Family: Question: Is this situation my fault?

Question: Is this situation my fault?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 01:04 PM PST

Okay, so me and my mom left the bird cage with two cockatiels outside supported by three big tires. Then, I go back to my room because I have to get busy on homework. After I see that a family member of mine tied up a dog to a griller, which was not that close to the bird cage. And, trurh be told, that family member is going against the rules because my dad doesnt allow us to have dogs in his property. But the family member is such a punk, so he doesnt listen. Suddenly, the cage falls off to the ground. The family member calls on me and we go outside. I notice that the griller was moved from its original position. Plus, the dog was around and the family member pulled him away from the scene. So all of this made me think that the dog did it. However, the family member says that it was the wind that pushed the cage, which is totally impossible because it was not a super windy day. Whatever he thinks, I think it is pure BS! And yep, the birds escaped! So, he just doesnt see my point of view. And to let me describe him. He does seem to get away from any kind of responsibility and does not respond to it. Does not seem to apologize to people for his mistakes. He expects that we help him but does not help back. Is this all my fault? I do recognize that I could have more vigilant like I have been in the past. I am quite a responsible person,but this time I was just way too busy. However, he doesnt see his own faults! And he blames it on me!

Question: Should i tell my parents about my wife has other man?it's been 3yrs, i have not tell my parents bc?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 12:22 PM PST

I'm still hoping we can work things out but it looks like there is no chance anymore. and i didnt want my wife to look bad but she leave me no choice. Pls advice. Tnx!

Question: Why would a married couple where one experiences domestic violence become suddenly closer/calmer when the abuse is called out?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 12:16 PM PST

This baffles me. Is it like Stockholm Syndrome? Is it like people that bond from an averse event? Basically, my dad is a classic abusive bully to my mom. It is always kept secret. It is mostly emotional abuse, but occasionally he hits her (and claims, she hit him, or walked into his arm). You should see my mom. She has pretty bad health. Her immune system is shot. She has to take medication to control it. Um, well, there's enough research that points out that exposure to chronic stress makes people sick. My dad? No health prob's (except mental!). My mom? She's a bit weird. She will admit that he's a jerk, if she's confronted about this issue in private. But, she then acts in total denial that he's abusive to her. Okay, having said that? I've been at my parents house for a week or two at a time. What I had to witness as a child? They're still in the same predicament. It's constant yelling by my dad at my mom. Literally, all day long. Interestingly, if you confront them both about this deranged behavior, they deny it. Weirder? Despite my dad berating my mom, she will suddenly be even nicer to him, as he continues to tell her she's stupid. Does this not seem bizarre to you? They're mentally disturbing to be around for this reason. I find it traumatic actually because I had to endure some serious stress as a kid being in their house, hidden in my room, just waiting for the yelling, door slamming, and fighting to stop. It happened almost daily.

Question: My sister is in constant contact with her boyfriend?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 12:14 PM PST

I m 24 and my sister is 15. Growing up as a teenager was a bit of a different experience because not everyone had phones. My parents gave her mom s old phone for her birthday last year. I work full time go to school full time and I am saving up for a place of my own. I am paying rent to my parents in the mean time. I have been trying to spend time with her and she blows me off. I can hardly seem to get her away from her phone screen it s driving me crazy! I m happy she is happy but at the same point I feel replaced. I have tried talking to her about this and I said all I was asking for is to have less phone time when we hang out . I have my phone put away so that we can really enjoy what time we have together. What do I do?

Question: Can my mom really try to ground me at 19?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 12:03 PM PST

I'm 19, a sophomore on full academic scholarship to college, and commute from home because of money. I work a part time job with a catering company and am mostly very responsible. My mom's been on me because sometimes, when I can't easily get a ride after work events, I walk to where my car is parked alone (sometimes up to a mile away) rather than calling a cab. After a bunch of conversations my mom basically told me i "couldn't" do it again. I did anyway, and when she asked I lied about it (rare for me, I almost never lie.....and honesty was always my mom's biggest things). She caught me in it and was mad both about the safety (woman walking alone at night) and even moreseo the lying. She grounded me. When I protested she said her house, her rules.....and that while I have VERY few rules these days because of my age, as long as I live here she has the right to enforce the rules she does have. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do? Is she being unreasonable? In fairness, to be clear, the grounding was less for the walking and more for the lying

Question: Should I let my son go to texas?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 11:59 AM PST

My sweet baby is I 1/2 years and I raise him. His dad is in the army and stationed in Texas. Me and his dad are not on "good'" terms and he is now married. They live about 18 hours away. Should I let him see my son in texas? How long? I don't want my baby away from maybe it would be good for him? Someone help. I feel kinda bad that he hasn't been Texas to see I His dad but idk. An decisions or alternatives?

