Family: Question: My grandparents have died and I miss the family events they used to have on holidays, how do I overcome this?

Question: My grandparents have died and I miss the family events they used to have on holidays, how do I overcome this?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 01:25 PM PST

I have an apartment so I don't have a place I can host anything at plus everyone is so busy (my cousins are much younger) that it would be hard to get them together outside of maybe Thanksgiving.

Question: My sis in law adopted a dog from me. The dog ran away and she expected me to pay court fees and bailout for her?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 01:04 PM PST

Previously I wanted to give the dog away to a family of 4 but my sis in law insisted that she could adopt it. She is a very crazy and messy woman, she let the dog run away few times and finally the animal shelter people caught it. She has to go to jail and pay the fee $500 and $120 to bail out the dog. I helped her $120 for bail out and she expected me to pay $500 for me. Seriously? What do you think?

Question: I wanna travel but i have no job and no money!!!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:55 PM PST

Im turning 18 years old tomorow and i feel stuck. I dont have much of a life, I dropped out and got my GED 2 years ago, I stopped talking to all of my friends except my bestfriend. But than she moved across the country a year ago. We still talk everyday, and talk about traveling the world together, but im not so sure It will happen. Neither of us have jobs, and im the only one with a provisional (its like a drivers license) I bought my car but had to give it to my dad cause he paid for my gas and insurance so it kinda just rolled into his hands after so many months of paying it. I have $200 saved up for this day dream trip we always talk about. I know ill need more. Im just getting nervous it wont happen. Ive applied at a couple bars to be a busser and have a small bit of serving experience, but im just worried, that once i get a monthly paycheck ill end up getting anchored down by bills like my mom and dad did. Im just really scared im gonna end up having the life of my moms....she started working at bars to save up money to travel but than she got an apartment and a car and than 30 years later shes still in the same place she used to be. Im just worried cause i need to just spread my wings a little. im kinda thinking about saving like 3 hundred more dollars, than buying a bus ticket to my friends house and having us just figure it out from there. At the same time i also wanna go to college. im getiing stressed out cause i cant decide anything. does anyone have any advice? Also i've never had the chance to leave my town... maybe just moving farther away will temporarily satisfy my need of needing to see the world...

Question: Should I be the bigger person?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:50 PM PST

I had a bad fight with my mom today, although we have a bad one everyday. She started yelling and cursing at me for no reason, and of course, in the moment, I yelled and cursed back, despite not being as mean. She wouldn t even drive me to school today or pick me up. Luckily my dad could drive me today, but I walked home and saw her car in the drive-way like she was mocking me. Then I walked in and she silently glared at me. She is gone now, but before she left she asked me to "please" do the dishes. It was a very rude tone of voice cause she obviously doesn t expect me to do it. Usually in this kind of situation I would retaliate and not even think about doing the dishes, but I am starting to finally realize the better revenge would be to be the bigger person and do the unexpected. I think she just asked me to do them so that when she gets home and sees the full sink she has more to be angry about and she can justify herself more. But maybe if I do the dishes she will just leave me alone. I am going to college next year and I still feel like i m immature so i have been trying to better myself. Maybe this is the first step into adulthood for me? So, should I be the bigger person and really change who I am to be a better me, or should I just not do them?

Question: How to convince my mother to divorce my father?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:26 PM PST

I love my mother, but I don't love my father. I hate him, mostly because of the way he treats her. There are the reasons: -He demands all the money she earns, even though he has a well-paid job. She works 12 hours every day STANDING, while he is sitting in his office. He said that he wouldn't give her food if she wouldn't give him the money. -She has to beg money from him. Even for pads. I don't remember the last time she bought something for herself. -He constantly insults her. He calls her stupid, says her dinner is awful (even though it's NOT), etc. -He has a problem with her friends and family. He even threw my maternal aunt out of the house once because she stayed for 3 days, while his family stays longer. He says all her friends and family are scum, but they're not. I personally love her family more than his. He doesn't have a single friend. -He starts yelling at her as soon as he gets home. -If something bad happened, he blames her, even if there's a logical reason proving it wasn't her fault. -When I was a baby, she wanted to break free, and attempted to leave, but he told her that he would be able to kill her if she took me. -If she went to catch a coffe with a (female) friend, he makes a problem about it. How do I convince her? He's awful towards me and my sis too, but I can bear it until college, but her! I hate to see it. She can get away. She doesn't love him (and she can't stand him). She always says she'll leave, but never does. What to do? I'm 18 btw. Shared custody?! I'm 18! I have a choice, and it's NOT being with him. There is no 'custody' if you're older than 14 in my country. We decide who we want to be with.

Question: I hate holidays because my mother won't let me go see my Dad and his wife and kids, how do I get over this?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:09 PM PST

My Dad could speak up but he won't so they are both messing up. Not just Christmas but any holiday that involves family, next will be Easter. The only special day I am allowed to see him is Father's Day Weekend otherwise I am allowed to see him but not for special occasions. My father has a big extended family whereas my mother's family is just her and her mother (no siblings and she didn't have a father). So how do I get over this, how does one accept bad things? It really-really hurts and the bigger the holiday the more it hurts but neither of my parents care and both put me 2nd there anger or discomfort 1st.

