Family: Question: Should I be mad at my sister ?

Question: Should I be mad at my sister ?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 01:58 PM PST

My sister and her fiancé have a son who's a month old. The reason why she has the kid is because she broke the rules. The rule was no boys in the bedrooms. She said it was an accident. She even calls her own kid an accident. Since he's my nephew I have to love him and I do he's a cute little guy but I'm not happy with her secretly hiding with her boyfriend in her bedroom accidentally having unprotected sex. She was suppose to be on birth control but she said she forgot to take her pills that week. The worst part is I wasn't home she said that they locked the door. Another excuse she added was she said he was drunk. I know the guy he never drinks anymore. Now they're engaged they are too young to get married let alone have a kid she's 25 he's 23. Not to mention he's 2 years younger than her that doesn't make any goddamn sense. I don't know wether to love them or hate them right now. Our parents died I'm in charge of her. Also her now fiancé is in my band he's the guitar player. We all live together. But I'm her older brother. Should I be mad at them ? How can I forgive them ?

Question: I'm studying abroad and don't feel like talking to my mom?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 01:33 PM PST

I love my mom, shes the person closest to me. And yet for some reason I never really feel like talking to her. She had an outburst today saying we never talk and I'm fully aware of this, yet can't bring myself to regularly talk to her. Why?

Question: Why my sister gets upset when I say she's fat? I mean she really is and doesnt even try to lose weight?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 01:27 PM PST

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 01:10 PM PST

My sister is feeling sad I asked her what's wrong she said nothing she yelled at me told me to go away. It's almost dinner time she said she's not hungry she's always hungry. I'm worried about her I don't wanna leave her alone. How can I comfort her ?

Question: How do I tell my family about my child's father?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 12:40 PM PST

They're very " old fashioned" and already up my *** about me not being married, they've been supportive of the pregnancy and everything and they like my boyfriend. But now he isn't contacting me and is doing drugs! I've been too embarrassed to speak of it to anyone because I'll get blame for it. I'm in my third trimester already and my due date is right around the corner. And I don't care to hear comments that say " close your legs" or " get an abortion" y'all can **** right off.

Question: Want to move out but im not allowed?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 12:22 PM PST

So my mom has gone through a lot. She's been in a 20 year long abusive relationship with my father and her oldest daughter left her in middle of a huge fight and hasnt returned so when she says that me moving out will hurt her very much i feel like i have an obligation to stay. But I really want to move out. The way my mom wants me to live life is not the way i want to. She is an extremely religious person and im not, at all. thats one of the biggest reasons, that im living in a household that forces me to be someone im not. She won't let me hang out with guys, gives me a curfew at around 9, forces me to believe in a religion i dont want to live by and just overall restricts me. I want to move out because i need to distance myself from her cause i think that is the best way of us keeping a relationship while i still get to be what i want to be. But once again she has plans for me. She wants me to start working so i can provide for her and my sister so we can live a better life. But thats just not what i want to do yet i feel extremely selfish for even thinking that What do i do? I understand that the best thing would just to move out but my feelings of guilt stop me everytime.

Question: How do I know if my sister is related to me?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 12:13 PM PST

Question: Ex's mom wants to see my baby?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 11:46 AM PST

To make it clear her son is NOT the father of my child. He is someone I dated as a teenager, I'm still on good terms with his Mother, she's friends with my own mother. Her son used to molest me and she doesn't know that. If I'm 7 months pregnant and I don't want that guy around my baby, but if I say anything I'll make an *** of myself and start drama.

Question: My mother never let me see her family as a child because my grandfather was an alcoholic. How do I make up to her family as an adult?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 11:20 AM PST

And how do I make up in spirit to my grandfather. She says it was done to protect me but that is why I feel I must make up as that makes it my fault. Often my Mom was just using me as a pawn to get her father to get help but I do think sometimes she was being protective. I have unending guilt about this even years later. I constantly try to make up for the sin my birth caused of my Mom having to keep me from her father and thus me missing all family events including Christmas' and weddings. I feel ashamed.

Question: Why is my cousin's mistakes the business of the entire family?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 11:20 AM PST

I have a cousin who has made some mistakes. She was fired from a job, got pregnant and miscarried, lies to her parents (telling half truths), and is not trusting of people enough so seems kind of cold. She has been on a downward spin since last winter. She is 24. The whole extended family is talking about it and getting mad and assuming the worst in her. My mother gets annoyed when I do favors for the cousin so I stopped. Everyone is involved. So my question is why are this cousin's mistakes the business of all of us? Shouldn't it just be between her and her closes family (her parents)? Not saying the cousin is some saint or that I'd lend her a million dollars but wondering why it is everyone's business. So Why is my cousin's mistakes the business of our entire family?

