will someone please answer it. I need advice. I've had friends but every time I get one they cause drama. so I resorted to the internet to make friends. I tried several sites to make friends including ok cupid but every time I make a friend either they wanna be a jerk andhave random sex and talk dirty or they ignore me completely after a day or so. idk what I'm doing wrong. I need advice. I'm smart as soon as I even sense they're trying to talk nasty or get random sex I cut them off. I'm keeping myself safe and protecting myself.

I'm a civilian now with 1 child and another on the way...I HATE MY WIFE.. Simply because she nags me about working 2 jobs and being focused in school..my question is should I stay with someone like this? I have kids so it's hard to just leave

In these past 4 months a few guys have been interested in me . the first guy I felt we hit it off , but within a week we stopped talking and found a girlfriend . the next guy we only dated 2 weeks and he just said " bye " no reason why. And the last guy really hurt me . we talked a couple weeks before we started dating , when he asked me out i was really happy . but again in a short period of time he dumped me . he came to my job and asked for me , he just said he wanted out and bye. I don't know what it is , I'm a really sweet girl , I would never hurt anyone as much as these guys hurt me. Only this i ask for in a relationship is a little attention. But doesn't every girl. Advice please. I'm 24

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I'm a 16 year old girl, and I'm really close to my cousin. She's 18. She's been dating her 19 year old boyfriend for two and a half years. They both graduated high school in June. My cousin just told me that she and her boyfriend are engaged and that they're getting married before the end of the year. I know they're really in love and they're perfect together, but I think they're rushing into things. They want to live together (both of our families frown upon unmarried couples living together). I kind of suspected that she might be pregnant and want to get married because of that, but she proved to me that she isn't pregnant. They just want to get married. I can't talk her out of it and neither can anyone else. Do you think it will last?

My wife and I have been check to check people for most of our relationship due to poor parenthood planning and the fact neither of us graduated college. I never really let it get me down because I had friends that were check to check too. Then I lost my job that was supporting the family and fell hard into legit and easily identifiable depression from my job loss. It took 3 years to overcome it and join the work force...... Well, maybe that last part was me kidding myself.... I'm beginning to think I never fully recovered despite therapy and talking to everyone on here... My depression started as just job loss, but after a little while of my social phobic wife getting a job and supporting the family, she badgered me and made me feel bad for being home and trying to get my life together. There were very few days that she didn't remind me that she didn't want to be "the man of the relationship" and it was her "job" to be home with the kids, not mine... It was a really bad time in my life really; I was trying to cope with being a REAL father for the first time in 9 years (I normally avoided it since I was scared of messing the kids up) and I was trying to cope with being a home owner (I've never lived alone to learn domestic chores - my Mom did them all when I was a kid)... So in 3 years, I did an entire teenhood worth of maturing; but it just wasn't fast enough for my wife or my parents. They thought I was milking the government and my wife's kindness; not depressed... I blamed my wife because (a) I didn't make myself depressed so it had to be someone's fault, (b) Even if it was my fault by some freak accident, I'm not going to have this hurt my fragile ego, (c) It's far more entertaining for ME to see you complain about my lack of responsibility for my own actions since you Conservatives are easy to annoy, (d) I'm not convinced I'm depressed so I was making light of an odd idea... But I do think I might be truly depressed; everything I loved sucks now.

that they have nothing else to say that they have any rights to the kids whatsoever. My child support order still shows 50/50 custody and placement but since my ex no longer lives in the u.s and can never return doesn't that mean his rights are void? I mentioned to the inlaws today about having a copy of the power of attorney for my lawyer for my divorce and they freaked out and told me that I had to give them 50/50 custody and I told them no they can have the kids on the weekends and now they're threatening to take me to court and file for full custody and placement of the kids.. do u think a judge would grant them full custody given the circumstances. A year ago if they would have filed I'm sure they would but with me working and doing what I have been I don't think so.. If someone could give me some feedback I'd really appreciate it.

