Family: Question: How do I get my Dad to stop smoking cause my Mom says he will die of lung cancer if he keeps smoking. I am scared?

Question: How do I get my Dad to stop smoking cause my Mom says he will die of lung cancer if he keeps smoking. I am scared?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 01:58 PM PST

Question: My Mom's aunt died and she would not let me go to the funeral cause she didn't care about that part of her family. Was this cruel to do?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 01:46 PM PST

I feel bad because I feel I was disloyal as my other cousins went to the funeral. My mother did not respond when I offered to go and she went but reluctantly. This great aunt I only remember meeting on two occasions so she was not close family. She had been disliked as well by most the family cause she was so mean to her children when they were young. Yet, since she was family I thought I was supposed to go and my cousins who only met her the one time attended. I now feel like I was cruel not to push my Mom to let me go more and that my Mom was cruel to not want me to go cause of old family bitterness. Like I said it was not a close family member so it is not like I am personally grieving her death or anything and she did sound bitter like my Mom but to more of an extreme. However, was I cruel not to go and was my Mom cruel not to want me to go? It was after school on a half-day so school attendance was not an issue.

Question: My mom calling me stupid still bothers me. Any advice?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 12:37 PM PST

Question: Help getting out of a difficult family situation!!?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 12:15 PM PST

I feel stuck. I've been taking care of my little sister for the past 4 years but we live with my mom whom is unfit to care for her. But she receives food stamps and section 8 housing for us. My dad is probably never going to file for custody even though he knows my mom is unfit. I don't know what to do. I can take my drivers test soon for my license, but I don't have a job. Any suggestions?

Question: What if your parents weren’t your parents?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 12:03 PM PST

So with the dna genealogy craze lately I wonder could the results of this test indicate whether your parents are actually your parents? My mother had a test done years ago when the technology was still new and I've been thinking of having one done recently too. But what if nothing on my report matches hers? I know it's not a maternity/paternity test but I've always secretly wondered if I was switched at birth or something. I don't look anything like anyone in my family, and even when I was very young (like kindergarten age) I didn't feel like I belonged to my family. Any advice on this and what home dna test would be best for me?

Question: My daughters father is lying to my daughter....however is it worth it to call him out to her?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 11:20 AM PST

I was a teen mother and the dad of my child left. When his parents found out they sent him to Australia to live with his grandparents to keep him from quitting school. He never contacted her and occasionally sent a birthday card or Christmas gift. Now 16 years later his life is straight and wants to get to know her. She tried at first but she says she doesn't want to get to know him. She friended him on Facebook as well as her siblings. So I am trying to encourage her to give him a chance. Her anger stems from seeing the facebook pages of her siblings and how happy they are with their father and as he is way better off then us this upsets her. But I have really tried to work hard to provide for her and she knows that. She is extremely smart. Last night she talked to him on Skype. She basically point blank asked him why he basically abandoned her. His answer was it wasn't his choice. "You mom didn't want to have anything to do with me because I cheated on her" This is a lie. That is not what happened at all. However, she actually started trying and even made plans to talk to him and her siblings this weekend. She hasn't asked me anything about it yet. But I know she will. Do I let her believe that if it helps?

Question: What to do about alcoholic/pot head Brother in law?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 10:06 AM PST

He s making us miserable. My husband and I are staying in his mother s house (about to start paying rent) and her other son (my brother in law, who I ll refer to as the Iguana) is literally the worst housemate you could imagine. He s inconsiderate, high all the time, drunk all night every night after work, messy as all get out, and their mother is enabling him. We actively want to pay rent, while the Iguana wants to smoke pot and have his mommy take care of him. Things came to a head this morning when I confronted him about leaving more dishes in the sink (I ve been cleaning his dishes for a week solid and keeping the kitchen spotless because I can t stand the mess anymore). He screamed at me, got in my face and called me a "b!+(#" repeatedly. I started yelling back to stand up for myself and my husband had to drag me back downstairs. He takes no responsibility for anything he does, and just kept saying "Nobody asked you to clean up after me" between shouting expletives. I am at a loss. After this morning, I ve seriously considered putting in an anonymous tip to the police department about his drug use. The only thing holding me back is that would just make his mother upset, and she already had to pay his DUI bills, so she d probably end up paying for the weed possesion charges too. I m feeling so trapped. Seriously, what should I do? Besides moving out, because that won t be an option.

Question: Ok so my parents got a divorce a 2 years ago and I haven't told anyone not even my closest friends not even my girlfriend?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 09:42 AM PST

Ok so my parents got a divorce a 2 years ago and I haven't told anyone not even my closest friends not even my girlfriend but lately it's been kinda difficult to keep trying to tell myself that nothing is wrong what do I do?