Question: Is this even legal for my little sister to be here?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 11:47 AM PST

She called the cops on me years ago and she lied and told them that I hit her and that she is scared of me. And she busted holes into my mom's old house and she use to yell and pretend my mom was hitting her. I did not get charged but I moved out to live with my dad to get away from her. Then I moved back in with my mom because my dad moved to a city too far from my college. So I moved in with my mom and she moved in to a 2 bedroom apartment and I get my own room. And my mom pays for the apartment but her boyfriend lives here too My little sister moved in with my dad at this time so we were not living together but my dad told me she called the cops on him too and she busted my dad's TV with a fire extinguisher Then she whines to my mom so she moves back in with my mom so now she lives with us Keep in mind that we are still in the Same city where she called the cops on me in and she told them all this bad stuff about me Why would she move in knowing that I live here. I moved to get away from her. She is 17 I'm 24. And she has been complaining ever since she moved in about the neighborhood I do not have a job so it's harder to avoid her because we live in a apartment with 1 bedroom Wonder if she causes trouble again and tries to call the cops on me My dad does not want her to move back in with him and his fiance She even yelled at his fiance

Question: What to do with a stealing mooching 28 year old relative?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 11:27 AM PST

That has not had a job in 5 years and has 2 kids. She has a 7 yr old and a 5 yr old. She doesn't work. She steals credit cards and spent $450 on one persons credit card. She lives with her parents, 21 yr old sister, and 18 yr old brother. The 21 yr old and 18 yr old are college students . the 28 yr old has not worked in 5 years and she claims she can't work because she has a hard time finding a job. She got fired as an assistant manager at Wendy's at age 23. Should she be kicked out? What about the 2 young children?

Question: Should I just end my life?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 11:19 AM PST

I have battled with suicidal thoughts on and off for 7 years. Recently I feel more like I am deteriorating as a person. I am no longer who I used to be and I can not stand to see my loved ones suffer. I somehow managed to get a ticket and into a minor collision within a week and my father is upset because this raised our insurance. My sister said horrible things about me which has driven me away from her, and now she considers me the bad guy and is trying to get me thrown out. The stress is overbearing and despite my signifigant other telling me to confide in them, I feel more horrible when I tell them how I feel and they have gotten worries and stressed. It breaks my heart knowing this is all my fault. Thank you for reading this.

Question: My sister and BF broke up. He s wanting her and 2 kids out asap. Can she legally move 2 hours away?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 11:14 AM PST

She has no time to find rental. Rentals in this town of 6000 are limited. Her parents offered to take her and kids in. And so did I. The pros of living with one of us are numerous... great area, close to big city, we can babysit, educational and job opportunities, transit system. The pros of living in town where ex live are slim... free babysitting from GGma and ex (if he s not working, hunting, fishing, playing ball). And she has part time job in retail. Job opps are not great and educational opps are limited. If he doesn t let her have the extra car she will be walking since there isn t any public transit system. Personally, I can see that since ex has more availability, courts might prefer her to stay in same town. But she has no family close by. Exes mom is a bully. And this causes ex to be verbally abusive toward my sister. His mom wants son to take kids and move in with her after she found out he would probably have to pay 1000 a month in child support. My sister is going to talk to a lawyer tomorrow. She wants to stay in town so kids have convenient access to dad. Yet, she is afraid of the bullying from him and his mom. And she wants to go back to school which will be difficult when she ll have to work 2 jobs to live on own. Living with family will lessen her stress and the bullying/drama from ex and his family will be less. Kids are 1 and 3.

Question: Am I A failure?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 10:52 AM PST

I graduated highschool about 2 years ago and decides nor to go to college, after working at mcdonalds for a while I found a relatively easy job that pays 15$ a hour and live in a apartment by myself I m happy with how I currently am (for now) but my family says I m never gonna amount to anything

Question: Scared my mom may die?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 10:42 AM PST

she pretty young she 34 and im 13 and my brother is 4. she going on a trip to a 3rd/5th world country, and its dangerous she will have friends to protect her but im scared something may happen to her. She a little on the heavier side but she's been working on it she like a size 14 in jeans. How can I calm my nerves, ive been praying and I talked to her about it

Question: How can I easily make friends with people who find me a bit annoying?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 10:38 AM PST

So basically I'm 14 and go to an all boys school. There are like a few people I have always wanted to be good friends with but never quite got there, I'm really shy and I just want to know of ways to get to know then better and get them to like me more

Question: Help?!?!!?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 10:22 AM PST

So basically I'm asexual and I was looking at how pornography degrades women so I went to a porn site to check it out. I found it disgusting I fell asleep on my phone with the page open and when my mom woke me up in the morning she asked for my phone. I gave it to her and quickly tried to close the page but failed. She opened it and saw the page and said its normal but she was really calm about it which freaked me out the most. How do I explain this? Coming out to my mom as ace isn't an option.

Question: Grounded for a year HELP!?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 10:12 AM PST

In 15 My moms a nurse and my dads a family dr. Last month I spent $1000 on my moms visa on gambling. I also took $850 of my mom and dads cash that they had in a safe in their bedroom. And I took $400 from my 13year old brother. So yesterday my brother came to my parents and said someone took all my money! And they said somebody took all of ours to.. Then the bill came in the mail yesterday as well. My mom saw it. My dad was still at work then. She waited for him to come home. They decided my disciplines and said I would be grounded for a year! That means no Xbox one, ps4, Wii U, tv, laptop, 3ds, PS3, or no weight bench! They are actually going to sell those to pay for all the money I stole. How can I live with this for a year! My parents are so stupid for grounding me for a year!

