My sister has a kid she had her when she was 11 she was raped by an older guy she said they had sex she was in love but she didn't know what it was she was just a kid. Our older brother who was then 13 took her to a bar with him he's messed up he said he used a fake ID. Then he took our 10 year old sister with him. The father of her daughter was playing there in a band she met him there she said she went into his limo and had sex with him. She said he forced her into it. He was a leader of a religious cult he begged her to go back home with him but she didn't want to. He got her pregnant she had his kid she said when she turned 16 she was gonna move in with him and married him. Also he was already married and had 2 kids but he said he had lots of wives and kids in his cult. He was also messed up. He died a year after his daughter was born yet she was born a boy but last year she came out as a trans female. He died in his house when was shot to death then they set the house on fire. He only saw his daughter one time when she was born. She doesn't remember him. Our parents were both very disappointed in her. One reason why our older step brother doesn't live with us anymore. She's afraid that when she dies he won't be in heaven to see her. When she was a teen she felt suicidal she wanted to die so she can see her dad. Do you think our brother is responsible for this ? Should we blame him for it for not watching my sister closely and taking her to a bar ?

So I'm homee ducated 13 year old girl and I live with my grandparents during the week.I have to sleep in the same room as my grandmother who gives me no privacy at all (seriously, a prison would have more privacy). I'm not allowed to choose my own clothes and I'm forced to let my gran wash my hair which is pretty uncomfortable.They don't let me eat cheese, any junk food, anything with sugar in it mainly because they say I behave badly which I don't."We also have my uncle with autism in the house who insults me and yells all the time saying stuff like "Your mums a wh*re" And theyre always saying that I'm a failure in life and that I'm dumb and stupid. And they tease me about my weight (I'm 7.5 feet and 8 stone) which really lowers my self worth (I vomit sometimes..). I also don't have many friends as they don't let me out of their sight and they keep me indoorsThey always are threatening to send me to boarding school but whenever I say I want to go they forbid me.They always say that I am a guest in this house (I've been there since I was two) and my room actually isn't my room as it is their house.They always pressurize me and say I'm behind kids my age (I'm not, I'm doing GCSE Science, French, Italian and Spanish already).They shout at me all the time and I never do anything right.They say that no one will ever want to be me friend because I'm an ungrateful brat.Yes, I have spoken to them and my mum (no dad, hes a scumbag but I have a great stepdad)but they don't listen.

It is an older cousin who used to babysit me as a kid, 12 years older. She is actually my Mom's generation but much younger then my Mom. What she is doing is wrong no doubt. My parents and siblings wish I would get involved and confront her for her cheating but I feel bad doing that as it would just result in rejection. I don't plan to host her and her lover anytime soon as the guy is obviously a snake to do this with someone married. However, am I okay to just stay out of it or do I have a moral duty as family to shame her for doing this since it is immoral?

I as her father am making her get an abortion, because I don't want to take care of another baby. She won't talk to me now. How do I get her to stop being anti social?

Her mother thinks kids should serve their parents and make their parents feel good. I disagree and think it is the other way around. However, her mother is family and I don't want to displease her. This daughter is the black sheep cause she was a normal teen in a family with perfect siblings whereas she was normal teen and did normal mistakes (lied about where she was going, sassed. drank too much once, etc....). So would my aunt and uncle be mad if I was nice to her? Even my grandfather has said he doesn't think her mother, his daughter, loves her daughter though he thinks the father does. The daughter is no saint but I feel she is family and is not the devil my aunt thinks she is. The other three kids are estranged from the sister also and hate her for their mother though I think the son occasionally emails the estranged sister at birthday and Christmas. Both sisters hate her as much as the mother does. What do I do?

People often question single parenting when a child runs wild, getting away with doing things that are inappropriate. There's plenty of two parent homes that don't raise them properly. But does having only one parent increase the chances of kids who behave badly?

This was his only F up in the marriage and word broke in December. My Mom has moved out but says it is temporary and says my Dad just needs the punishment, similar to my sister who went to rehab for opioid drug use. Yet, ever since December she is lying about members of his family as a means of getting him back. In her defense my Dad lies also to her and even had me lie once or twice about my problem older sister who is 22 (I am 15). It hurts that I am learning both my parents are LIARS. I liked them and thought they were the best parents and I had the most normal family. Now I see Dad lies to Mom and Mom slanders my loved ones on my Dad's side. Multiple people have confirmed that both parents are lying. My Dad at least apologized and told us the taxes were 100 percent his wrongdoing and not our mother. My mother has no remorse and is bad right now. Should my Mom divorce over tax lies? Should my Dad divorce over my Mom lying about our extended family? I don't want them to divorce and thought only violence and adultery were divorce grounds in good families. The woman my Mom uses as an account is also an evil liar.

