He kept leaving me to go see his friends during the 2 days I was in labor. I was so resentful I think that s why I didn t let him hold my hand when he wanted to.

I am taking up psychology in school,and hope to one day become a mental health counselor,or addiction counselor would a guy marry a woman in the field.I need to know how guys feel.

Here's the dilemma. I'm a father of 3 kids. All boys (lucky me). All very young ages 3,2,and 2months. My wife is a stay at home mother. Now with that being said. My average work week varies between 72-84 hrs by choice. I make sure our family is well taken care of. It's been this way for a couple years. I'm starting to wonder if my abnormal work schedule is interfering with being a father. When I'm not at work I can sleep majority of the day away easy. Maybe it's time to slow down on work and cherish my family. I have mixed emotions. Any opinions?

is there any longterm effects of not having communication with anyone even family, even though you are okay with it?

My and my wife(we are immigrant on this country) was separated last one year and she is holding my child.... But, we decided to get divorce and she will be taking care of my kid.... She already signed the agreement , now, its in the process....is there any was that she can mess up again my divorce during the hearing process in court ?

Me and my wife got married on Monday night. Since we've been together she's been really obsessed with me. She loves kissing me she loves hugging and cuddling with me. Maybe a little too much. Whenever she's sad she always wants a hug. She never wants me to leave when I go to work she cries. She's mad she can't go with me. I play guitar in a band all we do is sit around and write and record songs all day which is kind of boring most of the time I think she get bored. She said she's never bored when she's with me even I get bored half the time. She misses me all day when I get home she gives me a big hug. When me and my band do a show she looses it she goes mad. She said it's not fair. I let her sit on the side and watch or let her watch from back stage with the other girls. She feels lonely when I'm not around she was bullied a lot in school she never made a lot of friends she's kind of shy around people. But the other band members wives / girlfriends are really nice. She's like me she's really shy and quiet. Does it sound like she loves me too much ? How can I help her get over her shyness ?

He is incapable of being a decent father to his kids and can only handle being around them a couple hours a week. He is incapable of taking his kids on weekends and watching them on his own for long periods of time and has either his parents or his ex wife there to help with his kids. He is very selfish but also depressed and a workaholic. He is also an addict (pills, pot, alcohol, way too much porn). The ex wife has moved on but feels bad for her ex husband and father of her kids and cares about him and is wanting him to take his kids even though he is incapable. Is this normal or should she let go and decide to move on and protect her children?

Not to be demeaning to women, but this is a fair question for most men. I've been married for 25 years and my wife was amazing looking when I met her. Size 12, curvy, and a pleasure to just see walk into the room. But when she got pregnant with our first of four, she gained over 100 pounds. She gave EVERY excuse to the cause. Cravings, needs, wants, self esteem, self pity... I made sure throughout her pregnancy to be there, be supportive, buying her an entire new wardrobe, whatever she needed, feeding her right, etc. She made it a point to eat high sodium, fast food, sweets, etc... Now, she looks just like her mother, her grandmother, her female relatives (family), and is developing the same medical issues they all have/had. When we had marriage problems, and were separated for 3 months, she lost a ton of weight expecting to be divorced and single again. Once we resolved our issues, she gained all that weight back and then some. I've NEVER been demeaning to her about it, but now, I can no longer look longingly at my wife with any want or desire. She looks like hell. So, 24 years, and 24 diet plans later, no effect and no change. Anybody else have this same issue and how did you handle it? Any reasonable and honest (not stupid) input would be greatly appreciated.

My wife used to be really nice to me, now she's just plain out rude. I work 4 in the morning tell 7 at night most days monday-Friday. I bring home a paycheck for our kids. She'll do all of our housework and complain she's sick of me never doing anything. I work a very heavy labor job, she's home with our two year old son during the day so she cleans and takes care of him and claims she's sick of always doing everything. Please help me out here. She is 39 weeks pregnant so I've wondered if that's why she's always so moody.

About 2 years ago I asked my husband to stop watching porn for me as it made me uncomfortable He agreed but I soon found that he had begun watching it again. This cycle has repeated itself seven times since then. I have begged him to stop and he continues to use porn behind my back. Obviously this has created fights and a loss of trust in our relationship. I myself now realize that I can either leave him or accept this behaviour. I love him very much and he is an amazing man as well as lover- the porn is not an addiction that I believe affects our everyday life. My question is aimed at men in the same situation as my husband- who have lied to thier wives and continued to view porn- or men who use porn in general. I am seriously baffled at why he is unable to just "give it up" ? Why is it so important to him that he continues to risk our relationship in order to use it? I am not a prude and I have 2 simple issue with porn. I believe it offers an instant gratification that can hurt a relationship. If a man is able to get off without any of the work of being intamate with his partner- eventually won't he favour the path of least resistance? Also I beleive it "cheapens" the act of sex- something that I hold sacred in my marriage. I am only naked and exposed to my husband- he would not like it if other men masturbated to me- so why is it ok for him to masterbate to other woman? I am only looking for a perspective with insight. I do not buy "all men do it" or if they didn't they would cheat. Once apon a time we didnand#92;t have internet porn and men were still able to remain monogomous. I have no insecurities about woman being prettier than me- of course there are! Human beings are attracted and turned on by the opposite sex- I don't even have an issue with strip clubs. I am hurt that he masturbates to other woman and confused by the grip it apparently has on him. I want to learn to accept this behaviour without any resentment in my heart. Can anyone shed some light on the subject? PS- We have a great sex life and I am very open to new things. The porn he is veiwing is incredibly mild and nothing that we don't already do in bed.

