While my wife and I were dating, we lived long distance. I am from Ohio, she is from Illinois. We wanted to move her here while we were still dating, that way she could see what it was like to be away from her family and move to a new state before we got married and really settled down - to test our compatibility so to speak. Her parents (traditional, strict Mexican family) would not have it. Before she lived with me, they "required" her to be married to me, which I thought was complete bullshit but there was no talking to my wife about it. She didn t want to disappoint her family. Anyways, long story short, we got married in Illinois and she moved to Ohio with me. The only property we have in BOTH of our names is a 2016 Kia Forte that we bought. To wrap this up, we would like a mutual divorce (uncontested) because we discovered (as I feared to begin with) that we are incompatible living together and we detest one another completely now.. She s a typical brainwashed woman who feeds into her hunger for makeup, puppies, and dogs. We thought things would be better once she moved with me.. We always fought while we dated long distance, and we figured it was just the distance playing tricks on our hearts.. It s like she still can t grow the hell up. And it s only been 3 months that we ve been married. Would it be possible to get the marriage annulled, or a divorce? And if so, which state?

Long story short: I'm a future dentist/omfs resident. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years and may plan to marry her in the future. Questions: 1. Is having a prenuptial agreement considered to be rude and not trusting with your spouse in general? Do most people actually get it? 2. If I DON'T sign the agreement and somehow she decides to just divorce me for no reason other than obtaining my wealth - say she cheats on me and demands a divorce - there'll be no way I can counteract this? (I don't want to sound shallow, but I'll be earning much more than she will be, so was wondering if it's legal for her to just divorce me for the money or does she have to have a legitimate reason) 3. If I DO sign it, how much still will I have to pay her? What if kids are involved. I appreciate your responses and do apologize for my lack of knowledge regarding this matter.

My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now, but have been together for 6 years. He has a 10 year old boy which he shares custody with his biological mother but he has physical custody of his child. Is good, except when his son is about to leave with his mother's for the weekend or when he comes back from his mothers. Lately my husbands son has been saying to me that he hates me, that I'm a B****, Stupid, Spat in my face, lies to his father. Every time that this occurs, his father is either working or doing something in our house, he asks his son, but he lies. When I bring it to my husbands attention he says that he can't do much because he was not there to witness. We have gotten into several confrontations because he always believes his son. It's gotten to the point were i have told my husband that i want nothing to do with his son, nor take care of him. Example: His son was doing his homework, keep in mind that is 8 PM and i had just finished cooking dinner and it was his sons favorite. He finishes his hw and i start serving dinner, but my husband son tells his father that he was not hungry because he had a large lunch. My husband walks to the restroom to wash his hands and automatically his sons says that he will be getting a snack like chips because he's hungry. I serve him a lil bit of food and when his father comes back he said that i forced him to eat food, so my husband got livid, screamed at me in front of him and his son starts laughing..

I have two questions! 1. What age were you when you met your spouse? 2. How many breakups did you go through before you met your spouse? Thank you!

on the weekends we go out for dinner or to movies. While we are leaving my husband always says to his parents, time to take the trash out and he points at me and all 3 of them laugh. I don't think its funny but they all do. Ive told him not to do it but each weekend he does it. what do you think hes up to?

Do you think it's a good idea? Or think it'd make divorce rates go up? Or think more less couples would be in love?

He takes control of the area to clean, making a big deal out of it. I offer to mop it myself and he thinks I can't mop the floor well as he does. He has a history of not wanting me to eat on the couch, walk with shoes in the bedroom, can't eat in the car. If my dogs drool on the floor as he prepares meals he gets pissed off at them. Last month saw my cardiologist and I wore a holter monitor, I figured out my heart rate went up to 174 each time we had a discussion over me doing some stupid mistake. My question is: we work at home, so I don't socialize, so wondering if these fights are normal between husband and wife? He accuses me, and if I dare defend myself, he gets more angry and ends up saying nasty things like go back to your parents, but then hours later he apologizes and acts like nothing. Oh and these fights happen like a few times a month. It really depends, since I work so much, there are several days with little chances of me making mistakes, they mostly happen when I am cooking or drop stuff or forget to do something or I don't give him 100 percent exact directions to a place and we get lost. Huricaine, he's only 4 years older than me. I am so sick of this behavior.