I live in wisconsin, I'm just starting the divorce process to leave my deported husband who I have not been with for over 2 years. My children ages 5&2 currently live with my inlaws but nothing is set in stone thru the court system it was all a vebal agreement for the best interest of the children at the time. When I finally left my ex when he went to jail I had absolutely nothing my husband's parents took everything from me I had no car no money no place to live. I was forced to move in with my parents and the situation wasn't good here. My stepdad was shooting up cocaine and had druggies coming in and out of the house all the time. As a parent I knew that if I kept

About a week ago after coming home from work, I went to get on my facebook page. Everything was going as normal when the window froze. I hovered my mouse in the lower part of the window when a porn page appeared for hot skinny teens... Mind you im about to turn thirty in 3 years and he knows I feel like porn should be something we do together not him by himself and he knows this. I confronted him and he said he had made a mistake and he wouldn't do it again. Well today same thing goes, only this time it was for a different window from the same website. He says something must be wrong with my computer because he swears he didn't do it again. My instincts and heart tells me hes lying. What do you think?

I'm 27 and I feel like every year that goes by is less happy than the year before. When I was a teenager I went through really hard situations but I still felt excited thinking that my future would be better. Now that I'm married, ha that sucks marriage is a joke. My kids were awesome at first and I was a great mom now that they're getting older its awful a complete disaster. Is this just what's its like to get older? Be honest is it normal for life to suck a little more every year older you get? I want to know.

Don't just tell me that you "just know." I feel like I will never be ready for marriage, or that i will be ready when it's too late (when I'm 60+ years old.) I'm 21, but I don't see myself ever getting married, I honestly don't know if I even want marriage. I do, but I don't. It's complicated. I have a boyfriend I'm not lying. We've been together 8 months and he brought up marriage. It made me anxious and that's why I asked this question. I never said I wanted to get married at 21. If anything 26 or later, anything before 25 is too young.

he's 33 and we live together but he makes it difficult a lot of the time. he is extremely childish and will make noises like a toddler in arguments. his hygiene isn't good and he doesn't like to wear clean clothes and often smells. He asks me to call him "king louis" when we have sex like the monkey from the jungle book. sometimes he makes star wars references in sex. if we go out shopping he will run away from me and laugh like a small child and play games in the middle of a supermarket or department store. he spends a lot of time arguing with people on Facebook. He constantly talks about inappropriate sexual things to my friends and family and even strangers and can hold conversations about butts for hours. he criticises almost everyone and is plain rude for no reason he stays at home virtually all day as he works 2 days a week and won't clean up the house, leaves trash everywhere and sleeps until the middle of the afternoon. do you think he has a learning or mental problem? if so what? i want him to talk to a doctor

I don't know if I should seriously think about leaving my husband. We've been married almost 4 years now and are both in our mid-thirties. For the last year he has been getting worse with his hygiene. He was never perfect and his sister told me he used to be really lazy and not change clothes or bathe for over a week so this isn't a mental health issue as he has been screened and has nothing wrong with him. His *** stinks all the time. He doesn't wipe properly and doesn't wash it properly. We have made love and he has smudged his *** on his legs and on the odd occasion on me as well. Even if he is relatively clean his *** smells anyway just a bad odour. We don't cuddle much and I have tried talking to him but he just laughs and says I'm overreacting. Is this something we can get through or should I leave him? what can I do?

My wife will probably do it once or twice a year but I give her oral relief every time we make love until she has an orgasm from it. Our sex life consist of maybe 3 times a month if I'm lucky and I'm always the one who starts to get intimate. We are both in our mid and late 30s so this ain't normal to be sex deprived.

regret marrying when they've a sour marriage if they knew the risks and consequences if it failed? MOST married ppl feel that the rewards are worth it all, and that they will be able to handle it it things go sour, and that 'there are risks always in life,' but that's when they're single. However, after they marry and have a failed marriage, all this talk goes out the window. They say they regret marrying, that they should never have said 'I do,' that they're in a jam that they can't get out of, and the risks were not worth it. Why the hypocrisy? If they KNEW that marriage can fail and that it can have disastrous consequences, why complain?They were all too eager to say 'I do' when single, despite being hurt in love before, and all were quick to say, 'I can handle it.' Yet, they couldn't after they got divorced. Why the double standards?

