Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

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For example she called me an insect last night and I got so offended I texted her a bunch of mean things. I also slept in my own room and not hers. Today my phone isn't charging.

I don't want to live with my mom and brother any more. They don't pick up after themselves, my mom solely relies on me if things need to be cleaned up, and instead of just picking up after themselves so our place is always not too terrible neither of them just can't do it. I have a not so good relationship with my mom, she has always been over controlling (she won't let me put my car in my name since I'm now an adult, is always calling me asking what I'm doing where I'm at, tries to still tell me what I can and can't do, I've had a inept social life because of this), I turned 18 in May. She's insulted and absolutely flipped out on me because I wanted therapy for my depression and she's always taken her anger out on people, I just can't be her friend right now and I feel some time away to figure myself out and to be my own person without her constantly calling me and nagging at me will help me. I want to move out around the time I go to college this fall. I've asked my grandma if she'd take me but she knows how much hell my mom would cause over it, and hasn't given me a forsure answer. I want to be independent, but I only work part time at Target and I don't want to completely give up my life to work just so I can have a place to myself. The best would be to move in with my grandma but I have no idea what my mom will do. If she tries to take my car away (which she's tried to do before), I just don't know what I'll do.

My sis cries over almost anything at all. If a kid at school tells her that a book she's reading is for babies, she'll cry for an hour at home (while already had a meltdown at school). Once, my dad accidentally switched the channel and she cried over it, even tho he switched it back a second later. My parents decided to not allow her from normal fun activities until she's older because of her sensitivity level (no sleepovers, no going to malls alone with friends, no riding the bus alone, and she's NOT getting social media when she turns 13 even though my parents let me and my other siblings have it - she must be atleast 16 or 17). I feel like my sister misses out on so much. My parents don't let her do things that I was allowed to do at her age, and most of her same aged peers are allowed to do. She usually has to wait several years later than most kids to gain a certain privilege. My parents say it's to protect her from emotional harm, since she's already too sensitive. They think she is too vulnerable to bullying, manipulation and harm

For the longest time my parents have been controlling me like a damn sock puppet. They're always like "Do/don't this" and "Do/don't that" and "Say/Don't say these things" and "You have to think our way", etc. They're always demanding, trying to shove their thoughts and beliefs down my throat. They always want to hear "Yes", "Okay", "I'll do It", etc from me and never " No" and "I don't want to". They never let me have my own thoughts or have/do my own actions and decisions. They always want to dictate my entire damn life like a cruel dictator. They're always do damn controlling and demanding. Whenever I want to say, think, or do for myself they always say something like "What kind of action/thought/job is this? do do something normal". They never let me live MY live the way that I want to by MY OWN beliefs, only by their experiences, beliefs, thoughts, ways, etc. They're always so damn controlling and demanding, why? I'm 21 by the way And every time, my mom keeps saying "You're depressed because of this and because of that" when really it's because of my parents and all their yelling, demanding, and controlling.

For the longest time my parents have been controlling me like a damn sock puppet. They're always like "Do/don't this" and "Do/don't that" and "Say/Don't say these things" and "You have to think our way", etc. They're always demanding, trying to shove their thoughts and beliefs down my throat. They always want to hear "Yes", "Okay", "I'll do It", etc from me and never " No" and "I don't want to". They never let me have my own thoughts or have/do my own actions and decisions. They always want to dictate my entire damn life like a cruel dictator. They're always do damn controlling and demanding. Whenever I want to say, think, or do for myself they always say something like "What kind of action/thought/job is this? do do something normal". They never let me live MY live the way that I want to by MY OWN beliefs, only by their experiences, beliefs, thoughts, ways, etc. They're always do damn controlling and demanding, why? I can't move out either because I can't land a normal job past the application stage for some damn reason. I'm 21 by the way And every time, my mom keeps saying "You're depressed because of this and because of that" when really it's because of my parents and all their yelling, demanding, and controlling.

My mom only watches movies with me and we talk a lot. So there is no reason why she should need more time with me. I also knows she trusts me because i never lie or let her down. I wanted to hang with a guy today because im lonely and need a relationship. She of course took several hours for an answer and a lot of pushing. She asked a lot of questions in which i answered the way she wanted me too. She then said no because SHE didn t feel good. I don t get it im so unhappy with friends or relationships. She knows it would make her feel netter if i left for a few hours. I would have a ride. I just don t get it please someone explain why she goes out of her way for no reason just to hurt me and act like im not thankful for her being there. Anytime i tell her some truth or facts she threatens to take my phone away. I also treat my mom with more respect than a lot of my other friends do. Please tell me what I can do to be a teenager instead of a technology and lonely addicted mole rat.

