My boyfriend's (dating for 8 months) parents are divorced and I've been to his mom's house multiple times and I always bring something for her- wine, cookies, flowers, etc. But I'm going to my boyfriends stepmothers grandparents beach house for the weekend and I'm confused with what to bring. I've never been to his dad's house but I know, him and his wife only drink hard alcohol and don't like desserts. What would be something to bring the father/step mom? And do you think I should bring something to the grandparents for having all of us too? Thanks!

My niece and I are 8 years apart. 28 and 20 When I first met her we didn't exactly get along.. My niece by marriage she was 12 then. Now we cuddle (usually laying on each others lap or shoulders. Playing with each others hair or giving back massages. Sitting on each others lap. I think it's got to do with personality, our age and we think alike. Too make it more crazy we're both perverted her more than I. 😆 We just connect. Also we're both affectionate people. I tried connecting with my other Nieces and Nephews giving hugs playing the Xbox together with my teen Nephews and playing sports, but it's not the same because they like hanging out with their Uncles. They work on cars together which I don't do. Is it weird to feel connected to her that way?

This is the second time this happened and its really annoying. My mom made rice and other vegtables for lunch and I don't like it this time because she added a vegetable that looks like rice and I said I didn't like it so I said can I eat something else and she said no and told me to go upstairs. Last time I couldn't eat anything until I ate what I didn't like and I told her that's unfair and that I shouldn't be punished by not eating anything because I didn't like her cooking. What should I do because whenever I try to talk to her she is always mean and is in an angry mood 24/7?

I am 21F and I currently live with my mother and brother. My brother (age 30) is a drug addict, an alcoholic, does crack cocaine, has aggressive behavior & gives me constant anxiety. Anytime he's home my guard is up out of fear that he's going to yell at me about something. I've been dealing with this since age 13. And now I have gotten anger issues as well. My mom kicked him out when we moved but I felt bad for him (and I never should've) I didn't want to have a homeless brother out on the street so I convinced her in letting him stay til he gets his life together. I didn't think he would still be here, 7 years later. He works now but doesn't pay any bills except for his phone. Sleeps on the floor in my moms room, eats all our food & expects us to do all the chores while he lays in bed, parties every weekend & eats all our food. Anytime we talk to him and try to motivate him he throws a tantrum and tells us to leave him alone. He tries to get on my moms sweet side so she doesn't kick him out. He's convinced her into thinking I'm the problem since now that I have anger issues as well. Sometimes I think he's jealous that I'm younger & I have my life together compare different to him. My mom feels bad for him too. What can I do about this? I think he does heroin he's said he's tried it once. He is psychotic and it's unhealthy to be around him. I feel it's not safe him being here. If I didn't live here he would be inviting his drug addict friends over like he always used to.

Short story, one of my best friends' mom passed away, and a little over two years ago my father passed away. Him and I had a really long, deep conversation about losing a parent (I was 18 when my dad passed and hes 25) ever since Ive been really thinking about and getting pained about my dads death.. is that normal?

So, most of my family has been abusive and drug/ alcohol addiction and it took its toll on the relationship I have with them. I moved away years ago, and I haven't seen them in years. Today out of the blue, my cousin sends me a fb message asking me where I've been and why I haven't been back home in years. I don't want to discuss this stuff on FB, but I am sure she is going to pester me for answers.

He was not mad or anything, he just did it as he walked past me like an older brother would do to bully. He is the same person who doesn't even talk to one of his 3 kids.

I take opioids for broken hip pain as prescribed by the doctor, she told me I was an addict, I told her to get off my case, she said okay, goodbye forever. Now she won't even answer my emails.

