I'm a 30 year old female Also been told they are intimidated by me and see me as vulnerable Also that they tend to like me because i appear easy (easy to get me to f*ck them)... How can I change my life to be someone that Is already respectable and loved?

hi guys. we have joint custody of our son and just now got a call from police that i have to stop harassing her with phone calls. I am trying to talk to my son and she will not let him pick up the phone. I have no choice but to try few times.. He did pick up the phone tonight and within 10 seconds she cut the phone on him. I was asking my son how his day was and if he went anywhere...She immediately cut the phone on him and call me back YELLING saying why do i question him where he went etc. After she yelled at me on the phone I sent her a text saying please grow up you are 30 years old. Afterwards she called the cops saying I am harassing her with phone calls..The office told me that if it happens again I can get in trouble. So what should I do if I cant talk to my son?? thats my main reason for calling , she used this as if i was calling to talk to her!!!!! We have a court date coming up in 3 weeks . so I am guessing she is going to take this police report that I am harrassing her!!!!

My husband is 35, I am 29. We have been married for 8 years. We have two sons together, both are 5 years old :) I'm also trying to get pregnant with a third as of right now. I'd say we're happy with our lives, but my husband has a sadness about him. I don't think he's over it. When I was 22, I had a baby girl. She was the light of our lives. For pretty much no reason at all, she passed away. I had never heard him scream like that when he came to get her in the morning. I was a wreck for a while. Don't get me wrong. But I'm ready to move on. She still makes me really sad sometimes, but I still think I function normally. My husband got rid of all of the pictures of her in the house, and barely talks about it. He had very bad anxiety before this happened. He'd get extremely stressed out for stupid reasons, but now it's a lot worse. He blamed himself for a while, and said that he put her to bed the wrong way, ridiculous things. When we're sleeping, he wakes up sweating, sometimes yelling, or will scream our daughter's name. He says he has reoccurring dreams of all of us dying. Sometimes he wakes up and throws up in the toilet he's so terrified. I'm no psychologist. I don't know what's going on, I just know that he's not as happy as he could be. When I bring up counseling, he says he's fine, and that there's nothing wrong. Help?

I live in Tampa, FL and I have just met a married couple with two girls age 3 and 5. They are refugees from Syria. The husband was born with a disease that made him unable to walk ( I couldn't ask him what is the name of this disease). They also have his mother who is old and sick. They are fairly new in the US. His wife is obviously the only person who can care for those girls and the mother in law. To their surprise, when he applied for disability, they denied his application and told him that his wife doesn't have disability and can work. For the past three years, they have been living from the money they were able to save before they left Syria and they seem they are getting closer to not having any left soon. Do you think what happened to them is common? is it really this bad to qualified for benefits, is it Just Florida or this is everywhere in the US. Do you recommend other solution, do you have anything in mind...can you suggest something so that we can help these people. Please know ,we are not asking for money, we just like to know if there is anything we can do to help these people!!!

He has to have my parents with us . He acts like we are together when we are with them He doesn't avoid me or anything so I know he isn't embarrased of me .he just has to have my parents with me ? He says its family time ?

I get upset with my boyfriend of 3 years from time to time because I feel like he wasn't effected by my abortion. I felt at the time that it was the best decision because he constantly reminded me why we wweren't ready. A few days after I had it ge went in a spring vreak cruise with his friends he had planned. I felt alone & he hasn't brought it up since. I feel guilt. I feel sad from time to time. His brother just had his first child with a girl he only known for 10 months. Him and his family are obsesed with it because it's his first nephew and his oarebts first grandchild. I would've had my baby a month before her. I feel upset because I think he knew his brother was having a baby before we decided on the abortion but didn't want me to know for some odd reason . I get upset when he says he's in love with his nephew..or brags about him & I'm not sure why. I think I made a bad decision because I didnt have a support system & I still don't. He wasn't really available to talk to & was late to three doctors appointments & made me miss my first abortion appointment. If I ger sad and bring it up he says sorry ir tries to change the subject ir asks ect I bring it up still. Helpful advice please no rude comments I know what I did was wrong& I will never do it again.

I just started seeing this guy and he is recently divorce. My mom is not trilled of the idea but he and I have so much in common and want the same things in life. We have been friends before he got divorce. Are there any pros and cons of dating someone recently divorced?

