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My father died a few months ago before starting school. The day before I started school to be exact. He's been cremated since that's what he wanted don't say "Being cremated is bad and you're a worshipper of the devil". But we want to spread his ashes in the ocean on the back of a public boat but I don't know if that's legal. Plus I can't get over his death since it was kinda gross, plus I lost a parent at a young age. I don't know how to get over him help me. How do I get over this? How long will it take?

It's for family dinner things.

So my mom has mental problems and I don't know what to do as I'm just 15 . She's been at 4-5 hospitals but she never changes. After she was discharged, there were some people from the hospital that came to check on her but then they never came again and she never gave me her card. She was diagnosed with schrizophenia, depression , and pyschosis . She's usually the one who cooks but now she says that she's too tired and that she's not a maid and doesn't have to cook for us . She never taught me anything so I can't do anything about it . We never have food in the house , we just eat 1-2 things a day. I'm starting to lose weight even. I have the cold and yesterday I told her that I don't feel well and she said to leave her alone and to not annoy her. I don't even think she's taking her medication cause the symptoms are coming back. My dad , he doesn't know how to do anything. He has money but doesn't realize that he CAN buy food to put in the house. I can't live like this anymore .

I'm 28 years old. I have been financially supporting my dad since I was 18. He used to live in my native coubtrt, lost his job, and because of the economical situation he couldn't find another ( 8 years) . I helped him financially for all those years plus I requested a visa for him so that he could come to the USA. He promised that he would get a job and help me with the expenses here. He came 2 years ago and nothing. He worked for 3 months because I pushed him to. Saved the money and moved out with a woman. Then begged me to come back. I said he had to get a job and then move out. He agreed. He has been in my apartment for 8 months and nothing. At this point I just want him to save money for him. I will eventually marry and I don't want to be carrying my dad everywhere I go. I need to make my life. Something else, what if he get sick who is going to cover the expenses? He just doesn't understand. He thinks that I only care about money. It is not about that. I care about my future and his future. He can't be stuck in a chair for the rest of his life. I need to move on with my family. Every time I say something he starts crying and starts listening to depressing song. Then I feel guilty. What do I do?

I kept asking and just talking to my bestfriend; asking why she never says she loves me as she always shows it but never says it... she texted me this morning "i do, we all love you." Then she put "so there" What do i say back?

So today I walked with my friend in the street and we saw a pack of cigarettes laying on the pavement so we picked it up and saw there were still n a few cigarettes inside and we took it home for some unknown reason and we left it in my room. Then we went for a walk again and when we came back my parents saw the cigarettes and now they think Im smoking what excuse can I use to convince them that I don't smoke

I have this problem... Its been bothering since forever , i live within a family that is so controlling, see the issue is my dad. The only thing he ever cares about is school/study/grades or any of that sort. He mostly critics my grades even though they were above average back in my primary school except for maths which he always kept scolding me about. I think it s pretty normal yes and I know he just wants the best for me I get it! But now I m senior in high school, life wasn t the best for me I suffered from depression anxiety and with my so low self esteem. Nothing is going as planned. And he isn t making it any better, saying I should have better grades and comparing me like : "look at your cousin she had better grades since she was a kid" . She was older than me, basically 2 years older. It makes me feel like ****! But when I defend myself he takes it as if I m being a bad kid not listening to what he says and other stuff. Yesterday I made up my mind to cut and dye my hair, it wasn t an out of the blue decision in fact I thought it through for months now. Mom was like OK its fine but you should tell ur dad, I thought that he could at least respect my personal decisions but no. He said I should pay attention only to school and my studies... Which made me so freaking mad.. I cried the night away. It seriously bothers me I can t focus on nothing anymore Im anxious and depressed enough and for me to hear those words making me feel even more worthless