I have a 1 year old and me and her dad is no longer together. He has a girlfriend and me and her don't get along at all... Yesterday I was talking to my baby father mother and she was telling me how stand off-ish the girl is with my daughter and that she doesn't interact with my daughter at all..She always tutting her nose up or have a attitude when my daughter not around...She said one day they were going to the movies and the car was packed my son was the youngest in the car (1) so my son father told one of the older kids to hold her son (3) in his lap while my son get in the car seat. She made a big deal about that begin her son car seat etc..so my son and his father stayed home..I really don't feel safe with my son begin around her especially if my son father isn't around..his mom also said she would take her 2 kids places and leave his 2 kids at home... Am I overreacting or what should I do? Random facts Her, her 2 kids, as well as his mom stays with him. His other 2 kids (not my son) stays with him

I've always struggled with weight and eating, because simply if I can't eat 3 meals, I feel sick and way too full. It's not unhealthy, it just means that I'm fine with one meal and snacks. But my sister- and other family, really,- can't grasp this no matter how much I explain it to them. They talk about me when I'm not there, and I'm not close to my mother or my sister and I never have been, so I can't just talk to them really. It's like I can't do anything for myself without them fussing about it.. what do I do? (This was mostly a rant now I read it.. eheh?)

She is a cruel and despicable human being. Only Hitler was worse than her.

My sister recently got married and lives far away from me with her husband and kid. Her husband (he's 30) is nice to my family etc and he works two jobs, one after the other. Half of the day in a restaurant and at night as an Uber driver. The thing is everytime I go to their place he always taunts me about my job, I work part time because of my university studies as it's flexible with my timetable. Literally every single time we meet he would joke if I'm actually going to my job or if I work hard or should he get people to investigate if I'm doing my job. Then he would talk about how he works so hard day and night and it belittles me in a way. He rarely knows me and my struggles and will always brag on about how much he does. After I finish school I will work full time however I don't understand why this man is obsessed about my employment position. He called my little brother jobless once because he was still looking for a new job. I don't want to upset my sister as she says he's joking but he does this every single time. How do I confront him?

My niece and I are 8 years apart. 28 and 20 When I first met her we didn't exactly get along.. My niece by marriage she was 12 then. Now we cuddle (usually laying on each others lap or shoulders. Playing with each others hair or giving back massages. Sitting on each others lap. I think it's got to do with personality, our age and we think alike. Too make it more crazy we're both perverted her more than I. 😆 We just connect. Also we're both affectionate people. I tried connecting with my other Nieces and Nephews giving hugs playing the Xbox together with my teen Nephews and playing sports, but it's not the same because they like hanging out with their Uncles. They work on cars together which I don't do. Is it weird to feel connected to her that way?

I'm 17 and my younger sister is 13 (half sister) , we hang out and she stays the night too , I bought us bts tickets and we went to Chicago to the concert , we go to the movies sometimes and I'll buy her things like posters or pay for her food ; my grandma thinks it's weird and that I'm too old to be hanging out with someone thirteenth . In ur opinion am I too old to hang out with her ? My older sister is 21 and that's the same age gap , she buys me stuff and we hang out too but my grandma doesn't say anything about us hanging out ?

So this summer, I have two tennis tournaments out of the country and I will probably be back on the 19th of July. I want to go to Florida where my coach is letting me train there for 6 weeks free only have to pay for staying in their house and of course the flight. When I'm in the US I play tournaments there which get my ranking up which I need for college. My parents have let me stay with this coach before they know them and trust them. However, my parents want to go to Romania with my other coach and I really don't want to. I don't want to go there with that coach I don't enjoy it. Do you think that if I finish all my school work and do well in the tournaments they would let me go? Or am I just wasting my time? They also let my sister go to Germany to see a boy for 5 days so why can't they let me go to Florida to train and get my ranking up when the coach is giving it to me for free? Please help I don't know what to do whether I should just suck it up and go or try asking! Thank you

If I have a disability then why is it something to be mad at me for? Should I get mad at them when they get diabetes and cancer or Yell at them when they die of old age?

My 25 year old son told me last night he was gay his older brother came out a few years ago he's married to his best friend. I'm worried about my youngest son he's 9 he'll be 10 in December I'm worried for him that he'll end up gay like his older brothers. With my 32 year old I wasn't surprised when he told me but my 25 year old really shocked me I didn't expect him to be gay. I don't know how I'll react if my 9 year old will tell me when he's older. Should I be worried for him ?

My parents are angry at my sister thinking she had friends over smoking pot and then ended up in her pocket, but I know it was my brother who was trying to get her back for throwing a party. I am 26 but my siblings are 16 (twins). They act like they're four sometimes.

