I've been been fantasizing and having these urges and I'm just wondering how common this is . I'm am 50 he is 29

I have known him for a really long time and we have always been close. Recently I went through a really serious issue and he was the only one there for me. A lot of times I would get nightmares and call him. When I did he would come sleep next to me so I would be able to fall asleep. It was always really innocent and not sexual but there was one night when he kissed me. We didn't say anything about it the day after and it was like nothing happened. So the other night we ended up going too far and had sex. I assumed he wouldn't bring it up just like he did the first time but in the morning he asked me if it meant we were officially together. He started telling me he's loved me for a long time and that I was his first. It made me feel really guilty because I had no idea I thought he just wanted sex and didn't see me as more than his best friend. Because of that thing that happened to me I don't think I can be in a relationship right now. I want to tell him that but I don't want to hurt him. If my situation were different than perhaps I could see him as more than a friend but right now I can't handle a relationship with anybody. I know I already screwed up by sleeping with him to begin with but I want to try to fix things. How can I talk to him about this? I knew he wanted to have sex after awhile. I'm not surprised that he wanted to have sex but I thought he ONLY wanted to have sex not actually be my boyfriend.

in a long distance dating!? we're both 18, he lives one hour away from me, i visit him by tsking the bus about 5 times we hung out (about every week i'd try and make it) and we'll keep in contact during the days were in part... well kind of. I confronted him on some issues because I wanted to clear the air, i dont want to think i am wasting my time and save myself from getting hurt, he says he really likes me and i notice a lot I make him really nervous when i'm around him. he says he doesnt want to rush into a relationship because he wants to get me to know me more and also has trust issues (which his ex really did **** him up he explained) but he still wont message me as much but he already did introduce me to his majority of his family, but wont share me on social media like i do with him, he wanted to meet my dad yesterday, and they met. but i just feel so confused. how much effort should i put into him? should i still be patient? or slowly break away is what i ask myself. its been about a month and a half since him and I started talking

a few weeks ago while he was at work someone tried the doorknob and when I told him he was pretty mad about it? but yesterday it happened again but when he went out to check he found out it was the woman next door that he talks to sometimes. I told him to tell her to stop and he said he would. well today he told me he talked to her about it and when I asked what was said he told me she said she had a habit of doing that and he only replied to her "okay it's no big deal." like WHAT. she tried to let herself in and you say it's no big deal? I know for a fact it'd be different if it had been a guy. even if a guy just looks at me he gets mad about it but someone tries to break in it's NO BIG DEAL?? want more opinions, was it a big deal or what

my friend is a deep sleeper. i slept over at her house and i sneaked my way to her bed at night. i had a tube of glitter with me. I wanted to have some fun. I reached over and i put my fingers over her eyelids and pulled them up slowly. i shook the tube of purple glitter over her eyes. it's morning now and i thought about it all night and i'm scared of what's going to happen when she wakes up??? I'm starting to regret what i have done. help? i don't want to get in trouble?? she woke up and i'm terrified. she started screeching and she's now choking and her eyes are bleeding

I am 22 years old- but an old soul. I have done my fair share of dating in my time with all the wrong types- drugs, abusive, mentally unfit, yadda yadda. Out of nowhere, last December, I met someone who has surprised me. He is the most genuine person I have ever met- incredibly kind, calm, and funny. While we are different in many ways (me being high-strung and vocal and him being low-key and not a man of many words), we come from similar backgrounds and hold similar morals. We moved INCREDIBLY slow. While from the beginning we established that we were exclusive, it took months before he was calling me his girlfriend and vice versa. He has never had a girlfriend before. In fact, he doesn't have much experience with girls at all. He has always told me that a girlfriend is a big deal to him and he wanted to be entirely invested before he made that commitment. Fast forward to almost a year after we initially met, and we are dating, I have met his entire family and he has met mine, we see each other every weekend (we live an hour apart and work full time), and we have become best friends. I love him. I am sure of it, and I would be quick to say that he dos too. Except he hasn't said it. I have hinted at this and he has explained that he is simply not verbal, and he believes that he shows how he feels- which he does. I have noticed that when his family says "I love you" he doesn't say it back. But I don't know how much longer I can go without saying it/hearing it..

