Family: Question: Do most kids not have boundaries these days?

Question: Do most kids not have boundaries these days?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:41 PM PST

My son has a disagree from his previous marriage. She is 7. She is constantly interrupting is while we are talking and always inserts herself in adult conversation. She orders her dad to get her more food etc without saying please or thank you while we are still eating. She doesn't listen and do what she is told unless there is a reward involved then she will do it half of the time. She is constantly taking her dads phone and calling people without his permission and face timing them. She will often FaceTime call me while I am getting ready for work and I don't answer then she complains to her dad I don't answer her. She constantly tattle tales on other kids and even adults and pets to her dad and thinks it's funny when they get into trouble. Is it normal behavior for a kid these days or is she coddled?

Question: My mum is a witch?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:33 PM PST

My mum is so difficult. She is always snappy and you can never talk to her about getting your head bitten off. She always looks so angry and when she gives me lectures on how to stay safe, work around the house, etc, she says it in a way that there's never going to be a good outcome and life is always going to be ****. It's very upsetting and it almost reduces me to tears. She was like this when I was a child and I remember withdrawing from everyone and everything just to deal with her moods. Even when I was down, she'd still nag me, making out that everything was my fault even if I didn't do anything. She is such a *****. Even a **** (sorry, I had to say it).

Question: My mom is ordering things from the T.V... I am worried?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:17 PM PST

She watches QVC a lot now. And when I come home from school there's always something new in the mail box, and it's usually a scarf. She is also a hoarder, and has plenty of scarves already. She also ordered nearly everything from the jacqueline Kennedy collection but we don't make that much money? Should I be worried... What should I do? I am her 16 year old daughter.

Question: My mother in law stays ten days every month for years now and how can I cope?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:11 PM PST

Question: Was I wrong to let my mom know my 16 yr old brother bought a vape?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:04 PM PST

My brother just turned 16 and today I checked the mail and found he bought vapes from another state using a prepaid card his friend got him. our state just changed the smoking age to 18 my brother doesn't even have an ID so I'm jot sure how he was even able to buy iy . I only told my mom because I was worried for my brothers health now he is piss ed off at me. Was it wrong of me to tell her. She has told him a few years ago he wasn't allowed to use them. I asked my mom if my brother had talked to her about it she had no idea. He doesn't have a job at all either all he does all day is play video games he does nothing around the house. I do all the chores including staying up late to make sure his clothes go in the drier so he has them for school.. I didn't open the package the box said vape all over it at 1st I thought it was a neighbor's till I saw his name. I love my brother so those of u calling me a snitch go ahead I was looking out for him

Question: How to move on?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:02 PM PST

My neighbor who is my aunt had some family members staying ver her house for a while, they are foreigners. I was going trough a depression episode where I would go out and give dirty looks to strangers. Okay, so one of her family members, her sister-in-law was at the end of the driveway with my mom. They were unloading groceries. I looked at her for a little while and then the dirty look happened. She was busy talking to my mom. Then, she gave by where I was standing and I introduced myself. The conversation went pretty normal. I forgot about the whole thing, but is it okay that I did this?

Question: I actually HATE my family?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:56 AM PST

I know your gonna say 'oh you should love your family' yeah I do but I can't help but hate them because my sister who's 8 always cries and screams and then my dad gets angry and shouts the house down and then my mom does and then they have a go at me and I HATE IT

Question: IS it appropriate to take a 15 year old girl to visit her mom in jail?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:37 AM PST

my wife will soon be entering county jail for seven months for a money crime. . I am willing to stick by her and not leave her because I feel She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions. And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment. I told my kids she is rightfully serving her punishment which is the right thing for her mistakes. I am wondering what is the best way to prepare for this situation and how to handle it. I have a daughter who is 15 and she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. She later joked about how her mother is "getting ordered around now". I think it is just a joke and I think it is better to be that way instead of being hysterical about it . I was originally not going to let her visit her mom in jail because I would think exposing her to that environment is not a good idea but I am actually hearing that it is a good idea to let her visit but why? isn't it a bad idea to let a 15 year old be exposed to a jail. She could easily be intimidated by the guards and inmates and just the area. My wife says bring her if she wants to visit but don't if she doesn't. She says she doesn't have a problem visiting but I am not sure. Also I want to make sure it doesn't feel like the whole family is in jail. Yet people say visiting her mom in jail is a good idea?? I don't understand it.

Question: How to convince my mother? (10 points)?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:34 AM PST

My boyfriend's mom invited me to go to his sister's baby shower, and I really want to go. I asked her a couple of weeks ago and she said "We'll see". Flash-forward to now, I think she probably will. She said it's a big question mark right now, but I won't be able to go if I screw up. Plus, we already bought a couple of things and she said said she would go to the store to buy a few more things. Does this mean I'm basically going to go? She haven't said I couldn't go yet. Thanks for your help!