Our son does work. He just started his new job but it's at a burger restaurant. I have discussed the situation with him already about how she should aim for higher than a job than at in and out burger and I told him he should have stayed at the phone job that was paying seven hundred every two weeks but I'm not going to kick him out because of it. My wife is basically forcing him to get a trade or go back to college ( he dropped out of college his first year because he said it wasn't for him. He was attending a community college. I knew college wasn't for him because he never wanted to study and I feel as though he still isn't going to want to study this time around. He admitted to only going the first time around to please my wife. I just feel as though it's a waste of money if he's not passionate about it but my wife places a huge emphasis on everyone having a degree. so far our twenty year old daughter is the only one to have completed college. My wife is now telling me he cannot stay here working at that job and she is even trying to get his paperwork together to go back to school. Any advice? I'm at a loss. I'm trying not to upset my wife too much more as she is still upset about being punched by her niece two weeks ago.. apparently the girl was controlling to my wife and assaulted her..

My moms been really "under the influence" LITERALLY 24/7. She never could take care of her self ever since my dad left. Watts loser. But she's been hitting me with a lot of things lately. AND IM TALKING ABOUT HITTING! LIke she throws books and other things at me when she's mad. Now she's turned to punching me in my arm really hard and saying things like "suck it up your a boy"or "don't be a pussy". Her hits really hurt. I'm not even being a pussy she hits me like a grown man throwing a 30 pound kettlebell at me. I'm 14 and I'm wondering if I can hit her back just for self defense

So during the winter I had a family reunion at the Sagamore hotel and there was not much to do since it was a summer resort so me and my cousins decided to go to the rec center and in the rec center there is a chalk board for kids to draw on and then I drew a cumming penis on the board and I also drew chickens having sex. Then one of my older cousins erased it but then I kept redrawing it each time my cousin erased it. The main reason why I was doing it was because I wanted to see parents and toddlers reactions. My older cousin kept erasing it because he didn't want kids to see it. But it was too late. A few minutes later there was a group of little girls who noticed what I was doing and then they started chattering with each other and pointed their fingers at me. Then a few minutes after that there was a mom and a dad and they noticed the cumming penis on the chalk board and I heard the dad whisper to the mom "is that *** on the board?" , then the dad ran over to the board and erased it. Then I did it one last time before I left the rec center, but this time I did something different, I wrote "deez nuts" on the board, which is my favorite meme. Then there was this little girl who was probably 6 or 7 years old and she knew that the jokes that I was making were inappropriate so she chased after me and tried to wipe chalk on my expensive jacket but luckily I ran into the boys bathroom. I left the rec center after that. I'm 16 years old, just to let you know

This is long I apologize. My brother was here all week still is due to his son before his child moves his child is 4 and he isn't together with the mom anymore. But he's paid stuff we needed which was $400 though some of it was toys for his kid to not just us. My mom wanted to do stuff before his kid left, she always uses him as an excuse I am kind of tired of it though when he's gone it can't be an excuse anymore though that's not really the point she even admitted that she can use him as an excuse without me asking I didn't say anything though it ticked me off, I felt she always used my brother for money a bit and I think he feels the same as she gets mad if she don't get her way a few times he will actually say no. She told me to let her know what I wanted to do so I did she always made a excuse for it, if I truly wanted to though I can ask my brother but I know I actually don't need any of it one thing I wanted was just to go downtown and walk around she used my nephew as an excuse again that it won't be kid friendly I remember him loving it last time I'm sure my brother would have (It's free) lol it's her and not him the last time she told me to let her know I sort of snapped and said I did but no meaning she only thinks of herself, she asked like what in a snappy tone I didn't say anything because I know she knows she just acts like a child. She finally stopped telling me so she knew what my point was. Why is she like this?

My parents still physically discipline me and it got to the point where I told my dad if he touched me, I'll defend myself. I wouldn't do it to my mother because (no offence), she's a fragile woman and I'm 6'5 so I tower above her already short self. Got my genes from my 6 foot dad and I had enough of him. I might be 16 but I look and act like a 20 year old. Besides 16 is old enough to not be touched. I'm not a bad a kid at all either. Pretty average.

i have a younger brother . he feels i am the favourite here.like when i tell them i was cold at night they we will do something but when he says something they don't listen. i suspect my parents don't pay attention to him much because i am older .so he hits me. says bad words. (i don't get hurt). well i enjoy somehow when they say i am in charge and i can order him around but i don't cuz i don't have time for. why my parents automaticaly pay more attention to me than him dear me . i feel bad for my bro i worry that he will keep anger and hate inside.he must be happy instead.