So basically my uncle s wife hates me with a passion because i have a great loving bond with her husband, my uncle. I got hurt so much in the past I would stay up all night crying to myself. She destroyed a lot of things between me and him and now, I don t love him as much as I used to. Before they got married he would come see me every week, bring me presents take me to places that I love. Every time I see her a new argument starts she manipulates him into thinking that I m a horrible person and that she s innocent. He believes her then calls my mom about my behavior he **** talks behind my back to defend his beloved wife. I try to be nice to her and accept her as a friend, but something occurs showing me how evil she is. I m tired from the drama I just want them to leave me alone. My uncle and I are on good terms right now we talk to each other and he tells me how much I mean to him. But I know in the future, something will happen like every time that ll destroy what s between us. They ve been married for 6 years now, and I m 16 years. She wants him all to herself (he s really rich). She gets jealous he talks about me and when we talk together. I don t give a f***k about her and her issues, I only want her to leave me the hell alone. I don t want to lose my uncle forever, he s a huge part of my life. I know this is long I m sorry about that.

I'm a girl and I'm 16 years old. I have this friend and I've known her for over a year now. We're quite close and hang out a lot and I don't know what it is but I'm always thinking about her and I always wanna see her no matter what. I have other friends that I love a lot but with her it's different. We have a lot of discussions though and we just bicker a lot but even then I still like her. I'm not gay though, and not even bisexual since I normally like guys. Also, I think it's totally one-sided, she has never shown any sign of romantic affection. I also feel like I care more about her than she cares about me, like I always think of her first and then of myself but she doesn't seem to be like that towards me. she does sometimes hug me, lay her head on my shoulder or grab my hand but friends do that too so that's no big deal is it? I'm also definitely not thinking of telling her or anyone since she would reject me so hard I'm not ready for that

Never dated, never kissed, never had sex and I don't really feel the need for it. Everyone around me are in relationships, I just don't seem to get it. I want to have this feeling, but I can't. Why am I like this?

I got picked on by a man who's married and he swears he wants to marry me the only problem is he's well attached and is a selfish person. How come some men just don't stick with what they have? What makes them go out and seek someone else? Is it really the fact that they have doubts about the other person, of what they make them feel? Why do these married unhappy men look for someone else to pick on when they don't even know what they want? Why are they so jealous of successful woman? It has to be some form of jealousy because if someone at home is pointing things out to them and they feel like "they don't understand them" obviously they would try to probe somewhere else. So why don't they just work with what they have. It's so hard to find someone to love you and once you do the first thing you do is complain about what's lacking? Why do people play the blame game? What if that person they are with is struggling and they want to leave them for someone whos already set?

I'm Russian and i always wondered what men think of us. (be honest)

Cuando estoy con mi novio nunca puedo tener un orgasmo, si me exita mucho pero nunca lo suficiente para llegar a un orgasmo. Una vez me estimulo mucho en el clitoris y estuve a poco de empezar a sentir, no el orgasmo en si, pero si como las primeras sensaciones antes de llegar a un orgasmo pero luego el paró y ya no paso nada. El paró porque se canso porque ya llevaba como media hora asi y lo que mas me enoja de esto es que el se enoja si no lo hago acabar pero no le importa si yo no acabo. Yo no se si sea normal o solo soy yo porque por mi cuenta no tengo dificultad para llegar a uno. Sera que de por si las mujeres tardamos tanto? o solo soy yo que se me hace imposible con mi novio?

I'm an 8th grader in middle school and there's a big group of guys at my school that day I have a "big butt". I try to be friends with some of them by texting and stuff. but one day one guy asked for pictures of my butt. I said no a bunch of times because I've never done anything like that before and I didn't plan to. but he started saying that he was going to be mad at me if I didn't and he would start making up mean rumors about me and telling everyone. I felt a lot of pressure on me so I sent two pictures and felt like I was going to hell after that. the guy said that his phone was messed up and it would say it screenshotted something when he really didn't. I believed him for some reason and I found out yesterday that he had the pictures in his phone. I found out by one of my good friends from that group of guys sending me them and saying he was mad at me. we kind of had a thing but now he's really mad at me. I told him what happened and he says he's not only mad at me and he just doesn't want to talk. I'm really scared those two guys (that I know that have them) are going to send them to even more people and I don't want those going around. I feel really alone because it's not like I could tell me parents or sister. I would feel ten times worse. I don't know what to do. it's gotten to where I gag and throw up from all of the stress and anxiety. I need help as soon as possible.

