Family: Question: Would you let your 10 year old go on vacation to her mother's boyfriend's home in another state?

Question: Would you let your 10 year old go on vacation to her mother's boyfriend's home in another state?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 01:04 PM PDT

The mother has been to the man's house over a half dozen times and he has visited here about three. The ten year old has met the boyfriend before. The mom wants to take her on "vacation" to his home in another state. I just don't know if going to visit your mom's boyfriend is an appropriate vacation for a ten year old.

Question: Is it fair that my parents force me to babysit my brother everyday?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 01:00 PM PDT

Now that school is out, they force me to babysit him while they're at work because they don't want to pay for daycare or a babysitter. It's so not fair that I have to spend most of my free time watching an 8 year old. I'm just a kid myself.

Question: My grandpa was a very good person, a family man,a Marine,a doctor. At what point did we lose men that had such valors?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 12:43 PM PDT

My grandpa passed away a few years ago. He died peacefully at 91 at his home surrended by us,his family. I was thinking about his life.. in high school he met a girl. He enlisted the day after Pearl Harbor in the Marines. That girl waited for him. He didn't come stateside for 2 years and when he did she was here waiting for him. After he got out of the Marine Corps he enrolled at local university and became a family doctor. He married that girl in 1946,started a family,had kids. Grandma died in 2000 of leukemia and until her last day you could feel they loved each other. When grandpa died in 15 I thought: finally they're together. My point is: sometimes I see even old folks who are vulgar,rude. He was an humble person,never rude to anyone,always polite. Hard working,an honest person,a family man. He wasn't perfect but he was a good person. He wasn't one those doctors who think they're better than anyone. He was a simple man. My question is: at what point did we lose men with such valor? Nowadays I see people who cheats on their wives,rude people,it makes me appreciate my grandpa even more and makes me think the world has lost a good person,not just cause he was my grandpa but because he was a man who earned nothing but respect in his life. What do you think?

Question: How can I get my sister to become less quiet and awkward?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 11:59 AM PDT

Well my sister is 17 already but she's still super shy, quiet and avoidant when it comes to social situations. Even around me or our parents she is way too quiet and usually she only speaks when someone talks to her first or she can't avoid it. She never tells us anything about her life, doesn't say what happened during the day and doesn't randomly utter some funny remarks - nothing. She also struggles with making eye contact which makes her appear really rude and cold. But honestly there also isn't much that happens during her life since apart from school she just sits in her room all day and hardly ever goes anywhere. She's even afraid to go to the store on her own or make phone calls, isn't that silly for a 17 year old girl? Of course she has absolutely 0 friends and other kids at school don't like her and just avoid her because she sits in the corner all the time without saying a word and she doesn't even try to have a conversation when someone tries to talk to her. Most people in my family don't like her either because of her strange behavior and my aunt even thinks she has aspergers because she can't interact with others normally. I'm sick of her being this way and want her to change. She can't be like this forever and as an adult she needs to be confident and social. What should I do with her? How can I make her interact with people more and get over her extreme shyness?

Question: Do I have the right to feel anger and resentment?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 10:37 AM PDT

I honestly believe I've had a horrible, pathetic life. I never had drugs and/or sex I do not have any mental disorders I stayed away from all things bad Yet my mother always treated me differently from my brother, who is about the same age. At age 17, I was forbidden from going to the mall alone. She allowed my brother to go alone anywhere in the mall. She laughed and said "because you have a vagina. Because you are a girl." I felt hurt. when I told her that the mall was safe, that it had cameras, crowds, and mall security. She still didn't allow it. She continued this behavior up until I was 23. Until I was 23, she never allowed me to walk in a hotel alone but let my brother do so. Though I could stay in a dorm during college, whenever I stayed home, she never let me go outside on the trail, or anywhere else, that was behind our house, but she always allowed my brother to do so. When we had an argument about that, she said I'm behaving like a white Woman and that "white women don't mind getting raped." Up until I was 23, apart from College, I could hardly go anywhere alone. I'm 24, and there are some places I can go to alone currently. I tried moving out when I was 19 but she got into a huge argument with me and stopped me. I'm still trying to move out. Do I have the right to feel upset about how my life has been? I also feel that should I move out, I doubt I ever want to see my mother again or talk to her again, given what I went through with her.

