I made a relationship with a distant part of my Dad's family. Since I am into genealogy I got to know them and go to their reunion each summer. This summer their reunion is the same day as my grandmother's 85th on my Mom's side. If the family has something special for my grandmother's 85th I feel like I should go as a grandmother comes before 2nd and 3rd cousins. Yet, I feel so disappointed to be missing the reunion. How do I get over the disappointment if this happens? I am bad with emotions so that is why I am asking.

He hates me so much cause I did not get a scholarship to this high school he attended. He says I am dumb and lazy and my dyslexia is an excuse to be a failure. He also said my mother should have listened to him and worn protection so they wouldn't have me. I have told him I never want to see him or speak to him again and the police will be called if I do. Now I feel depressed. It is just my Mom and I as my brothers won't talk to me either (parents are divorced). My Dad's family won't talk to me and I was ignored for my birthday. My Mom's parents have died so I have no family but her. I am 15 and alone and depressed. I have no one but my Mom. How do I get my Dad not to hate me so much? I hate him also with passion but if he changes I am willing to forgive. I miss having siblings and extended family. I am so lonely. I have Mom and that is all.

If you're son done something bad in school such as poor grades, putting feet on the desk, sometimes clowning around in class wasting the teachers time ,or maybe watching an r rated movie at 13, I do this in steps, Mumble names to him constantly after hitting him in the face such as stupid kid. Shut up stupid kid pfft. Crazy. Everyone thinks you're psycho and that reflex on me. Shut up. Just shut up. What if he pleas and yells stop? I also him in the face, and tell him to his face to just shut up I said. Shut up kid pfft. Ill talk if I want to kid. Stupid kid. Ugly. You're ugly. That's why girls at school don't like you. You're ugly and nasty. He says no he's not and he gets another slap and I tell him to shut up. Well you are to me abd if I say you are then you are. Then I call him a fat slob if he snacks.

My ex girlfriend is having my son this summer. We are no longer together but I plan on being at the hospital and in it's life so I want it to have my last name. She wants it to have her last name just like her two other kids, which are by two different guys that aren't in their lives. Who has the final say-so in this situation?

Stepparents, adoptive, and foster parents are more likely to abuse children according to statistics. I'm not saying that birth parents are never abusive because that's definitely not true. But I'm saying that abuse might happen a bit more in children with parents that aren't biologically related.

It's great to have a child to love, but something unfortunate likely happened as a result to not having birth parents. They might've died or couldn't take care of a baby. Darker reasons could be that they were abusive or a young teenage girl was sexually abused.

In highschool i dated a gal all senior year. We graduated and broke up. we lasted a year and broke up mainly because of her actions being flirty. 3 years passed and i haven't gotten over her. I added her on social media and we began to talk/flirt. No bull i invited her out like 3-5 times and all times she played busy. I began to move on and began to talk/flirt with other women. My ex found out and got mad at the girls and me. Soon enough she unfollowed me on social media. I have tried texting her like 10 times and all times she's ignored me. She also won't believe me i still got feelings for her. She keeps calling me bull. Was i wrong to move on or should i have waited???? our break up was bad i think she's still hurt over what happened.

I don't really feel like my dad was ever really involved in my childhood, and my mom even quoted him saying once that "she (my mom) wanted this baby, so she gets to take care of me while he goes to work." or something along those lines. Quite a rude remark, and not really sounding like he wants a kid again. I never really remember him taking the time to play with me, and he was always "too busy". He also has quite a bipolar temperament, able to take a joke one minute, then threatening to smack me in my face (never actually has, but it's still quite scary honestly, since he has gotten into a physical confrontation with me before.) I think my dad wanted to raise a soldier more than a daughter. He always has a doomsday approach to life, and has taught me that "everyone is a liar and out to get me". My maternal grandparents say that he never really was a great father figure either? He promises to do things with me, but never comes through. I understand he's a business owner, and that does take a toll on his mental state, but I truly wish he would spend more time with me, that didn't involve cleaning guns/talking about knives. He complains I spend too much time on the computer, but whenever I suggest an activity, it's always catering to what he wants, and he's pretty much unwilling to do things that I enjoy. I find myself turning to fictional people as father figures. I feel insane half the time. I wish I had a positive male role model in my life...But I don't. I need advice

My cousin is getting married to the ugliest guy in the world. He is shorter than her, hes poor, he's mean with money, he treats his mother like crap. My cousin is also ugly and she's marrying him because she's desperate and wants anyone. I don't want to get married and I don't want a boyfriend either because I just can't be bothered with a relationship. I broke up with a guy 4 months ago and I was heartbroken but am so over it now. I didn't want to marry him. So why am I so jealous? I feel painfully jealous I can't even look at them together! My eyes water with the envy.

Thought I would check on here with strangers 1st.

