i hate my dad he cheated on my mom a lot of times he has kids with other woman and he was always on and off he worked in a job where we would not see him a lot and sometimes we would come home and sometimes he wouldn't and i hated seeing him yelling at my mom and fighting and one day he just took his things and left and now he has a girlfriend and well my mom has no hate towards him and his new girlfriend she is younger than him but i always end up fighting with him for everything and i hate that him and my mom are not together anymore and he never gave us (me and my brothers and sisters) the attention and love we deserved i have no respect for him i punched him in the face the other day and i felt bad but i don't care he did worst things to my mom and thats why i hate him is it wrong if i do? is it wrong to hate my dad?

Im a 21 year old british muslim. (born in Britain) Mum is english and dad is pakistani. Me and my mum and my little sister and my mums twin sister and her kids are going to Canada in July sometime to meet some cousins on my mum and aunties side who live their.. I am wondering if i will have any trouble entering the country ? I went to florida last year with the same people (mum, my sister and my mums twin sister and her kids) And i was held up at the passport control entering florida and questioned by a police officer in a room for about 30mins.. Just asking me syria questions and what my dad does for a job etc... it was a little nerve racking but it went ok and i was allowed in.. i am just wondering if Canada will be the same ? I have had no trouble with the police in england ever and have never been arrested.. i have no criminal record of any sort..

my mom is 5'8 my dad is 5'11 my sister is 5'11 (shes 21) my other sister is 5'9 (shes 25) my brother is 6'4 (hes 17) i am 5'5 and 14 my parents/siblings were all late bloomers. all of my siblings model for different international agency, and what is making me super curious is that i've been scouted twice by a local agency and an international one called Wilhemina but what sucks is that i need to grow 2 more inches and either would be down to sign me. how tall do you think will i be at 16? or 20?

My son want to quit band. he's 15 and doesn't believe band is going to help him, he already quit Boy Scouts and now is trying to quit band so he can focus on buffing up and going to JV football, he sent me a text message last night. Look I know you want me to do band and all that but I've been giving it thought and it's not gonna get me anywhere in life... and honestly I want to start going to the gym like at least every other day with Stephen or something... I need to buff up and then I want to go to JV football tryouts and see if I can do that and if I like it... because it's something I'm more passionate about and don't get me wrong I still want to lessons with al (drum teacher) and stuff but like I just can't stand drumline right now and like every 10 mins I'm asking someone what the time is because I hate it there and it feels toxic and right now all I want to do is buff up and do something I might enjoy... I want to do something in my life and band isn't getting me anywhere and it pissed me off because it seems like you're being toxic and aren't trying to make me do something that I like. and whenever I talk to about quitting you say "you have to do band" . I want to do something that gets me somewhere and in all honesty grow up a little bit and understand I'm in HIGH SCHOOL. 3 more years and I'm out of the house. 3 more years and I'll be living with you, off to college, or on the streets. I need to do something with my life and band isn't doing anything.

I am the father of three kids (one with ex-wife, two with my fiancée). And my first son who is almost twenty-one has been making me and my fiancée's lives a living hell and I don't know what else to do because he is on the verge of falling out with me completely. It seems that my other kids, who are 6 and 11, are more mature than he is. He has only worked a few jobs for a few days, and has quit every single one for whatever reason. He lived with us until six months ago, when we set him up for college and a few room mates to stay with (who we personally know). He seemed ecstatic about this so he packed his bags and left. I was happy he was going because I was already fed up of hearing him argue with my fiancée, who he never liked since the day she met him. Well, a few months later, we received emails from his room mates asking if we can take our son back to the house. Because apparently, he's quit college and isn't getting along with them at all. He's locked them out of the apartment at times and has invited his friends over without permission. So, we talk to him, and he's expecting me and my fiancée to pay for a new apartment he can move in himself, and said his room mates are all sorts. We responded by saying no (we gotta pay for our own needs and our two other children), and now, he's sending fairly abusive mail calling us useless. We stopped paying for his bike and he's not happy about me getting married and trying to turn me against my fiancée. What else can I do?