Me(28 male) and my girlfriend/ fiancee(29 femal) have been together since 2010. We have a three year old child together. I am a national guard soldier and have been out of town for extended period of time throughout the relationship. I want to get married if only on a piece of paper because it means I will make more money(BAH) when I am gone away from my civilian employment. She says she doesn't want to get married for money but wants a backyard wedding once our finances improve. I'm tired of starving and sacrificing while I am gone for training and I want to be married. She say she loves me and wants to be with me forever. How do I show her the time is now because I'm tired of waiting for the "right time

"You're useless" "You're just a pretty blonde distraction" (assuming the female partner is blonde) "The feelings I have for you are anger, hatred, disappointment"

So long story short legally I m married however back in May when I found out I was pregnant my husband just left, had been cheating and continued to and literally abandoned us. He decided to make contact a few months ago but he has moved on and is sleeping around with other women and on dating sites. I ve constantly prayed for our marriage and have hopes for a reconciliation. However fast forward to today and having our baby (which he denies is his at times and hasn t even made an effort to meet him) and I m tempted to at east throw myself in the getting to know someone scene. Part of me still does want our marriage to work and for him to wake up and I also feel it s even wrong of me for having these thoughts of moving on while married although he s long left our marriage. I feel as if it goes against all that God gave us.

She claimed they were for me but she intentionally chose not to wear her wedding ring. Then lied and said it kept falling off. Then I found out from the photographer that they specifically asked her to wear it and she refused saying she didn t even bring it. The photographer told me every shoot they do for a husband the ring is the center of the shoot, that s the detail that makes it special for the husband. My wife has hidden things from me before so I m suspicious and I can t for the life of me make it make sense why she would go out of her way to keep the ring out of the photos if they were truly done for me. I honestly think they were never meant for me and I just happened to find out when I walked past her on her computer with the album up. I m disgusted at this point and don t know how I can believe her after multiple lies about the whole thing. Am I crazy? How to I get past it?

I recently served my ex-husband custody papers requesting primary custody and child support after he had dropped off the face of the earth for 8 months (this time) and his crazy wife unleashed on my child. My daughter asked for me to get full custody. He owes me thousand of dollars in basic expenses. We have gone round and round with this for 8 years. Every time he begs me to give him another chance. I reluctantly have..no more. So this time I hired an attorney and had him served by the courts. Low and behold he suddenly was demanding to see our daughter. Next thing you know, she wants to stay with him. This is not uncommon. He does this every time. She desperately wants to do anything to keep him in her life. Even if it means that she goes through heartache a month later (that's how long he can stand it). I'm curious if this will cause troubles with my case. He had nothing to do with her, then got the papers. For the past month he has been twisting her around his finger. I don't have a problem with her seeing him. I want her to have her father part of her life. I just am tired of the "on my terms" position.

We live in a small community. We've been here for almost 15 years and have 2 kids. I'm friends or at least know my kids, friends and their parents. Not saying I'm buddy buddy with them but I have phone numbers / Facebook friends. Our kids are middle school age. My ex left me when our youngest wAs 5. He wanted shared custody so he moved close by. I do my best to include him on the emails of all their extra curricular activities, but somehow he looses the email or never gets it. He doesn't make friends with the parents except for a friendly hello. He has no idea who the parents are when I say hi. He's remarried and I guess all caught with the new woman. It's beyond frustrating when I say Ron if you need something why not go ask these people ? He says I don't know who they are! I'm like our kids have been friends with them for years!! How do you not know? Then he blames me for not "helping" him. I'vr literally bent over backwards. I shouldnt have to be his mother also. Are Men just socially inept ?

My husband and I pretty much do all of the chores together, cook, clean, do laundry. He never complains or suggests that I should be doing those things alone, but sometimes my mother-in-law and even my mom do. I'm often tired from a day at work and sometimes end up working more hours than him, but I feel guilty for not doing "wife" things such as cooking for him and doing his laundry and cleaning up the house, I think mostly because my mom and MIL make me feel that way. Am I wrong for not doing those things? I feel like the way we handle things is fair since I provide half of our income.

Lets imagine that he got a vasectomy, and then she cheated and got herself pregnant, and a DNA test showed it was not his kid, so she got angry at 'HIM' for accusing her of being unfaithful, so she divorced him and moved in with the man who got her pregnant in the first place. Should the ex-husband now be paying her child support for that child?

My husband has a job in NJ that he loves. We can live in a nice area in an expensive but not very nice house. No family around. The kids can go to nice schools in the future. My husband has a job offer for 10K less in NY, in a more rural area (that he likely won't like as much). It's my hometown, where all my family is. The houses are beautiful and about $100,000 less. The economy in that area is poor, and the school is ok. Which one should we choose?