I posted this a week ago- I work part time in an office for something to do since my kids have grown up. There is a girl there whose an intern. She's very sweet and we talk a lot. Recently she came in with a concussion and her mom wouldn't let her stay home to get some rest even with a concussion. I couldn't help but ask her to come home with me instead of go to class and the rest of her meetings because she needed rest. She agreed and I told her to lay down on the couch, she was asleep In seconds. She's not heavy at all, but she lives at home with her parents who want her to be perfect.Her mom was calling her fat and giving her diet pills. Flash forward 2 more weeks she ended up in the hospital with a starved heart and high fever. She needs to go to an inpatient facility but her parents told her they would pull her insurance, not pay for her school etc if she did. I finally couldn't stand it any longer and when she was released she told her parents she was staying in a friends dorm for a little bit for convenience but really I have her with me. I started her seeing a therapist,forcing her to rest (I know I cannot legally force her to do anything but if I tell her to take a nap or that it's bedtime she listens so I do it to help her) but now I need to start re-feeding her. She's so fragile.

My wife told me sunday that I'm doing something in church that I need to stop. I have two grandkids. A 6 year old little girl and a 3 year old little boy. They are my world. They are from a previous relationship. My wife and I don't have any kids. Ever since she was a baby my grand-daughter has loved to sit on my lap in church. Her and her brother sit with me because their mom sings on the choir and they can't sit with her. I typically sit on the front row with our pastor as his aid. My grand-daughter will sit on my lap and play with my tablet. She's in the 1st grade. Some sundays she'll come to church and tell me, "my mommy said I couldn't sit on your lap today because my dress is too short." Well, most sundays she dues. My wife thinks I need to stop this behavior because she said it doesn't look good for a child that old to be sitting on the lap of a grown man. Is she trying to say there's something sexual going on or I'm getting some sort of satisfaction out of it? She said others might look at it strange. This little girl is my world and I'd do anything for her. Should I stop this behavior or tell my wife to let it go and this is just a little girl who loves her grand-daddy. Yes, at some point I will stop it but right now I don't see it as a problem. What do you guys think?

Those that aren't just making up lies behind your back, but those that spend a very long time, perhaps years, trying to destroy and sabotage you? When you confront them directly, they lie and try to make you look like the one who is jealous, then they go back to their scheming ways because nothing gets settled when they lie. I have been assertive and asked questions....all I got was lies, and the behavior escalated because in their eyes, they got away with it by lying. It took a year and a half to finally lose my cool and when I did, they lied, took all my words and turned them around...and created more drama. It is hard when its a relative or coworker...because they are constantly sabotaging you and trying to make you look bad...when its really them. Friends you can pick off, you dont have to be around them. I agree Kathy, maybe I am being insecure....because I feel unfairly targeted, but I need to work on not being a victim and being more confident. Also, this person is also using many of her friends to bully me.

I lost a key for an interior door in our apartment and spoke about to my partner. She said we could phone the landlord. Because the landlord takes a long time to do things I said we could go to a locksmith as the key is very simple being an interior key. She said we could do it later or over the weekend. The next day, while she was at work I popped out of my office and went to the apartment took a picture of the lock, then went to a locksmith and got a new key. The problem is, when my girlfriend found out that I had done this she was furious with me. She claimed that we had an agreement that we would sort it out together and that I should have phoned her first to let her know what I had done. The thing is, I remember no such "agreement", I only remember discussing what we could do but not coming to any agreement over when we do it, how we do it, and if we go together. She is so furious she's talking about this being a fundamental trust issue. I'm a little confused now as to when something is an agreement and when it is not. If such a thing is an agreement then I committing to agreements without knowing I am. What do you think?

Any experiences? I recently discovered this secret relationship with the two. I know this so called friend was having his fun and subtly rubbing it in my face in certain situations. The girl has defitnitely let me down, as I thought she was better. I think my "friend" did this because he thought I did a similar thing to him. It actually explains a lot of stuff thinking about it. It Defitnitely has taken an impact on me, not sure how to take it.

For personal reasons I don't want to put my family. Who else can I put?

im a freshman in high school i take information technology we take quaterlys every marking period i have a 92 in her class i took the quaterly i printed it handed it in she put incomplete in my grades i asked her why do i have a incomplete she said i never handed it in then i asked her if i can print it after school she said yeah so i come after school i ask her if i can print her she said the schools out of paper this month come back next month my grades drop to a 66 what the *** rh

Christmas may seem like a long time from now but im making a list of what i should get everyone. Last year my sister's boyfriend got me an amazon gift card because my parents didnt want to get me anything so hes a chill guy. im 14 btw and he's 24 maybe. ive known him for 5 years maybe but idk what he likes except pokemon's charmander and thats he's going to be a doctor. any suggestions?