Question: I'm 18 and he's 52. I love him but I don't know how to tell my family.?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:28 AM PST

He was a visiting professor at my university. He went out of his way to talk to me and I really enjoyed spending time with him. He took me on dates and was a complete gentleman. I told only by best friend about it but she insisted he only wanted to have sex with me and when he did he would stop talking to me. Well we did have sex and that only made him ask me to see only him and for us to be in an exclusive relationship with each other. There has been complete honesty since day one. He informed me that he was married for 21 years but things didnt work out. Also that he has two sons who are both older than myself. I have taken a lot of things into account. He is very health conscious so I really don't think I'll see him being "old and tired" too soon even if it does happen I would be okay with that. I never wanted kids and he has already experienced being a father so there is no issue with children. He has a much higher sex drive than myself and even if it slowed down I love being with him no matter what. Honestly at his age I don't think he would ever marry me but we are practically living together and I can compromise on not getting married. We are interested in similar things believe it or not. The only issue I have is how to tell my family. They ask me all the time if I've met someone and I don't know how to talk to them about my situation. Honestly their approval isn't needed but it would be nice. I know my dad won't care but the rest of my family will. @Rosalie Some universities have rules about student/professor relations. Mine does not. He's a visiting professor not because he was in trouble at his last job but because my university just started a new engineering program and asked if he would teach a few semesters. Honestly he isn't even my professor I met him in a cafe on campus.

Question: My older brother raped me and he got away with it ?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:28 AM PST

my older brother sexually abused me when i was about 5 years old he was like 12 or something its been 13 years since this happened i kinda just turn the blind eye to the situation and continued to live my life and pretend it never happened but lately i cant stop thinking about it and how awful it was and the fact that justice was never made i was just a little girl i dont think i wanted that to happened i told my mom about it 2 years ago but we never spoken about since then (btw hes my half brother so hes my dad s son from another marriage) should i tell my dad about it ? or confront my older brother about it ? idk what to do

Question: Do you dress your baby Jesus?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:19 AM PST

Question: Should I let my niece (my sis daughter) see her dad while shes at my house for the weekend?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 11:01 AM PST

She is a crappy mom that doesn't work. She only wants him to give her money that she spends on drugs and her friends. I buy my niece clothes and diapers to help my parents who are pretty much raising her, while my sister is having "the time of her life".

Question: Is it rude to tell family no in this case?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:52 AM PST

Wife and I just moved into a house.. our first house. We live in a desired area for tourism as we have ski slopes about 15 minutes away. My wife's step dad's family apparently at some point in our closing time on new house asked if they could come stay with my wife and I for 2 weeks this coming winter. My mother in law told them "yes that would be no problem" without consulting us.. she just told us they were coming for 2 weeks and needed to stay with us to save money. We are homebodies who don't really like getting extended visitors. We barely know the step family. Should I tell the mom to fix it / tell them they cannot stay with us during that time, or should I call them and tell them that inquiries about staying with us should go through my wife and I, and that they will need to find a hotel this time? They already booked flights out here. They just don't want to pay ski resort cost...

Question: Do you think I'm a bother to her?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:46 AM PST

I m a girl/16. mom used to go to dance with her 2 friends Dona & Elsa. Im very close with Dona. She s been there for me a lot, 16th birthday, homecoming crowning, supported me when I lost & gained my vision back, breakdowns. she s a very reserved person, after losing her daughter who was my age 4yrs ago. She s always super loving/caring to me, always giving hugs & laughing together, always happy, we have a special bond. Last year she quit Zumba due to fight she had with Elsa, so we don t see her anymore but I miss her so much, so I text her "have a great day!" & that I miss her Every know and then.. My grandma died a couple weeks ago & surprisingly Dona had came to her funeral, I was crying very hard/shaking, She came down the line hugging family, we she got to me I bawled out crying even harder when I saw her, Lifes at its worst & to see her after months without her, it was overwhelming. She gave me the biggest/longest hug. It was a special moment, very hard/overwhelming. I feel bad for being so close with her because I know her daughter who was 16 also died 4 years ago. I feel like me being around upsets her. What do you think?

Question: Is my mom tryna make me gay?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:31 AM PST

I got home from school and she's left a bag of face stuff on my bed. Like cleanser and moisteriser and some masks and spot wand and all this crazy stuff. I'm not even spotty. I get like one a week when all my friends are real pizza faces. I asked her about it and she said I'm getting older so I need to start taking care of my skin. Wtf I'm a boy. Pretty sure only gay men do those kinds of stuff. I have 3 little sisters and my parents like them better and now i think they are tryna make me gay cuz they just hate boys

Question: Is my mother right that my attitude is $hitty or am I right?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:25 AM PST

It all started last Saturday when my mother came to my room to nag me about a few stuff. She nagged about the electricity bill on how we use more energy than the neighbors. Then she nagged me about a dirty spot in my room. Then she nagged me about leaving my windows open. A few seconds later, the same thing happened. Because I got sick of her nagging and yelling, I closed the door on her because it was annoying. Then she brought up an incident that happened on my birthday on how I took my anger out on my brother to the point that he stormed off and broke the door by punching it. She took my brothers side. To be fair, I shouldn't have done that, but it bothered me on how she took his side on how he broke the door. Had the roles had been reversed (breaking something at least) I would have no sympathy. Then the next morning. She wakes me up in the morning gave me a speech on how my attitude stinks and that's the reason why I don't have any friends. But the reason why I acted like that is because I can't stand naggers and I have zero patience for them. She also brings up an incident a long time ago (like 10-12 years!) on how I broke the door at my old house. I was an immature teenager back then, get over it! Yes I will admit that I do have anger issues when I take them out on people, but I haven't broken anything since I was a teenager!