Question: My mom turns my internet off at one, and Im not allowed to leave my room for 2 days?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 09:24 AM PDT

My mom caught my up late last night so she decided my internet would be off from now on. It is summer currently and I am 17. I understand where she is coming from, but this really isnt the best for me. For one, I have trouble sleeping at 1 am and prefer to stay up. I also prefer night as well and many of my close friends are online and tend to only be up late... so now I will have issues talking to them. She says its because Im always tired, and wakes up late. Im not normally tired during the day and the reason she says that is because Im in bed, but half the time I m downstairs and the other half Im just using my bed as a couch since I dont have somewhere to sit in my room. Also I normally wake up from 11:30- 12. I dont think this is too late and normally she asks me to help right when I wake up which I m fine with. She wouldnt let me talk to her about it and this really upset me because I m going to be an adult soon and would really like to at least say why its upsetting to me. so I kept trying and she said I have to be in my room the next two days and she might cancel my vacation. Am I wrong to be upset or overreacting? It turns off at 1 am

Question: Should people give up their kids for adoption if they can’t provide for them?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 09:02 AM PDT

I don't see how people think that it's normal to raise a child on welfare. Kids who grow up on welfare are much more likely to be on welfare when they grow up. Once you're in the system, it's hard to get out. Not okay.

Question: Cousin hit me first, now sisters arent on my side?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 08:58 AM PDT

went to Romania to see my family with my 2?sisters . We have a cousin here. there is no AC and its really hot and we have a fan in the room. So im like turn on the fan please its really hot. Then she just randomly yells at me (they all yell here on my moms side of the family they all have mental illnesses. Not saying this rudely they just genuinely do. One has schizophrenia the other is too controlling and my cousin is the daughter of the too controlling one) anyways she yells shes like im cold. Im like ok whatever ill just move it towards me. Then she gets up and is just yelling at me like no i dont want to get up no dont move it dont turn it on. Im like how selfish can you be im dying here its hot! You dont even have to feel it!!! And shes threatening to hit me . Im 18 and shes like 30. Then she actually has the audacity to hit me!!! So i started shoving her against the furniture and beating her ten times worse until my sister in the room with us grabs me and takes me off her. Then i start yelling at all of them for being so irrational and how dare she put her hands on me and they are all sick in the head. Then naomi kicks me out the room. Like how dare she?! Hit me for something so small?! What grown adult does that?! Id never ever hit first no matter what. I just had to put her in her place afterwards to show her not to mess with me like that ever again. The next morning my sisters are STILL like telling me how wrong i am for hurting her even tho she HIT me first!

Question: Lying MIL?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 08:52 AM PDT

So lately, my husband and I have had problems with my in laws not respecting us and our rules when it comes to our daughter. They are very manipulative people. I told her everything that she's done that I don't appreciate and if she disrespects our wishes again then we will leave. She promised to respect us from now on. We don't feed her meat & My brother and sister in law told us that they fed her meat when she was younger and my father in law said "I'll feed her what the f*** I want." and I asked my mother in law and she denied it. She said she's never bought a meat baby food and I know that is a lie because I remember my husband telling me she did and I was stressing that she was going to feed it to her but she assured me she wouldn't. She asked who told me so I told her that my brother in law told me and she said she'd clear it up with him. When confronted by him, she said "I don't remember ever doing that" and kept cutting him off to explain herself. She kept repeating herself saying "I would NEVER do that." And "I swear I didn't" After she called my brother in law to "clear things up," I never heard anything else about it. She's acting like it never happened. I'm more mad that she just said she'd respect me and then she goes and lies to me. That shows me she's not going to change. I know she is lying but I don't know what to do. I've already confronted her and she denied it but I don't want her to get away with lying.

