Family: Question: Does the world need a no child policy?

Question: Does the world need a no child policy?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 01:27 PM PST

to solve the problem of overpopulation and global warming

Question: I got cought��?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 01:09 PM PST

Ok so i smoked a ciggie and went up next ti the fam and my uncle was there and i was kissing his cheeks to like greet him and all and he didnt bother to kiss me back and i think he smelled my breath, and mind you we are very very close and like he would bite me and stuff but i mover back and made w joke and laughed and said " you didnt even kiss me back" he looked at me for like 2 minutes and then turned his heas towards my dad and said lets go inside and have ciggie i have a feeling his gonna told my dad and im crazy scared. What shoukd i do???? And if my dad or uncle confronts me what should i say. And im not tellling the truth because my dad can bash me. Anyone have ideas on what to say if he tries confronting me. Please help

Question: Is it okay for a 12 year old girl to play with 6 year olds during recess and lunch?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:53 PM PST

My autistic daughter goes to a K-7 grade school. These small children seem to love her but I worry about when she's in high school. The kids her age don't bother with her or are too much drama. I know she is a great kid and all of her younger friends look up to her. As a tween, she has little concern with her clothes, boys, and "mature" interests. She would rather be a child on the playground.

Question: To move or not to move?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:31 PM PST

Ever since I was a teenager, I have had my entire life figured out. I planned to go to college and get a job teaching at my old High School. I would get married to my then boyfriend, now fiance. We would have children, and I would hire my mother to babysit them while I was working, at least until they were old enough to go to school. Then, my fiance mentioned his desire to move back to Washington, where he has lived his entire life. I have lived in Rhode Island my entire life. My family is here, my friends are here, my church is here. I couldn't imagine moving across the country and leaving everything behind. His dad and stepmom live here with his two siblings, which is how I met him as a teen. We knew that our goal was marriage, so he moved here for college. He has family here, I encouraged my friends to reach out to him and become friends with him, and he has obviously made his own friends too. Both of us have things here for us, whereas in Washington, it is only him who will be benefiting. I know that I will be miserable if we end up moving. I have always been very close to my family. I would be so heart broken if I had to leave them. Same thing with all of my life long friends. I am so lost on what to do. Please give me advice/ solutions on how to solve this problem and to come up with a solution.

Question: Worried about my dad becoming homeless? How can I help him?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:22 PM PST

My dad has a masters degree and a law degree, he made 65,000 when I was growing up and got 100,000 from his grandmothers death so we were well off, but my mom is really mentally ill and cant hold down a job at all. Shes never worked in over 20years which puts a lot of pressure on my dad financially. Me and my sister are both 19 and live with my parents still. My twin sister has schizophrenia so she gets disability every month and Im in college so I work and get FAFSA Over the past 4years weve been homeless, then he made 70,000 one year, then we were homeless again, now hes making 55,000. As a family we literally had to drop our lives and move to another place just to survive. My dad has depression and its pretty much the reason he goes from homeless to working. Im moving out next year and im really worried about him becoming homeless because im not there to support him through his depression and dealing with my mom . What do I do ?

Question: Why is my dad such a lazy piece of ****?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 11:11 AM PST

He is very lazy, dirty and stupid. He won't allow my mom to bring guests, and is very egotistical. He will claim to know about all these things, but if he were really that good he wouldn't be where he is today. The other day, my mom asked him to wash the toilet. He hasn't washed it since the day we moved into the house. Plus he uses that washroom more than anyone. He went ballistic and everything became like WWIII. He's all the bad things rolled into one. The only positive thing about him is that he can cook and doesn't give a **** what other people thinks. My mom doesn't have the balls to divorce him because she doesn't want to be lonely.

