I recently got married and now pregnant . My husband lives in India and I am in USA citizen. I heard to bring him here I need 3 years of tax income which I don't have. I haven't been working for four years for my health reason. Now I am all alone here and I need him to be with me for our child. I don't know what to do. Is there any other option I have? Plz if someone knows anything plz reply. Thank you.

I am aware of the once you go black you never go back saying, but if this is true why? I am asking for honest answers here from real white women. Please no fakers. My friend and I were talking about it and we came up with our own opinions, so clear it up please. There are so many white women that will reject you just because you are not black and they will make it clear that they only go out with black guys. Why?

I've heard that if someone wants to leave you, let them. But I've also heard you should try to make your relationship work. What is the difference? When do you do what? if your partner came home tonight and says he or she wants to leave would you just say ok bye?

I'm only looking for ideas from others is why I decided to ask this question! So I'm married to my best friend. We live together in our own home and we have a daughter. Well like any couple we have issues but never like this. One of my husbands realtives moved in with us due to losing his home. It is unbearable. We have no time alone together everything we do has to involve him, he isn't helping with bills, he sits on the couch all day long, he comes with us everywhere, he only gets one check from disability a month and he spends it all but he has to car or truck and no payments. He helps out with nothing and I can't even watch tv in my living room anymore. He has a tv in his room, but he watches on the tv all day and literally helps with nothing. He doesn't clean, he doesn't pay anythjng, he doesn't even help watch my daughter while I am cleaning or doing my online college. I've told my husband he needs into government housing and I turned in an application myself for him but he can't do a thing for himself and my husband doesn't make him. Any ideas ?

what do you think?

It's been at least 5 weeks. He never touches me or initiates. We married fast and all else is well. His health is good. Nothing has changed. He's SUPER focused on his hobbies l, as am I. It was a nice thing to have in common. The most sex we had in one week was on our homeymoon 2 years ago. Otherwise it's once, twice or less a month. Already have talked to him, I don't get far. And he doesn't like oral and says it's never been his favorite and so I can't just do that to get things going.

I noticed that online dating sites has a lot of police officers, army soldiers and so on. Why do they prefer to go online on dating sites? What do you think? Sensible answers, please...

With two little kids she does bring them to day care in the morning. I always pick them up. However I get home usually an hour earlier than her. Baths, homework, feeding kids is on me. I guess I should accept it, but it frustrates me when she walks in the door and kids are already bathed. If I complain about it, it will turn into a fight. We both make good money and her job is important. Sometimes I just get frustrated. Any thoughts?

Our family went to a Bat Mitzvah for the daughter of a close friend. When the Torah is handled, all people present must stand up as an act of respect because the Torah is viewed as being very important. My teenage daughter complained of painful blisters from her dress shoes scraping the skin on her heel and she therefore remained seated and never stood up. My husband whispered to her "For your behavior, you'll be in even MORE pain when we get home. Your feet will be the LEAST of your problems." I think my husband was over the top and I don't want him physically hitting her. However, I agree her behavior was unacceptable, so HOW should my husband and I discipline her?

My Mom asked me when I was 9 if she wanted me to divorce Dad and since I was tired of Dad's older daughter being bossy I said yes. Mom left a few months later. I also liked the idea of her and I moving to Florida near my grandmother where my cousins are. She told me who asked what happened "Amanda asked me to divorce him and it wasn't going well". While I didn't ask her to I said yes when she asked me. Now I am an adult. I saw less and less of my father when he remarried and stopped traveling to Florida. He died last year and I feel so guilty I divorced my parents. He was never the same after the divorce and started drinking. I also feel like I let down his older son and daughter from his 1st marriage who I have never seen again since except at the funeral last year. How do I forgive myself for letting them divorce and ruining my Dad? I feel like he must have hated me for agreeing for my Mom to leave. I am afraid to tell my mother as she is remarried happily and might get mad at me. She says she might have divorced him eventually but relied on my word to give herself permission to. They did fight a lot and my Dad would mislead her about his work,

Why is that you don't see white women and asian men together. Is it because of the asian culture? How does the asian culture view white women? Because I am confuse I only see asian men with asian women.

Just wondering, thank you for all your help!!!