I'm done with my boring, dull, depressing life. I want to just die. It's torture. I'm not allowed to go anywhere because I'm a girl. And apparently, girls have to be oppressed and stay at home all day long. I'm literally starting to play video games because I stay the entire day at my house. And, plus, it's not even a house it's just a one floor small thing, so, woo hoo, even more depressing! I just stay at home all day cause my mom thinks some random guy is gonna kidnap me in the MIDST OF A FREAKIN CITY. And to be candid, I'd rather face the risk of getting rapped every single day of my life if it meant I could have an adventure or just venture out of my house. It's been two years like this. And, I know what's good and bad for me, I'm a responsible kid, I don't get it. Especially since I'm a Muslim, I'm not going anywhere outta the house until my mom dies. I'm serious. I had all these plans when I was little to explore or to study abroad and it all just got crushed when I realized today my mom couldn't trust me to ride the train with a group of my friends that I've know for three years. I'm depressed and I'm not going to live the rest of my freakin life like this. Help?

I am a first generation American. My mom only came to the states because of my Dad. I don't believe they were ever in love. My sister and her got into a physical altercation because my mom made her miserable. My Dad verbally abused her for years. I always feel like it's my fault because I didn't want a broken home when I was younger. They finally separated years later and everytime I just wanted to live life she would always tell me to 'act my age' when I was a teenager. She always made fun of me saying I looked 16 and would laugh at my mental health when I told her she's being toxic. I told her she doesn't support me emotionally and she just doesn't care at all. She's would always compare me to other girls and I just couldn't feel like myself. I love traveling, going out, and just working hard. None of that was enough for her. Now I'm at the point where I just want to give up because my mental health is effecting work and my social life and she could care less.

It always takes me an hour to get ready in the morning (shower, get dressed, dry my hair, eat breakfast, etc.) and my mom is always upset that she has to get up earlier than (at like 5:30 am) me so she can get ready and we can both be out the door by 7:15-ish. She's all "I can take a shower and eat breakfast and be ready in 20-30 minutes! Why does it take you so long?!" And I told her it's because I'm really slow in the mornings and just can't move fast. And she told me I need to think that I'm not the only one in the house who has to get ready in the morning. So, I suggested to her that if getting ready in the morning is such a hassle for the both of us, maybe she should shower at night instead. And she got SO pissed at me and went "This is MY life! I can do whatever the hell I want!" Is that bad? Is it really that bad that I take an hour to get ready in the morning, forcing my mom to get up at 5:30 am so she can get ready too?

My son is 17 yo. For the past 1 1/2 yr he has become more and more defiant towards me by talking back, lying and failing grades not to mention not wanting to go to CHURCH. And questioning our faith. He even thought he could drop out and be home school. He stopped doing extra curricular activities. I went from being understanding and compromising to having to put my foot down and drawing the line. My son grew to 6'2" by 16. I've been the only one who set rules and guidelines while his father just sat there and watched. He comes from a background of being disrespectful to his parents and doing whatever he wanted. My ex also has extensive criminal record and time spent behind bars several times. We have been divorced since 2010 due to him trying to have sex with my daughter who he helped raised since 2001to 2009. His father makes more money than me and buys him anything he wants. One night when I told him to do something as usual he ignored me when I confronted him he blew me off. As I started to get in his face about talking back he pushed me & things got physical. His father was there and instead of supporting me he turned against me and attacked me as well. They both cussed me and threatened me. I had bruises and a fractured finger. I'm a mother of 4. 2 adult children and one 11 yo. I have never experienced this in my life. I just can't believe this has happen. It's been 3 months since I've talked to my son or his father because I cant believe it.

Her children are extremely immature for their ages and need more adult supervision. The neighbour seems to want other people to be responsible for her kids. She had CPS take them away once (a few years ago) but they've been back living with her since. Well, she expects me to babysit them and make sure they don't do anything dumb while outside. Other people can help but it's ultimately her job to be a parent. The mom admitted that she has intergenerational trauma (to specify; this family is Native/Aboriginal and here in Canada, their ancestors were forced to send their kids to boarding schools and assimilate with the rest of the population. Most of them were abused, which lead to generations of disturbed traumatized kids). Whatever the problem is, I suggested that the mother get help but she isn't getting the message. It is frustrating me that she finds one excuse or another, and doesn't even appear to try.

My son went to sleep around 7:30 this evening. About 45 minutes ago he woke up and started calling for me, so naturally I ran upstairs to check on him. But as soon as I stepped into the room he started screaming and crying. I've tried everything I can think of, talking calmly to him, rubbing his back, singing, etc. But he just keeps getting louder and louder! What do I do!!!