My husband's family have a very tight relationship for the most part. Him and one of his sisters text all the time. This past week my husband's truck wouldn't start so it's now in the shop. He's been worried about how he was going to get to work this week. Normally his mom would let him use her car but she's got a few doctor's appointments this week with her and my father-in-law so she will need her car today and tomorrow. When my husband's dad health declined a few years ago he stopped driving and gave his truck to his daughter, my husband's sister. She keeps it parked at their parent's house and rotates between her own car and the truck every couple of weeks. My husband sent his sister a text Sat morning asking if she was going to be driving the truck this week and switching out with her car. And if no could he borrow it while his was in the shop. It's now Mon and she's not replied yet. The issue is this. My husband is always doing something for his sister. A few months ago she wanted the shelves in two of her closets reinforced and he spent a while day working on it for her. About a month ago the check engine light in her car came on so he took his scan tool to her house and diagnosed it for her. The truck the dad gave her needs some body work so when she got an estimate on it she texted it to my husband to get his take on it to see if it was fair. Not once has he ever not replied or told her no he couldn't do anything for her. He's bummed that his truck is in the shop but now all weekend he was worried about how he was going to get to work this week. Again, this is a truck that will sit parked at their parent's house for a few weeks until she switched it out with her own car. Luckily, his mom made other arrangements for her doctor's appointments this week and let him borrow her car but he still hasn't heard from his sister. Did she really ghost him? I'm not saying she should or has to let him borrow the truck but every time you turn around he's doing something for her. Did she ghost him and how do I not get mad about the situation?

Lately I have been realizing that I haven t had a real celebration for myself in years. When I graduated middle school me and my mom went out to eat, birthdays go out and eat just me and her. When my cousins do one little thing like her B s and C s it s like wow we have to celebrate, and I get straight A s. And when I m at a family reunion only like two people even say hi. I know exactly why I m being forgotten, it s because my mom and I live like 4 hours away. And what makes me scared is my cousin and I graduate high school the same year, and I go to a high school with like over a thousand students and who s graduation do you think everyone is going to go to the one they have to travel for hours or the one that they don t even have to drive for 30mins. Just help

and all she achieves is making me angry.She wakes me up in the morning to go to University.She says dont find a job just study.But I have no money for a social life.She destroyed me life

I am afraid she will give me grief for going because the drive is so long and the reception will be so crowded.

I want to surprise him with his family and friends I need his moms help with organizing his family

I feel extremely angry and want to throw stuff I don't feel like doing anything now I used to be allowed to smoke in my balcony with my mom's permission but now only my younger brother does, and it makes me angry every day And when someone tells me that I should stop smoking I just get even more depressed, like seriously it is so hard for me not to feel frustrated. All I ever want to do Is just take one hit from a pipe, and then I will be good But my mom always makes false assumptions. I live in California and I'm about to turn 23 years old. And I still am not even allowed to carry my own I.D. which adds to the frustration. I smoke bud because it makes being outside better.

A door onto the Garden is opened for the unbeliever and he is told to look at what his place would have been in the Garden if he had obeyed Allah. Then it is locked and another door is opened and he is told to look at his place in the Fire. It stays open and the blast of hot air from it continues to reach him until the Day of Rising. Then the earth presses in on him and he is crushed to the point that his ribs split apart. Then various forms of punishment rain down on him according to the type of wrong actions he committed. When one of you dies his {future} seat is displayed before him morning and evening: should he be of the people of Heaven, then it is situated among them, while should he be of the people of Hell, then it is situated among them. And he will be told, "This is your seat until you are resurrected to meet Him on the Day of Arising". lt is not difficult to see what states of torment and bliss would arise merely from seeing one's seat. Allah in His words the Quran told us that pharaoh " The ruler of Egypt during the perioud of the prophet Moses" and his people are being tortured in their graves by seeing their "future" seats in fire, morning and evening . ( 45 ) So Allah protected him from the evils they plotted, and the people of Pharaoh were enveloped by the worst of punishment - ( 46 ) The Fire, they are exposed to it morning and evening. And the Day the Hour appears [it will be said], "Make the people of Pharaoh enter the severest punishment."