About 3 months ago my husband assigned his 20 year old daughter to vacuum our upstairs once a week. Other than handling her own washing and putting her dishes in the dishwasher (which she also doesn't do), it's her only chore and she lives here without paying room or board or for the use of my car. She really does very little to clean up after herself and imo her laziness is totally on her parents as nothing has ever been asked of her as far as I can see. She normally only does the vacuuming after being hounded for 2-3 weeks. Recently, I stopped hounding and told my husband that I feel it's disrespectful of her to expect to be waited on and that I wouldn't be doing it anymore. So I have waited for the vacuuming. It's been 3 weeks since the upstairs is vacuumed. He said that I should probably just do it since she "doesn't remember". Truly, I don't so much mind doing the vacuuming as I mind him rewarding her for ignoring this task. I don't think she's really forgetting, I think she knows that if she doesn't do it that her unpaid maid (that's me) will do it. While I absolutely am vacuuming today, i'm not sure what I want to do in the future. On one hand, I'm tired of fighting about her and think he can screw up his kids any way he likes, on the other hand, I didn't marry him to be a servant to a snotty college drop out. Am I right that letting her off the hook like this is the problem or do you think it's just not worth the effort?

I used to believe my wife was my equal but in a different way (anthropology and psychology says so) but then the social justice movements came in and told me I was wrong and she is equal but in the same way and that WE were sexist to think only girls should wear bras and only men should grow facial hair. So here we are, our beliefs were under attack and my marriage took on these new "politically correct" ideals and now my marriage doesn't work. Turns out those "sexist" ideas were the foundation of our marriage (we did have a Christian wedding after all) and now (for the last 10 years) my marriage can't function because we care too much what other people would think if they found out we were not aligned with the current majority within our age group (yes we are millennials and gen y). I want to go back to our former sexist morals and she Santa to maintain the politically correct one because it makes logical sense to her (but meanwhile her mental health has been on a major decline since she adopted these ideals and expectations so it's whatever). But I was wondering, anyone else have their marriage ruined by cognitive dissonance or having a belief change?

I will admit that I act very immature, my husband is immature as well. Maybe because we are young and married. I am 20 and he is 24. I am trying so hard to work on my marriage even though there are so many issues, these issues seem to be my fault though. I pick fights with my husband over the stupidest things, I am very over-reactive and explosive in arguments and then I cry a lot and blame him. I ignore him for days if he does something to annoy me, and I disappear with my friends when we go out and I do not tell him/ or invite him out. I am reflecting on my behavior and trying to change my ways but it's very hard. Any tips?

I was a bit of a late bloomer in life, was quiet/quirky/ugly duckling, then broke into the dating world in earnest at 29/30 when I suddenly became more attractive, had 2 girlfriends between 30-35 and many other 1-3 date experiences with women. I self-improved a lot during this phase. Now at 36, it seems women in my age group don t take me seriously, are jaded, snarky, especially the ones with divorce/kids. Some of the younger ones (like 25ish) show interest in me, but many are flaky, immature, unreliable, a waste of time for trying to pursue a real relationship. Maybe an exceptional 24yo could work, otherwise I am struggling lately to figure out exactly who are my droids, and where are they, for dating and eventually a serious, traditional relationship (Christian marriage and children)??

Shouldn't I be allowed to follow. message, etc.who I want to and shouldnt she just trust me?

Note -I have suggested & attempted to get a divorce and he refuses to move out or agree. Has threatened a court battle if I don't stay 2/him. He is a middle age man who has gone nuts. He buys thousands worth of music equip. For his band claiming it's an "investment"( and has had his old fmr. Fiddle player tell me his too). He charged hundreds of PA speakers on MY credit card and bought a mixer for audio clips, etc on pay as you go (monthly debit). He claims it's "it's his money, he can do what he wants & NO woman tells a man what to do". My family paid cash for our home and he refuses to pay the mortgage he signed for. Is this really something he Can make money with?(it sits in my living room taking up space along with his drum equipment ). We are drowning in debt and he bought more ... what can be done ?

I can always get another wife but we have two kids together. My mother and she had a fight last summer and won't speak. Christmas was hell because of it and I kept telling my wife to be the bigger person. This made her more mad. Christmas Day was a big fight in front of the kids and my mother wasn't even around. My mother had called my wife a b.tch last summer and my wife was mad originally cause my mother kept rolling her eyes if we did something with my wife's family who my mother dislikes. I already lost my father for my mother as I cut him out of my life for her and now I fear I might lose my wife for her. At the same time I can get a new wife, I don't know if I can live without my mother. Who should I pick? My wife and I had a fight this weekend when she found out I check on my mother on the way home from work each day and the wife gave me the ultimatum. I know when I tell my mother this afternoon she will be glad and want me to choose her as I'd move in with her if I get divorced. I asked the kids what they think but my 9 year old son got really upset that we might divorce. My daughter was mad about something else and didn't care. So who do I pick?