I ve been married for 7 years. My husband and I have a 6 year old son. After years of dealing with verbal abuse from him, I am no longer in love with him. Although I ve already told him this, he seems to believe that there s a chance. And promises to change. He s promised many times before but goes back to the same abusive behavior. I do love him but only as the father of my child but that is not enought for me. I am unhappy and want out but he is not taking the news very well. He gets angry when he see that I m serious then calms down to gets me back. Then cries. I m trying to be nice and caring of his feelings but I don t know how to get through to him. I m done.

I was living in New York with my wife of 4 years. During these years she was in school and I supported the family as well as put her through school. After she graduated, obtained a new, well-paying, Federal Government position that required us to move to Florida with our two kids. Due to this I had to leave the Plumbers Union in NY, which is much, much better than the one in Florida, and take a massive paycut. Her job required her to be down there 6 weeks before I move with the kids. We have also signed for and moved into a house. Within 9 days of her being down there she began an affair with one of her coworkers. She said NOTHING until I was down there with our kids. She wants a divorce now and to be with these new guy. I have no other family within hundreds of miles, due to our move my career path has been completely derailed, I was never happy with the idea of moving to Florida. Obviously, I don t want to move back to New York alone because I will not be able to see my kids. She no longer has any interest in working it out. Since we are not yet residents of Florida is there any way that I can move back to New York with our kids? What is my best course of action?

I am a 20 yr old female. We've been together for almost 5 years and just moved in together. I was 16 when we got together and my parents were getting a divorce and his family(especially his mom) was really mean and did a lot of really messed up things to me/us. She's only started being nice and quit trying to split us up within the past few months. We just moved in together and we've always talked about getting married and I thought this is all I've ever wanted. He's also the only guy I've ever dated. I also kind of resent him for the way he used to pander to his mom and gang up against me with her. He missed our first anniversary, my 18th birthday, and much more bc she would plan trips on those occasions on purpose and he wouldn't have to balls to tell her no. It's not like that anymore but I can't seem to get over it. I am stuck here until the lease is up, but based on what I've told you, what do you thing I should do?

I live in new york. I'm currently separated. I want to get a divorce but I work during the day and have weekends off so I can't get out to the courthouse to get paperwork. I see online divorces are fairly cheap. I was wondering if anyone has any site they suggest and have used?

Doesn't "no fault divorce" mean my wife can sleep with another man whenever she wants, run away with him and still divorce me and get alimony payments? How messed up is that, why would I ever want to get married? I can never trust someone to that degree. This is a serious question my GF for the past year has been trying to get me to marry her but im not for this reason. I dont know if she will or not in the future people change with time. It could apply to any woman. right now we love each other and I trust her completely but who knows what the future holds. Messed up.

after a week long grudge she held because of an argument. I have been purposefully distant and that had seemed to bring her back around. But now that we seemed to be back on stable ground, she goes beserk. FYI- I told her to eat some lunch and then ignored her...

Before I tried to create a marriage based on love and respect, my marriage was NOT founded on these values. She needed me for financial/emotional/physical/sexual/mental support and I needed someone to always be there for me since I just wanted someone to spend my life with (abandonment and needy issues). But as I got stronger (got over my abandonment and needy issues) my wife did too (she started to support herself). Today our marriage promises seem moot since we both can satisfy our own needs and this "love/respect" thing is just too fake for us, we can't seem to get it right. But looking around me, I don't see anyone living this way. So, why is that? My parents don't live that way. My parents have a traditional marriage where my dad is the protector and the authority, my mom is the nurturer and the support. My in laws have an ignored marriage where FIL tends to his work and the MIL tends to hers, they only spend time together when there's nothing else to do (work before play I guess). An ex friend of mine had a marriage based on him getting sex and her not having to work (it didn't last). My brother's marriage is based on a mutual interest in comic books and they have a marriage like my parents..... There are countless marriages that are not based on love/respect. So why do we act (on here) that this is the default? It isn't. Most marriages are unique in their functionality and only break when someone changes the dynamic (or grows up). So why the push for love/respect? I think it has more to do with structure than it does love/respect being a "real marriage". We know that if we set love/respect as the foundation of why we are relating, then we can know we can expect (assuming they act always with integrity) to be treated with love and treated respectfully. This doesn't work in relationships like mine where neither spouse wants to be held accountable for their actions and/or for following "rules". Love/respect does not work in a flexible marriage.