Question: Should I stay or should I move out?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 10:06 AM PST

I live with my grandmother, siblings, and my mother. I m 22, I ve lived on my own for a year due to college but I moved back to my grandmothers house for a year and a half due to changing to a job that was far from my previous job. My grandmother is a verbally and mentally abusive person and my family can t stand to live here so they re moving out this month. At first I was supposed to leave with them until I got my own house in a few months but now my mother doesn t want me to go with her and my siblings so my grandma isn t lonely. She doesn t want my grandmother to leave any water or gas on, get depressed, or one day we find her on the floor dead. I don t want to live here, I don t want to stay in this house. It makes me depressed, I keep thinking of my deceased grandfather, and my grandma is mean, conniving actually, and it s also gross becauss there are roaches and mice. I don t understand why I m being forced to live here, I m 22 and have money saved. I shouldn t have to. I m having such a hard time making a decision though. What do you think about this situation? Am I cruel to want to leave? I feel bad about it. She li be alone since my grandfather passed, that s why the family is forcing me to stay.

Question: Do I owe my dad anything ?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 09:25 AM PST

I'm 27 Married and my dad lives with us He's 58 and doesn't work or anything he causes a lot of drama for no reason and expects me to pay for him and take care of him , he's not disabled or anything but do I in fact owe him anything ?

Question: How does one deal with excessive constant nagging?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:50 AM PST

I'm 23 and me and my son are living with my mom right now due to certain situations and she NAGS and nags and nags about the pettiest of things it's awful, it stresses me out everyday it depresses me and angers me someone please give advice on how to let a person's constant nagging go in one ear and out the other! PLEASE

Question: I have a lot of cousins I see many times a year. Then I have two I seldom see. Does this mean those to are 2nd rate family?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:28 AM PST

The two I seldom see don't come around as their mother doesn't get along with the family. So I have only seen those two cousins on two occasions in the last five years.

Question: My Mom does not like it when my brother's wife and their kids visit. She doesn't really like the wife. Does this mean she dislikes her son?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:26 AM PST

I am sure she loves my brother but does this mean she dislikes him since she doesn't like it when he visits and dislikes his wife. She doesn't mind their three kids but doesn't make an effort to get close or be a grandparent either. She is simply nice when she sees them. Not sure if she even sends birthday cards. When they came for Thanksgiving my mother wanted to put them in a hotel cause she didn't want them at the house the whole weekend nor did my sister who my Mom is best friends with. I find it all disturbing as they are family and should not be disliked even if they talk a lot (the wife is a talker) and have a hyperactive daughter (ADHD daughter). The ADHD daughter is why my sister dislikes being around them.

Question: My uncle is an alcoholic. Is it normal his kids don't want to be around him much because of it?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 08:26 AM PST

Question: Why do my parents refuse to kick out my 25 year old sister who does absolutely nothing in life just because she allegedly has agoraphobia?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:34 AM PST

Question: I hate my mom she treats me like a slave?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:21 AM PST

I just have to listen to her, and I can never go to my friends because she says she is better and I have to be just with her cuase she is my MOM and I need just listen to her, I never go out like NEVER just to school like it been years since I went out I'm just getting so sick I can't take it anymore she acts like she is a queen and she is the best person EVER, the thing is I know I can't do anything about it, I just HATE HER SO MUCH

Question: My Mom does not like it when my brother's wife and their kids visit. She doesn't really like the wife. Does this mean she dislikes her son?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:11 AM PST

I am sure she loves my brother but does this mean she dislikes him since she doesn't like it when he visits and dislikes his wife. She doesn't mind their three kids but doesn't make an effort to get close or be a grandparent either. She is simply nice when she sees them. Not sure if she even sends birthday cards. When they came for Thanksgiving my mother wanted to put them in a hotel cause she didn't want them at the house the whole weekend nor did my sister who my Mom is best friends with. I find it all disturbing as they are family and should not be disliked even if they talk a lot (the wife is a talker) and have a hyperactive daughter (ADHD daughter). The ADHD daughter is why my sister dislikes being around them.