Question: My parents divorced 4 years ago, but my mom won't stop talking about my dad? I think she still loves him?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 11:56 AM PST

My mom filed.Official letter was given 1 yr ago (took 3 yrs).The early yrs were rough, lots of tension bcuz of some nasty things said in court.They were married 20 years.(mom is 46 ,dad 56) w/the age difference &their diff. personalities=fighting. They have little contact now,only talk related to me(I'm 20).Long story short,over this past yr especially my mom talks about my dad EVERYDAY,she manages to bring him up in any conversation.Since it's been so long since their divorce..These talks are gettin annoying @ this point.I feel like my mom is still in love w/ my dad & tries 2 lie 2 herself.If a love movie/song comes on,she'll prob cry, ect.My dad is more of an introverted person.He doesn't rly speak about her.Often times if she comes up, he'll actually get bitter/change the subject, but I do kno he still deep down cares.They were both SO depressed during the divorce.I kno they both want date again but I'm not sure if it will solve it.A family friend told my mom once that she thought she saw my dad on a date with some1(ends up wasn't him).My mom was SO upset,even tho she says she wants to start dating herself.I'm tired of seeing my mom like this & I'm tired of hearing the past all the time.Plz don't tell me not to involve myself-my parents involve me so..I jst want them to be happy. (I don't feel comfortable getting too into my dads dating life tho but I want to help him not be alone or down, too.)Sometimes I think what if they just miss each other..What do I do/they do?

Question: Ok my ex has cutody of our daughter, but I get weekends and 3 hrs of her birthday with her and what not, my question is, she and I agreed...?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 11:54 AM PST

Ok my ex has cutody of our daughter, but I get weekends and 3 hrs of her birthday with her and what not, my question is, she and I agreed that I would get her from 12pm-3pm. now her daycare provider who is state certified said I cant have her until 12:30 pm cause she could get in trouble for her hours or something. My question is can I still get her at 12pm since that was mine and the mothers agreement, or do I have to wait until 12:30pm cause the baby sitter said so? I cant change the time because my daughter has a dr's appointment at 3

Question: I got thrown out today and have nothing. What do I do?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 11:21 AM PST

Im on the library computers. Im 21 and recently moved from illinois to tennessee and stayed with my girlfriend and her sister. This morning before I woke up, she ripped up and cut all my clothes. She took my bike, xbox, and my rental guitar and amp and gave them to her friends to pawn and sell and now I own the music shop about $1000 that I dont have. I woke up this morning to her grabbing my balls and telling me to get out because she thinks I cheated on her and I didnt because her sister hates me and lied to her and said I brought another girl over and did her while she was at work. I'm not on the lease so the whole 30 day eviction notice is not an option. I had to call in today because my work clothes are destroyed and I have no way to work because my bike and bus pass are gone. Im from out of state and dont have a phone or any friends so I cant couch surf. The nearest shelter in 50 miles away and it's raining and below 40 outside. I literally have shorts, sandals, and a t shirt on my back, a cheap walmart watch, and my ID with my bank card that has no money on it. She wont let me work things out with her either. I have no phone to make a police report or call or anything. She burned my social security card. What do I do. I have no where to sleep, nothing to eat, and cant afford bucket to piss in. I have no friends because I moved here about a month or two ago. Please give me advice. What do I do? Actually about 3 months ago. We moved in early december

Question: Am I going to have a stroke? Please answer!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 11:19 AM PST

I am 19 years of age, male and I experience aura migraines at least a few times a year or so and I read somewhere that people who experience aura migraines are more likely to have a stroke than those who don't have aura migraines. Am I going to die of stroke or something? I take very good care of my health but these aura migraines are just something genetic. Is something bad going to happen to me?

Question: What facial cleanser would help with this type of acne?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:52 AM PST

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Question: Nightmare?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:44 AM PST

So I'm 22 years old. I never knew nor had any relationship with my biological father. But my younger brothers father raised me like his own for as long as i can remember. But the first 13 years of my life my (adoptive) father was in and out of prison. I was never told for what, and I've never had any reason to ask. When he finally got out we rebuilt our relationship and things were going great. Then i married my husband, who is an airman, in 2012. And things changed for the worst. My father never calls, to ask about his 4 month old grand daughter. Hes been pushing me away. Now all of a sudden, I've been having dreams of VERY bad men coming after me to kill me. Each time its the same way. The bad men say its because of something my father did and the only way they can get revenge is by killing me, his oldest child. And then they shoot me with a Beretta M9. The 1st time i got shot I died, but then came back. And afterwards everytime I got shot and should've died, I didnt not. Then one man thought that shooting me wasn't good enough for him, and he said that he was going to rape me first, then shoot me. He did pin me down, but did not get a chance to finish the job. I was able to fight him off and escape. But then the bad guys that could not kill me got pissed off and went after my mom, and baby brother and baby sister. Before i save my family I woke up. Should worry about something that might happen. Or if I'm getting myself paranoid over some dream.

Question: I wanted to know what you think about my situation please? Honestly, and please be nice. Thank you?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:30 AM PST

I have a question about my sister. We have never been too close however I try to get to know her and spend time with my nieces and nephews. She always says she doesn't have time for my family to visit or she wants to spend time with her husband. I have tried everything ,even on her own terms but she never has time. She doesn't ask how I am when we do,see her and only talks about herself or her family. My sister was sexually assulted when we were young by an ex step father, I was as well But nothing compared to her. I don't know if that has something to do with her anger issues her whole,life or not. My whole family walks on egg shells to not make her mad so she will still talk to us. (happens alot) She is 34 years old now and I thought she,would grow out of it but hasn't. I just had a talk with her over the phone about visiting to bring my niece a gift and she blew up and said nasty stuff. Apparently we (as in her family) raise her blood pressure and only want to see her on "our" time, although I know,it isn't true . She lives 15 mins away and I maybe get to visit once every 6 months. She clings to her husband and even get kids have told me she doesn't spend much time with them, only him. Despite this sounding like a domestic dispute, I am worried about her mental health. Can you tell me why you think she acts this way when we're only trying to help and love her?