Question: Inheritance - Is it a right or privilege...?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:11 AM PST

When the the mother is dead and the father suddenly decides to start a new life splurging and squandering "his own" money from retirement for personal indulgence -should children have a say so? Discussions welcome from a legal and moral point of view.

Question: How do I confront my mom about taking my bong?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:07 AM PST

If you're just going to lecture me about how I shouldn't smoke weed, don't answer. Ok but so my mom knows that I smoke but she really doesn't like it. But I am almost 19 and I live alone. So really, she had NO right to take it or hide it or whatever she did. I make my own money and I bought my bong myself (which was expensive) and she just TOOK it! Like wtf? I have a pretty good relationship with my mom, I always try to be respectful with her but that's just so not cool! Am I right? I'm almost 19, I make my own money, I have 2 dogs that I love and take care of to the best of my ability, I go to school, I get good grades, and I plan on going to university for the vet program next year. I'm not some lowlife who sits on their *** and smokes weed all day. So what the hell? I'm trying to keep my cool but she STOLE MY BONG!!!! She came into MY apartment and took it or hid it, I don't even know. What should I do? if I try talking to her about it shes gonna be all like "You'er throwing your life away" "I used to smoke weed and I almost died" "you have no life" or some sh*t. This is RIDICULOUS. Like sure, maybe I SHOULDN'T smoke but that's really none of her business. and to go into MY apartment and just STEAL it? I'm pretty sure that's illegal.

Question: What to do about my mother using guilt just to make me feel bad,?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 10:00 AM PST

I'm 21 and yes I still live with my mother, times are hard financially and I'm very sick. But the past few years I've noticed my mother intentionally making me feel bad. I'm a 911 dispatcher and I work 6p to 6am almost every night and she huff and puffs through the house all day while I'm asleep and then flips out yelling "I always do all the house work I don't get any help" or even today, I got off of work at 9am cuz someone called in, and she had a doctors appointment and texted me "I really wish you would have come with me but whatever not the first time I've been alone have a nice rest" so I pretty much feel lazy for sleeping. And it's not like she guilt trips me to get me to do things, she does it when I can't do anything so it's purely to make me feel bad. Also I was run over by a car not too long ago and the police called her to let her know what happened, and she flipped "why didn't YOU call me? Seems like you don't want me in your life" after my cell phone was smashed into the grill of the car. Not sure how much more of this I can take, and I'm overworking myself to be treated like **** at home. I've even offered to do things and she tells me no I got it, then throws in my face that I didn't help her. Any suggestions?

Question: My parents are so annoying!!!?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 09:58 AM PST

i started to have bad grades and they are mad at me and tell me that no university will accept me, but **** it i just want to be a stripper or prostitute and marry an old rich man, but i can t tell my parents that, i just them to stop yelling at me, i am in highschool

Question: Why are some Dad's so critical?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 09:38 AM PST

My dad is so critical of me, its like the only time he says anything to me it is to criticize me. Like even the way he looks is a criticism. One time I went to eat a cookie before dinner and my dad looks at me like I'm some fat person who eats everything. So I got mad and said to him that I don't eat everything and he got mad at me and started playing the victim and so I started talking back and giving him attitude. So he says why can't you just get married and get it over with and that hurt because I am single and never been in a relationship and then he tells my mom he should just shut up and I don't have to.

Question: I'm too close to my family.?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 09:37 AM PST

I am headed off to college this fall & I got into a school 5 hours away and one 15 hours away in Chicago. I chose the 5 hours because I do really like it but the only reason I didn't pick the 15 is because it's too far. I grew up, just my mom brother and I. We've all had each other's back when we didn't have a place to live and stayed with my grandparents who we live a block away from. I'm just very close to my family and they man everything to me but I'm scared that this is going to stop me from doing what I want. I tell myself after college I'll move to Chicago but I'm scared I won't. Does anyone else have this problem? How did you overcome this?