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My husband and I got into an argument about food poisoning, well he thinks he got it from eating Taco Bell. My daughter and him were sick, but not me. I told him it could have been something else that made him sick and he believes that it was food poisoning. Well, he thought that I was calling him a liar and he got mad and took my phone. Every time we get into an argument he takes my phone. We have two kids and if there was an emergency I have no way of contacting anyone because he takes my phone. It was a dumb fight over an opinion and he blows it all out of proportion.

i went out on a date with two divorced women. the first thing they both said about their ex's was that he was impotent and had erection problems and that they were perfectly healthy. i didn't buy it. so i went to look for their ex husbands and heard a different story. who to believe ? why women slander their ex husbands ?

Doesn't divorce mean cutting the person out of your life? Why would you want to still keep in contact with then, unless it's matters concerning the child?

I asked him why he would want a separation instead of divorce if he doesn t love me anymore. Why not just end it, if there s nothing left? He said that maybe he might realize somethibg, regain feelings, and tgat it will give him time to think if he really wants divorce. Do you really think that s the reason why? Why else would a guy want separation instead of divorce if he doesn t love yiu anynore?

Most people don't understand my relationship with my wife. But rather than understanding it and asking questions for clarity, they answer the questions I post on here with boldness, arrogance, psychological or religious dogma, and ridicule/rejection. There are a few people who I think are (or were) giving good advice, but for the most part, everyone seemed to be here NOT to give genuine advice but instead to feel better about themselves since fixing other people's problems was easier than fixing their own (or at least it was a great distraction so they didn't have to fix their own). But even with the advice of others, I realize that my wife and I are just abnormal. Could it be our underlying ADHD that makes us different? Could it be the fact we don't watch ANY television and we don't have the biases that people carry on here? Could it be a demographic problem - middle class concerted coltivated adults vs low class free-ranged adults? I'm not sure why the advice I'm receiving just doesn't work in my relationship; but it just doesn't and I have a hard time trusting anyone's advice after 4 years of it. Plus there's the fact that all of my questions up until last week or a week ago (can't remember) was me fabricating stories to cope with my hurt from my past with my wife. I was projecting my emotions/hurt on her behavior and that's why things weren't "good" for 4 years; it was all in my head like people suggested... But not being NORMal is still legit; should we become it?

We got married recently but our relation is not going well , i tried many ways to make her understand but she is not understanding anything so i decided to move away from her life..... when i talk about divorce etc... she is saying she wont give me a divorce and she will give whenever she things or she says she will make false case against me ...what to do please help to handle this kind of girl ....also she is carrying my kid now............. I came to know through my friends like she got job in my place but she took separate house and living there , she is not willing to come to me...... she is having lots of assumption about me and making spoil her life .........i feel if we both stay together all issues will be resolved but she is not ready to live in same house,,,, she is just looking at money not my feeling and emotions ...... she says she is earning and she does not having any expectation from me but she says i should leave my parents and run behind her.... its *** metal stress for me .... anyway i am living alone now..... but i completely able to understand mentally but my HEART is not accepting it because i loved her truly and she has my kid..... now if i divorce i may need to support for my kid... dont know how to handle ..... please any good thoughs and any good lawyer in south Carolina area ( columbia city)

We have a 1 year old son together and are planning to have a second baby. We have two cats and are planning to get one more cat. The problem is we live in quite a small apartment. The rent is around 1500 per month here. It's a 2 bedroom apartment but one of the rooms is so tiny that I use it as my office for working at home. My son sleeps with us in our larger bedroom. I was thinking of maybe upgrading to a house. I know my husband could afford it because he works in film and makes a bit of money. The only problem is, whenever I brought it up in the past, he got pretty upset. I've always wanted to live in a house with a family too. He got angry even when he had to leave his basement bachelor with roommates to live in this apartment. He doesn't like change, but now he loves living here. I really wish he'd change his mind and give the house idea a chance. Is there anyway I could convince him?

