My wife just started crying really hard for no reason. I asked her what's wrong she said nothing. She's very upset. How can I calm her down ?

My fiance and I have been dating for 6 years, and engaged for about 2 years (we are taking our time getting married but we just bought a house together last year). I do love him and dont have any second thoughts about marrying him. But he is so annoying. Hes really needy and he complains a lot that I don't cook very good ( I really hate cooking). He always wants to watch tv and cuddle (which is cool but sometimes i need some fresh air, and he never ever wants to do anything outside and be active). I talk to him about the stuff that irritaes me but the convo is always like "well thats who i am so if u dont like it thats too bad" He also complains a lot that I dont have a lot of friends. That kind of hurts my feelings b/c he says it in a derogatory way like theres somethign wrong with me, but I know the reason I dont have any friends is because my career is extremely demanding of my time (im an actuary and currently taking exams for my fellowship). He just hurts me and irritates me and sometimes doesnt give me enough space. Is this the kind of crap everyone goes through? IMO its better than having a terrible secret like cheating-- at least everything is out in the open. But on a scale of 1 to 10 how much should I expect to feel upset about my relationship 6 years in ?

leaving children at home so they can go out sleeping around amounts to child neglect. those mothers should be arrested and their children taken away and placed in foster homes.

She had the flu last month but has been better for over two weeks now but I really don't want to get sick. Is it wrong that I won't french kiss her? I also dont want my kids to get sick so therefore I don't want to get sick. Im not really into french kissing her anyways.

I mean, there are always brand new 18 year olds coming on to the scene with smoking hot bodies. Once a woman reaches 35 she should be retired to the mountains for the remainder of her life.

My husband is an over the road trucker. He is rarely home. When he is home, he claims that my demanding behavior causes him to be addicted to social media, playing on his phone, obsessively planning gigs with his band, buying band equipment, and talking about his band. He also will talk on the phone to his friends and ignores the kids and I. I am lacking emotional attention from him. We have been married for nearly a decade and have only been on a handful of dates (band gigs come first). He claims he doesnt owe me any attention since I am a terrible person (he claims). I have joined several dating sites with the intention of just chatting, not actually meeting anyone. I hardly talk to people, but I have made it clear that I am in an unhappy marriage. He claims me being a member of these sites is grounds of divorce. What is right? I must say he was unfaithful via talking to and doing inappropriate things via webcam with a woman online a few years ago (which he claims was my fault because I provoked him into it)

I'm not attempting to question your love for your significant other but I don't understand how an open relationship can be built on trust and love. If your husband or wife can't satisfy you in a certain way...why bother staying with them. Wouldn't it make the situation more dysfunctional...objectifying the person you're seeing (gf/bf) while making your husband/wife jealous? How do you separate the relationship? Thanks!

Ok so I went to the family court for my county, filed for the divorce, and days later I got my papers back in the mail with a docket number (I think that's what it's called). My ex lives in FL. What exactly is my next step in this long and annoying process of a divorce? Any advice helps thanks!

They want a tired overworked woman to meet at home after they both come home stressed out from work? Lmao.

When I was 22 I dated a man for 6 months who was in the military, he rushed the relationship very fast, asking me if I wanted to marry him. Being young & immature I said no, I wasn't ready, even though I did love him. I broke up with him & a few months later regret my decision, beg for him back, only to realize he's already engaged to his ex. We had an argument, lots of hurtful words said, he rubbed his happiness in my face and said he'd take care of her forever and how I can basically F off. They get married, I don't hear from him for 2 years. In Oct. 2017 he texts me & says "I owe you an apology. I'm getting a divorce, I already signed the papers. I rushed into this marriage & I blew it." I was excited to hear from him again so I called him & we talked, agreed to meet on a Wed. That Wednesday rolls around, I text him "I forgot to ask you, do you have any kids now?" He says "I have a 3 month old." Shocked, I said "Wow." He said "I feel like a failure, I'm trying to learn to be happy again." I said "I don't know if I can handle you having a kid with her." He said "Ok I get that." I said "I'm excited to see you again so lets just talk about this in person." He then cancels the date saying "I'm going through a lot right now and its not fair to do this to you. I'll let u know when a good time to meet is." I said "Ok just let me know." He said "I will I promise." Havent heard from him in 3months. Am I right to not text him first and continue waiting?