Question: My mom makes me feel like a slut, or am I wrong to feel like this?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 09:35 AM PST

My mom employeed me in the family Buisness about 6 months ago. It is A lingerie store and we also sell adult items. I turn 18 in about 4 months so I really shouldn t be employeed there yet. Recently I bought a few items out of curiosity (I would think its to be expected) but 2 of her friends that also work in the same store told my mom about the purchases, and I feel like that was non of their Buisness to tell her. After they told her she immediately called me accusing me of "sleeping around" and that I was sleeping with the boy across the street. I have been having sex with my boyfriend who I have been with for over a year, but I won t tell my mom because I m scared of the actions she will take. Because, she gets really drastic. Since then she s put tracking on my phone, and now when she talks to me it s as almost as if I lost respect from her. She told me I made her look stupid. She constantly talks down to me. My boyfriend and I have safe sex, I asked my mom for the pill and we also have a good amount of condoms and we never let them get low. I hate how this made her not trust me anymore. its a stupid reason to lose trust.

Question: Why doesn't my husband trust me?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 09:20 AM PST

I was on the layoff list where I work. I had a stroke of good luck and found another job at the company will a larger salary that I took immediately. Then I found out I had an unexpected problem. At my new job I am the boss of several guys. They are all great guys and they accepted me as their boss without any hesitation or problems working for a woman. My problem is my husband. He wants me to quit my job because he said "I don't want you to working closely with all these guys who want to get into your pants." I told him they can want all they want but it is not going to happen. I pointed out to my husband that we need my income to make our mortgage payments and I would be happy to quit work if he got a job that would cover all our expenses. Are all husbands this way? I have never given my husband any reason not to trust me. Why does he think every guy wants to get into my pants?

Question: How should I have handled this situation with my brother?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 09:07 AM PST

My 13 year old brother and I were in the back seat of our parents car going on a trip. I felt sleepy and laid down with my head on his lap. Soon something big was poking me in the back of the head. I got up and looked at my brother. Oh My God. He had a b0ner. He was VERY EMBARRASSED and started to apologize immediately. I really felt bad about the problem I had caused him. I told him no need to apologize. Wanting to make him feel better, I said you have something to be proud of. He said what is that? I told him he was hung like a horse. He smiled and said thanks sis. I feel a lot better now. You are the greatest sister ever. Please tell me if you think I handled this situation in a good way. Is there a better way than what I did. Gals, what would you have done? Is my brother getting a b0ner a normal thing for a guy that age to do?

Question: My brother told me some disturbing news.?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 09:05 AM PST

He told me that our cousin(male) raped him in his sleep. he woke up and it was happening. sadly this is old news that i am only just now finding out. He said he told our mom and that cousin has since moved out of state. My question is should i encourage him to get professional help beyond me and my mom. I'm really worried about him. He has a drug problem to the point where i don't know if hes on it or not. i now assume he is always on it. I am going to move out of state in 2months and worry about his well being. i'm afraid his addiction will win and cause some mental illness. help i am confused and lost and makes me not want to leave him. i hate that this happened it saddens and angers me and feel i cant talk to anyone about this because its my brother. i wish i could have protected him:(...

Question: My parents are Narcissists?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:56 AM PST

Hello, I just wanted some honest feedback from the internet about my situation. I feel like my family and friends just try to see the good in everything and it's hard to accept their advice. Anywho, I am 25 years old, married, and have an 11 month old son. Recently, my parents have separated due to my father having an affair. My mom and I believe that my father has Bipolar disorder and a Multiple personality disorder. He is also a pathological liar. He has always treated others better than his own family. My mom on the other hand is a very selfish person, and also quite lazy. They both checked out of the marriage a long time ago. I'm just so hurt by both of them and I will explain why for each parent. Ever since my dad made my mom move out he has also pushed me out of his life and I think it is because of his new girlfriend. Whenever I ask about her he will only bring her up briefly and say she is just a friend but on social media it looks way more than that. It upsets me that my dad was having an affair with this woman but I'm an adult and I am willing to accept her and move on just to have a relationship with my dad. My mom just tells me to get over it and I don't need a father, I just think that's so selfish of her to say. She even said that if I were to have a relationship with him it would be a betrayal to her. Would I just be better off if I just cut them off? Any feedback would be great, just be HONEST! Thank you.

Question: 2005 yr book cessnock high?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:34 AM PST

Question: Are my parents rich??????

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:24 AM PST

Are my parents rich? Hey guys. I have always wondered if I was. In my family it's my mom, dad, my brother and I. My dad makes about 50,000 a year and my mom 20,000. I know with just this salary alone this makes my family middle class. But my dad inherited about 2.2 million from my grandparents and bought 5 rental properties with it and has tenants. I'm not sure if this makes my family rich or still middle class? And does it make our family well off?Thanks for the help!!