Question: No privacy with parents? ur take on it?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:25 AM PST

Question: Should I go through with my protective order?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:25 AM PST

Okay, so my uncle who I had put in jail because he punched me in the face and threw a bike at me recently got out. I had an emergency protective order against him but it expired while he was in jail so the day he got out, I went to the district attorneys office and filed another one so I wouldn t have to deal with him but of course they take a few weeks to get processed and in there s days since then he s been to my house( I live with my grandparents so he technically went to our house) and he hasn t caused me any problems yet but he is a mentally ill needle junkie who has already used since he s been out( not even a week btw) and won t get help(says there s nothing wrong with him). I just got a call from the da and she wants to speak with me, my question is should I go through with it or not. I feel a little bad considering I m not allowing him to go to his parents house but I know it s just a matter of time until he s so strung out that we get into another fight and I don t want to have to deal with this anymore and my family is kind of down on me for even filing the order anyway. I think I know what I m going to do, but I d like your opinions on how you would deal with this situation.

Question: Sexual abuse of students in schools is likely more than 100 times the abuse by priests ?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 10:21 AM PST

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Question: My parents got a divorce 4 year ago, but I feel like my mom still loves my dad?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:51 AM PST

My parents got a divorce after 20 yrs. A lot of their fighting was bcuz my mom is a very romantic person and my dad is more introverted so they wouldn't get what they wanted from each other. Their divorce was officially filed 4 yrs ago but they didn't finish the court stuff until 1 yr ago. (it took 3 yrs) during the years it was a ROUGH split up bcuz of nasty things said about each other in court. They hated each other & only kept MINIMAL contact cuz of me. Now years passed & they both haven't entered the dating world,but want to. Over this passed year the heat from court stuff has finally died, I find my mom talking about my dad every day. I notice if there is a love movie or song, she cries or brings him up. Yesterday she sent me a clip about love & said that it reminds her of her of my dad & how it is so sad that they didn't end up growing old together like the clip. I feel she still loves him/misses him.. My dad doesnt do any of this though & actually typicslly speaks negatively about my mom, but there will be those occasional times that he may say something and I see deep down he cares.. sometimes I feel like he says the mean things cuZ he still could love her too and is bitter of the things that happened. I also find it strange that they have waited so many years in getting back out there. Idk what to do, someone please help. It sucks seeing my mom like this and I just want them to be happy and not alone. I feel like getting them back together is impossible, am I crazy?

Question: I'm so stressed about my mom?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:50 AM PST

for the last few years, she has just been so lazy! depressed, too, I'm sure. she wouldn't shower, never got out of the same pajamas. couldn't do anything. if she needed cigarettes she wouldn't walk to the corner store, she'd call anyone and everyone to bring her them. she'd go to the grocery store to cash her check, then make one of her kids go back and do her grocery shopping. all she did/does is chain smoke cigars and watch tv on her bed. her bedroom is a room out of the hoarders tv show. she had a stroke last week and I've been trying to get her to use this stress ball I bought her to regain movement in her hand. tried to get her to do post stroke excercises. no no no. she wants a shower chair. nope! the only help she seems to want is things that will help her live a less mobile life. is it wrong that I refuse? if she wants something from the store, I will drive, but she's got to get dressed and go with me, go in and get it. everyone in my family is mad at me and is saying, "she just had a stroke! go easy on her!" we've been going easy on her for years. she used to go out to eat with her sisters. she'd shower and dress for that. lie about how busy she is. I'm sick of it. is that wrong?

Question: I feel like I'm used buy my family?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:48 AM PST

it seems to me that my family is using me. like they never come over and visit me unless they need something, my dad comes over to get stuff out of the garage (he uses my garage for storage) and to use my computer, cut his sucks. my aunt doesn't call for anything for months and called me for my generator at 2 am and asked me to bring it over, i did. thats not everything i have a list trust me. long story short i feel like and accessory not a person they always for get my birthday and i get them stuff and never do. makes me feel like crap. should i just expel them from my life? i have tried to tell them the favors are always one way never the other.

Question: My parents got a divorce 4 years ago but I feel like my mom still loves my dad?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:31 AM PST

Question: Bad kid, need help?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:08 AM PST

Boy, he is 9. He is terrible. Cursing, breaks stuff, disrespectful towards parents and grandparents. He is very sneaky with it too. But i notice when he is good, its when u bribe him. Example. "If u be good all dis week, u get to go to da mall and buy a toy" but i font like the "bribe" method. As a adult, u shouldn t have to basically beg a child through gifts to do what u say. This is my sister son, no father around as usual but he is out of control so i need advice on what to do, besides bribing

Question: My parents keep giving my brother bail when he gets caught with drugs and making excuses for him. are they at fault?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:06 AM PST

My mother's sister (my aunt) tells my mother if she keeps doing this he will never learn, is she right? Now my mother won't talk to her sister because her sister said this. Their excuse for my brother is "life is harder for him".