Question: My mother informed me my uncle is an alcoholic again. How do I confirm this?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:05 AM PST

He went to rehab year before last and then was sober Christmas before last. We didn't see him this past holiday season but saw him at a funeral Thursday and he looked god awful health wise. The funeral was a cousin of theirs so not close family. My mother said it is that he is drinking again along with his wife. His wife has always been a mild alcoholic but the uncle became full pledged alcoholic. His children staged an intervention in early 2016 after a scene at Christmas 2015. Now he is back to being alcoholic I am told but I am afraid to believe all 2nd hand things and my Mom is known to lie by assumption sometimes (not intentionally). So how do I confirm he is alcoholic since I likely won't see him again until next summer.

Question: My sister and aunt are both bullies to people in the family. Is it best to ignore adult bullies and avoid them or is confronting the best?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 07:01 AM PST

My brother has already said he will never speak to our aunt again after what she did to his daughter (called her ugly and overweight over a misunderstanding). My sister was enabled by our parents to become like this. Not sure what happened to the aunt other then her divorce in 2001 made her a bully ever since.

Question: My cousin bullies me for having a late birthday?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 06:57 AM PST

Me and my cousin were both born in 2003 but in different months. My cousins birthday is on February 18th and my birthday is on October 23rd. How can I get him to stop bullying me for that? It's so annoying!!!

Question: Do you think that 28 is too old for your mom to still be Yelling at you ?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 05:27 AM PST

Question: I'm so depressed?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 04:50 AM PST

I hate being out in the real world people are so mean and just so rude the reason why I quit working because my boss kept telling me that people asking him is she a man or woman she has no teeth on both sides it really does hurt me a lot because it's true people ask me all the time I'm 33 years old and I quit working now I just stay at home and it's just depressing yes I have no teeth on both sides and I'm older now I have no kids never had a boyfriend before and I don't know what to do I went to therapy but she is not a help at all my mother is not a help she tells me just stay in the house my father is not in my life

Question: Would you hug your sister if she asked you?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 04:18 AM PST

Question: Husband lied about his daughter not sure what do?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 03:59 AM PST

My husband kept a secret from me. When I met him he was a homeless drunk and a war vet a few weeks ago his niece moved in and here's the kicker she's not his niece she's his daughter. Her mom is a prostitute(now in jail) which I'm not judging I used to be one and from what I understand her mom despite her poor choices is a good mom. My husband is an alcoholic but he's been sober for years and from what I understand when he was with my step daughter's mom he was abusive. My step daughter is troubled I knew it the moment I met her she has PTSD just like her dad except her PTSD stems from his abuse. I have learned she has when I'm not around(before my husband fessed up) attempted to goad him into being being violent. She's even tried getting him to drink when I think she did these things to test him I think she thinks he hasn't changed and is putting on an act. I'm not angry with her I'm angry with him he should have told me. I am making sure we see a professional and I like my step daughter she's good with my kids (her half siblings) I just want to make sure my husband understands I'm not entirely okay with his lies. I just need him to understand his actions have consequences I'm not leaving him but I want him to know I'm not okay with what he did. At the same time I want to connect with my step daughter but she's very angry and defensive towards adults I think she only trusts her mom and I think she somewhat fears me and her dad. She acts tough but I think she's afraid.

Question: Parents don't feed me anymore?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 01:24 AM PST

I am 19 years old and recently transferred from a university to a community college and now my parents don't feed me because they were used to me being away. I have a job (I make minimum wage) and I have to keep wasting almost all of my money on food because they wont buy any food. My mom doesn't have a job and my dad just doesn't care. I'll tell him that I'm hungry and he'll yell at me saying there is food and that I need to stop being annoying. The only thing there actually is to eat is some junk food and eggs (which i don't like eggs) and when I say I don't like eggs my dad just yells at me to stop being annoying. I was complaining today to my dad about it, and he didn't even look at me or say a word. Also, my dad makes plenty of money. We are not poor but he ACTS like we are even though he flies out to Cali, Mexico, Las Vegas a couple times a year. The best part is, is that he doesn't even tell me that he is going on these vacations. He has left us multiple times this past year (4 times) without even giving us a dime (my mom doesn't have a job) and he just does not care. If I need money for anything (even school related), he will become very angry and complain that I have a job but can't pay for it. Please don't tell me to talk to my dad because never in my life has he ever listened to me or cared about any of my problems. I am tired of working just to spend all of my money on food only because my parents won't feed me. I also am afraid that is my only option.