I want to get a marriage license in Virginia and it says I need to have the names of both my parents as it appears on their birth certificates. My father passed away a few years ago so I was wondering if I still need to provide his name?

Just to give you some back ground info. My ex-husband and I are retired military and disabled vets. We both retired in 2010, and moved back to Wyoming. My ex-husband and I were married for 10 years (2001-2011), before we divorced. I have sole/legal/primary custody of our 3 kids. Soon after our divorce, he remarried, and moved across the country. That was 4 years ago, and he's only seen our children twice. The two times that he saw our kids, was when I took them to see their father, at MY expense. I live and work in Cheyenne, WY, and my ex-husband lives and works in Boston, MA. He wants me to move to MA, so that he can "finally be a father to our kids" (his words). I told my ex that I'm not moving. My house is paid for, and I have a great job with the VA. Our kids are happy, healthy and they love it here. I have a lot of support from my family, and my former in-laws. My ex says that I'm being selfish and vindictive, because I won't do what he wants. I told him that if he wants to see our kids and be a father, than he has to make the sacrifices not me. I'm done bending over backwards for him.

If you have to "set the stage" or "set the mood" then doesn't that arguably mean that it is nurtured by culture, society, and exposure? If it was natural, wouldn't that mean we would just know how to romance our wives or sex it up for your husbands? Why is there pills and books about something that "should" come so natural? I argue that romantic sex is just a construct much the same as marriage is in the first place (man-made and evolves just like any other idea does over time). But just because I have this opinion doesn't mean that I can't be swayed with proper evidence; what do you think is true? Is romance nurtured or is it our true nature?

We have been together for 5 years while in collegr then got married. We have now been married for a year and 1 1/2 and she told me out of the blue she wanted me out and starting treating me like ****. I then found out its because she just cheated on me with her ex then also confessed that she cheated on me while engaged with the same guy. Also, meeting up with him "10" times. I'm so shocked. We were trying to start a family and get a house? We we struggling financial the last 6 month but damn. Also she cheated on me a year after we were dating when her parents were going through devorice. Now she says she want try having the kid again? I'm so confused. Also, she now changed all passwords on everything. She did agree to take an std test but I so confused with everything I give everything I have to her. We have gone through ups and downs like any relationship. I scared to go forward what if she cheated when we have kids or something. I feel like I'm dreaming

I am new to this while ordeal. My ex husband left the kids and I over a year ago and has paid nothing nor helped with any expenses of the kids in that time. In the divorce I was awarded a minimal amount of child support each month plus the amount in arrears from the time he left. It was court ordered to be taken from his check each month. His first deduction was today. I am wondering if the state (Missouri) waits until they have the monthly amount from his deductions to send it to me, or is it done weekly after they have received it on their end and processed it? I am also set up for the direct deposit as well. Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks!

My wife and I have been married for 2years, met online and talked for 6 mths. We have 1 child and another on the way, and we also have a long distance relationship. We talk by fb messenger. During the 6 mths of getting to know one another, I unwittingly see she gets texts, skype calls from male friends and an Ex. When I confront her about it, she either says I m overly jealous and that It is nothing to fight over, we fight and she plays guilt and pity over me. Recently. I flew to visit her and our child, upon browsing her phone I read a text saying " hey honey, hru? When is your hubby leaving? " when I confront her about the text she immediately snatches the phone from my hand and texts him back " hahahaha" and then deletes the text. I ask her " who is he?" She say his name is steve. And they meet at a store of her friend. She insists no other texts were made but this one and another in which she said he had said to her goodmorning, and her response was " Hi goodmorning, srry but I am married, I cannot talk to you". Well of course we fight over this, my argument is Where s the other messages, why did he call u honey and ask about when I m leaving, and u both meet? She denies there are any other texts between them both and that they met at the store of her friend, her friend gave her number to the man. Now I ask again, who is just jealous and why does she always play guilt on me or pity when I ask her specific questions concerning texts or other?

married for 18 months. Husband died and has 3 adult children. Wife is not in the Trust Fund Will, as it was not updated/changed. All properties go to the estate/trust fund.