In the Fall of 2014, I was thinking of killing myself several times, even planning to do it. Thanks to a really close group of friends and family, nothing happened. I realized that no matter how shitty life can seem, the only thing you really need to live a good life is people that love you and care about you (and whom you love as well). I still haven't told some of my friends, but I want to let them know that they helped me through all that. What I'm mainly wondering is if I should write them a letter or talk to them in person, and how I should break it to them. Please feel free to share any similar experiences you've had and how you dealt with them. Thanks, guys.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 yrs. We are long distance (6 hours driving distance) until January (I'm moving to his city). Last Tuesday, he found out he lost his job because he failed his board exam and can't retake it until January. He was temporarily crashing at his friend's apartment until he saved up enough money to get his own apartment. Now, he has to find somewhere else to live and he doesn't have any money saved up. He has been EXTREMELY upset and he has shut me out of his life, mostly. I told him I am always here for him and he can always talk things out with me. I'm here for him. But even after telling him that, he still has been very distant with me and it hurts. Before he lost his job, he has ALWAYS texted/called me first (with a goodnight, I love you text every night) so I'm not used to this. Our only communication has been this: Tuesday: after finding out he failed and lost his job, he just said 'i'll talk to you later' after I told him that I'm here for him, no goodnight text from him. Wednesday: I asked him if he was okay and he only said "I'm working on somethings, please just give me a few days to myself to gather myself" Thursday: He texted me "Baby I love you. A lot. Please understand I need time. I'm not thinking badly of you. I just need to figure things out b/c I'm in a really bad spot. I'm sorry - I feel bad for ignoring you. But I'm not having 2nd thoughts about you. Please just give me some time baby, that would be really supportive." Friday: He texted said "I might have a few options. Need to hammer things out with parents. Going to work out to relieve stress" Saturday: He said "Sorry for keeping you in the dark. I need your advice around Tuesday. I love you very much. Good night I love you" Sunday: He only texted saying "Goodnight baby I love you" I haven't heard from him today :( Do you think he is wanting to break up and doesn't have the guts to tell me? I fee like he just completely shut me out :(

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I'm in 10th grade I admit, my Biology grade is not good but the rest of my grades are fine, and my dad gets mad about anything less than an A. I have a 97 in Math. 94 in Spanish. 92 in Wood Shop. 81 in English. 77 in History 57 in Biology (I actually like this class but I'll admit I bombed a test and turned in a bunch of late assignments). He wants me to get A's, but he never even mentions the classes I have A's in.

When I meet a new person, whether it's a new teacher or a person at a wedding, I always offer my hand to shake and say something like "Hi." or "How do you do?". I'm a teenage girl, and like to make things seem formal and mature, not too personal at first, but my mom seems to think that that's weird and old-fashioned and I shouldn't do it.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years, he is currently in AIT for the army, so we won t be together on our two year. I want to get him something sentimental, but also functional. Last year I got him an engraved wallet last year and he loved it. I also don t want anything army related because he had enough army realted stuff haha. Any suggestions welcome! Thank you!

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I also feel very lucky to have found this man. Only he is still probably married. How do I go about showing him I can get lucky somewhere else too? I feel that if I go somewhere else he will just stick with what he has? What happens if a man is trying to marry you when he is about to divorce someone else. And knows you are in love with them? I don't want to seem desperate but I just want to find that someone already.

Me and my long term bf have been together for 2 years im just saying.. and we stopped using condoms a little after a year... i was supppose to get my period oct 31st... it is not nov 9th (todays my birrthday btw lol) ..so my period is about 9 -10 days late ... around the 6th day of my late period while i was out eating i went to.the bathroom and noticed brown period blood but it wasnt alot bt i though i i had got my period at that moment but wasnt sure .. so i came home and checked my panties and there was nothimg else that had came from earlier that day ... so it is now nov 9th and still there is nothing No sign of period blood at all just that one day i had a little spotting and that was it ... my nipples have been sore for about a week now .. i dont want to waste money on a pregnancy test so i still want to sorta wait to see what happends .. Bt my thing is .. why did i get a lil spotting on the 6th day of my missed period and its going on 4 to 5 days later and still no period . Could that have been the implantation ?? . idk some answers would be well appreciated before i take a test... im trying not to over think it . Im very calm about this situation at this moment because normally id panick n it would be a false alarm eventually. but at the same time i never got a little spotting for not even 5 minutes and thats it ... when i get my period its my period .... i just had spotting on tge 6th day of my late period and nothing else after that its going on 10 days Sorry correction we've been together for 2 years and like 6 months ..going on 3 years basically