Question: How to ask my dad about getting a door?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:54 AM PST

How to ask my Dad about getting a door? I live with my grandma, my dad and his girlfriend. I'm 14 and I want to get a door for a couple reasons. 1) I want to keep it shut when I'm trying to study or sleep (because everyone else in the house is up until like 4 am and the floors squeak so it's pretty loud) 2) because I want to shut it while I open a window because of the smell of smoke in the house. I don't know why but I can't work up the courage to tell him without feeling like I'm going to offend him, his gf, or my grandma due to the fact that they are why it smells like smoke all the time. My grandma goes to smoke outside but she goes through my room, out the backdoor and when she comes back in my whole room smells like smoke

Question: My sister beat me up, and is mad over a prank?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:33 AM PST

My sister and I have had a pretty close and good relationship for years. i am 13 and a bit fat for my age. she's 16 and has blonde hair and plays volleyball so basically she's in good shape. I didn't think this would ever happen. She was getting very furious seeing as she was holding the remote and constantly turning it back on, just to have me turn it back off in a few seconds. and keep in mind that she has never shown any aggressive signs against me and usally just brushes it of and laughs when i prank her. Moments later she sprinted up the stairs and came into my room and said that she was sick of my sh*t, and that she wasn't putting up with it anymore. She then approached me and grabbed me by my shoulders and threw me on the ground. I was shocked because she's never been physical with me. I was telling her that I was sorry and wouldn't do it again, but I guess that wasn't enough for her. She then started punching me in the arms (My blocks were useless) and stomach until I was crying trying to ball up so I was less vulnerable. Once she felt satisfied with her beating, she slapped me once on the face and said that I was "her little b*tch now". I was freaking out and just laid there crying, not sure of what I could even do. She then left my room and slammed my door shut. idk what to do my sister is was stronger than me and were both alone home since my parents are on vacation. i just don't get why she became so mad she acted like a completely different person.

Question: What to do when you can't afford to move out on your own?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:22 AM PST

I'm a single mother with a 6 year old son. I've lived with his father and an ex in the past, but have since lived with my parents as living on my own has not been financially possible for me. I make $1080 a month, and the cheapest place I can find close enough to work (which is 30 minutes away) is $800 a month. This will only leave me with $200 for food/gas/misc necessities/electric. My parents are kicking me out of the house at the end of summer. I understand they want me to be on my own (and I want to be on my own), but I seriously can't afford it. I've thought about section 8 housing, but the wait list is insane and it typically takes people a year before they finally get in somewhere. I'm currently also in school, but will likely have to drop out, as I will have to go on food stamps in order to survive, and I won't be able to get food stamps while I am receiving financial aid. Finding a room mate when you have a child is next to impossible and I understand why. I'm just at a loss right now at what to do. His father does not give me child support and will be moving out of state, leaving me with having my son during the school year. Not only this, but I will likely have to pay for child care, as it seems that my mother is also no longer going to babysit for me. I'm just at a loss right now.

Question: How to ask my Dad about getting a door?

Posted: 20 Jan 2018 12:21 AM PST

I live with my grandma, my dad and his girlfriend. I'm 14 and I want to get a door for a couple reasons. 1) I want to keep it shut when I'm trying to study or sleep (because everyone else in the house is up until like 4 am and the floors squeak so it's pretty loud) 2) because I want to shut it while I open a window because of the smell of smoke in the house. My grandma goes to smoke outside but she goes through my room, out the backdoor and when she comes back in my whole room smells like smoke.