Okay first of all my dad isn't y'know the dad that hits and abuses and makes me want to call childline or anything like that. I'm pretty sure he thinks im a failure, i have an older sister who is smart and athletic and went to a good college and she is like a perfect child. now i know and i can understand that any parent would be proud but the thing is he only cares about my sister. when we are with our relatives he loves to boast about how amazing she is and whenever he talks about me its always always negative like 'oh he isnt very bright so we're not expecting much from him'. he loves to constantly embarass me and make me feel very insecure and im pretty sure he is the reason why i have a low self esteem. whenever i get a cold or a fever he tells me im weak and im constantly relying on my mum and im lazy and i dont do **** for the family. he never gets angry at me which is smt good but he tells me that he is always dissapointed in me and i never do things right. idk its kinda upsetting when your dad says those things. idk if i can get through

He got arrested last year for child porn. I'm not allowed to have any friends over any more and we might have to move if they build a school within a couple of miles from my house.

Every day, in this order, it goes: "Good morning [my name]" "You want some breakfast [my name]?" "What are we going to do today [my name]?" "You want some coffee [my name]?" "You want to watch a movie [my name]?" ***Later before bedtime*****: "Good night [my name]" It's literally as if my dad is a robot and is programmed to only say certain phrases every day. It gets on my nerves so much. He never says anything different to me. He's only 48 years old, and has a full-time job, talks normally with other people and to other family members, he only talks like a programmed robot to me. WHY? I also never eat breakfast when I first wake up, yet, he continues to ask that every day.

I'm a 13 year old girl. Every night, when I want to sleep, I feel like someone is looking at me in the darkness and when I turn on the lamp, I see no one in the room. I told my mom about this, but she says that it's only my imagination. I swear that I know what I'm saying. There's someone or something in my room.

Let me just start with some history: My paternal grandparents made my mum have 2 abortions, insult her and her parents, and shout at me when I try to defend myself. They fill my dad's ears about my mum and I. They're the far beyond worst grandparents as they don't talk to me now. They have no interest about my life, so in front of my dad they just fake it and my dad feels like I'm the rude one even though sometimes I smile at them just to make him feel better. I love my dad, but now he's cursing, swearing and breaking a vase. I'm really scared. (p.s: for those who think I'm a troll, I'm not - please help me.)

My grandma has pancriatic cancer... I am only 18 years old.. just got out of high school... i cant drive yet, and i have no job.. yet my family wants me to take care of my nan until she passes... I cant cope... its so hard.. What do i do when she dies. When she Does DIE... oh god i am so scared...

Ok so my boyfriend n I were at a New Year's Eve get together with family n while my boyfriend was alone I went n tried to kiss n hug him, he push me away n said I was in the way. I didn't say anything to avoid a argument. On our way home I told him how it hurt my feelings that he push me away he says that he didn't know how to take that. How I'm always mad so he didn't know if I was still mad. I said he was full of **** because we was just having a good time so when did I have a attitude or b upset. I went to church today n I told him how I had a great day. He's attitude towards me was leave me alone . I mean it's New Years why not kiss me n hug me? We're home n he now he wanna kiss me , I declined. Like I feel as tho I shouldn't have to go thru all this with my man I been with for 7 years. I mean seriously when I came home from church he left out for bout 7 hours n then we went to the get together. I'm at the point it's like this relationship is more toxic n draining me more then anything.

So here s my current situation. I m living in my house with my mom, that s it. My two brothers are in college, and my dad left when I was younger. I m also online schooled. My mother hates to drive anywhere, or even get out of the house for that matter (she s always on her computer or watching TV) so I m stuck in our dark, depressing house, 24/7. I m really struggling at this point because I have no friends, no social life, and I m frankly so miserable at this point I m contemplating suicide. No, not just because I don t get out of the house, I am dealing with a lot more that I don t even want to write on here because it ll make me even more upset. Basically I hate life, and I m not gonna have a future, and I m being forced to live a life I don t want to. Help?