I'm childfree, i want to marry someday, but i never want kids.

Ok so my ex of a year and a half dumped me right before thanksgiving via text because he claimed our relationship "ran its course" and he was incapable in relationships right now and he needed to find himself again and its better for him to be single" anyways it crushed me cause he was my first love even tho we were on and off for a year and a half we had great times went on vacations , he showed me off to his whole family and at one point he told me i was the one and we almost moved in together anyways so i asked him after a month of him not explaining how things really went wrong i said "hey did you leave me over things lacking in our sex life ? or did i fail to do other things i just hope i did everything to keep us together thats all i wanted " and he responded with " it wasnt sex or anything you didnt do in particular, Im just a complicated person and it simply just didnt work. I hope that gives you some clarity to move on" so exactly what was he trying to say? he's 32 & divorced and im 23 and i feel like a used piece of young a$$ now and like he sold me a dream so was he really just saying he got tired of me? I Almost feel like if i would have let him it raw he would have stayed with me but i was just too scared of getting pregnant by a man who wasnt madly in love with me.... he use to tell me that i wasnt on his "maturity level" and i needed to grow up when i said things he didnt agree with and would also make fun of the fact that i would always make him use a condom (im not on birth control) and didnt want to get pregnant and we broke up on our anniversary in august (he cursed me out at a bar) then we got back together a month later and he never told his family he were back together & didnt want me around his family anymore like he use to before we broke up

And keeping my family financially stable evidently she was still a little upset today about the things we talked about and I told her and stress to her it will be okay and I'm doing all need to do as a man to keep a stable and to make her happy and she text me back. HMMMMMMAKAY what do you think she meant by that

Over this past year, my girlfriend has opted for a more masculine look. Her attire is more masculine, she cut her hair shorter, ditched contact lenses, and started keeping her nails shorter. She was quite feminine prior to last year. Honestly, it's making me less attracted to her, to the point where I can't get hard. We're in our mid 30s, and we've been dating for 3 years. Our relationship is otherwise great, so I really don't plan to end the relationship because of this. I also don't intend to tell her how to manage her body. That's not right. But I also can't control what I am and am not attracted to. What can I do here?

Would you consider these behaviors normal for a married man towards a female friend? A lot of the time when I appear upset on Facebook, he'll say silly things or post silly gifs to put a smile on my face/make me laugh. I was upset over a guy and posted "I deserve the best, right?!" and he commented with a gif of an actress making a heart with her hands. He often comments on my posts with great advice or opinions, but I don't see him do that to any other mutual friends. He barely seems to pay any attention to mutual friends' posts. When we used to work together, he'd flirt with me A LOT! Complimenting me (calling me "awesome" and saying I'm "the best"), intense eye contact (one time it was so intense that I was like "what?" and he looked away); whenever there was a group of us, I was the only one he really talked to. He seems overprotective of me when it comes to me talking about guys..for instance, I was chatting with a guy my friend works with and I asked my friend about him and my friend was saying how sketchy the guy is or one time I posted saying that a potential partner would have to meet 7 specific people in my life and get their approval before I'd date them and my friend goes "who are the other six besides me? :) :) :) " When I mentioned not knowing how I'd pay for my birthday dinner, he said if he could make it, he'd pay for mine. He never hesitates to give me rides (I don't have a license at the moment), even if it means we'll be alone. On my birthday, he left me the longest birthday post I got, implying that I make him laugh and smile and that I encourage him. Yesterday, my mother and I went to lunch with him and his family and another family and at first, when we all met up, I didn't acknowledge him and I was standing there and he walked by and flirtatiously ran into me and I flirtatiously pushed him back and he started laughing. Also, at lunch, he chose to sit across from me and chat with me, rather than sit with his wife. Are these behaviors normal for a married man towards his female friend? Also, one time we had just gotten into his car and the piece that opens his sunroof fell onto the floor in between my legs and without hesitation, he reached his arm in between my legs and reached down to retrieve the piece and we didn't acknowledge it, but I'm sure we both felt weird about it lol! J, what do you think isn't "normal" behavior? Anon.,he has said to me and only me, that his wife complains sometimes about when he gets home from work or that she never seems to listen to him. I don't think he would've reached down in between my legs to get a car piece if his wife was around, but who knows? LOL! Once when we worked together, I was standing in front of a counter and he needed to put this box down under the counter and I was in the way and instead of saying "excuse me",he kept poking me in the crotch with the box's corner.