Question: My parents think that I’m worthless and that I belong to them?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 11:16 AM PST

They always say that I'm a failure, and then wonder why I think I'm stupid and worthless. I only try to do good in school not only because attending a good university is important, but also because of them. All the As mean nothing to them, they can still tell me I'm lazy and I don't try at all; skipping three grades of math mean nothing either, and they keep telling me that they wish they had a different child, a more competent one, one that isn't a failure. They always tell me my younger sister is better. I'm not allowed to "get mad", because then they will either hit me or tell me I have no right to get mad because I use their money and they have a job and compared to them im nobody. Whenever I want to do something they constantly remind me they can hit me, sometimes they say they want to kill me. I can't move out any time soon because I'm only in 9th grade, and no university would let me go even if I have all As and advanced classes if I don't finish high school. Would it make my parents happier if I died? Sometimes I really want to kill myself, I don't know how I've survived this long honestly. Maybe I'm actually really stupid... I don't know anymore.

Question: My Mom spends more time with her friend who is a bad person then with me. How do I get her to like me more again?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 11:15 AM PST

Question: I’m 37 and my sister is 16. It annoys me seeing how spoiled she is. With a iPhone X, MacBook, etc. Does it annoy you seeing teens so spoiled?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 10:12 AM PST

I'm visting my mom for a few weeks and its her and my sister. My dad passed 7 years ago and since then my moms been spoiling the crap out of her. Like it's frusterating listening to her speak. She has this little attitude and she came downstairs and said to my mom "I have no clothes because you never take me shopping Bc all you care about is yourself" like she's so disrepsecul. She has a closet FULL of clothes and she goes shopping all the time and my mom works so hard for her. My mom is a pushover and said nothing. Should I do something?

Question: Should I use my brothers pet crab to make crab cakes?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 09:44 AM PST

Question: My brother looked waste on Christmas but I thought had gone sober. He's an alcoholic. Should I inquire to his family?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 08:03 AM PST

Or would this be noisy and disrespectful? He went to rehab first part of the year after his family staged an intervention they asked me to participate in. Our father was an alcoholic and our Mom had to leave to protect us so we seldom knew him (met him 4 times only). We have lots of alcoholics on his side of the family I am told though only knew our grandmother and a cousin very well. Our Mom also has some relatives with it. So should I inquire to his wife and kids (is he drinking again) or would that be just seen as me looking for gossip? He looked as though he'd been really drunk but sobered up enough to come to my mother's Christmas Eve.

Question: Would it be best to stay or move?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 07:58 AM PST

we moved from our home town because of my mums family and left our brother and dad behind and it's hard not being able to see them as often, they'd only come down twice a year because it's really far and we are poor so we don't have enough money for traveling there and back. My mums thinking of moving back soon but i'm in two minds, i really do want to move back to be closer to them but then i think about all the people i'll be leaving here aswell, and it's so hard for me to make friends too. I've been here since 2012 and i'm now 18 and i've gotten so used to living here but then i think about my mum and she's always miserable because she rarely gets to see our brother and i don't want to just be thinking about myself here but I know i will struggle with getting used to it again if i do move but i don't know what to do

Question: My mother used to be really mean to us about our father. She is not anymore. How do I forgive and trust her despite my emotional scars?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 07:56 AM PST

She did all she could when I was a kid to keep us from our father after they divorced and convince us he did not love us as a way of getting him back. I believed her and I had few friends so spent the most amount of time with her bad mouthing Dad for her. As a teen I realized what she had done and turned on her and hated her. I even went to live with Dad. My mother continued to try and poison me against him. As an adult I only saw her when I had to at family functions. Well now my Mom is an old lady in her 70's and not nearly as mean as she used to be. After my Dad died she softened. He died 6 years ago. I avoided my Mom when I could but about 2 years ago started seeing her more and she she is not abusive anymore. So how do I forgive her and trust her despite these scars I will have forever of fearing rejection by family? I don't trust family cause as a kid I thought my Dad had abandoned us cause my Mom told me so. I do want to know my Mom in her last few years of life though (probably has a decade or so left). I don't want to dislike my Mom anymore.