Before marrying me my husband bought a rebuild title. It was purchased by his step father for him with the agreement that he would pay 500 a month for it. It was fine back then because it was a decent car that ran well and did everything. However, when I moved in with his family one thing after another started breaking. We couldn't afford to have those things fixed becauae we are in the process of moving out. so in the Florida heat we've been driving around without A/C. So, I did some research and encouraged my husband to do the same, and it turns out that his step father paid $1300 for a $4000 car. He didn't bother negotiating, or even researching. He just brought it and left him with 500/month verbally agreed contract. So, recently his stepdad has given us a "break" paying off the car, so we can save up and move out fast. I tried talking to his stepdad about lowering the payments on the car so we could move out and keeo paying for the shitbox at 300 at most, that way everyone gets their money back. but he wasn't having it, he kept telling us that if we couldn't afford 500/month we should just hand the keys over right then. What would you do? Hand back the keys? or?

Where I'm from they put 8th graders in high school. There's not enough population or money for middle schools. I'm wondering if it would make any differences as the environment is not the same. The 7th graders are in the grade schools. It's a one year difference in age, but I notice how they're less influenced by older teens. When they reach high school things like swearing, rebelling, and new fashion choices begin to happen. I guess it's kind of like comparing them to 9th graders as well.

So I have a problem. Since I ve been a kid, I have been conflicted by my dad s actions. (Also I m 19 and in college, but still frightened of him) For example: 1) I have been hit by him before. 2) One time I told him, through tears, I was scared of him and he was actually shocked. 3) He has a very intimidating nature. 4) He orders me around like a maid -"Get me a soda from the fridge" - the kitchen is not even 10 feet away from where he is and he asks ME to get it for him. And if I refuse to do what he asks he will probably hit me? yell at me? I m too afraid to find out... And before you tell me that I need to change myself, understand this... I am not perfect... nobody is. But I m scared... What do I do? I love my dad, don t get me wrong. But I don t want to live like this...

Very sad story. My best friends father passed away 1 month ago with cancer. His father knew he had cancer but didn't know he was going to pass away soon because my friend didn't tell his father. His father doesn't speak english, so when the english speaking doctors told him that his dad had 3 months to live, he decided not to inform his dad that he only had 3 months to live but decided that he wanted his father to be at peace in his final days living without worry. The family knew that the father was going to pass away, but everyone kept it from him. In his final moments, his father was so drugged up with morphine, that he didn't even know he was in his final moments of life. Now my friend is living not only with the grief of his father's death, but also with the guilt that he didn't inform his father that he was actually going to die from the cancer. My friend is now so grief and guilt stricken that he has become a hermit not wanting to leave his home or see his friends.

She is 26 and was pregnant with her first child. I did not force an abortion, I gave her the idea and choice to make it since I saw that the man she was dealing with from what I heard was telling her to abort the baby. He seemed like he didn't want it. Now she's crying blaming me. I don't want kids in my house. I told her she can move out if she wanted to keep it. Shes 26 and has no college degree so I was afraid the weight will come to me. Now she's not talking to me and shes still with that guy who told her to get an abortion. She defends him and blames me because she claims I'm her Mother and was supposed to help. but hello, I don't want to raise my kid's kid. I'm 57. She claims I "manipulated" her and that I forced myself on her while she was in a vulnerable state to make a decision. She is not talking to me doesn't even come out in the room. Now she's in college though she said this taught her a lesson she cant depend on anyone. How do I deal with this.

I recently moved overseas and it suddenly hit me that I may not be there when my parents die. It has caused panic attacks, anxiety, crying fits and regrets about ever moving. My mother is very sick and elderly so it was a concern before I left but didn't think about how bad it would hit me until a couple of weeks after leaving. Its causing problems in my marriage with my wife blaming herself for the move even though I assure her it has nothing to do with her but is my own doing.

I've been struggling lately and decided to drop my pride and apply for SNAP. I told my mom not to tell my sister cause my sister would than make fun of me (she has EBT). My sister and I do not have the best relationship. I don't even consider her to be my sister considering the amount of items she stole for me to get money. The lady called my house phone while I was at work and my sister answered. The lady I assumed must've revealed herself to be a SNAP worker. 20 minutes ago my mom asked my sister did some lady call for me and my sister replied yes and said she (the worker) was rude. My mom the says out loud "Jas, these people aren't the nicest people. So when she calls tomorrow say you only want your snap!" I was so mad cause I'm a private person and I didn't want my sister to find out that I signed up for snap.

I used to be 19. My year long gf left to college. I tried having sex with her many MULTIPLE times BUT she told me she was a virgin and wanted to wait. We didn't break up until she was 3 months deep into college then she broke up with me. Out of nowhere a year later she tried to get back into my life. We went on a date after a year break up. On this date i asked her if she dated anyone? she said "nothing serious". She claimed to be a virgin since day one so i was curious to ask how far she got in the dates?. She then wouldn't answer it and kept quite/hush mode. She then began to speed walk to get away from me/ignore my question. i must be honest she comes from a good family college educated vs me living in the ghetto. so in other words i think i messed up big time. After this day she broke up with me completely. A year later today after this breakup we just started talking all over again. Right away off the bat she said "you just want to bang me be honest but your not so don't bother". Could she still be a virgin today? we are 21 today. It does not add up. It could also be she's tired of men using her for sex idk you tell me!.