Been married for many years and I used to suspect that my husband was talking about me behind my back.to his family because they were always asking nosey questuons that I felt were none of their business. And I wo jk ld always ask my husband if he was discussing our personal businrss and he always said no. Well the other day we went to visit a relative of his and the telative just started talking about oir daughter as if she was in the room and mentioning personal details. I said nothing. But when we got home I asked him how the relative knew since it was just between he and I. First off On the auiet ride home he knew I was simmering. Tghen when i basicly told him that im not stupod he stated that he had been talking. I was furious. This upsst me so bad to the point where im contemplating moving on with my life ..alone. I feel like im sleeping with the enemy. His attitude is like..just get over it. But...im a very private person snd dont like being betrayerd like tbhis. Help please.

She used to come see me 3-4 times a week. Now its much less. I have only seen her once this week because she has been working and roads are bad. She also had some car problems. When she did have a free evening she chose to spend it shopping, getting groceries, getting her washing machines fixed and doing housework instead of coming over. Granted I only come see her at her place once a week if that for a couple hours but I have a young son(he is 9) to look after and I also have to spend time with my mother who is 65. Why won't my gf put in more effort to come over anymore?

You can't have it both ways. Most people with good jobs are at work a lot and aren't home as much. Those who are at home a lot aren't making good money usually. Why do people complain about this?

Ok my husband is a new driver ,he pulls up the the light really slowly and we are going slow in the middle of the road and when i say something he says i am victimizing him or critizing him ,i am just saying he need s to move up nicely . When I drive it is w w 3 with his critizing . I dont get it ? What would you do ,shut up and not say a word ?

There is nothing going on. But she texts him sometimes and I know about it but he doesn't tell me about it. He has a password on his phone.. and yes I snoop. Once bitten twice shy. Why be stupid.. ok? I met her once before we got married and it was obvious they had their own language and I was not part of it. I admit I am extremely jealous and I also know that if I am overly jealous I could potentially lose him. He has admitted to me (long time ago) that he thought she was very beautiful. He has also admitted to me that there were problems in her marriage. He is suppose to go and look at her house in the next few weeks (he is a backyard home repair). Do I have reason to worry or am I blowing this all out of proportion. Yes he knows that I am jealous and yes he knows that I am against him going but he claims there are friends and there is nothing going on. My beef is.. why then does he hide her texts? Why does he act like a school boy when he gets off the phone from her? Yes he tells me when they talk and its always when he is not at home. I cannot say that he always tells me but he does say from time to time that he talked to her. I guess I find it hard to swallow that if he knows I am against this "relationship" then why does he not just drop it? I would for him. Sometimes I think he just does not "get it" and he is a very smart man. PS.. we are in our 40's. Can anyone explain any of this. Am I totally wrong?

On November 27, 2010 my son was born. me and my wife adopted a new born baby. We adopted him on the day he was born and that is the day that everything changed. The day we brought him home she has hated him. She always says that she thinks he's going to grow up to be gay and she says that she thinks he's ugly. I think he's handsome. My wife is always screaming out "11/27/2010!!!" which is his birthday. I am starting to think she is crazy. Me and her always wanted kids but she can't have kids so we adopted and now she hates him. She is always telling me that she wants nothing to do with him. She says that he's not perfect. Her and him don't talk anymore. I am basically his only parent. I try to make sure he has a good life by buying him whatever he wants. For Christmas I bought him a cellphone, an iPhone X. And my wife went crazy. She took the box away from me. I got it back and gave it to him, but I thought he can just use it for games which is fine. What should I do? Should I divorce her? I think something might actually be wrong with her. I cry everyday because of this. My son is 7-years-old now and she still hates him for all of these years. I'm not trolling, I know this seems really unreal but unfortunately it is. I am looking for real answers please. I am at a loss here.

i'm 15 almost 16 and I want a baby I want to be a young mom I don't to start in my 30s that's kinda too late what can I do I want to start young I don't even have a relationship that sucks I hope I'm lucky and get pregnant fast

The engagement period was 9 months. I love her. She still doesn't love yet but she's really like me and feels good with me. We have been married for three weeks but not yet have sex because every time I try she gets so scared even though I do a lot of foreplay like kissing and licking and other things. What do I do? 😫😫

Everyone knows about the girl my husband loved and wanted to marry but unfortunately she married someone else and he was heartbroken... This story made me sad, i feel he isnt happy with me and she was always the girl he wanted. he has been truthful about it to me. But i have always kept my crushes a secret. Why do i cry thinking that everyone knows he had strong feelings for this girl n all his friends know it? Im so sad, please help

My husband is 24 years older than me. I'm 25 he is 49. I'm starting to feel unhappy and feel more acted to younger guys. Is this normal?