Question: Why am i treated like this in my home?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 08:19 AM PDT

i am the youngest in three siblings .im a dude my dad and mom treat me like **** and my sisters worse. they always talk to my two sisters and are like i am the ghost there or i am an unmoving wall. when i try to talk to my dad is like who you are to even talk to me then he talks to my oldest sister serious and takes her as a actual human but thinks of me like garbage bag with a mouth and legs. my sisters gang up on me and are mean to me for no reason.like when i go to the eldests room she threatens me .what is it? its just her room .why she has to be teritorial? why is that the youngest in siblings is always bullied and treated like crap? my sisters call me sissy and weak and make me do the things the tell me to to.why? they are cripple? cant do it themselves? i dont get it what these names they call me mean. i guess are slangs. i cant search them now . because i am using my sisters computer cuz parents didn't buy me electronics. why? i always sit and watch them play games and do other stuff then i cant have pc and phone and other stuff personal only for myself? my sister is coming back from college she will be mad if she know i was in her room.

Question: Should I tell my sister that she can get into legal trouble for letting a runaway child stay at her house?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 08:12 AM PDT

The 15 year old girl ran away from home because she got into a fight with her mom. It sounds like her mom was trying to correct some bad behaviour (smartmouthing and lying) but the girl refused to listen. I know it's out of kindness, but it is technically illegal to house runaway children. My sister should be calling the police and have them deal with this girl. It is not her job to do it by herself. This girl still belongs to her real family, not strangers. It sounds like there is no abuse and neglect at home, she's just a teenager who's pushing boundaries. Her parents did not give permission and probably have no idea that she's with my sister, an adult who they don't even know.

Question: Is my family situation abnormal?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 08:02 AM PDT

I'm probably overthinking this but, just figured i'd get the internet's verdict on this and see if i'm the only one who has a family like this, so I just turned 18 this year (Ima dude), I live with my mom, my younger sister, and my little half brother (turned 7 this year) his father isn't really in the picture much so me and my sis often have to help take care of him, me ana my sister's father is around but he doesn't live with us, thoughts? (Sorry for it being so long lol)

Question: Giving my parents $200 a month?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 07:21 AM PDT

I have been paying the house bills (gas, electricity, phone, internet, plus helping my brother pay for one of the two cars we have) plus credit card bills I owe, which is about $2600 total per month. My parents pay for water bill and take care of groceries and other household stuff. My brother pays for the two cars' insurance and one of the car monthly payment, and he pays me back $200 to kinda help out. With all this I barely have much left over each month from my paycheck. My parents never ask us to give them money and they wouldn't take it even if we give it to them. But lately, my mom is really unhappy with our financial situation, and I know she is upset with us, especially I feel with me. I know I should have been doing this a long time ago, but I want to start giving my parents $200 every month. Is not much, but I feel like at least is something. I will just readjust the amount I pay on my credit card bills. They are receiving SSI and food stamp, but that is barely enough to help cover the expenses they have to make each month. I also have a sister who from time to time does give them some money. I just want my mom to be happier, I wish I can do more for them. But my job doesn't pay much ($47,385 annual salary). If I had a better paying job, I would be more than happy to pay for the water bill as well and give my parents more money so they can enjoy life more. Should I start giving my parents $200 monthly? Would it help? In a way, I feel like I failed my parents. I wish I can give my parents a more comfortable life where they don't have to worry financially.

Question: What should my Brother in law do? I think my sister is having an affair.?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 07:12 AM PDT

My family is being torn apart because of my Sisters suspicious activity. She has been caught in a lie of speaking to an ex-boyfriend. She is now married with (3) children, (1) of whom is with her now husband. He suspected her of cheating because her daughter was using her phone to play around with Snap Chat filters and when she opened her memories, she has some scandalous photos saved yet none of which were ever sent to her husband. We all have a family plan with AT&T. They don't send out the whole bill no more including call logs but he put two and two together and found out she's been messing and calling her ex-highschool bf since Feb. and possibly even had other relations. My Brother in law is devastated and constantly watching her every move now. Yet, she still messages the other guy, even when she said she told him to stop trying to talk to her. This is tearing the whole family apart... what should he do, we do? Okay... so my sister has asked me to mind my own business but yesterday when he left (out of the blue) she began talking to me about why he left (and it was because she received a notification on her phone) and she didn't show him what it was. Trust me I want to stay out of it but if they are both telling us their sides of the story...what else are we suppose to do!