Question: Should I record my drunk husband?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 09:02 AM PST

My husband is an alcoholic. Most days he drinks just enough to take the edge off, but some days he goes overboard. (Once or twice a month) During those overboard nights, if he is in a bad mood, he might yell at me or nitpick things until we escalate into a good fight. I try my best to avoid him when he is like that, and to avoid saying anything to him. But, sometimes he won't let me avoid him. The next day, he barely remembers anything and sometimes he doesn't remember it at all. Do you think recording him on video and showing him how he acts would help things? Or, would it just make things worse or have no affect at all? Anyone with personal experience in trying this? Thanks! Also, please do not answer with, "He needs counseling" or "You need counseling". I am in counseling and he refuses treatment. That answer has nothing to do with my question.

Question: How do I tell my children to disobey my wife? Will they even value my opinion?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:56 AM PST

This a very sensitive question. I am a white male married to a beautiful black woman who is a great mother. We have 3 wonderful sons together. The other day I was talking to my eldest son, asking him about his girlfriend and such, when he made an alarming statement. He said that he is exclusively interested in white girls because it is his "duty" to help end the white race... Shocked, I asked him where he got that idea and he said his mom told him that white people are the cause of racism and that their weak genes should be "bred" out of existence. I found out she is telling the same story to our younger 2 sons. I forgive my wife, I love her very much, but how can I as a white male go to my multiracial sons and tell them that their mother is wrong? It also makes me wonder if my wife enjoys the idea that she has part in my descendents being multiracial. Thanks, like I said, just opinions and advice, I actually doubt I would have a voice over my wife...

Question: What's the worst grounding you had?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:55 AM PST

Question: I hate holidays because my mother won't let me go see my Dad and his wife and kids, how do I get over this?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:52 AM PST

My Dad could speak up but he won't so they are both messing up. Not just Christmas but any holiday that involves family, next will be Easter. The only special day I am allowed to see him is Father's Day Weekend otherwise I am allowed to see him but not for special occasions. My father has a big extended family whereas my mother's family is just her and her mother (no siblings and she didn't have a father). So how do I get over this, how does one accept bad things? It really-really hurts and the bigger the holiday the more it hurts but neither of my parents care and both put me 2nd there anger or discomfort 1st.

Question: After 14 years I have changed my mind about wanting a baby, but my wife is adamant that she does not want one?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:48 AM PST

She can get pregnant, none of us have any "fertility problems", she just doesn't want a child? I never wanted a baby until recently, but she is great with kids..she just won't have a baby? Weve tried speaking about this, she won't change her mind. Is this something I should just let go?

Question: How do you get rid of evil people?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:47 AM PST

My "father" and "sister" have been ruining my life for years and I m sick of it. My father left our family for a homewrecker that knew he was married with kids and he barely sees us since then. My sister has always been a selfish ***** all her life with the worst attitude you d ever come across. Me and my mom are always getting into fights with her because she destroys the house and brings all of her problems to our house. I can t begin to explain all the problems she s caused us but its affecting my school work. Her existence and my dad abandoning us has been ******* with me for the longest and I try to ignore it but my devil sister lives here and my dad pops up when he feels like it(which he s supposed to come to pay Hus portion of the bills and he fails to do that, too busy spending all his money on his homewrecker and its family.)Im tired of ruining my grades and goals cause of them and tired of them stressing my mom out. She can t afford the stress as it promotes her to smoke again. We don t have enough money to get away from these losers and can t save up to cause my dad doesn t pay what he s supposed to pay so my mom has to clear out her savings to accommodate him

Question: What steps should I personally take to get my life together? I made a lot of mistakes earlier and am really struggling now...?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 08:00 AM PST

I'm 24, going on 25 in a few months. I live in California. I'm a part time community college student. I had attended an out of state university (first mistake), didn't do work, failed classes, decided I couldn't possibly stay a second year. I came back down home to community college and was in the same situation...still wasn't motivated to work. I've been at community college for yrs as a part time student. I finally only have math and science courses (Physics,OChem, Calculus) to finish before trying to transfer out (if I can be transferred). I am a biology or biochem major. My GPA is like 3.1 (after retaking the required failed classes). I'm also working part time as a server. I've been working at this location for over three years. Currently, my hours have been cut dramatically and it seems I may not be wanted there anymore. I'm tired of serving and have considered other jobs that would pay about equal at this level, but I'm having no luck. I feel pressured to quit but cannot possibly considering I am so far in debt and am required to pay so much per month... Rent in my area is no less than $1700 for a studio apartment per month. School is in this area; I want to stay. I currently live at home with my mom and sister. Obviously, this situation is NOT ideal. I do not have to pay rent, I am still covered by my mom's health insurance and she pays my car insurance. A couple years ago my mom "forced" me to take out a loan for a new car. The monthly payment is $365.67. I'm recently having to pay back for student loans I took out for that out of state university. The monthly is $150. My verizon bill is $30. My credit card bill is increasing dramatically per month...started out at 30/month and is now up to $130 per month. My gym membership is $44 per month - I don't wish to quit the gym because I start getting fat (and I consider great fitness to be characteristic of a well together life). I do also have to pay for classes every three months.

