My best friend is getting married this year and asked me to be her maid of honor! While excited as i am to stand next to her on her and her husband s day, I m left with planning her bridal and bachelorette party. She put together a list and of women she wants at her bridal shower, and in total it s about 35 women which is too many to cram into a house. I ve decided to rent a small space for all of us to have fun and celebrate the bride. With the bachelorette party I have decided to do a pole dancing class in our city as well as a few other places. In total to cover the cost of the class and the bridal shower costs it s looking to be a little over $600.00. Should I cover the whole 600 myself or ask the other 4 bridesmaids to split the cost with me? If I split it how should I ask the question? The places would need the money asap for a deposit for the dates I ve picked out that work with everyone which would be in October of this year. Another fun fact is the bride had asked all of us bridesmaids to pay for our makeup which was $50.00 each while she covered the other $100 for hair and other things, and one of the maids threw a fit for having to cover 50 herself. With that reaction I m scared to even ask! Please any help would be greatly appreciated!!!!!

My partner has never been bothered about having a wedding or getting married. She says she would rather elope and just go somewhere the two of us, still romantic but just us two. The cost and the planning of it all puts her off a lot. She says it's too much money and stress choosing the dress, venue, food, music and flowers etc. She also has a very little family and her mother and grandmother passed away about a year ago, she had wanted her mother to give her away if she was to ever get married and now that isn't possible. It is basically just her father and her sister that are left in the family. I on the other hand have a very large family. Is there anything I can do to convince her to have a wedding??