She shouldn't get anything.

My wife and i have been together for 3 years, we have had a wonderful marriage so far. We enjoy each others company, we go on fun dates still and make each other laugh all the time. But she just recently admitted she had an affair with a co-worker. And to make matters worse he is a colored, i never knew my wife to even associate with coloreds. We live in Birmingham Alabama so we dont see alot of coloreds around these parts. She told me his penis was as big as a night stick that the cops used to carry, she told me she felt like his penis was piercing her heart at one point. She then told me he bent her over and put it in her butt, she never has let me do that by the way. She said it hurt like hell and she screamed and cried but it felt too good to stop. She claims it was a one time thing and will never happen again, just wondering should i forgive her?

My husband never wants to be home, from the time he wakes up until late into the night hes just gone, with his friends or whoever..it makes me feel like our son and i are just an inconvenience to him, he spends little to no time with either of us, when he is at home hes just killing time until he can leave or waiting for his friends to come get him, i feel like he doesnt want to "deal" with us anymore, ive tried talking about it to find some kind of balance but it always turns into an argument, at one point i told him he had to choose what type of lifestyle he wanted, one with us family as first priority and friends comes second or one where he didnt have us at all and he could just have his friends, he told me he wouldnt pick us over his friends.. What can i do? Should i even bother anymore? Its not like i told him to drop all his friends and social life, i just asked for balance between us..i guess he chose them..so what do i do now?

So long story short we opened the relationship to a poly relationship we have our partners and each other. I don't really feel much with spouse anymore. don't really want to leave him i think i love him still. i respect him. i just don't want to be around him. or our partner anymore. I feel life would be 100X cheaper and easier with out them. I don't want a divorce tho. I don't want to have to split everything or go after half of his stuff. i don't care i don't want to put forth effort to work it out anymore i tried that no one listens. When i do open up i get criticized and told how wrong i am or i just get straight up defensive responses. so my question is how can i go on living my life with my spouse and other partner with minium contact I don't want to have sex with either of them anymore. I don't want to open up and talk to them anymore. and really free time i'd rather be alone then spend it with them. Other issues stem from this but they will confuse you..unless yoru poly!

So, I am a married woman of almost 10 years. My husband and I had a great relationship up until about 2 years ago. He became distant and emotionally unavailable in our relationship. I asked for counseling which he never accepted. After a couple of years of feeling rejected, I moved out. My husband had problems of his own which required rehab. I ve been out for about 5 months now. In the meantime I ve began talking to two additional other men both of whom I ve know for 2 years. Both of these men have developed feelings for me and I ve have also developed feelings for both of them. Fast forward to today, my husband has completed his rehab and has been clean for a little over a month and is now asking for a last chance. I still love my husband as we also have a young child together, but due to the circumstances I m not sure if I can fully trust him anymore and I will not be able to tolerate another relapse. Mind you I up and left and took nothing from my husband- not even child support. I purchased all new items for my apartment and son. I am terrified to go about my life without a two income household but I m also terrified to give another chance to someone that I may waste another two years of my life with. Both of these other guys want to pursue something with me, And I m entirely confused. Anyone been in this situation that can give me advice????

We went thru a horrible patch and tried a seperation I was so lonely and desperate for attention I went with two seperate men on a one night stand with one and stayed with other for two weeks. We are back together now and it's better, he says he didn't go with anyone else and asked me the same. I don't feel it's his business we were seperated I think he knows about the second guy who is s colleague of his but I am not telling him ,is this fair? He is a jealous type and will ask for details which would break his heart,

My husband has been deployed for 3 months and I still have quite a few to go. I can't seem to get to sleep at night cause I'm so used to him sleeping next to me. I know it's been a while but I just can't get used to it. It's starting to effect me and I have a two year old so I really need to be rested to take care of her. I've only been getting around 4 hours a night. I just can't seem to turn my brain off so to speak to get to the point where I can really sleep well. I was doing good for a while...but not anymore. Any suggestions or words of wisdom are more than welcome.

My best friend has been struggling financially due to her husband's job loss two months ago. She has been a stay at home mom for a year now because her husband's salary was enough for them to live comfortably. But since he lost his job, she says she sees no motivation on his part to find work. She, too, is now trying to find work and daycare for the little one, but she says all her husband does is play video games or watch movies. They've argued over it before and he makes promises that he doesn't keep. What can she do to get him to look for work? Also, he is collecting unemployment but it isn't near enough to cover their expenses. I'm assuming he thinks he can "ride" by on it. I can't tell you the countless arguments they've had on this subject, so personal experiences really helpful! Please no rude comments, helpful answers appreciated.