We have been married 12 years, and we have gone through some tough times. Some things done wrong on both sides. No infidelity though. My wife says she's not feeling it now, and can't give me an answer about our future. We have 3 little kids that are a huge stress and it wears us both down. Our emotional connection is lost. I want to reconnect with her emotionally and rebuild things, she is kind of like lets see how it goes. After 11 years don't you think you at least owe someone a commitment to work on the relationship or say that's it. How long should I wait? My research on divorce shows that people aren't happier in second and third marriages. My thing is, why try and meet other people and build a relationship with them, your bound to uncover all new issues. Why not just try and work on your relationship now? My wife also waffles between "there is something wrong with her" and she is "fine". I've always suspected she has borderline personality disorder, and have talked about it with her multiple times, sometimes she agrees, other times, she does not. Now she is back to, maybe there is something wrong with her.

He works 2 jobs, gets off work still goes to bar at 12 midnight with his friends to drink instead coming home to family.

And let's say that such a thing was achievable, wouldn't this just encourage the woman to prove she's an "even stronger, even more independent" woman? Because let's face it, this isn't about survival any more, this is a competition of who "needs" the person more. And if neither person "needs" the other person, then why even be married? All this energy for being a "couple" is instead spent on this desire to be "better" than their spouse and able to live on their own (should a divorce ever be considered). And since no energy is being spent on the romance, but instead on proving that they don't NEED each other, why on Earth would these two people remain married if not to be infinitely entangled in a power struggle of who needs the other person less? Also, what happens when one person bows out and says "You win, you're stronger and more independent. Let's be equals in an interdependent relationship like NORMAL people". I imagine they can't do it and the person who is declared winner loses respect for their spouse, treats them like dirt, and finds someone else to marry so they can keep the competition going (i.e. the competition WAS the marriage). But I can't confirm since I refuse to play this game so I will never experience this. Maybe you have insights to share? Also, what's the point of being strong? Brene Brown has proven that vulnerability is the birthplace of Love. So if a person can't be vulnerable, how in the heck are they going to have REAL love for their spouse?

My husband and I have a HUGE lack of communication. It seems that on his end, things build up more and more and more and we start to have a distance between us. He grew up with his dad teaching him to hide/mask his feelings and not show affection (pakistanian culture), so I know that's a big reason. Anyways, has anyone had experience going to marriage counseling? Did it help? Did it bring yall together or apart? Was it pricey?

Note: This is a general question trying to provoke thoughtful answers. While I admit, I feel inadequate in my marriage, my wife has never made me feel this way; this is just a symptom of me losing my way in life, and feeling like a possession more than a human. It could just be perspective and not reality... Women have reached a point where they make as much, sometimes even more, than a man does. Women are proficient in caring for a house, and have the micro managing and authoritarian boldness to make sure everyone does their share. Women make enough on their own to hire a lawn service, a mechanic, a pool boy, and a trash collection service. So if women are this self sufficient, why do they marry if not to double their income, double their productivity (disregard that he might have aspirations of his own), and skip the therapy sessions. So what's the point? Why do business minded or at least successful women keep a husband around?

We have been married for nearly 5 years. From the beginning of our marriage he has been physically and emotionally abusive. It started out with a porn addiction, some times he would watch it anywhere between 4 to 6 hours at night and then sleep all day. The first time I confronted him about it he got very abusive. He's done everything from punching me in the stomach to banging my head against his. I had my child prematurely at 24 weeks 6 weeks ago from the abuse. He is currently in the NICU. While we were heading to the hospital while I was having contractions he head butted me multiple times because I was being "dramatic". He's in the armed forces as well, so I don't know how it will go with him being in the military. He told me they would believe him over me because I'm just a spouse. I'm to scared to ask for a divorce, we're 15 hours away from family and I have no friends. There's nowhere for me to go while my child is in the NICU for 3 more months. I feel so emotionally drained. I feel ugly and I feel worthless. He only lets me see my son for 30 minutes every other day at he NICU. I just want to get out, to leave. But I know I can't and I know he won't let me. I suffer from bipolar disorder, he said once the court found out that they would give our child to him. I caught him watching "teen porn" when I was pregnant. I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel so trapped. The teen porn he was watching was from 13-15 year olds. And I regret not leaving, all I need is some guidance and help. I understand I should have left years ago.. So it's completely acceptable for my husband to fantasies and pleasure himself for hours over 13 year old girls at the age of 30? I apologize for bringing up the porn problem...I didn't think it would cause anything. Thanks everyone for the answers. I'll contact a shelter today.