Question: How to convince parents to wear a short dress?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:16 AM PST

My parents are strict and **** this dress I'm wearing to a party is short to them but I need advice to convince them to be able to wear it

Question: Why does my mom treat me like I'm an idiot?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:14 AM PST

First off, my mom didn't like the fact that I married a man without a college degree. He works two jobs and makes $50k a year. Second, she was disappointed in me because I didn't major in what she wanted me to in college, and I only make $60k a year. Given we are not rich by any stretch of the imagination, we can still afford nice things because we live frugally. We do not eat out except maybe once a month, we do not buy brand new vehicles, and we have a medium sized house. He drives a 2007 Chevy Silverado and I drive a 2013 Nissan Maxima. We wear name brand clothes but we buy from thrift stores (who even knows the difference??) My mom makes it a point to drive it in my head that I could be making 100k or more a year had I majored in Law like she wanted me to, and she also is stuck on the fact that I could have married a man that brings in a bigger income. I personally don't find anything wrong with us bringing in $111k together a year. We have what we need and our kids are taken care of. Why is my mom so disappointed in me? Is $111k a bad total income for parents to bring in? I'm not sure why she's so disappointed.

Question: Am i wrong for wanting revenge towards my step dad?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:09 AM PST

Ok so i have an older brother(4 years older) and a younger sister (his daughter) So my mom lets this man into our lives when i was like 7 years of age. Out of all 3 he targeted his hate only to me and sometimes my mom but mostly me, he basically took advantage of the fact that a kid cant defend himself so he would do stuff like ( he made my mom stop giving me hugs and kiss s on the cheek when i was a child, he made my mom only give attention to him only, he would shove me if i was in his way, he would stare me down and intimidate me, call me names all the time with hatred like *fat female(im a dude) *ugly beast *piece of shhht *worthless *good for nothing *shhht head and when my spoiled little sister didnt get what she wanted and it always i mean always had to be her way, she would purposely start wining knowing he would love to beat me. Once my sister broke a plate on his car cause she stepped on it and instead of getting her introuble he went straight to me and shoved me on the floor and hit me with a cable once i looked at him when he was drinking for half a second and hes like (WHAT YOU LOOKING AT!!) and rushes at me swinging and beating me up my mom says if i hit him she will kick me out (im 19) yet she didnt kick him out when a grown man was beating on a defenseless child, i have to smoke weed in order to forget because when i dont thats all thats in my head because thats the only childhood id ever had.. and no i cant sit down and talk to my mom i tried

Question: My mother in law wants to take my son to the beach by herself. Opinions?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:08 AM PST

He does everything at full speed and is extremely active. Neither my wife or I have taken him to the beach alone and don't feel that she is ready for it. We asked her to please not take him, and of course she was offended that we did not "trust" her. I don't even think I would be comfortable bringing him an hour away to the beach by myself. Are we crazy? She is 65 or so, and of course we trust her to bring him to parks and watch him.

Question: Leaving the nest if your patent is a single mom/dad?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:06 AM PST

Sometimes I wonder if some people out there are in the same situation... Since my dad left our family when I was 8 years old I live alone with my single-mom. I've always been jealous and never wanted to see another man at her side. Why? Because I was a child and didn't understand that maybe at some day, I will grow up and leave her and without a husband she'll be alone. Years passed, my mom has always been wonderful and raised me up but now I'm 25 and I feel it's about time to leave the nest. What's preventing me from going is, that I can't see my mother being alone while she sacrified all her life for me and did everything for me. Now that my boyfriend found work in another state as a teacher at university, he wants me to live with him. I am not sure how I can do this. But if not now, then when? Hope there's someone out there who understands my dilemma.

Question: My mother is forcing me to have an abortion what to do?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 08:02 AM PST

Me and my boyfriend both want to keep our baby. My mother told me if I keep it she will completely cut me off and won't be supportive at all, she also said I would have to move out. My boyfriends family has been very supportive and want me to keep it. His mother told me I can move in with them but I'm scared. I don't want to rely on his family for support. I'm stuck in a crazy situation and don't know what to do. Can you please give me some advice? Thank you

Question: Why is my family trying to put me on a guilt trip?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:59 AM PST

I am a very successful woman. I come from a very poor family. However, literally everyone (except my mother) were always trying to play my mother and I out of money. I remember having NO money, and my grandmother would just take the little bit of money I did receive (from the government) and spend it on HER bills, cigarettes, personal needs, etc. Like, why the hell do you think it's okay to just take money from me? I do not have money to spare! My sister was ALWAYS trying to con my mother and I out of money. She would make up lies, stating how she need it for something important (so that we would raise money for her), when it was really just for something stupid, like the new Jordan sneakers. The profession that I am in now, my sister actually tried to discourage me from doing. She said, "Why would you get into that profession?! You're not going to make any money. You are wasting your time." Therefore, why would I give ANY money to her, when she discouraged me from doing what I loved? I literally cannot stand my grand mother and sister. I literally hate both of them. They are both thieves, verbally abusive, etc. Both my grand mother and sister would always bully me! I am glad that I got away from them.