Question: Why did my parents name me tickle like wtf dad?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 09:32 AM PST

Question: My mom wants me to be someone I'm not?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 09:18 AM PST

She's always wanted me to be a doctor, or even a lawyer at least. She also always wants me to be more girly( dress nicer, want to wear makeup, etc). However, I've always been interested in the arts and psychology (graphic design, fashion and she can't respect that. My siblings and friends always support me, other than her, which is why I have such low confidence. I'm not big on makeup and I have my own style, which she constantly picks on because she wants me to care what people think. Sometimes I just wear whatever and she thinks Im crazy for not caring about others' opinions. My mom says I'm smart so why cant i be a doctor, etc. When I told her that it's okay to be different and that I dont want to regret not following my dreams or at least trying, my mom literally yelled at me and said that she hopes one day I experience the same with my children (rebelling and disobeying the parent according to her). I would always want to support my children, i may not agree with them but I can try to understand, if they're being reasonable. I know I sound very childish but I just want her to understand that I'm not trying to disrespect her and I that I don't want to give up on the arts or therapy just cause those jobs pay less or are more risky. I don't want to conform just because it's easier btw I'm fifteen and sorry for the messy writing, I was typing fast

Question: I share a bedroom with my mom?Family problems?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 08:47 AM PST

I'm fifteen and i still share a bed with her in the same room because we have no more space in our house. I never have my own space except a closet. My mom also gets annoyed that I dont want to hug or cuddle with her as i used to years ago. It's hard to tell her to give me space cause my dad died when I was ten so she looks to me for comfort (she thinks I dont love her because of this). She treats me as if I'm 9 and i dont think I can find a way to tell her that I need space. When I was little I said I'd want her to live with me when I get older and she's never forgotten this. We have a lotof disagreements in general and regret telling her this but I cant tell her that

Question: Young and in love? 23 year old father of twins.?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 08:21 AM PST

i am a 23 year old father of twins The childrens mom is 20 and we have been dating for about 2 and half years and recently broke up in september. we do what we need to for the advancement of our children but i truly want my family back. what should i do? when she became pregnant i will admit i was not ready and should have done what i needed to do(condom) to avoid it. I was the raised the right way and leaving her physically was never an option. That being said i missed the lesson emotions. while pregnant my words were so hurtful i can see why she doesn't want to work things out with me. the mother of my children has expressed to be that she felt emotionally abandoned. we never truly had a real break up with space because its been months of begging tears and continued disrespect from both sides TRUST ME FROM BOTH SIDES. i am more financially stable and still try to support her while she gets her life set up. A happy her is a happy twins so i still do right by her. the point is i am scared to give her time to think and space to figure out what she wants because i am afraid to move on with anyone who is not my vision of my family. her and my lovely twin daughters. Any and every advice would be great. please keep it positive. Love to you all. oo i forgot to mention we live in two different states all the while. not too far i cant visit on weekends. But far enough when we are broken like this.

Question: Am I mean when I say that I don't really care about my extended family?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 07:57 AM PST

I like my immediate family like my grandparents, sisters brother and brother and law because I actually see them often. I never see my other family like my aunts and uncles and cousins because they live far away and I never speak to them whatsoever and they never speak to me no matter what occasion and I haven't seen them in more than 5 years. I'm expected to care about people I don't even know and a lot of them are really neurotic and snotty and I can't communicate with them without pissing them off plus they didn't give a **** when my nephew was born. I don't think families always blood. Am I rude for saying this?

Question: My 16 year old nephew is out of control what do I do?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 07:32 AM PST

My 16 year old nephew has lived with me for the past two years because his father moved to another state. He has always been a kid who gets into a lot of trouble but he isn't necessarily a bad kid. His mother died when he was very young she was a addict and overdosed . So his dad raised him on his own and they never got along his dad put a lot of pressure on him and still does to be the best at football. Last year he started skipping school, acting out in class and smoking weed. This year he is just out of control he has already been suspended at least 6 times, he is doing drugs in my house with my young children home even after I told him to not do it in my house and even kicked him out for awhile for doing it. His dad just yells at him and so dose my husband , I have given up on yelling or talking because it goes in one ear and out the other. He needs help and I have no idea what to do anymore ?

Question: My boyfriend's step-father told me I'm not welcome in his house anymore?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 07:22 AM PST

I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We have a happy and healthy relationship. We bought our first home together last summer, and are now expecting our first child. His step-father is emotionally and verbally abusive towards his mother. In the past, he was physically abusive to my boyfriend (as a teen). During a recent visit, a topic arose on which we had different opinions. He became upset and started raising his voice. He stormed out of the room and went to the garage for a few minutes. He came back into the living room and started screaming and waving his finger in my face. "This is MY house! And this isn't the first time you disrespected me in my own house. You're not f**king welcome here!" He turns to my bf and says "I'm sorry but I'm sick and tired of your wife coming here and running her mouth and disrespecting me! This is the last time!". He called several hours later and apologized to my bf. I am a survivor of domestic abuse and I find this totally unacceptable. Our 1.5 year old niece was present and witnessed the whole ordeal. I have a HUGE problem with that considering I left my 5yo daughter's father for the same reason. Is it wrong for me to not want my children to be around him? I feel I have a right to protect them from this. I love his Mom dearly but I can't be subjected to abuse because it affects my recovery. (I have PTSD from my past abusive relationship) I feel like even though he apologized, I will never feel comfortable in their house again. The whole thing was really embarrassing and it has been causing me to have flashbacks for days.

Question: Im leaving my gaurdians house (running away) and they said they wont call the cops if I do. im taking a bus back home.?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 07:12 AM PST

what is the best way to go about this, I have friends who are willing to let me stay with them and my dad is letting me stay with him too. if they do end up calling the police, would they be able to search anywhere? even without evidence?