I've been married for about 8 years. To my knowledge my husband has been cheating on me for 4 of those 8 years. When I think he's going to change; I'll find out about another affair. He doesn't even try to hide it anymore << at least if he's trying he's doing a bad job. He doesn't care about feelings.Never answers any of my questions. Physical contact between us has been non-existent for years. I will be lucky to get it once or twice a year. He doesn't pay me any attention, doesn't give me compliments or anything else you would expect a spouse would do. Another guy has been paying me attention. Flirting with me, giving me compliments, texting each other back and fourth, writes me notes, play me with hair, gives me little gifts, tells me what he likes to see me in and more. I even find myself wearing things he suggest. I feel guilty in a way but it feels great to be notice, complimented and appreciated. Am I wrong? I've known this guy for a few years now. He's always been playful and stuff but it has recently changed. I am really enjoying it. NO we're not sleeping with each other.

We haven't even been married a year. It was over a dumb petty little argument and he called me a b*tch so I said f*ck you. He hates when anyone curses at him and know I shouldn't have done it to push his buttons but it slipped out. He didn't even hit me but he grabbed a handful of my hair and yanked it back asking me to repeat what I just said to him. I started crying and he let go and apologized. I don't think he was going to actually hit me but I had a boyfriend who put me in the hospital back when I was fifteen so this kind of thing scares me. I talked to my friend about it and she mentioned that he might have done it on purpose to scare me and get me to stop arguing with him since he knows about my past. As much as it scares me I realize he's 23 and bound to make mistakes every now and then just like I do. He apologized all night and in the morning I suggested we should do counseling of some sort. But he said that it made him feel terrible and he didn't want to talk about it again. I don't know what to do or think.

I left my abusive ex wife 9 years ago. I left her everything, car, apartment, money. I was homeless while going to school. I guess she lost everything now, she states that her lawyer says I should be paying spousal support now that I'm better off. Is that true? So I'm filing a divorce now and she says she isn't going to contest...but I think she's lying, should I be prepared? We have no kids, no debt, nothing together. She lives in Texas now I'm in California.

This is a second marriage for both of us. I love my husband he is a wonderful husband father, step father and friend. He went through a nasty divorce in 2013 so I have never met the 2 kids by his ex wife. He also has 1 son with his ex girlfriend and I have 1 son, so we have 4 total. Our finances are not the best both coming from divorce, but we are paying things off slowly on top of paying child support. Our kids all live with their other parents so we both pay child support. I know we can't afford another kid right now but we could in the next 2yrs because we will be debt free. We talked about having more kids & had even picked out names. But here lately its NO MORE KIDS!! He has valid points on the issue but so do I. However he came to the decision without consulting me AT ALL!! He said "I had to make a personal decision for me for once". However, I got pregnant in January 2015 and he begged me to abort. The timing was wrong and we can't afford a baby right now, we can have one later. We aborted and life painfully went on, we got married in October 2015 and as of December 2015 almost 1yr post abortion he says he DOESN'T WANT ANY MORE KIDS!! I'm in mid 30's and I just feel so betrayed, like I dont have a voice. Will our entire marriage be like this, I just dont know?I pray I cry but maybe I'm being selfish and shoukdlet it go. But, I have always wanted more kids & my son is so lonely. He asks me all the time for a lil brother or sister. Im a nurse and work a 72hour block schedule. At the time of my divorce I was doing more overnights so my ex hubby kept our son. Thatt is what my child dupport is based on. Now my son is with me more but the child support order is still the same. My husband's children reside fulltime with their moms. Him and his ex wife have timesharing schedule but they do not go by it because she has him scared to enforce it. He spends time with his kids as often as possible but she makes it VERY DIFFICULT!! The other 4x a week my son is at home with us!! So the you are not rsisibg tge ones you have are not true. We both work very hard to provide wants and needs for our kids. We arent getting any help or handouts, we make it happen for our kids!!