Question: My sister always texts?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:54 AM PST

My sister, Summer, who is 17. Always texts on her phone. Is this normal for a 17 year old? My grandpa Rick kinda gets annoyed because of it.

Question: Should I ask family & friends to hold my baby, or should they ask?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:39 AM PST

My MIL recently criticized me for "hogging my baby" when I visit because I don't go around asking everyone to hold her. I feel that if someone wants to hold my baby, they should ask. What do you think?

Question: Grounding or spanking...what to choose?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:29 AM PST

i hit my girlfriend because se cheated on me...and when my dad learnt that he said I will get punished...he let me to choose my punishment he said me grounding or spanking....if i chooss groundimg i will stay in my room for the next 10months without anything..i havea bathroom on my room and food will be serving on my room so all the other time i will be locked on my room....if i choose spanking i will get my *** whoped with my dadas belt and i will stay grounded oonlu for the weekend....what to choose help

Question: Why am i still alive and what do i do.so depressed.?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:14 AM PST

In the past couple years i lost 9 members of my family all immediate, i had a bad accident with a big truck which was my fault, i hit a dumptruck head on with no restraints by accident. I died twice lost my spleen. Then my mother in law threw me out of their house over money. I slept in my car for 5 months, then lost my car. Became homeless slept on the streets, my wife who i knew since we were 15 didivorced me and is now seeing my best friend who happened to be my best man. I lost everything. I found a shelter and got my life kinda back on track. I managing a restaurant and the job is killing me. Iam on probation for the accident and i am staying in a halfway house. I feel so alone. I have one sibling left and ive tried to reach out to him and they dont want to reconcile. I have torn meniscus in one knee and a torn rotator cuff and hernias from my abdomen injury from the accident. I just really dont know what to do. I tried to get disability but was denied 2 times. Everyday is a struggle to get out of bed. I work all the time on salary and my bosses are rough. If i lose my job or break down more physically i wont be able to pay rent and probation. Im so unhappy. I try to be greatful and i have been through so much and i dont want the journey to be for nothing. I would like to maybe fo back to school or just move away but i cant. I need some advice. My past haunts me all the pain, grief, hurt, betrayal. Please any advice would help. Serious replies.thxs.

Question: Am I in the wrong?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 07:10 AM PST

My one niece is 7yrs old thinks she can get away wit anything n everything I told her it's time for school work to get done (cyber school) she makes the statements "your not my mom I only listen to my mom" I told her (she ran upstairs to the bathroom) "destiny U can go in time out for that statement I may not b ur mother but I will not b disrespected by a child I will not let u think u can get away wit everything n anything like ur parents I am not them I will get the respect for a child" her parents (my sister N ex bf husband idk anymore) if she hits her brother they don't do anything to correct it the little brother does anything he gets corrected to a point so how's that teaching them anything... These kids could get away wit murder no lie.... I told my sister I placed my niece in time out for the disrespect N she turns around n says it's not my "F"ing place I in turn tell her next time take the kids with u I'm done watching them I will not b disrespected by a child I never hit kids I don't like it makes me feel like I'm abusing them I don't hit my own son all I do is stare at him wit "a mad look" he always crys for a min then starts to suck up cuz he was in trouble so I give in but he knows he was being bad n that made mommy upset wit him

Question: I don't like being the oldest child and the only daughter. Am I the only one?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:55 AM PST

Being an older sister became a problem when I became a teenager. I was always pressured to set an example for my younger brothers, despite the fact that they are only 1 and 2 years younger. The whole "setting an example" thing should only apply to little kids because they really don't know any better and they copy things because it's "monkey see, monkey do". In this case, my brothers were close to my age when they knew right from wrong, so they should stop forcing me to be a good example all the time and stop blaming me for other people's actions. I always used to get in trouble st school because I fought back against kids who bullied me and my parents always labeled me as a "problem child" and thanked God that my brothers weren't following my lead. I know another guy who is an older brother and is related to my god-brother who went to jail and dropped out of school, but neither his parents or anybody in my family aren't ragging on him for being a bad role model. Another thing I didn't like about being the only daughter was not having many female friends growing up. None of the other girls liked me for being weird and guys bullied me for being ugly. Because I didn't have many friends growing up, I have to start building my social skills from scratch and it feels like a chore. My only problem now is only attracting males as friends when really, I want more female friends because I don't have sisters. MY mother's always taking about how lucky I am to be in the position, but she's the 6th of 8 children and a middle child with sisters. If anything, she's luckier because she got to interact with females and she's not the older sibling.