I'm 15, and have a 16 year old brother. He thinks everything is dirty, like touching our hands. Yes, he refuses to touch my parents hands becayse according to him, it's not clean. Doesn't want to touch our little 7 year old brother's hand, washes his hand like every 10 mins. And he even has his own plate, fork, spoon he bought because to him, the one our family uses is dirty. Despite how many times we wash it. I could go on forever, but just tired. Is this an illness? If yes what is it called?

I need some advice on a personal problem, I'm 22 and since I was 8 my mom has been dating this guy named John. Now he's a great guy, hes been in my life more than my own Dad. The problem is that he drinks alot, he's never been able to keep a job because of his drinking. Hes sober for a month, and later he falls back and gets drunk. This has been going on since he began living with us when I was 8, my mom gets frustrated mostly because he doesn't pay any bills. My mom has him living at home for free, so he doesn't have any responsibilities. Hes been arrested for drinking and driving many times, but when he's seiner my mom acts like nothing happened. This is a cycle that's been going for the past 14 years, he's not violent but it's annoying. Can I get advice on this situation?????? *When he's sober *

I recently found out that my mom is pregnant. She'll be 49 this year. The father is the 27 year old she's been with for 6 years now. He's a good guy and I think he'll be a great dad with bringing up the baby (heck of a lot better than my dad) but I think my mom is too old to be having a baby. Apparently they planned this for a long time too! I don't mean any disrespect to my mom, of course, but how can she be having another kid at her age?! She'll be in her '60s by the time that baby is 18! I was talking to my grandmother about it and although she was surprised, she said only when you're no longer able to bear children is when you're too old but I don't know. What do you think? How old is too old to have kids?

Since I will be 16 tomorrow, my birthday gift from my mom is increasing my TV time to 2 hours. But it's not enough! I want 3 hours a day. What should I do? Also, I can watch TV in my room, but my mom says I must keep my door open, and that stinks.

I live in the poorest area of the city so we barely have resources. My mom works full time and I don't see her around that much. Kids at my school are into drugs and even fight with the teachers. The physical stuff is really brutal and it gets violent. We can't afford homeschool or send me to a better one. My mom called school once and they said they'll deal with the girls but it keep goes on. I complained a lot but they do nothing. I can't call and ask for more help because I barely have wifi at home (this is my friend's house I'm typing from). One time a girl wouldn't let me come home unless I lie to a cop that my family abuses me. It took me a while to get away from them. Most people say tell the teacher, get my parents, or call a hot-line but that's usually not available when you live in "ghetto" neighborhood and everyone can act this way

My mum's in critical condition, I'm 16 years old and from what I've heard (Admittedly I'm quite pessimistic) I think she's going to die. I'm very sad that my mum's not going to be able to do things she was very looking forward to doing that are coming up in just a few days. For example, my brother's graduating from the navy and my sister's birthday. Also I'm unsure how I'll react if she dies, I've been crying when I see her but I still often make jokes around the day. I'm scared I'll be extremely sad if she goes. Also, I want to tell people what's happening in my life for some reason (the main reason I'm writing this).

Mom blames me for it cause I am the only son and have been unable to get him to get help. She says he is sick and I should know to fix him since I am stable. I can't make him do what he won't and he denies drinking. I go to Al Anon but is there anything else? My mother hates Al Anon cause she says I can fix it and yet that is not true. He has been this way for over a decade. I am 22 and left college to fix my Dad. I am stuck here. Mom is mad at me today cause I didn't leave work to try to confront my Dad about his drinking but then I lose my job. What do I do? Do I just leave and run away and never see my family again? Cace: I am 22

Please, can you help me? I want to watch TV, but my mom only lets me watch for 90 minutes max per day.

In my immediate family it is my sister. No one likes her, not even our parents. They love her and will never admit to not liking her but she is terrible in every way except she is pretty. It used to be my older brother when I was little but he did a 360 change and got his act together and is wonderful now. In the extended family on my Dad's side there is no scapegoat. Everyone gets along well. On my Mom's side it is my uncle (her only brother). He is mean to his wife and kids as well as the two grandkids he has. He drinks too much and was lazy in his employment taking advantage of his father's favors. He also committed a crime when a teen (drug related) and went on probation. He is the blacksheep and scapegoat so when something bad happens like when my grandfather died last May we turned it into gossip about the uncle and how he took advantage of his father and how lit he was at the funeral reception. So who is the scapegoat in your family? Also why? Lastly, does it rotate every few years?