So I have been with my husband for 20 years, over half of our lives. We have been married for 13 years. I am at a point where I no longer want to be with him. There has been so much hurt and anger in our marriage that I am done. He has trust issues and is doing nothing to try and get past them. I have not cheated. We were young when we got together and I am no longer happy. I guess you could say I took those rose colored glasses off and now can see things for how they really are and the fact they are not changing. But what I am lacking is the courage to tell him. I know all heck is going to break lose when I leave him. Any advice on how to find the courage and strength to make that first step?

My husband is never into sex and when he is it seems rushed and not good. He alway says he has a headache, doesnt feel good, is tired, etc. He also likes to look at models on social media but rarely seems into me much(very little). How should I address this and what should I do about it? Im an attractive woman, in good shape, take good care of myself and often get approached by men at work, when Im out, on social media etc. but I love my husband and wish he was more into me. What should I do?

My friend had a habit of blaming her husband for never being there to back her up during the hard times, even after he paid for her Chemo therapy. Recently, she had an issue with a cop and demanded her husband to take care of it. There was an argument about what to do and she ended up saying she didn't expect his help because he has never really helped her. The husband then claimed he would give her 'all the reason to say this' as he refused to help her and told her to fix the issue alone. This provoked more of a fight but the husband ignored her and said he is tired of this 'blame game' where he is always the villain. She has threatened divorce but the husband has said 'go ahead please'. Does this mean the Husband wants a divorce? Does this mean he is ready to leave her?

i ve been with my husband a little over a year going on 2. he annoys me so much now that i m not even sure i want to be with him anymore. we had an infidelity problem a while back and also a problem with him staying out where now he s ALWAYS home it s so annoying. he s in the military so they ve been having alot of off says for the past month or 2. i should be happy he s home right? well i m not bc all he does is play video games! i m a stay at home mom with a very energetic 6 month old even though i m not working i m still exhausted by the end of the day i feel like i do everything by myself he doesn t like watching her while i nap, take a shower or even cook bc he s playing the ******* game. we never go out on the weekends i m not a big partier but can y we at least go on dates? he s so messy i can literally clean up he comes home and just takes off his clothes and leave them on the floor. he leaves trash from eating everywhere! he has a dog that lives in our apartment (which i think it s ******* disgusting) that he lets PEE everywhere! i don t even like putting my baby girl on the floor to learn to crawl bc i know there s ******* pee residue on the floor. i know this is all over the place and there s a lot more i could go on about but i m not happy anymore. just needed to vent.

Anyone who has been through this, please help! My husband and I are getting a divorce and we both have to live in the house together until it sells. Neither of us can move anywhere right now. I'm already avoiding him as much as possible. We share 1 car. I'm looking to buy one now though.

Ok, so my wife just had a baby. From sun up to sun down, she has the curtains open in every window of the house. At the moment, we live in a condo on the ground floor, which is situated right next to the stairs. Our upstairs neighbors always look in the windows when they pass by. When we're home, my wife is only in her pjs. She's always preferred natural light, but lately I've noticed that she's been leaving the curtains open a bit longer. The neighbors have a dog and the guy is outside walking him 2-3 times after we get home. Does it sound like she has a thing for him?

I was in a sexless marriage for several years before my divorce. It's been six months since my divorce and my craving for sex is driving me crazy. I feel like i should wait for a relationship to have sex, but if i'm being honest right now I don't want a relationship. I just want sex. However, I feel like I need to be a good example for my kids and wait for sex until I find the right man. On the other hand part of me feels like there's nothing wrong with exploring my sexuality and acting on my desires. What should I do? Should I wait for a relationship to have sex or is it OK for me to go ahead and have some fun now? My kids are an eleven and thirteen year old girls if that makes a difference.

It's our first Valentine's Day being married legally and I would like some ideas on what I can do for my husband since he does everything for me

I've been thinking a lot lately about asking my wife for a threesome, we've talked about it in the past, but never acted on it. I really want to see her with another man. Opinions?

So, I have been married since November, 20th 2017 to my husband. On Thanksgiving night, he decided to leave and go hang out with another woman and I was heartbroken he swears they didn t have sex, but I m not sure. My husband than lie s to me telling me he is going to hang out with one of his guy friends and it wasn t it was her now I m really heartbroken and want a divorce. What does this woman have that I don t? Also, he video chats other women and they are sometimes naked. Like what kind of man is this? I don t wear my ring and I told his mother that he broke his vows and she was very disappointed.

I'm 23 married with one kid and I find myself not liking/ not wanting sex! It's not the oh I don't want another kid thing I just don't like sex. What's wrong with me?

Wife and I both have 2 children from previous marriages. Wife wants me to pay 100% even tho she has a great career.

I am still married to the mother of my children. We live in seperate cities in Oregon. Her new boyfriend is not comfortable with me knowing where they live because he does not like me. My wife is also trying to dictate when I can see my children (one day a week).