Question: Should i apologize for slapping my child's father ?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:52 AM PST

i had a baby with him... he told he he had another child days after i had mine ... i was pregnant again and very scared because he was pushing me away ... a few days ago i called to try to be civil and he started insulting me calling me a hoe i got really offended and went to his house to slap him out of anger that has been building up he throw me against the floor his mom was there to witness .. i lost the baby i feel i need to speak with him but i cant because its been so much drama what should i do ? my little ones bday is coming i haven't even planned anything yet

Question: My brother is being incredibly mean to my step mom?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:48 AM PST

Ex. 1: he didn t do his homework and she asked him to do it because he s failing every class. He told her to go to hell and she s being mean. My mom is super nice so she doesn t fight back. Ex. 2: she told him he needs to cut Back on carbs because he is pre diabetic and is in serious risk of many medical problems. He literally grabbed her and started wrestling her to the ground (enough to hurt her back) I am SICK of all of this **** because my step mom is the nicest person in the world and she doesn t deserve this. I know you may think it s puberty (he s 12) but he s been like this for 4 years and no one is doing anything about it. I even found weed in his room recently and I don t know where he got it - he never moves let alone gets out of his room to go find a dealer or whatever. He has F s in literally all of his classes and he catfishes older guys and pretends to be a 16 year old girl that doesn t know how to play Xbox so he can get their nudes. My parents don t know about the weed or the catfishing. Please help me. I am in hell whenever I am here and I can t take it anymore.

Question: I feel like I'm talking to myself in a room with my parents?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:44 AM PST

It's hard to have a conversation with them, sometimes they don't reply, and they get upset that I don't spend time with them..and get they don't give me attention l..advice?!

Question: How do I tell my mum I smoke cigarettes and weed without her being completely mad? I m a 14 year old female.?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:25 AM PST

Question: Not looking for guidance..just advice?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:25 AM PST

Okay so I've been abandoned all my life & I am just now getting over my abandonment issues (clingy with girls, friends, ECT.) I am a 17 year old male with a wonderful work ethic & have no doubt in my mind I will make it far in life.. But what I am lacking is love. My mother doesn't feed me or support me, she only did for a month or so after I moved out at 16 hoping to control me and my future (yes she is mentally ill and a control freak.. I want nothing to do with her) My father abandoned me because my mother was a nut case but that's not the only reason, he's also a sh*t person. My brother knows and has witnessed all of this. He doesn't really care about anyone except himself, and of course his girlfriend. I live with him and he never buys groceries so every meal is ramen noodles for me, while he eats out everyday.. Sometimes in front of me, its almost torture lol.. I don't mind these things all too much.. Well I wouldn't if he would just talk to me other than thinking buying me a few beers thinking that will make me happy (I've struggled with alcoholism from 15-17 and I'm just now getting it under control but that was ALL me, not anyone else. I had no help and I never have any help) I do understand this will make me an independent person but ultimately I know for a fact I am going to be alone for a while. I can't save much money because my brother expects me to pay rent when I make probably $100 a week compared to his $700 a week & I sleep in the floor

Question: Was Benito Mussolini good or bad?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 06:22 AM PST

My mum thinks he good but she's a socialist mongrel. My dad makes fun of him.

Question: My cousin is starving herself and my aunt is not doing anything about it?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:59 AM PST

All she eats is lettuce and sugar free jello... but she came over to our house and there was red stuff all in the toilet, so I doubt she is keeping that down. My aunt told me the doctors found low oxygen in her blood too. My grandmother says she looks grey...they also tell me the doctors say nothing is wrong with her ,which I don't believe. She still goes to a pediatrician and she is 17.... I am really scared for her, as last time I saw her she looked sickly. My aunt is telling me there is nothing she can do for her because she is turning 18 in a few days, though this situation has been going on for about 2 months. She has lost about 100 pounds in the time... I am afraid my aunt is putting it off for too long. What can I do, I am only 15. She is in real danger and they are not getting her the help she needs. I talked to my parents about it and they don't want to be bothered. My aunt tells me she is not taking her to the hospital because they don't take her insurance.

Question: My family is falling apart?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:46 AM PST

Anyways, I'm 13 and my life is slowly falling apart. My sister is depressed and literally has to have things taken away from her so she doesn't cut her wrists. My sister has always been my dads favorite, so now he's depressed also. My dad is jobless, and my family is getting my on my moms paycheck which is just above minimum wage. My school is terrible with about fifty percent being ghetto people, the other fifty snobby rich ones. All my friends are rich and don't know about what's happening in my family. My mom is starting to crack under the pressure. I'm the one who has to act happy all the time, and I feel awful. I've already made a vow that my kids are getting the happiest childhood ever, but I'm honestly kind of jealous that mine is the way it is.

Question: How to approach a resentful person (family member)?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:33 AM PST

I really miss my older brother We got into a huge fight around Christmas two years ago.. My house had flooded and most everything my children and I had owned was destroyed so I was proud of the Christmas I was able to purchase for them and shared what I got them on facebook.. Around that time my mother had shared a post that she was unable to do Christmas this year.. that included me as well.. not just his family. But he assumed that the reason she wasn't buying Christmas was because she had bought all those gifts for my children. Not true my husband and I worked very hard to buy those gifts. he called hostile and name calling my mother and myself. His wife has always been abusive to us & we just tolerated it for him . she was sending hatful fb messages so finally I had it & let her know what I truly thought of her and I have not herd from them since. I miss my brother but mostly I miss my niece and nephews. We live on opposite ends on the Country but still I'm missing out on their lives. I feel bad for what I have said & know I was wrong for it. I tried to send him a fb friends request but he ignored it. he has always been a resentful person & holds grudges. I just really wish I knew how to approach this. Should I just forget it? It does make me mad that he always try's to be competitive with kids. I'm happy when his kids do well.. but he acts jealous when my children succeed.