He got laid of from his CNC machinist job in April. He can't find any jobs in that field right now. He turned down a job for the postal service part time and now he is working with me part time at my job. Why does he sleep all day and not get off his butt and find a job to support me, my mom and my cat?

Me and my husband have had our issues. I have come to terms with him ignoring me. We have 2 children together, and for the past year it s become worse our youngest is almost 1. I do all the care and work for 2 kids diapers, bottles bath ect. When my husband is home he spends all of his time in the garage, because he smokes cigarettes, but he stays out there until they are in bed or he falls asleep. I sleep alone most night. When I have talked to him he says he is just in a ruteen and that s it. Or he s in auto pilot. I m about to leave and don t know what else to do, he will not goto a therapist, he has very few friends and I m pretty sure he s not having an affair. But I m tired of my kids being treated like this, and I am tired of doing everything and taking care of him like a child, meals cleaning up after him doing his laundry all of the time, and getting not even a thank you. I am asked about spending money on things the kids or I need but if it s something for him he tells me to buy name brand most expensive, he never does any shopping and when he does he spends 300 dollars on things he says he will cook and never does, I feel like his selfish behavior is at an all time high and I don t know what to do. Any advice please?

I asked ny husband for divorce many times. I also asked if we can explore my sexuality. Lately, he told me to do things that make me happy. I am in great shape and I click with several young guys in my local gym. One of them admitted to wanting me so badly except that I'm married. Should I just do it and deal with the consequences later? I love my husband but I want to bed a guy that I fantasize about and have intense crush on. It's probably just a one time thing. Go for it or not?

"If you want a happy life don't take a pretty wife"?

Long story, but this week I have found out that my husband of 7 years in still in contact with a woman with whom he had affair with almost two years ago. When I found out about the affair, he apologized and told me he would rather be with me and that he would cut her off. Then I found out about two weeks later that he was still talking to her. He apologized again and again I forgave him because I knew he had feelings for her and maybe it was hard to let go. Now, the past year was great, I had no qualms with him up until this week. He was acting suspiciously so I checked the phone records and I found out that he is still in contact with this woman! He confessed that he does indeed text her but that its just talking and flirting but he did not sleep with her again. I'm so confused, we have four sons together and I don't want to break up the family, but I feel so betrayed. In your opinion, is this forgivable again? Or should I just file for divorce? I'm just curious what other people would do in my situation...

I know most of you aren't skilled in non-verbal communication (that has become apparent by the extremely primitive answers I get sometimes); but non-verbal communication exists and it is in many ways universal from culture to culture. For an example: a smile is going to always represent a good feeling (if it is genuine), and tears are always going to represent a release of emotions or pain. But these non-verbal communications can also be complicated, like when your wife puts her hands on her hips with a stiff and firm body with her eyebrows narrowed inward and her forehead wrinkling and her eyes getting narrow as well; which could represent anger and firmness. But I am not a master of non-verbal communication. I can read most things, but my wife isn't very expressive with her body like other people, so this makes it very hard for me. With her I have to sense her mood (for some this might be an "aura" but I'm not sold on auras yet) to get an idea of what she's feeling; but I can't always get it right since she masks so much of what she's telegraphing... While many of you are going to say I'm just overthinking again, this isn't true; this is just empathy and having emotional intelligence (something some of you could benefit from learning). But I'm not a master yet and I have a lot to learn, so I was hoping the few of you who have this high E.Q. skill could help me find more areas I could read before interacting with my wife. Why do I care so much? Because - 1st impressions. I'M ONLY INTEREST IN ANSWERS THAT TALK ABOUT NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION. I DON'T NEED YOUR DOGMA OF HOW YOU *THINK* WOMEN NEED TO BE TREATED. I JUST NEED AWARENESS OF HOW TO DETECT MOODS, THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND DESIRES FROM HOW SHE ACTS/BEHAVES... The reason I say "without asking the person" because most people I know are not self aware or self perceptive like I am. They are living in the moment and are very raw about it (reacting instead of responding). So asking my wife how she is feeling is pointless since she doesn't know how to take an inventory and assess this sort of thing (teaching her doesn't help either). So it's much easier to just avoid the questions and observe; like you would a wild animal who may or may not be threatening.