My wife is a control freak. She either likes to do everything because she can't trust anyone else to do a good enough job, or she forces you to do something she doesn't want to do because she doesn't have time to do everything in the house. Either way, she's either controlling you by not letting you "mess it up" or she's controlling you by making you "contribute". It's all arbitrary stuff too. One week it is my job to do laundry, the next she's doing laundry and she wants me to clean the kitchen (I never get to pick my own chores). But what good is a husband if I'm just an extra set of hands, a wallet, and a person to "vent" to (she doesn't solve any of her problems so it's the same vent every time)? I know that people don't like to talk about the 1950's stereotype of marriage because a lot of women find it as oppressive, but at least back then there was a clear division of duty so I knew what my role was and what the point of me being married was. A man was a protector and he was the authority. A woman was the nurturer and she supported the authority figure. Forget about domestic labor, that was still divided between the two (in functional 50's families anyways). But a man had a purpose back then... Now, what's the point? A lot of people disagree that we are a gynocentric world, but what narrative speaks of the male and his ego, pride, dreams, goals, aspirations? Any? All I hear online and off is "men are useless". Really wears on our consciousness and depresses us/me... Details you may not know: My wife and I both work full time (40+ hours). We both ride together to and from work (we work together). And my wife has more than once said that if I wanted to move out I could because she's already used to doing everything on her own (by her choice - again, I ask to help and she tells me to go away). So this question isn't about chores, this question is about the purpose of a husband and why modern day women even get married if they don't value us as humans.

So my wife recently got a promotion in her IT department at a big downtown hospital she's worked at for a very long time. At first when she told me it was great. She's going to be making a ton of money and we can get a much better and bigger house in a neighborhood that we can afford. Bad part is, she works more hours and even weekends now and don't get to see her. I miss my old IT girl that used to watch sports with me. I met her at a sports bar and grill 10 years ago. I was alone and she was too and was single and bored and we hit it off. We watched football all the time and when our Indianapolis Colts won the superbowl we had the greatest sex you could have possibly imagined. Now she's always tired, she's always talking about work and it's not even interesting anymore. It used to be about programing, fixing applications and computers in her hospital now it's data collection information or whatever... It's boring but apparently requires much responsibility. Why do cute IT girls get boring after 10 years? I want my sport girl back damnit! My question is how to I get my wife to change how she used to be?

My husband and i just got married a few months ago. Most of the time when we were dating he was in the air force and we never got to see eachother and our sex life was dead, so now that he is out of the airforce were married and we catching up on the time that we lost. A few days ago we were about to have sex(in the middle if foreplay) and my friend came over for help with something. My husband doesnt even like this particular friend anyway, so he got really upset (telling me to tell her to go home because your spending time with your husband you can see her another day) Long story short i finshed helping her with her work and then she left. I went back into the room where my husband was and he told me to sleep in the guest bedroom or he will. The next day he came home from working and handed me a dildo saying if i get horny i should probably use it from now on since hes not my priority then i should make hi d*** mines either. It really surprised me because my husband never act this childish, but he is a bit controlling. I told guy friend about the situation and he told me it was my fault because i was initially spending time with my husband.What do you guys think? Do you guys agree?

She claimed they were for me but she intentionally chose not to wear her wedding ring. Then lied and said it kept falling off. Then I found out from the photographer that they specifically asked her to wear it and she refused saying she didn t even bring it. The photographer told me every shoot they do for a husband the ring is the center of the shoot, thats the detail that makes it special for the husband. My wife has hidden things from me before so I m suspicious and I can't for the life of me make it make sense why she would go out of her way to keep the ring out of the photos if they were truly done for me. I honestly think they were never meant for me and I just happened to find out when I unexpectedly walked past her on her computer with the album up. I m disgusted at this point and don t know how I can believe her after multiple lies about the whole thing. Am I crazy? How to I get past it?

Hai, I am 37-year-old male doing medical transcription at home for over 2 years. I got married about 2 years back and I had 1-year-old boy. Since marriage especially over a year I had confusion in my mind, some fear about my wife will get out of my control and left to prostitution, and fear about my son will blame me. But at some time I feel it is ridiculous. She seems most influential woman in her mother's home. She is undertaking all the works on her own in her home. But she did not do any such work here in my home. She is scolding/fighting with my family members most of time. I am basically silent in nature and talk very less. She takes this as advantage and influence me. I feel she is going to nearby house and she accept their advise against our family.

I am curious that how love would be after we got married or loved someone for so long. It's a serious question, guys.

Is it cause her face ages or body gains weight?