I'm 16, he's 27. I don't know how old she is. They aren't dating, just *******, and it irritates me that she's engaged in another state with a kid, and then has a boyfriend here, and then is having sex with my brother. Their business, whatever, it didn't bother me until she came here, to our home. My dad left when i was little. My mom is always at her boyfriends. So basically it's just my brother and i. My brother is a recovering addict so he was never home. He brought this girl over and she's slept here for 9 nights in a row. This irritates me because they have sex in the bathroom, i've had to clean up their needles, and it's so awkward coming out of my room for anything because she's sitting on his lap making out with him. He's 27! He should have his own place by now! He doesn't even have a job. My mom gave us $20 for fast food tonight and they got some but didn't give me any and we're out of food until we get food stamps which is on the 3rd. So instead, i've been sitting in my room skulling cups of vodka, waking up with a hangover, getting high, sleeping, repeat. I hate seeing my brother like this and i hate being uncomfortable in my own home. By the way, i had to spend new years alone because he said it was too dangerous to go out but if i brought my best friend over it might make his "**** buddy" uncomfortable herself. What do i do?! I miss being able to leave my room without feeling weird.

My grand aunt is dying of spine cancer and we're going to go and visit her one last time, before she dies. Should I give her a gift to cheer her up, like a good movie or something? We were never close but I feel sorry for her.

I can't ignore her when she asks me something. I just don't know how she can do it to me. She is just so different, she doesn't understand how much she's hurting me. And I always tell her that she's hurting me but she doesn't seem to care! She says she has little energy and that's why she ignores me. Then I call her an A hole and she gets mad and ignores me more. Advice? What would you do?

Nobody likes her as she is an entitled brat

It is not so much her that I want to see as her kids some of them are my age. I am not allowed to go over alone because her husband is an alcoholic. So before school starts I want to take the gift over tomorrow as she is back from her in-laws. How do I get my dad to take me?

I moved in with my step dad and mom two years ago when I was 18. I've formed a connection with my step dad and I love him. He tells me he refers to me as his son and eveyone he talks to knows of me as his son. I badly want to call him dad but I feel like it will be extremely uncomfortable? Does anyone else have any experience in this situation? Thanks

My daughter lives with me, her dad gets her on the weekends, during holidays and birthdays he will buy her things, not much but he never lets her bring her things home ever since he re married he makes her keep her things at his house so she only gets to use her things he buys her 36 days out of 365 days a year....is he wrong for doing this? My daughter wants to bring her things home and he says no that her things they buy her needs to stay at their house.... Ii don't know I think he's wrong and is just trying to be controlling. I just need to know if he's wrong about this, it always bothers me that he is being so petty when it comes tho stuff like this. She is 16 years old, I could understand when she was younger but he didn't even do that when she was younger, he just started doing this as she got older when he re married a wicked step mother.....my daugter does not like her because she is real controlling and has called my daughter names and correction on the times she goes there, he sees her three weekneds out of every month but she makes up excuses why she doesn't por can't go there. They make her feel bad all the time because she doesn't want to play with her siste when she goes there and if she wants to stay here because of friends etc and wanting to go out on the weeknds with her friends they tell her she is being a bad sister to her 7 year old step sister. She has lost friends because she is not availble on the weekends to go out so now she tells her dad she has grop homework or something so she can stay home. I mean her sister is 7 and when I was 10 and my brother was 5 i didnt want to play with him, there is a big age difference there and she says her sister can be very annoying at times as my brother was to me lol. I think it's all about control wirh him is all.

I just learned some pretty dark secrets about my parents/family and it honestly makes me feel sick that s how bad they are. I m only 14 so I have to live with my parents and I can t move out for a while, so how can I cope? I can t talk to anyone about it, but, I don t know, I just want to know how I can live with it.