Question: My Dad is bothered I do not tell lies. Why would a Dad want his adult son to lie?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 04:21 AM PDT

He is not a politician.

Question: Why do some mothers have overly high expectations of good behavior for their kids?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 04:21 AM PDT

I was with one recently.

Question: If a family member keeps throwing out you’re possessions and you know for sure it’s them what can you do about it?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 04:20 AM PDT

Question: How do I cope with Father's Day next year since I have no Dad?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 04:20 AM PDT

Yesterday and the last 34 years I did not cope. My Dad picked a bimbo with big breasts over my Mom and his two children. I am 37 and saw him last when I was 3 and my sister newborn.

Question: Will the funeral home that is cremating my brother contact the local paper with the obituary?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 03:58 AM PDT

Or is it the responsibility of the family to do this?

Question: Leaving Dad behind and moving to new country.?

Posted: 17 Jun 2019 01:23 AM PDT

My 4 yr. old son sees Dad and grand parents on weekends and they spoil him. He prefers to live with them them than me as a single mom. I want to move to new country with soon to be new husband but I'm afraid my son will miss his dad and Grand parents too much. How will he transition to seeing his dad much less.

Question: My daughter said I shouldn't tell her what to buy me for father's day even though she told me what she wanted for her b-day. fair enough?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 11:01 PM PDT

isn't that a bit unfair? I know she doesn't make a lot of money at her job so i told her to get me a $25 walmart gift card instead of the $40 gift card from publix that i originally wanted. I bought her a $40 grill pan because it's what she said she wanted for her birthday so i feel as though it was only fair that she give me the gift card. I prefer to tell what to get me instead of it being a surprise because last year she bought me a shirt with a crazy slogan on it and it had a picture of a dog going to jail and I didn't like that at all. I told her don't buy me no crazy shirt like that again

Question: Is lasting long in bed a problem?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 10:08 PM PDT

Hello im a guy and whenever i have sex with a girl, i tend to last like 30 minute. And sometimes they told me that it bore them out after a while. What should I do to fix this? I just keep going and going but I cant tend to orgasm.

Question: My mom keeps insulting me, can someone please give me advice?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 09:36 PM PDT

I am 14 and I feel like my mom hates me for some reason. I do ok at school, don't have many friends and mainly just like to read books. When I was younger my mom always used to say things like 'are you trying to make yourself look ugly' etc but now that I am older she keeps telling me I look like a $lut & wh0re :( I don't even dress in revealing clothes. I usually cover myself and never show cleavage or much of my body as I am embarrassed I am a little chubby so I don't know why she says this. When I try and tell her that I am not trying to look like this, she says 'well you don't even have to try and you still look like trash'. I just try and avoid her because I feel too scared to talk to her. She is very beautiful and was always very social before my dad left so I know she probably just wants me to be more popular and stuff, but I can't help being what I am. I am just at a loss and need help please

Question: Do you have young or old grandparents?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 09:30 PM PDT

If so how old are you, and how old are they?

Question: What if I simply do not care about my parents at all?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:33 PM PDT

I do not care if I break their hearts with suicide or not (even though I'm not really suicidal) and I don't care whether they live or die. They are of no importance to me whatsoever and wouldn't lose any sleep over their loss or even the prospect of my own. I'm honestly at a loss as to why people are repulsed by me. And it irritates me to no end. Who cares if someone dies? So what? My point is, I'm happy with my life, I'm okay with it and no one should judge me for what I do. What is the big f!@#ing issue here? I'm honestly just perplexed.

Question: Advice: I'm 22 yet my mom still makes me go with her to visit my aunt's 4 demon children.?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:32 PM PDT

If I say no, she gets mad at me for days. Am I bad for saying no? It's not like a 1 hour visit either. When we go, it's all day.