Question: My wife is constantly threatening me to get a divorce or move back in with her parents?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:31 AM PST

She is constantly making threats to do crazy things like get my parents involved in disputes we're having, her parents, divorce, moving back in with her parents, she won't work with me she just immediately starts the threats and won't talk. I'm pretty much done living life doing everything she wants so she won't leave. Should I just no longer cave into her threats and let her leave or do whatever it is she's going to do? I feel like I'm getting owned in this relationship, always having to apologize, always having her to beg to not do whatever she's threatening.

Question: I want My money back from my brother?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:27 AM PST

My brother broke my $40 over hear super comfortable extra durable head phones. I told him I would give him a dollar if he passed them to me, and he demanded two dollars. I agreed and then he swung them in front of my face and demanded $50 dollars and laughed. I did too because I thought he was joking. He wasn't. I told him I would give him the $2 we discussed and that would be it. He demanded $50 again and I snatched at my headphones, but he held on to the cord and pulled on the jack and the cord, and now they are broken. The sound is horrible and they don't feel right anymore. I want my money back, but he tricked my parents into thinking I over reacted and He was joking. But I want my money and my parents refuse to make him pay. What is even worse is that I paid for them my self! So I lost $40 and he gets the satisfaction of knowing that I am upset about my headphones. What should I do?

Question: Is there anyone here interested in onecoin investment?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:26 AM PST

Question: Have you ever had great adventures as a teenager?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:18 AM PST

My cousin is 16 and I'm 3 years younger than him, but when he was 13 he started traveling with his friends and it's mostly school trips(since he live in Vietnam). I wanted to travel like him but I'm too young. There are some clubs at my school that have field trips to outside of countries or states, but I can't join any of those clubs bc I can't stay after school due to being the oldest and taking care of my younger siblings.

Question: Sibling keeps coming home late...?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:09 AM PST

One of my siblings lives with our family (I'm married and have 3 kids). They are of legal drinking age at least and when this sibling hangs out with friends, they tend to come home later (around 2 or 3 in the morning). This sibling has never come home drunk and does have a job (however this person is quite messy and shirks at their daily cleaning around the house). It is annoying as well when they leave and sometimes doesn't say anything, so we end up locking everything and then my sibling calls us late from the garage to let them in. It has grated on me that they do come home so late. I would like some advice as to how to approach them about this. My instinct is to yell and scream and wonder why my sibling doesn't feel this is wrong. Helpful advice is greatly appreciated. Sarcastic answers are not.

Question: If you could go back in the past change things I would not let my mother reunion my life like she did?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 05:04 AM PST

I want to go back and change That I never got finished high school And I never got to the prom my mother was mean and trust me I have nothing to lie about I am telling the truth and I come from southern black family understand that

Question: Aremy parents rich?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 04:06 AM PST

Are my parents rich? Hey guys. I have always wondered if I was. In my family it's my mom, dad, my brother and I. My dad makes about 50,000 a year and my mom 20,000. I know with just this salary alone this makes my family middle class. But my dad inherited about 2.2 million from my grandparents and bought 5 rental properties with it and has tenants. I'm not sure if this makes my family rich or still middle class? And does it make our family well off?Thanks for the help!!

Question: How do I deal with my abusive mom and sister?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 02:58 AM PST

Hi, I'm Sarah from the Reemfable group. Basically, my older sister is 30, and I'm only 14. I've been through so much in school already. I went through bullying, social anxiety, panic disorder, severe anemia, and heart conditions due to my anxiety. But my sis and mom still don't understand me. They abuse me. Everyday, whenever I try to talk to my mom about my anxiety, she laughs at me and says that I'm just a kid and that I need to grow up. It really hurts me. My older sister, ignores every single thing I try to talk to her. Whenever I try to chat with her, she changes the subject and starts talking about herself. She also accuses me of doing and saying things I've never said or done. She always makes me look bad in front of my family and parents, and she even called me "heartless" more than once, even though I'm the one who was always been there for her. She'd curse at me in front of my mom, and my mom would tell me that I should "respect" my "older" sister, even though my sister CURSED at me and even told me to kill myself, all for no reason. I try my best to be loyal to them, but then they end up emotionally abusing me and blaming me for everything. I once overheard my older sister telling my mom, "I'm not responsible for this girl. Seriously I dont care" she was talking abt me and even mentioned my name. Then my mom was like "yeah i agree". My older sister IS supposed to be responsible for my safety. She's the OLDER one. So how do I deal with all this?

Question: When i go out with my friends, my gf would pick me up, so i don't stay late :( How should i react to that?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 02:35 AM PST

If i go out, she wants me to be back latest eleven in the evening. She also often "happens" to be near the place where i am hanging out with my friends, and then says she would come pick me up. We are grown ups (i am 28 and she 32) and i think her behavious is kinda stupid. Any advice? p.s Is it even normal if gf is telling you when to be back home?