i'm 12 my mom doesn't allow me or my younger brother on the internet (safari) but when my sister was 12 she let her do whatever she wanted. so i sneak on the internet. i'm on it all day long i just have to hide like extremely much. go to the bathroom or something but she only lets us go in there for like a minute or she's like "WHAT R U DOING. R U ON UR PHONE" so it's hard. she checkes my phone allllll the time. she doesn't check my siblings tho. don't say "use a passcode" bc she grabs the phone out of my hands andsays "tell me the password" so i mean, i have to tell her!!! i really want to go to this concert but if i tell her she will be like "HOW DO U KNOW WHO THEY R. HAVE U BEEN ON THE INTERNET" and stuff. idk wot to do. my sister knows i sneak on the internet i think. idk. what should i do? if i tell my mom "hey mom, when my sister was my age u let her in the internet, so can i?" she will be like "WHY??? WHAT DO U WANT TO DO???" ughhhhhhhhhhhhh i hate thsi so much. also, i'm scared to talk to my mom about anything. this stresses me SO. MUCH. sometimes she sneaks up on me and catches me and it like"WHY DID U PRESS A BUNCH OF BUTTONS REAL QUICK??? U SCARE ME." she doesn't trust me AT. ALL. my sister can do whatever she wants really. my mom doesn't care. this makes me literally want to die.

Long story. So my mom and dad recently split up, my mother and I and my three other younger siblings had to move in with my grandparents due to financial issues. There are eight people living here now. My grandparents, us, and my god awful uncle. He's almost 50 years old and he's been too pathetic to move out and get a life of his own. Ever since we moved in the internet has slowed down tremendously (due to so many people using it at once) and my uncle loves to sit on his butt all day and play Xbox. And whenever the internet messes up for him or he's doing bad in his game he goes CRAZY. He starts cursing his Xbox out, he punches things, breaks things, and he comes out of his room to give me and my mom and my siblings death stares because he blames us. (Note: he doesn't pay for the internet. My mother and grandpa do) and to top it all off my room is right next to his so all I hear all night is him raging at his video games/the crappy internet and him banging on walls. And I get that it's annoying when you're playing a game and the internet goes out because I play, myself. But how is it that I, as an teenage girl, handle it 20 times better than the 50 year old man-child who I have to live with? And my grandparents won't do anything about it or kick him out because they treat him like a baby. He gets special treatment and my mom and I have to sit here and go through this bs and my grandparents won't do anything about it. WHAT DO I DOOOO? I'm going crazy. I can't stand him.

I am only allowed to go if he goes with me because her husband drinks too much. She has three kids two of them are home from college and I want to go by while they're there. My dad likely does not want to go as he does not get along that great with her husband but how do I talk him into it? We were away at Christmas so I didn't get to see her Christmas Eve.

So my ex added me on social media. I was excited and one thing led to another and we began to flirt/talked about a potential date (i left the ball in her court to contact me when she's free which she never did). She assumed i just wanted to bang but i said no. I then went about my life and must admit i still flirted around while talking to my ex. Why? because my ex dumped me before and as the saying goes "don't put all of your eggs in one basket" because you'll never know if it'll workout or not. In the end my ex and i talked here and there until she confronted me about my flirting behavior towards other women on social media. She threaten to fight/talked smack about these other girls. She then blocked me/erased me on social media. I've tried numerous times to get her back but she's ignored me all times. Moral of the story was my ex even interested? girls out there are getting bea up by there abusive bf and they still go back to him. I flirt a little and i got dumped wtf?...

my mother is about to go through a divorce. i honestly think that is a stupid idea. she accuses my step father of things that arent true. i know this because she would do it to me constantly as a kid. and every time she fights she threatens him with divorce and she even pulled a knife on him once and he had to call the cops. ive been suspecting that she has some sort of mental disorder which leads her to jump to aggression and anger at very little things that most people wouldnt consider an issue. and shes done this with every partner shes ever had. thing here is, that she makes next to squat. my step father made all the money. i believe she makes somewhere around 9 dollars an hour. with no benefits. no paid time off. no health insurance. nada. shes drowning in debt and she cant afford to take care of a child and an apartment big enough to accommodate us all. much less the house we currently live in if she tries to get it. now for a 19 year old straight out of highschool i make half way decent money. almost exactly twice as much plus full benefits full time. however i have school coming up. im about to start my freshman year and thats not exactly a walk in the park in terms of finances. id like to actually be able to save my money. and unlike her id rather not take out a bunch of loans and be over my head in debt before i even finish my degree. not to mention that i just dont want to be responsible for two other people. am i correct to think this way?