My bf has 2 brothers. all 3 divorced. 1 brother cheated on his wife while she was pregnant and left her at 7 months pregnant to be with this other woman. Its 10 years now, child is 11 yo. The brother has annulled his marriage and married the mistress and has 2 kids with her. He not father of the year, but pays child support, etc. Exwife has been withholding the son from him. Past 2 years all of a sudden, ex has been coming around a lot! Like calling me to meet for drinks and dinner. Dropping off her child to the other brother. Calling a cousin and asking to go together to go visit ex husband mom. Going to visit ex husbands mom on her own. She even got her picture taken for the local paper (she lives in a different state). The worst was, when a member of her family passed...she told my bf and I at the funeral in front of the casket....your brother has to step up. I don't feel comfortable with this entire situation. I feel she is looking for something or information and should have moved on in her life. BF mom is very sick. I truly believe she is hovering so she can make sure she gets $$... I want no part of this...but my gut feeling...your thoughts???

I m at my wits end mentally and emotionally. I ve been married to my husband for 8 years and in the last two he has changed completely. He shows all the signs of infidelity although I don t want to believe it there are too many coensidenses to suggest otherwise. He lies to cover up things and when I catch him he still continues to lie and turns it around on me. We are financially in crisis he lies about money. He no longer shows me affection or shows any concern for my well being. I m simply non existent and merely background noise. I know he has slipped things into my drink to make me sleep. The other night he asked me to go for a ride with him but first we had to pick up a few things : plastic, shovel, and rope. He told me he was going to bury me out in the pasture. He said he was joking but he wasn t laughing and neither was I. He has been good to me and I love him but I m not sure who he is now. Im tired of being dumped on and him looking like a martyr. I need help.

I ve been fine without him and believe I made a good decision especially for all he did to me. The thing is when we ended he told me everything (maybe) so we could start new but the things he told me were so horrible I could not accept it on top of all he s put me through. He didn t want the divorce. I filed a restraining order on him because he was abusive I was unsure of what he d do in this situation. We still talk because we have a lot in common but every time we disagree it reminds me partially why I left. Anyway my question is Should I ask him to go with me to file for the divorce? It has to be him or no one for some reason.: (

Girls, if you were unwilling to have sex with your husband due to pain or no libido would you let him have something on the side?

We have five kids. Even time I do something with the kids she finds danger in it somehow. There has been many nights we fought with no sex just because of something I did with the kids. Last week I took our kids swimming they're 7year old twin boys,5 year old boy, 3, 9 month old girls. They all had on floaties. My wife found out and went ballistic. When she was younger she almost drowned so she is sensitive to that kind of thing. But I would never let thst happen to our kids. We got into a huge arguement. And she started crying saying "I'm convinced you are trying to kill our kids" growing up her parents never let her do anything and she always says how she hates it but now Now she following their footsteps. How do I get her to understand I'm not trying to harm our kids I just enjoy spendin time with them. This is a real strain on our marriage especially since we have another baby on the way. Please help I never get on these types of websites but I am desperate for answers.

Even though the wife caught him cheating, he keeps doing it? !

Unlike guys where in a split second they can be in the mood. How's it different?