So this has been a topic I have been discussing with my mom for 3 years now, but I am too nervous to tell my dad. I want to go to a university in California (I am not even applying to any other state), mainly because I love that state and literally ALL my family (on both my mom/dad side) lives there. Its like a home away from home. I wanted to convince my dad to let me live with my aunt and attend my senior year of high school at in Orange County. Its beneficial because I am going to get in-state tuition and also my chances of getting in will be higher (they prioritize Californian residents), Anyways, any tips on how to convince my dad (my mom is on board with it, but they are divorced so she isnt really much help with the communicating part).

She is a wonderful person and she and I knew each other in girl scouts as kids though lost touch until she and my brother started dating. My husband and I caught my brother with another woman last weekend and he said "she is a friend" but we saw them with their arms around each other in the car. He cheated once previously. Do I tell my sister-in-law? I am so mad at my brother right now I hate him.

I am going to college and staying with my brother and his wife. I started to have painful periods. It was 5 days of hell. I could barely function. My doctor put me on medication that stopped my periods. It is wonderful. I don't have these terrible pains each month. My problem is the medication that stops my periods is also a birth control. My mother is a devout Catholic who believed that anyone that takes birth control is going to hell. My brother said we should just let this be our secret and not tell my mother what I am doing. He said if she knew I was on birth control, it would cause her needless worry. Do you think he is correct in us keeping this secret?

She insults us more then gossips., even insults her nephew for his behavior when he has Autism.

I don't mind occasionally helping out but she calls constantly for help. Her parents are awful to her cause she is the "Black Sheep" of her family and is now largely estranged from them. At the same time she is 24 going on 13 in her social skills so asks for help constantly in an intrusive way.

So I have a 13 year old niece whom I adore.I do everything for her and like 6 months ago,I bought her a smart phone.So last week, her and her siblings stayed the night at our house with my kids.Well, in the middle of the, I woke to find her on IG and masturbating to female twerking videos.Im baffled and confused as to how to process what I saw.She still had to stay with us for a few more days and it was very confusing She has begged me to not tell anyone.She promises she would never do it again which is her business what she does but deep down it bothers me I don t know why but it does.Can someone please give me some advice on how to approach this subject Approach it as she has questions and is confused.She feels shame

my 15 year old daughter is out of her mind! She has not been doing anything! No homework ,no clean room, talking back 24/7, I got a call from her teacher the other day about her being disrespectful.... I've been in the military for most of my life it's either my way or no way So when her mom asked her to clean her room yesterday She just said "Later" And she never cleaned it, so when I came into her room today it want like this- "What did mom tell you to do yesterday?" "I don't care what she says" "Gett off your phone and give it to me,I'm taking to you so have some respect and look at me when I'm taking to you, I've raised you better than this " "Why do I always need to do what you say?! I don't want to clean my room or give you my phone!" At this point his voice started raising "You live in my house, eat from my food , you have clothes to wear, you go to school! And until you live underneath my roof you're going to do what I say no questions asked! Am I clear enough? Now give me your phone and do your homework" " wow dad just stop being so annoying I'm not going to do my homework right now" "You getting an education isn't open for discussion … ever. so sit your *** down and do as you are told" I ended up grabbing the phone out of her hand and slapped her, yes I know I should have never hit her. but I could never imagine that I raised that much of a brat! And yes I do regret that slap. but for the first time in a while I saw a clean room and well made homework.

I haven't changed at all between the two years - physically or emotionally. I don't know if you're "supposed" to change during this period but it's as if I stopped changing.

I hear that while lots of kids are in foster care internationally, they're still a very small group. For instance there are more families who can give their child a loving home compared to those who cannot.