Question: Should I apologize to my sister (18) because she started crying after I mocked her stutter?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 10:09 PM PST

Question: Why does my father treat me and my little sister diffrentlh (im 24, she’s 19)?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 09:34 PM PST

Ive noticed that when I tell him something that is factual he wont agree with me at all vs if it was my sister who said the same thing he Would agree! But just because its coming from my mouth he wont believe it. Also they look more like eachother and I look more like my mom. Why is he so weird against me? Shouldnt the kids of somebody be treated equally? This is just one thing theres plenty of stuff he does that he doesnt do to my sis

Question: I'm genuinely worried I'm might turn out like my parents to my future kids.?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 09:09 PM PST

I was grown up in a upper-middle class household so we didn't have any issues with money. But with that, parents expect a lot of **** from you, and with that there's serious emotional abuse that really affects you psychologically. After a fight, I'd always tell my mom I would never treat my children like this. And she always says: That's what I told my mother too. I mean, my relationship with my parents got considerably better since then. A lot less screaming, less cursing, and less other things I'd rather not mention. But I can't seem to get what she said out of my mind. I'm noticing how I react to certain situation and the similarity to how my parents would have reacted to the situation is uncanny (bad temper, emotionally driven, serious attachment to past actions, etc.). I guess I'm just afraid I'll end up emotionally abusive like them. Like how does this cycle of emotional abuse break? Have any of you parents become the "cycle breaker" typa thing? How?

Question: Sometimes I hate my family?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 08:19 PM PST

My family gets on my nerves. A lot. Different reasons, but first, my mom is very judgemental of other people that she's never talked to of met or heard about. She see's them - makes her inferences and never bothers to think about what they might be going through, and speaks negatively about them. People that are homeless are much talked about. Abortions are horrible. Victims of sexual abuse that didn't come forward until years after the harm are scoffed upon in our household. When I tried to tell her I was depressed, she ignored it and said I'm just sad, and I'll get over it eventually. Continuing, my dad has a very short temper, and is very "traditional". No long hair or ear peircings on guys, 2nd amendment, one god and one god only, all that jazz. Yeah not to happy when I told him I was an athiest, and probably won't be to happy when I tell him I'm gay. My brother is a homophobic, racist, reneck wannabe who always make hateful jokes aimed toward gay people, says the n word, and wants a truck with the Confederate flag on it. Says it's "southern pride" and not a hate symbol. Not to mention he's also a Trump supporter with his very own hat. Even has a mullet to compliment it. Overall my family is the cliche conservative family They always treat me like a little kid - and I get that I'm only 13 years old - but it gets annoying when people assume you don't understand anything just because of a number. Just how can I deal with them until I can move out, far far away?

Question: Please help me, my son is a little jerk bully?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 07:16 PM PST

He says the meanest things, saying it s gross I wear shorts in public as do his sister, half sister and half brother who is only 12. He torments his sisters with wait jokes and saying they re ugly. I always discipline him. . It got bad enough after work they had his mouth taped and locked him in the bathroom. I think they got a grown kick in cause he s still crying. Is there anything I could do to stop this

Question: My dad beats my little sister with a belt, charging cord, or wooden stick almost daily. What do I do?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 07:16 PM PST

He even shoves her between two walls in the basement and leaves her there all night. He sometimes hurts me and my other siblings, but never as bad as her. Recently, he has been burning her with a hot knife and fork. She has red dots all over body. He also use to make her overeat, which caused her bad problems with her weight and the way she looks. She now is super skinny. I am very worried about her and I don't know what to do.