Question: My aunt revealed today she has only spoken to my other aunt, her sister, two or three times in the last 5-10 years. How do I correct her?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:32 PM PDT

I know this is not true unless she meant fun visits in which case she is right. The two sisters truly hate each other. They don't just dislike each other but they have hate for each other.

Question: Are family reunions usually several hundred people or even 100 people or is it usually about only 30 or 40?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:29 PM PDT

Question: Why do all men love their sons more than they love their daughters?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:12 PM PDT

Question: Family troubles. Any advice?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:10 PM PDT

My mother was partially disinherited by her mother because of some money that my dad borrowed 40 years ago but never paid it all back. My dad died a few weeks after my grandmother died, and he left my mother a ton of debt and a broken down house. My mother told her sisters that she blames her drug-dealing alcoholic narcissistic brother for pushing her mother to disinherit her, and now all of her sisters are taking his side because he's really good at making people feel sorry for him, and because he gives them thousands of dollars of free meat and cheap drugs. Now they won't even speak to my mother anymore. They were sending my mother prayer requests for him because one day they all got together to see my cousin's new baby (my mother wasn't even invited) and he was sobbing about how depressed and suicidal he was because of what my mom said and because the neighbor's kids who used to clean his house can't anymore because he was caught giving them alcohol. I just saw the kids over there again a few days ago because the poor baby got his neighbors to feel sorry for him.

Question: Did you thank your dad today on father's day for being your dad. not with a gift, but a simple thank you.?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 08:00 PM PDT

Question: My mom’s new boyfriend hurts his son but he told me i shouldn’t worry about it. But I feel bad. What can I do?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 07:43 PM PDT

My mom started dating him like 2 months ago and he's actually really nice to me. He has two kids and the younger one who's 11 is totally fine. I've kind of become friends with the older one who's 15 and he's really sweet, so I don't really get why his dad is so mean to him. He always has bruises and weird marks and he said they were from school at first but then he told me it was his dad, but I shouldn't tell anyone because he'll get in big trouble. I didn't mind not telling anyone because that's his choice, but then last night they were all over at our house and me and him were in my room messing around with makeup or whatever and his dad came in and just started screaming at him and hitting him. I just feel like I have to do something, but I don't want to get anyone in trouble because my mom is really happy and I don't want to ruin everything. Just, what can I do?

Question: Should I always do everything right and not mess up at all?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 07:29 PM PDT

My husband is always telling me that people are objectifying and fetishizing me just because I look racially ambiguous and have thick, wavy hair, dress fashionably to flatter my hourglass figure, etc. whenever they compliment me and that everyone always hates me no matter what I do or say, even for being multilingual, especially if they are good and right people. I don't know whether to tone it down to be a regular person next door like my husband and everyone suggest that I do or flaunt it. What can I do? Even my sons hate him for this because of his perfectionist, purist attitude that they want to be closer to me more than him. He is always telling me that I am too obvious and not like everyone else like he wants me to be. Same thing with my family who set me up with him and my in-laws. They all think I look too different. @Dze-Everyone wants people to be perfect and not make any mistakes at all. @Pearl-Everyone can make mistakes but I cannot. @Anon-I guess I should be too perfect all the time. @boardingace-My parents were worried about me choosing people that weren't perfect enough so they decided to marry me off to my husband who they think is perfect. @boardingace-By the way, thanks for the comment although my family, in-laws, and husband will accuse you of lying. They do this whenever someone says something nice about me. And whenever someone says something and rude to me, they're being honest.

Question: My mother believes in the supernatural... help?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 07:26 PM PDT

She is scaring me! Whenever she talks about this I feel this sick feeling in my stomach as I pretend to agree. My brother, who is easily influenced by her, is now "in on it" too. They think people who don't believe this are ignorant. If I ask her to help me with my science homework, she starts laughing her *** off and then begs me not to believe these facts. I am concerned. What should I do?