Question: My friends dad caught me and his son having sex what will i say?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 07:49 AM PST

Im a 16 year old girl and i went to my friends house and we had sex but his dad walked in and caught us he grabbed me and hit me and told me to get out and he is ringing my parents what do i say ?

Question: My mom doesn t keep promise?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 07:37 AM PST

I m trying out for my school s musical so I told my mom. She was excited and I told her I was gonna practice in the back of our house in this room. She said okay and I told her I really didn t want her recording me, it makes me feel uncomfortable especially when she shares that video or whatever with EVERY single one of our family members. She always does it when I m quietly in my room and it just makes me feel violated personally with the privacy I own. Now I told her about how she promised not to record and she went on a guilt trip story saying, "I took you to Disneyland and now you talk to me like this?!" I m honestly stressed out from school enough and the musical is something I m looking forward to for fun and I am really annoyed. Please help?

Question: Caught my son watching porn?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 06:51 AM PST

so I keep looking through the wifi history and I even confronted him about the porn and took his pc away and he has a smartphone so he can use that for porn. he always comes home before I do so he has access to my pc without my permission and its a desktop. I keep finding these porn websites on my pc and I don't want any viruses or any spyware **** and idk about those porn websites and the family has always been Christian. What do I do about this?

Question: My brother may have a mental illness, but I'm not sure....?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 06:46 AM PST

He is a workaholic, who has always been obsessive about being a straight A student even when our parents simply encouraged us to do our best. He is a high powered corporate attorney in his 40's now, and is cold and rude to me and my parents. He keeps pointing out how we are not the best family we could be, and focuses on his own wife and kids. That's great that he is so focused on his wife and kids, but his resentment to me and my parents is oddly unmotivated. And hurtful. He also makes out with young strippers a lot, and takes anti depressants. What does he have, and what do I do, if anything?

Question: My mother gossips to me about those she is angry at (mainly my step-mother and others times my mother's sister). How do I politely stop this?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 06:35 AM PST

How do I politely get my mother to stop this without being disrespectful?

Question: How do I deal with mom in law who likes to get involved into our personal buisness?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 06:11 AM PST

Me and my hubby are expecting and currently staying at his moms house but were moving into our own house soon.shes a very nice woman and I appreciate everything she does for us.But I do not appreciate her trying to get involved to our buisness.Now sometimes wether I want to or not,because we all stay together shell overhear us when we argue or notice when im upset.But i find it rude and unnecessary when she insists on me telling her the reason behind the argument or my upsetness .sometimes the reason is not even related to my hubby,im an emotional freak due to pregnancy lol. Also today she suggested that we move into the flat just right across her house.i said thatwell see and she was like 'oh i understand if you dont want somewhere so close' but just because i didnt want t be rude i said that it depends more on the condition and size of the apartment rather than the location and she reponded back by saying that its a big flat bigger than her house and we should totally find out more about it then.i really just wanted to tell her to stay out of our buis but i dont feel like falling out with her. The problem is my hubby is kind of a mommys boy and he feels like 'pleasing' her emotional needs although he doesnt owe her that at all.i feel like she just should be happy and excited for us starting our own life and stop putting the pressure of us moving somewhere close or w.e since thats very egoistical anyways as I moved to another country from my parents,just to be with her son.

Question: I punched my Grandfather and he won't forgive me unless he punches me back?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 05:57 AM PST

4 weeks ago I had my 21st birthday at my parents house. It was a nice day and night and drank beer all day and night and had margaritas so I was very drunk. We had my friends and my relatives there. My Grandfather didn't like the way I was talking to my aunt so his went up to me and got in my face and I accidently snapped and just hit him in the face. He hit the patio but he was ok. He left after that and told my Dad the only way he will ever forgive me if he can punch me in the face. We went to my grandparents for dinner last Sunday and he didn't say one word and would turn around and not look at me. I tried to tell him I was sorry but would have none of it. He kept pointing at my Dad, signaling there is only one way to forgiveness and it's not through God or an apology. My Dad and him had a dicey relationship and my Dad swore he would never be like him. My Dad disapproves of my Grandfather's decision and told me in the car on the way home he would have loved to hit his Dad back in the day. So what do I do? Should I let him punch me in the face or screw him and can get over it?

Question: Why Some Parents are so Irresponsible.?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 05:45 AM PST

And as a result of this, the life of their children is ruined.

Question: What should my mom do about my sister, her kids & pets. They run her bills up ,break things they don t clean or buy food for pets & are loud?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 05:25 AM PST

Question: How to forgive my mom for making my sis mentally challenged?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 05:14 AM PST

Mom was a prostitute. i never knew. She knew she had it, married, and gave birth. Ugh... i'm just sad.

Question: Should I wake them up ?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 04:27 AM PST

It's 7 something am I missed my bus that comes at 6:58 I woke up my grandparents and they said they'd take me to school but yet I don't wanna go because I don't feel good . They told me to get dressed but all my clothes were getting wash and I used to excuse that they weren't dry ...they fell back asleep and the clothes or dry idk what to do should I wait until 9 when they take my cousin to school or wake them up

Question: Is this normal? Am I just a bad boyfriend?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 03:07 AM PST

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a long time. This problem isn't recent either, but lately I'm driving myself insane. We started off in a long distance relationship. A year ago I visited her in Canada for the first time. At that point we were good and happy. But that's when this problem became visible to me. She's not a happy girl. She always says that I don't lobe her or care for her no matter. what Shes 18 and I'm 19. She's had a depressing life and I understand that. She's very insecure and I understand that too. But the problem is, she keeps me from making/having friends. And even worse she keeps me from having a good relationship with any of my family members. Any time anyone enters my life she immediately finds a reason to not like them and grills me for not throwing them to the curb. I had thrown my sister to the curb because of her and she's starting to grill me about my other sister too. She has a social life, and I resent her for it but I refuse to stoop to her level and make her drop everyone. She expects me to go to extra lengths to like her family when they emotionally abuse her right in front of me. So I do, but when I bring up that she needs to be accepting of my family or that I want to have a social life like she does, she gets irrational and angry and accuses me of putting anyone ahead of her. When I say no to buying her something she accuses me of putting money ahead of her because I'm saving for a house for us. Please let me know your thoughts.