Question: How do you cope with the likelihood that your parent will die early?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 07:12 PM PST

My dad has sleep apnea, type-2 diabetes, both likely brought on by his obesity. Although he wears a CPAP for the sleep apnea, he refuses to lose weight or eat healthy. I legitimately believe he will die before his time, and I'm only a teenager. I cannot convince him to change his lifestyle. I often get irrationally angry at him at other, small things because I'm frustrated that he doesn't seem to care at all. My mom is not in great shape either, and that just adds to my anxiety. How do I cope with this impending feeling of doom? How do I prepare myself to potentially have to deal with losing a father at a young age? He also very clearly has anger management issues. And given his race, he has an increased risk of circulatory problems. It just pains me that I'll be going about my day after interacting with him, and how there's such a high likelihood that he won't wake up in the next. I feel helpless. I'm scared I won't be there when it happens, that I won't be there to help him and try to save him. My uncle died unexpectedly a couple of years ago and left behind three children, and ever since then this fear has been heightened.

Question: My sister is looking for a job that she can be a stay at home mom to be there for her new baby and still bring in full wages??? Any Ideas?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 05:50 PM PST

Question: Is it possible to travel to another city if i am only 17?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 05:16 PM PST

So i live with my parents, i stay at home most of the time and i am SICK of it So i want to do something for my self and try to break the routine. And there is an awesome city i always wanted to visit and it is pretty close to my homeand i would love to visit Maybe i could spend two or three days there Also i want to do something different because from the amount if sitting at home and not talking to any body my parents think i am a total loser. Like seriously i haven't left home from 2 weeks ajd the furthest place i went to was the grocery store I have some money saved with me, and i will have a 2 week vacation from school. So do you think i should go for it and not waste my time at home, or is that all a fantasy?

Question: My mom has been so supportive of me during such a difficult time lately. What is something special I can do for her?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 05:07 PM PST

I've been battling depression for the past few months and my parents - especially my mom - has been so wonderfully supportive of me. She's picked up the phone every time I've called, even at the most inconvenient times, and talked to me for as long as I needed to talk. She is such a wonderful mom and I want to do something special for her to show her how much I appreciate her. My dad has been great too, I want them both to know how much I love them, what can I do? It doesn't need to be anything extravagant, it just needs to be heartfelt. Thanks for your suggestions.

Question: Grandma wants her granddaughters?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 03:57 PM PST

My sons girlfriend will not let me see my granddaughters. They have been together for 4 years and things have changed so much, my son doesn't come to family functions anymore, I barely hear from him and he doesn't even speak to his only brother. My family has never got to meet the only grandchildren of the family. I've tried to reach out to them and they both just ignore me. My heart is in so much pain it causes my so much anxiety. I just want to be able to see and spend time with my son again. I want to be able to be a grandmother to my granddaughters, life is too short tomorrow isn't promised she's depriving my family and my granddaughters of so much. She controls his life and I wish he would just open his eyes and realize it. Im hoping someone has answers, I've been suffering for so long. What can i do to get passed the evil in my sons girlfriend and see my granddaughters

Question: Know any good intersex names?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 03:41 PM PST

Question: I just found out my husband's dad is not his father. His dad and mom are divorced, but both are close to him. Should I tell him?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 03:26 PM PST

Question: Ex & I argue in front our son?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 03:21 PM PST

He's 6. She & I decided on joint custody so that we could both be in his life, but our parenting styles are very different. She prefers to be his friend, no rules, no boundaries. I try and instill at least a few. The fighting comes in when she does something I ask her not to, I.e, loading him up on soda and candy at a movie so he comes back to my place super hyper. In the heat of these moments we fight and forget he's standing right there, but both feel awful afterwards. Obviously this is the wrong way to handle things. What can we do differently?

Question: My Mom was evil when I was a kid but as an adult I like her. How do I let go of my hate for what she did to me as a kid?

Posted: 19 Jan 2018 02:00 PM PST

I think parenting stresses made her evil and now she is relaxed as a mother of 3 adults instead of 3 kids. Plus our Dad who she divorced and then alienated us from has died so she is not as bitter. For a time she was bitter that I loved my Dad as I reconnected with him as a teen and broke free of the chains my mother had me in holding me back cause of her evil ways. So as her 34 year old son I am starting to like her again and have a son so I want him to know and like her. How do I forgive her evil as she is not evil anymore but still has no remorse for what she did to me as a kid.