My sister has a son who is 24 he'll be 25 in March. She's only 36 she was 10 when she had him she was raped by a guy even though she thought he loved her she was a kid she didn't really know what love was. She called the guy her boyfriend he was maybe late 20's or early 30's I don't know how or where she met him I don't wanna know I'm glad he's dead after what he did to her. He died in a fire when his son was only a year old he hardly ever got to see him he lived far away also he was already married at the time and had 2 other kids. This guy was really messed up even though he seemed like a nice guy. He was also a member of a cult I hope he's in hell for what he done. My nephew is really upset he wishes he could have seen his dad more or he wishes he would have gone to live with him. He said he wants to die so he can see him I know he's not in heaven. Especially after what he did to my sister. My sister even went to his funeral she was still a kid she said she cried like a baby at his funeral. Even years later she still cries for him. She even has dreams about him she said that she was planning to move out there with him when she was 16 they were gonna get married. She said its not fair this had to happen to him or why he did this. She even believes he's in heaven i don't believe he is. How can I help them ?

My family is very toxic and I want to move back to my home state. I will particularly miss my dad he's almost 60 and single and live alone. I'm just not happy here and all my life I've been helping my dad by cooking and little things and the rest of my family sees me as a Bank and is just always bringing me down. I want to grow and be on my own any advice? I don't live with my parents btw

father after she left home and got married. As normal with most divorces there are victims and villians . I left so I am the villain. He played victim. No.. did not leave for another man/woman or nobody. I needed to re-find who I was. Meantime... lies were told and apparently believable lies. B/C she doesn't, wont, refuses me in her life. 8 years I have been trying to at least talk to her. I don't care what was said.. all I want is the relationship I thought I once had with her. Its my birthday and I sit and wait for any word from her and I get nothing. I send her b/d gifts/cards, xmas gifts/cards and I get nothing.. not even a thank you. I am past hurt. I am past anger at the x. I just want to be part of her life and that has been taken from me. How can I get through this day with another heart break? I know she is fine.. I have a relationship with my x-inlaws, my son who is a year older than her, past friends. Its just not the same. I am trying to accept that it will never be the same but its hard.. especially on days that means the most to me. Ideas on how to handle this?

My son is 29 and his girlfriend is 19! I know 18 is the legal age but I am very uncomfortable with their relationship. They started dating when she was 18 and he was 28, however I didn't meet her until recently. She acts like a child and he acts like a father figure to her, it is very creepy to watch. She looks like a little girl, she is very small and petite, right out of high school. Anyway, they are engaged and I am very uncomfortable with the whole situation. My son use to be against marriage, now all of a sudden he is engaged with a child. I think they are making a mistake getting married, and rushing everything. Thoughts ???

My mom is like this and she is cursing my grand mother

I'm an older teenager but my mother and my grandparents are in a deep argument where bridges are soon to be burnt to a crisp. Here are the facts: my mother is the one in the right and not out of a biased view either. My grandparents believe they are right and will not give in until my mother apologizes(nothing to apologize for). My mother tried the time approach where slowly they just forget and move past the argument, but after 6 months of progress my grandparents make a unexpected phone call asking for an apology and now they are back at square one. I have kept myself neutral as far as talking to my grandparents. What should my mother's(or anyone's) next move be?(And no, I bet my mother will never give in and apologize)

I'm 16 and pregnant with my boyfriends (21) baby. I personally don't want an abortion or adoption because I couldn't do it mentally as well as the fact ovarian cancer runs in my family and one day when I decide to I might not be able to have kids. My mom had her oldest child at 14 and her youngest at 19 (she has 4 kids) and my older sister was in a similar situation, based off family history I know they would support my choice. My boyfriend won't stay around once he finds out, I know that for a fact (please see my other question). I have been living independently since I turned 16 and I have a job, attend alternate schooling and am on social assistance. I feel like I could do it, but I wanna see the opinions of others.

Growing up my parents fought their whole lives. I grew up with my parents cussing at eachother, cheating on eachother, and just not creating a good environment for my sister and I. I had to witness seeing my own father in a prison jail for various reasons (due to my mother). My mom is money hungry. Everything in her life revolves around money. I wouldn't be surprised if she married my dad for his money. My dad currently lives in another country and sends my mom money every month to support my sister and I and to pay bills. My sister and I are both in college now. We both work part time and are in school full time. My mom wants us to pay for all of our own things. She is very unsupportive, however it is impossible for me to support myself while being in school. I work 40 hours a week, but I am studying to become a doctor. I spend hours and hours in class, at work, and studying. I should be interning at a hospital right now, but there are not enough hours in the week for me to squeeze in that time. Many nights I regret even being alive. I feel that I am a burden to my parents. My mom and I argue everyday and I don't even have my own family's support on anything. I feel that maybe I am doing everyone a favor by just not being alive. I have suffered from depression for many years and I just can't escape this dark place.

(My mom is out of the picture) I'm a 16 y/o girl and it's alwyas been me and my dad. He's been dating this weirdo for only like half a year and then he PROPOSED to her. His girlfriend just wants my dads money she's so weird. And she has a 21 y/o son who still lives with her and all he does is work he dosent even go to College and her daughter who's also weird is 19. And now I have to share a room with her. She goes to a local college but still lives with her mom. WHAR SHOHLD I DO?