What are some signs that a marriage is not salvageable? I've known my husband for over 20 years and have been married for 14 years. We have two children. He travels for work. He's a Merchant Mariner. When he came back recently in August, he seemed different. We've been arguing more and it seems everything I do he criticizes me. We often would go to a movie and/or take walks. He started doing his own thing and would drop off our kids and then be gone all day long until it's time to pick up our children from school. When I ask him where he goes and what he's doing all day he gets annoyed and will retort with "what do you do all day?" I'm a stay at home mom full time. I worked full time before I had children. He has asked me if I ever think of going back to working but I tell him that I'm happy being a full time Mom. He stopped giving me hugs and kisses. He doesn't give me any affection. In his text messages he used to always preface it with "Honey" and end his texts or emails with "Love, ______". But now he just addresses me by my name and doesn't say "Love, ____". He turned 47 recently. Could this be a mid life crisis or can someone you've known so long just fall out of love? I'm get quite discouraged and sad about the way my husband ignores me and withholds affection. Any advise would be appreciated.

We were arguing and he said he is not attracted to me anymore. We made up and he apologized, but that is sticking with me. We don't have sex as often and sometime he will have an erection when we start out and then when I get on top, he loses the erection. What do you think about all of it?

My husband is my only friend. I have no desire or interest in making other friends. I have no desire to have children. I have cut ties with my parents because they abused me badly. But I have deep love with my husband. I have a job that I love and have a trusting relationship with my bosses. I have hobbies that I love and enjoy. So I'm fully satisfied with my life and I am truly happy. Do you think I'm weird? FYI, my husband doesn't mind at all. He only wishes what makes me happy the most. He has his own social life and his friends are dying to see me but I decline and he doesn't care. Also, I'm prepared for the time my husband passes. Even then, I'd rather live all by myself than being bothered by someone I don't care the less about. I'm already filled up with all the love I will ever need in my life. It's like I have enough savings for life. That's how big and deep my husband's love to me is. I did a bit of researching on the Internet, and I think I am just simpy a loner who just happens to prefer being alone, except for my huxband. I also learned that being a loner isn't a bad thing. According to wiki, being a loner is depicted as a positive personality trait, as indicative of being independent and responsible. So I'm going to conclude that I am not weird, I'm just an independnet responsible loner. And I am totally happy with it. Thanks to you guys who have made positive comments.

I ve been married for 10 years , My husband and I have had problems through out our marriage. A lot of infidelity between the both of us. For the last three years I have been talking to my bff from Jr High school. Whom i fell in love with, He know how i feel and understand that im married. He was always there for me , he understood how i felt. He was there to comfort me. He gave companionship, love that ive asked my husband for over the years. My thing is my friend know everything about my marriage, my life, job just everything. I recently found out that my bff had a fiance and didnt tell me. I asked him and he got angry at me for asking. He tells me he really loves me and that he trust me. But didnt trust me enough to tell me about his fiance. To make a loooong story short. I told my bff that I ve decided to work on my marriage. My husband and i agreed to go to counseling. But my bff is pissed. Cause i told him im working on my marriage.Did i make the right decisions cutting him off?

Your wife talks about your marital problems with a male friend of hers. You are discussed in a negative way and the male friend, who does not know you, also talks bad about you to her. Would you be ok with this?

I told my wife smoking or me. It went from 1 or 2 a day to about 7-8 a day. What makes it worse is that her breath smells and so does she. She knows how much it makes me sick but her addiction is too great. I have tried to overcome but with the crap we go through, staying with her smoking is not worth it. I can't give her the physical love throughout the day or be around her because it makes me sick. Then she cries about me not loving on her and when I tell her why she gets defensive. I have thought about if I'm a shallow man. I've thought about how much I really loved her. I've thought about am I myself willing to walk away. All of these which put me deep in thought for years. I can't deal with that the rest of my life. So I told her me or the smoking. Because she's not willing to quit then she too is willing to break up the family. Neither one of us are wrong am I'm not going to put it all on her. I just know I can't do it. We have 1 infant together. I know I'll be a distant father but staying for my son is worse than leaving. I even tried to comp on bj''s with her as she thinks it's disgusting to do. I told her 2wice a week and i won't complain. She wouldnt hold her end of the deal. Can't get it once a month without a fight.

