to miss my mom though. But how can anyone ever truly get over losing a loved one?

My sister and mother wrecked mine. My mother did only cause she was trying to keep my bully sister who is deranged happy. I don't know that my Mom will wreck Christmas, she might. However, I do know my sister will cause she is evil. So how will you deal with this at Christmas? How should I? I want to go to the celebration so not going is not an option for that would really make the holiday bad.

My brothers 8 years older than me he's 23 now and still lives with my mom and I. When I was younger he'd get upset about not getting something that he wanted, which led to him beating and hitting on me or punching me. My mom wouldn't do anything about it besides sending me to our neighbors or sending me away somewhere. whenever i confront her about it she just laughs and doesn't take me seriously. I'm 15 now and he still harasses me and destroys my property whenever he's upset. several times he's broken or busted my door down while trying to make an attempt to come at me. I can't have any friends over in the fear that he might act out, I don't leave my room for days cause I'm afraid to leave the only place where I feel safe. Sometimes i stay out for hours cause i don't want to come home. I don't know what to do and my mother isn't taking me serious at all and keeps acting like I'm the problem. (I'm sorry if this is too long for some people to read I just really need advice right now.)

I'm 21, still in college. I currently live at home with my parent's and my older sister who is 25. For some reason my dad likes to go into our rooms when we're not home. How do I know? Will I caught him multiple times in my sister's room when he thought I was gone. His excuse is  always "he's getting the dirty towels." I never understood why he just couldn't ask us for the towels while we're there. I know this doesn't sound like much, but I've never been comfortable around my dad. There's just a lot of things that seem off about him, especially his relationship with my sister. I mentioned catching him in my sister's room multiple times to "get dirty towels", but one thing my dad hates is being around dirty underwear. I accidentally left my underwear on the bathroom floor and I recieved an hr lecture, my mom leaves her underwear on their bedroom floor he flips out. So I find it odd that he willingly goes into my sister's room, who leaves her scantily clad underwear everywhere on her floor and never mentions a thing. There's certain things that just don't seem right and I want to mention it to my mom, but don't know how. My mom works a lot so she doesn't get to see the stuff that I see. For instance, my sister legit never wears a bra when she's around my dad. I'm the one telling her to cover up! My dad makes comments about my sister's body and appearance. When I walk down the stairs he's glued to the tv, when my sister walks down the stairs he immediately follows her.  And no this isn't some pervy fantasy. I literally can't sleep because this has been bothering much more than usual. Do I tell my mom? Should I talk to my sister? 

I recently put down a boundary that my 70 year old dad can no longer drive my 14 year old daughter around because 1) he is addicted to prescription opioids (fentanyl patch, ultram, hydrocodone just to name 3) and 2) he drives extremely dangerously. We can stop at a red light and he will look over at me and start talking and the next minute go straight through the light while it is still red.  He also doesnt bother stopping at red lights and when someone blows their horn at him he acts like he has no idea why, which makes him more dangerous in my opinion.  After setting this boundary, my father started guilt tripping me saying he has never gotten a ticket, that he was scared of driving me for this exact reason and he must have somehow made a mistake and now it is yesterday's yesterday. I told him the guilt treatment needs to stop. He just kept on and on.  Then my mom told my sister and she got on her phone and texted me 21 texts messages about how I am abusing our father and he should be allowed to take his grandchild wherever he wants and that I am mean and manipulative and just looking for a way to hurt him.   I'm so done. I mean finally. I feel done. I've told my dad this. He ignores me, says hes okay and apparently that's all that should be needed to get past it all. But it isnt.  I just need to know how to respond to him coming to my house which he will do or worse my daughters school, because he will not hesitate to do that.  Please let me know what to do.

Alright so I turned 18 last month and I've been planning on moving out for a long time, but I'm so  afraid of telling my nana. She's sooo attached to me and she NEVER wants to see me leave. I hate to see her cry. What to I say to her? Help please. 

I'm 27 years old. My mom keeps using my phone because she prefers my camera over hers. We both have iphones. She has the iphone 6 plus and I have the XR. I text my friends on there. I feel like she snoops my texts. I'm very close to her but bad enough, I don't have my own room. It's not like I can use my phone anywhere because she feels extremely upset if I'm away from the house (even though she knows my whereabouts). I don't want to feel like I'm hiding something or anything. I told her she can't always use my phone. Like right now, she's using my phone and has been for the past 2 hours. But I don't really use my phone, so maybe that's why. 