Question: Theres this guy at school who wont stop hitting on my cousin. idk what to do?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 09:31 AM PST

so me and my cousin kenny go to the same high school and were in the same class for spanish. but theres this guy who sits at our table who wont stop hitting on my cousin. every day we see him he compliments kenny for every little thing and tries to show off to him. it wouldnt be such a problem but the thing is he always insults me and kenny doesnt like him because of that. i tried telling him to f uck off once and he accused me of incest (wtf!) and whenever kenny tells him to go away he brushes it off like its a joke. we tried getting the teacher to change the seating chart but shes a jerk and she didnt think we had a good enough reason. we really want this guy to stay away from us. what can we do

Question: Why did my mother in law do this to me?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 09:28 AM PST

So my mother in law is really rude to me. I was cooking dinner and I put in so much hard work and when dinner was being served she took a bite and spat it out. And she slammed her plate on the table and left to go into her room. The next day the delivery person came. Which was a guy and I opened the door and she said why you talking to random guys "you prostitue" she said. Im mad any tips on how to handle this camly.

Question: Why would my sister snitch on me for smokeing weed I’m 15 she’s 16 she smokes and drinks but the only problem i have is she?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 08:22 AM PST

Snitched on me and told my grandparents like why and now I have to go to treatment I don't find this fair one bit all I do is smoke weed she ******* does it to and I can't get myself to snitch on her to I think it will just cause more stuff but what do I do I don't want to go at all like I really do not want to go what do I do

Question: Why Do I Feel This Way?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 08:12 AM PST

I feel like I fear being loved? I never really experienced it before... my parents divorced when I was 2, my stepmother whos been in my life for 9 years hates me so I'm not really close with any family anymore, my mom has an abusive second husband, and my ex abused me emotionally and mentally.... now I'm with a new guy and I have this deep, intense feeling at times... it feels like electricity in an uncomfortable way all throughout my torso. I used to feel that when my mom or dad said they loved me. now it's with my new boyfriend. at random. sometimes I'm fine and chill other times I can't even think about him. is it me and my past? is it because of him? maybe I know he isn't the right one or something? help????

Question: Do you excel with criticism or praise or both?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 07:44 AM PST

Question: Why is my mom so strange?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 06:11 AM PST

If our dog barks at people, she feels embarrassed. She even feels embarrassed to buy beer and needs me to do it for her? She's 46 for God's sake. And this is America.

Question: My rather has a round face .I look nothing like my parents .My angles,my eyes,my cheekbones...My grades...Like I m not their child.?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 04:57 AM PST

Question: Is this rape? Just need some advice too scared to tell anyone. 2nd time asking?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 04:52 AM PST

I'm 16 and last week I was at a party... and my bestfriend(guy) said at the start of the party"D(my name) is so ******* hot I wanna bang her so bad,I'll **** the life out of her" I got nervous when I heard that,I'm a virgin,it's the first time I ever got scared of him.When the party ended he took me home because he promised my dad. We sat in the car and it took him 30 sec to be on top of me.I screamed he started kissing my lips so I would shut up, he started talking off my shirt,he opened the button of my jeans I started feeling pain I wanted to scream but his mouth was covering mine.As he keept on going he could tell I was in pain and all he said was -baby let me finish I'm almost done, I'll take you home after this.and gave me a tissue when he was done. -why the hell are you crying?You asked for it,why did you get all touchy with me today?Stop worrying I won't let anyone know. All I said was- you're right I shouldn't have hugged you and kissed you on the cheek. -you brought this upon yourself. He dropped me off and says:I promised your dad I'll get you home by midnight we're late I'll walk you in and apologize play along. He walked me in,my dad opened.my dad and J dad are friends since school,my dad likes J I haven't told anyone about this,I don't want to get J in trouble.I'm embarrassed to tell my dad, my dad is a drill instructor I'm scared of his reaction I'm not going to the police, I know J is not a bad person if I tell my older brothers they will have to tell our dad

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic and my Mom says I need to fix this as the oldest son. How do I fix him when he refuses it?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 04:44 AM PST

My Mom keeps getting mad at me for not having fixed it but she won't get mad at him.

Question: Is it possible to love more your best friend than your parents?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 02:40 AM PST

My parents are depressed because they cannot find a job and our economic and familiar situation sucks (the government dont help us to pay rent in mold house although we are very poor and my mom's job is not enough, plus my family sucks, my grandma for instance never loved me, she always treated me different than my male cousins, with less affection, although I deserved it better since we are really poor). We are excluded from everything because of our ethnicity (I live in Italy and here they hate my nationality, the kids in class used to tell me not to sing the hymn and insulted me and my family really bad) and in all this I found by my side only my male best friend who escaped from war in the 90s. We've been friends since the beginning of 2000, I love him so much because he was like a bigger brother to me and always helped me and protected me. I will never forget when in the bus accident he protected me and not himself, he hold me tight so I wouldnt fall. I love him so much sometimes I think he's more perfect than my parents and knows what its best for me. Are my feeling wrong or biased cause I love him?