Ok so i m 24 still living with my parents I ll move in 2 weeks I told them the news and they were in denial and told me no , You re not I feel like if I move out I would grow I would be more responsible that is going to force me to open my eyes learn how to do things . They told you dont need to move you have everything we pay for everything but I think that s the problem I ll never grow if they do all of that for me I need to fall and learn my mistakes but I could be wrong fanicially i m going I save a couple money and I get paid almost 2x my rent I always been good with money with budgets and savings but there a lot of things I lack off and if I move out since I have rent and bills it would force to be even more good with my money. But then again I could be wrong any advice?

My friends and I are super close, us 2 get a long really great, we have a special bond. She always shows love in her actions, that she does love me but she never tells me. Is it weird if I ask her why she never tells me? Like this "you always show love and that you care about me through your actions but you have never really told me, how come?" Or is it dumb?

The only person you can truly depend upon is yourself. Do I want these words to be true? No. Did I always feel this way? No. I used to have faith in everyone, as a young child. Slowly, as the years passed by and I grew older, though, I centered my trust primarily around my mom. To this day, my mom is still the person I trust most. Though, I do trust myself more than I trust her. This lack of complete trust in my mother occurred precisely during the year of 2015, when I decided to lose some weight (being a tad overweight at the time). However, as i often do, I took my weight loss to the extreme, and lost far too much weight. I was struggling very much. The interesting thing was, though, that my mother didn't support me along the way as you may have assumed. Rather, she made comments that only worsened my condition. These, such as: "I remember when you were nice... before you lost 100 pounds or whatever.." (Even though I was 130 pounds and 5'0 to begin with) and "you're ACTUALLY gonna eat that? I have to see this." and other comments of the type. As I got better and restored much of the lost weight, things had improved, but I had never restored my full faith back in my mother. Even today, in times where i'm feeling down, she doesn't cease to bring me down further (in very few occurrences- yet they happen, which destroys the full trust) She never fails to bring up these times of my struggles, and I very often feel as though I have nobody left to trust except for myself.

So the other day I told my boyfriend I wanted to go home. He had a problem with it. I decided I m going to go home anyways. I got in my car he was standing outside of my car yelling at me while I m sitting down. He s telling me how he is going to slap the **** out of blah blah me so obviously I am scared. I try to shut my door my car doesn t start very quick he said he is going to break my glass if I don t open it. I think you know what better then getting hit. So I start my car and get out of there and he decides to kick my car while I m driving away and leave a huge dent. My question is why does he say I wanted him to go to jail and it s my fault my car got kicked I screamed because I was scared and crying. I feel like he holds me hostage all he says is it s my fault for being to loud. Please tell me your opinion

I have gotten super close with this older lady friend of mine. Were both girls, shes 60 and I am 19. She calls me every day and we talk for hoursss, its fun. We talk about anything and everything, has been a major help to me. She worries about me a lottt she tells me, like a mom. She's helped me with boys too. We've laughed together and have cried. She bought me the sweetest christmas gift.. I know its probably dumb but ai've wondered if she loves me. She always shows it but she has never said it to me and it makes me wonder if she does.. wouod it be dumb if I asked her if she loves me?

i'm 16 years old and I live with my dad. I am a girl, and I have no mother figure. I won't go into detail, but just know it's just us. My dad is a slob, he doesn't know how to pick up after himself, or anything. I really need to clean my kitchen because it's disgusting. I never create the mess, it's always him but I always get stuck cleaning. I'm getting really tired of it, but this literally happens overnight. I cleaned my whole house yesterday, And by the time this morning rolled around it was just as bad as it was before. I don't know how he does it, but I can't really talk to him about it either. He will get upset deny everything. What do I need to do? Anything helps.

She always tells on me even if she was part of it, she bends the truth to get me beat and here's an example, she lets me play on my iPad, and tells me when my mom and dad are home then i put it away but shortly after, she tells on me.

She always tells on me even if she is part of it and I always get beat for it, she also bends the truth to make me look bad.