We will be at an out of town wedding so we cannot celebrate on the actual day as I would like to. With kids and a low budget I'm not sure what to do. Any idea to help me get started?

My wife was in the shower and her phone chimed, we are open and comfortable in our relationship so i grabbed her phone and read the message. It was from papa johns, funny because we hadnt ate pizza lately but i figured it was a coupon or something. Anyways, i read the message and it said "i cant wait til this weekend im going to open you up like a christmas present"? What does this mean?

2015 i caught my wife talking to a biker guy through a phone app. At the same time she started watching sons of anarchy on Netflix. When I caught on to her Cheating i quickly cancelled Netflix. I confronted her about the guy. It continued for a couple weeks before it kinda went away. I would catch her trying to comunícate. He lived far and most communication was by cell phone. We did counseling which helped. But at the 1 year mark I caught her once again trying to communicate with him. It didn t go far. A couple weeks ago I think she tried to attempt to communicate, but it looked like she didn t. Now it s been 2 years. things are slowly getting better. I still feel that the next wrong move she makes will end us forever. No more taking this for the sake of trying to make it work. I know she has wanted to finish watching season 2 of SOA and then the rest. I feel that it reminds me of what she did and makes me very uncomfortable makes my stomach turn. Am I being jealous? I m conserned she might once again be curious about the biker lifestyle and seek another guy or the same guy. In one hand I want to walk away from the marriage and stop having to deal with all of this. On the other hand I feel that I can be an adult about this and get over it. im not sure what to do. Let her watch the show?Move out?Give her the cold shoulder while she finishes all the seasons? Sleep on couch.?Divorce?Or take it like a sucker and hope for the best outcome. Advice??

Since this is what the men on GS claim. Please do NOT bring divorce into this. I'm asking about how they benefit from marriage, assuming no divorce will ever occur. If I wanted to know about the benefits of divorce, that's what I would ask.

My husband, and I were just married 3 months ago. We dated for 3 years before we got married, and sex wasn't really an issue in the beginning. We did it a lot......It seems like after the 2nd year we started having sex maybe once a month. We completely stopped having sex 6 months before our wedding...I guess I was hoping that holding off on it would make it more enjoyable..And I thought after marriage we would do it a lot more....Now we hardly do it ever! He doesn't pursue me anymore, I feel ugly, and undesirable, and I feel like he's protesting or trying to prove a point! I guess I never really pursued him before (I never really had to he always wanted me)...but I never really denied him all that much either....He says he wants me to make him feel good the way he makes me feel...He's making me feel guilty...Like this is all my fault...

Seems like everyone that age is getting married like no tomorrow. Honestly I never thought that getting married that early will last long, though it also depends on if they know what they are getting themselves into. So what is the chances of them not getting divorced?

I work 8-12 hours 5 days a week on graveyard. My fiance is not working due to her disability. While I m gone it s like she does nothing. She says she studies for her GED all day and sleeps but always says she s not ready to take her GED test and she still sleeps a full night. I m suspicious on if she invites anyone over and cheats because she doesn t even clean our home. I haven t found any evidence of another guy being there but anything I ask her to do while I m working doesn t get done. Also on my lunch I text her and most times it takes near 20 min to get a response. Any advice?

I've been married for 20 years and for the past year my husband has been looking up porn and then deleting it from the history so I can't see what he has been looking at. He has also been reading sex stories and when I found out about this he said he wasn't reading them anymore. Well I found them on his phone by accident. He said he's not reading them anymore but I'm having a hard time believing that since he lied once before. Should I be concerned?

My exwife had an affair and got 'knocked up' by her lover. Her lover was married too. My exwife divorced me and married him a month after the divorce was finalized. She has insisted that the affair is my fault and that I was not loving enough (didn't buy enough flowers, get her a 3 carat ring to replace her 2 carat ring).. Meanwhile, I was working full time, going to school, and trying to make a better life for us. All of our money was spent on three different cruises I took her for our anniversary to five different countries. She spent the last two years playing world of warcraft for more than 40 hours a week and had no job or school. I did all the housework after school/work. I admit I was a pushover but now she acts like her affair is my fault? Why can't people own up to their own problems and admit when they screwed up so we can all move on easier with our lives? Sorry I'm just venting a little. Thanks for any responses.

When we were dating she seemed great, did everything good. Now that we're married I tell her to give me head, bítch doesn't give me head. I tell that bítch to cook me my favorite food and do the laundry, she doesn't do anything but work and sleep. I've been threatening her and when I came on top of her she pushed me so I choked her and til her when I'm horny she better satisfy me. She finally gave me head but ran in a room and cried after. She's so emotional she doesn't make sense. I'm starting to wonder why I even married her.