Question: I got caught around 5 weeks ago and my parents won't let me do anything.?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 07:22 AM PST

I got caught with Alcohol,Weed,and vape. Yeah it ******* sucks. I learned my lesson after getting beaten the **** out of and just knowing it's morally and physically wrong. It's been 5 weeks and I got my grades up from 50s to 80s and i've done well on my midterms. The frustrating part from all this is that even though I showed up clean on drug tests and have got my grades up tremendously, is that they won't let me hang out with my friends or do anything. It's been pissing me off and my mom knows I learned and is treating me well meanwhile my dad is satan and won't let me do anything, but stand still when he gives me weekly beatings. I want everything to go back to how it was before I got caught and rn is very depressing and traumatic on my childhood.

Question: How do I cope with another man raising and putting his hands on my baby son?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 06:22 AM PST

Last month, my girlfriend and I broke up. She left me and threw me out the house over something awful that I've done to her. Only seen her once since then because she refuses to see me in person and blows me off whenever I try to talk to her. She's dating another guy now and from what I heard and he wants to move her in with him and start a family. She made it clear that she would not keep me from my baby, but the fact she's moving out of state with this guy pisses me off beyond belief. This is my first child and I want to be there 24/7 but that doesn't seem possible now. What should I do?

Question: How do I get my dad to like me more? (please read description)?

Posted: 21 Jan 2018 12:08 AM PST

I am really shy and quiet, and incredibly socially anxious. I listen and observe, and am not as clever as my older brother. My brother is outgoing and smart, and shares the exact interest as my dad (cars). They can talk for hours. I don't know where to start; I try to talk about the things he likes, but I just don't share those interests. I am a good kid. I have never gotten in trouble, not rebellious, and am nice and hardworking. I am introverted and sensitive. He is nice and we get along. He calls me darling and will come to me if he wants to rant about my brother, and I love ranting to him. But my brother is basically just him, and someone who can talk to about hobbies and likes. I am not my brother. I cannot change. Please don't tell me to stop being shy, or be louder. I can't. This is me and I can't change it. How do I get him to like me like my brother?

Question: My dad is sick?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 11:35 PM PST

My dad is 75yrs old and has this horrible cold. The only difference this time is he is not remembering to do things or he will just stand there is was going to try and do something. He has never done this before! Would anyone have an idea how and why this is happening? He has been mourning the loss of his wife (my mom) could that have anything to do with that too? His mind is off? Any help would be appreciated! And please only serious answers

Question: How do I tell my parents to stop micromanaging when it comes to my hair?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 11:22 PM PST

My mom always tells me my hair looks bad before I go to school, and she forces me to go fix it (even if it makes me late). Also, when im on a long break and im not going anywhere my hair gets matted up and looks really bad ( have kinky short hair) so she thinks that how it looks when its done nicely and she forces me to go get a trim, which always ends up badly. I recently got a "trim" and the guy cut my hair really good, but in the front he buzzed it an inch less than the rest of my hair. I didnt notice it at first but when i showered it looked really bad. It took me so long to grow my hair and now i have to buzz it so its even. It really pissed me off, how do I tell them nicely that im tired of their opinion? (PS: My mother wouldnt know she relaxes her hair and my dads white so he doesnt understand anything about it) My hair doesnt get matted because I am not taking care of it, its because i lay down and my hair is short

Question: Why does my older sister copy me?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 09:57 PM PST

Yeah my older. Not younger. Everytime i find a new thing she suddenly likes it and takes over. Got a disney pass she suddenly obsessed with disney. I got victoria secret credit card she suddenly shops there every chance she gets. I started reading comics and now this past week she lives at hot topic. Whats the deal ? Im 17 shes 28. Wtf ?

Question: Do I have a right to be angry at my cousin?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 09:42 PM PST

Me and my cousin were best friends growing up. We started growing apart our senior year of high school, but we still hung out regularly. He's always been the favorite in the family. Everyone went to his graduation, football games, etc... I have a learning disorder and school has always been a challenge for me. I never thought I would graduate, but I did! And he didn't come to my graduation.. He said he was too busy packing for a trip that was 3 days away. He was too busy hanging out with his neighbor and girlfriend they were caught smoking weed later that night. Didn't even bother to go to my graduation. I was really upset, to the point to where I was crying. I would never think of missing his high school graduation, barely anyone bothered to come to mine. I'm not the star athlete like he is. My family likes him more. He refuses to apologize, he said that he didn't care to go. He says that I'm dramatic, and should apologize to him.... my mom also thinks I'm being a "drama queen" and is taking his side. Am I right to be mad at him?