Question: I can't live with my sister anymore. What can I do?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 07:11 AM PST

I'm 15 she's 12 and she is driving me crazy for all of my life, but this past year has been the worst. She cuts my hair, sharpies my face, steals my clothes, cuts my clothes, ruins all my school work, I owe my school $500 because of her. She ruined my grades. Cut my backpack and we are poor so I can't just buy another one and I had this one for 9 years.

Question: I hate gift giving does it make me a horrible person?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 06:28 AM PST

Since I got married 11 years ago every month there are at least two birthdays then you add in Christmas and Valentines Day and all the other days when you have to fork out money you do not have. I also do not like to receive gifts. For Christmas I do not want anything or my birthday because honestly with all that money having to go out we are drowning. My spouse insists that we buy things on these days but we cannot afford to have even nice furniture in our house or anything because every month we have to pay out instead of saving. It is bugging me. Every month we may come out ahead 50 bucks and yet we have to buy 2 to 3 people gifts because we have a large family. What can I do it depresses me. It is not as simple as not buying gifts. All of the brothers and sisters have tons of kids whom all expect that their aunts and uncles buy them gifts. They are kids and my spouse wont allow them to think that we are not thinking of them by not buying them one.

Question: My daughter hates her stepmom, how can I stop the attitude?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 06:10 AM PST

I spent all weekend with my daughter. She ruined it by mentioning her stepmom in every subject we talked about. Step-mom has been around for 5 years. She enforces rules and I am fine with it. My ex and I share custody and the only one not ok with this is our child. Every time I said anything, she would say "of course (stepmom) hates (insert topic of conversation). She would then make fun of her. It got to the point where I had to say she would be punished if she didn't stop making fun of her. She kept going. I understand she does not like her but how do I make this verbal bashing stop? She is obsessed. I am her biological mother. My ex is my ex-husband. I am speaking of his new wife.

Question: My mom wants me to wear a dogtag?!?!?! please help.....?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 06:03 AM PST

recently i was camping with my mom and i got lost. so later were back home and she told me she went and got a dog tag!!? she let me look at it it had my name and phone number on it. a literal dog tag. and she wants me to wear it as a necklace 23/7. i felt completely degraded and i told her i would never wear it and now im grounded for being "disrespectful". ive been crying for a long time please help me

Question: Why Am I A Slave To My Dad?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 05:37 AM PST

This weekend I was planning on hanging out with my friends when my dick of a dad made me into a weekend slave. He told me I wasn't allowed to go with my friends until I cleaned the house. I fought back and told him to **** off, and I went into my my car. Now I'm grounded for 3 weeks, and I have to do all the house chores for 2 months. This is slavery! Can I get the a authorities to help me?

Question: I Feel Bad About Disowning My Son?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 05:27 AM PST

Hi! I used to be a 43 year old dad and I recently disowned my son for being an Atheist. I feel bad about it, and he is staying at my wife's parents house. Don't get me wrong, I don't regret disowing my son, but I do feel bad about it. I am Christian and my preist told me I did the right thing. Why do I feel bad for doing the right thing?

Question: Why is My Son So Lazy?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 05:11 AM PST

Hi! I am a 37 year old father, and I have a laziness problem with my son. He is 10 years old in the fourth grade and I gave him 45 minutes to do 15 chores. I had to go to the grocery store to get us some food, and I told him to get those chores done by the time I got home. He only got 13/15 of the chores done, and I am furious. I spanked him, and I told him when the rest of the family goes to get ice cream, he can't have any. I mean, does this sound unreasonable list of chores to you? 1. Take the bags of trash to the garbage cans at the end if the driveway. 2. Feed little brother and little sisters. 3. Clean the the downstairs Floors with broom and mop. 4. Pray to out lord and saviour Jesus. 5. Shovel snow off the porch. 6. Prepare the table with silverware, plates, and napkins. 7. Give his uncle his pills. 8. Clean his room. 9. Put the little ones toys back in toy box. 10. Call his grandmother to wish her happy birthday. 11. Put sheet over the family portrait to dry it. 12. Help little brothers with homework. 13. Complete his own homework. 14. Charge all electronic devices. 15. Take a shower. Does this really sound like too much for a bit his age? Why is he so lazy?

Question: Parents divorcing in 50s, where should dad live?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 05:08 AM PST

In UK The house is probably worth about 135k but my sister mentioned 110k so I don't know if mum said that's what they get after sorting the mortgage out? But dad doesn't even know how to use his card or the Internet, and where he will live to be financially fine in retirement seems to be whats stressing him out. He only found out mums done two days ago, and I only found out this morning, but he's a bit physically ill from it and ai think even a little answer off here would help. Just so that next time he brings it up I can chuck a couple of options at him. He's like 53 or 56 or something so he doesn't want to work longer than he originally needed to. What will happen next?