Question: Is missing a funeral disrespectful?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 12:52 AM PST

My stepdad in NC has been in my life since I was 4 years old. I don't live out there anymore.

Question: My daughter is dating one of my acquaintances, a man who's closer to my age than to hers, am I wrong for being upset?

Posted: 18 Jan 2018 12:30 AM PST

I'm 38 and I know a 31 year old man. I wouldn't exactly call this guy my friend just because I don't know him all that well, but I run in the same circles as him, have done business with him a couple of times, etc.. My 20 year old daughter casually met him a couple of months ago because he dropped by my office when she was there. They shook hands, introduced themselves to each other, and I didn't think anything of it. Well, fast forward a couple of months, and my daughter tells me that she's DATING THIS GUY; a man who's only 7 years younger than me but 11 years older than her, therefore closer to my age than to hers. He's my ACQUAINTANCE, an adult who I've done business with, and my daughter is basically still a child. I'm so weirded out by this situation, I can't get over it, but my wife is trying to convince me that it's no big deal

Question: Have you ever traveled with your cats litter box in the car while traveling with your cat?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 10:43 PM PST

Question: How do I tell my step dad he is verbally and emotionally abusing my mom?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 10:35 PM PST

Question: Help!!! My brother bullies me at school?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 10:28 PM PST

Me and my twin go to school together, we are in 10th grade and he bullies me at school. He is known as the popular cool brother and I am known as the weird loser brother. I don't have any friends at school, I used to hang out with my brother and his friends back in middle school but now they won't talk to me anymore because they say I'm weird and now I'm all alone at nutrition and at lunch and I don't have any friends at all. My brother has a lot of friends, he is in a clique with a lot of people. I always go hide in the bathroom during lunch because I'm too embarrassed to be seen alone. When my brother does see me he always trips me, hits me, he calls me gay which I'm not. I hate this. I'm tired of being the weird brother. I have social anxiety and depression now. What should I do? My parents won't help and I don't want to get him in trouble because he's my brother.

Question: My mom makes fun of me?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 07:57 PM PST

my mom always laughs at me, she laughs at my clothes/style, my acne, my weight. most people say to brush it off, but it happens constantly and it makes me insecure and shy. anytime i do or say anything, she has to tell her friends or the rest of my family. a lot of the time i lack confidence and show my insecureness. i can't talk because she never listens.

Question: How do I tell my family I've been sleeping with my first cousin for years?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 07:50 PM PST

She's pregnant.

Question: My mom throw away expensive watch during cleaning..?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 07:34 PM PST

My mom lives with us. Sometimes she likes cleaning. I always tell her not to because my husband I take care of the house and it is never dirty, but she anyway like when it is super duper clean. The problem is that it becomes a habit for her to threw away expensive stuff (by accident of course). The first time she throw away a huge bag with decoration stuff from AC moore which was sitting in the chair in the basement. Now she throw away several hundred dollars japanese watch that I bought for my husband. The box was on the dining table because I was about to return the watch back to the mall and get another model he likes more. When I ask her just not to touch anything and not to clean she gets offended. I mean these accidents cost a lot. Total waste that went to trash ( and got picked up by a garbage truck) is around $500. I just needed to share...

Question: If you witnessed your granny licking the inside of the cookie jar would you tell another family member?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 07:05 PM PST

Question: How do i convince my parents to let me join band? ASAP?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 06:56 PM PST

Question: How do i convince my parents to let me join band? ASAP?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 06:51 PM PST

Question: How do I convince my parents to join band ASAP?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 06:45 PM PST

Question: Why does some of my family still have their Christmas lights up when Christmas is long over?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 06:33 PM PST

Question: Is there a way to runaway from home and not be found?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 05:30 PM PST

I'm a 15 year old from a major city and there's tons of options. My mom will never get me, she never has, not even when I was just 12. That was the age when this all started and I felt that way ever since. The cops always manage to find those other kids who started living somewhere else. I know how to keep myself safe. There's small jobs that hire people my age and I will try my very best to get more educated.

Question: How do I deal with homesick as a 35 year old man?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 04:26 PM PST

I got married yesterday overseas and I suddenly got hit by real bad homesickness. My parents live on the other side of the globe and they are elderly and my mother is very sick. Who knows how much time she has left. Ill be living in my wifes country. Ive never been away from my family for more than a month.