I want to call and see them but they live alone and my parents will say it is intrusive. The trip will be wrecked if I know my cousins live in this town and we don't see them.

She's so ugly, you could push her face into cookie dough and make animal crackers. She quotes the Bible quotes every time you turn around. And she calls me "heathen" and "fish-eyed fool". She's always coming over to see my son. How do I keep her away?

Many women become fat after having multiple kids.

My brother is 34 and hes on disability for his speech. He's always in his bedroom and doesnt have any social media at all, and he never wants to go to family gatherings or reunions. Its like he just lives under a rock and he doesn't care...why is he like that? Im sad cause he never even celebrates Christmas anymore and he used to love it.

They want you to move out, but they also hinder you move out? You don't have the resources to move out but any attempt towards a way to move out they sabotage and hinder you? I don't drive or have a car...so thats difficult trying to do anything and also them trying to hinder and sabotage any way they can...they also don't like you, so why hinder?

Today I received a phone call and got some good news. I won two tickets to Lagoon (an amusement park) and I was excited, obviously. I asked aloud who I should take with me, and my mother says "Well, why don t you give them to your brother for his birthday because he helps out so much,and he and a friend can go." Now let me add some context, I recently returned from a trip to Disney World which I had won through a school prepared speaking competition, and I figured that it was only fair that he should be able to go do something fun too. I picked the tickets up this afternoon and bought a birthday card and everything, but despite myself, and despite my good fortune of being able to go to Disney World, I am a little jealous. I already told my mother that I would give my brother the tickets, and I still am planning on doing so, but I can t help but feel that my mother wants me to do this as a way to repay my brother for all of the money he gives her, and all of the things he does around the house. I do feel like he deserves to go do fun things too, but I d like some insight on the situation. I also have a little sister who would enjoy a ticket just as much, but my mother automatically defaulted to my brother. Am I overreacting? I would just like some insight and opinions on the situation from an outside perspective. Thanks!

She is pure evil.

My mom and stepdad are quite toxic. I'm 25 and I had left suddenly because of this and before I did, they threatened to kill my partner. They always said I owed them since they've helped me even though I helped my fair share. My stepdad wasn't and still isn't working so I was helping pay rent and the bills. Also, driving them everywhere whenever they asked even when I was exhausted. I've rented a room since an apt is a bit much for me. I have that along with my car, phone and food bills. I'm also trying to pay off my credit card so I'm not left with much. The only time she really contacts me is for money. I gave her 500 to return a leased phone that I used to use before she started to block my services. She now wants rent money. My name is still in the process of being removed since it was a new lease when we had signed so itll be another month. I gave her all I had for the phone and asked if my stepdad got a job yet and that I thought he would have one by now. (Its been past 6 months and to them finding a job was easy because of their background). She responded with a yes or no would have sufficed and I shouldn't judge someone unless I've walked in their shoes. They have judged me plenty concerning work since I went to college for biology and how easy it all is to get in work. I'm not sure how to respond to her. I can't afford to help her much and with the ways she comes out at me when I tell her no makes me not want to.

My cousin and I have always been very close. We practically grew up together. At some point, I'm not sure when, we started making out and nearly having sex when we were together. We frequently had sleepovers at each other's house, and being so young, we slept in the same bed at night. When all the adults were asleep, we made make out, use tongues, and she would even let me lick her boobs. Eventually this stopped, but again, I'm not sure exactly why. I'm pretty sure I forgot about this until a couple years ago, when I started seeing my cousin as attractive again. I still want to know if she remembers what we used to do, and even if we could do it again, now that she is sexier then ever. I wrote this question because I had a dream last night that she saw me naked and we had sex. What should I do?

I was over my friend's house for a sleepover and we were watching a bunch of crime television shows and in one show it said that most criminals are usually the people you least expect, so we messed around online and decided to see if people we knew had any criminal record. I searched up my dad and found out that he was charged with two misdemeanors, sexual assault, and battery. It's been three weeks and I haven't been abled to look at him. Then I started thinking about all the peculiar behavior from him from when I was 5 to now(16). For instance he recorded me and my older sister in the bathtub my sister was 7, I was 5. My dad is very affectionate, but I can recall a time in 6th grade where he tried kissing me as we were in the parking garage and my mom wasn't around, so I ran away from him. There's also been moments where he slaps my butt, but he does that to my brothers too so I didn't think anything of it. Lastly there was a time when I was 13 I forgot my towel so I ran up to my room thinking no one was home, then I find my dad in my room going through my dresser. I was standing there naked and instead of covering his eyes or leaving he just stood there for 15 seconds before leaving, he did the same with my sister when she was 15. He just stood there..it was creepy. I just don't know what to do, I need advise.