Question: Should I give her money or NOT?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 04:23 AM PST

Recently I have made a lot of money through real estate. My sister has never been nice. She always has been selfish and extremely bitchy and has never done anything nice for me. She has always made nasty put down comments when I am around. She never phones me and I can't count on her for anything. My mother said I should give my sister some of the money I made. I would rather give it to charity. My sister is well off any way. What do you think I should do?

Question: Tired of raising my kid?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 04:18 AM PST

The state took my daughter from her mom about 5 years ago, my ex is an alcoholic. My current wife and I moved back from NY state to Florida and dropped our life and home to come get custody and get daughter out of foster home. Been 5 years now and tons of court dates and all that crap. Before that she lived with her mom and I paid support. Now 5 years later I really can't stand this kid, she is 15, she steals from family, she lies,and stays grounded most of the time for this or that. She wants to go back and live with her mom but the state took her from her mom but I'm almost ready to send her back and be free of her. I'm trying my hardest to stick it out till she graduates but I'm almost 49 and I raised 4 sons (3 are in the Navy) and I'm honestly tired of this little ***** and her ****, I would prefer to send her to a boarding school and be free of her ***.

Question: My big bro is doing drugs help pls?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 04:12 AM PST

My big brother has always been so nice but since last year he is doing drugs how do i stop him. i tried tellign mom but she says its ok wtf O.o i think he is addicted to this drug its called insulin i dunno what it is but he has like needles and he injects them often im so sad i tried talking to him about it and he just says i should not care. i tried hiding his injections before so he wouldnt take it but he got angry on me and i have to give them back and mommy is supoporting him in this i dont get it. Pls how can i make him stap thx So ur saying its not a drug and ma big bro is sick? he didnt tell me anything :(

Question: My Mom thinks I'm selfish ?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 03:54 AM PST

Okay. I am married and let me tell you my husband and I are only 19. We are very fortunate to be financially stable with one income to where I can stay home and we have a little boy on the way. We pay our own bills and own our own stuff and our own place. Well there is this little boy at an orphanage and my husband and I are helping him. Buying him clothes/Paying for things he needs/ Helping with school/ Medical bills and my Mom (My mom has always been poor due to her own bad decisions in life) told me I should adopt him. Now, This little boy is very bright and I love being able to be there for him but I dont think adoption is the right thing right now. We are already very young with a little boy on the way and I feel thats enough responsibility for our household and she says that I'm selfish because I can afford to take the boy in. Right now I feel helping him and being there for him is all we can do. Do you think thats selfish?

Question: Why does my mom gun the accelerator whenever she's running late for work or a meeting?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 03:42 AM PST

If I were driving I would just drive normally even if I knew I was going to be late. My mom, though, is obsessed with ALWAYS being on time and never making other people wait for her. I don't care about other people's time. Why does she?

Question: How important is extended family?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 03:36 AM PST

I grew up only knowing my parents and sisters. I didn't get visits from any aunts, uncles, cousins, or even grandparents or in-laws. I hear stories that how extended family are there when you need help and in times of crisis. Considering there has been a complete absence of extended family in my life, I had been raised by my parents very well and turned out great. So how important is extended family? How do they fit in one's life?

Question: Half sibling soon?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 02:57 AM PST

My dad and my mom separated in August of 2015 and aren t fully divorced yet.. My dad has a girlfriend and I just got a text that I ll be a bigger sister... She s pregnant. How should I handle this situation?

Question: My military spouse refuses to get help.?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 02:46 AM PST

Okay I think we need counciling and he refuses to cooperate. I don't know who I can talk to. He's been acting different after deployment and I thought that was natural. But it's been three months since then. And he went out to sea for a week and every time he goes and comes back he acts out. It could be over little stuff from like cleaning or groceries shopping together. And he starts argument over little stuff. Could he have a mental illness? Because it's his way or no way and I feel like I don't have a say in anything. I'm to the point it's frustrating and I don't have relatives out here. To the point I'm ready to go back home with my mother. And he can be by himself. What are my options before I think it's time to hit the hay?

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 02:27 AM PST

I m a girl/16. mom used to go to dance with her 2 friends Dona & Elsa. Im very close with Dona. She s been there for me a lot, 16th birthday, homecoming crowning, supported me when I lost & gained my vision back, breakdowns. she s a very reserved person, after losing her daughter who was my age 4yrs ago. She s always super loving/caring to me, always giving hugs & laughing together, always happy, we have a special bond. Last year she quit Zumba due to fight she had with Elsa, so we don t see her anymore but I miss her so much, so I text her "have a great day!" & that I miss her Every know and then.. My grandma died a couple weeks ago & surprisingly Dona had came to her funeral, I was crying very hard/shaking, She came down the line hugging family, we she got to me I bawled out crying even harder when I saw her, Lifes at its worst & to see her after months without her, it was overwhelming. She gave me the biggest/longest hug. It was a special moment, very hard/overwhelming. i felt embarrassed for crying to her.. How do you think she felt seeing me like that? is it weird that we are close?   FYI I'm very close with my mom, were bestfriends, she doesn't lack anything

Question: Why do you think my mom is ok with me changing the background on her computer screen?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 02:12 AM PST