Question: My father left before I was born. I'm 34 now and have never heard from him. How would I possibly go about doing this?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 02:11 AM PST

My mother was the only one who knew his name, and she is dead. I know nothing about him. I understand the sentiment behind not bothering to get in touch. I don't have high hopes for a man who ran away from a pregnant woman, and I have no idealised plans to forge any sort of relationship. Having become a father myself, the most important thing for me is finding out are there any diseases which run in that side of my family.

Question: How do I tell my father?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 02:00 AM PST

Please don't judge me. I am a 19 year old male and I am kind of in a no strings attached relationship with a 42 year old man. My dad doesn't know I am with this man like this, let alone even gay. The last time I went over to his house for Christmas, I guess I didn't hide the 'evidence' on my neck enough and he got really suspicious, so I lied to him and told him I was in a serious relationship. Now he thinks I have a girlfriend and we are getting serious in a relationship and he wants to meet her. I have been trying to put him off meeting my beloved, since it is a man and he could be considered close to my dad's age. I just don't know how to tell him about all this. I mean I can't just say, "Hey, I am in a sexual relationship with a guy over twice my age and that I am gay". He's been asking to meet through dinner, which I have been putting off a lot and making up excuses about college and work, things like that. Anyways. I stopped by his house yesterday because it was my brother's birthday (These two are the only family I have) and my dad said either I come to dinner this weekend or he is going to drop by our house to meet what he thinks is my girlfriend. So how do I come out to my dad about me being gay and the guy I am with? How do I make the information seem okay to him without him getting furious (Which I know he will be)? I just want him to be proud of me, but I need a way to tell him without him getting furious. What should I tell him or how should I go about it?

Question: Can a male who grew up in a fatherless home hope to be a good dad and male role model?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 01:43 AM PST

One of the reasons I joined the military was because I lacked real male role models. However, I am coming to a point in my career where I have to be the role model. I'm not sure if I can take on that role. It is said that when you're no longer willing to rise up and accept more responsibility, that is when you've completed your service to your country.

Question: Is it possible for someone to actually be obsessed with stressing themselves and others out with bills?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 01:14 AM PST

I'm 21 and still live with my mom because we're both very sick. I'm a 911 dispatcher and I work nights. I've gotten to the point where I'm going insane, all she does from morning till night everyday is talk about bills over and over and over, she repeats herself so much. I can't have a conversation with her about anything not related to bills, otherwise she cuts me off "we have to pay this then this then have to get this" now I'm at the stage of ignoring her completely because when I'm at work she sends me texts one after the other, and I'm talking 2-3 page texts about bills, doesn't even give me time to answer if I wanted to. She can't even handle waiting until I get home to ramble on about bills, as soon as I get in my car to come home she calls me to talk about bills, when I get home she just goes on and on, when I go to bed she wakes me up repeatedly over it. Last night I went to sleep at 11 and I have to be up at 5 for my 14 hour shift And she woke me up midnight just to tell me what she's going to pay first and I finally go back to sleep and she woke me up at 3 and then 4. Now I'm sitting here getting ready for work again and she finally went to bed, but she has the kitchen table covered with paperwork for bills so I know she'll be up in a few hours bothering me all day all over again. Then when payday comes and we get everything done she starts all over for the next payday which is 2 weeks away. she stresses me out to the point where I have chest pain Today's one of my rare day shifts, so no I wasn't sleeping on the job like I know some of you will say due to how I worded it.

Question: 12 year old daughter sleeps on Husband and I's floor?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:20 AM PST

I need some advice. Our 12 year old daughter has been sleeping on our floor for the last 10 months, and we can't get her back in her own room. She started staying in our room because she didn't like sleeping by herself. We tell her several times a week this is ridiculous and she needs to start sleeping in her room at night. We got her new bedding, set her room up very nice for her, and she wouldn't sleep there she came to our room after trying for 10 minutes and sobbed next to our door. We stood our ground and said she wasn't sleeping in there and she ended up sobbing for over two hours and beating on the door. We then tried the sleeping bag trick slowly getting her to the door she grabbed it and ran back once she found out what we were doing. We tried getting her sister to sleep in the same room with her for a couple days, she ended up running to our room again. We tried having one of her friends over on the weekend, she ends up coming to our room. Any advice?

Question: Why am I feeling this way for him?