Question: Dads drinking?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 02:10 AM PST

My dad has always had a slight drinking problem. However, my mum now has advanced cancer and he has been drinking excessively in secret every evening at home. He clearly isn t coping. My mum and sister aren t understanding of his problem, so they either punish him for it or ignore it but snigger and make him feel even worse. Their idea of being supportive is telling him to at least just do it out in the open - he wont do this because he s ashamed (I know, seeing him staggering later on defeats that purpose).My other sister is aware of all this but just not really bothered to be honest - so long as it doesn t directly effect her, she won t get involved. I am the youngest and I don t live with them all (can you see why??), but these things weigh on my mind like nothing else...Any suggestions? Thanks xx

Question: I hate my dads wife, i need advice , please read?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 01:58 AM PST

My dad has been married to this women for almost 2 years already and i really do dislike her. I know this sounds harsh but please hear me out. Im 17 and love my dad so much but he's letting this women walk all over him. She has been telling lies about me and my brother, blaming so much things on us, but i stay quiet for the sake of my dad all we ever did is treat her like our mother. She's a complete liar . there's no use in telling her she's wrong she's the most stubborn person i met. She fought with my dad, not letting us see our family or have them come over. She will leave my dad whenever they fight over simple things. She throws tantrums and runs away like a child. She doesn't let him go out or see friends. She accuses him of cheating when he just works all day to make money .She will be so happy when me and my dad have an argument. She demands a bigger house, a car and so much more but she doesn't understand my dad does not have money right now. She never tries to solve any problems, she makes them bigger and doesn't speak to anyone when she gets mad (she gets mad for no absolute reason) i hate the fact shes jealous of me and wants my dad to herself. We grew up without a mother and he's all we have, but she demands they go out without us. She doesn't want his grandchildren coming to his house in the future because she doesn't want to "work". It's been hell living with her, she claims "she knows how to get what she wants, her way". I think that's a bit selfish and rude. One thing that ticked me off is when me and my boyfriend had a fight one day and said " well if you don't want him, let me give him to my daughter ( she has a daughter living with her dad) this pissed me off, we fight everyday. She has to point out every flaw, claim everyone is better and brags whenever she did something "good" to us. There's so much than this. I have no problem, i could just move out when im worried about my dad and brother. But he won't budge. Ugh has anyone been in my situation? I need advice , I'm living with a monster (Sorry for the long sob story)

Question: I hate my life?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 01:47 AM PST

My family life is rubbish: -My stepdad hates me. Absolutely no reason, he calls me every horrible name under the sun, smashes my things up, pushes me around. -I tell my mum things about me ALL the time and I'm constantly reminding her, but she never seems to remember. I invited her to accompany me to a show in London for my birthday, everything paid for including food and drinks, and she refused to go because something was on tv so I went to the show and restaurant on my own. -My sister is always with her boyfriend so we never get to hang out anymore -My father chose his sons over his daughters so we only see him once every few months -My friends are all busy with their kids and relationships to ever go out with me -Lost my job due to company closing Everyone is always telling me how nice I am, yet nobody ever wants to hang out or talk to me. I go to bars on my own in hopes of making some friends, but I guess because I'm so shy I seem intimidating. Everytime I make an effort to see or talk to anyone I just get ignored. I've recently started drinking more and more alcohol and started cutting myself. Before I had never touched alcohol. I feel like I have nothing left to live for. I just want someone to be there for me, but that just seems so impossible. Any tips or suggestions? I'm female and 20

Question: My parents don't want to give me advice on this so i'm asking here- should i pursue a profitable career or my passion?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 01:26 AM PST

i'm 19 and a computer science student, but i really don't enjoy it. i like to talk, i don't want to sit in front of machine for the rest of my life. i'm very talented at languages (speak 3 already) and i love everything combined with it, traveling, geography, cultures, politics etc... especially french and russian (can't speak those).. i've done some psychology tests with career consultants and the only thing they told me is that i'm equally great at everything- maths, phy, writing, sports, interraction and all, and that it's a waste to not use that for something that can earn a bank... what should i do? to give a clear question- should i continue with my cs major or transfer for french/russian major?

Question: If mom is massage therapist?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 01:01 AM PST

It is ok to ask your mom to massage her son if she is massage therapist? I am a teen boy my mother is therapist a day i asked her to massage & she did i was nude but covered by sheet. I told this about my friend he told me you are sick. Well i think its not big deal for mother to see her son/ doughter nude in any age as she seen 1000 of times before.

Question: MAGCON 2016! I NEED TO CONVINCE PARENTS!?

Posted: 09 Mar 2016 12:03 AM PST

So I'm 12-going on 13 in a few months and magcon 2016 is coming to my town March 20. My brothers birthday is March 29th and I'm scared my parents are going to say no because of a few different reasons... 1) this month is all about you're brother 2)it's too much money 3)it's too loud And 4, if I want to bring friends, it's 2 all over again. I found tickets that were 75 dollars each and theit bad seats but at least I would still go. I just really want to go. I've never have been to a concert in my life and all my friends mom's let them go to concerts at midnight on weekdays and this is on a Saturday at 2:30!