It was about 3am when I woke up this morning and couldn't go back to sleep. So out of no where I grabbed my husbands phone and went into his FB account.. We've never had any trust issues which is why I never go into his FB page..but last night I literally had nothing to do so I decided to take a peek.As expected, I saw nothing to raise any suspicion. So then out of curiosity, I went through his text messages and e-mails and finally his internet history and there is where I saw he had deleted a few FB conversions with some girl who is not his friend on FB. I clicked on the links, but of course they took me nowhere because the messages had already been erased. I then went into the girls page to see if it was someone I knew..but to my luck, she has a picture of her tattoo as a profile picture so I have no idea who this girl is. I literally wanted to punch my husband in his sleep, but decided to calm down and think about what I should do? I'm debating on whether I should confront my husband first or if I should message this girl and ask her why she's messaging my husband??? What should I do?

husband works 7-6 monday through friday and saturdays 7-5. He leaves the house at 6:15 am and i dont see him until 7 pm. And then hes so tired that he goes to sleep around 9-10. that leaves very little time to hang out. and then sundays he always finds something to do in the mornings - go buy tools or do favors for friends with his pickup truck. and now to make it even worse he is working nights at the job too on some days. hell come home and leave 30 minutes later and wont come back until around 1 am. so naturally the next day he falls asleep as soon as he gets home. he is working since the hours match up but ive told him many times this is affecting the relationship but he keeps saying we need the $. i work and get good pay and we dont really NEED the money. what do i do? im just so lost right now. i feel extremely alone and dont know if im truly happy. hes against therapy because he doesnt want to waste precious money. what would you do? I am currently pregnant and dont know if i should just divorce and let him work his precious job. we are not needy for momey as much as he says we are. everything for the baby is set and my maternity leave will be paid. i just feel his job is more important than the marriage.

I had to have my husband leave because he did not want my son to come over to the house. Now I'm back to being alone and I need to find a way to handle this. I don't really have friends. Is there anyone out there who is alone, single and still happy?

Im 22 married we have a son. I cant go to college until my son is like 16 and lifes in a better place. My husband was a truck driver and he quit every month basically so we never had money. We have one car thats abt to die for good and we still owe 2000 on it and its my grandmaws. Im applying for jobs and so is he. We now have foodstamps im extremely ashamed. All i want in life is to have a house and 2 more kids but i feel like this will never happen. Even if my husband gets a job is wont be more than 10 an hr and if i get one it wont be more than minimum wage. If we both work it will have to be seperate hours bc no one else can watch our son

Confession: I care what she thinks of me. I am a slave to mannerisms and etiquette (don't move my question there, they are just going to reinforce my self abuse). I love my wife and realize she doesn't love me. I haven't had a personality or a life in years because of crippling debt that seems to only go higher because of her impulsive shopping (joint bank account and she does all the finances then doesn't disclose). I'll confess more as updates as things come up.

I believe in marriage as much as you, and I would never want to go through a divorce, but you are worth so much more than what she gives you credit for. It's not often to find a man so tuned into his wants and desires. You have matured beyond your wife's capabilities. You and your children would be better off if you two divorced. Dreamer......you and I could take on the world together. I believe we are a match. Too bad you are stuck on waiting for your wife to "wake up"....knowing full well that that will never happen. :/ I could help him with his self esteem. I would help him become the man I know he wants to be. He just needs to get away from his crazy wife. Stop moving my question so he'll see it!! *Sigh* Ah-HA! Beat that, reporters! Appeal approved!

It's not as terrible as it sounds. I am no home wrecker by any means. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time. One evening I made a joke about how I would never marry him then he tells me "even if you wanted to you couldn't" of course I was puzzled so I asked what he meant. Apparently 4 years ago he never finalized his divorce. (ARE YOU KIDDING ME) I had no idea. Had I known I wouldn't have gotten in a relationship with him until it had been final. Now he's telling me he's going to get it finalized but it still bothers me and it's in the back of my mind always. Should I give him a time limit? I hate to be that woman, but it eats at me so bad. Any advice?