Me and my husband been together for 5 years. And every so often start doing something that really annoys me. Like when we re in a group setting and someone does something like cook. He will compliment them on how good it is. But my problem comes when he say stuff like "you need to give my wife this recipe cause this is really good. Then he ll look at me and be like" you need to make (dish) like this". Or maybe my best friend cooks and he says " you and my wife need to have a cook off because I don t know who cooks the best". It s really annoying me, because when I cook he tells me how good it is. Or if he hears what someone else is planning for their spouse he will say that s nice my wife did something nice like that for me but not exactly like that. Im really not sure if I m over reacting. Or should I address the situation.

i got into a heated argument with my wife today and it escalated pretty bad. here is why: my dad and i used to go to old timer's day at yankee stadium the last couple of yrs. it used to be our father's day present to each other. my wife would buy my ticket and i would buy my dad's. my dad is getting up there in age and the trip is too much for him. this year i would like to go and asked my wife if i could go and asked a buddy to go with me. she immediately got an attitude with me and pretty much said " we don't have the money for that". i said it wasn't an issue before going with my dad why is it an issue now? she went on to say " i never do things by myself !" i said, " that's your problem. you choose to be with your kids 24/7". i realize we have kids but i feel we need our own time to do things we like. this is one day, one game i said. she said that it turns into a $ 200 day( which is completely not true). i said " oh but the trip to NYC with the kids, that's cheap ?? she said that its a family trip that's why. my buddy would pay his own way for everything. all i would want is for her to pay for my ticket for father's day present( the game is a week before father's day so it doesn't interfere with father's day itself). who is being unreasonable and did i have a right to get upset? if you need further details, please comment and ill reply. i think some of you have missed the point here. i spend plenty of quality time with my family. my wife and i both work and we make sure our kids are fed, clothed and a roof over their heads. all i asked for was to go to a game with a friend. i would pay my own ticket and so would my friend. we would probably split any other expenses down the middle ( i pay for parking, he pays for the beers). it is one day, one game. am i seriously asking for too much??

and yes im single and looking im 25

She already has two children, from her ex husband. I m 29 and she s 25. She s set on only having the two boys, who I love and take care of. Their biological father isn t in the picture, so I understand why she might be apprehensive; but I work hard to make it to where she can be stay at home mother for the two boys. There s no financial issues. I m getting older everyday, the opportunity is slipping to have one because I don t want to be an old father. She says that she may want one someday, but that s a pretty big may. I love her, I just know I want a child of my own, at some point. I've expressed this openly on more than one occasion, she knows my wants but as you stated, I don't want to push her. It's not right for her to have something she doesn't wan and it's not right for me to not have something that I truly want. Guess I found my answer.

Why does she get to keep the house I paid for and take money out of my paycheck when she cheated on me and broke our marriage vow?

My wife of years likes little storie during sex. A few times i have tried using another women fingering her or something like that during a massage. she gets off real quick with that. She also goes along with it. She also had some rumors mat works years beofre we met that she came in to work with hickeys from another cowoker female. she does denie this and having attreations though. What do you think?

He does it randomly during the week. He just picks me up and spanks me lol I like him dominant but sometimes its too hard and its a fine line telling him to stop because usually I like it. I dont want to emasculate him or make him feel less of a man. swbarnes2: Umm, he cares about me more than anyone else in the world and is very loving. Who are you to call my husband a piece of ****, how dare you? Thanks for all these good answers But its not only about me, if he likes to spank me, which he does, should I rough it out to give him pleasure also? He also gives me massages too which I like. But what if the "tweaking" makes him like it less? No we dont have a safe word. I guess what Im asking is if asking my husband to spank me less hard will make him like spanking me less. But I guess he would be ok with it if I said it in the right way.

My husband & I enjoy taking showers together before work. It's basically become a daily routine. Often times we are not having intercourse in the shower & just enjoy being with each other. However, all 3 of my kids are teenagers now & often see my husband & I coming out of the bathroom together. I get the feeling this makes them very uncomfortable! They seem to be avoiding the house a lot & wanting to stay at a friends place overnight frequently. It's only natural for married couples to be intimate. How do I address this with my children? Would this make you uncomfortable if you were a young adult?

My job makes me travel for 2 weeks at a time and I have to be away from my wife. I am given an allowance how much money I can spend while I'm on this trip and a free stay at a hotel. No I won't be spending company money for entertainment I just miss my wife and she misses me. What do you think?