As strange as this sounds, this is true. Turned 18 just recently. All my life I've been kept from girls as I have very controlling mother and get bullied in school. Very shy all the time. Unlike people my age, I can't have posters of girls on my walls because mom doesn't like stuff on the walls. My life with the opposite gender has been bland. Even back when I was 17, I was afraid to look at a Victoria's Secret magazine out of shame that I shouldn't or at least I felt that way. Then one day, I just caved in and began lookin through the magazines and drawing portraits of the girls in lingerie. Then I began putting lingerie pics of the girls on the computer screen. The only thing is, it's my moms computer but I use it a lot and am not allowed to make other accounts. Never did I get yelled at for having them up. Often I get a rush knowing the pics are up at all times. The pics are up at all time. Then I switched to this hot girl in yoga pants. She has an amazing sexy body and a great butt too!! http://girlsinyogapants.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/lupefuentes2.jpg

Question: Should I go to military school to get closer to my dad?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:42 AM PST

My dad is a military school instructor( the person how teaches misbehaved teens how to behave) My mom passed away when I was 7, and now when my dad is at work I live with my brother(24) And the the thing is he comes only on Friday morning and leaves Sunday after we all go to Church! that means 5/7 days of the week I don't get to see my dad! I'm a 13 year old girl and it's been like this since I was 9 And I feel like I'm at the age where I need my dad the most. I fight a lot with my brother, because he's trying to act as a "dad" role to me. And I don't like it. Yes I get it he's in charge of me, but he grounds me, and takes my electronics away. Don't get me wrong I love my brother he is an amazing role model, but I just don't like that he treats me like I'm his kid. And I've been thinking about it a lot lately, what if I will go to that military school that my dad works at? I know it's only for kids how misbehave,and have a bad record, which I'm don't. Should I talk to my dad about it? I'm kinda scared! I need some advice! I'm asking this for the second time because I didn't really get any answers.

Question: Please, I really need someone's help!My mom had gallstones and she had her gallbladder removed& the doctors said that she might get cancer?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:12 AM PST

I am 15 y/o I've one younger sister, one autistic younger brother and one older sister.My mom is pain and she just went to the hospital twice today, and now it's 2AM and she already went. I feel really depressed, knowing my mother is in pain couldn't let me sleep. I woke up because I felt like my mother is danger, anyway. I really don't care if she dies or not, but the problem is I'm worried about my 5 year old autistic brother! He can't speak because of autism, and my mother is the only one there for him. Also, we are really really poor, no one of us can cook, except for my mom! How could we take care of ourselves without her? Idk. Did this happen because I made jokes about people with cancer? I actually feel guilty about myself, I feel like ****. I cried myself to sleep knowing that I used and still troll people and make cancer jokes! Why didn't I get that disease? I mean I'm way less important, I'm not important at all. I really feel guilty and absolutely believe it's because of because I made fun of cancer, I don't want her to die because we can't care of ourselves and because my brother! I really don't know why to do. I feel really weak, I'd have killed myself along ago but I wasn't brave enough to do it. I also have no friends to talk about this, I really could sacrifice myself just for my mom to stay alive.Many people need her, unlike me. So, what should I do? I really need your help! The thing I'm scared of is about my brother's future and who'd take care of him

Question: Am i the one who is wrong?

Posted: 01 Feb 2016 12:09 AM PST

When i was young i was being abused, beaten and blamed by my two older twin brother and my mum Its start when i was 5 and i cried every night until when i turned 8 where i got used to pain physically and mentally, i was mostly being blamed and beaten up for something that was not my fault. my dad stood up for me when i was being abused but after taking a few hits he moved aside and gave up but that does not mean he is good either since he stole my mum money together with my twins brother, My mum would usually canned me every night while my brother would beat me up during the day At the age of 13 i snapped and i changed completely, my eyes is now sharp and cold and i m no longer a timid that act nervously, my teacher thought i was possessed by devil and he was further surprised by me not acting nervous and timid at all when he was talking to me. Ironically my parent started to became good and well which include my brothers and after many bonding they are now very close excluding me since i could only view them as stranger that are related by blood after the day that i changed. i have no intention of forgiving them even if they apologize but of course they probably forgotten about the past as they didn t even apologize Frankly even if they died i doubt i would feel a tinged of emotion nor shed a tear. So am i in the wrong? i do not have friends that i could share when i was young and teacher is a no since they will tell my parents about it so i m on my own

Question: My Dad Disrespects my Girlfriend?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 11:51 PM PST

So me and my girlfriend has been going out for 2 years. Basically awhile now. Everything was going good including me having a job (21 year old) and my girlfriend (19 year old, has and born with bad eyesights). We share a bank account and make almost 3k a month. So about a couple months i say 7-9 months ago her eyesights started to get worse (poor eyesights which makes her legally blind)which she isnt able to go to work and go back to do her schooling (eye doctor recommended her to and she is qualified for ssi.). I make 1.2k a month with alot of bills to pay like credit cards and cant even help my parents pay for their mortgage/housing/utilities. My dad was more concerned about it than my mom and the energy in the household has changed. My dad starts calling my girlfriend names like "evil *****, pathetic,retarded,asshole, lazy ***** etc." and tells me why i couldnt find a better girlfriend whatsoever. Its true my girfriend is a lil stingy/lazy and a ***** and so as my dad. My girlfriend just couldnt take it anymore and so as i and wanted to move out but got nowhere else to live in due to our income. My girldfriends dad would be our only choice but temporary. Im in a credit debt and im trying my hardest to even make money for a living. I dont know what to do.