Quick and simple: MIL is crazy, like s****** crazy.... We been together 5 years, living together only 1 month.... He used to live with his parents, then with me & my parents for 1 year. His mom always thought we would be moving back to her house. NOPE, not going to happen. Now we moved and they are completly out of reality, and giving him the cold shoulder, she wants to go to our place and mandate what we do etc, for example, "oh you guys should not buy furniture.... you don't need it..." okay so we will sit on the floor, He asks his dad, "Hey why don't you call me?" His answer: well you moved.... Seriously??????? His mom loves getting in other's people's problems and then calls ME, to talk about, OTHER'S PEOPLE'S problems, and I am exhausted to deal with that. She even calls me to talk about the decisions her son will do, which she sees wrong, and she does not stop saying "You took that decision and respect that... but.... (with respect of us moving to our own place,)" They think that we have so much money, and we are basically living paycheck to paycheck, my husband is the only one working, I just got accepted to Dental School, I'll begin this summer, and I am still in school. I truly wish I could stay with him, and not even hear about his parents, but MINE, parents... I love them dear god, but they are all like, "that's his mom, and that's your MIL....bla bla bla," and I am kind of stressed, do I have to deal with them too? can he just deal with them? They invited us for dinner and I am truly not looking forward to go. I truly don't want to see them, is that bad? The last drop was yesterday, they have a visitor at home and she calls him asking whether he was going to gift them something, like we are rich or something? It's annoying.... We finally bought a couch, and have credit card debt, and bills to pay, we don't have money for gifts for people, and then he feels guilty he is not making enough money (his dad makes a LOT of money...). My husband makes enough to keep us above waters until my loans kick in, and even with loans we should try to avoid taking out to much. I'll be a dentist not rich. LOL..... I am getting exhausted and I this kind of **** happens every-time they call, and i feel it's affecting our relationship a little. His mom is nice but she wants to be BFF (talking hours on the phone and stuff talking about others lol...), I don't want that.... i ask because we usually fight after he talks to them (always come with something or ask for something.... or need something...) and ruins the mood sometimes....

so i'm 17 y/o a girl and i have a twin brother. me and my brother are polar opposites. like...he's not gay or girly or anything, there'd be no problem if he was but he isn't, and i'm a complete girly girl. but despite that, me and my brother are literally best friends and always have been. u know how identical and/or same sex twins are usually really really close? me and my brother's relationship is like that even though we're fraternal and different genders. we do fight of course like any siblings, but we like hanging out with each other and we can tell each other almost anything. a lot of the time i don't even need to invite a friend over because i have my brother to hang out with/watch movies with/whatever. sometimes we'll go into each others rooms at night and just talk or hang out and laugh for hours. we share most friends, so if he gets invited to a party or something, then i usually do too, and vice versa. a lot of the time we'll sit together at lunch at school with all of our friends. we go a lot of places together and are probably even going to attend the same college because we can't stand being apart. is this weird or bad???

So the other day I was just messing with my sister, and I was turning the TV off in the living room because the TV in my room is the same brand as that one and the remotes work on both. I was sitting at the top of the stairs out of her sight but still in range of the TV. She was getting very furious seeing as she was holding the remote and constantly turning it back on, just to have me turn it back off in a few seconds. She then must've caught on that I was doing something, because she yelled "B! (Going by my first initial to remain anonymous) I know you're up to this, knock it the f*ck off!" Realizing that I had been caught, I bolted into my room and shut the door. Moments later she sprinted up the stairs and came into my room (Why didn't I lock the door!) and said that she was sick of my sh*t, and that she wasn't putting up with it anymore. She then approached me and grabbed me by my shoulders and threw me on the ground. I was shocked because she's never been physical with me. I was telling her that I was sorry and wouldn't do it again, but I guess that wasn't enough for her. She then started punching me in the arms (My blocks were useless) and stomach until I was crying trying to ball up so I was less vulnerable. Once she felt satisfied with her beating, she slapped me once on the face and said that I was "her little b*tch now". I was freaking out and just laid there crying, not sure of what I could even do. She then left my room and slammed my door shut. what do i do? btw what does she mean with "i'm her little *****" what is she gonna do next??