So my dads friend has been calling me by my sisters name for the past three days and I've always been too scared to correct him. Me and my sister look alike, so I can understand why. How do I correct him without it being supper awkward?!

He died last year of Alzheimers but his daughter was a close cousin of my Mom's. When I was growing up she would complain of how he would never come down to see her (she lived about 5 hours away) other then maybe once a year when the daughter would drive up to see him or rarely when he'd go down to see her. He did this since her mother and step-father, his ex-wife and her new husband, were often over. He is rightfully hurt by his ex-wife who left him when he wanted to work on the marriage, however is it wrong to punish the adult child like this and rob her of time with her father and his family? Or is the daughter wrong to complain since she was an adult?

My mother acts like a child. She's self centered and attention craving. She acts like she's sick when she's not and moans and groans and craves for people to feel bad for her. The only time she really talks to me and my siblings is to give orders. Most of them random and simply for the purpose to show her dominance. She yells a lot. All of the time. I'm kind of a clutz so the tiniest accidents mean she yells at me a lot. She blames me for things I didn't do to simply blow off steam. Today she told me that I'm a screw up and that I'm just a mess for her to clean up. This was because a wheel popped off the dishwasher when I was rolling it out. She sometimes makes up random on the spot rules and decisions- like deciding I couldn't wear one T-shirt because she was tired of it. She calls me ugly at times and calls my favorite clothing trashy. I cry a lot because it seems I'm constantly beat up on by her. Constantly afraid of her, hoping she's not home, hoping that school would last longer.

I am a 17 year old boy from Albania.I can't say I hate him,he always has provided the family with shelter food etc he also pays for my school trips abroad and my extra lessons. But I really dislike him most of the time. He shows affection to me and my sibling and my mother as well but something makes me dislike him to the point I don't want to live with him anymore. Let's get to the point I dislike the way he talks about women and judges them based on look. He is sexist Also he accuses people of other nations of being racist when he himself is a racist He is harsh to me sometimes for example when I had long hair he would say it looked bad.he never forced me to to cut it. Also I feel he is mostly embarrassed by me and my sibling for different reasons each he tells tons of lies about us to other people to make us look "presentable" I don't like how he uses a lot of our money is small gambling (never wins) I hate that he is loud and uneducated and he feels he is always right. I hate how disgusting he is by leaving snot on our sink in the morning pee all over the floor and he leaves the door open so everyone can hear him pee. . I hate how he is not polite with anyone and how he disapproves of my dream to become a teacher. I hate how he calls me ungrateful and trash person when I tell him that when I grow up I wanna move out and live alone outside Albanian speaking countries (albania,kosovo) I hate how he find everything I like lame because I don't like the same stuff as him

I turn 18 in a few months and have no form of identification, no job, and probably no diploma/GED/license in the near future. It's really been bugging me and no matter how often I bring it up my parents say they'll take me to get an ID/bank account (another can of worms) until it's suddenly 6-12 months later with nothing to show for it. I want to start working at least but would rather have a savings account beforehand, which means ID. There's always an excuse stopping them or they just don't feel like it. What can I say/do to convince them that I would like to get my pathetic life going already? : / I should mention I currently can only rely on family to get to and from places. I've only practiced driving once because, again, there's always excuses for this stuff. I know they have their reasons and I could probably try more—but right now things are sort of at a standstill. My sibling had this problem as well as a kid.

I just found out my stepdad has been selling pills and my mom got mad at him and he said to shut the f up you need to get in your ******* place and he text her you don't know **** for piss so stfu. We knew he's been selling drugs but didn't really care but pills is a Nono. My mom just told me he's said to get in her place many times before and he's even put his fist up against her but never punched her and he punched the wall. He even said 2 years ago he was going to kill her while he was high on cocaine. I never knew about all this until now. My stepdad isn't home right now and I don't know what to do when he gets back. I'm able to beat the living **** out of him but thats my stepdad he's been like a father half my life and it feels weird to think about fighting him. But at the same time I want too because what he said to my mom doesn't fly with me and I usually don't go out like a soft hearted cupcake. But family is really big to me. He also is the father of my 7 year old sister who i love dearly. Help what should I do, I want to be a cop in the future and don't want an assault on my record and he's not worth ruining my future over. But idk

My mother and father in law and my wife's family hates me because I stole their daughter away from them It's kinda a long story You see I never got my wife's parents blessing to marry her or their permission to marry her They refused to let their daughter marry me when I asked because they thought she was too young to marry and I was too old for her She was 18 and I was 29 My wife rebeled ran away with me on them and we got legally married as soon as she turned 18 and got a marriage certificate in her country Vietnam I found a place for us to live in the city until I was done working on all the immigration spousal sponsor papers to take her with me to Canada Basically we eloped and ran away and to her parents it's as if I kid napped her and stole her from them But I didn't she followed me on her own of her own free will and volition because she loved me and wanted to be with me. Anyways she says her parents want us to come back and visit And she says her father is willing to accept me as a groom of the family and son in law So we are going back this July during my vacation and I am going to meet my in laws again How do I get them to truly like me and accept me I'm really nervous and scared to see her family again