I was born and raised in a house with two strongly Republican parents, who raised me to engage in their beliefs and agree with them. And I never cared much about politics, so I just agreed with everything they were saying. That is until this past year, when I started realizing I don't think I agree with everything they believe in. I started doing theatre and meeting all sorts of people who have strong democratic beliefs and hearing their sides, and I'm now leaning to their beliefs instead of my parents, but I feel like I can't talk to literally anyone about this, because I don't want to anger my parents or make my friends hate my parents or me for having them as parents. What do I do?

Hi. I'm a 16 y/o girl and I've recently have run into a dilemma. During school, I was an avid field athlete, but now that it's summer I asked my dad if I could go on a week-long athletic camp to help me prepare for sport next year. My dad agreed to let me go. I've been to this specific coach before so it's not like these are just random people. The camp costs $700. Anyway, I've also been bugging my parents for a new phone. The one I'm using right now is very old and is no use when I want to contact my parents without WiFi. The phone costs $400. My family is middle-class, not super rich. My father said I could get the new phone but only if my mother agrees. She says I can get the phone if I don't attend the summer camp. I understand her reasoning - it's very expensive to ask for both. My problem is that I don't know what to ask for. Should I ask for nothing? If I attend the summer camp and don't get a phone, I'll have to manage with my bad one until next year or Christmas - if I'm lucky. But is my athletic camp more important than a new cellphone? The camp is very expensive but the coach is very good and I could learn a lot until school comes back around. Some of you may be thinking, "Just choose the camp. Cellphones aren't worth it" but I already am attending an athletic club/practice 3 times a week (granted, I don't get as much training as I would at the camp.) My friends from school are attending the week long camp and want me to come. What should I do?

I am twenty seven and living in my parents home and they recognize I'm an ADULT and treat me as such. even though I don't have my own apartment they still treat me as though I'm an adult and don't give me curfews, they allow me to entertain guests, don't hound me about going out, they don't critize me etc etc... I'm trying to understand why some people tend to have parents that are emotionally abusive, controlling, and financially abusive. The " I give you a place to stay so you have to do whatever I want" mentality is financially abusive. I will never force my kids to become a robot to my demands in exchange for a roof over their heads or money.. insanity. I believe in allowing your children to blossom into their own person and I'm glad my parents weren't massively controlling and manipulating, I have a friend who is even older than me, she is thirty and her parents won't even allow her to entertain guests and she has to be home by welve am. I'm like are you thirty going on thirteen. That also handicapps your child. As my kids aren't in jail I'm not about to be acting all crazy and mental on them.

My mom has always been one of those mothers that is really dependent on finding a man.She thinks that without one she'll be miserable.I am 23 and she has always chosen the worse guys.One guy she brought over stole our tv.My mom has a boyfriend and he comes over every night.I have told my mom that I don't know him so I feel uncomfortable that she brings him into the house to sleep every night when I have younger sisters and him being here makes me uncomfortable.She hasn't done anything to help me feel at ease.I told her that him being here everyday makes me feel suffocated and uncomfortable but she just doesn't care and has him sleep over every night anyway.What should I do ? I'm really not happy living here with my mom.

I was telling my mom I'm sad I'm going to be 20. There's many things that make me sad since I didn't get to fulfill/live out my teen yrs. Also what makes me sad is my sisters are 9 & 8, the age gap makes me sad because I'm going to do my thing & their going to do their own, plus my younger sister are closer in age so they'll be closer. My mom said "just be lucky you have sisters you'll have siblings" then she stop cause I said what?! Then she said "you have sisters that".. blah blah & blahhh. Why did she say "you'll have siblings"? Like I'm going to have more siblings? Like my mom is in her mid 40s, cries cause she feels old, hasn't live, etc., but I'm just confused. One of my fears is that because I was homeschooled & my father was never around so basically it was back to back talking care of two babies with my mom I've been my moms left hand for yrs & haven't lived cause that & we only have each other still so if that was to happened that's it for me. She has said why would I have a kid near 50 but then she also tells me how would I be stuck again... but then she says she was told she had her last kid. Don't listen to anyone, don't worry about the future but the other day she said I was you were a boy when she wanted me to pick up something heavy that hurt me so much and she kept saying she was joking and I think I all everything. But she always talks how nice the neighbor across is like a princess with her 3 boys. She laugh once when she heard my nightmare was her pregnant