So last week I had to go get blood work done as a follow up to check my Cholesterol. My results came back and I need to lose weight, exercise, and follow a mostly plant based, lean protein diet for a while to get my LDL and Triglycerides back in check. This has put a lot of pressure on me to change because I don't want to put myself at risk of heart disease. My wife however doesn't care. She knows I'm obese for my body frame, but blames my snacking on it and not her cooking (It's honestly both - her dinners are often very high calorie). To make matters worse, my wife believes that chores should be 50/50, raising kids should be 50/50, all debt should be 50/50, and believes that it is the "MAN'S job" to take care of landscaping, sanitation, driving, and caring for animals (she thinks "women things" is sexist though and they are just "chores"). This makes it very difficult for me to start a healthier lifestyle; my head is barely above water with responsibility as it is. To make matters worse, she's keeping score and she's VERY bias in how that score is divided. I don't know what to do any more. She refuses counseling, therapy, or to compromise. I talked to her about my health, told her that I need to make changes, but she doesn't care. All she cares about is making sure I do my "half" (plus my men stuff and caring for 4 animals) so it doesn't interfere with her "me time". I'd "grow a pair" and just tell her to get over herself, but I don't see how that's going to help... Hmmm.... I should have changed the title of the question... I realize the statement should have been "My wife has unrealistic expectations and she pushes responsibilities on to me. What can I do?" --- This is why I need to type the details before the question going forward, now people are going to be confused what the real question is... Sorry :/ Not a Gender Studies issue. Or maybe it is? I don't know. All I know is that my wife has divided all the work that is important to her (note: not all the work) and she is holding me accountable for my half. And any time I hold her accountable for her half (or for anything that would be considered "extra" work like forcing the kids to do their homework, hygiene, and to go to bed) she loses her mind. It's all about her "me time". There's no time for couple time or sex, just her "me time".

Whenever our dog has a seizure, which is every 3-4 weeks, my husband gets very anxious. he starts blaming me - that it's my fault and I must have forgotten to give the dog the meds, and I'm so irresponsible. Then it creates a fight, and I'm telling him if I'm so irresponsible then why doesn't he give the dog the meds. He says he does when I'm traveling for work. I then remind him that's only once a month and I'm giving the meds 2x a day every day. I tell him the meds don't cure epilepsy, it only makes the seizures less frequent. Then he starts shouting that if it were up to him he would put the dog down, that this is not a good life. The next day we are both mad at each other for fighting. it makes me hate my husband. how do I make this stop? want to add it's the same fight every.single.time.

I'm married but I've always liked my independence. We don't have children yet (unless you count our 2 dogs) On Saturday nights we have our "independent night" He goes out with his friends, I go out with my friends. Some of my friends & some of his are not married/single. We both like not feeling "tied down" one night a week & feeling like we are still able to be young & independent. This does NOT mean we flirt with or even speak to other people. It's just our way of still "having our own lives" while married. A lot of people have made "comments" about both of us trusting each other to go to a bar with a bunch of single guys/single women. They find our ideas to be a bit "odd" especially my mother & my mother in law. I feel like it's important to have a separate life/hobbies etc. it's unhealthy to spend 24/7 with your husband/wife. Any thoughts/opinions on this? Do you find this odd for a married couple?

first of all I just want to say if you guys don't have anything nice to say then please don't say it. I'm on here for good advice from people who care and have been here or genuinely have some good advice. okay so where to start, my husband and I have been together 2 and a half years. we have sex everyday and he still watches porn. i understand if everyonce in a while he wanted to but how much i see it is redicuous. also he looks up girls on tumblr, and porn stars which i feel is cheating.

I was raised that after you reached a certain age you began helping out around the house. That help being in the way of financial help. My parents felt that since mom cooked, cleaned, and did everyone's laundry the least we could do was help pay some of the cost. After my sisters and I graduated college and returned home to begin work each week we'd get paid we always walked in the house with a certain amount for mom and dad. Well, my wife's 19, almost 20, year old son (from her first marriage) needs to start helping out. BACKGRO UND: When he graduated high school we got him into a 4 year college several hours away. He got into the party life and failed out his first year. His girlfriend's parents would drop their daughter off at his dorm and would leave her there for days at a time which I felt contributed to him not going to class. Well, he's been back home with us for about a year now and it seems he's not taking anything seriously. He has no focus. When he first went he wanted to do travel and tourism. At the semester break he wanted to quit school, come home and take online classes for construction management. We convinced him to go back and buckle down. He then went to accounting. When he was finally kicked out he decided over the summer to go into graphic design. Well, he's now taking classes at a local college in graphic design and it's a 1 year program which he'll complete some time this year. This past Thanksgiving he made the announcement that he and his 20 year old girlfriend were pregnant and they planned it because they felt they were ready and since they were in love, why wait? Now these are two kids who still lived at home with their parents and depended on them for food, transportation, etc. She subsequently had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. My wife thinks it's fine for him to go to her house (her parent's house) and stay with her several days a week. I wasn't raised that way. I feel that if you can find somewhere to go 2,3, or 4 nights a week then you can get your own place and stay somewhere 7 nights a week. I want him to take some responsibility for his actions by requiring him to pay $50 a week, $200 a month to live in our house now. My wife feels that since he's in school he should be exempt. She likes to throw my daughter into the mix. She's away at a 4 year institution living on campus. I told her that as long as the kids are away in school doing what they were suppose to do we'd help them but the minute they start making bad decisions then they need to start fending for themselves. My daughter, as long as she stays on tract, will graduate with a bachelor's degree. Her son will have a certificate. There's a major difference. Had he did what he was suppose to do he'd still be in his 4 year school well on his way to getting a bachelor's degree and not just a certificate. Anytime I bring this up to my wife she complains that I'm just picking on him. I just feel that when you start making adult decisions then you need to be treated like an adult. $200 a month isn't that much but it teaches responsibility and budgeting. He lost his job not to long ago because the car he was driving broke down because he wouldn't do the regular maintenance on it. But momma doesn't want him to ride the bus. How do I approach this with my wife to get her to understand? She refuses to force him to stand up to more responsibility and push him towards becoming an adult. You get ready to cook dinner and realize that he's eaten all the eggs or you come home and realize that he's been playing video games all day instead of looking for work. Mommy doesn't want to cut the apron strings and let him stand on his own two feet but you're tired of supporting another grown person in your house. HELP!!!!! I guess my real question is this. How long do you a grown person in your house or do you expect them to start supporting themselves. If you have to take them everywhere, cook all their food, wash their clothes. But, he can go stay with his girlfriend at her parent's house for several days a week.