Posted: 01 Mar 2016 12:12 AM PST

I am a 21 year old male and my best friend is 19 years old. We've been friends since kindergarten and he's always been the kind of person I could rely on for anything. About a couple of months ago he started acting strange. He didn't want to hang out as much, if I tried talking to him or even said his name, he would act like I just punched him. He would come up with all these excuses about why he had to leave or that he had something to do and it just seemed odd because before that he wouldn't miss a chance to hang out. Anyways, about three days ago I had went to his apartment to talk to him about what was going on, thinking I had did something wrong, and the minute he opened the door he kissed me, freaked out and then shut the door and I haven't heard from him since. I mean I knew he was homosexual because he had confided in me two years prior to this, but I don't know what it means by him kissing me. I don't know what he was planning to do or why he did it. Anyways, it's been a couple days since and I'm starting to feel kind of weird about it. Like, I always saw him as a good friend and I always thought I was straight because I dated women, but now every time I think about him, I have some pretty sensual thoughts about him and it's confusing me. I don't know if it's a normal reaction to the kiss or even what the kiss meant. I don't know if he maybe has feelings for me and why I am starting to see him in a more desirable way. Why do I feel this way and what's going on?

Question: I want to deport my brother in law?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 11:43 PM PST

I hate him with all my heart not because he's undocumented but he's a piece of ****. I hate living with. Several times have we tried to kick him out of the house but all he says is "looking for a place". So many problems since he came to this house. It was a mistake opening doors to the wrong person. He's alcoholic, abusive, lazy, ignorant and is always causing problems with my neighbors. Also he's been deported before for being abusive w his ex ... Help plz? I want him out of my house and if it's possible out of this country. (I'm not against undocumented people I just gatta get rid of him)

Question: I want to snitch on my weed smoking brother?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 10:38 PM PST

Alright so my older brother is 15, and he is constantly smoking weed. But the thing is, my parents not only support it, but encourage it. It's almost everyday that I hear him play his loud music and smell him smoke in his room. He is horribly violent, and beat me up all the time as kids. The weed hasn't helped that at all, in fact, I think that he's more violent than ever. He's really intense and demands respect and he beats me up when I don't give it to him. He beat the piss out of me last week and tonight he really made me mad. I can't stand my life, I need to call the police on him. What do you think I should do? And don't say that it's okay to smoke, whatever your views on the drug is, It's illegal in my state, and he's a minor.

Question: How can I find my dad?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 10:19 PM PST

I've never met or seen him. I'm only 17 years old and I don't know where to go or who to contact so I could get information on him. I don't care if he doesn't want to meet me I just want to know who he is.

Question: How to tell my siblings to back off?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 10:00 PM PST

Okay my problem is my two siblings (one is 27 she married and have two kids and one is 32 living with his spoiled 23 year old girlfriend and i am 30) They are always judgmental about me in everything i do, they belittle me and pick on me and everything i say they go ahead and jump at me to be critical. And the reason for that because i still live with my mom and i am jobless, i mean i want to get a job and move out but my health won't let me and every time i am usually in bed in pain and this is almost all the time. Now they see that and they criticize that to my mom, telling her to kick me out and asking her why i am still there and everytime they come and visit they insult me and my mom lets that happened as she shrugged her shoulders. I told her they shouldn't have be mean to me like this but she just tells me "well they are your siblings and they have a reason and you shouldn't be talking back to them because they are just caring for you" i don't think that's a good way. If they care for me i think helping me would be a lot better than insulting me. No one wants me to have the right to say my opinion everyone wants me to be quiet while i get insulted. What to do about this situation?

Question: School advice from moms?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:51 PM PST

How do I get my third bad grade signed in a row? I don't know what my mom wants to hear (she accepts no less than an A-). I know that I am extremely disappointed in myself and I feel miserable. But I am not sure how to approach her and ask her to sign it. Thank you so much in advance for helping and comforting me.

Question: My mom always want more from me. How do I tell her she is being ridiculous?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:45 PM PST

I'm 15 and all of my life I've gotten straight A's, been a good kid, played multiple sports, made good friends, hung out with the "right crowd, etc. etc. but my mom always wants me to do more. My dad is reasonable and he agrees with me, mostly. When I get straight A's, she says good now go practice your shot. She is never happy with what I do and she doesn't trust me. Every time I want to go to a friends house she ALWAYS suggests an ulterior motive even though the the most amount of trouble I've gotten in is for smarting off to her. And yes I am FIFTEEN YEARS OLD and they treat my like my 10 year old niece. Literally. They don't like to let me drive because they still think I'm a kid. They make my 10 year old niece drive me around, instead of me driving her...DONT YOU THINK THAT IS INSANE???? Everywhere I go my mom thinks she has to be there watching me like I am in elementary school. It's so frustrating because all of my friends are growing up and experiencing new things but I'm stuck at home. Even when I hang out with my best friend, who she trusts very much, she interrogates me and goes on and on when all we are going to do is watch a movie at her house!! She always thinks I'm at partying and hanging out with boys(WHO ARE OFF LIMITS). I'm scared I'm never going to know how to do anything and be clueless when I graduate. They think they are helping me but when I get my license I'm doing whatever I want. How do I tell them to loosen up and let me live a little?