I'm 32 and going through a custody battle with my ex. I wasn't finally stable so I had an agreement with him that he would keep her for a couple of months while I get set with a career. I have a masters in psychology but finding work had been tough at the time. Our daughter is 5 and I love her. Anyway, my ex basically squashed the agreement and is taking me to court going after full custody he claimed abandonment even though he agreed in the first place . I've been so stressed filling out court documents to argue my case. I almost feel like there's no hope and giving up . When I told my mom this , she said 'you probably don't want your child anyway"! And hung up . I'm super heart broken that she would say something so disgusting . I feel my mom makes me worse with her remarks towards the relationship Between me and my 5 year old daughter . My mother is not understanding. My ex has been trying to date and sleep with me while trying to take me to court to take my child away when I have full custody . I feel terrible and my mom is just negative to me . She said I need to grow up , I'm immature and that my 5 year old child looks at me weird . None of this is true . I have no idea what she's talking about and why she's picking on me during a court battle ?

My mom and I have always had issues, ever since I was a little kid. She is an alcoholic which makes things way worse. It used to be really bad when I was little because she was always drunk. Being the little kid I was, I didn't really understand it so I got upset when she started acting weird and would tell her to stop. As a result, she would lash out and sometimes attack me. I'm 19 year old college student now who stays home during summer. She is getting better about her drinking and no longer lashes out at people or gets super angry. But the situation still causes us to fight with each other. I get super embarrassed to have my boyfriend over because of how strange she acts. She gets angry at me for staying over at his house instead of having him come over to our house. I'd much rather be alone with him or with his family than bring him over. My mom and I are also constantly around each other. She hasn't had a job since before I was born and doesn't have any friends. I live in a small house and we are constantly with each other. Sometimes I just want to be left alone and go to my room but she gets upset that i'm not spending enough time with her. Yet, every time I'm around her we start fighting! The problem is, I still love my mom no matter how much I want to hate her. We recently had a huge fight about her being clingy and how I don't want to be around her. Now doesn't accept apologies from me anymore. Is their anything I can do to fix this mess?

2 Years ago I remember my texted me saying "I'm going to end my life." I did not hesitate to call 911 and text our family group chat. A year ago I remember my mom said she felt her soul was dying. This year, twice, she said she felt like killing herself. The second time was today. I try everything. I say think positive, she has her children (including me) as her support group - however one of my siblings doesn't talk to her, and the other is terrible at communication. The one who is terrible at communication says he will make the effort to see her if she makes the effort to get professional help. The first time this year she made the threat, she said my kind words were nice but it was "too little, too late." I tried to find women's shelters and they won't accept her because she's not homeless. We called for spiritual counselors and saw one in person. I'm trying to move her out of her house because she says it's noisy and a bad community, but anytime I tell her let's go house hunting she's too tired. She's always tired. She doesn't talk to her mom because she and my mom's brothers are "evil." She has no friends. I'm her only support at this point and it's frustrating and tiring. She says shes "useless" and is trying to find the meaning of life and "it all means nothing." Shes "fighting to survive." What is there to do?

Basically, me and my mum have had issues on and off for over a year now, although it hadn't been as bad recently. She typically just makes rude comments about me to my siblings and tells them lies about me, saying I've said this or done that etc. to make them dislike me, aswell as having previously accused me of manipulating my sister into being upset when my mum was away (which I'll explain now). Typically this gets worse when mum starts going out with someone new, as she accuses me of trying to ruin her happiness and control who she's sees etc. Quite frequently, and more often at night, she'll say she's going to the shop quickly to get something (even if it's well after midnight and shops are closed) or she's heading out and will be back 'in a while', but she could be away for up to 7 hours. If I text to ask if she's okay or will be home soon she doesn't respond until she's heading home or not at all, then gets angry with me for ages. She leaves me alone with my siblings all night sometimes and, whilst I'm old enough to be responsible for them, I feel uncomfortable doing it and just wish she would be honest about how long she'll be or where she's going so I could at least gauge roughly how long she could be away. I genuinely worry that something bad has happened, but she won't listen to me if I say this. What can I do???