My baby's father hit his other baby's mom in her face last now. Now he been crying all day over because she ignored his text messages. What can I do to cheer him up? Every day he's MAD at her and it's pissing me off that I can't be happy with him

My family all went to visit my aunt and uncle in Texas for thanksgiving. My parents flew back Saturday morning my sister and I decided to stay until Sunday.  Saturday night my sister got really really sick. We ended up taking her to the ER and she was admitted with an infection in her appendix. They want to remove her appendix since the infection isn't getting better.  I missed my flight yesterday to be with her. My parents are trying to come back to Texas but can't get a flight out until at least Wednesday due to a major winter storm. I really want to go back home but my parents want me to wait until they can get there. My aunt and uncle are here so I feel like my sister is in good hands. I really can't afford to miss almost an entire week of work. I took off all last week to come visit my aunt and uncle. Am i wrong to leave my sister here in Texas? Note: I don't live in the same town as my parents and where I live they are not experiencing a winter storm 

My boyfriend (her good son) and I live on our own now. Her almost 30 year old son does not. Still lives and home and recently asked her if one of his buddies can move in for a bit until he gets some.things figured out. He's a 35 year old guy and has no where to go cuz he got kicked out of an apartment with friends who didn't pay so they all had to leave. Anyway it's only gonna be a temporary situation until my boyfriend's father comes back home (he's in the hospital). She asked what we think about the situation. She knows I don't like her older son and the brothers don't get along to well (his brother has a drinking problem). She said the guy seems nice, doesn't drink or smoke (he must or he wouldn't be friends with her older son, he doesn't have nice friends) and she needs help money wise. I honestly don't think it's a good idea seeing his older brothers track record of friends who party and steal. I could be wrong but idk. My boyfriend isn't sure about the idea. And his dad also has no clue this guy is moving in (he apparently doesn't need to know). His grandma and everyone else says he seems nice and it would help his mom out..it's her house she can do whatever she wants. But I just want some advice on how to tell her I don't think it's a good idea.  It's weird I think especially with Xmas coming up there's gonna be some stranger hanging out with us for the holidays. I mean doesn't the guy habe parents he could live with? Am I just being a scrooge?

I think it's disgusting. But I never did.

Growing up, my friends' parents never liked mine and I never understood why. Both of my parents were very disappointed in me when I got pregnant at 22. The whole out of wedlock deal is huge to them. My dad shamed me, told me I'd end up a single parent, wanted nothing to do with it all. After my son was born, he changed his tune. He still didn't like my boyfriend (sons father). Long story short, my ex and I split. He chose drugs, alcohol and cheating over my son and I. I'm doing the best I can these days as a single parent. I've come a long way. I've had supportive friends and some family. My dad... not so much. He kisses my ex's ***. Shakes his hand when he sees him, even added him on Facebook and comments on all of his stuff. He even made it a point to tell my current boyfriend that no one will replace my sons father. My sons father maybe sees him a couple times a year at most (his choice). It's been this way for a long time. My dad is so disrespectful and unsupportive. I'm mostly numb to it now, but sometimes it gets to me. How do I handle this? Is it normal? * I've come a long way... I am now 33* ^^meant to add I've also tried talking to him about how this makes me feel. He doesn't care. 

My mom wants me to be more involved in my sister's life, but we have drastically different interests. I cannot get along with her in any way, she is younger than me, and she is the type of narcissistic brat. I still love her, nevertheless, but I cannot bring myself to have a conversation about her day, as my mom wants me to do. My mom wants me to fake a whole new personality, which quite frankly, I do not want to do. What should I do in this situation?

So basically we were at my house watching a movie and he left the door open outside so the house got cold and he got really mad at me and yelled at me for leaving the door open and i told him i wouldn't do it again but he kept yelling so i got so mad that i hit him across the face and he jumped back and looked at me with shock and i've been texting my boyfriend constantly that i'm sorry but she won't reply and i told her i promise i won't do it again but she doesn't trust that i won't and i'm sad i really love her This is a serious question 

My parents doesn't like my music or choice of fashion  My sister hates the TV shows that I watch  So , I don't care what they think .