For the last few years my mom has been suspicious of all of us. She gets into these moods where she becomes enraged and just screams for hours getting worse going from one subject to another before breaking down into hysterical crying. She's convinced that we're all trying to hurt or annoy her. My younger brother was late getting home from work and she accused him of seeing prostitutes in the 5 minutes we was late. She's convinced our dad is working to ruin her. More then once she asked us about something she said we said but never did and gets angry when we say we didn't say it and thinks we're trying to drive her insane or make her think she's insane and have her locked up. She more then once yelled throughout the night keeping me, my two brothers, older sister and dad awake all night when we need to get up for school or work. Sometimes this can last for a day or a month. On top of that if ANYTHING goes wrong when she's like this she completely breaks down. We're forced to attempt to control uncontrollable like late buses and make the day go the way she wants to. Otherwise if she ends up not finding something at the store she needs she mentally breaks down and is incapable of doing anything else for the day but cry. She refuses to go to the doctor saying nothing is wrong with her. Her beliefs are making her miserable and her behavior is making everyone stressed and exhausted from sometimes going days with just a few hours sleep while having a full work and school week. She will not go to a doctor. She says she talks to her doctor but we're all sure she's not telling him the whole story since any doctor would be able to tell this behavior is abnormal and refuses to allow us to go with her to checkups because "You'll brainwash him to think I'm crazy, that's what you want and I'm not letting you do that to me!" She's hidden her doctors information, keeps her phone on her at all times and hides it so we can't find his number and call ourselves to speak with him. Me and my siblings are of legal age. We just can't go anywhere because of school and our jobs because many of our friends and family live far away. My dad is largely trying to just go with what she tells everyone. He just sits there and lets her scream at him because any fighting back results in her getting worse and screaming for longer periods. He's just become so broken down and can't even defend his own kids because if he dares to reason with her as to why whatever it is she's screaming at any of us is unreasonable all of her rage is directed at him. So he just sits there while she shouts insults and accusations at us. The solution has to not involve a doctor; she won't go to one and we can't force her to go. Taking her to a Physiologist or Psychiatrist or therapy of any kind is not an option. Even if we did I'm positive she would refuse to allow me, my siblings or dad to a session and hide what she's been doing to the doctor and leave out details to be declared healthy. So a solution we can come to ourselves is the only option. My mother is not on any medication and does not do drugs. If anything drug use is a common thing she accuses all of us of doing whenever we're late or saying after school to get a project done or pay tuition. She did this once when my brother cooked dinner for himself and went to bed because he had to get up at 4:00am to go to work and couldn't wait for her to come home from visiting a friend. She screamed at him until around 3:30am accusing him of smoking pot because he went to bed so early.

im 22 years old im in college and i still stay at home. my whole life has been a roller coaster. ive never really had anybody to talk to about my problems because my older sisters are 30+ so they dont understand. i do have 2 younger siblings they are 15 and its like everyone in my family overlooks me and all the attention is on them. on my 22nd bday i didnt get any gift barely got any calls, then my oldest sister comes over with a gift for my yonger siblings.IT'S MY BDAY!! keep in mind. now my dad isnt in my life but my younger siblings dad is and boy are they lucky he gets them anything they ask for. we all wanted iphones but me on my college budget had to get a job WORK MY AZZ off to get it, they just asked their dad and BAM they got one. idk maybe im jealous because my whole life has been hell and their living in paradise. it sucks to know that whenever i wanted something i had to work for it but they dont. im never the one to complain but when your surrounded by this you dont have a choice.we have pics all around the house of them NONE of me.noone ever mentions me EVER i actually like getting sick becuz thats when i get attention, i went to my aunts house and looked in her picture book everyone was in it but guess who wasnt. ME. and yes ik im 22 and a female but ive felt like this ever since they were born, i feel like noone in my family loves me. im a really cool person im a Leo so im pretty laid back so i would never express this to them, somebody please help me.