Question: Should I I tell my 86 yr old dad about my son's accident?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 04:24 PM PST

The dad is 86 years old, healthy and has a sharp mind. He and I are close although we live in different states. We talk on the phone often. My 20 yr old son, who is in college, met an accident recently where he ran over someone who is now on life support. The accident was not my son's fault. The young woman was riding her skateboard in the middle of the street at 7 PM (which was after hours). The street had no lights, and my son was driving within the speed limit. Everything has been reported to the police and insurance. Should I share this unfortunate event to my dad who I am close to or should I spare him the worries?

Question: I dont look like my father.I look like a famous killer my mom always talked about and my father told us she was sending him letters in jail.?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 04:14 PM PST

Question: How mad would you be?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 04:12 PM PST

How mad would you be if your mom said she wasn't going to get remarried for a while and then gets married in California without you knowing then says she's not going to have another kid for a while and 9 months later has a kid 🙄

Question: My mom makes fun of me for being a loner?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 04:06 PM PST

I am 14-years-old and I am a loner at school. I just started at a new school about a month ago and I came in having no friends. Everyday I just go sit in the library and use my phone. A lot of people actually do that. Lunch is 40 minutes and I just spend my time doing that, I feel comfortable doing that but my mom is bullying me for that. Whenever I come home she asks me "Have you made any friends?" I always tell her no and she calls me a loser and she laughs at me. She also yells at me. She calls me "Lonely boy" instead of my real name and it's really getting me mad and I am suicidal now. I think about dying everyday now. I prefer to be alone at school. I don't want any friends but she doesn't understand that. What should I do? I hate my life now.

Question: My great uncle died. I only met him 4 or 5 times. What do I do?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 03:30 PM PST

Question: My Mom likes to make a mountain our of a molehill over stuff. How do I know when she is really concerned and when she is lying?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 03:21 PM PST

For example, if she hears her sister was a little sarcastic with my brother then she acts as though her sister threw him down the stairs. It is family gossip she makes a mountain out of a molehill with. She'll lie but in the heat of the emotion and so does not intend to lie.

Question: Dad keeps insisting that don't want to do certain things for my future?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 02:55 PM PST

I want to work in childcare, he says that's not something I want to do in the future despite me taking classes for it at school. I want to go to community college first and then university just like my sister's bf because he got off better that way with very little debt. He says that's something that I won't want to do either. He doesn't actually try to tell me what to do with my life but he says that most of stuff i want is something that i won't do/ won't want too. Idk how to make him understand that it's kinda hurtful when he says it and makes me feel insure if i'll achieve what i want because of him *unsure

Question: Should I stop talking to my in laws?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 01:57 PM PST

I have been married to my husband for nearly a decade and have kids. My mother in law and I have never gotten along. We will go through periods where we talk or shop, but when I disagree with her or tell her I dont see eye to eye on something, she takes it as a "dig" and takes screenshots (via text) and sends them to my husband/her son to report me and get me in trouble. My husband refuses to side with me and see that his mother does this to be spiteful. The fact that I am outspoken and often direct does not matter (he claims it does). He has allowed his parents to say nasty things about me and to me and his siblings also say nasty things. A friend of mine said that if you cant get along with them, its best to block them and to cut off ties. Is this right? This friend said doing this will keep me out of trouble. My husband forces me to visit them when they have in the past said they do not want me at their house (they deny this). A few months ago his mother laid into me for hours on the phone calling me names like liar (when she was the one lying the entire time), threatening me, etc and my husband as always joined in while I was crying and allowed it and said "you deserve it"

Question: Are these signs of passive agressive or just running away from problems?

Posted: 17 Jan 2018 01:50 PM PST

My sister and brothers say that I am passive aggressive and that i run away from my problems. In some instances when i get really frustrated or angry, I always put on my headphones and play music or I go into my car and blast music. Music and being by myself helps me calm down. , I honestly feel more calm and I always come back to the issue but whenever I do, I'm told that I am passive aggressive so I never get to resolve the issue from my pov. I only use my headphones when I am at my edge of just bursting out in pure anger and I do get physically violent. In my college mental health class, my professor said that it would be important for us to find things that let go of stress or anger and anything related to that type of thing. I found mine (music) which is why i do it to avoid those things. My siblings and my mother were going at me for an entire car ride (15 mins) and when we got home. I reached for my headphones because I was too angry to argue any more but my older brother grabbed it out of my ears and demanded a response (I wanted to take my car to school out of city but my brother and mother didn't trust me driving so far, I've had my license for 2 and a half years and I have been driving a lot!) which made me push him away. I do feel bad for pushing him but I honestly kinda don't too because of he took away. Am I what they call me? should I switch something up?