Question: How do I prepare myself for the psychological issues that my daughter might have later on?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 09:40 PM PST

I adopted an infant child who has been sexually abused and her birth mom is a trafficking victim. We were warned that she may need lots of therapy if she ever finds out. There might be some other problems as well since her birth parent suffered trauma during pregnancy. When we were looking to adopt, we didn't expect this at all. My older son is 9 and he is adopted as well - I love him to death and we never had to prepare ourselves for this with him. I'm afraid that this baby will likely have many problems down the road.

Question: How can I calm my sister down ?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:47 PM PST

My sister was reading online where a guy who had eaten fish way too much pulled a giant worm out of his body. She didn't even know we had worms inside us. She has a bad habit of eating burgers , pizza and potato chips and like other girls do chocolate. She's now freaking out worried there's a giant worm inside her she said she's gonna stop eating burgers and pizza. Even though they're her 2 favorites. Also like most girls she's afraid of worms , frogs , bugs anything slimy. She probably have a heart attack if a worm came out of her. How can I calm her down ?

Question: How do I stop my mom from getting so mad?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:42 PM PST

Lately, my mom has been acting really weird. She gets mad over the smallest things. She could ask for a charger for the old computer no one uses anymore and if I say I don't know where it is, she gets super mad and threatens to ground me. Just recently I asked her where the recipes for a meal were and she shouted at me to look around for them. Which I had already done. I said they weren't on the counter where I put them and she got really angry talking about how she didn't move them and literally grounded me because I didn't know where the ******* recipes are. What do I do to stop her from getting so angry all the time?

Question: Why is she like this? how do i deal?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:01 PM PST

my mom is such a ******* *****. whenever i ask her what's wrong she wants to ******* yell at me that nothing is wrong and to stop bothering her, then when i don't ask her what's wrong, she says i don't care about her. there's clearly something wrong with her mentally and i feel that i have to walk on eggshells around her. i'm 15, so i still have three years until i can move out. how tf am i supposed to live with her??? what are ways i can deal with her bullshit? at this point, i'm ready to leave. i know this doesn't sound like much but there's so much more to our relationship. like how she claims that she supports me fully (i've had a rough time recently), even though she's not there for me when i need her to be. she always talks about how i don't appreciate anything she does, when i do everything for myself, like cleaning, cooking, etc.

Question: How do I tell my mom to stop blasting the computer when I'm watching tv?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:53 PM PST

My mom spends a lot of time on the computer watching videos on YouTube and Facebook. The desk computer is in the living room so its not too far from the computer. Whenever I'm on and watch something I always try to keep it down so anyone watching tv can still hear it. But whenever my mom gets on she thinks everything she watches is so much better than what anyone else is watching. And it seems like everytime she notices that we are watching something we really like especially a new episode she will blast the computer volume so loud that even hiring the tv doesn't work. And sometimes even make us come over to watch the videos with her. I've tried to tell her not now I'm watching this and she will get mad and say something like " Fine! I won't do anything for you guys anymore!" It's not like I'm never with her I always go with her grocery shopping which is almost every day. Is there any way to let her know that this type of behavior isn't right? ( Oh and I do sometimes watch videos with her too but I don't want to watch random videos with her every single times whenever she commands it.)

Question: How to convince my parents to not take my sister and I to North Carolina for a day?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:03 PM PST

Hi, it's 10pm Saturday right now, and we're leaving in the morning at about 10 I assume. My parents want to stay there until about 4. My sister and I asked them if we could stay at her boyfriend's house for the day while they're gone, my mom was okay with it but my dad says we have to come with them. They won't leave us home alone while they go out of state (we're in sc). Both my sister and I really do not want to go to nc and we need advice on how to convince our parents to leave us. It's kinda too late to call any family members so I'm really stuck on what to do. It's really last minute to call any friends too. I don't know what to do. I'm 13 years old, my sister is 16. There's really no point for the trip tbh. My mom just likes wasting money

Question: Is it legal for the father to keep a child away from the mother if there is no custody in place?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:56 PM PST

Currently, my stepfather and mother are going through a divorce. The stepfather has forced us out of our shared home and made us move back in with my grandmother, who is my mom s mother. He has also taken my little sister, their child, and refuses to allow my mother or me to see her. They are not divorced yet and there is no custody in place. He won t let her see her child until she signs sole custody to him. He is trying to force her to do this and is withholding the child from her. Is this legal? It has been over 5 days since we last saw her and he does not plan on letting us see her until my mother caves in and signs sole custody over, which she refuses to do. I want to help and can t stand to listen to her cry every night because she doesn t know what to do. Please, if there is any help you can offer on what steps we can take legally, please let us know as soon as possible. My mother has heart problems and this is putting a lot of strain on her, so it falls on me to do what I can to fix the situation. Please give us any help you can.