I have no idea how to get her to do those things without coming off as insensitive, she's a very sensitive person and I don't want to offend her in anyway. But it's getting bad, people are now backing away from her when she talks, they move away from her in checkout lines, and not so quietly whisper mean stuff. I've tried indirect approaches, like once in a while I'll text her on my way home from work and say I'm picking myself up deodorant and somethings and ask her if she needs any, or once in a while I'll tell her I moved the toothpaste whIle I cleaned the bathroom. To try to remind her about those things without offending her. I don't know if she just forgets or doesn't like to use them. I love her, stinky or not, but I just want her to take care of herself and feel good about herself. And if I have to hear one more person insult her about those things when we are out and about I'm going to start punching people in the mouth. I dont know if it's a sign of depression or anything like that, shes not acting any differently or anything So I'm just confused. I can't tell her she stinks, and if she doesn't want to use those things, I know it's her choice, I just don't understand the choice.

I don't know where else to put my feelings Long story short we are dating since 5 years....I am 20 and he is 22. He is Syrian and came to the US as a 6 yr old His family is quite religious and controlling Back when he was 17....his older sister who was 18 was getting married I was like why is she getting married so soon? Later I realised all 3 of his sisters have been married off to arranged guys chosen by his parents at 17-18. But since he's a guy he said its not gonna happen to him. Well back then I was really young So I didn't care. Anyway now he told me his mom is seeing girls for him to get married and will choose a bride within this month...I am totally shocked and didn't knew how to respond so I started to sob. He assured we r going yp get married asap and to start preparing. Now I was even more shocked ....I mean how could he decide a big decision likethis without me knowing abr it. We got into a huge fight over this and I don't know what to do.He has made it clear already either we marry before Dec or his parents will choose a bride for him to get married as its "high time" ....he says if we already get marrird they cant do anything other than accept me into the family The smart thing to do is leave hikbbut I love him so much.. How can I just leave him after investing 5 yes into this relationship? I am in uni and would graduate in 2017....I work as a receptionist but don't make all that much. He makes 160000/yr and says he would support me until I graduate.

A little back story I have been dealing with my husband drinking problem for almost 7 years off and on again. A month ago he was hospitalized for issues from binge drinking and was told he drinks again he won't last 5 years. Sadly he started drinking vodka again this week I had to get a mental warrant for him to get sent to a psych hospital before he ODs on alcohol. Needless to say I have hit my last chance with him I took myself off his contact and told the hospital when it comes to news on him to call his father that's where he will be going when he gets out. I am filling divorce papers tomorrow my heart is broke but, I am so tired of dealing with the drinking and lies that I want to be done with the marriage. Sorry so now I am wondering if there are any tips out there going forward I could use with this separation/ divorce? Thank you anyone that has any tips god bless!!!

Ok so here is the deal, my husbands mom hates me and I seriously hate her, she has 2 kids: my husband and his sister, she favors her daughter way more then her son, example: one Christmas she got her daughter a game system and also her step kids a game system she got her son (my husband) a $5 USB drive. Ok we now have 3 kids and his sister has 2 kids she LOVES her daughters kids and has nothing to do with my kids another example my oldest is 7 and she has never been to a bday party of any of my kids she goes to all her daughter kids parties, last Christmas she got her daughters kids $30 gifts plus has a extra hid for them when everyone left my kids got a $5 gift from her. Since then we have been in a war, she has not seen my kids since cause I will not allow her to and of course she doesn t try, its been almost a year since she has seen my kids .. Now to the text .. He told me his mom wanted him to take the kids over there I told him no that if she wanted to see them she could come to my house.. I get his phone awhile later and see no phone call and no messages from his mom.. I ask him where they was at and he got silent I asked why he deleted them and to tell me what she said about me and all he said was she didn t say anything about you all she said was that she wasn t coming over here .. Ok if that was all that was said why was it deleted? I know she won t come over here that s no surprise to me and he knows that so why delete if that s all that was said??