Besides having disabilities, peer pressure, or going through too much trauma for their age, what might be a factor? Let's say a 9 year old who still throws tantrums in public and a 13 year old who gave out their address to a stranger online. Children at these ages should know well enough NOT to do those things. They might not know all the reasons why but their brain can understand that something is unacceptable, bad, inappropriate, mean. So if there are any children out there who make horrible choices all the time, would there be any other reasons?

I'm a 15 year old girl and I have 4 siblings. My two older sisters. One is married. My older brother. He's 17. My little sister. She's 13. I'm second to last. My parents obviously favor the baby of the family and the only boy of the family. If me and my older sisters get in a fight I'm ALWAYS in the wrong somehow! Just because they're older and somehow it makes them always right? And my brother.... Ugh. He can literally smack me and I'll get in trouble for telling him to stop because I'll be too "mean". My little sister... She's the ANGEL apparently. Everybody thinks she's so nice and sweet when she can be a TOTAL jerk. My brother was playing video games I came in to ask him something and guess what? He said get out and my dad screamed at me for being in his way. Then, a week later, he came in MY room. I'm not allowed to lock my door which is BS but whatever. And I said "get out". He put dimes in MY DRINK and then started screwing around with my PS4 and my controllers! I told him to get out and when I went to tell my dad, HE LOCKED ME OUT OF MY ROOM!!! NOBODY DID ANYTHING ABOUT IT UNTIL I WAS ABOUT TO BURN THE HOUSE DOWN. (Just a metaphore I was just really mad). I GOT in trouble because I was "too hostile".... I live in Oklahoma US and I'm wandering what is the legal age to leave?? My dad is also threatening to get rid of my bird!!! I need to leave soon! I make 20$+ off of YouTube. If I save up until the legal age will that help? Please answer!

she retired (only 47) a year ago & idk if that has anything to do with anything. my thinking is bc she's not needed in society she feels irrelevant & tries to get any attention she can get. she constantly WANTS to be in a bad mood, always sad, always seems to be sick 24/7. constantly talk about herself but never listens when others talk about themselves. when she's mad at my stepdad or anyone she takes her anger out on everyone but that person! today my stepdad did something to make her mad & i got 10000 text messages of her bashing me as a person. &. she'll make sure you know shes mad , she'll slam doors, stomp around, and throw **** everyone til you ask her what's wrong & it'll be over the most pettiest s*** ever! i have a job & school that take most of my time. if i don't help her sell on ebay on her time, shell will go crazy on me like i said. i have to drop everything for her right then & there like i don't have a life of my own! she'll say how i don't help her (i always help when i can) she'll even threaten suicide that everyone hates her ect ect . she has lost it! she seems like she can never be alone too, that's how much she needs attention. if talk to her about like let's say my boyfriend didn't text for an hour. if me and her get into a fight she will bring it up that i'm annoying gross person that even my boyfriend doesn't text me! she goes the lowest of the low! i could go on and on but at this point i'm just venting. is she a narcassist or what?

Me and my sister had a nasty falling out shortly after my mom's passing. She has returned my holiday cards, and asked me to not contact her or my niece after a string of nasty, blaming text messages, sent from various numbers, and an email listing my parents name as the title followed by an insulting email message. How do I explain to family members that I do not wish to be apart of such a toxic relationship?

They don't get along as her sister is a narcissist and they don't like each other. However, for family events they say hi and not much else once or twice a year. Does estrangement have to mean never speak again?

I don't know for sure but suspect it.

They're both grown in their 20s now but I hate when I go over tot their places and they're high sometimes they act so laid back like about everything and laugh all the time. their spouses do it too it bothers me I'm scared but problem is it's legal cause we live in California. so I don't know what to do, I hate it so much the kids are going to be pot heads. they may start even when they have kids, don't want my grandkids to be like that. that stuff will cause demonic possession too