Question: Question regarding my family I Live with?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 06:31 PM PDT

Questions regarding my family situation I moved in with them 3 years ago she has kids also when I first met them they have had a connection with me ever since I am trying to get her to understand that her kids adore me as much as I adore them but we have had some fights regarding them it's like she doesn't want me to be around them but tells me I would never take them away from you her oldest always asks about me she also sent me a text message saying he wants me around how can I make my self understand this situation she is telling me let him come to me to hangout I have always asked him about hanging out and she never had a problem with it before how do I know

Question: I made my dad mad on fathers day cause i was being silly at dinner?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 05:54 PM PDT

Question: Should I speak a ex friend of my narcissistic aunts?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:57 PM PDT

Question: My grandfather yells at me. He is old at age 87. Is this normal?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:56 PM PDT

Question: How can I still have fun when I’m in a low mood and depressive but at a celebration with family and friends?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:54 PM PDT

Question: North Carolinians please answer my question! Are there less kids in North Carolina then in other parts of America?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:51 PM PDT

Why are there not as many young families and young kids with 2 little girls and 1 little boy, or 3 little boys, and 2 little girls, or 2 little boys and 1 little girl in North Carolina as other states have? Are there less families who want to move to North Carolina right now then there are in other parts of the United States, and do we have less people who want to raise their kids here, and do we have less young families who want to move here with young children from other parts of the Country? How do they get an education if Schools here are shutting down?

Question: How can I talk to my parents about this?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:51 PM PDT

Ahh, this is going to be weird, so bare with me. I can, uh, hear my parents have... You get the idea. It's every few months and they don't keep it too much of a secret. They are stand-offish. Once I go to sleep, (I leave my door open and our rooms are next to each other) I can here them close the door and all the whatnot that follows. Whenever I hear it, I have panic attacks and severe uncomfortableness. I just want them to at least not do it when I'm home, I just don't want to make our situation awkward. I drop hints ("Yeah I can here lots of stuff from my room, like dads snoring," type of thing) but I don't know if they get it. Any help? (please don't be mean to me TwT)

Question: So its not ok to hire someone to kidnap people unless they are your children?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:11 PM PDT

im specifically referencing these sketchy "transportation services" intended to move (and make a **** ton of money in the process) these "troubled youth. I can say from experience, having someone knock on your door at 3 AM is not very motivating to stop my drug use, as well as was terrible for my relationship with my family once i found out they spent my college fund on it and the program. to top it off, they blatently lied to me about the program despite the fact i was probably more serene than half the people in the hotel room. they told me they were taking me to a 10 day program, dispite i never actually found out how long my stay would be until after around 11 months. I live in fear every ******* day, and probably will until i am 18 and relapse hard. although you never know...

Question: What can I say to a father to hurt him?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 04:03 PM PDT

He has daughters.

Question: Is it time to kick my son out since he flunked out of college?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 02:47 PM PDT

He wasted thousands of dollars that I worked hard for to party during his freshman year. It's probably time for me to kick him out.

Question: My boyfriend and his siblings are being abused by their parents and no one is helping?

Posted: 16 Jun 2019 02:34 PM PDT

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. He's 18 and I am 19. I have been over to his home multiple times and he's been over to my home even more times than that. He has four siblings, all younger than him. He's from Ghana and as a foreign child, I understand that foreign parenting is very different. But his parents take things to the extreme. I have been present for many incidents that were clearly abusive, like hitting, verbally abusive words (saying they regret carrying them for nine months, blaming them for a terrible life), emotional abuse. They go through their things, threaten to kick them out or have them removed from health insurance or have police arrest them. They are harmless and innocent. Their parents favor the two youngest so the older three get the brunt of the abuse. I try to do what I can with getting the siblings food when they're hungry, take them places when their parents won't drive them. I offer emotional support and it breaks my heart sitting here not knowing if they're okay. My boyfriend has been patient and non-reactive with everything, not saying anything to avoid making matters worse. He's about to go to college this fall, he's got plans to save up for a car and an apartment but he's currently immobile due to a recent ankle surgery. I'm so scared for them. They've had all of their communication devices taken away so I can't check in on them and it hurts not knowing if they're okay or not. What else can I do? What can they do?