Question: What job to choose?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:43 PM PST

I am currently employed full time at a dental office, the hours are 9am - 6pm Monday through Friday with alternate Saturdays 9am -2pm. I have been with this employer for about 9 years and I feel its time for a change. He pays me about $18 per hour and I have 1 week paid vacation and a 401k, but no health care benefits. I love the staff and the doctor himself and of course the patients have also become kind of like a second family to me. However, I have a family of my own 2 children and a husband. I can't seem to find a work-life balance! My job is about 25 min away from home therefor I must leave earlier to be there on time and when its 6 we usually don't get to clock out until 15 to 20 min after. I then arrive home at about 6:30-7pm. Its making me feel as if there is nothing to life but work work work. Plus when i request a day off to run and do all errands i need to do , my boss doesnt seem to like it very much that i ask for the day off. Just because i work there and know the office like the back of my hand doesnt mean i "must" never be sick or go to doctor appointments. My paychecks are good I have money to spend but not much "time" to spend it with my family doing memorable fun stuff. My kids constantly tell me I always get home late always in a hurry to make dinner and rush to help them with homework then shower and the next day the same routine. Recently I found a job working for the school district, its half the pay I'm bringing home I'm confused on what I should do.

Question: Should I leave?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:32 PM PST

mom questions me like I'm 10, and we don't get along. we're always arguing!! I know she's worried about me but I'm grown, should I just move out?

Question: Being touched by a relative... But it gets worse.?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:20 PM PST

A couple of years ago my mom died and we had to move to Texas to live with relatives. A few months later my uncle started doing little things, like playing with my hair and touching my arms a lot and a lot of hugs and stuff. He's my favorite so I didn't mind and I just thought we were just getting closer. I even started hugging him back and all. Then he started kissing me on the lips, not like big kisses but it was strange for me. More and more stuff kept happening little by little and then he started touching me outside my clothes. One night he came into my room I share with my cousin and laid down with me. He was touching me all over just kinda rubbing his hand up and down my legs and my tummy and a little on my chest. I was totally scared and tried to pretend I was sleeping but he knew I wasn't. I was scared my cousin would see too. Well he still does it only he touches me sexual like now and not just in my room. He says he knows I like it because I was always hugging him and kissing him back, before the touching ever started. I ait mostly it feels good but I don't want it to happen. I know I should tell but o would start so much trouble and I don't want to ruin my family or make my dad hate his own brother and I don't want to make nobody go to jail either. How can I stop all of it without getting anybody in trouble? I'm not even old enough for that.

Question: How do I ask my parents to stop following me on social media?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:18 PM PST

I know that they just want to protect me and such, but I'd rather them not watch me. For example: I post a bit of a personal ventish video on my YouTube. The next day my mom starts questioning me all about it. It kinda makes me uncomfortable. I need the best way to ask them to stop following me. Its somewhat my own personal space and I don't want them questioning me about it.

Question: I spend 12 hours at school for five days a week?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:13 PM PST

My family had two cars but gave one away so now we have one. I live far away and my dad drives since his work is close by. I get there at 7 a.m. and leave 7 p.m. When school ends I go to a fastfood place and wait or sit outside for 3 to 4 hours a day. I feel like I can't get anything done so I have to stay up late hours since all of my homework requires a computer and internet plus art commissions dued. So I stay up late doing that, while all of my friends are at home. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks and have 2 F's in my class but can't do the work to even catch up. I'm so stressed out all I want to do is cry and give up on everything.

Question: How do I deal with my narcissistic father?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 09:12 PM PST

My father is a textbook narcissists. If he doesn't have narcissism he definitely has some other mental illness. Anyway, my parents got divorced when I was 11 but were seperated on and off from the time I was maybe 8. Most kids are upset when their parents get divorced but my sisters and I were all thrilled because we didn't have to be around my dad constantly. My dad is a very angry person. He gets frustrated VERY easily and when he gets mad he says things that are very hurtful. I remember waking up in the middle of the night one night and there were police at our house. For awhile we spent every other weekend at his house but it was terrible and we would constantly be calling my mother crying. Now we see him about once a month and my dad always texts us asking if we want to do something. Out of all my sisters I've always been the only one to text back and has always been the one to go to his house willingly. I was just recently diagnosed with interstitial cystitis, a very debilitating bladder disease. So since I've been having pain I haven't been going to see him or texting him back like I used to. We were at an event on Sunday and while we were in line with my sister they were talking about how I'm the one who never sees him or texts him back. You don't see my dad for 2 times in a row and sudden he says you don't love him. I got really upset and started crying cause he doesn't realize that out of all of us I care most about him. I cried tonight thinking about it.

Question: I need some advice ASAP?

Posted: 29 Feb 2016 08:57 PM PST

I am 15 years old, ill be sixteen in may. For my entire life my mother has been addicted to drugs. it seemed as if every 5 years she would relapse and start using again and then get clean for another 5 years. My mother is the VP of a large company and she is the solo provider for the family, my dad was run over by a bus in 2004 so he is on disability. Recently we moved into a new house here in scottsdale and we thought my mom was sober, but like a month after we moved in we found out she had been doing drugs for a year. My dad and I planned a trip for my mom at a really expensive hotel for a couple of days, she got spa treatments, unlimited credit card allowance, nice dinners and a ton of other stuff. We have sent her to rehab many times over my lifetime and it doesn't seem to help. Im online schooled so I am home most of the day (until about 2:45) and i see how my dad has to deal with her bs and how he's suffering because of it. I have big goals, i want to go to undergraduate school then my specialty school (law school) after, i also plan on graduating high school early but this drug problem has gotten so much worse and more frequent that its interfering with my school and social life. I just want to live a normal life and become successful in the future but because of this my chances are slowly diminishing. Does anyone have an advice or personal stories that can help me out? Thank you so much!