Question: When my Dad gets drunk (he is alcoholic) I don't want to be around him and am scared but when I leave I feel guilty. What do I do?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:49 PM PST

I went to my Mom's for most of Christmas cause my Dad was being drunk and obnoxious and now I have felt guilty ever since and Christmas has been over for a month.

Question: My relationship with my mom is all over the place and I don’t know what to do?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:42 PM PST

She complains that she don't see the grandkids enough but when I call to come visit they are never home. I tell her she can come over any time just call first. Nothing. I call to see if she could babysit while I go to the doctor and she said no it's too cold outside or I got cloths out on the line. So I call my mother-in-law and before I finish asking she says "what time you need me?" So now my mom says I favor my in-laws. Finally a home show is coming to town and we did a group text to my family asking if they wanted to go, mom responded yes to the group text. But later came up to me and goes well you never asked me to go.. I said you were in the group text message and I got well you still didn't ask me but you asked your mother in law. My mother in law was not part of that group text message. It seems like I can't do anything right... I've tried visiting more often or call more. I've even just stop talking to her to see if she would change. Just ask my wits end

Question: My mum used to hit me/sisters was this bad or am i just dramatic?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:35 PM PST

She would hit us for silly things like having a messy room, throw stuff, scream a lot etc. I feel like it really messed me up but i never knew any differently so i also feel bad for feeling sorry for myself. it stopped around the age of 16, i'm 19 now and she would only hit me very rarely however the shouting and throwing stuff never stopped, its daily. Are all parents like this, am i just being dramatic? By hit i mean like a slap across the arm/leg a handleful of times on the face if she was very mad. though at the same time i know she cares about me, shes always been there when i was in trouble or anything. She just loses her temper really easily

Question: Is your family rich, middle class, low middle class or poor?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:33 PM PST

Question: My mother never let me see her family as a child because my grandfather was an alcoholic. How do I make up to her family as an adult?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 05:37 PM PST

And how do I make up in spirit to my grandfather. She says it was done to protect me but that is why I feel I must make up as that makes it my fault. Often my Mom was just using me as a pawn to get her father to get help but I do think sometimes she was being protective. I have unending guilt about this even years later. I constantly try to make up for the sin my birth caused of my Mom having to keep me from her father and thus me missing all family events including Christmas' and weddings. I feel ashamed. sats: How do I spit in my mother's face? She made a mistake to use me as a pawn against her father that is all. I am not saying she was a bad mother in fact sometimes I think she may have been being protective. However, she did make a mistake that I wear the scars from so I am trying to overcome it. I do love her and am close to her, in fact spent last weekend with her travelling. It was to a funeral in my Dad's family but I opted to go with her rather then going separate.

Question: My Mom has a friend who is a bad person. How do I prevent this bad woman from corrupting my mother's thoughts about our extended family?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 05:36 PM PST

This woman tries to poison my Mom's mind about my extended family on my Dad's side. My parents are divorced so my mother likes the gossip and claims this toxic friend makes that my Dad's family never thought much of my Mom. The friend was once a neighbor of my Dad's sister and aunt. So how do I prevent this bad friend of my Mom's from corrupting my Mom's mind more then it already is against the good people in my Dad's family?

Question: I found innapropriate texts on my sons phone from his father?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 04:40 PM PST

i found my sons old phone hes 11 fom his father offering him alcohol and cigarettes and also calling him incredibly immature names such as "donkey nipples" t!t sucker" telling him hes an old man with p!ssy pants" thats just some of the tame tets im worried about my son being around his own father who would i need to repot this behaviour too? he has social sevices involved due to autism and school would i be best talking to her ? if i reported his father to social services would my son be put in care? he also now currently lives with hi s father after moving away from my house due to being bullied at school but now ive moved from the area would he be placed in my care again since a few people have misunderstood the texts are from his father not bullies

Question: What can I do to help my sister (22) who gets drunk every day? I'm really worried she won't be alive in a few years :(?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 03:05 PM PST

Question: How to celebrate daughter's 1st birthday and wife's birthday? They were born on the same day?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 02:37 PM PST

My daughter and wife share the same birthday. I know my wife is planning a big party for my daughter, but I also want to make it special for my wife as well because it's her birthday as well. My wife and daughter have a very strong connection and she breastfeeds my daughter only at night and never wants to miss that time, so I have a hard time planning anything at night. I want to give my wife a special day as well. What do you all recommend? How can I plan a party for my wife? What would you all do?