Or maybe I should go buy a motor bike too? Or maybe sell it for him and surprise him with a horse? I don't know what do you think? We're coming up on our 7 year marriage anniversary. Happy-2: Did you.....or didn't you.....or did your wife get a 7 year itch?

It's sure that i'm not happy anymore . I want to leave my wife . But whenever i say about divorce she's start crying . She's not a good girl but she love me so much , I have no love on her but i'm not a cruel man . , i want to walk away .Let me advice , HOW TO DIVORCE HER WITH A KIND ? HOW TO MAKE HER COMFORT TO LEAVE ME ? Please Please Please . . . If she has no problem , i would happy to divorce . i just want a divorce with a respect !!! Update:We have no child , so , it's a good time to leave . How can i do ? came on !

Yesterday we were getting ready to go outside for a walk. It was cold so I told everyone to put on a coat. My husband starts to walk out without his coat. He says he doesnt feel its cold enough for him to wear his coat. I told him to set the example for the kids. He then acts like a child and has a temper tantrum, slamming the car door, getting frustrated with the stroller etc. By that time I was done and didnt want to go. Wow...okay I understand my husband shouldn't have to wear a coat if he doesn't want to. That's fine but how he conducts himself is another thing. He could have handled it better is all I am saying. PS I admit to being frustrated when he was trying to open the stroller, and that's when he decided to act the way he did. I love him dearly and he is a good dad.

My husband and I have been together 10 years, married 4. About a month ago we got into an argument about housework that has since been ongoing. He said he was very stressed from nursing school and working two part time jobs and that when he came home, he had to do all the housework. He asked me to step up to fix our marriage. Since then, he has been very back and forth with his emotions. Originally he told me that he fell into a dark place and was unable to feel emotions...a few weeks later he came to me and told me that he was starting to feel like a person again, but that he wanted to take baby steps. Numerous times we have had intercourse, but then he turns around and pushes himself away again. Every time he starts being friendly and talkative, I try to talk about whats going on and he gets upset. He said he will talk about it when he is ready. I know he isn't cheating (trust me, that's not the issue). We have good days and bad days, but I can't kiss or hug him. Basically it feels like we are roommates right now. It's very confusing. He has always bottled everything up, but he was also always very affectionate and loving. I know I can't give enough details. I know this isn't all about cleaning...he said later that I don't listen to him. He asked me for some space and time to process everything but that he didn't want a divorce, though the thought still scares me. I just want my husband back....I am seeing a therapist, but I can't convince him to go. This isn't him.

my wife is sick i dont love her , she is able to take care of herself but use's me to keep me their with her no one in her family wants to help me anyway i want to start a business up north i'm in florida they say they will sue me if i leave any suggestions ?

Hello...well i am in a serious situation, i need to move out of my state to start a vending business i will need another job as well till i get things going with the business my wife of 26 years is sick i want to help her ,she does not want to move benefits here in florida suck, her family say they will sue me if i leave i dont love her but i still want her to get medical help this is my last chance to do something i want to do, i'm 58 it could fail and my partner who i'm in love with is still attached as well to a guy , regardless we would still be friends ..whats your take on this