My mom isn't happy with her life but she denies it, i'm like her best friend and i want to do all i can to make her feel like her life is at least close to amazing. My father doesn't help at all he just makes us not happy and my mom feels like she doesn't have a normal family (like how family's are close and hang out together and laugh and is generally happy)a little bit cause of him. I talked to my mom about this and it broke my heart to see her cry and pretend that it was ok and tried to change the subject. I feel completely helpless and hopeless i honestly don't know what to do i don't have anyone else to talk to about this.

My father is in poor health and is in his late 70s. I've never been crazy about him, and I'm pretty sure that the feeling is mutual: * When I visit my parents once a month, he doesn't spend time around me (but he doesn't with others, either). * My parents are wealthy and I'm doing fine, but he refuses to do ANYTHING financial for me, even easy favors. * The Wall Street Journal reports that fathers prefer well-educated married daughters who share their views but that fathers are often ambivalent about their adult kids. I'm a single well-educated son who shares his views, somewhat, so I'm not likely to be his favorite. He and my brother aren't close, either. He's not close with anyone except my mother. He was a difficult father. However, the Bible tells us to honor our parents, and I want to be doing everything I can to have a good relationship and be a loving son. Any suggestions about specific things to do here? Or is just visiting often and having a neutral relationship, with no conflict (which is our relationship), something to be grateful for? Thanks.

but I have to get away from her. I have 3 younger sisters they never get into any trouble really but recently my mom told me I can not see my boyfriend. my mother goes out and drinks smokes marijuana and cigarettes and sleeps with multiple guys. she does not come home until 5 am on pretty much every single night. our bills are always late but she tells me constantly that she has depression and wants to leave because of me. I do not have a job but according to her my job is watching my sisters. I have tried talking to family members but she has cut all out of my life. she checks my phone and takes my stuff away. I am always getting screamed at or grounded. I am in charge of dishes, laundry, taking care of our animals which we have 5 and etc. I also am supposed to be in charge of my sisters but whenever I take control my mother yells at me. I am homeschooled so it does not help but I just recently got my diploma. she is now trying to force me to live here until I get a job and license and while I understand I need those things she is stressing me out way too much to where I can not focus for the life of me. I have constant breakdowns, a very messed up sleep schedule and right now she has banned me from seeing and speaking to my boyfriend. I am not allowed to have any social media unless it is facebook and she has my passwords and I can not even do something as simple as go to a garage sale because I have to take a picture of every single place I go to. what can I do?

I'm so upset. My dad told me his girlfriend son, and my brother wanted to go to Busch Gardens so I drove an hour to find out they had no idea what I was talking about. My dad wanted to spend time with his girlfriend alone and didn't want me around. I cried and ended up going to the mall with my brother, my dad's girlfriend son wanted to smoke weed the whole day. He lied to me. Do you think I'm being too sensitive about it? Why did he not just tell me what he was doing?

They threatened to kill my partner over an argument that happened last year (he was trying to defend me, they saw this as disrespectful). They assume he's the worst despite me being happy.When I tried to leave, they wanted to stop me. Stepdad called his friends to find him and in order to call them off, I had to apologize to my mom. When I tried to explain I wanted boundaries, they were offended. Even my sex life had to be known. My feelings were never considered and everything I did was judged negatively.They made me feel like I was always wrong and I owed them everything that I could possibly give to aid them(i.e. I drove them everywhere and they got upset over me asking for a break because it's impossible to be tired driving even after working). They made fun of me trying to make diet changes and when I cried. I feel I've lived life according to what they wanted. My stepfather almost forced me to attend the school he went to and I had high expectations to make perfect grades. I didn't feel safe after the threats were made and my stepdad said he had some plan in motion so I would understand there's consequences. Nothing has happened yet though. I don't know if I should cut ties or try again to make them realize they were wrong? They have my email and only my mom has contacted me about money and neither have tried to apologize. My mom has manipulated me before to stay and I think she would try to again. She always pushes her beliefs on me so I doubt talking to her will help.