Question: I dont want my brother at my school?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 11:19 PM PST

My brother just got accepted to the university I am attending and I dont want him to come here. I love my brother and my family, but a part of me left for college to get away from things. Being in college has given me some relief from my family and things back home. For most of my life, my parents have expected me take care of him(which isnt bad) but now we're both adults; me being 20, my brother being 18. Like alot of parents, mine still see us as little kids and him being here will lead them to want us to always be together. Me and my brother are not close either, yet my parents think we are. I dont know, I just cant stand the burden of having him around to prevent me from enjoying my life.

Question: Dad tickles me and I hate it a lot?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 11:11 PM PST

My dad will get me by surprise & he'll start poking my stomach & start heading to my navel to the point where he's just tickling my whole belly. & im almost 16 & I want him to stop but I don't know how to tell him

Question: Why do I feel like this?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 10:31 PM PST

I am a 14 year old girl with parents who never married and are separated. About two years ago (I think) my Dad began dating another woman after devorcing my step-mother and moving out of their house. She has a 5 year old daughter who can be a tad hyper but both of them are sweet. At the same time I don't want them in my house or near my dad. I can get used to that, sure. But I just found out that my father's girlfriend is pregnant. I'm going to have a half sibling. I don't know what to do or how to feel about this because my dad is happy, and I want him to be happy, but I'm not sure I could handle this seeing as I already have apprehensive feelings to his girlfriend and her daughter. I'm being moved into the basement so the baby will have my old room when it's born. I don't want to say that I'm jealous but I know that I am, because when I look at my dad and her together with the 5 year old, I can't help but feel like that was the life I wanted with my dad that I can never have. The feeling is worse knowing that there's going to be another kid in the house calling him 'Daddy'. My mother (who will most likely be furious with my father because she never wanted him to date anyway for my sake) and the 5 year old's father are unaware of the pregnancy. I don't want to say that I feel uncomfortable with this situation and stop visiting my dad because I still want to see him but I don't know how long I can keep up the normality in my behavior.

Question: Brother unhappy with me?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 09:50 PM PST

When I left my house today, I found my nephew (brother's son) wandering around our block. My brother lives several blocks away. When I talked to my nephew, he said he had run away. I put him in my car and took him back to his house. My brother didn't know he had left. I told him that he needs to keep a better eye on his son (he's 10) and that I shouldn't have to find him loitering on our block away from home. My brother got angry at me and said I should have left him there. How can I get him to calm down about him denying needing parenting help.

Question: Any advice ? Please help meee?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 09:47 PM PST

I m a girl/16. mom used to go to dance with her 2 friends Dona & Elsa. Im very close with Dona. She s been there for me a lot, 16th birthday, homecoming crowning, supported me when I lost & gained my vision back, breakdowns. she s a very reserved person, after losing her daughter who was my age 4yrs ago. She s always super loving/caring to me, always giving hugs & laughing together, always happy, we have a special bond. Last year she quit Zumba due to fight she had with Elsa, so we don t see her anymore but I miss her so much, so I text her "have a great day!" & that I miss her Every know and then.. My grandma died a couple weeks ago & surprisingly Dona had came to her funeral, I was crying very hard/shaking, She came down the line hugging family, we she got to me I bawled out crying even harder when I saw her, Lifes at its worst & to see her after months without her, it was overwhelming. She gave me the biggest/longest hug. It was a special moment, very hard/overwhelming. i felt embarrassed for crying to her.. How do you think she felt seeing me like that? is it weird that we are close?   FYI I'm very close with my mom, were bestfriends, she doesn't lack anything

Question: How to tell my parents I'm moving out?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 09:20 PM PST

I'm 19 I work a full time job pay my own bills that I do have and contribute to my parents bills here. I've been dating the same guy for three years and we decided to save money and move in together since we're both working in our career field. We found a place got approved and handed the lease and we chose soonest move in date which is 8 days from now and I just feel so uncomfortable trying to tell my parents I've never been good with communicating with them. Regardless I am moving but I can't get the courage to tell them. How do I break it to them?

Question: Thanks to you reading this i'm going to become homeless because you don't want to realize that we're all family. ok?

Posted: 31 Jan 2016 09:13 PM PST

you can't ignore other people just because the government told you that there not your family. i saw a baby making bricks in india!!!! the government is lying to you. they get paid like sports players and actors. alot of money. seems that you just want to ride this what ever happens ignoring me your family. and others like me struggling to get a job. theres real jobs and fake jobs. i cant get a real job. need money to get one so on my way to become homeless :( family