People say to wait and that there's so much you should do before getting married. But I don't see why getting married will stop you from bettering yourself or being able to travel or other things. I mean having kids will definitely change things but I'm just talking about getting married.

Unless his wife likes cooking and actually enjoys it won't she make and expect him to do all the cooking from now on and cook all the meals from now on ? I like cooking experimenting in the kitchen and am a way better cook than my wife who's just a novice but I don't want her pushing all the cooking on to me and I don't want to do all the cooking in the house

I don't want my husband to date, kiss or sex my best friend when I die. Why? because I know he would like it too much and forget about me.

They are childless and in order to spend time with you they have to drive to your place to see you as you always have your kids (from your previous marriage) you blame your spouse for not spending enough time together but they work and when they have free time they have to come and see you as it is never the other way around. You do not work but have three kids from your previous marriage while are always with you as their father never takes them more than an hour here and there. What do you do?

My husband and I just got married a month ago, and my sister and I are vacationing alone. Husband isn't happy. He always checks up on me and asks if im having fun and calls me to tell me good night or good morning, but his tone is like "How could you leave me here for 8 days?" Do you think I did my husband wrong? ***** Also, we are vacationing in Colombia and going to cities he believes are dangerous. He tells me not to go there but I insist on going and I tell him it's very safe and that im gonna be using my common sense.. He isn't liking that I'm not taking his advice. ***** HE couldnt go with me because he has work.

I am watching TV and a "therapist" is on saying that if cheating or an affair happens it isn't done and can be saved. I say no way. What do you think?

My husband had told of his first love that he wanted to get married to but she got engaged to someone else n it was too late to tell her. He has been honest to me and i appreciate it. But, he has few pictures of them in his laptop n i tear up everytime i see them together. My husband likes long nails n asked me to grow my nails out. She also had super long nails n now im thinking maybe he liked them first n wants me to be like her? Should i ask this to him? I have done this asking regarding other attributes of her n i try to be like her n i also told him i look so much like her n he gets ANNOYED when i say this n we had worst arguments n i found out this long nails when i just lurked through his laptop. Ours is an arranged marriage n i have told him that i love him but he doesnt say by his own first. He says back when i say him that i love him. Im crying n i dont know how to be strong. What is my problem? Please help me out.

I used to be on Instagram a lot, it really bothered my husband and we always got into huge fights. So I cut back, I stopped going on Instagram during family time and that wasn t enough so I even cut back as much as only going on it at night time while I lay in bed. Then he got really upset, because he said why do I need to be on it in bed? We already made love and I took care of his needs, the kids are in bed and I m not tired, so why TF does he still get mad if I m on Instagram, even in my down time? So I feel like I have to sneak to be on Instagram, like when I sit on the toilet bowl, then he came in and got upset, so now I don t take my phone in the bathroom with me anymore. This is very annoying and I m so over it, I feel like I can t even be myself, the only time I can go on Instagram is when I m traveling home because that s like my only free time apart from him and the kids. What do I do? Is this worth splitting up? He said to choose him and the kids or the internet. Is he wrong?

I'm not bad looking, never cheated on my wife. I always provided for her and I always loved her with care. When ever there is something broken in the house I'm the one that fixes and I also fix our cars. Together we have 4 children. I'm 54 years old and my wife is 52 years old. This doesn't make any sense. My wife looks hot for her age. But she has always dress quite modest. She usually stays at home and runs her own restaurant. We were both a virgin on our wedding night. This all happened our weekend at New Orleans. I can't believe this, there were some kids selling weed. They seem to be black, mixed and white. They were talking to my wife like a piece of meat. I was mad and I said something back but this punk kids threaten me with a knife. I saw them a day later and I tried to hide the other way. Meanwhile my wife walked. One of the kids this black guy who was 6'4 all muscle and extremely dark was flirting with my wife. I saw my wife hesitant but before I knew it the guy was guiding her to a motel. My wife had sex with this 25 year old guy.